Othandizana nawo omwe ali ndi vuto amakhala ndi zovuta zawo. Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti lero pali thandizo lochuluka lomwe likupezeka.
Monga mnzanu wa munthu amene akuchira, udindo wanu woyamba ndi kudzisamalira nokha . Khalani olumikizana ndi anzanu ndi abale anu. Ganizirani masewera olimbitsa thupi, yoga, kusinkhasinkha, nthawi yochita zinthu zachilengedwe komanso zinthu zolenga zomwe mumakonda. Zonsezi zingakuthandizeni kukhala bwino pamene mnzanuyo akukonzekera. Magulu othandizira a onse awiri komanso omwe ali ndi vutoli angapezeke patsamba lino.
Zindikirani kuti zomwe mnzanuyo amamwa sizikukhudzani. Simungathe "kuchita ngati zolaula" kuti mnzanu akhale wokhutira. Zizoloŵezi sizingatheke "kukhutitsidwa." Ngakhale zofuna zanu zitakwaniritsidwa, kukondoweza kumangothamangitsa kukula kwa chizolowezicho.
Komabe , mutha kuthandiza mnzanu. Pamene okwatirana aphunzira momwe angagwiritsire ntchito machitidwe ogwirizana kuti atonthoze amygdala, gawo la ubongo lomwe limayankha mopitirira muyeso ku ziwopsezo zomwe zikuoneka, zimatha kuchepetsa kwambiri mantha omwe amadza chifukwa cha kuperekedwa, kusiya, ndi kuvulala chifukwa cha chizolowezi. Izi zitha kukhazikitsa maziko oti machiritso enieni athe.
Chofunika kwambiri ndikuchita nawo chikondi cha tsiku ndi tsiku monga momwe tafotokozera m'nkhaniyi: Njira Yaulesi Yokhalira M'chikondi . Onaninso Malangizo 5 Okhudza Kusiya Zolaula.
Mwamuna kapena mkazi wa munthu wochita zachiwerewere amene amapezanso zolaula amalemba kuti:
Othandizana nawo sali "obwezeretsa;" ndife "opulumuka". Sindinayang'anenso kwambiri mawu akuti "wopulumuka". Izi zimakhala zovuta kuti ndikhale ndi "wodwala khansa" ndipo sindikufuna ngakhale momwe ndikukhudzidwira.
Komabe, ndi chithandizo chotani chomwe ndimachimva, ngakhale kuti malo anu satulutsidwa, anthu omwe akufuna kuphunzira Karezza nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi machiritso ambiri.
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Icho chidzayambitsanso kuti zinthu zizikhala bwino, chifukwa choyambirira chimakhala chowongolera.
Komanso, phunziro ili kwa okwatirana a ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndilozikambirana, linkachitidwa ndi "anthu achikhristu omwe ali osamala" omwe amawafotokozera. Komabe, ndinapeza bwino pa ndalama zanga ndipo sindinali wachipembedzo, ndangokonda kwambiri zauzimu. Ndikupeza kuti ichi ndi mbali yofunika kwambiri yomwe wodwala alibe nawo okhudza anzake omwe amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Ndi Karezza info palimodzi izo zidzakhala zangwiro.
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ndi SPENCER T. ZITZMAN ndi MARK H. BUTLERUmboni ukukula kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumatha kusokoneza kukhulupirika kwa ubale wachikulire. Tinagwiritsa ntchito njira yoyenera kuti timvetsetse zomwe zimakhudzana ndi zolaula zomwe mnzanu amagwiritsa ntchito komanso chinyengo chofananira. Gulu lowunika mozama lomwe lidasanthula zoyankhulana za azimayi a 14 pazolumikizana-zomwe zimapangitsa maubwenzi awiriwa kukhala othandizira pamaubwino azolaula omwe anzawo akuchita. Imafufuza zovuta zitatu zomwe zimakhudzana ndi zolaula zomwe amuna amagwiritsa ntchito komanso chinyengo: (1) kukhazikitsidwa kwa cholakwika cholumikizira muubwenzi, chifukwa chodziphatika poyerekeza; (2) kutsatiridwa ndi kukulira kwa kulumikizana komwe kumadza chifukwa cha akazi kutalikirana ndikudulidwa kuchokera kwa amuna awo; (3) kufika pachimake pakuphatikizika chifukwa chokhala otetezeka m'maganizo komanso m'maganizo. Ponseponse, akazi adanenanso zakusadalirana padziko lonse lapansi zomwe zikuwonetsa kusokonezeka. Kuphatikiza pa izi, timakhala ndi chidziwitso chazithunzi zakugwiritsa ntchito zolaula komanso chinyengo chokhazikika muubwenzi wapabanja.
Pomaliza, tikukulimbikitsani kuti ogwirizana ndi anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo aphunzire sayansi ya chizolowezi chogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo . Ngati simukudziwa chilichonse chokhudza izi, yambani ndi nkhani yayifupi ya TEDx iyi: Kuyesera Kwakukulu kwa Zolaula.
Kafukufuku wowonjezereka akubwera wokhudza momwe kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumakhudzira kugonana ndi maubwenzi: Kafukufuku wogwirizanitsa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kapena chizolowezi chogonana ndi zolaula ndi zovuta zogonana, kutsekeka kwa ubongo ku zolimbikitsa kugonana, komanso kuchepetsa kukhutitsidwa ndi kugonana.
Ndikofunikanso kuphunzira momwe kusiya zolaula kungakhalire koopsa kwa munthu wokonda zolaula: Kodi kusiya zolaula kumawoneka bwanji? Ndipotu, anthu ena omwe amamwa mowa mwauchidakwa amakumana ndi zizindikiro zobwerezabwereza zosiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwa zaka zingapo, nthawi zina.: Kodi matenda obwera chifukwa cha kusiya zolaula (PAWS) amapezeka ndi chizolowezi chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula?