Kodi kusiya zolaula kungathetse mavuto anga? Zolaula kwenikweni ndi chinthu chopangidwa m'malo mwa zosangalatsa za tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe mwachibadwa zimapatsa makolo anu malingaliro abwino—monga kukhala ndi anzanu. Izi zikutanthauza kuti kusiya zolaula sikokwanira. Muyenera kupezanso magwero achilengedwe a ubwino.
Mwamwayi, imodzi mwazovuta kwambiri kuledzera ndikuti imayendetsa (imayimitsa pang'onopang'ono kenako imayesa nambala) yomwe ili ndi ubongo womwe mumadalira kuti mupeze zokuthandizana ndi ena opindulitsa ndi opatsa. Pamene simungathe kumva zosangalatsa zachinsinsi chifukwa cha ubongo wa ubongo, kukambirana ndi chikondi zimakhala zopanda pake. Mmalo mokoma mtima, mumamverera kuti mumangofuna "malo," komanso kukakamiza kwambiri.
Ngati ndi momwe mumamvera, yesetsani kunyalanyaza malingaliro anu amkati komanso kuti mufike panjira. Mukakakamiza kuti musamangoganizira za "mpumulo" wanu, mphotho yowonjezera mu ubongo yanu imayang'ana pozungulira zinthu zina zosangalatsa. Khalani ophweka kuti ubongo wanu upindule ndi zomwe zimakhala zosangalatsa zomwe zinasintha kuti zipeze: kuyanjana, okwatirana enieni, nthawi mu chilengedwe, zochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kukwaniritsa, ndi zina zotero.
Kodi kusiya zolaula kudzathetsa mavuto anga? Nthawi zambiri, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amanena kuti akasiya zolaula, amapeza kuti n'zosavuta kucheza ndi anthu , nthabwala, kukopana ndi zina zotero. Fulumizani njira yolumikizirana ndi ena—ngakhale musanayambe kuchita zimenezo. Nayi mndandanda wa malingaliro a njira zochitira zimenezo. Yesani zambiri momwe mukufunira kuti mupeze maubwenzi abwino—ndipo kumbukirani kuti zimakhala zosavuta, chifukwa kucheza ndi anthu kumathandizira kuti ubongo ukhale bwino. Kumva kulumikizana ndi chinthu chabwino kwambiri kuti musabwererenso ku chibwenzi. Pezani thandizo kapena upangiri wowonjezera ngati mukuona kuti mukufunikira.
Kuphulika koyera sikukwanira kuti mukhalenso bwino. Zoona zake n'zakuti, anthu sangathe kuwongolera okhaokha, osati kwa nthawi yaitali. Akaidi omwe ali m'ndende ali okha amakhala amanyala. M'mawu ena, ndi zachilendo kumva nkhawa kapena kupanikizika mukakhala nokha. Monga mawu akuti, "Chophatikizapo sizongoganizira chabe; Ndilo lamulo. "Ndizinanso za inshuwalansi yabwino ya umoyo dziko lapansi limapereka.
Chifukwa chiyani kugwirizana kuli kofunikira
Kodi mukudziwa kuti nthawi zonse, anthu amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kufunikira kukondana ndi ena kuposa zinthu zina zosangalatsa? (Onani buku lakuti Addiction as an Attachment Disorder lolembedwa ndi Philip J. Flores) Timafunikira kudalirana kumeneku, osati pa nthawi yofunika kwambiri ya ubwana wathu, monga momwe Freud ananenera, komanso m'miyoyo yathu yonse.
Izi ndichifukwa choti timalimbikitsidwa kukhala anyani amtundu wolumikizana-osakhala osungulumwa okha. Mukakhala bwino, mumakhala bwino ndi anzanu apamtima, odalirika komanso achikondi (komanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kuchita bwino, ndi zina zotero). Kukhala ndi mnzake kumatulutsa dopamine wathanzi komanso mankhwala ena am'mimba "monga" oxytocin, "omwe amakuthandizani kuti mukhale olimba.
Kupindula kochokera mu kulumikizana ndi ena kumawonekera kwenikweni. Mwachitsanzo, kulumikizana kumathandiza kuchepetsa cortisol ("hormone yopsinjika"), yomwe ingafooketse chitetezo cha mthupi lanu mukapanikizika. "Sizitiwononga kwambiri ngati tili ndi wina wotithandiza kutilamulira," akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo/sayansi ya mitsempha James A. Coan.
