Moni, anzanga anzanga! Ndikunyada komanso kudzichepetsa kuti ndilengeze kumaliza kwanga kwa NoFap 90-Day Challenge mothandizidwa ndi gulu lodabwitsali! Ndikufuna kugwiritsa ntchito mwayiwu kufotokoza mwachidule mbiri yanga, kufotokozera mwachidule zosintha zomwe ndakumana nazo, ndikufotokozera zolinga zanga zamtsogolo. Chonde werengani zochuluka kapena zochepa momwe mungafunire, ndipo musamasuke kundifunsa mafunso aliwonse monga ndemanga kapena PM.
KALE:
Monga ambiri pano, ndinali ndi vuto lodziseweretsa maliseche ndili mwana, chaka chimodzi kapena kupitilira apo ndisanayambe kutha msinkhu. Pazaka 13, ndidayamba kupeza zolaula kudzera pa intaneti ndikuyimba pa kompyuta kuchipinda changa. Ndikukulira m'nyumba yachikhristu, nthawi zonse Ankadziwa zinthu izi zinali zolakwika, ngakhale kuti makolo anga anali asanandiyankhulepo. Pambuyo pake, ndidagwidwa, motero zosefera pa intaneti ndikuletsa kugwiritsa ntchito makompyuta kumachepetsa chizolowezi changa… kwakanthawi. Pakapita nthawi komanso kusakambirana pazakugonana, makolo anga adagwira ntchito poganiza kuti vutoli lidachiritsidwa. Zosefera zidatsika, intaneti yothamanga kwambiri idabwera. Ine sindinayime konse mwayi.
Momwemonso zidayamba zaka khumi ndikulowerera zolaula komanso maliseche. Ichi chidakhala chizindikiritso changa chamdima komanso chachinsinsi, munthu yemwe adachita zotsutsana motsimikiza ndi zomwe ndimakhulupirira monga Mkhristu. Popeza zinali zosatheka kuyanjanitsa zochita zanga zachinsinsi ndi moyo wanga wapagulu, ndinayamba kusintha njira zotengera anthu kuti agwirizane ndi vutoli. "Ine weniweni" sanatulukemo - ngati iye analipo nthawi imeneyo. Zili ngati kuti ndagawika anthu awiri, omwe onse anali osakhutira ndi moyo.
Ndidayesa kangapo kuti ndisiye kusuta, koma nthawi zambiri ndimayesetsa kuyeserera ndekha chifukwa manyazi komanso kulakwa komwe kudali nako kwandilepheretsa kupempha ena kuti andithandize. Nthawi zosawerengeka pomwe ndimapereka mwayi kwa ena kuti athandizidwe kumapeto kwake ndikumangokhala osatopa ndikumapitilizabe kulephera. Ndidayesa chilichonse kuti ndichoke mu chizolowezi cha zolaula, kuyambira pa upangiri mpaka pa antidepressants kupita paulendo wama XVUMX wama sabata; ambiri mwa awa anali othandiza, koma palibe anali okwanira.
Gulu lino, / r / NoFap, anasintha izi. Pa September 1, 2012, kusakatula pa intaneti kumanditsogolera ku zovuta za NoFap September, zomwe ndidalumikizana nawo mwachangu. Ndidakwanitsa, pamapeto pake ndikufika pa 43-day strak ndisanayambenso kusasamala ndikunditumizira magawo angapo a sabata la PMO pafupifupi mwezi ndi theka. Pomaliza, zinali zokwanira; Ndidakumana ndi NoFap 90-Day Challenge ndi mphamvu yatsopano, ndikulola kukhala oyera kumapeto, kutsukidwa pobadwa tsiku la kubadwa kwa 24th, 1-mwezi oyera mwa Khrisimasi, ndikuyeretsa kulowa chaka chatsopano. Masiku apitawa a 90 sanali opanda zosewerera komanso owonera zolaula, koma ine ndidayankha kulakwitsa kulikonse ndi njira yopewa kuzibwereza, zomwe zimatsogolera patsogolo.
CHETE:
Ili ndiye gawo lomwe ambiri mwa inu mudzakondwere nalo: zomwe zasintha komanso zabwino zomwe ndapeza chifukwa cha masiku 90 a NoFap. Ndipereka ngati mndandanda.
- Kunyada. Ndikudziwa moyo wanga uli munjira yoyenera, ndipo ndimatha kudziyang'ana pagalasi ndikumwetulira. Sindifunikiranso kubisa moyo wanga.
- kudzichepetsa. Nthawi yomweyo, ndaphunzira zofooka zanga ndikupeza mphamvu zodalira gulu kuti lindithandizire. Njira yabwino kwambiri yotumikirira ndikutumikira.
