Mosiyana ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa, zozizwitsa zowonongeka zingayambe kuzungulira m'maganizo mwanu mutasiya kugwiritsa ntchito. Ndiye kodi mumatani pamene wina akuwombera?
Pansipa pali njira zingapo, koma choyamba tiyeni tikambirane za maliseche. Mvetseraninso pulogalamu yanga ya pa wailesi - Brett akufotokoza momwe mungathanirane ndi zizindikiro za zolaula komanso kupsinjika maganizo pogonana (pulogalamu #21)
Kanema waufupi uyu ali ndi malangizo angapo - Momwe Mungaletsere Kusuta Zolaula Mwa Kulamulira Zilakolako ndi Zokakamiza, ndi Truth of Addiction.
Ngati mukuyesera kumasula chilakolako chanu chogonana ndi zithunzi zolaula (chomwe chiri lingaliro labwino ngati mukufuna kupeza anzanu enieni akuukitsa, kapena kuti ayambitsenso thanzi la erectile), yesetsani kuchita maliseche (muyenera kutero) popanda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kapena zolaula. Izi zimapangitsa ubongo wanu kukhala ndi mwayi wofooketsa malumikizowo omwe akuyambitsa kuwomba.
M'malo mwake, ganizirani kwambiri za malingaliro akuthupi. Khalani ndi chilakolako. Tengani nthawi yanu. Sangalalani ndi malingaliro abwino akuthupi . Musaganize. Ngati muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito chithunzi, ganizirani za kukumana kwenikweni (komanso kwenikweni) ndi munthu amene mumamudziwa. Kuti mudziwe zambiri, onani Kodi ndingachite bwanji maliseche popanda zolaula? (ndi nkhani yomwe ili patsamba limenelo). Ngati simungathe kufika pachimake mwanjira imeneyi, thupi lanu silikufunikira kwenikweni kufika pachimake; zilakolako "zophunziridwa" zikukutsogolerani.
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Zambiri zokhudza njira zolumikizira mawaya zingapezeke pa Rewiring Your Brain . Kuti mudziwe njira zinazake, onani:
Komanso, nayi njira yochokera kwa membala wa forum, yomwe mungagwiritse ntchito pokonzekera kukumbukira zinthu zakale mtsogolo. Muyenera kuchita izi mukakhala chete. Kenako mutha kuzigwiritsa ntchito pamene kukumbukira kukubwereraninso nthawi ina.
Malangizo ochokera kwa membala wa gulu:
Ikani chidwi chanu pamtendere. Kungakhale malo amtendere, chithunzi cha chinthu chokongola ngati kulowa kwa dzuwa, kapena china chilichonse. Zilibe kanthu kuti ndi zenizeni kapena zongopeka, popeza ubongo wanu suuzanso kusiyana kulikonse.
Onetsetsani kuti mukuchita izi ndi khalidwe losewera, monga momwe ana amachitira. Tengani masekondi pang'ono kuti muchite izi:
1 - Pumirani kwambiri ndikutuluka. Pamapeto pa mpweya, pang'onopang'ono nenani mawu oti 'mtendere' mumtendere
2 - Tsopano taganizirani kuwona chinachake mwamtendere. Onani momwe chikuwonekera
3 - Mverani momwe zingamvekere
4 - Mverani momwe zingamvekere mumtima kukhala pamenepo
5 - Komanso muthupi: Pumani momwe munthu wamtendere amapumira
6 - Ndipo sinthani mayendedwe anu kukhala amtendere. Khalani kapena kuyimirira momwe mungakhalire mukadakhala mumtendere
7 - Ndiponso, nenani 'mtendere' kwa inu pang'onopang'ono, ndipo kumbukirani zomwe mumawona, kumva, kutengeka mtima, ndikukhala nawo.
8 - Bwerezani gawo 7 (kapena 1-7) kangapo kuti mulimbikitse kumva uku
Mudangopanga chidziwitso chomwe mungagwiritse ntchito mwayi wanu.
