Kafukufuku wa Kinsey / Trojan wama vibrator sanatchule funso lapamwamba la okonda
Kufufuza za kugonana ndi lingaliro labwino, koma tikuyenera kukhala owona mtima kwambiri paokha pofufuza zotsatira zake, kuti tisaiwale zizindikiro zowonjezera.
Zaka zingapo zapitazo, ndalemba Ma Vibrator ndi Zosangalatsa Zina: 'Moderation' zikalephera. Zinaphatikizaponso kudzidziwitsa nokha kwa azimayi omwe kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator kumapangitsa kukhala kovuta kwambiri (kapena kosatheka) kufika pachimake panthawi yogonana komanso kugonana popanda zoseweretsa. Posachedwa, ndayendera mazana a zolemba ndi akazi pa Forum kumene zikwi za anthu akuyesera kubwezera mofulumira (pakuwona kwawo) maliseche-kawirikawiri kuwonetsa zolaula pa Intaneti koma nthawi zina amagwiritsa ntchito zithandizo zina zogonana.
Chochitika chomwecho chikuwonekera pakati pa azimayiwa. Kugonana kwenikweni, ngakhale kukhala pachibwenzi, kukutaya zochitika zowonera zolaula zapaintaneti komanso zoseweretsa zakugonana - ndipo azimayi ena sasangalala ndi njira yokhayo yomwe moyo wawo wogonana watenga:
Mkazi woyamba: "Vuto langa lalikulu linali kugwiritsa ntchito kugwedera kutsika ndipo kumawononga chidwi changa. Ndinaponyera vibrator wanga kwathunthu. Tsoka ilo ndimayenera kuchotsa chilichonse m'nyumba chomwe chimanjenjemera chifukwa ndimayesetsa kupeza cholowa. Chida chotsuka nkhope cha Sonic-Care. Kugonana ndibwino kwambiri. Palibe funso. Chimbudzi changa chinali chakufa pachilichonse chosagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi batire. ”
Mkazi wachiwiri: “Tikukhulupirira kuti kuuma kowuma kudzandipangitsa kukhala ndi chidwi chodzakhala ndi zibwenzi. Azimayi azaka 18 sayenera kukhala m'zipinda zawo ndi zolaula komanso zoseweretsa. Ndikufuna kumaliza sukulu ya sekondale ndi dzanja louma. ”
Mkazi wachitatu: "Ndinawerenga hentai pang'ono ndi maliseche pafupifupi tsiku lililonse. Ndiyenera kusiya. Ndataya chidwi mwangamu yanga kuchokera pachotupa changa. "
Kusamvana kwa chidwi ndi kulepheretsa funso lofunika
Ndikufuna kudziwa za kafukufuku m'dera lino, ndinalangizidwa ku phunziroli ndi Kinsey Institute: Kukula ndi Zochitika za Kugwiritsa Ntchito Zogwiritsira Ntchito Mkazi ku United States: Zotsatira za Phunziro Loyimira Padziko Lonse. Atavotera amayi opitilira 1000, ofufuza adazindikira kuti ogwiritsa ntchito makinawa "sanakumane ndi zovuta zilizonse chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito makinawa," ndikuti "kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator ndi ntchito yotetezeka." [Mwachinsinsi ulalowu ndi ena omwe ali patsamba lino adasinthidwa kapena kuchotsedwa nkhaniyi italembedwa. Hmmm…]
Ndinachita chidwi ndi zinthu ziwiri zokhudzana ndi kafukufukuyu wa ... um… chopereka ku sayansi. Choyamba, Analipira ndalama zokhazokha ndi Trojan, kampani yomwe inali ndi magawo onse ogulitsidwa ku vibrator malonda. Nazi Tsamba la Trojan akunena za "Vibrator Study" yomwe sinachitikepo. Mikangano yayikulu yachisangalalo kumeneko, anthu!
Chachiwiri, chinali chophweka. Inalephera kufunsa funso la chidwi kwambiri kwa okondedwa: Kodi vibrator ankagwiritsira ntchito kugonana kosasamala popanda wokondweretsa mnzanu? Ochita kafukufukuwo adavomereza, ndipo anadandaula, izi:
Chifukwa cha chikhulupiliro cha mbiri yakale kuti kugwiritsira ntchito mogwiritsa ntchito mozunguza kumapangitsa akazi kukhala ndi njira zenizeni zogonana (mwachitsanzo, kukumana mosavuta ndi chizunguliro komanso osagwirizana naye), kafukufuku wamtsogolo ayenera kulingalira momwe angayankhire kugonana kwa abambo-kapena, Momwemonso, yowonjezera-yogwirizana ndi ntchito yogwiritsira ntchito vibrator.
Tawonani kuti lingaliro lokhalo la zovuta zomwe zimayambitsidwa ndi zidole zogonana panthawi yopanda zibwenzi zogonana limangokhala "mbiri yakale" chabe. Kuphatikiza apo, owerenga sangayembekezere kuzindikira kuti ofufuzawo sanafunse funso lofunika ili lokhudza "zikhulupiriro zam'mbuyomu" pokhapokha akawerenga mpaka kumapeto kwa phunzirolo, chifukwa kafukufukuyu anachita funsani za kugwa kwa chiberekero (kuphatikizapo kupsa mtima, kupweteka, misonzi ndi kudula, ndi kutupa).
Chifukwa chake, wowerenga wamba angaganize kuti kuchepa kuyankha panthawi yogonana kudalankhulidwa mgulu la "dzanzi". Ayi sichoncho.
Ngakhale ofufuzawo adalephera kufunsa funso loyambirira pakufufuza kwawo mwaluso, "dzanzi" chidali chotulukapo chofala kwambiri chogwiritsa ntchito makinawa. M'malo mwake, owerenga 16.5% owopsa adanenanso kuti dzanzi ndi vuto logwiritsa ntchito vibrator.
kotero, amachita Ntchito yogwiritsira ntchito vibrator imalepheretsa kugonana?
Palibe amene amadziwa. Pansi pa zochitikazo, mwinamwake tiyenera kumvetsera mwachidwi nkhani za amayi omwe amayenera kubwezeretsa ogwedeza awo kuti abwerere kuchitidwe wachiwerewere chogonana.
Palinso zizindikiro zina zoopsa, nayonso. Liti ochita kafukufuku anafunsidwa 19 ogwiritsa ntchito ma vibrator atsopano, "Akazi adalankhula zambiri zakusintha kwamayankho awo okondweretsedwa ndi ziwonetsero pomwe adayamba kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator. … Chachikulu ndichakuti, amayi asanu ndi atatu adanena mosapita m'mbali kuti ali ndi nkhawa yakudalira chojambulira. … Amayi atatu okha ndi omwe adalankhula makamaka zakugonana pakati pawo komwe kumalimbikitsidwa ndi chojambulira. ”
Zodabwitsa ndizakuti, monga ambiri amakono anyamata achiwerewere achinyamata, amayi, nayenso, akulipira kuti mafilimu a pa Intaneti amachititsa kuti munthu azichita maliseche kuchepetsa kugonana kwawo panthawi yogawanikana (ndikuyembekeza kokha). Kuyankha kwachisangalalo kumapeto kwa ubongo kungakhale kovuta komanso kolemetsa ngati mapeto a mitsempha.
Zodabwitsa, popeza kufufuza kwa Kinsey vibrator kunatuluka, zina ofufuza apeza kuti, "Kuda nkhawa kudalumikizidwa ndi kusasinthasintha kwakumaliseche kwamaliseche, koma ndimafupipafupi a vibrator ndi maliseche ogonana. Kuphatikana ndi zomwe ndimakonda kumalumikizidwa ndimankhwala osokoneza bongo.
Mwachidule, sikungakhale kwanzeru kuchepetsa kukhudzidwa kwa chiwerewere ndi kugonana kosatha kwa mtundu uliwonse.
Mfundo yofunika: Kugwiritsidwa ntchito kosokoneza bongo kungakhale njira imodzi yokha kwa ogwiritsa ntchito. Ayenera kufunsa ngati akuwatengera ku malo omwe akufuna. Koposa zonse, ochita kafukufuku amafunika kukhala okhulupilika mufukufuku wawo kuti athandize ogwiritsa ntchito kugonana asankhe njira zawo molondola-osagulidwa-zogwirizana.
Penyani maphunziro osokonezeka omwe ndi abwino kwambiri kuti musakhale oona
Ndi kangati pomwe mwayang'anapo pamizere yotsiriza ya kafukufuku ndikuganiza kuti ofufuzawo adapeza mayankho olondola? Izi zimachitika, mwa zina, chifukwa timakhulupirira kwambiri momwe anzawo angawunikitsire. “Wopambanitsa” chifukwa ochita kafukufuku ambiri dulani ngodya, kuphika deta, ndikunama pazotsatira. “Akatswiri azachipatala amakumana ndi mavuto ambiri.”
M'modzi mwa asayansi atatu akuti amagwiritsa ntchito njira zokafufuzira zokayikitsa, monga kusintha kapangidwe ka kafukufuku kapena zotsatira zake chifukwa chakukakamizidwa ndi omwe amapereka ndalama. Hmmm….
