“Funani ufulu ndikulanda zofuna zanu. Funafunani malangizo kuti mukhale ndi ufulu. ” -Frank Herbert
Ulusi wa zokambirana pa zolaula
Nthawi zambiri timamva za momwe chikhalidwe chathu chikupitira "kuonedwa ngati zolaula" chifukwa cha ogwiritsa ntchito intaneti omwe ali ndi chidwi masiku ano komanso ogulitsa awo. Komabe omwe akusiya zolaula akuyambanso kusintha chikhalidwe chathu. Monga asilikali omwe akubwerera kuchokera kunkhondo, amapereka chidziwitso chokhudza mtima komanso chokhudza kwambiri pa zenizeni za moyo ndi, komanso popanda, zolaula zothamanga kwambiri.
Monga osunga mawebusayiti a www.yourbrainonporn.com, timawona mawebusayiti ambiri komwe amuna (makamaka) amalankhulana momasuka za zomwe adakumana nazo ndi zolaula - komanso zina. Mwachitsanzo, pali ofufuza oposa 35,000 pa Reddit.com yokha, ambiri mwa iwo ndi achinyamata mokwanira kuti azitha kuona zolaula zofulumira kwambiri masiku ano.
Chikhalidwe cha zolaula pambuyo pakadali pano pakadali pano - chifukwa ambiri mwa omwe akukhudzidwa amasankha kuti asadziwike - koma nazi chithunzithunzi cha zomwe zidzachitike anyamatawa atayamba kugwira ntchito zamtsogolo:
Nkhani zonsezi ndizolembedwa kuchokera kwa anyamata osiyana:
"Zimangowonekera kuti zolaula zimakukhudzani mukayamba kuchira ndikupeza kuti ndinu munthu waluso komanso wodalirika kuposa momwe mumaganizira."
"Ndizopusa kuti tidachoka bwanji kukhala gulu la oyera mtima, kupita pagulu lachiwerewere lomwe lingaliro lawo ndi lakuti," Ngati likumva kukoma, chitani. " Balansi ili kuti ??? Ndikuganiza m'zaka 10-20 zikhala chidziwitso chambiri kuti kukokota kwambiri, makamaka zolaula kumawononga thanzi la munthu. Zachidziwikire, zolaula zakhalako kwanthawi yayitali… koma mpaka zaka zapitazi za 10-15 takhala tikudziwonera zolaula zambiri. Simuyenera kuchita kupita kukagula "sitolo yamabuku" kuti mukonze. Simuyenera kulipira, ndipo mutha kukhala m'maso mwanu nthawi yomweyo. Sizachilendo kutero. ”
“(Wazaka 17 mpaka 13) Ponena za anthu amene angakuuzeni kuti muyenera kudziseweretsa maliseche kuti mudziwe kuti ndinu munthu wotani, musawalole kuti asokoneze zimene mumasankha. Ngati munapangapo kamodzi, tsopano mukudziwa momwe zimagwirira ntchito, ndipo kupanga nthawi zambiri sikungakuphunzitseni china chilichonse. "
"Zinali zovuta, koma [kubwezeretsanso] kunandithandiza kusintha moyo wanga, mpaka pomwe sindimazindikira ngakhale kutayika, mantha amkati momwe ndinkakhalira."
"Dziko liyenera kumvetsetsa kuti ngati utenga munthu wathanzi, ndikumulola kuti aziwonera zolaula zapaintaneti tsiku lililonse kwa zaka 10, pali mwayi woti simudzakhalanso ndi mnyamata wathanzi labwino. Zosavuta motero. ”
Izi zakhala vuto kwa ambiri a ife kwa nthawi yayitali . Muzikwiya. Muzikwiya kwambiri. Chizolowezichi chikutilanda nthawi yathu , zinthu zosowa komanso zamtengo wapatali kwambiri, komanso mphamvu zathu , zomwe timagwiritsa ntchito kuti tigwiritse ntchito bwino nthawiyo. Uwu ndi moyo wathu, ndipo ukuwonongeka pa zinthu zopanda pake monga kusuta fodya. Kwa munthu amene palibe. Palibe phindu kwa PMO. Palibe chilichonse.
Kodi mungakwiye ngati wina angakubanireni akaunti yanu ya banki? Izi ndi zachilendo. Si ndalama zanu zomwe zikubedwa, ndi nthawi yanu , ndipo ndi mphamvu zanu . Mutha kubweza ndalama, zomwe simungathe kubweza ndi nthawi . Mphamvu zimatha kubwerera, koma zimakhala zovuta kuzibweza. Zonse zomwe mukuchita mukamachita zinthu zogonana ndi kudzipha. Kodi sizikukukwiyitsani? Zimandikwiyitsa kwambiri.
Nthawi ina mukakhala ndi Dick wanu m'manja, psa mtima. Wokwiya kuti mukuziyendetsa ngati anyani amtundu wina, pomwe pali wina padziko lapansi amene akupezerapo mwayi pa kusowa kwanu zochita zenizeni. Okwiya kuti izi zilipo. Wokwiyitsa kuti uyenera kuyambira pansi. Wokwiya kuti simudzapezanso mwayi wina wopeza zodzichitira mwayi womwe mukanakhala nawo. Wokwiya kuti simudzapeza mphindi zamtengo wapatali zomwe zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito kuchita zinthu zambiri zomwe munthu angachite padziko lapansi pano zomwe ndizofunika kwambiri kuposa kugwedeza nyama yanu.
“Agogo anga aamuna azaka 86 ndi okhwima, koma owona mtima komanso anzeru. Nthawi ina, adandiwona ndikuwonera zolaula ndipo anandiuza, "Izi sizikugonana ndi mkazi. Izi ndizopusa. Mukayang'ana izi, mupanga dzanja lanu kukhala la___ndinu mopusa wanu kukhala wopusa. ” Ndinatero. ”
"Maganizo anga asintha. Sindinkaganiza kuti zolaula zingandibweretsere vuto koma zinandichitikira ndipo kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kunatsimikizira izi. ”
"Zithunzi zadetsa chitsime cha malingaliro a anthu."
"Anthu amawoneka kuti nthawi zambiri amalingalira kuti zolaula zamtundu wamtundu wakhungu ndi biology yachilengedwe, koma ndikuganiza kuti amalephera kuzindikira kuti palibe chachilengedwe kuti pulogalamu yanu yopangira zisankho ikukhudzidwe ndi zolaula ndi ma TV kwazaka zambiri. Pamlingo wanzeru zimatsikira pakuvomereza kuzindikira kwathu koyenera komanso malingaliro athu akhalidwe labwino monganso 'zachilengedwe', osati ngati chinthu chosiyana ndi zilakolako zathu komanso dziko lotizungulira.
"Kwa iwo omwe ali ndi vuto la zolaula: Khulupirirani zomwe mungathe kuwona popanda kusokonezedwa ndi munthu wina. Tiyenera kunyalanyaza mamapu abodza omwe tapatsidwa m'gawo lathu, m'malo mwake tijambulireni mapu athu. ”
"Ndikudabwa kuti ndi anthu angati omwe amaonera zolaula tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo samaganiza za izi, amakwiya nthawi zonse chifukwa chokhala osagwirizana ndi ena. Ndikulumbira kuti ndimawawona anthuwa nthawi zina; maso akuthwa, osadziwa choti achite ndi manja awo kapena kuti aimirire. Mliri wa anthu amene ali ndi zopinga m'maganizo. ”
"Zithunzi zimakuwonongerani zomwe mukufuna kuti muchotsemo: kudzidalira."
"Zolaula ndizopanda mthunzi m'phanga, ndipo ndatopa nazo. Kwa aliyense amene akuganiza zogwiritsa ntchito: Palibe phindu. ”
“Anyamata adzakhala anyamata” sakugwiranso ntchito kwenikweni. Makolo akuyenera kumvetsetsa kuti "Anyamata sadzakhala achikhalidwe, azidzida, sadzakhala ndi mdzukulu wanga."
"Sindingabwererenso ku chizolowezi changa chakale, chifukwa tsopano ndikudziwa chowonadi chowopsa: Mutha kubisa mwachangu chikwatu chanu m'makalata azolowera m'mafoda obisika ngati mafayilo osadziwika; mutha kubisala mwachinsinsi; koma mukamapita ndi kukacheza ndi anzanu zizolowezi zanu zimawoneka. TL; DR: Mukachotsa pa matrix, mutha kuwona nambala yake. ”
"Moyo wabwino wonse wakhala ukutayidwa kwambiri." - Zan Perrion
Ingoganizirani ngati tonse tikanabadwira muulamuliro wa Roma, zolaula zinali zosefera komanso zoumba mbiya. Tonsefe timakhala ndi matabwa olimba ndipo sitingavutike.
Chifukwa chake ndimangogunda chaka changa chimodzi. Ndidachita maliseche pa Okutobala 22, 2012. Ndidadzilonjeza ndekha kuti ndimangotulutsa zolaula pamaso pa mkazi wanga, ndipo ndakwaniritsa lonjezolo. Ndinkafuna kupereka uphungu kwa anyamata ena okwatirana kumeneko. Zinthu zambiri m'moyo wanga zasintha mchaka chatha, koma pakadali pano ndikulankhula zakugonana. Ndili ndi zaka 48, ndipo takhala m'banja zaka 20. Malangizo anga: Lekani kuwonera anthu ena akuchita zachiwerewere. Ndizomvetsa chisoni, ndipo sizomwe inu, amuna, mudapangidwira kuti muchite. Pitani kuchipinda chanu, kwa mkazi wanu yemwe sanamuthandize bwino, kuti mukachite zogonana.
