TL; DR: Pokhala ndi ADHD ndi nkhawa, kuyambitsa NoFap, kuda nkhawa kuli pafupi kupita, ADHD idakalipo koma yachepa. Moyo wabwino. Feelsgoodman.
Choyamba, chilankhulo changa sichili Chingerezi choncho musandivutire ndikapanganso zolakwitsa. Chachiwiri, ndiyesetsa kutuluka mwa ine momwe ndingathere kuchokera pa zomwe ndakumana nazo za NoFap mdziko langa pano. Panopa ndili m'masiku oyipa, ocheperako pang'ono, koma ndimamva ngati ndiyenera kugawana malingaliro ndi zokumana nazo m'derali popeza dera lino landipatsa zambiri.
Ndiyamba ndikufotokozera mwachidule za moyo wanga. Ndinali mwana wanzeru ndikukula. Nthawi zonse amalemba mayeso, opanga kwambiri, osewera kwambiri. Kenako, ndili wachinyamata, ndidayamba kusokonezedwa mosavuta, osangoyang'ana, kugona m'makalasi, sindinamalize ntchito zanga zakusukulu ndipo ndidatumizidwa kuofesi ya aphunzitsi kangapo chifukwa cha izi. Izi mwina chifukwa ndinayamba kukula nthawi zonse. Komabe, chodabwitsa ndichakuti, ndidapezabe nawo mayeso. Zomwe ndidazindikira ndikuti, ndimakonda kuyimitsa PMO mwezi umodzi kapena iwiri mayeso asanachitike. Sindimaseweranso masewera apakanema ndikusungira gitala langa mchipinda chosungira. Ndinachita izi chifukwa ndimangokhulupirira zamatsenga. Ndinkakhulupirira kuti muyenera kusiya zosangalatsa kuti mupeze chisangalalo chachikulu pambuyo pake chomwe panthawiyi chinali kupeza mayeso abwino pamayeso akulu. Koma chikhulupiriro ichi chimazilala nditapita kukoleji. Ndinkakonda kuphunzira ku koleji komanso ku Uni.
Mofulumira kwa pafupifupi miyezi itatu kapena inayi yapitayo. Ndinali kudziko lina (UK), ndinali kuchita digiri yanga yaukadaulo (yomwe ndinali ndi mwayi kufika pano). Ndinalephera mayeso anga omaliza, sindinathe kugwira ntchito iliyonse moyenera, ndinali ndi nkhawa zambiri, ndipo ndinali ndi vuto lalikulu la ADHD. Ndinali woipa kwambiri kuposa kale lonse. Ndinkaona ngati moyo wanga watha, ndipo sindinadziwe chomwe chinali vuto ndi ine. Kenako ndidapunthwa pa TED Talk, kenako gulu la NoFap ndipo zonsezi zinali zomveka kwa ine. Kuyambira pamenepo, ndinaganiza zosiya kuzizira chifukwa ndinali gawo lotsika kwambiri pamoyo wanga ndipo ndimadziwa kuti ndiyenera kusintha. Ndinali ndi mwayi kuti ndiyesedwenso mayeso anga, koma chifukwa cha izi ndinayenera kudikirira chaka chimodzi, kuti ndibwerezenso mayeso.
Sindinachite izi kuti ndipeze atsikana (ngakhale mwachidziwikire ngati amuna, kukhala bwino ndi akazi nthawi zonse kumakhala kophatikizira), koma ndidachita izi kuti mutu wanga ubwerere pamodzi. Sindikudziwa momwe ndingapangire masiku anga a 100 momwe sindinalembere, koma ndingokupatsani chithunzi chovuta kwa inu anyamata.
