Kubwezeretsa kuchidakwa chilichonse ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri m'moyo wamunthu. Kubwezeretsa ndikofanana ndi kusintha kwa umunthu. Ndi mtundu wa opareshoni yamatsenga yomwe munthu amene amayamba kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo amakakamizidwa kuti achite yekha ndi zomwe zimawoneka ngati manja ankhanza a mulungu. Ndi nthawi yakukula kwamunthu kwambiri ndikukonzanso komanso kuphatikiza. Kuchira kwathunthu kumangopitilira kungopewa kuzolowera, kumangopita pamtima pakumwa. Kuledzera komwe timagwerako ndikumangokhala kopweteka komanso kopanda tanthauzo komwe kwatipangitsa kuti tione kufunika kothana ndi njirazi zomwe zakhala zikuchitika kale kuti athetse nkhawa. Ndi chikoka chofuna kukakamira kuti musangalale ngati njira yothanirana ndi nkhawa yakuya komanso yosathetsedwa. Zaka ndi mphamvu zambiri zagwiritsidwa ntchito popanga magawo amisala yoyeserera.
Ngati muli pano mukuwerenga izi ngati chidakwa, ndiye kuti mwafika poti mwaganiza kuti zokakamiza zanu sizikukuthandizaninso. Mukufuna kusokoneza "cholengedwa" ichi chomwe mwakhala zaka zambiri ndikupanga m'malo mokhala moyo wanu ndikutsatira zokhumba zanu zabwino kwambiri. Mwatha zaka zambiri mukuganiza komanso kudzipatula m'malingaliro anu. Kupulumuka kwanu ndikuyesera kuthana ndi ululu wanu sikunachitepo kanthu koma kukankhira pansi kudziona kuti ndinu osakwanira, mantha, manyazi, kudziimba mlandu, kukwiya, komanso kukhumudwa. Mwapanga mosamala khoma kuti mudziteteze kuti musakhale osangalala pazaka zambiri. Zochita zanu zokakamiza zachita zinthu zomwezo kuti zichotse m'moyo wanu zomwe mukufunikiradi ndipo zingakupatseni chisangalalo chomwe mukufuna.
Pali maupangiri angapo othandiza omwe andithandiza kuti ndiyambe kuchira mpaka pano. Sindingathe kuchira, koma poyerekeza ndi komwe ndinali chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri zapitazo, ndikudabwitsidwa ndikusangalala kuwona izi zikupita patsogolo ndikusintha umunthu wanga. Monga munthu amene adakumana ndi maladaptive maluso othana ndi moyo mozama kuyambira ndili mwana, ndiyeneradi kukhala wopenga, m'misewu ndikufuula mwezi, kapena mkhalidwe woipa kwambiri kuposa momwe ndiliri pano. Kuganiza kuti tsogolo la anthu ena ndi kusiyana pakati pa zizolowezi zochepa chabe zimandipangitsa kukhala woyamikira kwambiri kuti mtundu wina wabwinobwino umakhala mwa ine.
Vuto lakuchira ndikuti sichinthu chongochotsa kakhalidwe kamodzi kosakopa. Ndi nkhani yovumbulutsira ukonde wamakhalidwe oyipa omwe amaperekedwa ndi zaka zamalingaliro ndi zochita zoyipa. Mukamadutsa ulendowu, mumamvadi ngati mukufa. Izi ndi zoona mwanjira ina. Umunthu wanu wakale ukumwalira, kudzikonda kwanu, chilombo, kapena chilichonse chomwe chikufa. Mwatha zaka zambiri mukumanga cholengedwa ichi. Musayembekezere kuti bungweli lingagwere popanda chochita.
Zosangalatsa Zenizeni vs. Kusaka Zosangalatsa
Zokometsera zilizonse ndimalingaliro ndi zochita zowakakamiza. Kuyesa kubwezeretsa ubongo wathu kuchoka kuzokakamira izi kumawoneka ngati kosatheka. Koma gawo lokonzanso ubongo wathu limaphatikizanso kukhala ndi zokakamiza zathu m'manja mwathu ndikutigwirira ntchito m'malo mwake zimayambitsa ndikupanga chisokonezo m'miyoyo yathu.
Monga zolengedwa zomveka, ndife oganiza bwino, timakhala ndi zolinga ndikukwaniritsa zolinga zathu. Kukakamiza kumbali ina kumangofuna kukhutira kokha chifukwa chokhutira. Kuyang'ana pazolinga kumatha kukhala kokhutira, koma ngati izi zachitika mopitirira muyeso, kapena kukana pang'ono mukakumana nazo kuti mupeze zolingazo, malingaliro amatha kulolera kufikira pomwe kukhutira kumalamulira pamalingaliro okonzekera. Pansi pa kayendetsedwe kokhutiritsa mokakamiza, malingaliro oyang'ana bwino amasungunuka ndipo amasinthidwa ndi chikhumbo chokhutira. Komabe, kukhutira sikungatheke konse, ndipo zolinga zake sizikukusunthirani ku zolinga zogwirizana.
Malingaliro amtunduwu atha kulakwitsa ngati "kukana zosangalatsa" kapena kudzimana, koma sichoncho. Chisangalalo mwa icho chokha ndichinthu chachikulu ndipo ndichikhalidwe chachilengedwe. Ndi fayilo ya kulakalaka ndikukhumba zosangalatsa Izi ndizovuta m'mutu. Pakadali pano, magwiridwe antchito am'maganizo amabisala kuti azichita izi m'njira yokakamiza yomwe imakana chisangalalo cha malingaliro abwino kuti asangalatsidwe pakadali pano. Mtundu uwu wa kusisilira komanso kufunafuna ndiwowopsa chifukwa umatsanzira nthawi zonse chisangalalo mwa icho chokha.
Kukakamiza ndikusangalatsa mwa kufuna kwayekha, kufunafuna ndi kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa. Kusangalala kwenikweni kumachitika mwa iko kokha, kupatula kufunafuna. Kuyerekezera ndi kochenjera. Ndikosavuta kuzindikira zovuta zomwe zimayambitsa kukhudzika kwa malingaliro, malingaliro, ndipo zimayendetsa kusokoneza. Komabe, mtundu uwu wakakopeka ndikuyerekeza zikadziwidwa ndi osuta ndikuwona mawonekedwe awo kamodzi, sizingatheke kunyalanyaza izi mwanjira iliyonse m'miyoyo yawo. Kuzindikira kopusa kumeneku kumakoka munthu wovutikayo kumenya ndi kufuula ndi mkwiyo womwewo ndikumukakamiza kuti amuyambitse kuyamba - izi zimangochitika zokha.
Ajahn Sumedho, mu Ziphunzitso za Amonke a Buddhist analemba kuti:
Chilakolako tikhoza kuchiyerekeza ndi moto. Tikagwira moto, chimachitika ndi chiyani? Kodi chimabweretsa chimwemwe? Tikanena kuti: “Ha, tawonani moto wokongola uja! Onani mitundu yokongola! Ndimakonda zofiira ndi lalanje; ndi mitundu yomwe ndimakonda, ”kenako ndikumvetsetsa, timatha kupeza mavuto ena kulowa mthupi. Ndipo ngati tingaganizire zomwe zimayambitsa kuvutikako titha kudziwa kuti ndi chifukwa chakugwira moto uja. Tikadziwa izi, titha kuti moto upite. Tikangotulutsa moto ndiye kuti timadziwa kuti sichinthu choyenera kulumikizidwa. Izi sizitanthauza kuti tiyenera kuzida, kapena kuzizimitsa. Tikhoza kusangalala ndi moto, sichoncho? Ndizabwino kukhala ndi moto, zimapangitsa kuti chipinda chikhale chotentha, koma sitiyenera kudziwotcha.
Nawo malangizo kuti muthane ndi vuto lathu komanso malingaliro ndi zizolowezi zomwe mwapanga. Izi siziyenera kuchitika mwangwiro, koma ndi zida zamphamvu.
Pitani ku Orgasms
Izi zalimbikitsidwa kuyambira nthawi zakale ngati njira yobwezeretsanso kuchira ku mavuto amanjenje ndi amisala. Sizomwe zili pa rada yathu yachikhalidwe, koma ine ndi anthu ena ambiri omwe adayesapo izi adawona kuti njirayi kukhala yofunika kwambiri pakuchira kwawo. Ndizovuta kuti anthu afotokozere, koma INE NDAKUTHANDIZANI, kuti ngati mutha kuthana ndi zofooka zakuthupi, zam'malingaliro, ndi zamaganizidwe achokoka, mudzaona chida ichi pazomwe ndizida zamphamvu kwambiri pamalingaliro onse .
