Chifukwa chake, sindimaganiza kuti ndikhala pano ndikulemba zabwino zankhani yanga yakuchira. Koma ndili pano! Ngakhale akaunti yayitali kwambiri, ndikhulupilira kuti wina wapeza kuti ndiyothandiza. Choyamba, mbiri ina. Kuyambira ndili wamng'ono kwambiri mwina 9 kapena 10, mwinamwake wamng'ono, ndinayamba kuseweretsa maliseche. Kumwamba kumadziwa chifukwa chake ali aang'ono chotere, mwina chinthu cha chidwi, mwina chinthu chodzitonthoza. Kaya sipanatenge nthawi kuti idakhala chizolowezi chokhazikika.
Mwachidule, ndili ndi zaka 46 ndipo sindinawone zolaula ndili wachinyamata. Ndinali ndi nthaŵi ndi nthaŵi mwana mnzanga wa kusukulu akugwedeza magazini olaula popita kusukulu. Koma mwina zinali choncho. Komabe, zimenezi sizikutanthauza kuti mavuto anga anali asanayambike. Chizoloŵezi chodziseweretsa maliseche chinali chitakhazikitsidwa kale ndi achinyamata anga.
Chiyambi cha Porn Addiction
Ndili ndi zaka 16ish mchimwene wanga wamkulu pang'ono adasamuka. Anasiya katundu wambiri wa zolaula mujambula. Osati chifukwa chokomera mtima chomwe ndinali nacho koma chochulukirapo posadziwa choti ndichite nawo. Ndikayang'ana m'mbuyo, ndikuwona kuti mwina anali kale ndi malingaliro osayenera. Zomwe zinatsimikiziridwa pambuyo pake m'moyo koma imeneyo ndi nkhani ina. Ndikuwona tsopano izi zikuwonjezera zomwe zinali kale chizolowezi. Ngakhale chimodzi chomwe sindimachidziwa panthawiyo. Sindinawone momwe zinaliri kale kusokoneza moyo wanga, koma zambiri momwe ziyenera kutsatiridwa.
Panthawi imeneyi kuseweretsa maliseche ndi zolaula kunali kofala kwambiri. Mwina tsiku lililonse, ngakhale kawiri tsiku lililonse, komanso nthawi yayitali. Ndikayang’ana m’mbuyo, n’kutheka kuti ndinkaigwiritsa ntchito ngati njira yoti ndimve bwino. Ndinakulira m’banja losweka ndipo banja langa silinali mtundu wosonyeza chikondi. Ndikasinkhasinkha ndimadabwa ngati chizolowezicho chinayambira, ndimakhulupirira kuti chinachitapo kanthu.
Gawo lotsatira muzochita zanga zolaula zinali pafupi ndi 21yrs pamene ndinagula PC yakunyumba kuti ndiphunzire. Zitatha izi, posakhalitsa ndidazindikira dziko la makanema olaula aulere komanso atsopano. Izi zinabweretsa mulingo watsopano wa zomwe ndikutha kuwona kuti tsopano zidakhala chizolowezi chokhazikika. Chinali chizoloŵezi chausiku, nthawi zambiri m'mawa ndi usiku. Pokhapokha ndinali ndi chibwenzi. Koma masiku aliwonse sindinali ndi mnzanga zolaula zimakhalapo.
Zizindikiro za Mavuto
Panthawi imeneyi ndinayamba kukhala ndi vuto lochititsa manyazi. Aka sikanali koyamba kuti ndichite manyazi, koma kumayambiriro kwa zaka zanga ndinkachita manyazi chifukwa chinachake chochititsa manyazi chinachitika. Tsopano ngakhale wina akungondiyang'ana amangondisiya. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zobwerezabwereza, akazi ndi amuna. Izi zinali zopundutsa makamaka kukhala munthu yemwe anali wokonda kucheza (ngakhale anali munthu wongolankhula).
