Kuzindikira kukhudzidwa ndi zinthu zolaula kumakhulupirira kuti ndiko kusintha kwakukulu kwa ubongo chifukwa cha chizolowezi (ndi zovuta zogonana zomwe zimayambitsa zolaula), chifukwa zimakupangitsani kulakalaka, kaya "zili" bwanji, ndipo zimakhudza njira zofanana ndi kugonana koyambirira, monga momwe tafotokozera m'mavidiyo angapo a YBOP. Kafukufuku wopitilira khumi ndi awiri pa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amanena kuti anthu amakhudzidwa ndi zinthu zolaula, ndipo (nthawi zambiri) ubongo umasintha zomwe zimayenderana nazo, pogwiritsa ntchito zolaula mokakamiza.
Kuti mumvetse bwino za kukhudzidwa ndi chilakolako onani tsamba lino ndi nkhani yathu - Nchifukwa Chiyani Ndimaona Zolaula Kukhala Zosangalatsa Kwambiri Kuposa Mnzanu? Ili ndi kufotokozera kwakuya chifukwa chake zolaula zingakhale zosangalatsa kwambiri kuposa zenizeni. Kuti mupeze malingaliro okhudzana ndi zoyambitsa ndi zilakolako mvetserani pulogalamu yanga ya wailesi - Brett akufotokoza momwe mungathanirane ndi zizindikiro za zolaula ndi kupsinjika maganizo pakugonana (sewero #21) Kanema waufupi uyu amaperekanso malangizo - Momwe Mungaletsere Kusuta Zolaula Polamulira Zilakolako Ndi Zokakamiza, ndi Truth of Addiction.
Chitsanzo cholimbikitsa:
Zonse ndi zomveka. M'chilimwe 2011 Ndinapanga mwana wamwamuna watsopano ndi o mulungu amene ndimakhoza kumva dopamine mu ubongo wanga. Ndinasangalala komanso ndinkasangalala kwambiri ndikaona zolaula zatsopano zomwe thupi langa linkagwedezeka. Kuyambira nthawi imeneyo ndakhala wosasangalala kwambiri ndipo sindinabwererenso kuntchito.
Kumayambiriro kwa njira yoyambiranso:
Ndinawona zithunzi zolaula tsiku lina tsiku lina ndipo panali phokoso linalake mu ubongo wanga, pafupifupi ngati moto wotentha, mwamwayi zinandichotsa mokwanira kuti ndichoke mofulumira. Dopamine yanga iyenera kukhala ngati macheka pompano popeza tsiku langa limatha kutembenuka kuchoka pachimake kupita kudzipha pafupi ndi maola ochepa, ndizovuta kupirira koma zimanditsimikizira kuti china chake chikuyesera kudzikonza.
Pansi pa msewu wochira:
Tsopano ndili ndi miyezi pafupifupi 4 ndilibe p / m / o ndipo ndikuwona kuti ndikawona chithunzi chapaintaneti kapena pulogalamu ya pa TV kapena china chilichonse, ndimakumbukirabe mwachangu.
Kuiwala zomwe amaonera zolaula.
Ndinakumbutsidwa dzina la nyenyezi yodziwika bwino, ndipo ubongo wanga utayesa kukweza nkhope yake, ndidazindikira kuti sindingathe kuchita izi molondola. Kenako ndidazindikira kuti zinthu zambiri zomwe ndimaganiza kuti zidawotchedwa ndikukumbukiratu zikuyamba kuzimiririka. Chifukwa chake mwina nditha kuzipeza ndikayesetsa, koma ndichifukwa chiyani ndingachite izi?
Miyezi itatu yapitayo, ndikadaganizira za dzina lake, ndikadangoyang'ana pomwepo, kaya ndimakonda kapena ayi, momveka ngati tsiku, zowonera khumi ndi ziwiri zosiyana. Tsopano sindingathe ngakhale kukumbukira bwino nkhope yake osayesa, ndipo sindimafuna kuyesera.
Izi zidandisangalatsa ndipo ndimaganiza kuti ndigawana nawo.
Masiku a 382 ndi ine ndikuyenera kulimbana nawo.
Moni nonse, ndatsala pang'ono kuchoka pa intaneti madzulo chifukwa ngakhale patadutsa chaka chopitilira kuseweretsa maliseche, kukhala kunyumba ndekha ndikukhala pamakompyuta kumabweretsanso zolimbikitsana. , ndipo ndikudziwa kuti mkazi wanga akafika kunyumba, andifunsa ngati ndili ndi vuto lililonse, koma palibe chomwe chimathetsa chikhumbocho. Phunziro apa ndikuti ngakhale zimakhala zosavuta, sizimatha.