Nthawi zonse pamene malingaliro anu atulutsa zolaula, zisokonezeni ndikupumira, mutuluke ndikunena kuti 'mtendere' momwemonso, khalani olimba: Khalani kapena kuyimilira momwe mungakhalire mutakhala kuti mukuchita ngati winawake mtendere, puma ngati munthu wamtendere.
Izi zipangitsa kuti malingaliro anu akhazikike pamtendere. Mwina sichingachotse nthawi yomweyo zithunzi zolaula ngati 'mtendere' ulibe mphamvu zokwanira (ngakhale zimatero nthawi zambiri, kapena osafooketsa chithunzi cha zolaula), ingobwerezani mawu oti 'mtendere' kangapo kuti muwone chithunzi chamtendere, ndikukumbukira zomwe mudamva ndikumverera (ndikukhalanso thupi). Izi zikonzanso / kukonzanso malingaliro anu kuti muziyang'ana pamtendere m'malo mwazithunzi. Kumbukirani, muyenera kunena momwe munanenera pamwambapa.
Pobwereza mobwerezabwereza, chithunzichi chitha, kapena chimangoyambitsa kuyankha kwanu 'mwamtendere' komwe kulibwino kuposa kuyesa 'kulimbana' ndi zolaula. Kwenikweni, iyi ndi njira 'yobera' ubongo wanu kuti nthawi zonse chithunzithunzi chomwe sichikufunika chitulukireni, mumtendere, zomwe pamapeto pake chimatha chithunzi chonse cha zolaula.
Pomwe zithunzi zolaula zitha kupangitsa anthu kuti adzimenyetse pomwe akuyesera kuti achotse, kugwiritsa ntchito njira yomwe ili pamwambayi kumakupatsani mwayi wofooketsa kapena kuchotsa chithunzicho chonse chomwe chimakusiyani muntchito yochenjera kwambiri. Tikukhulupirira izi zithandizira!
Funso pa nofap / reddit. Lembani chiyanjano cha malingaliro
Kodi mungapewe bwanji zolaula mkati mwanu?
Ndalephera nofap kangapo chifukwa cha izi. Ndikuwona kupita patsogolo chifukwa ndimakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kuwonera makanema olaula koma makanema akale omwe ndimawawonera m'mbuyomu ndi omwe amandisaka nthawi iliyonse.
Sindikufuna kumveka ngati kamwana kakang'ono. Chifukwa chake ndikudziwa kuti yankho ndikulephera kulakalaka koma kulangiza mwachiwonekere sikugwira ntchito chifukwa ndimalephera mobwerezabwereza. Mbiri yanga ndi masiku asanu ndi anayi koma nthawi zambiri ndimalephera patsiku 2,3 kapena 4. Kodi pali aliyense amene ali ndi vuto lomweli? Ndipo munagonjetsa bwanji?
Ndatopa ndi vutoli.
Zomwe munthu m'modzi adakumana nazo pobwerera
Dzulo, ndimamva zosangalatsa.
Monga ndanenera patsamba lotsiriza, ndimasokonezedwa ndi atsikana, ngakhale ndili ndi bwenzi langa. Kwa zaka zambiri zomwe ndimakhala ndikuwonera zolaula, kuwona atsikana okongola sikungapangitse kuti ndiyambe kukalankhula nawo, kapena kungoyerekeza za iwo, koma kuti ndibwere kunyumba mwachangu momwe ndingathere kuwonera zolaula. Ndikuganiza kuti zikadakhala ngati kusuta ndudu nditamva fodya winawake.
Tsopano, ndikuganiza ndikumverera pang'ono pang'ono za atsikana omwe ndimawayang'ana. Zithunzi za matupi awo zimakhalabe m'malingaliro mwanga. Iwo akukhala olimba monga zovuta zomwe ndinkakhala nazo zolaula, kapena zamphamvu kwambiri. Ngakhale uku ndikulakalaka, sindingachitire mwina koma kuganiza kuti ichi ndi chinthu chabwino. Zowopsa, sindinawone kufunika kowonera zolaula m'masiku 18 apitawa. Ndimatseka chilichonse chomwe chimawoneka m'malingaliro mwanga. Zithunzizo sizimayambitsa chidwi chilichonse m'thupi langa, koma ngakhale zitatero, ndikhozanso kuziletsa.
