Mbiri: Ndine katswiri wazaka 26 zakubadwa wa IT yemwe amakhala moyo wabwinobwino. Ndili ndi zaka 9 kapena 10, ndinapeza "fapping", mchitidwe wodzisangalatsa. Ndimakumbukira kuti sindinathe kutulutsa umuna, poyamba, koma posakhalitsa ndidayamba chizolowezi cha dopamine rush of orgasm. Ndinkadziseweretsa maliseche kamodzi patsiku ndipo nthawi zina ndinkangodya 3-4 pa tsiku. Ndinali ndi zaka 12 pamene ndinayamba kuchita chidwi ndi makompyuta, ndipo kenako, zolaula. Palibe zolaula zopenga kwambiri, koma kupha kwa PMO kudakhazikika m'moyo wanga. Zinali chabe zomwe ndimachita, tsiku lililonse, mosalephera. Pamene magiredi anga anali osakwanira pa mayeso, kapena pamene ndinali kuchita chinachake chaumwini, kuseweretsa maliseche kunali ngati njira yovutitsa maganizo imene ndinkayembekezera nditapita kunyumba. Ndaonapo ena akunena kuti ngakhale pa nthawi yocheza, amakhala ndi chilakolako chochoka ndi kuseweretsa maliseche. Kwa ine, ndimakhulupirira kuti zilakolako zanga zakugonana zinali zopambana ndipo nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndi malingaliro ogonana patsogolo pamalingaliro anga atsiku ndi tsiku.
Mutu wina waukulu wakuzungulira koipa uku ndi nkhawa. Malingaliro okhumudwitsa omwe amalankhula ndi anthu, malingaliro okhala ndi nkhawa poyambitsa kuyankhulana ndi azimayi komanso nkhawa yam'mutu ikafika pazinthu zina zambiri m'moyo. Sindimakhala ndi mbiri yakukhumudwa kapena kuda nkhawa. Oddly, sindinadziwe kuti ndikumakumana ndi zinthu zosinthika mpaka nditaphunzira za nkhawa zomwe ndidali nazo mu 20 yanga yoyambirira. Kuchulukitsa kwamtima, kutuluka thukuta komanso malingaliro olakwika kumandisokoneza kukumbukira zaka za 17-25; kudzuka m'mawa, kulankhula ndi anthu, kutenga zovuta zatsopano komanso zochitika zatsiku ndi tsiku. Ali ndi zaka za 22, ndidayamba kudwala mutu waching'alang'ala pafupifupi tsiku lililonse. Ndidadzuka ndimadzi akumwa, ndinayamba kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikudya bwino koma ndimadwalanso ndi "kupweteka" kwamutu uku. Monga mawotchi, ndimatha kumva zovuta za ma migraines ozungulira 12 - 3 PM ndipo ndinamverera wopanda mphamvu m'mene zimayamba kuchititsa maphunziro anga. Nthawi yonseyi, kuzungulira 21, ndidayamba kudwala ziphuphu, khungu loipa komanso tsitsi louma / lalingaliro. Dziwani kuti ndine PMO kamodzi kapena kawiri pa tsiku, mfundo yomwe imatsimikizira kupusa kwanga ndi kulephera "kulumikiza madontho", koma makamaka pambuyo pake. Ndine 6 ”2, munthu wowoneka bwino, motero zonse pamwambapa zinali zowononga kulimba mtima kwanga. Ndidali ngati atsikana azikandiyang'ana koma ndimamverera wotsika kwambiri panthawiyi.
