Yankho: Dopamine ndi mankhwala ena a mitsempha.
Zosiyanasiyana zogonana. Wotsogolera membala wina anati:
Ndimagwirizana, ndipo ndikufuna kukondana ndi mkazi wanga wam'tsogolo. Komabe, ndikawona msungwana wokongola, ndimangofuna kuthamanga (ndikupepesa mawu) iye, ndiyeno ndikawona wina, ndikufunanso kumumenya. Mu 2004, ndinawona zolaula za ku Ulaya ndi atsikana okongola mwachibadwa. Kuyambira pamenepo, nthawi zonse ndimafuna kulawa ena mwa atsikanawa. Ndipo ndikuyang'ana zolaula zambiri, ndinayang'ana zolaula zambiri ku Ulaya. Kotero ine ndikufuna kupita kunja uko, ndi kukakopera atsikana ochepa chotero kuti awone momwe izo zimamverera. Komanso, chifukwa ndakhala ndikuwonerera zolaula kwa nthawi yaitali, ndasankha kwambiri, ndipo ndikufuna thupi la mtundu weniweni, mtundu wina wamtundu wina ndi zina.
Ndikumva ngati gawo lamalingaliro anga likupandukira chifukwa cha zilakalaka izi sizingakwaniritsidwe muubwenzi wokwatira. Chibwenzi changa ndi chamtengo wapatali kwa atsikana, ndipo ndikadakhala cholemekeza chachikulu kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi kuti ndimutaye. Chonde ndithandizeni kuti ndimvetsetse chidwi chachikulu kwa atsikana ena omwe ndikumverera, chikhumbo choti ndiyenera kulumpha kuchokera kwa msungwana wina kupita kumzake (monga momwe ndimasinthira zolaula).
Kukondoweza kwakukulu, monga zolaula zamasiku ano pa intaneti zomwe zimakhala zachilendo komanso zosiyanasiyana (onani: Zosangalatsa, Zachilendo, ndi zotsatira za Coolidge), akhoza kusokoneza luso lokhazikitsa mgwirizano wokhutira (kutanthauza kuti, kukhalabe wodzipereka komanso wokhutira ndi mnzanuyo).
Anthu ndi ogwirizana. Ndiye kuti, timalumikizidwa, pafupifupi, kuti tizikondana ndikukhala limodzi… nthawi yayitali kuti tonse tizikonda mwana aliyense. Mwanjira imeneyi, makanda athu ali ndi osamalira awiri odzipereka, zomwe zimawonjezera mwayi wawo wopulumuka chifukwa anthu amatenga nthawi yayitali kuti akule.
Komabe, ubongo womwe umatikakamiza ku maubwenzi awa ndi womwewo womwe umagwidwa ndi zochita ndi machitidwe olimbikitsa kwambiri . Mwachitsanzo, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, mowa, kutchova juga, ndi zolaula za pa intaneti zimalanda ubongo womwe ulipo kuti utipatse malingaliro abwino oti tigwirizane ndikugonana. Zolaula za pa intaneti ndizokopa kwambiri, chifukwa mwayi wogonana ndi mnzanu watsopano umatulutsa dopamine yowonjezera - ndipo zimatipangitsa kutulutsa umuna wambiri mwachangu . (Palibe nyama zomwe zimakhala ndi m'modzi mwa akazi okhaokha ... ngakhale awiriawiri ogwirizana. Mayi Wachilengedwe amafuna kuti tiyesedwe ndi mwayi waukulu wopatsira majini ambiri - koma nthawi zambiri mwayi woterewu umakhala wosowa, ndipo umakhudza okwatirana enieni. Komabe timayankhabe ku mitundu yosiyanasiyana yogonana.)
Mwachitsanzo, pamene ofufuza aku Australia (graph) adawonetsa filimu yofanana yokhudza kugonana mobwerezabwereza, ziwalo za mbolo za anthu omwe adayesedwa komanso malipoti aumwini onse adawonetsa kuchepa pang'onopang'ono kwa chilakolako chogonana. "Zakale zomwezo" zimangosasangalatsa. Kuzolowera kumasonyeza kuchepa kwa dopamine. Pambuyo powonera 18—pamene anthu omwe adayesedwa anali kugwedeza mutu—ofufuza adayambitsa zatsopano za zolaula pa 19 ndi 20. Bingo ! Anthu omwe adayesedwa ndi ziwalo zawo adatchuka. (Inde, akazi adawonetsa zotsatira zofanana .)
