Kuyesa koyamba kwa nofap pamachitidwe osavuta (mulole kugonana / mkazi / mnzanu), masiku a 90 atha! Ndikusangalala kuti ndakwaniritsa cholinga ichi. Ndikuwombera kwa 120 masiku otsatira ndipo ndikungoyesabe kuwonjezera miyezi ingapo pa chingwe chomwe chikubwera.
Tsiku limodzi nthawi lakhala lingaliro lothandiza kwa ine. Nthawi zambiri ndimangodzuka ndikunena, "Lero sindiyambiranso. Ingodutsani lero, ndizo zonse zofunika pakadali pano. ”
Ubwino - Kudzidalira
Sindinazizindikire pasanapite, koma ndikuganiza kuti PMO imakhudza kwambiri kudzidalira kwanga. Ndikumva bwino kwambiri pakadutsa masiku 90 awa. Ndinadana ndikuti ndinali wokwatiwa komabe ndinali ndi maliseche kapena PMO'd; ndinkaona kuti ndine wosakhulupirika, wolakwika, ndipo ndimadzimva kuti sindingathe kuwongolera chifukwa zoyesayesa zodziyimira ndekha sizinachite bwino. Kwa kamodzi ndimamva kuti chizolowezi changa kwa PMO ndikumenyedwa, ndipo ndichifukwa cha njira yothandizira ya nofap, cholimbikitsira changa kuti ndisadzakhale PMO, komanso chifuniro changa kuti tsiku lililonse lipambane. Ndikumva ngati bambo kuposa momwe ndakhalira kale ndipo zakhudza mbali zina za moyo wanga.
Ubwino - Kupanga
Popanda kuwononga nthawi PMOing, kuchira ndikumva chisoni nazo, ndikukhala ndi nkhawa kuti izi zichitikanso, ndili ndi nthawi yambiri komanso mphamvu zambiri. Kuzindikira momwe moyo wanga ungakhalire wosiyana popanda PMO kudzera munthawi yowonjezerayi komanso mphamvu zanditsegulira maso kuthekera komwe ndingakhale nawo m'moyo wanga. Pakati pa tsiku 70 kapena apo, ndinawerenga zolemba apa zomwe zikufotokoza kusintha kwa munthu uyu kudzera mu nofap. Amakhala ngati wotayika ndikukhala "Mamuna" m'malo ambiri m'moyo wake. Kupanga nkhani yayifupi, ndi nthawi komanso mphamvu zomwe ndikumva, ndidaganiza tsiku lomwelo kuti ndikhoza kukhala munthu wamtunduwu komanso kuti ndakhala munthu wamtunduwu m'njira zina. Ndinangofunika kutsatira zomwe ndikufuna pamoyo wanga. Kuyambira pamenepo, ndakhala ndikufuna kwambiri ndi momwe ndimagwiritsira ntchito nthawi yanga kuchita zinthu zopindulitsa komanso zopatsa moyo. Ndayambiranso CrossFit, ndimathamanga kangapo pa sabata, ndimamusamalira kwambiri mkazi wanga (ndikumupatsa mphatso zing'onozing'ono zomwe angafune popanda kufunsa, ndikuyang'ana njira yatsopano yomwe angafune ndikumudabwitsa nayo chakudya chophika kunyumba, kupezeka kwambiri pokambirana, ndi zina zambiri), kupeza gitala yanga ndi luso langa loimba, kubwerera / kuganizira mozama za gawo langa lomwe ndimaphunzira kusukulu ya (pantchito), ndidawona wothandizira, wabwino Kusinkhasinkha kwanga, kucheza ndi abwenzi komanso abale, ndi zina zambiri. Ndikupeza munthu yemwe ndingathe kukhala, ndipo m'njira zambiri zimamveka ngati kupeza thandizo ndikutulutsa PMO kwandithandizira.
Ubwino - Zachikhalidwe
Chifukwa cha kusintha kumeneku, ndimadzidalira ndikakhala pagulu. Ndimazindikira kuti ndikufunitsitsa kutsogolera zokambirana, kubweretsa anthu m'magulu, kulumikizana bwino ndi maso, kulumikizana bwino, ndipo ndimayamika anthu omwe ndikulankhula nawo. Ndine wodziwika komanso wonyadira izi, chifukwa chake sindikufuna kukhala gulugufe; komabe zimamveka bwino kumverera bwino pakhungu langa pamagulu a anthu. Komanso, ndikuwona kuti ndili ndi malire abwino ndi anthu. Ndimatha kunena kuti ayi kwa anthu ndikafuna kukana ndipo ndikutha kupewanso anthu ena kuti mwina nditha kuyesedwa kuti ndiyambe kuyamwa miyoyo yawo koma mwina silingakhale lingaliro labwino kwambiri.
