Ndine bambo wazaka za 28 wazaka zambiri yemwe wakhala akuchita zolaula kwa zaka zingapo tsopano. Awa anali mankhwala anga osankhika atasuta chamba. Ndikuuzeni izi, kusiya chamba kunali kosavuta kwambiri kuposa kusiya zolaula.
Koma imeneyo ndi nkhani yanthawi ina. Pafupifupi miyezi 9 yapitayo ndidazindikira kuti ndikupweteketsa thupi langa, ndikumva kuwawa m'maganizo komanso mwakuthupi chifukwa cha zolaula komanso maliseche, ndikudana ndi munthu yemwe ndakhala. Ndidapunthwa ndi NoFap, ndipo ngakhale sindikuvomerezana ndi chilichonse chosagwirizana ndi NoFap, monga chakuti kuseweretsa maliseche nthawi zina mosavulaza kumakhala kovulaza kwa inu, ndikuvomereza mfundo yayikulu ya NoFap, yoti zolaula ndi zolaula ziyenera kukhala ndinasiya popanda kukayika m'malingaliro mwanga.
Ndiye izi zikupita. Nditazindikira koyamba kuti ndiyenera kusiya, ndinayesa kuchita izi movutikira. Ndidatsimikiza Ndidadziwa kuti sindingamalize nthawi iliyonse ndikamaliza kuyang'ana zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche (nthawi zina kupitilira nthawi ya 4 patsiku). Ndinadziuza kuti sindidzapatsanso maliseche, ndipo izi sizingatheke. Ngati kufuna kwanu kukhala kolimba ngati mwala, mutha kuchita bwino. Koma kwa ambiri athu (99.99% ya anthu), mudzakhala olephera. Sindikuyesa kukhumudwitsa aliyense, ndikungolankhula malingaliro anga pa izi kudzera mu zomwe ndakumana nazo m'miyezi yapitayi ya 9.
Popita nthawi ndinazindikira kuti kuseweretsa maliseche si nkhaniyo. Ndinayesa kuchita zolaula kwakanthawi ndipo ndinazindikira kuti zinali zosavuta. Ndidalephera ndikuyang'ana zolaula mwina kamodzi kapena kawiri pa sabata koma ndidadula maliseche kuyambira 3 kangapo patsiku mpaka 3 pa sabata. Kusintha kwakukulu Ndikutsimikiza aliyense wa inu angayamikire m'miyoyo yanu. Kenako ndinazindikira kuti siyinali maliseche yomwe inali vuto lomwe linali vuto LINK pakati pa zolaula komanso maliseche yomwe inali nkhaniyo ndipo ndiyenera kuthana nayo. Ndinayamba kufunafuna anthu omwe ndimawadziwa m'moyo wanga ndikuwona momwe amathandizira pankhaniyi. Anthu enieni omwe ndimawadziwa ndipo anali ndi akaunti yoyamba yomwe ndimadziwa kuti sanganame konse kwa ine, anthu omwe ndimakhala nawo mwayi pamoyo wanga. Inde, ndikulakwitsa, ndipo ndinawauza bambo anga za vuto langalo. Ndipo ndiyenera kunena kuti wandithandiza kwambiri ndipo lingaliro lakumuuza lakhala chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri m'moyo wanga.
Tip #1: Uzani munthu yemwe mungamukhulupirire ngati zingatheke.