Panthawiyi ndinali ndisanayike ziwiri ndi ziwiri pamodzi. Monga nthawi zonse ndimakhala wamanyazi ndimaganiza kuti iyi ndi gawo chabe la zomwe ndinali. Ndipo zikuipiraipiranso momwe ine ndinaliri. Zokhumudwitsa monga momwe zinalili, ndikusiyana kotheratu ndi zizolowezi zanga zoseweretsa maliseche komanso zolaula. Ndiyeneranso kuwonjezera kuyambira ubwana wanga (ndipo poyang'ana m'mbuyo momveka bwino kuti ndinali ndi chizolowezi chokhazikika) ngakhale kuyenda ndekha mumsewu kungakhale kozunzika chifukwa chodziganizira ndekha. Ndinali kale ndi mantha opanda nzeru owonedwa pagulu ngati zodabwitsa monga momwe zimamvekera. Tsoka ilo, china chake chomwe chakhazikika pa moyo wanga.
Ubale ndi Zithunzi
Nthawi zina pa maubwenzi kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kungachepetse koma kuseweretsa maliseche nthawi zonse kunali ntchito ya tsiku ndi tsiku. Nthawi zina kangapo patsiku. Ndikukumbukira kuti ndinachita dzanzi pambuyo pa mpikisano wothamanga woterewu. Koma tsopano ndikutha kuona kuti ndinali ndisanalumikizeko zonsezi.
Chifukwa chake, patatha zaka zambiri zakusala kudya komweko mpaka zaka zitatu zapitazo. Ngakhale kukhala pachibwenzi kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kunali tsiku ndi tsiku. Mnzanga anali bwino ndi zolaula panthawi yogonana (osati lingaliro langa kwenikweni koma ine sindikanati nditsutse!) Zomwe zinali zachilendo ndipo izi zinandipangitsa kukhala bwino kuti ndigwiritse ntchito zolaula. Izo sizinali zonyansa zomwe ziri zowona. Kuchita manyazi kotchulidwa koyambiriraku kunali koipa kwambiri kwa zaka zambiri. Ngakhale kupita kumalo olimapo m'sitolo kungayambitse mantha aang'ono ndi kuchita manyazi. Kulankhula ndi woperekera zakudya m’lesitilanti kungakhale kowawa mofananamo.
Manyazi ndi Nkhawa za Anthu
Ndinayambanso kuchita mantha ndi nkhani iliyonse yokhudzana ndi kugonana, thanzi la kugonana kapena chilichonse chamtunduwu. Ndikanachita mantha kwambiri. Zodabwitsa ndikudziwa, koma ndikuganiza kuti zidachokera ku mantha a anthu kuganiza kuti ndine 'wosokoneza' pogonana. Ndikuganiza kuti apa ndipamene manyazi a zolaula amayamba kusewera zomwe ambiri adanena kale. Kunena zoona, mosadziwa ndinali ndimanyazi kwambiri komanso ndimaopa kuti wina apeza chizolowezi changa chonyansa.
Nkhawa zanga zocheza ndi anthu zinali zitafika poipa kwambiri, zofooketsa. Tsopano ndinali nditayamba kuganiza zodzipha ngakhale kuti panalibe kanthu moti ndikanachitapo kanthu. Komabe, ndinganene kuti nkhawa zatsiku ndi tsiku za anthu zimandipangitsa kukhala womvetsa chisoni. Ndiyeneranso kuwonjezera kuti ndili ndi ntchito yabwino, yolipidwa bwino yokhala ndi udindo wambiri kuphatikiza kuyang'anira gulu komanso ngakhale nthawi zambiri zobisika (osati nthawi zonse) mantha ndi nkhawa zatsiku ndi tsiku zinali kuzunzidwa, makamaka kuchita manyazi nthawi zonse.
Ndinayambanso kukhala ndi chifunga chaubongo, kukhazikika kwanga kunali kosokoneza zomwe zinayambanso kusokoneza luso langa logwira ntchito yanga. Kulimbikitsa kunalibenso. Kudzidalira kwanga nthawi zambiri kunali kotsika. Komabe ndinali ndisanagwirizanepo pakati pa zolaula ndi kufalitsa.
