- Uku ndi kuyesa kwanga kwachitatu "kwenikweni" ku nofap. Ndine wamwamuna wazaka 30. Ndinafika masiku 23 ndi masiku 62 pamizere yanga yayitali kwambiri. Ndinkaganiza kuti ndilephera chifukwa malonda aposachedwa sanamveke bwino. Sindinaswe.
- Maubwenzi anga onse, abwenzi ndi abwenzi anga, omwe adalephera adazika mizu pakuzindikira ndikupanga zolaula. Ndimakhala wosakwiya, wodekha, wopanda nkhawa pagulu, ndipo ozungulira osakhala ndekha. Kupeza mtsikana anali muzu kudziko langa, mathero a njira zanga, ndi cholinga chokhala ndi moyo. Kenako nditapeza mtsikana, ndidamdwalitsa.
- Ndinali wosauka kusiya maubwenzi omwe sanali kugwira ntchito mwamantha kuti kukhazikitsa ubale watsopano ndi aliyense kumabweretsa kulephera. Ndinkachita mantha kunena zakukhosi kwanga, zopangitsa nsanje, kutukwana, komanso kukwiya msanga. Komanso sindinkafuna kumva zomwe aliyense anena. Anthu sanalankhule nane chifukwa sindinasamale zakumva nkhani yawo.
- Zinthu zasintha nthawi ino kuzungulira. Ndikudziwa zomwe zimayambitsa (kutopa, njala, kumwa, kusagwirizana kwa gluten, kupsinjika), ndipo ndimadziwa momwe ndingagwiritsire ntchito (kusinkhasinkha, yoga, kukweza, kulemba, kudziteteza, kuwerenga, kuwalankhula). Sindikakamiza anthu, ndipo sindiyesa kukonza anthu kuti ndiwapange momwe angaganizire dziko lapansi. Ndimalola anthu kukhala ndi moyo ndikulakwitsa.
- Ndinaphunzira kulola maubwenzi apite. Ngati sikugwira ntchito, msungwana akusewera ndi iwe, bwanawe safuna kucheza nawo, msungwana kapena bwenzi sakusangalala ndi zomwe akufuna, ndipo wina amakhala wopanda nkhawa, ndimawalola kuti achite zinthu zawo ndikupita kukachita zinthu zanga. Akafuna kuchita zinazake, amatha kulumikizana ndi ine kapena nditha kupeza anthu ambiri oti ndikhale nawo m'moyo wanga. Dziko lapansi ndi malo abwino komanso ochuluka; chitani chomwecho. Simudziwa yemwe mungakumane naye mukangomupatsa mwayi.
- Ndikulankhula malingaliro anga tsopano. Ngati ndiyenera kutero, ndinena zomwe ziyenera kunenedwa mokoma mtima. Ngati ndikumva ngati kuti wina andipusitsa, ndimanena kapena ndimapempha china chake chomwe ndikufuna. Ndili ndi malingaliro oti nditha kuthana ndi zopinga chifukwa ndimatha kuthana ndi zofuna zanga.
- Nchiyani chinasintha malingaliro anga? Zikuwoneka kuti zikuchitika chifukwa ndikudziwa bwino kuti ndine ndani, ndipo sindimakhudzidwa ndikulamulira zochitika kuti ndibise manyazi kapena mantha anga. Ndikuwerenga Momwe Mungapambanitsire Mabwenzi ndi Kukopa Anthu, ndipo zandithandiza kuti ndizikhala ndi chidwi ndi nkhani za anthu ena. Ndinkagwira ntchito, ndipo ndimagwira ndi mkazi yemwe anthu ambiri samamukonda. Amatha kukhala ovuta nthawi zina, koma ndimagwira naye ntchito, chifukwa chake ndimazolowera. Nditangofika kumene ndikulemba, adapita ndikuyamba kukambirana za ana ake, sabata lake, abwenzi ake, ana ake, ana ake, ana ake. Podzitchinjiriza, inali combo ya jab-punch mobwerezabwereza. Silinayime kwa maola awiri. Sanasangalale ndi moyo wanga; anali wokonda kukhala wokonda kulankhula naye. Adalamulira zokambirana zonse. Zinandipangitsa kuzindikira kuti ndi momwe ndakhalira kwa zaka zambiri. Anandiyandikira nati, "Kodi mwana wa mchimwene wako ali bwanji?" Ndikadamuuza nkhani zina, kenako ndikufunsa za ana ake. Sikunali kupatsa ndi kutenga; ingopatsani kapena tengani kuchokera kwa iye (kutengera momwe mumaonera).
- Pomaliza, m'modzi mwa abwenzi anga "akuyesa" nofap koma samamvetsetsa kapena kusamala kuti amvetse. Anandiuza kuti sanakhazikitsenso kalekale, ndipo mayi ake amandikumbutsa za ine ndekha. Adandiyimbira usiku wina ndikudandaula za momwe samafunira chibwenzi, koma lero ndikupita kukadya ndi mtsikana yemwe amamukonda (chakudya chamadzulo sichabwino tsiku loyamba, koma ndiye tsiku lake loti apitilize). Ndinkadziwa kuti china chake sichinali pamoyo wake chifukwa adasowa pa radar ya mnzake. Moyo wake umayamba "kutsata njira ya atsikana" akangobwereranso m'moyo wake. Amasiya kulankhula ndi abwenzi, amasiya kupanga mapulani oti awone abwenzi, ndipo amadikirira kuti ayimbire kapena kupita naye limodzi. Ndakhala munthu ameneyo. Zimathera pamavuto. Nthawi zambiri ndimamupangira upangiri, koma sindiyesa kukonza aliyense. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri pa nofap ndikuzindikira kuti muyenera kukhala woyendetsa nthawi zonse pampando wanu. Mukayamba kulola wina kuchita izi, mumasiya kukhala ndi moyo. Monga a Marcus Aurelius ananenera, "Imfa siyiopa munthu, koma iyenera kuopa kuti sikhala ndi moyo."
- Gawani nkhani yanu ndi ine kapena perekani ndemanga pa yanga. Gawo labwino kwambiri mdera la nofap ndikumva malingaliro anu pankhani yanga kapena mumagawana nokha. Osazengereza kuyankhapo.
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