[Redditor amagawana malingaliro ake pa Day 44]
Poyankha kukayikira komanso kukayikira poyankha anga Posachedwa malire NZT, mwina ndiyenera kufotokozera zomwe ndimamva pazaka 10+ zapitazi komanso momwe ndakhala ndikumvera kwa nthawi yayitali ya NoFap [yopanda maliseche pa zolaula pa intaneti] kwa okayikira komanso otsutsa.
Kuyambira ndili ndi 17 sindinakhalepo wokopeka kapena kukopeka kwambiri ndi mtsikana, momwe ndimafunira kuwatsata ndikuyesera kukhala nawo paubwenzi. Ndidayamba kuganiza kuti mwina ndasweka mtima ndikukhazikitsa njira zodzitetezera (izi zitha kukhala zowona mpaka) kapena kuti panali china chake cholakwika ndi ine (mwamalingaliro / pagulu). Sindinakhalepo ndi chibwenzi chotalikirapo kuposa miyezi 4 ndipo ngakhale izi sizinamveke ngati ubale weniweni. Nthawi zonse ndakhala ndikufunafuna kumverera kwa gulugufe komanso chithunzi chabwino kwambiri cha mtsikana yemwe ndinali naye ndili wachinyamata.
"Zomwe zikundivuta" sizinawerengere, ngakhale, popeza ndakhala wotchuka, ndinali ndi anzanga ambiri ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimakhala likulu la maphwando. Ndine wowoneka bwino, wathanzi, wathanzi ndipo nthawi zonse atsikana amandiuza kuti, "bwanji ulibe chibwenzi ?!"
M'malingaliro mwanga ndidayamba kudzikayikira ndikuyamba kuganiza kuti mwina ndimagonana ndipo sindimadziwa, mwina sindine wosankha ndipo ndikufuna msungwana wangwiro ndi zina zambiri. Wachiwerewereyo sanasunge madzi, ngakhale ena pr0n yomwe ndidakulirakulira mzaka 10 zapitazi - sindimakopeka ndi ma dudes, azimayi ndiabwino kwambiri ndipo amandipatsa maginito.
Nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndi msaki kumbuyo kwa malingaliro anga omwe amafalikira (pakati pa 2-5 nthawi tsiku lililonse pachimake ndipo kamodzi patsiku nthawi zambiri) kupita ku pr0n sanali wathanzi ndipo adamva kuchokera kwa abwenzi m'mbuyomu kuti zimatha kukukhumudwitsani. Komabe izi sizinandiyimitse ndipo ndidapitilizabe, nthawi zambiri nthawi zamadzulo ndisanagone.
Mu miliyoni miliyoni sindikadalumikizana ndi madontho ndikugwiritsa ntchito chithunzi chomwe pr0n ndikujambulitsa chikuwoneka kuti chikundiyambitsa zonsezi:
- manyazi ndi zoyankhula pagulu
- mantha akamalankhula m'misonkhano
- mantha akamalankhula ndi abwana
- otsika kwambiri kudzidalira
- Ndikumva ngati kuti "ndikudziwika" osati pr0n, koma ngakhale pantchito yanga yonse!
- kumva kuterera mu lingaliro
- ndikuganiza kuti sindidzapeza chikondi kapena chibwenzi
- kukhala wokhumudwa (popanda ine ngakhale kudziwa kuti ndikuganiza kuti ndakhala, modekha osachepera - kudana ndi ntchito yanga, mzinda, anthu ondizungulira)
- osakhala ndi chidwi kapena wolimba mtima
- osakhala ndi nthawi yochitira zinthu zina
- kusowa chiyembekezo
Popeza sindinayambe masiku a 44 masiku apitawa, nthawi zambiri sindinakhalepo ndi chilakolako chogonana chokhazikika ndipo ndakhala ndi nsonga ndi maphwando munthambo komanso kusakwiya. ZONSE, kuyambira 1 sabata yapitayo (komanso pamene ndinali ndi WD yanga yoyamba kuyambira pa noFap) ndayamba kuzindikira:
- mitengo yamawa yolira
- kukulitsa chilakolako chogonana / libido
- "chimwemwe" chowonjezeka
- chikhulupiliro chowonjezeka
- chiyembekezo chambiri chamtsogolo
- chidwi chachikulu
Ndakhala ndikuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndikuphunzitsa tsiku lililonse, ndikukweza kwambiri, kuthamanga, kudya bwino, kugona bwino komanso kumangokhala ngati woyamwa bwana.
IMHO komanso zomwe mwakumana nazo mpaka pano, noFap ndi wamphamvu kwambiri kuposa momwe mungaganizire. Kugonana ndi mphotho muubongo ndi chizolowezi champhamvu chomwe chimatha kuyang'anira kwambiri munthu, kuposa momwe mumazindikira.
Kwa iwo omwe akuyamba kumene - khalani nawo, mudzakhala othokoza kuti mwachita. Yang'anirani pa mphothoyo ndikupewa mayesero.
TL; DR Palibe amene akunena kuti NoFap ndi mapiritsi amatsenga, mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena ma spell. Zili ndi zotsatirapo zazikulu pamoyo wa anthu ena ndipo zitha kusintha zina monga zotsatira zina. Ndine 29 ndipo ndimamverera ngati mwana wanga wazaka 17. KUGWIRITSA NTCHITO.
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