Kukambirana za mavuto osokoneza bongo pakati pa ophunzira ogonana
Wokhudzana ndi kugonana A: Kodi pali kafukufuku wina aliyense wokhudzana ndi zomwe zimanenedwa (nthano?) Zomwe kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator mwa amayi kumachepetsa kuthekera kwawo ndi njira zina? Maphunziro ogwiritsira ntchito vibrator omwe nditha kuwona samatchula zakanthawi yayitali.
Wokhudzana ndi kugonana B: Zingakhale zosangalatsa kuwona ngati padalidi zidziwitso pa izi. Mwachidziwitso, ndizomveka… poganiza kuti munthu 'azolowera' mtundu winawake wokondoweza. Palibe funso kuti munthu akhoza kutengera kukondoweza kwakanthawi. Ndizokongola kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, ngati wina 'aganiza' kuti angafunike kukhudzidwa kwambiri, pakhoza kukhala chiyembekezo chimenecho.
Wokhudzana ndi kugonana C: Sindikudziwa chilichonse (chonde mugawane pagulu ngati mungatero), koma mumamvadi madandaulo ochokera kwa azimayi ambiri omwe amagwiritsa ntchito ma vibrator nthawi zambiri. Sabata yatha yokha ndidapeza izi kuchokera kwa blogger wodziwika ku UK wokhudzana ndi kufunafuna kwake kwa miyezi iwiri kuti asatengeke ndi ma vibrator (ndipo amangokhala ndi zovuta zamatsenga kapena zolimbikitsa ndi anzawo): http://carasutra.co.uk/2013/
Dokotala wogonana D: Ngakhale tili ndi deta yambiri pa ntchito yogwiritsira ntchito vibrator, tilibe aliyense amene akuyankha funsoli moyenera (mwachitsanzo, omwe akuyang'ana kuyambika kwa vibrator ndi zomwe zimachitika panthawi yogonana).
Sindikuganiza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator kumalepheretsa azimayi kuti asamavutike ndi mitundu ina yakugonana. Mwachidziwitso ndimadziwa azimayi ambiri, ambiri omwe amakumana ndi zovuta kuchokera kuzinthu zingapo, kuphatikiza kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator. Ndili ndi zambiri kuchokera pazitsanzo zosavuta zomwe zimawonetsa azimayi omwe ali ndi vuto losiyanasiyana kuchokera kuzinthu zosiyanasiyana, kuphatikiza kugwiritsa ntchito vibrator.
Ndimaganizirabe koma sindingathe kutsimikizira - kuti nthawi iliyonse pamene anthu amadalira njira imodzi yokha yotulutsira pakapita nthawi kuti azolowere kukondoweza. Izi zitha kutanthauza kuti, akapatsidwa chilimbikitso chatsopano (kapena chakale chomwe sanadalire kanthawi kena) kuti abwererenso m'chiyimbocho kuti akakhale nawo pachimake. Mayankho atha kukhala pang'onopang'ono ndikulimbikitsa kwatsopano (kapena kwakale, kosagwiritsidwa ntchito) koma sizitanthauza kuti zapita. Sindikuganiza kuti izi zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi ma vibrator. Apanso, mwachisawawa, ndaziwona izi nthawi zambiri ndi azimayi kapena abambo omwe, mwachitsanzo, amakhala ndi ziphuphu kuchokera kumaliseche nthawi zonse koma sanalandirepo mkamwa nthawi zonse, kapena zaka zambiri, kenako matupi awo kapena malingaliro awo amaphunzira kapena “kuphunzira ”Momwe angadzimverere pamasom'pamaso ngati ayamba kuchita nawo. Sindikuganiza kuti kugonana kumaliseche kwawapundula ku zovuta zina. Ndikuganiza kuti nthawi zina anthu amangodziwa zizolowezi zina ndi mayankho okhudzana nawo.
Wogonana ndi E: Ndapereka zokambirana ndikukumana ndi magulu ochepa azimayi omwe monga ine ndagwiritsa ntchito vibrator ya 120v (plug khoma) kwa zaka zambiri. Timabwerabe mwachangu komanso mosavuta ndi anzathu. Koma sitingataye zotetemera zathu pachilichonse! Makamaka azimayi ogwiritsa ntchito nthawi yayitali samawoneka ngati amabweretsa mavuto. Koma timasangalalanso zolaula kotero kuti china chake chiyenera kukhala cholakwika ndi ife.
Wokhudzana ndi kugonana F: Chinyengo: Momwemonso malingaliro omwewo amagwiranso ntchito pazakugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pakati pa amuna. Amuna omwe amagwiritsa ntchito njira imodzi yokha yolimbikitsira kuti akwaniritse nthawi yayitali, mwachitsanzo, dzanja limodzi, pamalo amodzi, mwachangu komanso mothinana, ndi mafuta ochulukirapo, atha kukhala ndi mwayi wina Kulephera kugonana mukamayesera kufikira pamalungo mwa njira zina.
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