Ndiloleni ndiyambe kunena kuti INE SITIYENSE KUTI NDICHite Izi. Ndakhala ndikuchita [palibe zolaula / maliseche] kwazaka zopitilira ndipo zinali zovuta. Mu Epulo, pomaliza pake ndidapanga chisankho chokwanira ndipo ndimati ndiziwona izi nthawi yonseyi. Kwa iwo omwe mukuganiza kuti simungathe kuchita izi, khalani olimba mtima, zitsimikizirani zomwe mwatsimikiza, ndipo khalani nazo. MUTHA kuchita izi.
Ndikadakhala graph savvy, ndikadapanga imodzi, koma mwachisangalalo, ndidalemba zolemba zanga / zomwe zimabwereranso chaka chatha. Tsopano, kumbukirani kuti kuyambira zaka 11 kapena kupitilira apo, ndinali kukula. Kwa zaka 14 zotsatira, zidali zachizolowezi, mwina kawiri patsiku… ngati sichingakhale zochuluka… kwa ine. Chifukwa chake, pamaso pa NoFap, ndimatha mwina 30-60 nthawi pamwezi. Pomwe ndidayamba NoFap mu June 2012, ndimatha kuzizira ndikuzizira pang'ono. July, ndinabwereranso kamodzi. Ogasiti, ndidabwereranso maulendo 9. Seputembara: 6, Okutobala: 9, Novembala: 5 Disembala: 5, Januware: 3, February: 4, Marichi :, 6 ndi Epulo: 1.
Chifukwa chiyani ndikukuwuzani izi? Ndikakhazikitsa ndikuyesera kukwaniritsa zolinga, ndimakhulupirira "zopambana zazing'ono." Dziloleni mupambane pang'ono panjira ndipo izi zidzakuthandizani kukwaniritsa cholinga chachikulu. Chifukwa chiyani zomwe ndalemba pamwambapa ndizopambana? Chifukwa chonsecho ndi 49. Ngakhale ndinali wokhumudwa chifukwa cholephera kumaliza zovuta za NoFap, ndimakwanitsa kukwaniritsa cholinga chachikulu mwangozi: sindinachite bwino miyezi 11 kuposa momwe ndinkakhalira mwezi umodzi. Nditazindikira kuti ndafika patali, ndinadziwa kuti nditha kuthana ndi zotsalazo.
Ndinachita bwanji izi? Choyamba, muyenera kudzipereka pankhondoyi. Khulupirirani kuti mungathe. Ndipo musalole kuti chikhumbo chanu chofuna kuchita bwino chifooke. Inde, ndidagwa m'njira, koma uyenera kudzuka ndi kupitabe patsogolo. Ngakhale Scumbag Brain ikawonekera, yesetsani kulimbana naye ndikuyika zolinga zanu. Nthawi zonse ndikakumana ndi mayesero, ndimangonena mokweza kuti, "Sindikulemba kapena kuyang'ana zolaula lero," kapena zinthu monga "ITSA TRAP !," kapena "izi zikuopsa," kuti ndivomereze kuti ndinali kutsogolera njira yopita ku PMO. Dzitengere wekha usanafike patali. Komanso, ndimakhala otanganidwa KWAMBIRI. Ndidayamba ntchito yatsopano mu Marichi ndipo ndimagwira pafupifupi maola 60 pa sabata milungu ingapo. Izi zidandipangitsa kuti ndisakhale ndi kompyuta yanga komanso kutali ndi PMO. Pezani zinthu zoti mudzaze nazo tsiku lanu ndipo simudzayesedwa kwa PMO. Monga akunenera, "manja osagwira ndi malo osewerera a ziwanda."
Ndiye ndizosiyana bwanji? Chachikulu kwambiri ndikuti sindimamvanso ngati bomba la PMO. Zinkakhala kuti nthawi iliyonse ndikawona chilichonse chogonana, chimatha kuyambitsa "malingaliro anga" ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndimasiya zomwe ndimachita ndikutha. Sizinkafunikanso kukhala zolaula. Akadakhala wotsatsa wa VS, wailesi yakanema wokhala ndi mkazi wokongola yemwe adamuvula malaya, chikumbukiro choyambitsa, chithunzi pa Reddit, chilichonse. Ngati ndikadakhala pagulu, ndimatha kupondereza, koma ndikangofika kunyumba, ndimayenera "kusamalira bizinesi." Pakali pano ndikutha kuwona momwe zimakhudzira zokolola zanga komanso momwe zinthu zimakhalira tsiku ndi tsiku.