"[Kwa mnyamata wachichepere] Iyi ndiye zenera lanu laling'ono panthawi yomwe akazi ambiri samakonda kwambiri ubale wokhazikika, wolimbikitsa. Ali kukafufuza. Ndipo iwe ukhala pansi pakhomo pakhanda, ukukankhira njoka yako mpaka kulephera mpaka kuyiponya? ”
Ndikufuna kubwerera nthawi ndikudzimenya ndekha ndikuganiza kuti kugonana kwanga sikungatheke kuonera zolaula.
Sindinakhalepo ndi vuto ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ndipo ndayesa chilichonse chomwe ndingathe kupeza (kupatula heroin ... ngakhale ndikufunitsitsa kudziwa). Mankhwalawa amatha kukhala oipa kwambiri kuposa onsewa. Sikuti amapezeka kulikonse kokha, ndi AULERE. Masabata awiri apitawa akhala oipa kwambiri, pomwe ndimakhala pamalo omwewo pa sofa kwa maola 14 patsiku, tsiku lililonse, kusewera masewera, kuonera TV komanso nthawi zina kuchita zinthu mopupuluma. Ndimayenera kudzikakamiza kuti ndichite masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena kukumana ndi anzanga kuti ndikhale ndi thanzi labwino. Sindinatenge buku kapena kuwerenga tsamba limodzi m'masabata angapo. Chifukwa chake inu achigololo ndinu odabwitsa
“Mukakhala ndi moyo wabwino pagulu komanso panokha, mumazindikira momwe simukufunira kubwerera momwe zinthu zinalili. Mukamayamikiridwa, kapena kumwetulira kwa msungwana yemwe mumadutsa m'njira, ndimatsenga. Mumakula kwambiri moti simungabwererenso kumpando wa makompyutawo. ”
"Palibe chidwi chachuma pakuchita kafukufuku wosiya zolaula. Palibe chogulitsa ndipo palibe ntchito yofunikira kuperekedwa. Anthu wamba sakudziwa za nkhaniyi yomwe akufuna kuyisunga (cholinga chake ndi pun) ndipo sangathe kuzindikira mopitilira momwe amadziwira zamakhalidwe. Izi zikutanthauza kuti sizokayikitsa kuti padzakhala kafukufuku wokhudza nkhaniyi posachedwa, ndipo omwe akufuna "umboni wasayansi" asanasiye kusuta akuyesa kubetcherana kosavuta. "
Zovuta - ngati simungayike "zolaula" piritsi, mutha kupanga madola mabiliyoni ambiri.
“Aliyense. Mtsikana. Ndidakhala nawo adawomberedwa ndi ine. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa zikuwoneka ngati mukuyenera kutero. Chifukwa chiyani amandilola? Chifukwa zikuwoneka ngati ndikuyenera kuchita. Ndapatsa anal anal atsikana mosamalitsa chifukwa cha zamasewera, ngakhale sizinali zosangalatsa kwa TONTHE TONSE. Kwa ambiri a ife, zolaula zidapangitsa kuti zogonana ndizokhudzana ndi zamasewera kuposa momwe zidachitikira, pomwe zikuyenera kukhala njira ina. ”
“Sindimadzilingaliranso ngati makina omwe akuyenera 'kuthandizidwa' kuti ndikhale wopindulitsa m'moyo wanga wonse, koma ngati chinthu chamoyo chopuma, chodzala ndi mahomoni omwe angagwiritsidwe ntchito ngati galimoto yosamalira mwachidwi za amene ali pafupi nane. ”
“Tiyenera kuyamba kampeni yophunzitsa anthu za izi. Kwambiri. Kukhumudwa kwanga ndi nkhawa zomwe ndakhala nazo kwazaka zopitilira 7 zatha sabata yatha. Ndikumva ngati munthu wosiyana kotheratu. Ndine wotsimikiza, wokonda kucheza, kukumbukira kwanga ndi kusinkhasinkha kwabwerera, ndimatha kuyankhula ndi atsikana ndipo sindipereka zoyipa. NDIKUFUNA KUFUTSA IZI KUCHOKERA KWA F ** KING padenga!
Sukulu zikuyenera kukhala ndi makalasi ophunzitsira zakugonana pazowopsa zowonera zolaula komanso zaukadaulo. Ndipo tikuwafuna tsopano, wina aliyense asanadutse ku gehena kumene ndathawa kumene. ”
“Ndikamaonera zolaula, ndimakhala munthu wopanda pake. Sindinapereke ziganizo ziwiri za izi: Ntchito, Banja, Ngongole, Maganizo a Akazi, Chiyembekezo cholera ana (zimangowoneka zopusa kwa ine - chifukwa chiyani munthu angakhale ndi ana?). Kuopsa kwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, Kuvota & ndale, Anthu am'deralo, Kukonda dziko. Ndikutanthauza, ndikanatha kulemba zolemba za Reddit zazitali chifukwa chake china chake chinali cholondola kapena cholakwika, ndikupanga nzeru zopanda malire. Koma zikafika pakugwira ntchito, ndinali wakufa. Ngati anyamata ena ali ofanana ndi ine, ndiye kuti, monga chitukuko, tili pamavuto akulu. Pali nthano yonena kuti Ufumu wa Roma udagwa chifukwa chakuchenjera kwa poyizoni wazitsulo - zotsatira zoyipa zaukadaulo wawo watsopano wazipangizo zamakono. Kaya izi ndi zoona kapena ayi sizothandiza pamfundoyi. Chofunika kwambiri ndi kufanana kwa oyang'anira makompyuta amakono, omwe alowa m'nyumba iliyonse ndi chipinda chilichonse, ndikuponyera intaneti muubongo. ”
"Mtsogolomu tiwona zolaula monga timachitira ndudu - soo yochepa (1 miniti). Soo nyengo yayitali (zaka 80, kapena chilichonse chomwe mukuyembekezera m'moyo wanu). Chifukwa chake, khalani oyamba kulandira. Chitani kanthu pakadali pano zomwe aliyense achite mwina zaka 80. ”
"Ndizosangalatsa kuti osadzuka 11:00, pamene banja langa likugona, ndikusaka mosalekeza."
"(Sabata yatha) Ndikuyang'ana padziko lapansi ngakhale zolaula zochepa kwambiri. Ndipo ndikuuzeni, kuyankhula ndi munthu amene nkhope yake ili ndi maliseche ndi zosokoneza kwenikweni. ”
"Zithunzi zolaula zimabweretsa 'kotala pounder ndi tchizi' zotsatira. Ipezeka mosavuta. Chapangidwa kuti chiwoneke bwino ndipo timachilakalaka, koma tikakhala nacho sitimadzimva kuti 'takhuta' ndikukhala achisoni… mpaka nthawi ina tidzamvanso njala. "
“Ndikanapanda kukhala ndi intaneti, bwenzi sindikulakalakanso zolaula.”
Ndili ku Bangkok pakadali pano, koma kwa masiku ochepa. Mungaganize kuti ndili mumzinda wotengeka chonchi, m'malo mokhala, namwali wachikulire ine ndikanakhala ndikufunafuna chinthu chenicheni. Ndiyenera kuti ndalandira zopereka 10 kumangoyenda mumsewu, ngakhale m'boma lofiira. Ndipo inde, ndidadutsanso Soi Cowboy, koma chifukwa chongofuna kudziwa zambiri komanso kuyendayenda osati pazifukwa zina.
Izi ndikutsimikizira kuti cholinga changa sichogonana. Akanakhala, ndikanakhaladi nazo. Koma sindimakonda maubwenzi apamtima. Sindimakonda chilichonse chabodza.
Pali nkhani ina ku South Asia yokhudza kusonyeza nkhope zosiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana kutengera maudindo awo. Atsikana omwe ali m'bala amaonetsa nkhope ya mkazi wosamala komanso wachikondi, koma ndikudziwa kuti zimenezo ndi zachiwonetsero chabe. Ndalama zikatha, sakukondanso, osati kuti poyamba ankakukondani . Izi ndi zomwe ndimaona nthawi ndi nthawi m'madera awa - anyamata akumadzulo akugwa mumsampha ndikudana ndi chikhalidwe ngakhale kuti ndi iwo omwe adadzibweretsera mavuto poyamba.
NoFap imandiphunzitsa kuti ndisapitirire. Sindikufuna icing pa keke. Sindikufunafuna keke chifukwa tikudziwa kuti limenelo ndi bodza. Ndimadzizungulira ndi anthu enieni. Nthawi yomwe wina ayamba kunama kapena kusakhala wowongoka, adulidwa.
NoFap imakupangitsani kukhala munthu weniweni wokhala ndi umunthu. Malonda a zolaula ndi kugonana samakupangitsani kukhala munthu koma nyama yomwe yaphunzitsidwa kuyankha mawu akuti "fuck". Titha kuchita bwino kwambiri.
"Zonsezi ndizokhudza dongosolo la mahomoni (dys). Pambuyo pa masabata atatu osawona zolaula / maliseche mumamva bwino. Pambuyo poyambiranso, dziko lapansi limawonongeka. Ndizosangalatsa kuwona momwe mtima wanu umachokera - HELL YEAH IM GONNA ROCK ”kupita ku" Pepani mpweya wopuma; Ndine wotayika kwambiri. ”
"Chizolowezi changa cha zolaula cha zaka 13 chinali ngati kupuma, mwambo watsiku ndi tsiku womwe sindinaphonyepo, kudwala kapena kuvulala, mvula kapena kuwala. Ndikadaswa manja anga onse ndikakulungidwa ndi thupi lonse nditha kupeza njira. Ngati ndingayambenso kuyambiranso, ndidzatchulanso dzina la mseu ndekha ndikudziwitsa tchuthi changa mdziko muno. ”
"Kuledzera: kulephera kupeza, zomwe ukufuna m'moyo chifukwa chakuti uli ndi dzanzi m'njira zina."
