Chenjezo: Ndime yoyamba ikunyinyirika kwambiri ndipo sikuyimira chithunzi changa chamakono. Lidalembedwa kuchokera m'malingaliro a-musanachite. Ndikufuna kugawana nanu maulendo anga masiku onse a 90. Ndikufuna kuyamba kukuwuzani kuti ndine ndani (kapena makamaka yemwe ndakhala). Ndine wophunzira wazaka za 21 wa ku Scandinavia.
Sindikukumbukira kwenikweni momwe chizolowezi changa cha PMO chinayambira koma ziyenera kuti zinali kwina pafupi khumi ndi zitatu kapena mwina khumi ndi zinayi. Inali nthawi imeneyi kuti banja langa limalumikizana ndi makanema, ndipo ndinakhala ndi kompyuta yanga. Nthawi zonse ndakhala ndiri mwana wamwano, ndipo ndimakumanidwa ndi mwana. Zotsatira zake ndikuti ndimakhala nthawi yanga yambiri ndili ndimnyumba pamaso pa masewera akompyuta yanga, ndikuwonera mndandanda komanso PMO'ing. Ndikukumbukira kuti ndili ndi mantha kutuluka khomo langa, ndipo ndidatsimikiza mtima kuti munthu wina yemwe amakhala kunja akukonzekera "kunditenga".
Ndimakumbukira kuti nthawi zina ndimayesetsa kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, chifukwa ndimaletsa nkhawa zanga ndi ma Simpsons komanso zochitika za Futurama. (Mulungu, kuthawa ndikubowola kwambiri. Ndiyenera kuti ndinaziwona nthawi zambirizo, ndikuzidziwa pamtima. Ndipo ngakhale ndikudalira kuti izi!) Zinthu sizidali zoyipa choncho. Ndinkakhala ndi anzanga ocheperako pafupi, ndipo nthawi zonse ndimadziwika kuti ndine mwana wanzeru. Izi zidasintha nditasamukira mumzinda kuti ndikakhale kuyunivesite. Mpaka nthawi imeneyo ndimakhala osavuta pang'onopang'ono komanso popanda kuphunzira kwenikweni. Cholinga changa chofuna kupitiliza maphunziro apamwamba ndinali wokhumudwa mwachilengedwe, ndipo kudziwika kwanga ngati wanzeru kunatsutsidwa kwambiri. Sindinali wapadera panonso, sindinkangokhala munthu aliyense.
Matenda a nkhawa adandigwera ngati mwala, ndipo ndidayamba kukhala wosilira m'moyo. Nthawi zingapo ndinayesa kusintha, kuti ndiyambe kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kuphunzira bwino, kukhala wochezeka, koma kuyesetsa kwanga konse kunali kopanda tanthauzo ndi malingaliro anga opanda chiyembekezo komanso ogonja. Pambuyo pa zaka ziwiri ndidakumana ndi mtsikana wabwino kwambiri, ndipo tidakhala kwa miyezi ingapo, ndikuwayang'ana tsopano iyenera kuti inali nthawi yayitali kwambiri pamoyo wanga. Tsopano ndidawona kuti ndili ndi wina woti ndikhalamo, mtsikana uyu anali mtsikana wokongola kwambiri yemwe adakopeka ndi ine, ndipo adalidi mwa ine. Komabe, chifukwa cha zovuta zomwe tidagawanikana, ndipo pambuyo pake ndidakhala pachimake cha chikondi-nostalgia. Zinali zowopsa, osafuna mtsikana wina aliyense, komabe ndikudziuza kuti sindingabwerere kwa iye.
