Ndikhala olimba mtima usikuuno ndipo ndikugawana nanu nkhani yanga ndi mtima wanga wonse. Ndikuwuzani momwe ndidapezera, zomwe ndidachita zomwe zidandithandiza kumaliza kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe ndimazindikira.
Mu Okutobala 2013, moyo udakonzedwa mwanjira yoti sindinathe kuziponya kwamasabata a 4. Ndiye, nditatha kubwereza, ndinazindikira kuti ndasiya zomwe ndachita m'moyo wanga (poyamba ndinali masabata a 2-3), ndipo ndinkafuna kuyesa izi momwe ndingathere. Pamapeto pake ndimayandikira pafupifupi sabata la 6. Zinalibe kanthu, ndachita china chake chomwe chandilola kuti ndipite nthawi yayitali popanda MO ndipo ndimafuna kupitiliza. Pamenepo ndinazindikira, mwangozi, za nofap.
Ndinachita monga wina aliyense. Ndinayamba zolemba ndikupeza mnzanga woyankha. Kuyesera kwanga koyamba kunatenga masiku 21. Sanandivutitse kwambiri. Iyo inali nthawi yoyamba komanso yokhayo yomwe ndinabwereranso. Chifukwa chake chinali chaser effect. Nditangophunzira za izi sindinachitenso cholakwacho.
Pambuyo pobwereranso ndinali wotsimikiza ndikukhulupirira kuti ndipitiliza kuyesanso kwanga. Ndinali wotsimikiza izi nditaphunzira zomwe zimachitika muubongo, makamaka za dopamine ndi likulu la mphotho. Ndinaziwerenga ndikudziphunzitsa ndekha za momwe kuledzera kumeneku kunakhalira, zomwe zimafunika kuti zipitirire, ndipo nditamvetsetsa momwe ubongo ulili ndimakhala ndi yankho pazomwe ndimayenera kuchita kuti ndisiye izi. Za ine, zolemba za William pamsonkhanowu zidandithandiza kwambiri, ndipo ndimawalimbikitsa kwambiri. Malingaliro ake onse “amaphunzira. pezani zida. phunzirani kukonda kuchoka ”zinandipangitsa kusiyana.
Thandizo lina lidachokera ku buku lotchedwa "Kuthana ndi zolaula" wolemba Kevin Skinner. (Kwa chidwi, Skinner's system ndikungokhazikitsa kwa Pro Prochaska's Trans Theoretical Model). Sindingathe kulimbikitsa anthu okwanira kuti asiye zolaula.
Chachitatu, chida china chomwe popanda iwo sindikadatha kuchita ndi pulogalamu yoyang'anira makolo K9. Pamapeto pake, pulogalamu iliyonse yoyang'anira makolo ndiyabwino, sikuyenera kukhala K9, koma iyi ndiye yomwe ndidapeza yabwino kwambiri. Pofotokoza bwino kufunika kwake ndigwiritsa ntchito fanizo. Tangoganizirani chidakwa chomwe chimafuna kusiya mowa ndipo chimasungabe botolo mozungulira, tinene muofesi yake, kuti timukumbutse kuti akumenya nkhondo yabwino. Posakhalitsa, kenako, amayamba kumwa mowa. Akakhala wolimba amatha kuzipewa, koma pakadali pano ali wofooka komanso wosatetezeka, atembenukira kuzomwe akudziwa. Palibe mphamvu ndi kudziletsa zomwe sizingakhale pakati pake ndi botolo. Wosuta zolaula amayamba kuyika pakati pake ndi zomwe amakonda, ndipo izi ndizowona pakukonda kulikonse.
Chinthu chomaliza chomwe chidandithandiza chinali kukhala ndi mzanga wochita nawo mlandu. Ngakhale AP yaying'ono inali yabwino, thandizo lomwe ndidapeza lidachokera kwa bwenzi langa, amenenso adakhala AP wanga. Ndikufuna ndikhale ndi bwenzi lenileni ngati mungathe. Sizingafanane.
Sindingathe kumaliza nkhaniyi osanenapo zabwino zake. Nditayamba ndinali ndi mavuto ndikuchedwa kuthamangitsidwa, ngakhale sindinazindikire. Ndine wokondwa kunena kuti zatha tsopano. Kumvetsetsa kunabwereranso ndipo ndimatha kutulutsa madzi nthawi zonse. Ndinayambanso kukhala ndi zozizwitsa zokha, zomwe sindinakhale nazo kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 16. Chofunika kwambiri kuti chidaliro changa chinawonjezeka kwambiri, mpaka pamlingo womwe sindinakhalepo nawo kale. Tsopano ndikhoza kuyang'anitsitsa mtsikana aliyense malinga ndi momwe ndikufunira, zomwe ndimayenera kuchita manyazi. Ndipo mulungu, amamva bwino kufotokozera chilakolako chogonana ndi mtsikana asanatchule mawu amodzi. Ndinamutenga mtsikana mumsewu chifukwa choti ndimamuyang'ana "motero".
Mapeto ake ndinganene kuti kwa ine nofap idakhala yopanda pake. Ndilibe zovuta zodziseweretsa maliseche. Izi ndizabwinobwino ndipo ndidzazichita mtsogolo. Vuto lenileni limabuka pamene kuseweretsa maliseche kumayendera limodzi ndi zolaula, chifukwa zolaula zimatha kutisangalatsa Zambiri kuposa momwe tikanakhalira. Munthu amatha kuseweretsa maliseche kangapo patsiku popanda zolaula, koma ndi zolaula azichita mopitilira muyeso. Ndipo ndakumana ndi zochulukirapo mpaka pamlingo woti ndidakonza 3 masiku otsatizana, mpaka pomwe ndidapeza bala lomwe silinachiritsidwe. Chosaka chimenecho chizikhala chikumbutso mosalekeza cha zoopsa zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kukhala ndi zolaula.
Ndikufuna kuthokoza William, Mark, ndi AP FinMechanica wanga, chifukwa cha chithandizo chonse, kumvetsetsa kwawo komanso zolimbikitsa zawo. Sindingathe kuchita izi popanda inu anyamata. 
PS: ngati mukufuna kuwerenga ulendo wanga mutha kuwupeza apa http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthrea…th-to-recovery
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