Ndisunga mwachidule. Ndikulemba izi chifukwa ndikudziwa kuchokera pansi pamtima kuti sindikadatha kuthana ndi vuto langa ngati sichinali nkhani zopambana zomwe ndidawerenga patsamba lino, chifukwa chake ndikuyembekeza kuti nkhani yanga ilimbikitsa Ena amayesetsabe kuti athetse vutoli. Mbiri yanga ndikuti ndidayamba kuwonera zolaula ndili ndi zaka 11 ndipo ndidazichita zaka 10. Chifukwa cha anthu omwe anali nane, sindinaganize kuti chinali chizolowezi choipa chifukwa ena onse amsinkhu wanga amaganiza kuti si zachilendo. Komabe, ndikayang'ana m'mbuyo tsopano ndazindikira momwe anthu adandithandizira chifukwa ndinkangokhalira kuganiza kuti sindinazolowere kuziona ndipo zolakwazo zidandichititsa manyazi pafupi ndi aliyense.
Pamapeto pake kuzungulira zaka 21 ndidazindikira momwe zimakhalira ndipo ndidayamba kuphunzira za masamba ngati anubrainrebalanced ndi yourbrainonporn. Kuwerenga zinthuzi pamasamba nthawi yomweyo kunandimvetsetsa chifukwa ndimatha kudziwa pafupifupi chilichonse chomwe chimanenedwa. Chifukwa chake ndidayesa njira yanga yakuchotsera masiku a 90 ndikuyambiranso kangapo, koma patatha chaka ndi theka ndimakhulupirira kuti ndili ndi zolaula konse.
Nthawi yanga yomaliza kuonera zolaula inali pafupi ndi masiku a 60 apitawo. Ndalemba mndandanda wa zinthu zazikulu zomwe ndikukhulupirira kuti anthu ayenera kukhala nazo kuti athetse vuto lomweli. Ndizinena chinthu chodziwikiratu chomwe anthu ambiri amadziwa kale: NDI ZOTHANDIZA KUDZICHEKA. Ndikukutsimikizirani kuti kulimbana ndi izi ndizovuta kwambiri zomwe mungachite m'moyo wanu. Chifukwa chake kumbukirani izi pamene mukuwerenga mndandanda wanga.
1. Muyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro osataya - Palibe amene akuchira kuledzera poyesa koyamba. Mudzabwereranso, ndichowonadi kuti muyenera kuvomereza. Komabe, chofunikira kwambiri ndi malingaliro omwe muli nawo mutayambiranso. Ngati zili ngati "O sindidzamenya izi chifukwa chiyani ndikuyesera" simudzachira. Malingaliro omwe muyenera kukhala nawo ndi "Chabwino ndidabwereranso, koma ndiphunzira pa cholakwachi ndikuyesetsa mwamphamvu kwambiri kuti ndisabwerezenso cholakwikachi. Sindikusamala ngati ndili ndi zaka 100 ndikuyesera kuthana ndi vutoli ndimalimbana nalo mpaka nditawala, sindingataye ”. Mukangovomereza kuti mumtima mwanu kuti kukhala ndi vutoli sizotheka kwa inu, mutenga chimodzi mwanjira zazikulu kwambiri kuti muthane ndi vutoli.
2. Kuphunzira kuchokera pa zolakwa zanu / kukoka nkhondo zanu - Monga ndanenera kale, aliyense adzayambiranso. Kusiyanitsa pakati pa anthu omwe pamapeto pake amakhala oyera ndi omwe sianthu amadziwika zolakwitsa zawo ndikuzitengera zolakwazo zisanachitike. Mukazindikira msanga zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti musachedwe kukhala oyera. Osayesa kukhala ngwazi ndikuti "oh thats my trigger but musadandaule ndikutha". Mukamafulumira kuvomereza kuti ndinu ofooka ndipo mukakumana ndi zomwe zingakuyambitseni mudzayambiranso msanga mutha kuthana ndi vuto lanu. Nthawi zonse ndinkadziuza kuti ndisankhe bwalo lankhondo langa. Kulimbana ndi nkhondo nditayambitsidwa kale ndi nkhondo yomwe ndikudziwa kuti sindingapambane. Chifukwa chake ndimamenya nkhondo zanga zonse zisanachitike. Mwachitsanzo, ngati ndatsala pang'ono kuwonera kanema wanyimbo zolaula zomwe ndikudziwa ndikulephera. Ichi ndichifukwa chake nkhondo yanga imayambira pa ulalo wa kanema wanyimbo, ndimatsimikiza kuti sindidina.
3. Kuyika malangizo m'moyo wanu - Kudzilanga nokha pazinthu zina m'moyo wanu ndichinsinsi kuti muthane ndi chizolowezi. Mukayamba kuwongolera zokhumba zanu pazinthu zina m'moyo wanu, monga kusadya chakudya kapena kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino yogona, izi zimayamba kukuthandizani pakukonda zolaula. Mukangobweza kena kake komwe thupi lanu limafunitsitsadi limapanga mankhwala muubongo wanu omwe samva bwino. Mukamazichita kwambiri samvera izi. Chifukwa chake, mukakhala ndi chilango chochulukirapo m'moyo wanu momwe mavutowa amakhudzira ubongo wanu kotero sizimakhala zoyipa mukamadzibisira nokha zolaula. Ndikulimbikitsa mwamphamvu kusala kamodzi pamlungu kwa anthu omwe amafunitsitsa kusiya zolaula. Chakudya ndi madzi ndizofunikira ziwiri zofunika kwambiri kwa anthu, kuposa kugonana. Mukadziletsa chakudya ndi madzi, kugonana kumakhala kosafunika kwenikweni. Mumadziletsa nokha chakudya ndi madzi (kamodzi pamlungu kuyambira kutuluka kwa dzuwa mpaka kulowa kwa dzuwa) zidzakhala zosavuta kuwongolera zofuna zanu zogonana, ndikhulupirireni kuti zimagwira ntchito bwino.
Lingaliro lomaliza lomwe ndikusiyirani ndikuti nkhondoyi sidzatha, komabe, imakhala yosavuta kwambiri. Ngakhale ndakhala woyera kwa miyezi iwiri tsopano ndikudziwa kuti ndikabwerera koyambiranso ndidzayambiranso. Kupatula apo, sindimaganiziranso zakumwa kwanga. Tsopano ili ndi gawo laling'ono m'moyo wanga sindimaganiziranso. Ngati ndikuwona choyambitsa ndikuwonetsetsa kuti ndichoke pamkhalidwewo (zomwe sizili zovuta tsopano), koma masana ambiri tsopano sindimaganiziranso zakumwa kwanga komwe kuli kosiyana kwambiri ndi komwe ndinali pomwe ndimayamba nkhondoyi chaka chimodzi ndi theka zapitazo. Ndikukhulupirira kuti positi idathandizira, ndicho chinali cholinga changa chokha kuti ndilembe.
Zabwino zonse kwa inu nonse.
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