Ndabwera patsamba lino mu Januware chaka chino ndikuyembekeza kuti ndichiritsa PIED yanga. Ndine wokondwa kunena kuti tsopano ndikugonana kwambiri ndi mkazi wanga, ndipo zosintha (zonse zomwe zikukwaniritsidwa ndikusunga) sizilinso vuto. Ndinkafuna kugawana nkhani yanga ndi aliyense amene angapindule ndi zanga.
Ndinayamba buku la 40 + patsiku 1 ya kuyambiranso (link pano). Izi zikufotokozera mbiri yanga komanso zokumana nazo m'masiku anga oyamba 90. Koma ndimafuna kugwiritsa ntchito ulusiwu kufotokoza zinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe ndaphunzira paulendowu ndipo ndiulangizi wanga kwa inu.
1. Muyenera KUFUNA kusintha kuti mukhale abwino - Anthu ena amatha kuyang'ana PIED ndikudandaula kuti "chabwino, ndiwo moyo wanga wotembereredwa" kapena china chake. Koma nditazindikira chifukwa chomwe ndidalephera kuyimilira panthawi yogonana, ndidawona ngati chovuta kuti ndipambana. Ndidatsitsimulidwa kuti izi zitha kusinthidwa popanda chithandizo chamankhwala. Sindikudziwa, mwina chinali chinthu chodzidalira ndi ine, koma kukhala ndi PIED kunali kochititsa manyazi komanso kokhumudwitsa. Ndinkafuna kuti ndibwerere zambiri kuposa momwe ndimafunira zolaula. Ndizovuta kwambiri, kotero muyenera kukhala ndi wolimbikitsayo.
2. Khazikitsani zolinga zanu zazikulu ndipo musasokonezedwe ndi ena onse - Cholinga changa (ndipo moona mtima cholinga chomwe ndikupangira kuti aliyense amene akufuna kumenya PIED) ndikuchepetsa zolaula komanso maliseche. Nditakhala nawo pamsonkhanowu kwa masiku angapo, ndinawona mafunso ambiri okhudzana ndi kuchuluka kwa umuna, kusungidwa kwa umuna, nkhawa zamaloto, kaya ziwombankhanga zili zathanzi, ndizochita zanga zolaula zomwe zimapangitsa, kodi kuseweretsa maliseche kumayambitsa tsitsi, kuli kuti mphamvu zanga zazikulu zomwe ndidamva, mndandanda umangopitilira. Ganizirani ntchito yomwe mwapeza. Lekani kuwonera zolaula, siyani maliseche, ndipo zinthu zizikhala bwino. Ndikulangiza kuti mupewe "zoyipa" za ulusi ngati ndinu mtundu womwe mumadzipeza nokha pamutu panu pafupipafupi.
3. Siyani kutengeka ndi ma p-subs komanso kuwonekera "mwangozi" - Izi zikuyankha "Kodi ndinabwereranso?" ulusi. Ndili ndi lamulo la chala chokhudza p-subs chifukwa zili paliponse ndipo simungazipewe nthawi zonse. Ngati ndingakumane ndi chithunzi cha mkazi, ndimadzifunsa kuti "kodi ndidakhala pa-sub nthawi yayitali kuti ndidzutse?" Ngati yankho ndi ayi, ndiye kuti ndikudziwikiratu. Kenako ndimadzifunsa "kodi p-sub idandipangitsa kuti ndiziyang'ana kwambiri zolaula mpaka nditaonera zolaula?" Ngati yankho likadali ayi, ndikubwerera kuulamuliro wanga # 1: osayang'ana zolaula kapena maliseche. Ngati sindinachite chimodzi mwazimenezo, sindinabwererenso. Panjira. Ndinapita masiku 90 popanda zolaula "mwangozi". Ngati mwanjira inayake "mwapunthwa" ndi kanema wovuta, mudali m'dera loopsa poyamba.