Lowani Nofap. Mzanga wa ine, msungwana yemwe amaphunzira kuwerenga psychology adayika nkhani ya Ted pa facebook yake. Chifukwa chofuna kudziwa zambiri, ndidadina, ndipo china chake chidasowa. Mwadzidzidzi ndi zotsatira zomwe zidatumizidwa pa YBOP ndidaganiza kuti zinali zoyenera kuwombera. Ndimakumbukira kusinthasintha kwa chidwi, kulakalaka, kumva ngati ndikudwala. Ndinaganiza zoyamba kudya wathanzi kuti muchepetse kuchira. Sindinadye chopanda thanzi kuyambira poyambira, koma ndidayamba kudya mtedza wowonjezereka, zipatso, amadyera komanso nyama zamphesa. Zinkagwira ntchito modabwitsa, ndipo ndikuchitabe lero.
Panali masiku ena omwe ndimamva kuti ndimankhwala osokoneza bongo, ndimatsuka nyumba yanga yonse ndikuchita mafinya mpaka nditagwa. Masiku ena ndimatha kuwona atsikana akundiyang'ana, ndipo ndimayenda monyada komanso kutalika kwambiri kotero kuti ndimakhala wamphamvu. Mwina inali placebo, koma ndinazindikira kuti ngati nyemba zamatsenga zingandipange ine kukhala munthu wamtunduwu, nditha kuzichita ndimayeseza.
Nofap adandipangitsa chidwi pazomwe zingakhudze ubongo wanga m'njira yoyipa. Nditatha kafukufuku wina ndinasiya kumwa mowa kwa miyezi iwiri, ndikuyamba kusinkhasinkha tsiku lililonse, masewera olimbitsa thupi olimbitsa thupi ndipo ndimangomvera mankhwalawa. Ndinasankhanso kuti ndisiye kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti ndipo ndinayamba kuwerenga mabuku ambiri.
Ndinapita kunyumba kwa makolo anga kukapumula nthawi yachisanu, ndipo zizolowezi zina zatsopanozi zinaleka. Ndimanenanso kuti ndimayikira kwambiri mphamvu zanga, komanso kuthana ndi malo ochepa, kukhumudwa kwa abale anga komanso mavuto abambo anga. Onjezani mayi wodera nkhawa kwambiri kusakaniza ndipo mumakhala ndi gehena wanu. Komabe, pamapeto pake ndinapeza mtundu wina wabwino, ndikupitilizabe kupewa kumwa mowa komanso kusinkhasinkha komanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Ndikukumbukira kukhala ndi nthawi yovuta, ndikuvutika kuti ndisabwererenso kukhumudwa, koma maloto onyowa tsiku 70 adakwaniritsa chiyembekezo changa. Sindinakhalepo ndi m'mbuyomu.
Tsopano patsiku 90, ndikumva bwanji? Monga zinali zoyenera! Nofap wandipatsa kuzindikira kuti ngakhale kusintha kwakung'ono kumatha kusintha moyo wanu. Sindigonjera kuti Nofap amakupatsirani zamphamvu, koma ngati ndichinthu choyamba kuchita pazinthu zosangalatsa zomwe zimapindulitsa kwambiri mapindu anu amakhaladi akulu! Ndikudziwa ndekha kuti sindidzabwereranso komwe ndidakumana ndi izi.
Tsopano ndimazungulira ndimalingaliro abwino, mabuku abwino ndi zizolowezi zazikulu. Ndikudzikakamiza kuti ndisiye kuvutika maganizo komwe ndidakhala nako kuyambira ndili mwana. Cholinga changa chasunthira, sichikhala chokhudza kudzisungitsa chithunzi changa, ndi zina zambiri pakapangidwe kosintha kosintha ndikusintha momwe ndingafunire kuvomerezedwa ndi ena. Ndili ndi chitsimikizo kuti izi ndi zomwe ndikufuna, ndipo tsopano ndikudziwa kuti nditha kupeza zinthu ngati izi.
Ndizipitiliza kusinkhasinkha kwanga komanso zolimbitsa thupi. Ndipitiliza kukulitsa malingaliro anga ndimabuku komanso zophunzitsa zabwino. Ndidzayesetsa kupitiliza maphunziro anga komanso thanzi langa, chidwi changa komanso zomwe ndimakonda. Ndizosangalatsa kwambiri kuti pamapeto pake ndikuona moyo wanga ukutembenukira.