Ubwino - Moyo wogonana
Ngakhale sindinakhalepo ndi PIED, ndinazindikira ndisanafike kuti nthawi ina M'd nthawi zina sindingathe kuchoka popanda P. Zomwe sizinachitikepo kale ndipo ndikuganiza kuti ndimayamba kutsetsereka kwachinyengo. Tsopano, sindikudziwa ngati izi zikuchitikabe chifukwa sindinakhale ndi M'd, koma ndikudziwa kuti ine ndi mkazi wanga tikugonana kwambiri. Ndimakhudzidwa kwambiri kumeneko, ndimakhala ndi libido yambiri, ndipo sindimadzipezanso wosadandaula. Izi zimamva bwino, chifukwa zimathandizira kuti mukhale ndi mphamvu ngati mamuna. Sindikunena kuti munthu ayenera kuchita zogonana kuti akhale mwamuna, koma zimathandiza kuti mukwaniritse zomwe mungathe m'mbali zonse za moyo, kuphatikizapo kugonana.
Ubwino - Za mphamvu ndi chipembedzo
Mfundo yomalizayi mwina singasangalatse anthu achipembedzo, koma chonde ingomverani. Ndinali wopembedza kwambiri. Ndinali mtumiki wanthawi zonse wachikhristu ku koleji. Nkhani yayitali, ndinayamba kudana ndi Chikhristu nditatha kugwira ntchito yanthawi zonse ndipo ndasiya chikhulupiriro mpaka pano. Izi zidakhudza ulendo wanga ndikusiya PMO ndipo chifuniro changa chikhala champhamvu kwambiri. Ndikakhala wachipembedzo, ndimayesetsa kusiya PMO chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti ndizolakwika, koma koposa zonse, chifukwa Mulungu amaganiza kuti ndizolakwika. Ine ndi magulu aliwonse a akhristu omwe amayesera kuletsa PMOing kuti ndinali nawo nthawi ina nthawi zonse timalephera, ndipo ndimadalira kupemphera kwa Mulungu kuti atipatse mphamvu kuti tikhale olimba. Mwanjira zina ndikuganiza kuti izi zidakhudza chifuniro chathu chifukwa sitinali kutenga nawo mbali pazomwe timachita. Tidali ndi chiyembekezo kuti Mulungu atichitira zina mwa ntchitoyi. Komanso, chifukwa timachita izi kuti tisangalatse Mulungu munjira zina, sitinakhalepo ndi umwini wolimba pakufuna kusiya PMO - nthawi zonse timagawana ndi zosowa zathu kuti tichite zomwe wina (Mulungu) akunena. Nditakhala ndi 100% ndikadafuna kuti ndisiye kudzichitira ndekha PMO ndikungokhala ndi mphamvu zanga zodalira kuti ndisiye mogwirizana ndi chilimbikitso cha gulu la nofap, ndimadzimva kuti ndikwanitsa kuchita zolimbikitsazo. Ndachita bwino, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti zonse zitha pang'ono, chifukwa chake ndikuyembekeza kukhala wolimbikira tsiku lililonse kupitiliza kupambana uku mtsogolo popanda chipembedzo, chifukwa zimawoneka ngati zikundibweza panthawiyi.
Kuti ndikwaniritse zonsezi, ndikufuna kuthokoza aliyense pano yemwe wathandizira pazomwe zili mu gawo lathu komanso kwa aliyense amene adakambirana nane pamene tikufuna kukula. Ndikudziwa kuti sindikanatha kuzipeza ndekha kuti ndisinthe popanda kulimbikitsidwa ndi anthuwa kumayambiriro pano. Sindikufuna kudalira gawo ili, koma sindikufuna kusiya kwathunthu chifukwa zathandiza ndipo ndikufuna kuthandiza ena omwe anali pamalo omwewo ndi ine. Pano pali tsiku lina, mwezi wina, ndipo pamapeto pake chaka za kupambana kwa nofap!
TL;DR: Masiku 90 atha. Gulu la Nofap landithandiza kusintha moyo wanga tsiku ndi tsiku. Cholinga chotsatira - masiku 120.
LINK - lipoti lathunthu la masiku 90 (positi yayitali)
ZATSOPANO - zomwe ndaphunzira miyezi 4 yapitayi
Moni nonse, 27 y / o wokwatiwa pano, njira yosavuta nofap koyamba. Ingogunda miyezi 4 sabata ino yapita. Nkhani zokhazokha zomwe PMO wanzeru miyezi iyi ya 4 ndiyakuti ndikagona ndimakhala ndi chizolowezi chongodzikhuza ndichizolowezi. Sindimachita chilichonse pafupi ndi maliseche, koma ndichizolowezi chomwe ndikuyesera kusiya. Ndikufuna kungopita kukagona osadzikhudza konse; mausiku ambiri izi zimachitika koma usiku wina sizichitika. Mulimonsemo, sindiganiza kuti zinthuzi zitha kubwereranso, koma ndikuganiza kuti ndibwinoko ngati ndingasiye kuzichita bwino.
Komabe, zosintha zabwino zambiri zachitika m'miyezi yapitayi ya 4!