Ndipo gawo limodzi lazopambana ndikuzindikira miyambo yanu ndikupewa. Kukhala ndekha pakompyuta ndi pomwe 95% ya zochitika zanga za PMO zimayambira. Kawirikawiri ndimapita ku kompyuta ndi cholinga chowona zolaula kapena zinthu zina, koma ndikangokhala pano, ndikunyansidwa, ndimayamba kuzifuna. Kotero ndikunena usiku wabwino, NoFap, ndikuwerenga buku labwino mchipinda china m'malo mwake. Ngati wina aliyense kunja uko akuvutika konse usikuuno, ndikupemphani kuti mutseke izi ndikupezaninso zina zoti muchite. 🙂
Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, zolaula sizimanditembenuzira kamodzi. Ndimanjenjemera chifukwa chachisangalalo koma ndilibe yankho lina. Ndikuganiza kuti bwenzi langa lokhalo ndilomwe lingachite izi tsopano ndipo ndine wokondwa nazo. Kotero tsopano ndikuganiza kuti ubongo wanga wasintha pang'ono ndikukhala bwino!
Choyamba, ndi zachilendo kukopeka ndi zithunzi zogonana. Dopamine yanu ingakulire ngakhale mutakhala kuti simunakhalepo ndi chizolowezi choonera zolaula. Komabe, mwina ngati mwakhala mukugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwa kanthawi, zithunzizo zikugwira ntchito ngati zizindikiro zamphamvu zomwe zimayendetsa njira zodziwikiratu za ubongo . Mukumva phokoso la mayendedwe a mphotho pamene ubongo wanu ukuyembekezera mwachangu kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Mnyamata wina anati,
Mfundo zanga ndi izi:
- Ichi ndiye champhamvu kwambiri - ndichamisala momwe ichi chiliri. Nthawi iliyonse ndikakhala ndekha m'nyumba mwanga, ndimangoganiza "zolaula !!" Ndi mizu yozama kwambiri ndikuwongolera malingaliro. Sindikuganiza nkomwe za izo; ilipo basi. Ndinali ndi mnzanga dzulo, ndipo tinachoka, ndikutseka chitseko .. nthawi yomweyo ubongo wanga unkaganiza "zolaula !!".
- Ndikasokonezeka pamaso pa kompyuta
- Ndikawona china chake chikukopa pakompyuta, atha kukhala msungwana yemwe akumwetulira.
- Ngati ndili patsogolo pa kompyuta ndipo ndi nthawi yogona.
- Ndikadakhala kuti ndakhala ndikulankhula kovuta ndi wina, ndikapanikizika.
- Ndikakhala wachisoni, kapena wokhumudwa
Nayi malongosoledwe aluso pakulimbikitsa, kutengedwa ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo:
"Kuzindikira mankhwala osokoneza bongo kumachitika mu chizolowezi cha mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ndipo kumatanthauzidwa ngati kuchuluka kwa zotsatira za mankhwala osokoneza bongo pambuyo pa mlingo wobwerezabwereza (wosiyana ndi kulekerera mankhwala osokoneza bongo). Kuledzera kungagwirizanenso ndi kulakalaka mankhwala osokoneza bongo kowonjezereka (kokhudzidwa) pamene zinthu zachilengedwe zokhudzana ndi kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kapena zizindikiro za mankhwala, zapezeka. Njirayi ingathandize kuti anthu omwe amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo abwererenso m'mbuyo. Kuzindikira koteroko kumaphatikizapo kusintha kwa kufalikira kwa dopamine mu ubongo, komanso molekyulu mkati mwa ma neuron a mesolimbic otchedwa Delta FosB. "
Mwa kuyankhula kwina, chizolowezichi chapanga njira zolimba za mitsempha muubongo wanu, zokumbukira zochokera ku Pavlovian, zomwe zimayambitsidwa mosavuta ndi chilichonse chogwirizana ndi kugwiritsa ntchito kale (zithunzi, kugwiritsa ntchito kompyuta, ndi zina zotero). Njirazi zimapangitsa kuti ntchito zamagetsi ziwonjezeke kwambiri (“buzz” ndi yeniyeni) chifukwa cha dopamine, glutamate, kapena zonse ziwiri - zomwe zimayambitsa chilakolako. Kwa anthu omwe ali ndi cocaine kwa nthawi yayitali, kuchuluka kwa dopamine komwe kumabwera chifukwa cha cue kumatha kukhala kwakukulu ngati kuchuluka kwa kumwa mankhwalawa.
Mwinanso munayambiranso ubongo wanu ndikubwezeretsanso chizindikiro chanu cha dopamine kuzinthu zachilendo kwa inu, koma njira zolimbikitsidwa sizitha konse. Komabe, adzafooka. Mwachitsanzo, chidakwa chomwe chakhalitsa zaka 20 sichingayambenso chifukwa chotsatsa mowa. Komabe ngati amamwa mowa, njira zake zowoneka bwino zitha kuwunika, ndipo amakhoza kulephera kudziletsa. Zomwezo zitha kuchitika kwa omwe kale anali ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Ayenera kukumbukira zinthu kwa nthawi yayitali, makamaka zamphamvu.
Pamene wina akuchira anthu ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula adayankha,
ndizotheka kuti mukangokodwa ndi zolaula, ngakhale mutayima kwa nthawi yayitali, chiopsezo choti mudzakumananso ndi zonsezo chidzakhalako nthawi zonse.
Izi sizikutanthauza kuti kuchira kwathunthu sikutheka, koma monga yemwe ndimasuta kale ndikukuwuzani kuti ngakhale sindinasute zaka 10 ndikulakalakabe. Ndikulingalira kuti pang'onopang'ono ndikuzindikira kuti zolaula zidzakhalaponso. Khalani okonzeka kuti kusiyanitsa kwa "Ngati ndingathe kusiya kwa nthawi yayitali sindikuyambiranso" NDI PORN KULANKHULA. Ndife obwereza makasitomala.
Mwamuna wina akufotokozera momwe zimayambira paliponse:
Zikomo anyamata chifukwa chothandizira. PMO ndi yosiyana ndi vuto lililonse lomwe ndimayenera kuthana nalo. Ndasiya kumwa mowa komanso kusuta fodya kwanthawi yayitali. Ndikusuta, zimanditengera ngati mayesero 7. Zilakalaka zake zinali zankhanza ndipo motsatizana kwa masiku pafupifupi 14. Zikuwoneka kuti zinthu zidayamba bwino patadutsa masiku 14.
PMO mbali inayo ndi yovuta kwambiri kuposa kusuta fodya. Pali mkazi wowoneka bwino mozungulira kuti aziyang'ana nthawi zonse. Kenako pakubwera chidwi cha azimayi, omwe amatsogolera ku MO kapena PMO. Ngati ndikanangokhala osangoganizira za akazi, ndikadakhala ndikuwombera bwino chinthu ichi.
Ndipo wina:
Mnzanga, ndimalankhula zomwezo kwa anthu ena pa forum iyi. Ndikuganiza kuti chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe PMO amavutikira kusiya ndichakuti tili ndi malingaliro onsewa omwe ali kale kuti mwanjira ina ziyenera kukhala zosavuta kusiya kuposa zinthu zomwe tidasiya kale (mowa, ndudu, mankhwala osokoneza bongo ...). Monga momwe ndaonera, sizili choncho - ndizobisika kwambiri. Zotsatira zake zimatha kukhala zobisika kwa nthawi, kenako mwadzidzidzi zimangotuluka ndikukudabwitsani. Ndicho chifukwa chake kukhala maso ndikofunikira.
Muyenera kukhala ndi diso m'maganizo anu. Dziwani zamalingaliro anu… dziwoneni nokha "mukupita kumeneko" ndipo muyimitse izi gawo lobwezeretsa ubongo wanu lisadayambe chiwonetserocho. Ndicho chinthu chimodzi chomwe chandigwirira ntchito bwino nthawi ino. Ndikuwona mawonekedwe. NDIKUDZIWA ndikayamba kupita kumeneko, ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndimangodumphadumpha kuti ndichite kena kake kuti ndisiye malingaliro anga. Zikuchulukirachulukira pakapita nthawi; malingalirowo amabwera ndipo ndinangowasiya modekha.
Koma m'masiku oyambilira, ndimatha kuluma lilime langa - sikokwanira kuvulaza kwenikweni, kumene; zokwanira kuti ndimve kupweteka ndikudzichotsa ndekha m'malingaliro omwe ndimatha kumva kuti ndikulowerera. Zosavuta momwe zimamvekera, ndidapeza kuti ndizothandiza kwambiri kwa ine. Ndikutanthauza, mumakhala nazo nthawi zonse kulikonse komwe mungakhale. Palibe amene angakuwoneni mukuchita.
Zomwe zimachitika pofufuza zolaula ndikumangirira:
Tsopano onani zomwe zinachitika dzulo. Ine mwanjira ina ndinayamba kuyang'ana atsikana okongola mu google, ndiye ndinachokera ku izo kupita kwa atsikana mu bikinis, ndiye kwa atsikana amaliseche, ndiyeno ku zithunzi zofewa ndipo potsiriza ku zithunzi zolaula ndi gifs.