- Maganizo. Kuyambira chisangalalo chosaneneka mpaka chisoni chachikulu, tsopano ndikumva zakukhosi kuposa kale. Maliseche anali atachita izi mopitirira muyeso, ndikumangokhala wosadandaula komanso wosadandaula.
- Kupirira. Ngakhale pano, ndimakumana ndi ziyeso za tsiku ndi tsiku kuti ndiyambirenso. Ndapeza mphamvu zokhala ndi moyo wanga zakuya zokhumba m'malo kumverera kwanga kwakanthawi.
- Joy. Tsopano ndikutha kuyang'anitsitsa anthu osawadziwa ndikumwetulira moona mtima. Chinthu chophweka chonchi, kusintha kwakukulu.
- ubwenzi. Mabwenzi anga apamtima ayandikira kwambiri. Nditawafotokozera za nkhondo yanga yokhudzana ndi zolaula, aliyense adavomereza kuti ali ndi mavuto omwewo, ndipo tsopano timalankhulana ngati kale ndipo timadziyankhana.
- Faith. Moyo wanga wa uzimu, womwe unali wakufa kwa zaka zambiri, tsopano ukukula ndi moyo watsopano. Sindinenso wotsutsana ndi zochita ndi kukhudzika.
- ndikuyembekeza. Ngakhale zinthu zikuwoneka zovuta bwanji pakadali pano, tsogolo labwino tsopano likuwoneka kuti likupezeka. Sindilinso m'malo chifukwa cha zizolowezi zanga.
- kukonda. Ngakhale ndidakumanabe naye, nditha kunena moona mtima kuti ndimakonda mkazi wanga. Kukhala wodetsa chilako lako, kugwira ntchito molimbika pantchito yanga kuti ndisunge ndalama, kuwerenga kuti ndimalize maphunziro anga aku koleji: Ndimachita zonsezi chifukwa chokonda mkazi wanga wamtsogolo.
Kupatula kusintha kosatheka koma kwenikweni, sindinakumanepo ndi "zamphamvu" zilizonse. Kunena zowona, ndapeza zomwe ndidafuna kudzera mu NoFap. Moyo wanga ulidi wabwinopo, ndipo ukupitilizabe kusintha pang'onopang'ono.
MUTU:
Ndiye chotsatira changa ndi chiani? Mosakayikira, ndipitiliza ulendo wanga wa NoFap. Malo omaliza kwa ine ndi moyo wopanda zolaula komanso kudzisangalatsa. Zilakolako zanga zogonana komanso mphamvu zanga sizili za ine, ndi za mkazi wanga; kotero ndidzakhala wodziletsa pa zokhumba zanga.
Posachedwa, ndikufuna kukonza baji yanga ya NoFap sabata yamawa kuti igwirizane ndi masiku omwe ndadutsa osakonzekera. Izi zithandizira "kukhazikitsanso" baji yanga masiku 91 Lamlungu likubwerali, pambuyo pake ndikukonzekera kupempha a Badge ngati chisonyezo chakwaniritsa kwanga (ndikuyembekeza) kutenga nawo mbali mderali.
Pamawu amenewo, ndikukonzekera kupitilizabe kupereka / r / NoFap; choyamba, chifukwa ndimapeza chisangalalo pothandiza ena kuthana ndi mavuto omwe ndimakumana nawo; chachiwiri, chifukwa nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndimabwereranso kapena kuyandikira ndichifukwa ndimadzipatula pagulu kwakanthawi. Kuchita nawo mwachangu / r / NoFap ndi madera ena omwe amathandizira abambo (ndi amayi!) kupeza ufulu pazinthu zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche ndi ayenela chifukwa cha kupitilizabe kwanga komanso kusatsimikiza kosasunthika.
"Kubwezeretsanso" kwanga kwathunthu sikunamalizidwe. Ndikuyembekeza kupanga malipoti ena masiku 120 a NoFap, masiku 90 a PornFree, miyezi 6 yoyera, ndi chaka chimodzi chatsopano.
Chidule (TL; DR):
Moyo wanga wasintha kwamuyaya. Sindinganene motsimikiza kuti sindidzabwereranso, koma ndikudziwa kuti sindingathe, kapena ndidzafuna kubwerera, momwe zinthu zinalili. Moyo wosasangalatsa wokhutira wapita bwino ndipo walowedwa m'malo ndi chidwi pakadali pano ndikuyembekeza tsogolo lodzala ndi chisangalalo.
Apanso, mafunso ndi ndemanga ndizolandiridwa kwambiri! Tithokoze aliyense, ndi mphamvu kwa inu!
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