Masabata angapo oyamba anali ovuta kwambiri ndipo sindinadabwe, koma ndinamva bwino chifukwa ndinali kuyamba kudzipindulitsa komanso kukhala wofunika. Sindinkavutikanso mtima. Chifukwa ndimafuna kuti ndikhale ndi malingaliro omveka bwino, ndinapanganso zinthu zina zingapo kuti ndikonze malingaliro anga. Ndachepetsa ma task angapo, omwe anthu masiku ano amakonda kuchita nthawi zonse. Pali maphunziro omwe akuwonetsa kuti ntchito zambiri sizabwino muubongo wathu. Ndimayesetsa kuti ndisamamvere nyimbo ndikugwira ntchito, ndimayesetsa kuti ndisadye ndikamawonera TV, ndipo ndimayesetsa kuti ndisakhale ndi ma tabu angapo pa msakatuli wanga. Ndinaona kuti kuchita zinthu izi kunandithandiza kuti ndisamvetse bwino. Komanso chinthu china chabwino kuchita ndikugawana zambiri kapena zolemba m'magawo ang'onoang'ono. Ubongo wathu umakonda kugaya zazing'ono zazing'ono m'malo mokhala ndi anthu ambiri. Komanso, ndimayesetsa kuti ndisamaganizire kwambiri zamtsogolo kapena zam'mbuyomu, ndikungoyang'ana zomwe zilipo, zinthu zomwe mungakwanitse panthawiyi. Zimakuthandizani kuti muchite bwino, ndikuchepetsa nkhawa.
Patatha pafupifupi masabata 4-5 pambuyo pake, ndidamva bwino. Maganizo anga asintha, ndipo nkhawa zidachepetsedwa kwambiri koma mpaka lero, masiku omwe ndimamva ngati opepuka. Malingaliro anga ali paliponse, sindingathe kuyang'ana. Nthawi zambiri ndikayamba kulota, tsiku lotsatira, ndimangokhala ngati zoyipa. Pomwe ndidayamba NoFap, ndimayembekezera kupeza maloto onyowa, sindinali wotsutsana nawo, koma kudzera pazomwe ndidakumana nazo, sindinamvepo bwino tsiku lotsatira. Ndayesera kuwerenga za YBOP, koma nkhaniyi siyotsimikiza. Sindikudziwa ngati maloto onyowa alidi abwino kapena oyipa, koma kwa ine, kudzera pazondichitikira, ndimakonda kusakhala nawo.
Malingaliro anga akumveka bwino kwambiri m'masiku anga a 100, koma ndikufuna masiku a 150 pomwe ndidayamba kuwonera zolaula ndidakali mwana. Ngakhale ndachepetsedwa, ndidakali ndi ADHD. Sindikuganiza kuti malingaliro anga afika pano "koma", koma ndikukhulupirira kuti ndikapitilizabe, pamapeto pake ndikafika posintha.
NoFap yapangitsa moyo wanga kukhala wabwino kwambiri, ndipo ndimadziona kuti ndine wofunika kwambiri tsopano. Kwa inu omwe mukuvutika, ndikhulupilira kuti simudzimenya kwambiri. Kusintha ndi njira, mudzapeza bwino mukamayenda. Mutha kunyadira nokha potenga gawo loyambalo.
Ndizo zonse za NoFappers, cholinga chakumwamba!
TL; DR: Pokhala ndi ADHD ndi nkhawa, kuyambitsa NoFap, kuda nkhawa kuli pafupi kupita, ADHD idakalipo koma yachepa. Moyo wabwino. Feelsgoodman.
KULUMIKIZANA - Malipoti a masiku 100. Kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe akufuna "kumveka bwino kwamaganizidwe" a NoFap.
by pepala_pilot
Lipoti la masiku 100 - Gawo 2 (Gawo lazikhalidwe)
Uku ndikutsatira kuchokera patsamba lina lomwe ndidalemba.
Mutha kuyang'ana apa: http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1v2wuu/100_days_report_from_a_person_who_is_aiming_for/
Cholinga changa chachikulu pomwe ndidayamba NoFap sikunali kupeza akazi, koma kuti ndipeze "kumveka kwamalingaliro" a NoFap (cholumikizira pamwambapa), koma monga anthu ambiri pano, ndidayamba kuzindikira kuti moyo wanga wachikhalidwe wakula pomwe kuchita izi. Nkhaniyi ingoyang'ana mbali yapaulendo wanga.
Poyamba, ndine munthu waku South East Asia (Osati Wach Chinese), 23, ndikuphunzira kwina ku UK. Opanda mantha, akhungu, ndikuwoneka ngati mwana wazaka za 16 (nkhope yamanyazi), malinga ndi malingaliro apafupi pano.