Ndipo dzulo ndinazindikira kuti nditha kuchita zomwezo za atsikana omwe ndidawawona. Ndinawona kuti inali mwayi wowayang'ana kapena ayi. Ndipo ndidapanga chisankho kuti ndisayang'ane - chifukwa sindikusowa, palibe amene ayenera kulingalira za zithunzi zilizonse muubongo wawo. Tonsefe timafunikira kukhala ndi moyo wogonana wokwanitsidwa, ndizomwe timafunikira.
Chifukwa chake, dzulo ndimamva kuti ndikulamulira. Nditha kupanga chisankho: kuganiza, kapena kusaganiza, kuyang'ana, kapena kusayang'ana, chiwonetsero, kapena ayi. Sindikutero tsopano ngati malingaliro awa akhala, koma ndikuganiza kuti ndi malo abwino oti ndizisungire. Ngakhale ndikayambiranso, ndidzakhala kuti nthawi ina, ndimatha kuwongolera.
“Zobekera” si mtundu wokhawo wokumbukira zomwe zingachitike
Mnyamata wina ananena izi pamsonkhano:
Chinthu china chomwe ndachiwona pamasiku angapo apitawo ndi masabata ndizoopsa zomwe zimayambitsa. Mwachitsanzo:
a) Woimba pa wailesi akuyimba ndime ina (tiyeni tiwone chifukwa chachitsanzo mawu osaloŵerera "Tiyeni, tiye!"). Pamene ndimeyi ikundikumbutsa zokambirana zomwe ndaziwonapo pa zolaula, zochitikazo zimakhala pomwepo (lingaliro lokha).
b) Ndikumva / kuwona maiko ena, makontinenti kapena mazinda mumtunda wa TV / wailesi / intaneti ndi ... zojambula / masamba / zikumbukiro zilipo. Monga momwe mukudziwira, pali kusiyana komweku mudziko lowonetsa, mwina zinthu monga "Atsikana a ku Brazil", "Amdima Red Red" kapena chirichonse. Chifukwa chake, nditangomva ngati "Brazil", ndimakumbukira zochitika zina ndikuganiza kuti: "Hey, bwanji tsamba xy ...?!"
Zowonjezereka kwambiri, nthawi zina sindingathe kuzindikira ngakhale pang'ono. Mwachitsanzo, wina adagwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "Frau" (= German kwa "mkazi") posachedwapa ndipo malingaliro anga anali pomwepo: mkazi = zolaula, g-spot, squirting, orgasm ... bla bla. Imeneyi sinali nthawi yoyamba, izi zinachitika ndipo zinkandichititsa mantha ... Pa masiku ena, ine sindingathe kuganiza za mkazi wamba kapena yeniyeni, popanda kuganiza molakwika.c) Chodabwitsa kwambiri, ngakhale inenso ndikuyankhula zolaula, nthawi zina. Sindikudziwa chifukwa chake, koma kungakhale, kuti ndikuyendetsa galimoto yanga ndikuchita zinthu zopusa, ndimatsanzira mawu ena ochokera ku zolaula (zithunzi zolaula zimapangidwanso ngati kusewera, kotero mumakumbukira chimodzimodzi mdima, iwo anali kuchita ndi kunena. Mwinamwake ilo ndi mtundu wa chizindikiro kwa ojambula ndi opanga).
Ndikulingalira, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti, kuti muzindikire zomwe zimayambitsa ndikuziletsa. Inde, kuphatikizapo zokambirana zapakati pawiri komanso nkhani yolaula yopusa. Zomwe ndikukumana nazo, makamaka makhalidwe awiriwa amachepetsedwa pa nkhani ya masiku a 7, chomwe ndi chinthu chabwino.