"Kuseweretsa maliseche pang'onopang'ono kuli bwino bola ngati zolaula za pa intaneti sizikupezeka . Nkhani zokhudza kuseweretsa maliseche nthawi zonse zimaphonya mfundo yofunika kwambiri."
Ndinadabwa ndi mawu awa pamene ndinali kuwerenga buku lakuti "40 ways to view Churchill" lolembedwa ndi Gretchin Rubin, buku lomwe sindikanatha kuliwerenga ndisanawerenge: "Chifukwa chomwe ndimalemba zambiri ndichakuti sindimawononga tanthauzo langa mchipinda chogona" Winston Churchill akunena za kusunga umuna.
"O, masiku abwino akale, mukawona siketi ya atsikana pamakwerero mukanakupatsani mafuta osapitirira mwezi umodzi."
"Zikomo zolaula ... unali mchimwene wanga wachinyengo yemwe sindinakhalepo naye!"
“Ndili ndi zaka makumi awiri ndipo ndikudwala matenda a ED omwe akuwoneka ngati opusa kwatsopano. Ndakhala ndi mwayi katatu wotaya unamwali wanga ndi akazi enieni ndi amwazi ndipo ndakhala ndikulephera nthawi zonse (monga, azimayi awa anali pabedi langa ndipo anali okonzeka kupita, kuvala, koma sindinathe. Ndakhala ndi mwayi wina, ndipo ngakhale atsikana ena akugona pakama panga, koma sindinasunthe chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti sindingathe kutero… ngakhale ndili pakati pa 21 ndi 18 wazaka). Nthawi iliyonse ndimachita manyazi modabwitsa, kukhumudwitsa komanso kuwononga thupi. Ndine wokonda kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma sindingagone ndi akazi awa. Ngati ndingasankhe liwu limodzi lofotokozera momwe zimakhalira ndikamayesa kugonana nawo, ndimagwiritsa ntchito liwu loti 'mlendo.' Zinkawoneka ngati zachilendo komanso zachilendo kwa ine. Zili ngati kuti ndakhala wokonzeka kukhala kutsogolo kwa chinsalu ndikuchigwedeza ndikumwalira zaka zonsezi kuti malingaliro anga aziganiza kuti ndizogonana wamba m'malo mochita zogonana zenizeni. Ndimatha kuonera zolaula, palibe vuto, koma osati pamoyo wanga ndingakhale wovuta kwa mkazi weniweni. "
"Pali milandu yambiri ya ED kuposa kale, osati anyamata okalamba okha koma anyamata AZAKA ZATHU (Ndine 23). Nthawi yoyamba m'mbiri ya dziko lapansi. Ndipo anthu akuda nkhawa ndi zomwe zili bwino .. i-Phone 5 kapena Galaxy s3? Zatichitikira ndi chiyani? Ndikudziwa abambo anga ndi agogo anga sanali izi. Adalimbikitsidwa kutengeka ndi zomwe amafuna pamoyo wawo. ”
"[Zaka 22] Kodi anthu amachita chiyani akapeza chinthu chomwe amasangalala nacho? Amangofuna kuchita mobwerezabwereza. Ndicho chomwe chimasokoneza bongo. Sindinadziwe bwino ndili wachinyamata. Koma tsopano ndikutero! Nanga bwanji zodzikanira ndi zonena zamatsenga: Hei, tangoganizirani chiyani? Izi zisokoneza kwambiri moyo wanu. Upita patali kwambiri ndipo utha kuyamba nkhani zogonana. ”
"Ndikadzachira 100%, ndiyang'anira zanga zogonana monga Fort Knox."
“Kunja kuli zidziwitso zazing'ono zomwe zimawonetsa kuseweretsa maliseche moyenera - chifukwa cha chikhalidwe cha o-ufulu womwe wakhala ukukula. Zambiri mwazomwezi ndi zomwe zingalimbikitse owerenga kulera ana popanda jenda, kuwalimbikitsa kuti azigonana mwachangu komanso pafupipafupi komanso ndi aliyense, kukhutiritsa zokhumba zawo zilizonse zachilendo, ndi zina zambiri. izi, aliyense ayenera kumvetsetsa kudziletsa ndikofunikira m'mbali zonse za moyo. Ndimadana ndi chikhalidwe chimenechi chomwe chimalimbikitsa anthu kusadziletsa pa nkhani zogonana. ”
“Ndizodabwitsa kwambiri kuganizira momwe moyo wanga udaliri mwezi watha. PMO anali gawo la moyo wanga kotero kuti ndikukumbukira kuti zili ngati kuti unali ndi bwenzi lakale lowopsa lomwe pamapeto pake likhala kunja kwa moyo wako. "
"Ndazindikira pakumapumula kwanga kuti atsikana omwe ndikanawaika ngati anayi olimba m'masiku anga azolaula akhala asanu ndi mmodzi komanso asanu ndi awiri. M'malo mwake, onse ndi okongola. ”
"Ndidali wotsimikiza kuti ndiyenera nthawi zonse kumasulidwa ndikamagonana momwe ndingathere; kuti "sizabwino" kuti usakhale nawo; ndipo ndiwe wotayika ngati sukupeza. Awo ndi mauthenga omwe chikhalidwe chotchuka chimatumiza mwatsoka. Zomwe zimandikwiyitsa ndikuti sindimadziwa kuti zolaula pa intaneti ndizovuta. ”
Ndinkangoganiza kuti ndilibe chiyembekezo, koma kwenikweni ndinali munthu wokonda mankhwala osokoneza bongo. ”
“Ndidagona ndi bwenzi langa ndikupsompsona pang'onopang'ono komanso modekha komanso kwa nthawi yayitali. Zinali zosangalatsa. Ndi wokongola bwanji! Izi ndi zenizeni, izi ndi zomwe timafunikira. Zolaula ndizopusa, ndizoseketsa! Zolaula zimayamwa; tinkaganiza chiyani padziko lapansi? Zolaula zimangotengera kugonana amuna, osakuvomereza. Pamapeto pake ndichifukwa chake ndinasiya. ”
"Ndizosangalatsa kuti zisangalalo zakale zimakonda kubwerera, munthu akangotsika sitima."
"Ndikukhulupirira ndi mtima wonse zolaula zamasiku ano popeza kupita patsogolo kwa kujambula ndi kujambula / kujambula vidiyo kalekale chakumapeto kwa zaka za m'ma 1960 kwawononga malingaliro abwino pankhani zogonana komanso maubwenzi kuphatikiza bwenzi / bwenzi komanso ukwati.
Kusavuta kwapaintaneti kuyambira pafupifupi zaka za m'ma 90 pomwe adayamba kutchuka kwapangitsa kuti anthu azigwiritsa ntchito kwambiri. Zithunzi zolaula ndi vuto lomwe lingakhalepo pamavuto azikhalidwe, koma palibe chomwe tingachite kuti tiletse izi malinga ndi lamulo (mwachitsanzo, mantha achinyengo omwe amachotsa ufulu wakusankha kulimbikitsa kulimbikitsa chikhalidwe cha anthu).
Kuchotsa mwaufulu kokha ndikudziletsa ndi cholinga chowonjezeka chowoneka bwino kungayambitse kukhala ndi moyo wogonana womwe umapangitsa banja kukhala lathunthu, lomwe ndi chisangalalo chachikulu (chisangalalo) chogwirizana kwathunthu mu umunthu komanso zogonana. ”
Makampani opanga zolaula agonjetsa malingaliro a ana. Ndikutha kulingalira zaka 10 kuchokera pano adzapatsa ana buku laukadaulo la nyenyezi zolaula m'malo otentha.
"Nthawi zinali zosiyana m'ma 90. Tinali kuzungulirabe ndi matepi a VHS, tikunyinyirika ndi khungu lotukuka, ndikupita kusukulu pama brachiosaurus. Ndikuganiza kuti zaka 10 kuchokera pano mbadwo wonse ukhoza kudzuka momwe walimbikitsira ubongo wawo. ”
“Kungomwetulira kumathandiza kuti anthu amene akufuna kulankhula nanu azimasuka nanu. Ndizodabwitsa kuti anthu amadalira kwambiri kukhala ocheza nawo. Ili ngati mankhwala abwino kwambiri komanso aulere kwa aliyense. Kuonera zolaula / kuseweretsa maliseche pa intaneti kumandipangitsa kuti ndisamakhale ndi anzanga. ”
“[Amuna zikwizikwi akusiya] ndi chizindikiro chabwino. Ndikuwona ngati kusintha kwa kugonana kwaumunthu, kapena kuti ndibwerere kuzolowera. Ndikuganiza kuti anthu amanyansidwa ndi zolaula za pa intaneti ngati vuto lenileni, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zowopsa kwambiri. ”
“Ndikudabwa, ndi angati omwe adasokoneza bongo a PMO analipo, asanasinthe? Pamaso pa magazini oyamba? Kuchuluka kwa matenda amtima musanasinthe chakudya? Kuchuluka kwa kukhumudwa musanachotse kukhudza pafupipafupi, 100% mpweya wachilengedwe ndi dzuwa? Ndi khansa zingati zam'mapapo ndudu zisanafike? CHOFUNIKA ndikuzindikira, dziko lapansi likusintha mwachangu kwambiri. M'zaka 100 zapitazi tidasintha kwambiri kuposa zaka 1000+ zapitazi. Nachi chiwembu:
1) Zokondweretsa, koma zoipa nthawi yayitali, khalidwe limayambitsidwa ndi ndalama
2) Anthu amafika pozungulira
3) Zowona, kufufuza kwasayansi komwe kumathandizidwa kumatenga kumatenga zaka zambiri kulowa
4) Anthu owopsa amayamba kuphunzira
5) Amayamba khalidwe-kuthetsa.