Miyezi ingapo NoFap isanachitike, ndidawomba ndi msungwana waku England-waku Ireland yemwe ndimamukonda kwambiri. Anali mwa ine pachiyambi, koma ndimangokhala mlendo womangika, wodandaula, wosadzidalira, komanso woyamwa basi. Ndinalibe chibwenzi kuyambira zaka 6 zapitazo. Pambuyo pa NoFap, patangotha masabata atatu okha, mtsikana wotentha kwambiri yemwe ndidakumana naye pamwambo adati maso anga anali achigololo ndipo amandikondanso kwambiri. Zinali zachilendo, chifukwa zoyipa izi sizinachitikepo kale. Chochitikacho chinali cha masiku 3, ndipo atsikana onse kumeneko anali atandizungulira. Panali anyamata ochepa omwe adandipatsa mapulogalamu ndikuti ndimasewera. Pambuyo pazochitikazo zimangopitilira. Ndili ndi atsikana ambiri m'bwalo langa pakadali pano kuti sindikusowa kuchita zambiri, komabe ndili ndi malingaliro osankhika mwina chifukwa chakuwona zolaula zaka zonsezo.
Patsiku langa la 88th, ndinali ku Cyprus ndi anzanga angapo patchuthi ndipo panali msungwana wokongola kwambiri waku Lithuania wowoneka bwino mnyumba yolandirira alendo ku hotelo yomwe tidakhala. Ndinapita kwa iye ndikukambirana mwachidule. Tsiku lotsatira, tinayenda limodzi pagombe. Anali wokondwa kwambiri, ndipo ndiamene anapempha kuti tithandizane. Sindikuganiza kuti ndidzatha kulankhula ndi mtsikana wokongola miyezi ingapo yapitayo.
Tsiku langa-90 linali labwino chifukwa linali tsiku la Chaka Chatsopano. Anakondwerera ku London ndi abwenzi ochepa. Anayang'ana zozizwitsa, zinali zodabwitsa. Ndikubwerera kunyumba, mtsikana wokongola wachingerezi wakomweko, ataledzera, adandiimitsa nati ndikuwoneka "woyenera" ('fit' amatanthauza Hot ku England). Ankaledzera, koma pazifukwa zina ndimakopekabe.
Pomaliza tsiku limodzi ndisanalembe izi, ndidapita ku kalabu ndi mzanga. Kunali kukhazikitsidwa kwa kilabu yatsopano yotchuka ya indie-alternative. Panali mtsikana wachingelezi wokongola kwambiri komanso wodabwitsayo yemwe ndinakwanitsa kupeza nambala yake. Anayamba kucheza nane atangotsala pang'ono kuchoka. Ndikutha kudziwa kuti sanali ataledzera chifukwa tinkacheza bwino. Kupsompsonana kunamveka kodabwitsa.
Pakadali pano, ndimaganizabe kuti sindinafike pachikhalidwe changa. Sindikudziwa ngati ndingapeze chibwenzi tsopano. Ndimaganizirabe zopanga zanga pamodzi koma ngati bambo, sindinganame, zingakhale bwino kukhala ndi msungwana wabwino pambali panu.
Ine sindine mwa njira iliyonse, mnyamata wokongola kwambiri wokongola tsopano, koma ndaona kusiyana kwakukulu ndi momwe ndinaliri poyamba. Sindingapeze msungwana aliyense yemwe ndimamukonda, ndikhale woonamtima pano. Koma ndikhoza kuyankhula ndi atsikana okongola mosavuta komanso kukhala chete tsopano.
Apanso, pandekha, cholinga changa chachikulu cha NoFap sichinali kupeza amayi koma ndikukhulupirira kuti kukhala bwino ndi azimayi komanso anthu makamaka kungakhale cholimbikitsa kwambiri kuti umalize vutoli. Koma samalani, kukhala ndi zolinga zosafunikira kuli ngati kuyenda pa mlatho wosakhazikika bwino. Itha kugwa nthawi iliyonse. Yesetsani kukhala ndi moyo wabwino, osati ndi akazi okha.
Ndizo zonse zomwe ndingathe kugawana nawo tsopano anzanga a NoFap. Ulendo wotetezeka kupita kumtunda!
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