Ndangotsala semester imodzi yokha, ndipo mwina ndipitiliza maphunziro anga kudziko lotsatira. Ndasankha kuchita bwino semester yanga yomaliza, ndipo ndiyamba kuchita Yoga katatu pa sabata. Ndiyesanso kukhala ndi nthawi yambiri ndi anzanga momwe ndingathere. Palinso msungwana mumagulu anzanga omwe amandifuna, ndipo ndidzamumaliza. Zinthu zikayenda bwino, ndipo ngati sichoncho ndikuphunzira momwe angatenge atsikana. Zikomo nonse chifukwa cha chithandizo chanu! Ndikhala ndikuchita masiku a 90 kwambiri!
Momwe ndidakwanitsira.
- Willpower ndi minofu, ndipo ngati simunali kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi zizikhala zovuta kuthana ndi malingaliro anu osavuta. Mukamva kukakamiza komwe kukubwera mudzakhale ndi vuto lomwe kukuvuta kusefedwa. Pitani panja, imbani munthu wina kapena chitani zachipongwe! Ngati mukufuna kuwonjezera mphamvu ndikulimbikitsa kusinkhasinkha, masewera olimbitsa thupi (m'maganizo komanso thupi) komanso kudya wathanzi. Komanso, chotsani zinthu zomwe mwakumana nazo kuti zikugwirizane ndi kusefera. Izi zitha kukhala zoyambitsa zakunja ndi zamkati, mwachitsanzo, laputopu yanu, lingaliro kapena malingaliro. Ngati mungafunike, pezani pulogalamu yoletsa intaneti kuti muchepetse masamba ena.
- Dzizungulireni ndi malingaliro abwino. Werengani mabuku onena zakupatsa chidwi, mphamvu, mphamvu ndi kutsimikiza. Imakupangitsani kuyang'ana kwambiri komanso kukulimbikitsani cortex yoyamba, yomwe ndiyofunikira pakudziletsa. Werengani ma psychology-blogs kuti muphunzire njira zopewera komanso kuti mumvetsetse momwe amagwira ntchito zamaganizo. http://www.spring.org.uk/2011/04/top-10-self-control-strategies.php
- Tsiku limodzi. Masiku a 90 atha kukulitsa zabwino zathu. Tengani tsiku limodzi. Inemwini ndikanayesetsa masiku angapo mtsogolo, ndikulingalira momwe ndikanamvera, ndikunyadira momwe ndikakhalira tsiku la 7, 10, 14 etc. Zinandipatsanso mwayi kuti ndidziwe kuti tsiku lina ndinali pafupi ndi cholinga changa, kuti sindinalinso kapolo wa zikhalidwe zanga.
- Ngati thanzi lanu la m'maganizo likuvutika, momwemonso matenda anu. Ngati muli ngati ine ndipo mwakhala ndi malingaliro osokonekera pitani ntchito nokha. Werengani werengani pa psychology yabwino ndi chidziwitso chazidziwitso. Ngati mutha kumalimbana ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi osavuta patsiku, thanzi lanu la m'maganizo limayenda bwino ndi nthawi, ndipo simukhumudwitsidwa ndikuyambiranso. Phunzirani kusamalira nthawi zomwe mwakhumudwa, ndikuziwona moyenera ndikuzitenga ngati gawo lawo kuti muchite bwino.
TL; DR - Kodi masiku a 90. Palibe zapamwamba. Tasankha kusinkhasinkha, kuwerenga komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala ozindikira. Tinaona pang'ono pang'onopang'ono kuti ndichepetse nkhawa pazaka zopitilira apo. Ndili wokondwa kuti ndiyambiranso kudandaula ndikuwona moyo wanga ukuyenda m'njira yoyenera. Ndipanga masiku a 90 kwambiri a Nofap!
LINK - Masiku a 90. Nkhani yanga, njira ndi zotsatira!
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