Nthawi zonse ndinali bwino ndi azimayi. Kusukulu zonse zakusekondale kupita ku koleji, nthawi zonse panali atsikana omwe amanditsatira, amafuna kudzipatula ndipo amafuna kulumikizana. Ndikayang'ana m'mbuyo, izi sizinkagwirizana ndi PMO koma kulephera kwanga kusankha zochenjera, komanso zowoneka bwino, zamagulu. Komabe, sindinadziwe momwe ndingalankhulire ndi atsikana, sindimatha kumva bwino ndikakhala nawo. Kuchepetsa kumeneku kumatha kugwira ntchito ngati njira yothandizira, ndikumalimbikitsa nkhawa zanga ndikupangitsa kuti ndizikhala ndi nkhawa poganiza za KUTHENGA kwa winawake pafoni. Motsimikizika china chake chalakwika pamenepo. Nthawi zambiri ndinkavutika kuchita chilichonse ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimatopa. Pazaka zonse za 21, ndidazindikira kuti sindingathe kugona popanda ma 8-10 maola ogona, ndipo ngakhale pamenepo, kugona kunali kopanda pang'onopang'ono ndipo nthawi zonse ndimamva kukwiya, nthawi zambiri ndikumverera "chifunga cha malingaliro" chomwe amatchulidwa pano. Palibe chikhalidwe chaumoyo kapena kusintha kwa moyo zomwe zikadandikhudza ine monga momwe NoFap adachitira.
Monga Meyi 20th, 2013, sindinadyetse maliseche, kapena kukhala ndi chamoyo, m'masiku a 50. Monga amonke, oimba ndi ascetics angatsimikizire, zotsatira za kudziletsa zitha kukhala zamphamvu. Kwa iwo omwe luso lokhala ndi chisangalalo latengeka ndi zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche, zotsatira zoyipa zokhala ndi chiwalo chanu zikulipirika KWAULERE. Mukudziwa zomwe zimandisowetsa mtendere kwambiri? Zomwe ndinangolingalira zomwe zikuchitika pa msinkhu wa 25. Ndinakonzeka kubwezeretsa malingaliro anga, thupi ndi zogonana mwakuchita NoFap. Mwamwayi, NoFap inali yosavuta kwa ine monga momwe zinachitikira mu NoFap zakhala ngati za 85% flatline. Sindinakhalepo / zilibe zokhumba za kugonana, zilizonse. M'malo mwake, masiku 30-40, ndinachita kuwunika kawiri kuti ndione ngati zonse zili "bwino" kumusi. Pansipa pali chithunzi cha ine kale ndi pambuyo pa NoFap; Palibe "opambana" pano, akaunti yowona chabe ya moyo wanga watsiku ndi tsiku pambuyo masiku a 50 a NoFap:
Pamaso pa NoFap:
- Kutaya chidwi ndi zinthu zambiri; Mwachitsanzo, ndinali wokonda kwambiri m'chiuno koma ndinasiya kukonda nyimbo ndi zinthu zina zambiri
- Zinthu zikundizunza kwambiri mpaka kufika podana, pafupifupi. Ndingatenge mawu ndi zochita za ena pandekha
- Zovuta kuyang'ana ndi kuwerenga. Ndinkangokhala ngati sindingasunge chidziwitso chifukwa cha "kuda nkhawa"
- Ngakhale kukhala ndizabwino (kupanga kupitirira 62K pachaka), sindimakhala wosangalala komanso wopanda manyazi tsiku lililonse
- Kuda nkhawa, mwachitsanzo, wina akundipatsa foni kuti ndilankhule ndi munthu. Ndikamadzuka m'mawa, ndimatha kukhala ndi malingaliro olakwika, nthawi zina ndimadzipha. Izi zimatha kudutsa tsiku lonse koma kubwerera m'mawa
- Khungu, limakoka migraine pafupifupi tsiku lililonse
- Kuchuluka kwa kugunda kwa mtima, nthawi zambiri kumakhala chizindikiro cha nkhawa