Pambuyo pa milungu ingapo yamalingaliro achilendo, ndinamva ngati ndikumverera pamaso chizolowezi chilichonse kapena chisanachitike. Payekha, njira yabwino kwambiri yomwe ndingathe kufotokozera ndikuti ndimamva ngati "ine" kachiwiri. Ndinayamba kukhala munthu wolingalira bwino, woganiza bwino, komanso wachimwemwe, yemwe samakhala wamantha nthawi zonse komanso wosakhala pagulu, kuweruza, kapena kusowa. Pali zinthu zambiri patsamba lino zomwe zimafotokoza mwasayansi "chifukwa" chomwe zili choncho.
Gawo lodabwitsa kwambiri lokhudza izi lidali loti ndinatha kuwona kwa nthawi yayitali kuti chilichonse chomwe ndimakumana nacho ndimakhala ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa sichinali chochita chosinthana ndi moyo wanga. Ndisanadziwe za umunthu wanga wakale, ndimayamba kusiya ntchito kuti ndikhale "wodandaula komanso wokhumudwa" kwa moyo wanga wonse. Ndinali wolakwa. Zizindikiro zanga zambiri zamaganizidwe ndi malingaliro zidachepa kwambiri, ndipo ndidadziwa kuti mavuto anga sichinthu chomwe ndimachita. Kudziletsa kungakhale kovuta kuchita, koma ndizotheka kuyeserera. Ndikutsindika mawu chitani chifukwa mwayi ukakhala kuti wakonda, ndiye kuti udzayambiranso. Palibe cholakwika ndi izi mwanjira iliyonse. Izi zimafuna kuchita.
Masewera olimbitsa thupi
Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kudzasesana ndi ma tambula m'malingaliro anu. Gawo lovuta kwambiri ndikudzuka ndikuchita, koma chida ichi ndi chodabwitsa. Yesetsani kumanga thupi ndi mphamvu m'moyo wanu. Kuledzera ndi vuto lakelo ndi kusazindikira. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumathandiza kuti tisinthe. Ambiri omwe amakonda kwambiri AMADZIWA kuti ali ndi vuto, koma vuto lawo limatsata kuti atenge machitidwe a MALAMULO. Addicts amakhazikika pazolakwitsa kwambiri chifukwa adadzitengera njira yosavuta yobweretsera chisangalalo. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumathandizira kuti muchepetse chizolowezi ichi ndipo mphoto yake imawonekera mofulumira ngati sabata limodzi kapena apo. Kafukufuku wazokhudza zabwino zolimbitsa thupi amakula. Lingaliro lake kuti 60% ya anthu omwe amatenga prozac atha kuthetsa kufunikira kwawo mwakuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse.
Ingozichita. Pezani tsamba lochita masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena pulogalamu yapaintaneti yomwe ingakusangalatseni ndipo yesani. Pafupifupi onse omwe amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo akuchira kwa aliyense yemwe akuchita bwino angakuuzeni kufunikira kwa chida ichi. Pezani pulogalamu yomwe imakusangalatsani ndikukutsutsani, yomwe mungamange ndikugwirapo ntchito. Sizitengera zambiri kuti muwone zotsatira m'thupi lanu ndipo ndichinthu chomwe mungasangalale nacho. Mukangotenga chida ichi mozama ndikulowamo, zidzakhala ngati kutsuka mano, simungaganize zokhala opanda izo.
zakudya
Monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, izi zimafunika kusinkhasinkha ndikusintha. Palibe chakudya chokwanira kwa munthu m'modzi aliyense, koma pali maumboni ambiri okhudzana ndi mitundu yazakudya yomwe imathandizira kuthupi ndi kwamaganizidwe. Kwa anthu ambiri, chakudya ndichinthu china chomwe amakakamizidwa kuthana ndi nkhawa yayikulu komanso chosavuta kuwona chifukwa chake: ndichosangalatsa. Choyamba ndikudziwa kuti ndi zakudya ziti zomwe zikuyambitsa vuto la mankhwala mwa inu. Shuga woyengeka ndiye amene amachititsa anthu ambiri ndipo motero ndi mafuta oyengedwa kapena mafuta odzaza. Zingatenge kanthawi kuti tisokoneze zizolowezi izi, koma pang'onopang'ono musunthire njira zina zothanirana ndi nkhawa.
Njira yabwino yazakudya ndizoyesera kudya zamasamba zatsopano ndi tirigu wonse komanso zochepa za zinyalala ndi zakudya zopukutidwa.