Vuto ndilakuti kuzungulira konseku kumabweretsa mavuto. Ndudu zinayambitsidwa (kwambiri) kumayambiriro kwa zaka za m'ma 1900 ndipo zinatenga zaka makumi ambiri kuti zilamulire. Tsopano tikudziwa kuti mitundu ina ya zakudya ndi yoopsa. Komabe, ndi chakudya tidakali mu gawo lachiwiri mpaka lachitatu. Mukuganiza kuti tili kuti ndi zolaula? Kafukufuku wothandiza wasayansi sanakwanitse zaka zingapo.
“Kusiya PMO ndikovuta kwambiri kwa ine kuposa mowa, chikonga, tiyi kapena khofi, zilizonse! Ndikudziwa kuti sizolimbikitsa, koma ndibwino kudziwa zolembazo, sichoncho? Kungodziwitsa okayikirawo: Ili ndi vuto lalikulu! ”
"Mibadwo ingapo yapitayo tonse titha kukhala ngati ma Vikings 'n ** s, ndikuphwanya mitu ya ma dudes ena ndi nkhwangwa. Tsopano anyamata ambiri samatha kulowa mgulumo ndikuti 'hi' kwa mtsikana. China chake chalakwika kwambiri. ”
“Abambo a bwenzi langa lapamtima anali munthu woyandikana naye yemwe amagawa zolaula zisanachitike. Ndinali ndi zaka zisanu ndi zinayi pomwe ndinawonetsedwa kanema yanga yoyamba zolaula. Kuphatikiza mnzanga ndipo tinkatha kupeza stash. Zinali zofanana ndi kukhala ndi zolaula pa intaneti tsiku lomwelo popanda kholo lokuletsani. Zaka 30 pambuyo pake, sindikuganiza kuti ndi chinthu chabwino kukhala ndi mwayi wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula nthawi imeneyo kapena pano. Mwina zikuipiraipira tsopano chifukwa ngati muli ndi ana ndizovuta kwambiri kuwabisalira. Mutha kuchita zomwe mungathe kunyumba kwanu, koma sizisiya chilichonse. ”
"Izi ndizomwe ndimamva patangotha masiku 28 okha: Mkazi wanga sachita mbali zambiri. Momwemonso akazi onse okondeka omwe ndimawawona, omwe ndimacheza nawo tsiku lililonse. Zithunzi zolaula sizinandipangitse kuti ndikhale wonyoza Neanderthal, koma zidandichititsa kuti ndisamakhale bwino ndi anthu. ”
"Ndikuganiza kuti amuna onse am'badwo wathu amafunika kuwona momwe zolaula zimakhudzira ubongo wanu. Kuti mupeze malingaliro amenewo kwakhala kovuta. Ndikumva bwino pamutu panga komanso kukonda kwambiri SO yanga. Sindikuwona chifukwa choyimira masiku 90. Sindinganene kuti ndamva kuti "zopambana" zomwe zafotokozedwa munkhani zina zongowonjezera chidwi, kukonda kwambiri SO yanga komanso chisangalalo chonse. Izi zokha ndikwanira kuti ndilimbikitse moyo wopanda zolaula kapena zochepa. "
"Mukudziwa Kuti Mukuonera Zolaula Zambiri Pamene... .Mumatopa ndi zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mpaka kuyamba kuonera zolaula za anthu osintha kugonana kenako n’kuonera zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, chifukwa ndi chinthu chatsopano"
"Chitsanzo chachikulu kwambiri chokhudzana ndi zolaula ndi zolaula. Ndi chiwerewere, chimodzi mwazinthu zodziwika bwino kwambiri pamoyo wathu, zomwe zimachepetsa kwambiri kukhala chidziwitso chopanda nzeru zilizonse. Simukugonana ndi mnzanu kapena nyenyezi zolaula, ndipo simukugonana ndi inu nokha; mukuyesa kuyerekezera kwamakhalidwe abwino pazakugonana, chinthu chodziwikiratu chofunidwa chomwe mumakonda kukhala nacho mpaka mutakhutitsidwa, pambuyo pake mumayimiranso mu "chosakhutiritsa" chenicheni chokhala maliseche mchipinda, ndekha. ”
“Makolo anga sanandilange ndikagwidwa, motero cholinga chawo chinali kubisalira. Chimenechi chimakhala chinthu chosangalatsa kwambiri — kuganiza kuti wina aliyense atsogola ”
"Ingoganizirani mphamvu zonse zatsopano zomwe tingathe kupanga [pamene tikupezanso]. Ngati zipitilira kukula monga momwe zakhalira ndipo sindikukayika kuti zidzatero, pang'onopang'ono tidzakhazikitsa gulu lalikulu la amuna odziletsa komanso olimba mtima. ”
“Zinthu zabwino kwambiri m'moyo sizingatheke; kuchira kumatenga nthawi. ”
"Kukula kwanga sikokwanira kwenikweni / sikokwanira ndipo ndimakhala wamanyazi nthawi zonse mukamasewera masewera olimbitsa thupi. Ndikadali wamng'ono zimandivuta mpaka kukafuna kupita kusukulu masiku olimbitsira thupi. Tsopano ndimasewera ndi anzanga ndikusamba pambuyo pake, ndipo ndimavomereza kwathunthu. Maganizo anga achoka pa "Adzaseka ndi d ** k yanga yaying'ono" kupita "Kukula kwa mbolo sikulepheretsa moyo wabwino" kupita ku "F-it, Osayang'ana chiwerewere chopanda chikondi ndi ziphuphu zazikuluzikulu, Ndikukhulupirira, ndizopindulitsa kuvomereza matupi athu. ”
"Pakhoza kukhala anthu ena abwinobwino, athanzi omwe amalephera / kuwonongeka ndi zolaula, omwe zolaula zimayimira 'chizolowezi,' chomwe chimayambitsa mavuto awo osiyanasiyana. Kwa ambiri ngati si ambiri aife, komabe, ndikuganiza kuti ndi gawo la chithunzi chokulirapo cha m'badwo wathu. Tili ndi, ambiri a ife, ololedwa kutambasula unyamata wathu, kufikira zaka makumi awiri (kapena ngakhale makumi atatu!) Mwa kuloleza kwachikhalidwe chamakono ndi kulera, komanso kupezeka kwa zosokoneza zosiyanasiyana zoperekedwa ndi ukadaulo wathu. Timakhala odekha komanso osachita chilichonse chifukwa sitiyenera kumenyera ufulu wosangalala ndi moyo. Monga kuyimitsidwa mu thanki ndikudyetsedwa kuchokera ku chubu, minofu yathu (yonse yeniyeni, yamaganizidwe ndi yamaganizidwe) imakanidwa chilimbikitso chomwe amafunikira kuti apange. Kusiya zolaula ndi gawo limodzi lofunikira kwambiri kwa anthu monga ife, koma ndi gawo limodzi lokha. Tiyenera kulingaliranso tanthauzo la kukhala ndi moyo, ndikudzifunsa ngati tikutero. Kuzindikira kotereku kumakhala kopweteka, koma ndikofunikira. ”
"Ndimagwira ntchito ndi ana oyambira, ndipo zimamveka ZONSE kusakhala ndi zithunzi zolaula zomwe ndimasewera m'maganizo mwanga pomwe ndimawaphunzitsa za mphamvu yokoka kapena chilichonse… chaka chatha cha sukulu, [chizolowezi changa cholaula tsiku lililonse] zidapangitsa zinthu kukhala zosasangalatsa kwenikweni kusukulu pomwe ' d Mukumbukira zojambula panthawi yakusungulumwa kapena nkhawa mukalasi. GROSSSSSS - chaka chino sukulu yakhala ikuyenda bwino kwambiri. Zokhudzana: kalasi yanga yayendetsedwa bwino chaka chino… mgwirizano! ”
Inemwini, ndimawona zolaula ngati zovuta - monga anthu omwe sangadye mtedza kapena tirigu. Sachita mantha kwambiri ndi mtedza ndi tirigu, koma ndi zabwino kuwapewa. Ndimaonanso zolaula chimodzimodzi. Si choyipa choyipa. Ndi china chake chomwe sindimagwirizana nacho. Ndizo zonse.
Ndikumaliza kukhala munthu amene ndakhala ndikufuna kuti ndikhale, munthu yemwe ndingamukonde. Zedi, ndikudali ndi masiku oipa, koma abwino omwe amawaposa.
Ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwazaka 20, ndipo sizinangokhala kuti ndiyatseke kenako ndikuzimitsa. Ndakhala chitonthozo changa pamene ndakhumudwitsidwa, kapena kutopetsa kapena kukhumudwa ndi china chake. Yakhala yodalirika, yangwiro nthawi yanga yomwe yakhala ikundipeza, sinandilepherepo. Nthawi iliyonse ndikapita kwa iyo, ndimapeza kena kake komwe ndimatha kubisalira - sikamandikhumudwitsa. Nthawi zina zinali zosangalatsa, zovuta zong'amba maulalo osatha, kuwononga masamba awebusayiti ndikuyesera kupeza zithunzi zawo. Ndimamva ngati ndikuthamangira patchire chakumadzulo, ndikupeza golide, ndikupha. Ndipo nthawi iliyonse ndikasungulumwa, inkapezeka. Chifukwa chake ndazindikira kuti wakhala pachibwenzi, ndipo ndizosavuta kwambiri kuposa zomwe ndakhala nazo. Ngati ubongo wanga sungathe kusiyanitsa zithunzi za pixel za azimayi ndi azimayi enieni, mwina sizingathe kusiyanitsa pakati pakumverera zina zonse - kutsitsimutsidwa, kutonthozedwa, kusangalala - zomwe zolaula zandipatsa kwa zaka zambiri ndikupeza malingaliro ochokera kwa mkazi weniweni. D'oh! Pali monga kulemera uku mumtima mwanga komwe kuli kovuta kusintha. Ndikudziwa kuti zikumveka zomvetsa chisoni. Koma ndikuganiza kuti ubongo wanga pamlingo wina umaganiza kuti ndasiyana ndi zolaula, ndipo ndizachisoni. Ndikukankha ubongo wanga m'machende kuti adziwe kukhala olimba osakhala achisoni nazo, koma ndibwino kuti muzindikire komwe kumachokera.
Ndimakhala ku Brooklyn komanso anthu osasintha. Kodi izi zingatheke bwanji? NoFap amphamvu amawombera anthu kuchoka ku matrix trance.
"Taganizirani izi - zolaula, zomwe kale zinali zabwino - thandizo m'banja - tsopano ndi bizinesi yayikulu kuposa NFL. Imaponyedwa m'nyumba zathu. Ndipo kuti mukhalebe opikisana komanso opindulitsa, zimasokoneza malire nthawi zonse. Koma tengani ulendo pamakina anthawi - tiyeni tipite 1992. Kafukufuku wamkulu 1000. Afunseni kuti 'nkhope ndi chiyani?' Ambiri mwa iwo adzatchula za kukongola. Mofulumira lero. Mnzanga waku India anali ku America pafupifupi mwezi wathunthu pomwe tidadutsa salon yomwe inkati "Facials." Adandiyang'ana, nati, "Sindikukhulupirira kuti mungachite izi apa!" Ndinamugwiritsa ntchito tanthauzo lake mwachangu ndikuseka. Ankaonera zolaula kwambiri ku India. Tanthauzo la mawu asintha kwambiri ”
"Nkhani yokhudza zolaula ndiyoti simuyenera kuchita thukuta, muyenera kungotopetsa. Zolaula zidzakupangitsa kukhala wopanda manyazi. ”
"(Zaka 24) Ndi chakudya chosowa zakudya zonenepetsa komanso zolaula nthawi zonse timadyetsa nkhawa zathu. Timaphunzitsa matupi athu kukhala ndi chakudya chofulumira, ndipo timachotsa zovuta zakugonana ndikungodina mbewa ndi mafuta. Kodi ndi liti pamene mudzayamba kuyambiranso moyo wanu ndikukhala wamphamvu m'chilengedwe? Kuti tichitepo kanthu osati zomwe zimachitika? Zonsezi zimayamba ndikulimbana mwamphamvu ndi machitidwe otakasuka. Simukhalanso okhazikika pazinthu zochepa kuposa zomwe mumayenera. Kufuna mkazi wokongola, wamoyo m'malo mochita mapikiselo, ma airbrush, chinyengo. Kuti zinthu zikuyendereni bwino m'malo mokhala moyo wokonda kulowerera. Sindinayang'ane masiku 157. Tsopano, ine sindimaganizapo nkomwe za izo. Ndili ndi masiku 85, ndidalemba chidule cha zabwino zonse zomwe ndidalandira ndikusiya zolaula. Ndabwerera lero kuti ndikudziwitseni kuti phindu limayenda mozama kwambiri kuposa zomwe mumawona m'moyo wanu. Imayenda mpaka mkati mwanu pachimuna chachimuna. Kusiya zolaula ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zobwezeretsanso zowongolera. Mukapanda kutengeka ndi kugonana, dziko latsopano limakutsegulirani. Muli ndi ufulu pamoyo wanu womwe simunakhalepo nawo kale. ”
"Mukafika pachimake ndipo zolaula zikuseweredwabe, ndi pomwe mumaziona momwe zilili."
"Kuonera zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche komwe kumapangitsa kuti thupi langa ligwirizane ndi chilakolako chogonana. Pomwe, ZABWINO ZONSE, ndizokhudza kumva ndipo sizikugwirizana ndi zithunzizi zamaganizidwe / zowoneka. Mukadzisala ndi njala yotereyi, thupi lanu limatha. Imadutsa magawo azikhalidwe zodabwitsa / zosayembekezereka. Ikadzalumikizananso ndi chikhalidwe chake, zonse ndi momwe ziyenera kukhalira… m'moyo, mdziko lapansi, m'chipinda chogona. Kusiya si mankhwala a matsenga. Sichidzathetsa mavuto anu onse. Komabe, pophatikizidwa ndi zizolowezi zingapo zathanzi, zimapereka maziko abwino kwambiri amoyo wamapangidwe anu. Palibe chomwe chimasangalatsa kuposa momwe mumamvera mukakhala kuti mukusangalala osati kungopulumuka. ”
"Timalimbikitsidwa (mosazindikira) kuti tithetse bwino ubongo wathu. Ndiyeno, palibe kuwakhutitsa. Potsirizira pake, zosangalatsa zokha zimapereka chisangalalo ndi zina zonse zomwe zimawoneka zosasangalatsa komanso zosasangalatsa. Tsiku lina, izi zidzakhala chidziwitso chodziwika, ndipo titha kuyimitsa zokambirana zilizonse zopusa za ufulu wa chiwerewere. Palibe ufulu wochita zachiwerewere ukakhala kuti ubongo suli bwino. ”
"Tikukhala mu nthawi imene kukhala mkati mwathu kumagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo a SSRI, tokha, kukhala ndi kugonana kochuluka kongopeka ndi ziwalo zanu zoyambirira ndikovomerezeka. Anthu amangotcha anthu awa "amanyazi" kapena "osadziletsa", koma ndikuganiza kuti tili ndi mliri. Izi siziyenera kukhala zachilendo . Ndipo kusiya kudziletsa kuonera zolaula kwakhala koletsedwa! Aliyense akuyamba kuvomereza kuti kudziletsa mavuto anu ndi "kusintha" kapena china chake. Ndikudziwa anthu ena omwe amaganiza kuti ndine chitsiru chifukwa chosiya, koma awa ndi anthu omwewo omwe amakhala kunyumba akusewera maola ambiri a League of Legends, akudandaula za momwe amafunikira chibwenzi, ndikuyankha ndi chibakera chodzaza ndi mankhwala oletsa kuvutika maganizo. Sindingasangalale kuona izi zikuchitika, koma ndimamva ngati pamenepo ndiye kuti zonsezi zikupita ngati sitichitapo kanthu. Ngakhale ndikufuna kuzengereza, kukhala kunyumba, ndikuchita zinthu zanga ndekha, ndidzalimbana ndi izi. Ndife omwe tili ndi mwayi wowona mawonekedwe kuchokera pamwamba pa phiri osati kuchokera ku kamera kuchokera ku ndege pazenera lopangidwa. Kapena kukonza zabodza zathu. chibwenzi cha pa intaneti. Tidzalawa, kukhudza, kununkhiza, kuona, kumva, ndi kumva moyo”
"Kwa anthu 99% omwe adakhalapo, moyo wanga ungaonedwe ngati wapamwamba komanso mwayi wosayerekezeka (ngakhale kuti ndinakulira m'nyumba ya anthu apakati ku UK). Ndili ndi mwayi waukulu koma ndi lupanga lakuthwa konsekonse. Ngati mutsatira mfundo ya Hormetism ndiye kuti mudzavomereza lingaliro lakuti chamoyo cha munthu chimayankha bwino kupsinjika ndi kusowa, komanso sichikhutira ndi chitonthozo. Kulimbitsa thupi, kusala kudya nthawi ndi nthawi komanso kusamba kozizira zonse zimadetsa thupi, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti thupi lizigwirizana bwino. Chakudya chopanda pake, moyo wongokhala pansi ndi maola 5 ndi theka a CoD patsiku zidzakufooketsani ndikukusandutsani kukhala jellyfish yopanda msana komanso yofooka. Kwa ambiri a ife, kusiya ndi nthawi yoyamba yomwe timakumana ndi kusowa. Poyamba zimakhala zosasangalatsa koma nthawi zambiri zimapangitsa kuti tigwirizane bwino."
"Lol, ndichopusa kuti ngati wina atandifunsa chomwe ndichichita kwambiri pamoyo wanga, mwina ndiyenera kuyankha moona mtima," Ndasiya chizolowezi chowonera zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche. " 🙂
“Zimakhala zosangalatsa kukhala ndi anzako azimayi tsopano komanso osangoganiza zogonana nawo nthawi zonse. Ndazindikira kuti sindimayanjananso ndi akazi monga momwe ndinkakonda ndikakhala osokoneza. Ndamva nkhani zowopsa zakuti abambo sakhalanso omasuka kukumbatira ana awo aakazi achichepere chifukwa zimawapangitsa kumva kuti ndiodetsedwa. Osati zokhazo, lingaliro lowonera ana anga aakazi ndi njira yondivutikira. Ndili wokondwa kwambiri kuti sindithana nawo. Maganizo anu onse pa zolaula amasintha mukakhala ndi mwana wamkazi. ”
"Ayenera kuwonetsa TEDx vid m'makalasi a sekondale ed / PSE. Ndikudziwa kuti ine ndi anzanga omwe timakwatirana nawo timakumana ndi zovuta zambiri kuposa matenda opatsirana pogonana
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[Wobwezeretsanso wamkazi] Ndimangowerenga nkhani ya psychology lero yomwe imalankhula za momwe zimakhalira chatsopano kuti makolo ayesere kuthetsa mavuto onse a ana awo. Izi ndizoyipa, chifukwa ana amafunika kukhala osasangalala kuti aphunzire kuthana ndi mavuto awo moyenera. Ndikuganiza kuti izi ndi zoona kwa akuluakulu. Ngati timagwiritsidwa ntchito pafupipafupi, tisiyidwa pakulimbana ndi zovuta zathu moyenera.