- Kudziyang'anira pansi; "low low", chithunzi choyipa kwambiri cha ine, ndikudzigwetsa pansi nthawi zonse
- Kugona kopepuka, makamaka kuyambira azaka za 20-25, pomwe ndimaganizira kuti PMO adayamba kundikhudza kwambiri
- Kuphulika kwa zikopa ndi khungu losalala / lamafuta, mafuta owuma komanso owuma / ometa
- Nthawi zonse ndimagonana pamalingaliro anga
NoFap itatha:
- Sindingakumbukire kuti kugona kwanga kumakhala kabwino chonchi ndipo ndimagona pafupifupi nthawi yomweyo. Komanso, ndimamva bwino kwambiri ndikadzuka m'mawa, sindinakhalepo ndi malingaliro osalimbikitsa. Ngakhale ndikamagona maola angapo a 3-5, ndimatha kugwira ntchito ndikumva bwino! Ndimagwira ntchito maola a 60 pa sabata pa ntchito ziwiri ndipo ndimakhala wokondwa ngakhale ndikufunika kugwira ntchito kuchokera ku 7 AM mpaka pakati pa Usiku
- Palibe nkhawa / zochepa kwambiri PONSE. Sindimakhala ndi nkhawa ndikakumana ndi anthu atsopano, kucheza kapena kulankhula pamaso pa anthu. M'malo mwake, palibe chomwe chimandipangitsa kukhala pafupi ndi nkhawa zomwe ndimakhala nazo
- Ndikumva bwino kwambiri. Sindinakhalepo wopindulitsa pantchito komanso wakhama pantchito yanga. Sindinamvepo chidwi chofuna kupeza digiri ina, kuyamba kugwira ntchito ndikusintha moyo wanga. Uku sikukukokomeza chabe chifukwa kusonkhezera sikumangokhala “kumverera”, ndi malingaliro omwe amapezeka muzonse zomwe mumachita. Ndimayesetsa kuchita zabwino. Izi zitha kuthandizanso pakulandila kumene kumene
- Ndimamva kusangalala, kumasuka komanso kukhutira tsiku lonse. Kumverera bwino pabwino komanso kutonthoza. Zinthu sizimandivuta kwambiri ndipo ndimangomva wabwino. Ndi kwenikweni usiku ndi usana ndikaganiza za kuchuluka kwa nkhawa zomwe zakhudza moyo wanga wa NoFap
- Kutha kusangalala ndi zinthu zosangalatsa zilizonse zomwe ndimachita. Ndikumvetsetsa izi zikugwirizana ndi ubongo wanga kuti ukubwereranso ku dopamine yodziwika bwino ndikudziyambiranso
- Kuzunza kwanga kulibwino. Ndimatha kuwerenga ndikusunga / kukumbukira zambiri ndipo kukumbukira kwanga kumawoneka ngati kofupika.
- Kamvekedwe kabwino ka khungu, pafupifupi "kowala", sindingakumbukire nthawi yomaliza yomwe ndinatulukira ndipo khungu langa limawoneka lathanzi monga momwe likuchitira pakalipano
- Mawonekedwe abwino a tsitsi
- Ndimatha kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwa nthawi yayitali komanso sindimatopa msanga
Moyo ulibwino tsopano ndi NoFap. Pambuyo pa masiku a 90, ndikupanga kukana maliseche kwathunthu moyo wanga wonse. Msungwana wanga wazaka za 2 ndipo tidzakwatirana chaka chamawa ndipo ndikuyembekeza kukhala ndi malingaliro oyenera ogonana naye muukwati. Nditha kunena kuti NoFap mosavomerezeka pazabwino zomwe ndakumana nazo. Zimandipweteka kuti sindinalumikizane ndi mavuto obwera chifukwa chodziseweretsa maliseche ndi mavuto omwe ndinali nawo ndili mnyamata.
Ndikupempha aliyense pano kuti alimbikitse kutsimikiza kwawo ndikudutsa pa NoFap ndikudziwa kuti palidi mbali yabwino pakuwonera izi komanso kuti kuthana ndi zotheka. Zikomo powerenga komanso zabwino zonse!
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