Onjezerani omega 3's pazakudya zanu (yesani mafuta a nsomba) popeza adasanthulidwa kwambiri ndikupeza kuti athandizira kuthandizira pulasitiki wamaubongo. Kwenikweni, kuchepa kwamafuta okhathamira ndikuwonjezera omegas limodzi ndi shuga wocheperako ndikuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwachulukitsa kuphunzira ndikusunga mbewa modabwitsa. Ndi nkhani yosintha zizolowezi zathu kwa iwo omwe tidasinthika nawo. Shuga ndi mafuta okhuta anali osowa ndipo masewera olimbitsa thupi anali gawo la moyo. Ndi njira yophweka ndipo gawo lovuta ndikuwononga moyo wopanda zizolowezi.
Kulingalira / uzimu
Izi zimadza munjira zambiri, koma ambiri, anthu ambiri ochiritsira amalumbirira. Kuwerenga kolimbikitsa, maulendo, ndi nthawi mwachilengedwe kumagwera gulu ili. Zinthu izi ndizosangalatsa komanso zolankhula pamtima. Izi sizingakukhumudwitseni, ndipo zimatha kukuchirikizani panthawi zovuta.
Kusagwirizana
Kukhala ndi anthu kuzungulira kumachepetsa chizolowezi chathu chodzipatula. Ambiri a ife osokoneza bongo timakhala ndi nthawi yocheza komanso kucheza ndi anthu. Timasowa maluso a anthu chifukwa sitinaphunzirepo kudzilemekeza tokha komanso ena, kapena kupezekapo.
Kuyanjana ndi chida chopindulitsa kwambiri komanso champhamvu. Yesetsani kupita kukakumana ndi anthu ndikuyankhula nawo. Lolani chitetezo ndikuyeseni kulumikiza. Dziko limatseguka motere. Anthu ena amatisunga pamzere ndikuthandizira kucheza nafe. Amatipatsa malingaliro pazomwe zili zoyenera. Mukamakhala waluso komanso wodziwa zambiri mu gawo lino, mumatha kuthana ndi anthu ena komanso zinyalala zanu.
Kugwirizana ndi anthu pamlingo uliwonse ndikothandiza. Ndi luso komanso luso komanso chovuta kwambiri kwa ife omwe sitili bwino kapena osachita. Koma ili ndi mphatso zazikulu. Kuphatikiza apo, sitidzakhala ndi mgwirizano wokwanira ndi otsutsanawo popanda kuphunzira kulumikizana. Ngati tikufuna kukhala ogwira ntchito komanso athanzi, kuphunzira kukhala bwino ndi anthu ena ndikofunikira.
Mwala wofunikira kwambiri pa thanzi la m'maganizo umadalira ulemu ndi momwe mumakhudzirana ndi anthu ena - mwina chifukwa tinangochitika ngati fuko lathu. Zathu ubongo amatipatsa mphotho chifukwa cholumikizirana. Chifukwa chake musachepetse kucheza. Onani momwe anthu openga amachitira ndi anthu ena. Anthu ovutika maganizo nawonso ndi anthu omwe amangodzipanikiza okha. Oledzera amakonda kukhala odzikonda. Tulukani mumsampha uwu mwa kufikira anthu m'njira zenizeni.
Popita nthawi yaitali munthu yemwe ali ndi chizolowezi chake amadzivulaza yekha kumoto ndipo amalimbitsa machitidwe omwe amasunga chizolowezichi. Zidakwa zimabweretsa zosokoneza bongo zina ndipo zambiri mwa izi ndizokakamiza zimayikidwa m'malingaliro athu monganso momwe timakhalira. Tikayamba kuthana ndi chimodzi mwazinthuzi zomwe zimapangitsa kuti chizolowezi chathu chizikhala m'malo, timayamba kusiya ena. Timayambanso kugwa, koma izi ziyenera kulandiridwa chifukwa ndi kuyamba kudzipanga tokha. Pangakhale nthawi yayitali yochotsa malingaliro ndi kuphatikizira pambuyo poti kuchoka koyambirira kwa thupi. Iyi ndi nthawi yomwe munthu akukonzanso zaka ndi makumi osakhala ndi malingaliro ndi malingaliro oyipa. Gawo ili ndiwopadera kwa aliyense payekha ndipo ikhoza kukhala nthawi yakukwaniritsidwa kwamalingaliro komanso kubadwanso mwatsopano.
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