Kusukulu adandiphunzitsa kudulira nkhuni, kuunjikira thaulo ndikupangira mphika wadothi… Chosangalatsa ndichakuti sindikusowa maluso aliwonse munjira yanga ya tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndikadakhala bwino ndikadangokhala ndi kalasi imodzi kapena ziwiri zamanjenje pomwe ndimatha kuphunzira kukulitsa mphamvu zanga zamaubongo. Asa. Izi zikadakhala zamphamvu kwambiri ku 13.
Tsiku 4: Zolaula zili ngati American Dream.
Zomwe tidagulitsidwa ndi nyumba mdzikolo yomwe ili ndi malo ambiri ndi mpweya wabwino, wopanda dothi lonse la mzindawo. Wopanda unyinji, osungitsa pakhosi, opukutira pansi, misewu yonyansa, utsi, magalimoto, ziwawa, kusalingana. Malo omwe tingagwiritsire ntchito Mustang wakale ndikulola galu wathu ndi ana athu kuthamangira pabwalo. Kupuma pantchito komwe kungatipatse ife muukalamba bola ngati tikadakhala tikupulumutsa mokhulupirika.
M'malomwake, tili ndi nyumba zochepetsera komanso zochepa zotsika za McMansions zomwe zimayendetsa galimoto pafupi ndi kanthu. Tili ndi mapepala ochepa kwambiri moti sitingakhalepo. Tili ndi masukulu osamalipira ndalama zambiri ndi ADHD, nkhawa ndi kupsinjika maganizo. Tili ndi zakudya zowonongeka ndi zakudya zowonjezera komanso shuga wambiri komanso zochepa zolimbitsa thupi. Tili ndi ziwalo zobwezeretsedwa zomwe zimafanana ndi gawo la nyama yomwe tayiwala tikudya. Zomwe tinkachita pantchito zinkaperekanso ndalama, ndipo ife tinataya malaya athu pamene misika inkawona ma suburbia chifukwa chake, kutsanzira chinthu chenichenicho.
Chimene tayiwala chinali chakuti chilichonse choyenera kukhala ndi zotsatira za kugwira ntchito mwakhama.
Momwemonso, zolaula tidagulitsidwa kwa ife ngati maloto aku America. Zomwe tidagula inali njira yosavuta yotulutsira. Tinkafuna kukhutira ndi zolaula zinali zosavuta. Zosavuta kuposa kuyankhula ndi msungwana, mtsikana yemwe watuluka mu mgwirizano wanu (ndipo moona mtima, si onse?) Ndani angakupwetekeni mtima kapena amene angakhale ndi chibwenzi chachikulu kuposa inu. Mtsikana yemwe, pazifukwa zilizonse, amaswa mtima wanu. Mtsikana yemwe ngati ali ndi kanthu kalikonse angakupangitseni kuyembekezera kudodometsedwa kwachiwiri kapena ziwiri chifukwa akudziwa kuti ndibwino kudikirira.
M'malo mwake, timakhala osangalala nthawi yomweyo. Tidakhazikika, ndikukhazikika komanso china chake chomwe chimamveka ngati chenicheni - chinthu chomwe tinkadziwa kale kapena china chake chomwe timangolingalira. Nthawi yomweyo inali yayikulu komanso yabwinoko kuposa momwe maloto athu otopetsa angaganizire, komanso nthawi yomweyo yopanda tanthauzo komanso yosangalatsa kuposa kungolankhula m'khutu lathu, kuchokera pakamwa pa mkazi wabwino. Komabe, tidagula ndipo tidatsika. Ndipo patapita kanthawi zinthu zinayamba kuchitika. Mwadzidzidzi, sizinali zabwino kapena sizinali zokwanira. Ndipo tinagwiritsa ntchito zambiri. Tisanadziwe izi tinali kulola akazi kapena zibwenzi zathu kuti ziziyenda pabedi pafupi nafe chifukwa cha PE kapena ED kapena chifukwa timasewera kapena kuwonera TV kutisokoneza pazomwe zikuchitika. Timawalola kuiwala momwe ubale weniweni umamvekera, kenako, tinayamba kudziiwala tokha. Ntchito yathu inavutika, mabanja athu anavutika, maganizo athu anavutika. Tinayamba kuimba mlandu ena. Pomalizira pake, tinalandidwa.
Apanso, tinaiwala kuti chilichonse choyenera kukhala nacho ndi chifukwa chogwira ntchito molimbika.
Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti ena amakumbukirabe. Ndipo mumdima wakuda mkati mwathu - malo omwe nthawi zambiri timawopa kuyang'ana zomwe tingapeze - ifenso. Tikudziwa kuti kumva kutopa ndikutopa kumapeto kwa kulimbitsa thupi ndikosangalatsa kuposa mankhwala aliwonse. Tikudziwa momwe zimamvekera ngati timatsatirabe kuntchito ndikukakolola zabwino zantchito yabwino. Tikudziwa kuti kuyika ndalama m'maphunziro athu ndikofunika kwambiri kuposa galimoto iliyonse yomwe titha kuyendetsa. Tikudziwa kuti chikondi ndi kukhazikika zitha kutipangitsa kukhala olemera kuposa chuma chilichonse. Tikudziwa kuti buku labwino ndilabwino kwambiri kuposa kanema wawayilesi. Tikudziwa kuti zolaula sizidzatanthauzanso kuyang'ana ena mopepuka m'maso.
Ndipo ngakhale zolaula zomwe zimakonda pakati pathu zimadziwa kapena zosadalira chilichonse chimene mulungu angakhale kuti akadzafa adzatenga pamodzi ndi iye kukumbukira mkazi wokhutiritsa, kumugwira pamene akufuula mokondwera, osakhoza kupuma . Kugonama pambali pake. Kuthamanga zala zake kudutsa tsitsi lake.
Uyo, mzanga, ndicho chimene chikutaya chiri pafupi ndi ine.
TL, DR; Mofanana ndi zochitika za American Dream, Porn ndi otsika mtengo, kutsanzira mwatsatanetsatane chinachake chomwe chiri chenicheni ndipo chomwe chili choyenera kukhala nacho.
Ngati anthu onse sanafunikire kusewera pa Porn mpaka zaka 15 zapitazo - zowonadi, sitifunikanso.
"Ndikudziwa kuti maanja ena amaonera zolaula mosatekeseka, sizitanthauza kuti masiku ano sizowopsa - osakhala ndi zolaula zaulere, zamtsogolo, komanso zolaula. Zachidziwikire kuti anthu ena amatha kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula popanda moyo wawo kutha, anthu ena amatha kugwiritsa ntchito cocaine popanda moyo wawo kutha, koma ndikuchenjezanso aliyense za kuopsa kogwiritsa ntchito. Mibadwo yakale ya mabanja mwina kale idagwiritsa ntchito zolaula "zonunkhira" koma ndi nyama yatsopano yomwe ndi zolaula pa intaneti, maanja tsopano akugwiritsa ntchito zolaula "kukweza zinthu".
Ndi vuto lopanda nzeru ngati mukuganiza. Chifukwa chokhala ndi intaneti yothamanga kwambiri m'mbiri ya dziko lapansi, izi ndi zomwe timapeza.
Ingoganizirani za anthu onse omwe achira bwino chifukwa cha Nofap. Mukuzindikira mutu uliwonse? Ndikuti amakhala kuti nthawi zonse amakhala opindulitsa komanso abwinopo akakhala oyera. Kodi sizosangalatsa? Tangoganizirani momwe anthu athu angapindulire, talingalirani momwe chuma chathu chingakhalire cholimba, ngati 95% ya amuna samakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula motero amatha kukwaniritsa zomwe angathe.
Izi mwina ndizofunikira kwambiri pamaphunziro. Anthu nthawi zonse amati maphunziro athu owopsa ndi "kusowa ndalama" kapena "kusachita mpikisano pasukulu." Kodi mumadziwa aliyense yemwe sanachite bwino kusukulu atayamba NoFap? Ayi. Aliyense amachita bwino kusukulu akasiya kusuta. Ndiye tangolingalirani zomwe sukulu zathu zikadakhala ngati 95% ya ophunzira athu samazunguza bongo pa zolaula?
Izi ndi zomwe ambiri aife timasowa m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku: ndewu, kulimbana, chisangalalo chothana ndi moyo. Amamva njala? Tengani zopanda pake zotsika mtengo poyendetsa-thru. Otopa? Gonani m'nyumba yanu yokhala ndi mpweya pamakina anu okumbukira thovu. Wokongola? Pitani pa intaneti ndikutulutsa imodzi.
Sitinapangidwe kuti tipeze moyo uno.