Popanda kukhala ndi tsatanetsatane wambiri, bambo anga ndi munthu wopambana, wamphamvu komanso wathanzi, wathanzi komanso wosangalala kwambiri. Adandiwuza china chake chomwe chingasinthe momwe ndimawonera zolaula, maliseche komanso kugonana kwakukulu. Kuti chilichonse chogonana chili m'malingaliro. Anandiuzanso kuti ngakhale kuti NoFap si chiyambi chabwino, pokhapokha ngati mukugonana mwachizolowezi (mwa chizolowezi sindikutanthauza nthawi 3 patsiku, ndikutanthauza kangapo kamodzi kapena kawiri pa sabata), siili bwino popanda kutulutsa umuna nthawi yochulukirapo. Aliyense amene amadziwa bambo anga angavomereze kuti ali ndi testosterone yambiri (mwa mawonekedwe a nkhope, mafupa, tsitsi, mphamvu ndi zina) kwinaku akusamalirabe zosowa zakugonana, kutsimikizira m'maganizo mwanga kuti kuseweretsa maliseche popanda zolaula SIChepetsa mafuta a testosterone kapena kuyambitsa zovuta zilizonse. Ndi kuseweretsa maliseche kokha komwe ndimawona kuti kumachepetsa mphamvu zanu, zikhale zokhudzana ndi testosterone kapena ayi. Anandiuza kuti PALIBE cholakwika ndipo ndizothandiza kuseweretsa maliseche kamodzi pamlungu kapena milungu iwiri iliyonse. Ndinamvera malangizo ake. Sindinadziike pansi ngati ndiseweretsa maliseche kuyambira pano. Ndinangopanga ngati ndikanagwiritsa ntchito zolaula pagawoli.
Tip #2: Siyani zonse kwa milungu ingapo musanayambe chizolowezi chodziseweretsa maliseche.
Ili ndiye gawo la noFap lomwe ndimagwirizana nalo kotheratu. Zolaula zakhala zikukupangitsani kuseketsa thupi mpaka thupi lanu limafunikira ochepa masabata angapo mpaka mwezi kuti muchiritse. Apatseni mpumulo wofunikira kwambiri kuti athe kuyambiranso ntchito yake yanthawi zonse.
Tip yotsatira ndili ndi gawo lovuta kwambiri koma ndilofunikira kwambiri kotero kuti muyenera kumvanso.
Tip #3: Mvetsetsani kuti mukufunadi kusiya izi komanso kuti zikuwononga moyo wanu. Sipangakhale zifukwa zodzikhululukirira ndipo simungakhale ndi malingaliro osagwirizana ngati mukufuna kusiya kapena ayi.
Ngakhale muwapeza milungu iwiri yoyambirira mukamalimbana ndi zilako lako, momwe mungasungire zinthu zonse, mphamvu pazigawozi, zidzadutsa.
Gawo lomaliza komanso lingaliro langa ndilofunika kwambiri pakumenya izi:
Langizo #4: Yambani kuchita zinthu zina zabwino, m'malo mwa zolaula kuti muzolowere kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu kuzichita m'malo mwamaliseche. Apa ndipomwe ntchito yeniyeni imachitika ndipo ubongo wanu umasintha njira zake, ndipo mudzakhalanso munthu wabwinobwino.
Chitsanzo: umafika kunyumba usiku ndikuponya ndi kutembenuka. M'malo modzuka kukawona zolaula, m'malo mwake onerani nkhani, imwani mkaka, malizitsani ntchito zina, ndi zina zambiri (koma osachitanso izi). Ndikhulupirireni, ndizovuta poyamba koma m'masiku ochepa, masabata musintha ubongo ndikupeza china choti muchite.
Ndinagwiritsa ntchito maupangiri anayiwa ndikupambana. Tsopano ndatuluka m'gulu la zolaula pafupifupi miyezi 4. Sindinayang'ane zolaula kapena zolaula. Koma ndimasewera maliseche za 3 - 2 nthawi pamwezi popeza ndilibe bwenzi logonana pakadali pano ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti ndikofunikira kuti mudzipulumutse. Maloto amadziwikanso nawonso, koma si onse omwe amawapeza ndipo maloto onyentchera amapezeka pambuyo poti munthuyo wakhalanso wokhumudwa kwakanthawi. Nthawi zambiri sindingakhalepo ndi zovuta zolaula ndipo zikucheperachepera.
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LINK - Momwe ndimapewera zolaula, ndipo zomwe ndikuganiza zikuthandizirani momwemo. (ZOFUNIKIRA PAKUTI)
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