Tsopano, ndikumva ngati kuti ndayamba kudziyang'anira ndekha komanso thupi langa. Tsopano, mutu wanga ndawonekeratu ndipo chifunga chawuka (mudzimva kukhala watcheru komanso wodziwa zambiri). Tsopano, nditha kuyang'ana chifanizo chogonana (osati zosangalatsa, koma ngati ndingapeze chimodzi) osakhala ndi ubongo wanga wowombera ma neuroni ndi dopamine kuzungulira kundiuza kuti ndisinthe.
Komanso, ndakhala ndili pachibwenzi nthawi yonseyi ndipo ndawona kusintha kwakukulu momwe ndimayendera nthawi yathu yapamtima. Nthawi imeneyo, kwa ine, inali yokhudza zinthu chimodzi: kungochotsa miyala yanga. Zachidziwikire kuti zinali zosangalatsa, koma panalibe kusiyana kulikonse momwe zikadamvekera ndikakhala ndi iye kapena ndikamachita ndekha. Zinali zokhudzana ndikumverera kwamankhwala komwe kumabwera ndikutulutsa. Tsopano, chifukwa ndiye khomo langa lokhalo logonana, zasintha zonse. Kuchita nawo izi kwakhala zochuluka za iye ndipo timakhala limodzi. Kuchita zinazake zomwe iye ndi ine titha kuchita. Zakhala zogonana kwambiri, zowonjezereka, komanso zosangalatsa kwambiri. Sindikudziwa ngati wawona kusiyana (sakudziwa kuti ndikuchita NoFap), koma ndimatero. Kuchita NoFap kwandibweretsera tanthauzo kuubwenzi wapamtima ndipo ndine wokondwa kwambiri.
Nayi chinthu chachikulu… ndipezanso agulugufe m'mimba mwanga kachiwiri. Mukukumbukira tili achichepere ndipo mumacheza ndi mnyamata / mtsikana woyamba yemwe mudakondana naye kwambiri? Ndipo pomaliza pake, mumayesa kukankhira malire…. ”Mwina nditha kunyamula thukuta lake lokwanira kuti ndikhudze khungu lake.” Ndipo mtima wanu wachinyamata, wosadziwa zambiri umathamanga ndikugundana ndipo m'mimba mwanu mumakhotakhota mukafufuza. Kumbukirani momwe zinaliri zokongola? Chifukwa cha NoFap, malingaliro amenewo abwerera. Pambuyo masiku 90 a NoFap, ndimamva ngati kugonana ndikubwezeretsanso. Ndiulendo. Ndizodabwitsa. Ndipo ndichifukwa chakuti sindikubera bwenzi langa china chomwe angandipatse ndikudzikonda ndikundipatsa ndekha.
Komabe mwazonse. Kudzigwira. Kudzidalira. Ubwenzi wabwino. Izi ndi zomwe NoFap yandibweretsera. Ndimafunabe zopeza, koma tsopano ndikudziwa kuthana nazo.
Nanga bwanji tsopano? Ndidakali nazo. Ndikukhulupirira moona mtima kuti moyo wanga uli bwino ndipo sindikufuna kugwa m'galimoto ndikubwerera m'madzi amdima a PMO. Mukayambiranso, mumamva kuti mutu wanu ukugwedezeka? Sindikufuna kumvanso choncho. Ndine Fapstronaut wa moyo wonse.
Abale ndi alongo. Zikomo powerenga. Limbani mtima. Mutha kugonjetsa ziwanda zanu za PMO. Pezani makina omwe amakuthandizirani. Pewani zomwe zimayambitsa. Mukayamba kutsegula mawebusayitiwa, dziwitseni mokweza kuti izi sizabwino ndikusiya kompyuta yanu. Osadzinamiza kuti "Nditha kuthana ndi chithunzi chimodzi," kapena "Ndikungofuna kuti ndiwone zomwe Reddit ikukamba patsamba lino." Ndine wokondwa kupereka ndi kuthandiza kapena upangiri womwe ndingathe. Tili paulendowu limodzi. Tionana tsidya lina.
Pomaliza anachita. Nkhani yanga ya tsiku la 90.
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