Kafukufuku wa Kinsey / Trojan wama vibrator sanatchule funso lapamwamba la okonda
Kufufuza za kugonana ndi lingaliro labwino, koma tikuyenera kukhala owona mtima kwambiri paokha pofufuza zotsatira zake, kuti tisaiwale zizindikiro zowonjezera.
Zaka zingapo zapitazo, ndinalemba Vibrators and Other Pleasures: When 'Moderation' Fails . Inaphatikizapo malipoti a akazi omwe kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator kunapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta (kapena zosatheka) kufika pachimake panthawi yogonana komanso kugonana popanda zoseweretsa. Posachedwapa, ndayang'ana zolemba mazana ambiri za akazi pa forum komwe anthu zikwizikwi akuyesera kuchepetsa maliseche mopitirira muyeso (m'malingaliro awo) - nthawi zambiri zolaula pa intaneti koma nthawi zina amagwiritsa ntchito zothandizira zina zogonana.
Chochitika chomwecho chikuwonekera pakati pa azimayiwa. Kugonana kwenikweni, ngakhale kukhala pachibwenzi, kukutaya zochitika zowonera zolaula zapaintaneti komanso zoseweretsa zakugonana - ndipo azimayi ena sasangalala ndi njira yokhayo yomwe moyo wawo wogonana watenga:
Mkazi woyamba: "Vuto langa lalikulu linali kugwiritsa ntchito kugwedezeka kuti ndituluke ndipo kunawononga mphamvu yanga yomvera. Ndinataya vibrator yanga yonse. Mwatsoka ndinayenera kuchotsa chilichonse chomwe chinali m'nyumba chomwe chimagwedezeka chifukwa ndinkayesetsa kupeza china. Tsalani bwino Sonic-Care chida chotsukira nkhope. Kugonana kuli bwino kwambiri. Palibe kukayika. Nkhope yanga inali yakufa chifukwa cha chilichonse chomwe sichinagwiritsidwe ntchito ndi batri."
Mkazi wachiwiri: "Ndikukhulupirira kuti matsenga ouma ochokera kwa ine adzandipangitsa kukhala ndi chidwi chofuna chibwenzi. Akazi azaka 18 sayenera kukhala m'zipinda zawo ndi zolaula ndi zoseweretsa. Ndikufuna kumaliza sukulu ya sekondale ndi dzanja louma."
Mkazi wachitatu: "Ndimawerenga hentai pang'ono ndipo ndimaseweretsa maliseche pafupifupi tsiku lililonse. Ndikufunika kusiya. Ndataya chidwi ndi clitoris yanga chifukwa cha vibrator yanga."
Kusamvana kwa chidwi ndi kulepheretsa funso lofunika
Pokhala ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zambiri za kafukufukuyu, ndinatsogozedwa ku kafukufukuyu ndi Kinsey Institute: Kufalikira ndi Makhalidwe a Kugwiritsidwa Ntchito kwa Vibrator ndi Akazi ku United States: Zotsatira kuchokera ku Kafukufuku Woyimira Dziko Lonse . Pambuyo pofufuza akazi opitilira 1000, ofufuza adapeza kuti ambiri mwa ogwiritsa ntchito vibrator "sanakumane ndi zotsatirapo zilizonse chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito vibrator," ndipo "kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator ndi ntchito yotetezeka." [Chodabwitsa ndichakuti ulalo uwu ndi zina patsamba lino zidatumizidwa kapena kuchotsedwa nkhaniyi itatumizidwa. Hmmm…]
Ndinadabwa ndi zinthu ziwiri zokhudza kafukufuku wa vibrator...um...wopereka ku sayansi. Choyamba, idathandizidwa ndi Trojan yokha, kampani yomwe ili ndi gawo lonse lodzipereka kugulitsa vibrator . Nayi tsamba lawebusayiti la Trojan lomwe likunena za "Kafukufuku wa Vibrator wosayerekezeka komanso wokwanira." Mkangano waukulu wa chidwi pamenepo, anthu inu!
Chachiwiri, sizinali zonse. Sizinali zokwanira kufunsa funso lomwe okonda ambiri amalikonda: Kodi kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator kunapangitsa kuti kugonana kopanda zoseweretsa ndi wokondedwa kusakhale kosangalatsa? Ofufuzawo anavomereza, ndipo anachepetsa, kulephera kumeneku:
Chifukwa cha chikhulupiliro cha mbiri yakale kuti kugwiritsira ntchito mogwiritsa ntchito mozunguza kumapangitsa akazi kukhala ndi njira zenizeni zogonana (mwachitsanzo, kukumana mosavuta ndi chizunguliro komanso osagwirizana naye), kafukufuku wamtsogolo ayenera kulingalira momwe angayankhire kugonana kwa abambo-kapena, Momwemonso, yowonjezera-yogwirizana ndi ntchito yogwiritsira ntchito vibrator.
Onani kuti lingaliro lenilenilo la mavuto omwe amabwera chifukwa cha zoseweretsa zogonana panthawi yogonana popanda zoseweretsa lachepetsedwa kukhala "chikhulupiriro chakale." Komanso, owerenga sangazindikire kuti ofufuzawo sanafunsepo funso lofunika kwambiri lokhudza "chikhulupiriro chakale" pokhapokha atawerenga mpaka kumapeto kwa kafukufukuyu, chifukwa kafukufukuyu adafunsa za dzanzi la maliseche (komanso kukwiya, kupweteka, misozi ndi mabala, ndi kutupa).
Chifukwa chake, wowerenga wamba angaganize kuti kuchepa kuyankha panthawi yogonana kudalankhulidwa mgulu la "dzanzi". Ayi sichoncho.
Ngakhale ofufuzawo adalephera kufunsa funso loyambirira pakufufuza kwawo mwaluso, "dzanzi" chidali chotulukapo chofala kwambiri chogwiritsa ntchito makinawa. M'malo mwake, owerenga 16.5% owopsa adanenanso kuti dzanzi ndi vuto logwiritsa ntchito vibrator.
kotero, amachita Ntchito yogwiritsira ntchito vibrator imalepheretsa kugonana?
Palibe amene akudziwa. Malinga ndi momwe zinthu zilili, mwina tiyenera kusamala kwambiri ndi nkhani za akazi omwe anataya ma vibrator awo kuti abwerere ku momwe amachitira zinthu zogonana.
Palinso zizindikiro zina zoopsa. Ofufuza atafunsa anthu 19 atsopano ogwiritsa ntchito vibrator, "Akazi adalankhula zambiri za kusintha kwa kukwiya kwawo komanso kusangalala kwawo atayamba kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator. ... Chochititsa chidwi n'chakuti, akazi asanu ndi atatu adanena mwachindunji kuti anali ndi nkhawa yodalira vibrator. ... Akazi atatu okha ndi omwe adalankhula makamaka za moyo wawo wogonana womwe umakulitsidwa ndi vibrator."
Mwa njira, monga anyamata ambiri achichepere omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano , akazi nawonso akunena kuti maliseche omwe amayambitsidwa ndi zolaula pa intaneti akuchepetsa kuyankha kwawo pakugonana ndi okwatirana (ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zimachitika kwakanthawi kochepa). Kuyankha kosasangalatsa muubongo kungakhale kovuta komanso kofooketsa ngati mitsempha yosagwira ntchito.
Mwa njira, kuyambira pomwe kafukufuku wa Kinsey vibrator adatuluka, ofufuza ena apeza kuti, "Kukhala ndi nkhawa kumalumikizidwa ndi kusakhazikika kwa kukongola kwa nyini, koma ndi kuchuluka kwa kugwedezeka kwa vibrator ndi anal sex orgasms. Kudziletsa kumalumikizidwa ndi kuchuluka kwa kugwedezeka kwa vibrator."
Mwachidule, sikungakhale kwanzeru kuchepetsa kukhudzidwa kwa chiwerewere ndi kugonana kosatha kwa mtundu uliwonse.
Mfundo yofunika: Kugwiritsidwa ntchito kosokoneza bongo kungakhale njira imodzi yokha kwa ogwiritsa ntchito. Ayenera kufunsa ngati akuwatengera ku malo omwe akufuna. Koposa zonse, ochita kafukufuku amafunika kukhala okhulupilika mufukufuku wawo kuti athandize ogwiritsa ntchito kugonana asankhe njira zawo molondola-osagulidwa-zogwirizana.
Penyani maphunziro osokonezeka omwe ndi abwino kwambiri kuti musakhale oona
Kodi mwayang'ana kangati chidule cha mfundo zomaliza za kafukufuku ndi kuganiza kuti ofufuzawo afika pa mfundo yolondola? Izi zimachitika chifukwa chakuti timakhulupirira kwambiri njira yowunikira anzawo. "Zopitirira muyeso" chifukwa ofufuza ambiri amasankha zinthu mwanzeru, kuphika deta, ndikunama za zotsatira zake. "Maganizo azachipatala ndi odzaza makamaka ndi khalidwe loipa."
M'modzi mwa asayansi atatu akuti amagwiritsa ntchito njira zokafufuzira zokayikitsa, monga kusintha kapangidwe ka kafukufuku kapena zotsatira zake chifukwa chakukakamizidwa ndi omwe amapereka ndalama. Hmmm….
Kukambirana za mavuto osokoneza bongo pakati pa ophunzira ogonana
Katswiri wa zachiwerewere A: Kodi pali kafukufuku aliyense wokhudza zomwe zimanenedwa kawirikawiri (nthano?) kuti kugwiritsa ntchito ma vibrator nthawi zonse mwa akazi kumachepetsa kuthekera kwawo kufika pachimake mwanjira zina? Kafukufuku wokhudza kugwiritsa ntchito ma vibrator omwe ndingapeze satchula zotsatira za nthawi yayitali.
Katswiri wa zachiwerewere B: Zingakhale zosangalatsa kuona ngati pali deta yeniyeni pa izi. Mwachidziwitso, ndizomveka ... poganiza kuti munthu 'wazolowera' mtundu wina wa kusonkhezera. Palibe kukayika kuti munthu angathe kubwereza kusonkhezera kwa kugwedezeka. Ndi kwamphamvu kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, ngati munthu 'wasankha' kuti akufunika kusonkhezeredwa kwambiri, pakhoza kukhalanso ndi zotsatira za chiyembekezo.
Wokhudzana ndi kugonana C: Sindikudziwa chilichonse (chonde mugawane pagulu ngati mungatero), koma mumamvadi madandaulo ochokera kwa azimayi ambiri omwe amagwiritsa ntchito ma vibrator nthawi zambiri. Sabata yatha yokha ndidapeza izi kuchokera kwa blogger wodziwika ku UK wokhudzana ndi kufunafuna kwake kwa miyezi iwiri kuti asatengeke ndi ma vibrator (ndipo amangokhala ndi zovuta zamatsenga kapena zolimbikitsa ndi anzawo): http://carasutra.co.uk/2013/
Katswiri wa zachiwerewere D: Ngakhale kuti tili ndi zambiri zokhudza kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator, tilibe chilichonse chomwe chimayankha funsoli (monga, chomwe chimafufuza momwe vibrator imagwirira ntchito kenako zokumana nazo zogonana pakapita nthawi).
Sindikuganiza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator kumalepheretsa azimayi kuti asamavutike ndi mitundu ina yakugonana. Mwachidziwitso ndimadziwa azimayi ambiri, ambiri omwe amakumana ndi zovuta kuchokera kuzinthu zingapo, kuphatikiza kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator. Ndili ndi zambiri kuchokera pazitsanzo zosavuta zomwe zimawonetsa azimayi omwe ali ndi vuto losiyanasiyana kuchokera kuzinthu zosiyanasiyana, kuphatikiza kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator.
Ndimaganizirabe koma sindingathe kutsimikizira - kuti nthawi iliyonse pamene anthu amadalira njira imodzi yokha yotulutsira pakapita nthawi kuti azolowere kukondoweza. Izi zitha kutanthauza kuti, akapatsidwa chilimbikitso chatsopano (kapena chakale chomwe sanadalire kanthawi kena) kuti abwererenso m'chiyimbocho kuti akakhale nawo pachimake. Mayankho atha kukhala pang'onopang'ono ndikulimbikitsa kwatsopano (kapena kwakale, kosagwiritsidwa ntchito) koma sizitanthauza kuti zapita. Sindikuganiza kuti izi zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi ma vibrator. Apanso, mwachisawawa, ndaziwona izi nthawi zambiri ndi azimayi kapena abambo omwe, mwachitsanzo, amakhala ndi ziphuphu kuchokera kumaliseche nthawi zonse koma sanalandirepo mkamwa nthawi zonse, kapena zaka zambiri, kenako matupi awo kapena malingaliro awo amaphunzira kapena “kuphunzira ”Momwe angadzimverere pamasom'pamaso ngati ayamba kuchita nawo. Sindikuganiza kuti kugonana kumaliseche kwawapundula ku zovuta zina. Ndikuganiza kuti nthawi zina anthu amangodziwa zizolowezi zina ndi mayankho okhudzana nawo.
Katswiri wa zachiwerewere E: Ndapereka ma workshop ndikukumana ndi magulu angapo a akazi omwe ngati ine ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito vibrator ya 120v (plug in the wall) kwa zaka zambiri. Timabwerabe mwachangu komanso mosavuta ndi anzathu. Koma sitingasiye vibrator yathu pa chilichonse! Makamaka ndi akazi ambiri, kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator kwa nthawi yayitali sikukuwoneka kuti kumabweretsa mavuto. Koma timasangalalanso ndi zolaula kotero pali vuto ndi ife.
Katswiri wa Zachiwerewere F: Lingaliro: Nzeru yomweyi imagwiranso ntchito pakugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zambiri pakati pa amuna. Amuna omwe nthawi zonse amagwiritsa ntchito mtundu umodzi wokha wa chilimbikitso kuti afike pachimake kwa nthawi yayitali, mwachitsanzo dzanja limodzi, m'malo amodzi, pa liwiro lokhazikika komanso kamvekedwe, ndi mafuta okwanira nthawi zonse, amakhala ndi mwayi wokumana ndi vuto linalake la kugonana akamayesa kufika pachimake mwa njira zina.