Moni kwa onse a NoFappers, uku sikuyenera kukhala kugawana mwachizolowezi. Pali chidziwitso chokwanira pazomwe zimachitika mukamaonera zolaula komanso momwe zimamvere mukayesa kusiya mchitidwewu. Mwachidule nkhani yanga ndi zolaula ndi ya zaka 13 (zaka XXUMX pakadali pano) zaka za 29 zomwe adakhala akumenyana nazo.
Kwenikweni kumenyana ndi zizolowezi zanga zolaula sikukwaniritsa cholinga chachikulu, ndiko kuti, kusiya kukakamira ndikukhala mfulu. Zomwe ntchitoyo idachita, idabwera ndi chidziwitso ndi kutsogolo kwa nkhope yanga: Chizolowezi ichi ndikulowa m'malo mwa chosowa chomwe sichinakwaniritsidwebe. Zosowa zomwe sizinakwaniritsidwe ndikuyiwalika. Ndipo mawu omaliza ndi osavuta. Kuti muthane ndi chizolowezi, munthu ayenera kudziwa zomwe zingafunikire.
Sizovuta kudziwa, koma zimakupulumutsani. Kwaulere mawu oyenera, chifukwa chizolowezi chimakupangitsani inu kuti muzizungulira, ndizovuta kwambiri kusiya. Ambiri mwa anyamata omwe ali patsamba lino amafotokoza mitundu yonse yosakondera kwambiri yamalingaliro ndi thupi, chifukwa choonera zolaula. Mwanjira ina, kukonda zolaula kumabweretsa mavuto. Izi ndizabwino komanso zolakwika. Ndizowona, chifukwa kuonera zolaula kumalimbitsa ubongo kuti uchitenso ndikukusungani mumayendedwe oyipa, ndikuwonjezera kuvutika. Ndizolakwika, chifukwa osati zolaula, koma kulakwa ndi komwe kumapangitsa kuti anthu azimva zoipa.
Izi sizolakwika zabodza zomwe zimabwera pambuyo poti walonjeza, kunyalanyaza wokondedwa kapena kuyambiranso N-th. GUILT imachitika pamene munthu sachita zomwe angathe kuchita kuti amuthandize kapena kusintha yekha. Chiwopsezo chaubongo, kusaganizira bwino, kudzitsitsa, kusachedwa kuchita zina, zimachitika chifukwa mphamvu yanu yama psychic (Jung, 1928) ndi yochepa komanso yofooketsa, ndipo ndi GUILT wanu yemwe "mumadya" mphamvu zomwe mulibe. GUILT yeniyeni simubwera pamene mupereka munthu wina, koma mukamapereka mwano wanu (osachita zomwe mutha kuchita).
Kuti mudziwe zomwe mukusowa zomwe mungachite kuti musinthe., Kumbukirani zomwe mudasowa musanayambe kuchita izi. Pangani malingaliro angapo pazomwe zingakhale ndikuyamba kuyesa. Mukazindikira, simudzakhalanso ukapolo wa kuledzera. Ngati munganyalanyaze zosowa zomwe ndikulankhula ndikuwongolera kuti musakhale kutali ndi zosokoneza zanu, posakhalitsa zidzakupezani. Zili ngati chilombo chodikirira nthawi yoyenera (nthawi yomwe mutha kuona chosowa chosadziwika) kutuluka mu chipinda ndikukugwirani.
Ndikhulupirira ma neuroticism komanso nkhawa zamavuto zimachitika chifukwa chokhala okakamira mu mtima mwathu. Kuti muthane ndi vuto lanu muyenera kupeza zomwe zikuchititsa. Zomwe ndikunena ndikuti titha kupewa zolaula mothandizidwa ndi kufuna kwathu, koma dzenje (chosakhutira) lidzadzazidwanso ndi chinthu china chomenyanso.
Poyesetsa kuthetsa vutoli ndapindula kwambiri ndi ntchitoyi - "Njira Imene Ndikuganizira”- ndipo ndimayigwiritsabe ntchito kuti ndimvetse bwino za ine ndekha. Ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi osaneneka. Ngakhale kuzichita kamodzi pa sabata kukupindulitsani kwambiri.
Chabwino, zonse zinali. Ndikhala wokondwa kwambiri kuwona malingaliro anu ndi mafunso pankhaniyi.
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