4. Pezani chidwi chatsopano - Mwakhala okonzeka kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu yonse yopanda zolaula ndikukwaniritsa zomwe mumalandira. Ndipo mukasiya kuchita izi, mumasiya mwayi waukulu. Muyenera kupeza china choti mudzaze. Pali china chake kunja uko chomwe chimakusangalatsani. Ngati simukukhulupirira kuti izi ndi zoona, ganizirani nthawi yomwe zolaula zinkalamulira dziko lanu. Muyenera kupeza chilakolakocho ndikusanthula. Muyenera kusiya chizolowezi zolaula pochita china chake chomwe mumakonda ndikuyiwala kuti zolaula zinali zosankha. Ndikukhala woonamtima, mwina ili likhala lofunikira kwambiri kuti ndichiritse. Ndinkakonda kwambiri masewera ndi ziwerengero, kotero ndidabwereranso m'mabwalo amasewera omwe ndimawakonda kwambiri, ndatengapo gawo pazokambirana, ndikupereka chidziwitso, ndikukambirana za NFL ndi anthu, kuneneratu, ndi zina zambiri, ndipo tsopano ndine wothandizira ku blog blog. Sizi za aliyense, koma ndichinthu changa. Muyenera kupeza chinthu chanu.
5. Onani zinthu izi kuti ndi chiyani - Chinyengo chomwe ndidaphunzira koyambirira kunali kuyang'ana nyenyezi yomwe mumakonda kapena chilichonse ndikuganiza zamisala yomwe akukumana nayo pamakampaniwa. Pangozi yonena za nkhani yomwe ingayambitse, ndikukuwuzani kuti ndawona nkhani yomwe ikuwonetsa nyenyezi zolaula popanda zodzoladzola. Sanali otseguka m'maso okha, komanso anali owomba m'mutu. Zomwe ndinganene ndikuti ma studio amenewa akuyenera kulemba akatswiri ojambula padziko lapansi. Phatikizani izi ndikutsutsa, kuzunza, komanso mankhwala osokoneza bongo omwe afala mumsikawo, ndipo zomwe ndingathe kuchita pakadali pano ndikuyembekeza kuti tsiku lina atsikanawo adzathandizidwa ndikukhala ndi moyo wosangalala.
6. Gwiritsitsani dongosolo - Izi zikumveka bwino, koma masiku 90 oyambawo akuwoneka kuti azitenga kwamuyaya. Ndipo sizovuta. Sindingathe kutsindika mokwanira. Uku si matsenga, kukonza kosavuta (kulibe chinthu choterocho). Muyenera kuyika ntchitoyi ngakhale pali zovuta zonse pamoyo. Zinthu zoyipa zitha kuchitika mdziko lanu lomwe limapangitsa kuti mukhale ndi chidwi chofuna kukulitsa dopamine. Padzakhala zolimbikitsa zomwe ziziwonekera poyambiranso. Lingaliro lolakwika lomwe ndidagulirako pachiyambi ndikuti zolimbikitsazo zidzatha pakapita nthawi. Chokhumba changa chothana ndizolakalaka maliseche komanso zolaula ndizomwe zidatha. Pambuyo pake ndinachoka pachizolowezi, ndipo ndinaphunzira kuthana ndi zolimbikitsazi m'njira zosiyanasiyana. @ILoathePorn (Ndikukhulupirira simukumbukira kuti ndikunenani) mudagawana njira yothanirana ndi zozizwitsa izi. Onani ulusi wake pamisonkhano 40+. Ndiwothandiza kwambiri mukakhala kuti mwasiya chizolowezi chowonera zolaula ndikusowa chilimbikitso chowonjezeracho kuti musabwererenso m'dera lanu.
Ndikutsimikiza kuti ndili ndi upangiri wina womwe ndidayiwala kutchula. Koma chinthu china chomwe ndikuwonjezera pa "kupambana kwanga" ndikuti m'masiku 6 oyambilirawa, mumakhala nthawi yambiri mukuganiza zakubwezeretsanso kwanu, ndikukhulupirira kuti muphunzira za matendawa komanso ndikulemba za kupita patsogolo kwanu. Ndi choyipa choyenera kotero ndi kwanzeru kusunga zolemba zanu. Koma ndikukuwuzani kuti zinthu zinandivuta kwambiri nditapitirira masiku 90. Ndamaliza kulemba momwe ndidapitilira patatha masiku 90. Koma sindinakhalenso ndi zolaula kapena chizolowezi chodziseweretsa maliseche, motero ndinali womasuka kuchita moyo watsopano womwe ndidadzipangira. Chofunika kwambiri, yang'anirani pamphotho. Sizotheka. Chitani khama ndipo Idzakulipirani. Zabwino zonse kwa inu nonse!
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