Ndidakhala miyezi iwiri yoyambirira ndikulimbana ndi zovuta zambiri ndikuyendera malowa tsiku lililonse kuti ndithandizidwe ndikulimbikitsidwa, ndipo ndimazifunadi. Kwina pakati pamasiku 60-90, ndidazindikira kuti mwina ndipita masiku 90. Ndimangofunika kuti ndikhale kanthawi kochepa kuti ndikwaniritse cholinga changa, ndikumverera kuti ndiyika malingaliro anga pazinthu zomwe sindinachitepo kale ndikuzikwaniritsa (mothandizidwa nonse) zodabwitsa. Panthawiyi, ndinawerenga nkhani ya kusintha kwa vet wa vetap (pepani sindikukumbukira dzina lake lomasulira), koma adakhala munthu yemwe amafuna kukhala naye pambuyo poti nofap adamulimbikitsa kuti asinthe gawo lililonse la moyo wake. Nditawerenga izi, ndidamva mawu mkati mwanga akuti, "Ndikufuna moyo wanga ukhalenso wabwino. Chifukwa chiyani siziyenera kukhala? Ndipo ndichifukwa chiyani sindiyenera kuchita zonse zomwe ndingathe kuti ndikhale choncho? ” Kuchokera nthawi imeneyo, ndasankha mwa kufuna kwanga (osati mwa mphamvu zamatsenga zokhala pa nofap, ngakhale kuti kuchepa sikundithandiza kuchita izi) kuti ndichite bwino m'malo ambiri m'moyo wanga ndipo ndapeza zotsatira kuti ndakhala wokondwa ndikuphatikizira koma osachepetsa izi:
1) Banja labwino (ubale wabwino, moyo wabwino wogonana)
2) Kutha kuyimirira ndekha ndikusatira zomwe ndikufuna
3) Mosatetezeka, kusadzidalira pang'ono poti sindimangodzilankhulira ndekha (chipewa paphewa langa chikuchepera)
4) Yasunthidwa kuchoka pamayendedwe osavuta othamanga kupita pamtanda wa 5x sabata limodzi ndikuwona kusintha kwakuthupi (kutayika kwamafuta, minofu / kuthamanga / kuthamanga)
5) Kuyang'ana kwambiri panthawi yomwe ndikugwire ntchito ku sukulu ya grad patsiku langa motero kukhala wopindulitsa
6) Ubale wabwino ndi abwenzi, ndikuyamba ubale watsopano ndi anzanga akusukulu omwe sindinalankhulepo nawo kale
7) kudzidalira kwabwino
8) kugona bwino
9) nkhawa zochepa
10) Kulandira bwino / kuchita bwino
11) maluso abwino oyankhulirana (popereka gulu, ndikulankhula ndikuganiza ndi mapazi anga, ndi zina).
12) Nthawi yochulukirapo yochitira zinthu zabwino zonsezi
13) Popita nthawi, kuthera nthawi yocheperako patsambali chifukwa ndandanda yanga yakhala yodzaza ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri ndipo ndimakonda kuiwala kuti ndibwererenso kuno. za ine, ndikuganiza kuti ndi zabwino chifukwa sindikufuna kudalira kwambiri tsambali (ngakhale ndimavomerezabe zosowa zanga, popeza usiku watha ndinali ndi chilimbikitso chokana kukana motero ndili wotsimikiza osati kuthengo komabe tikufunikira chilimbikitso cha aliyense)
14) Ndipo palibe cholakwa kwa anthu achipembedzo pano, koma kwa ine, ndakhala ndi mtendere wochuluka ndikusunthira kuchoka kuzipembedzo zanga ndikukhala ndiudindo wathunthu pamoyo wanga osadalira chipembedzo pakadali pano. (Chonde osayesa kukambirana nane zachipembedzo, sindichita chidwi. Ndikungotumiza china chake chomwe chakhala chothandiza kwa ine, osayesa kutsutsa zikhulupiriro za wina aliyense).
Tsopano, ndinena kuti kukwatiwa ndikuchita izi mosavuta kumapangitsa izi kukhala zosavuta, ndikuganiza. Chifukwa chake ndimakhala ndi ulemu waukulu kwa inu omwe mumatopa kwambiri. Ndikuganiza kuti zidzakhala zofunikira ngakhale, chifukwa maubwenzi aliwonse omwe mungakhale nawo m'tsogolo angakhale abwino kwambiri chifukwa cha zomwe mukuyesetsa tsopano.
Chomaliza chomwe ndinganene ndikuti pakatha miyezi 4, ndili m'malo abwinoko, ndipo ndichifukwa cha chikhalidwe chomwe ndadzilowetsa mu gawo ili. Ndiye kuti, chikhalidwe ndikungodzilimbitsa munjira iliyonse, ndipo malingaliro anga akamapita komweko, ndimakhala wofunitsitsa kuti zochita zanga zitsatire. Nofap, kwa ine, ndikusintha kwenikweni. Sindine munthu wina amene samatha (ndipo amavutika kuti azichita izi); Ndine munthu wina aliyense amene akufuna kukhala bwino pochita zomwe ndikufuna pamoyo wanga.
TL, DR; Miyezi ya 4 kudzera nofap ndikukumana ndi zosintha zabwino zambiri chifukwa chogwira ntchito molimbika komanso mosiyanasiyana. zikomo chifukwa chothandizidwa!