Kusaka Mayankho
Sindikukumbukira komwe ndinapeza NoFap koma ndikuganiza kuti chinali pakufufuza kwanga kuti ndithetse nkhawa zanga zapagulu ndipo ndidakumana ndi zomwe zidalumikiza awiriwa pa intaneti. Nditawerenga mochuluka kutsatiridwa ndi zoyesayesa zambiri za NoFap ndidayamba kuzindikira kuti nditayambiranso ndimakhala wopanda nkhawa ndipo ndimawona nkhawa yanga imadutsa padenga, kuposa kale. Izi zinkawoneka kuti zikuwonekera kwambiri pamene ndinayambiranso.
Panthawiyi nkhawa zanga zapagulu sizinachepetsedwe ndi NoFap koma ma spikes amandipangitsa kuzindikira kuti pali ulalo ngakhale sindimatsimikiza kuti NoFap ithetsa mavuto anga. Pakalipano ndinali kukwaniritsa maulendo amasiku a 15-20 nthawi zonse ndipo masiku a 30 akadakhala opambana kwambiri kwa ine. Ndinkavutikira ngakhale kuti sindinasinthe zomwe pamapeto pake, posakhalitsa zinapangitsa kuti ndibwererenso kwathunthu koma nthawi zonse ndimakhala wowawa kwambiri - chifunga chaubongo, mtima wosakhazikika, wokhumudwa kotero kuti nthawi zambiri ndimalimbikitsidwa kuyesanso nthawi yomweyo, wolimbikitsidwa pang'ono kuposa nthawi yotsiriza.
Zolaula ndi Nkhawa
Nditakwera njinga motere kwa zaka ziwiri ndidayamba kuwona mawonekedwe ndi kulumikizana. Zinali zoonekeratu kuti kuphulika ndi zolaula zinali ndi chikoka chachikulu pa nkhawa zanga zamagulu ndi manyazi.
Momwe NoFap ikukulirakulira, kubwereranso kungapangitse kukwera kotero kuti ndingakhale pamphepete mwa mantha owopsa kangapo tsiku lililonse. Sindinganene kuti zimenezi zinali zonyansa bwanji, koma m'njira zina ndikuthokoza chifukwa zinandithandiza kudziwa zotsatira za chizolowezi changa.
Kenako ndinayamba kukhala ndi mipata yayitali mwachitsanzo, masiku a 60 ndikuyamba kumva phindu lenileni mu nkhawa yanga koma kudzidalira kwabodza kunapangitsa kuti ndibwererenso ndikutsatiridwa ndi mipata yayifupi komanso kubwereranso kumasiku am'mbuyomu a nkhawa yayikulu. Izi zidapangitsa kuti kulumikizana pakati pa nkhawa za anthu ndi zolaula. Ndi chilimbikitso chomwe chinachokera kuti ndidatha kufika nthawi zambiri ku masiku a 40 ndi kupitirira ndipo nditatha kubwereranso pa masiku a 60 (ndinali kukwera, ndikuyang'ana zolaula) ndinati zokwanira ndipo ndinasiya 99.9% ya edging ndi zero zolaula (ndipo mpaka lero). Izi zinali miyezi ingapo yapitayo ndipo ngakhale kutayika kumodzi (kungokhala fap, osati zolaula) masiku a 55 apitawo ndiyenera kunena kuti kusintha sikunali kodabwitsa.
Bweretsani Mapinduwo
Zopindulitsa zakhala zazikulu ndipo sabata iliyonse zikuwoneka kuti zimabweretsa kusintha kwina. Sindikukokomeza chilichonse ndikanena kuti phindu lakhala lodabwitsa. Zina mwa izi motere.
- patatha zaka zopitilira 30 ndikuvutika ndi nkhawa zanga zatsala pang'ono kutha. Ndikakhala pagulu ndimakhala wodekha ndipo sindikumbukira mmene ndinkamvera. Nditha kulankhula molimba mtima pamisonkhano (posachedwa ndidalankhula kwambiri pamsonkhano wokhala ndi ma VP ambiri komanso nkhawa yochepa kwambiri, ngati itero).
- Chidaliro changa monga woyang'anira wamkulu chatha. Sindikudwalanso matenda achinyengo.