Sindinachite izi kapena sindinaziwone m'masiku 42 (ngakhale nthawi yanga ya tchuthi ku Greece, ndimawona azimayi otentha tsiku lililonse m'misewu ndi m'makalabu) ndipo nditawona atsikana onse owoneka bwino pa intaneti ... Chabwino, ndimakonda kuti ndisunthire maola ambiri kuti ndipeze kanema / mtsikana wangwiro wolaula kuti andidzutse ndikudziwikira, ndipo tsopano chithunzi chilichonse cha akazi chidandidzutsa. Amawoneka angwiro komanso otentha kwambiri. Kukongola kwachilengedwe komabe, ndimaganiza ndekha.
Koma, pamene ndinatenga gawo lotsiriza ndikuwona zithunzi zolaula pa Google, chinachitika chodabwitsa.
Ndinamva kuti dopamine ikuwombera pamutu panga, mtima wanga unayamba kumira, magazi akuthamangira ku mbolo yanga ndipo ndimamva ngati ndikupita nthawi yomweyo popanda ngakhale kumukhudza.
Ndinawona chithunzi cha banja likugonana, ndipo ndinamva ngati ndikuyang'ana kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga. Dikirani .. kotero izi ndizogonana? Sindinakhulupirire zomwe ndikuziwona. Sindinayambe ndakhalapo mu moyo wanga ndikuyang'ana pa chithunzi chophweka. Monga, malo ovuta kwambiri kusintha kuchokera mu ubongo wanga anali atangotulutsidwa. Zinkawoneka ngati kukhala ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
Kenaka ndinapitiriza kuyang'ana zithunzi za mafilimu omwe ndimazikonda kwambiri, ndipo pokhala ndikudabwitsa kwambiri, ndinamvanso ndizinyoza. Icho chinali surreal. Kodi iwo angawoneke bwanji choncho? Ine ndimaganiza kuti iwo anali mtundu wina wa zidole kapena chinachake. Palibe akazi amawoneka ngati amenewo m'moyo weniweni. Ndipo iwo angakhoze bwanji kulola kuti iwo azichitiridwa monga choncho? Monga chinthu chogonana, palibe china.
Ndinali ndi chilakolako choyang'ana zolaula kwa masiku oposa 40 ndipo nthawi zonse ndinali kumutu kwanga, ngati nthano. Zithunzi za zolaula zakale zimabwerera ndikutha. Dzulo, ndinapereka kwa chidwi ichi ndipo ndinachotsa mutu wanga wa zolaula ndi zinthu zogonana zomwe ndimaganiza tsiku lonse.
Ine ndinatseka chirichonse ndipo ndinali ndi vumbulutso. Kuti, kuti ndiyambirenso bwino, ndiyenera kusiya kuganiza za kugonana ndi zolaula tsiku lililonse, kwathunthu. Kuti mphamvu zokhudzana ndi kugonana zomwe zinali m'maganizo ndi thupi langa, ndiyenera kuzigwiritsa ntchito kukomana / kulankhula ndi / akazi akazi, kapena kugwira ntchito ndekha ndikukhala moyo wanga moyenera.
Nanga bwanji kutuluka mwangozi?
Kuwona mwangozi kena kena kowadzutsa sikumakhala vuto nthawi zonse. M'malo mwake, ndimakayikira kwambiri zithunzi zilizonse zachithunzi chilichonse, kuphatikiza zolaula zolimba, zitha kubwereranso. Kulimbikitsa chidwi kumachitika pomwe munthu wokonda kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo amayamba kulakalaka kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwalawa mwadala. Kuyesa kwazinyama kukuwonetsa kuti kusankha mwanzeru kutenga zingwe zamankhwala osokoneza bongo m'maganizo mosiyana ndikubayidwa popanda chopatsa mphamvu. Kutsata kapena kugwirira ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kumayambitsa chidwi - ndilo kusintha kwa ubongo kwakanthawi. Nyamazo zimayanjana ndi kumwa mankhwalawo mwadala, ndipo ubongo umalumikiza molingana.
Chifukwa chake, kufufuza mwachangu Facebook kuti mupeze anthu otchuka ndi njira zodziyimira pawokha komanso kukulitsa chizolowezi chanu. Kukumana ndi zithunzi zolimba, ndiye kuti kutseka tsamba nthawi yomweyo kumalimbitsa mphamvu za ubongo wanu. Ngati chidakwa chingasiye mosavuta mutatha theka la galasi la vinyo ... sakanakhala ndi vuto ... sichoncho? (Onani Exposure Response Prevention Therapy (kutha) kuti mudziwe zambiri). Pewani kulumikiza kufunafuna mwadala ndi chilakolako. Kuwona mwangozi sikusankhidwa. Komabe, kuganizira kwambiri za chithunzi chomwe mukuwona, kuganizira za icho pambuyo pake, kapena kufunafuna zithunzi zina chifukwa cha icho kungakhale kopanda phindu.
Onaninso Kodi chizolowezi choonera zolaula chimayambitsa kuwonongeka kosatha kwa ubongo?