"Kuona dziko lapansi kudzera m'maso okonda zolaula. Pakadali pano, m'moyo weniweni, chifukwa chakuti malingaliro anga atanganidwa kwambiri ndi kugonana, sindikuyankha ngati munthu ku kukongola kwenikweni kwa kugonana komwe ndimakumana nako nthawi zonse. Atsikana okongola enieni salinso zinthu zogonana. Zinthu zogonana zachizolowezi monga udindo waumishonale ndi mtsikana wokongola (zinthu zomwe zinkandipangitsa kugwedezeka ndikungoganizira za izo) sizinthu zomwe ndimaganiziranso. Zili ngati malingaliro okongola awa omwe Mulungu anandipatsa kuti ndiganizire za ubale wachikondi wachikondi waphedwa ndi zolaula. . .. Palibe amene akulalikira moyo wopanda zolaula, komanso momwe thanzi lanu lamaganizo logonana limadalira. Zimenezo zimandikhumudwitsa. Tsopano ndikudziwa kuti chisangalalo ndi kukhutitsidwa ndi kugonana sizidzachitika pamaso pa kompyuta. Ndikukhulupirira kuti zomwe ndakumana nazo posachedwapa komanso gulu lino zindithandiza kupeza mphamvu zokhala ndi moyo womwe ndikudziwa kuti ndikufunika kukhala nawo."
"Nthawi zina ndimakopeka ndi zolaula pa intaneti. Vuto ndi chiyani ndi zimenezo? Munganene. Aliyense amafunika kuthawa pang'ono. Maloto ndi maliseche ndi zachibadwa. Mumafunikira kumasulidwa nthawi zina."
Sindikutsutsana kwenikweni ndi malingaliro amenewo, koma sindimakhulupirira kuti kugwera mumadontho owonjezera kwa maola ambiri, kwinaku ndikuwonera zinthu zokayikitsa kuti ndichoke, ndiye mtundu wa kumasulidwa kwakanthawi Ndikufuna pamoyo wanga. ”
"Pamapeto pake, zonse zimachitika pazifukwa ndipo matendawa andimvetsa chisoni, komanso zandithandizanso kuwona ena ndi moyo! Kugonana ndichinthu choyenera kukhala nacho…. Ndipo ndinaziphunzira m'njira yovuta. "
“Izi ndi zomvetsa chisoni basi! Ndizopweteka kuganizira chifukwa anyamata sangamve zabwino zosiya zolaula kwakanthawi atasiya. Zimamveka ngati vuto lomwe silingatembenuzidwe. Ndine wazaka makumi awiri ndi mphambu zisanu, ndipo ndimadzimva kukhala wopanda chochita polingalira za izi, ndipo ndichisoni kwambiri kwa anyamata ambiri kunja kuno omwe alibe mauthenga ochokera kuchikhalidwe chomwe chimawathandiza kuti asatengere zoopsa izi. ”
Maganizo anga okhudza momwe izi ziliri zovuta ..
Monga mukuwonera ndili patsiku 10 koma kwakhala nthawi yayitali kuyambira ndili pa nofap way. Nthawi yonseyi idandipangitsa kuganizira momwe amuna amachitira zolaula.
Ndipo ndidapeza izi: Monga ambiri aife tikudziwira, cholinga chachikulu kwambiri cha munthu ndikukhala bwino kuti athe kuberekanso. Koma kubwera kwa zolaula pa intaneti kunasintha chilichonse, tsopano, aliyense amene anganyenge ndi ubongo kotero amakhulupirira kuti akubala.
Ndicho chiwopsezo chenicheni cha PMO ngati mungakhale ndi cholinga chokhala kutsogolo kwa kompyuta yanu ndikuti ngakhale mutakhala ndi moyo wofewa bwanji mukudzikonza? N'chifukwa chiyani muyenera kukhala ofunika? Chifukwa chiyani kulenga, kuyambitsa?
Zimenezi zandichititsa kuti ndizigonana pokhapokha ngati mphamvu yanga idzapambana! Bwino labwino, Titha kuwononga zolaula m'miyoyo yathu !!
ps: Chingerezi si chilankhulo changa, musadandaule kuti mundikonze
Nofap monga kusintha / kupanduka
Ndabwera kuganiza kuti zolaula (ndi kugonana kosasangalatsa) zimakhala ngati zachilendo zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi umunthu wa anthu, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti munthu asatope komanso kuti akhale ndi nkhawa.
Sindikudzudzula aliyense makamaka pazotsatira izi, koma zikuwoneka kuti ine ndikuwona kuti zolaula zimachepetsa chibadwa chaumunthu mwanjira yofunika kwambiri kuposa kuwonera kanema wawayilesi, kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Zonsezi zimapangitsa kuti anthu azikhala chete, kugwiritsanso ntchito zinthu zina, kusachita chidwi ndi andale (omwe angatanthauze kupanda ntchito kwawo, chifukwa amabera ena).
Ndikuganiza kuti kufooka kumabweretsa kutha kwa chikhalidwe cha anthu, kapena kugwidwa m'malamulo ophiphiritsa omwe amasokoneza udindo wathu komanso kudziyimira pawokha - timamva ngati tikulumikizana, koma mwina sititero.
Kubwezeretsa chikhalidwe cha chiwerewere pakati pa anthu okhudzana ndi kugonana kungakhale njira imodzi yomwe mungapandukire, kutsutsana, kukwiya, kusaganizira zomwe zimawononga moyo wathu wokongola komanso wodabwitsa.
Ndipo pamapeto pake, kuchokera kwa olemba ndemanga pagulu ndi YOUTube: "
"Maganizo omwe poyamba adapangidwa kuti azitha kuthana ndi chilakolako chogonana pang'ono kuposa kuwona mkazi wa fuko lina kudutsa m'nkhalango ya savannah amakhala opanda mphamvu akamafunsidwa nthawi zonse kuti achite nawo zochitika zogonana kuposa malingaliro aliwonse omwe amalota a Marquis de Sade. Palibe cholimba mokwanira m'malingaliro athu kuti chithandizire kupita patsogolo kwa luso lathu laukadaulo, palibe chomwe chingalepheretse chikhumbo chathu chofuna kusiya zinthu zina zonse zofunika chifukwa cha mphindi zochepa (zomwe zitha kukhala maola anayi) m'malo amdima a intaneti. Zolaula ndi zachangu komanso zamphamvu, zimawononga mphamvu zathu zochitira zinthu zogonana zenizeni za anthu komanso zotsika. [Zolaula] ndi zabwino kwa ena, koma mwanjira yomwe imawononga zinthu zomwe sizili zabwino chabe; zomwe ndizofunikira pamoyo. " —Alain de Botton
"Zolaula za masiku ano ndi dziko latsopano lolimba mtima, lokhala ndi malire okhawo malinga ngati zimatenga dopamine receptor kuti zitsike." — DL Hilton, MD
Kodi NoFap idzayamba kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri? (Kukambirana kwa Reddit)
Tsiku Lomwe Dziko Lapansi Linasiya Kuseweretsa Maliseche (kanema wowonera kanema)
Woseketsa Chris Rock wasiya zolaula (kanema wa pa wailesi)
Chiphunzitso: Dopamine ndizoledzeretsa, osati kuwalimbikitsa
Kuchokera ku malo ena
Lipoti la tsiku la 90:
Kuchokera ku YBR
Mayi wojambula zithunzi zolaula
Zambiri kuchokera ku Alain de Botton
Chidule cha munthu m'modzi:
Kuchokera ku malo ena
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/162and/the_uk_contributes_85_new_fapstronauts/
kusiya izi subreddit. Nawu uthenga wabwino kwambiri womwe ndapeza.
Ndinabwereranso ndipo chifukwa chake ndikusiya gawo ili. Nawu uthenga wabwino kwambiri womwe ndapeza.
Kulira kwachisoni
Kupeza wosuta:
Lingaliro la mnyamata
Mnyamata wina akuthandiza ena
mu ulusi wodabwitsa:
Mnyamata akulira chifukwa chosowa mwamuna kapena mkazi yekha
Mnyamata wina:
Zaka 30
Kuchokera ku malo ena
Sindikuganiza kuti anthu amadziwa zomwe zolaula pa intaneti zimachita kwenikweni kwa munthu !! Zonse zomwe amagwirizanitsa zolaula ndi ED. Zolaula Zimasandutsa Mwamuna Kukhala Mnyamata Wamantha !! Wosagwirizana ndi anzanu, Wokhumudwa, Wopanda chidwi, Sangayang'ane, Osatetezeka kwambiri, kutaya minofu, kumapangitsa mawu anu kukhala ofooka, Osakhoza kulamulira moyo wanu. Amuna akupita kwa madokotala Kukalandira mankhwala onse, ngati zonse zimafikira ku zolaula komanso zomwe zimakhudza ubongo wanu ndi thupi lanu "Ndakhala ndikuonera zolaula sabata imodzi ndikumva bwino kuposa momwe ndimamvera zaka 20 !!
Oposa 100 anyamata akunena chifukwa chake akusiya zolaula
mu chiganizo chimodzi kamodzi:
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/17578k/why_are_you_doing_this_wrap_it_up_in_one_sentence/
(Tsiku 27) M'badwo 19
Ndemanga yosangalatsa pamsonkhano wina
Ndemanga ya mnyamata mu ulusi wautoto
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1bivpl/fetishes_getting_way_out_of_control/
Zosangalatsa
Chifukwa chiyani muyenera kubwereranso lero
yatumizidwa maola 13 apitawo ndi dota2nub
Chimene NoFap chimatanthauza kwa ine tsopano ndi pamene ine ndinayamba izo.