Nzosadabwitsa kuti odwala kachilombo ka HIV omwe ali ndi mnzawo amakhala ndi moyo wautali ndipo matenda a Edzi sakula msanga . Mabala amachira mofulumira kawiri ndi ubwenzi, poyerekeza ndi kudzipatula. Kukhudzana mwachikondi pakati pa okwatirana kumachepetsa kuchuluka kwa nkhawa . Chikondi chobwerezabwereza nthawi zambiri chimakhala chotonthoza komanso chopindulitsa kwa mitundu iwiri yogwirizana—kaya ndi kugonana kapena ayi.
Komabe mphatso zazikulu kwambiri za ubale wapafupi zingakhale zamaganizo. Ubale wapafupi wamaganizo umagwirizanitsidwa ndi kuchuluka kwa zizolowezi ndi kupsinjika maganizo kochepa . Zimasintha machitidwe anu a mitsempha ndi kapangidwe ka ubongo mukamachita nawo, kulimbitsa kudzimva kwanu komanso kupangitsa kuti chifundo ndi kuyanjana ndi anthu zikhale zotheka.
Kodi kusiya zolaula kungathetse mavuto anga?
Kugonjetsa kuledzera kumakupangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuthana ndi mavuto ena m'moyo wanu. Popanda kukakamiza zilakolako zanu, ubongo wanu umakhala wosasinthasintha ndipo maganizo anu amasintha. Mukhoza kuona mafilimu abwino komanso osangalatsa omwe amachititsa kuti moyo ukhale wosangalatsa. Nazi ndemanga za ogwiritsa ntchito awiri omwe akuchira:
Moyo unali "wosasangalatsa" kwambiri ndikakhala mu p / m chinthu. Ndimangoganiza kuti ndi momwe moyo umakhalira, ndipo p / m inali mpumulo kwakanthawi kuchokera kumoyo. Tsopano ndikusangalala ndi zenizeni zakukhala ndi moyo: kukambirana bwino, nyimbo yabwino, kulimbitsa thupi kwabwino, kudzimva kuchita bwino nditamaliza sukulu.
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PMO imagwiritsanso ntchito umunthu wanu wachilengedwe. Monga ndazindikira m'masabata asanu ndi atatu apitawa, anyamata athanzi, okakamizidwa pogonana sayenera kuyesa kudzidalira. Chidaliro ndichinthu chomwe chimachokera ku mkhalidwe wanga wachilengedwe (ngati sindiri PMOing mzimu wanga wonse wakugonana). "Mojo" iyi imakhudza zambiri kuposa kungogonana - imafikira madera ena onse - chiyembekezo, chidwi, chikondi ndi chisamaliro, mpikisano ndi zina zotero. Tsopano ndikudzipeza ndekha ndikunena zinthu ndikuchita zinthu, ndikudabwa kuti zidachokera kuti, chifukwa sindimayenera kuziganizira kaye; zimangotuluka mwa ine. Pambuyo pake ndinazindikira kuti umu ndi momwe anthu amakhalira! Zikungoyenda….
Mosiyana ndi izi, ndakhala ndikuwongolera malingaliro anga kwanthawi yayitali, chifukwa ndimafunikira. Mzimu wanga unalibe kotero kuti ndimayenera kuwongolera machitidwe anga kuti ndiwoneke wabwinobwino - kudzidalira kuti anthu asaone kuti sindimadzidalira Popita nthawi, mupeza kuti mukukwera kavalo malingaliro ake omwe ndikukutengerani komwe muyenera kupita, m'malo mongokhala inu nokha mukuyimba. Pang'ono pang'ono sichimachita mantha, koma ndi msewu weniweni. Kuphatikiza apo, mutha kuzipeza kuti zimasokonekera pang'ono nthawi zina mukamachira, kapena kubwera mosiyanasiyana ("Bwanji sindimadzidalira ngati momwe ndidaliri dzulo?"). Osamachita thukuta - limazungulira mwachangu ndipo zonse ndi gawo la ndondomekoyi.
Kuti mudziwe zambiri: Zolaula, Kuseweretsa Maliseche ndi Mojo: Maganizo a Sayansi ya Neuroscience
Nazi malingaliro a munthu m'modzi pa moyo wopanda zolaula
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