- palibe chifunga chaubongo komanso chilimbikitso chowonjezereka
- ubale ndi mnzanga wabwerera momwe zinalili titakumana koyamba. Sindimamva kuti sindikugwirizana naye monga momwe ndimachitira nthawi zambiri ndikamakwera. Ndimasewera kachiwiri.
Kumverera Wolumikizidwa
- Ndikumva kulumikizidwa ndi moyo, chikhumbo chokhala mbali ya dziko osati kufuna kubisala
- Sindikumvanso ngati ndagunda padenga pa ntchito yanga, malingaliro omwe ndidakhala nawo kwakanthawi ngakhale kuti ndachita bwino. M'masabata angapo apitawa ndikumva kukhala wokonzeka kuchitapo kanthu kuti ndifike pamlingo wa director zomwe kungoganiza za m'mbuyomu zingandichititse mantha chifukwa chotha kuyanjana ndi anthu ambiri, gulu lalikulu ndi zina.
- Ndimayenda pagulu mutu wanga uli pamwamba osati kuopa kuyang'ana maso. Ndisanachite mantha ndikagwidwa mwangozi ndimalumikizana makamaka pa chubu
- Kuopa kuwonedwa kumachepetsedwa kwambiri
- Ndinali ndi zomwe ndinakumana nazo sabata ina yomwe ndinali mumsonkhano ndi munthu yemwe amatsutsana pang'ono ndipo ndinali ndi chikhumbo choyang'ana maso. Ndidawawona akucheperachepera. Zinali zokhutiritsa koma ndiyeneranso kuvomereza kuti ndinali wolakwa pang'ono. M'mbuyomu ndimayang'ana pakamwa pa anthu polankhula nawo kuti ndipewe kuyang'ana maso. Kungoyang'ana pang'ono chabe kungandichititse manyazi. Panopa nthawi zambiri ndimayang'ana munthu m'maso ndipo ndimakhala womasuka
Manong'onong'o Oda Nkhawa Sakufooketsanso
- Nthawi zina ndimayamba kuda nkhawa pomwe m'mbuyomu uwu umakhala ulendo wopita ku nkhope ya chitumbuwa koma chodabwitsa kuti kumverera kumangochoka pakatha mphindi imodzi kapena ziwiri m'malo mochita mantha. Ndikachita manyazi zimakhala zochepa kwambiri ndipo inde mwina sizikhala bwino ndimachira mwachangu komanso kuvomereza. Komabe izi zimachitika mochepa
- Ndikazolowera kuchepa kwa mantha ochita manyazi ndizomwe zimandilowa m'mutu mwanga
- Ndinkangogwedezeka panthawi yovuta yocheza ndi anthu monga misonkhano ndi utsogoleri kapena anthu omwe sindimawadziwa bwino. Izi zikuwoneka kuti zachepetsedwa kwambiri m'masabata angapo apitawa. Sindinazindikire kwa nthawi yayitali kubwera kuti ndiganizire.
– Ine sindilinso mu nthawi zonse mkhalidwe kuthawa kapena kumenyana boma.
– Ine ndikuyamba kwenikweni kuyembekezera zocheza
Malingaliro Ena
Popeza izi zasintha kukhala mammoth post ndipereka malingaliro ofulumira:
Yambani kusinkhasinkha, ndi moyenera. Ndikoyenera kuyika nthawi pano mwachitsanzo min. Mphindi 30 m'mawa. Onani TWIM.
Onani kusala kudya ndi kudula ma carbs ndi tirigu. Ndikuganiza moona mtima kuti izi zidathandiza panthawi yobwereranso makamaka ngati zimabweretsa zizindikiro zosapeŵeka za nkhawa yayikulu. Kukhala ndi insulin yokwanira bwino (chifukwa cha kusala kudya komanso kuchepetsedwa kwa ma carbs) kumawoneka ngati kumathandizira pazovuta zanga zapagulu pambuyo poyambiranso, pomwe ndikadapirira masiku a 3-4 ndikudzimva kukhala pansi ndikukhala pamphepete mwa nthawi zonse. mantha pamikhalidwe. Komanso kusala kudya masiku awiri kumapereka jakisoni wamkulu womveka bwino wamaganizidwe komanso kukhala ndi moyo wabwino (mafuta akasinthidwa) Onani makanema a dr pradip, omwe ali ozindikira komanso olimbikitsa.