Zolaula za pa intaneti zimakopa makamaka anthu omwe amalandira mphoto chifukwa zinthu zatsopano nthawi zonse zimakhala zongodina pang'ono. Zingakhale "mnzanu" watsopano, malo osazolowereka, kugonana kwachilendo, kapena - mumadzaza malo opanda kanthu. Mukatsegula ma tabu angapo ndikudina kwa maola ambiri, mutha kukhala ndi ogonana atsopano mphindi khumi zilizonse kuposa zomwe makolo athu osaka ndi osonkhanitsa adakumana nazo m'moyo wawo wonse.
Zolaula za pa intaneti zimapereka mndandanda wokhazikika wa "ogwirizana" atsopano a mawonekedwe onse, kukula ndi chikhalidwe. Ndipo gawo lakale la ubongo wathu limaona zonsezi ngati mwayi wa majini . Zotsatira zake? "Mwayi" uliwonse watsopano umatulutsa dopamine yayikulu, yolimbikitsa kutilimbikitsa kuti timupatse feteleza ndikupeza yotsatira (The Coolidge Effect ). Lingaliro ili lafotokozedwa mu kanema wa Your Brain On Porn.
Umu ndi momwe zinthu zokopa ndi zinthu zina zimagwirira ntchito polimbana ndi kugonana kwathu. Izi zimachitika poyambitsa kupanga dopamine yochuluka komanso mankhwala ena amitsempha . Ngati zinthu zina zomwe timachita zimapanga dopamine yambiri kuposa kugwa m'chikondi ndikukhala limodzi - zinthu zomwe timafuna kwambiri zimatha kusintha pang'ono popanda kuzindikira bwino. Ndipo zinthu zomwe timafuna kwambiri zidzakhalabe zosokoneza mpaka ubongo wathu utabwerera ku chidziwitso chabwinobwino , chomwe chingatenge miyezi ingapo popanda kukhudzidwa kwambiri.
Pakadali pano, ngakhale tingakonde lingaliro lodzipereka, titha kusokonezedwa ndi ma dopamine okopa omwe amapangidwa ndimalingaliro azakugonana ndi omwe amakhala nawo pachibwenzi, zosiyanasiyana zogonana. Pomwe ubongo wathu umabwereranso mwakale, lingaliro lokhala ndi mnzake m'modzi limatha kuyambitsa mkangano wamkati ndi mkwiyo.
Mwachidule, dopamine yochuluka ingalepheretse kugwira ntchito kwa ubongo wathu mwachibadwa polumikizana ndi awiriawiri. Tikudziwa izi chifukwa kafukufuku waposachedwapa pa nyama zokhala ndi mkazi mmodzi adawonetsa momveka bwino. Pamene asayansi adadzaza ubongo wa awiriawiri ndi mankhwala omwe adawonjezera dopamine, nyamazi mwachibadwa zokhala ndi mkazi mmodzi sizinayambenso kukonda mnzawo m'modzi . Kulimbikitsa kochita kupanga kunalanda makina awo ogwirizana ndi dopamine, kuwasiya ngati nyama wamba (zachiwerewere).
Mwachidule, chidwi chomwecho chomwe chimatilimbikitsa kuti tizikondana chimakhala pachiwopsezo tikadzaza ndi zokonda zakugonana. Mwadzidzidzi, madera omwe maubwenzi athu awiri amadalira amadzazidwa ndi dopamine yokhudzana ndi zoyambitsa kupatula anzathu. Zitha kupangitsa mnzanu kukhala wosakondweretsanso, ndikuwonjeza njira zathu zokhazikika.
Nthawi yopanda kusonkhezeredwa kwambiri ndi zolaula za pa intaneti (kapena zongopeka za zolaula) ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yochiritsira. Chikondi cha tsiku ndi tsiku chimathandizanso, popereka chizindikiro chachinsinsi kuti chigwirizane.
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