Anyamata azaka 15 sapita kwa madokotala kukakambirana za ED. Ndiye t
Chifukwa PMO ndimasangalatsa eti? - membala wa forum
Kwa iwo omwe angoyamba kumene, Simudzatha kumvetsetsa izi pakadali pano. Sizingakhale zomveka kwa inu. Zikuwoneka ngati bodza kapena kukokomeza. Koma zomwe ndikunena ndizowona: Amayi enieni, ndi zangwiro zawo zonse, kupanda ungwiro, mabala am'maganizo ndi kukongola ndizabwino kwambiri kuposa chilichonse chomwe mungapeze kuseri kwa kompyutayo.
Zimene mukuwona pazithunzizi sizenizeni. Zomwe mukuganiza m'maganizo mwanu za amai ndi momwe amamvera, zomwe zimakhudza, sizili choncho. NGATI ZOONA ZOONA !!!
Ubongo wanu wasweka. Mwamanga linga la mabodza, ndipo lakhala ndende yanu. Mwatereredwa pano. Mumayang'ana pozungulira ndikuwona zomwe anthu ena ali nazo ndikuganiza mumtima mwanu, "uyu sangakhale ine konse." Sindidzakhala ndi mwana wotentha uja. Sindidzaikidwa konse. Ndidzakhala ndekha nthawi zonse. Ndine woipa. Ndikudwala. Ndine wopotoka maganizo. Sindingachitire mwina. Njira yodzithandizira iyi ndiyo njira yanga yokhayo.
Nthawi yonseyi mtsikana amakhala kutsidya kwachipinda kuchokera kwa inu. Msungwana yemwe - ngati mumulola - angasinthe maziko enieni a dziko lanu. Mtsikana amene angakulemekezeni, mtsikana amene angasangalale kucheza nanu, mtsikana amene angakukondeni. Koma msungwana yemwe simudzakumana naye chifukwa chachifuwa chake, kapena miyendo yonenepa. Mtsikana yemwe mosalephera adzalephera chithunzi chanu chopotoka changwiro. Pamutu panu, mtsikanayo ndi ziwalo zokha za thupi. Chiwonetsero cha nyama. Ndipo nyama siimakukondweretsani.
Yah, ndikutsutsana ndi ine zonse zomwe mumakonda zokhudza momwe mumalemekezera akazi ndi momwe mumawawonera ngati anthu. Koma, chonde ndiuzeni, ndi liti pamene munalankhula ndi msungwana wopanda pake? Ndikosavuta kukumbukira, dzina lake? Kapena kapu ya kapu yake?
Zosangalatsa ndi zosangalatsa. Kugonana n'kophweka. Orgasm ndizosangalatsa.
Kulemekeza ndi koopsa. Ntchito ndi yovuta. Kukana kumapweteka.
Chitani zomwezo. Sangalalani ndi zolaula zanu. Gwiritsani ntchito moyo wanu wonse kuti mukhale minofu. Chifukwa PMO ndi wokongola kwambiri?
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1evzig/because_pmo_is_pretty_fun_right/
Kuchokera ku malo ena
Ife zikwi zingapo takhala tikugwira ntchito ndi zida zonse za kukhala kwathu kuti tidzikonze tokha, kuchoka kutali ndi choipa, ndi kupita patsogolo kutsogolo kwatsopano.
Ndi mdima wopanda kukhumudwa, mbandakucha wopanda chifundo kapena kudzidetsa.
Ndi mdima wopanda nkhawa, kuyamba kwa kulimba mtima.
Ndi mbandakucha wopanda kufooka, kutuluka kwa mphamvu.
Ndikumayambiriro popanda kusokoneza, kuyamba kuganizira.
Ndikumayambiriro popanda kupuma, kuyambika patsogolo.
Ndi m'mawa ndi ululu. Ndipo ululu umabwera patsogolo.
Ndikumayambiriro kwa kumverera kwatsopano, mdima wopanda mapiritsi.
Ndikumayambiriro kwa nzeru zatsopano, mdima wopanda kulingalira.
Ndikumayambiriro kwa chigonjetso chatsopano, mdima wa anthu onse.
Ndi mdima wopanda mantha, wopanda mavuto.
Ndikumayambiriro popanda phokoso.
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1ao87h/standing_ovation_for_you_fapstronauts_on_behalf/
Mwanjira iliyonse yopindulitsa, zolaula zimapha moyo wa dick.
Zochenjeza zaumoyo pa zolaula
Kuchokera pamsonkhano wina - "Onse abwino agona"
Kusokonezeka kwa Zolaula
Ndemanga ya fapstronaut
Masiku 60 - Zosankha zabwino, kulumikizana kosavuta, ADD yapita
Miley ndi Kulemekezeka kwa Zithunzi Zolaula mu Chikhalidwe cha Amereka
Kugonana / kukambirana za maliseche pa forum
[Comments by founder of http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com]
Anthu ambiri amavomereza kuti kuti tigonjetse chizolowezi choonera zolaula, tiyenera kuchepetsa kwambiri nthawi zomwe timadziseweretsa maliseche.
Kenako funso lakuti “ Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani mukayambiranso? ” kapena “ Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani mukatha kale kusiya chizolowezi cha zolaula? ”. Funsoli ndi lolakwika chifukwa limatanthauza kuti mudzachira patatha masiku XX. Zikanakhala zosavuta. Tikukamba za zaka 10, 15 kapena 20 za kugonana.
Koma ngakhale funsoli litakhala lolondola, anthu amayamba kudzifunsa kuti “ Chabwino… ngati ndakhala masiku XX osadziseweretsa maliseche… ndiye kuti nditha kupitiriza motere, bwanji kudziseweretsa maliseche? Kodi ndikofunikiradi? ”, ndipo palibe cholakwika ndi lingaliro limenelo.
Munandifunsa kuti ndidziwa bwanji kuti zolaula ndi maliseche zimagwirizana pamodzi. Ndinawerenga zolemba zokwanira kuchokera kwa anyamata kuti adziwe kuti ndizowona. Ndakhala mgulu lino mokwanira. Ambiri omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano samachita maliseche ngati si zolaula. Mwinamwake inu simuli okhazikika pa lamuloli, koma sizimachotsa chifukwa chakuti popeza ma chubu ndi ma foni am'manja adatchuka, amuna adadzilola kugwiritsa ntchito zida izi ngati zoseweretsa maliseche.
Palibe chinthu chonga “ Ndidzachiritsidwa patatha masiku XX ”. Ngati tanthauzo lanu la kuchiritsidwa ndi kuchotsa ED, ndiye inde, koma posachedwa mudzazindikira kuti izi zimapita mozama kwambiri kuposa pamenepo. ED ndi gawo chabe la ayezi.
Amuna okhawo omwe amachira mokwanira ndi omwe amasintha moyo wawo wonse pankhani yogonana ndi maliseche. Amuna ngati GABE ndi WhirlwindTobias. Mwachitsanzo, omalizawa amapeza phindu podziletsa kukhutira nthawi yomweyo.
Maganizo oyenera sikuti amangokhala ndi dopamine receptors kapena sensibility. Iyenera kukhala limodzi ndi malingaliro abwino pa kugonana.
Kupewa zolaula sikungathandize ngati mukuganizabe za " Ndikufuna kuchotsa vuto langa la ED kuti ndigone ndi akazi onse omwe ndikufuna " kapena " Ndikufuna kufika tsiku la XX kuti ndizitha kuseweretsa maliseche nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndikufuna ". Koma zimenezo ndi zomwe ndinaphunzira mpaka nditapeza chibwenzi.
Munthu wokonda zolaula yemwe akupewa zolaula koma akuyang'anabe atsikana pa Facebook, akucheza pa intaneti, akuganizira za kugonana nthawi zonse, komanso akuseweretsa maliseche nthawi zonse, akuchita molakwika . Sakuchita chilichonse kuti athetse vuto lake la chizolowezi chofuna zinthu zatsopano, chilakolako, komanso kugonana.
Ndiye chifukwa chake anthu ambiri amalephera. Sachita china chilichonse kupatula kuyesa kupewa zolaula. Malingaliro awo okhudzana ndi kugonana akadali ofanana. Imakhalabe "zolaula".
Anthu akazindikira izi ndipamene amasankha kusiya kuseweretsa maliseche ndikukondweretsedwa nthawi zonse kwamuyaya. Akuyesera kuti asinthe kwambiri m'miyoyo yawo.
Ndi zomwe ine ndi ena ambiri tikufuna kuchita pakadali pano.
Si nkhani ya kukhala wansembe. Si nkhani ya kukhala wotsutsa kugonana kapena wotsutsa maliseche. Ndi nkhani ya kupeza chimwemwe mwa kusayang'ana kwambiri moyo wanu wonse pa "kugonana ndi ana ogonana" . Nkhaniyi iyenera kuthetsedwa, apo ayi simudzakhala ndi ubale wabwino komanso wokhutiritsa ndi mkazi, chifukwa palibe mkazi wosakwatiwa amene angakhutiritse chilakolako cha munthu wokonda zolaula ndi zinthu zatsopano komanso kugonana ndi atsikana ambiri.
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=12477.msg216368#msg216368
Pamaso pa Zolaula
Kalata yopita ku zojambula zolaula ndi munthu wochira
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2p0x8r/my_beautiful_letter_to_porn_and_porn_industry/
Odala ali NoFappers, chifukwa adzalandira dziko lapansi
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2qm3su/blessed_are_the_nofappers_for_they_shall_inherit/
Izi zakhala zowonjezera kusintha.
Sindikudziwa kuti ndichifukwa chiyani ndikukumana ndi chikhumbo choyaka-koma ine
Ndemanga kwa mkazi akusiya zolaula