Khalani ndi chikhulupiriro muzochitikazo
Khalani ndi chikhulupiriro paulendowu. Kwa nthawi yayitali zitha kuwoneka kuti ngakhale pali kusintha kwina kochokera ku nofap sizofanana ndi zomwe mungayembekezere. Khalani nazo, zingatenge nthawi zambiri kuti mutenge nthawi yayitali yotalikirapo kuti muyambe kusintha ubongo.
Lekani kumwa ngati izi kapena zolemetsa ndizo zimayambitsa - zinali zondilakalaka koma ndinasiya kumwa ndisanakhale paulendo wa nofap koma ndikuganiza kuti ndi malo owopsa kwa ambiriZodziwikiratu koma khalani otanganidwa, thyola ulalo pamene nthawi za kunyong'onyeka zimabweretsa kulakalaka nsonga yaying'onoyo kapena m'mphepete. Ikusewera ndi moto ndipo kutha kulikonse mwina ndi chifukwa cholakalaka pang'ono pang'ono pang'onopang'ono komwe kumakula kukhala zilakolako zosalamulirika zobwereranso.e.
Pangani mndandanda wamaubwino a nofap ndikuwerenga nthawi zofooka kapena muwerenge pafupipafupi kuti akhalebe patsogolo. Izi zidathandiza ngakhale kuti kulakalaka kumakhala kolimba nthawi zina mumayiwala kuti muli ndi mndandanda.
Zopindulitsa zanga zanthawi
Kwa ine zinthu zabwino nthawi zambiri zimayamba kuchitika pamasiku 17-20 kukhala pamndandanda ndipo kulumpha kotsatira kumapindulitsa kumakhala masiku 30.
Komabe, kwa ine masiku 60 adandibweretsera zabwino zambiri pakuchepetsa nkhawa zamagulu. Komabe sikungokhalira kusewera pano - kwa ine mipata yayitali yotsatizana idabweretsa kusintha kwakuya mwachitsanzo, masiku 40 + 50days +20 masiku + 67 masiku, zopindulitsa zidayamba kupezeka pamene mizere yayitaliyi idalumikizidwa. Ndiyenera kuwonjezera kuti apa ndipamene nthawi zambiri ndimasokoneza kuyang'ana zolaula ndipo kutha kumangochitika. Pakali pano ndili pa 55 tsiku la nofap streak (ngakhale palibe zolaula kwa nthawi ndithu) ndipo ndikumva ngati munthu wosiyana, palibe kukokomeza.
Ngati mukuyamba m'mphepete ndikumva ngati mutayikadi mwina mutha kuzithetsa ndikuzichita mwachangu kuti musawotche ubongo mpaka ma receptor kapena ngati mungathe, ndiye njira yabwinoko ikani ndikuchita zina. . Komabe, pewani kukhazikika kwa nthawi yayitali chifukwa ndikuganiza kuti ndizomwe zimawononga kwambiri ubongo ndipo zimabweretsa zotsatira zoyipa kwambiri pakuyambiranso.
Ngakhale ndikuwongolera tsopano ndimamva zowopsa za tsiku lotsatira kapena awiri koma zimachepetsedwa kwambiri.
Khulupirirani izi
Chabwino ndathana nazo. Pepani ngati kuli kozungulira pang'ono komanso kotalika kwambiri koma kwachedwa ndipo m'malo mwake nditaya nthawi yochulukirapo ndikuyikonza ndiyenera kugona! Komabe ndikhulupilira zomwe zili pamwambazi zimathandiza wina. Kulikonse komwe muli paulendo wanu khalani ndi chikhulupiriro panjira, khalani oleza mtima ndikumvetsetsa kulephera sikungapeweke koma kwa ine zidandipatsa maphunziro ofunikira kotero ndidalimbikitsidwa kuchita bwino nthawi ina. Ndikukhumba aliyense zabwino zonse!
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