Wakale wa 28 amachiritsa matenda ake osapitirira malire.
Kuyambira pamene nkhaniyi inalembedwa, chidziwitso cha nkhaniyi chawonjezeka. Davy Rothbart, yemwe amalembera magazini ya New York , anavomereza kuti anali kunyengezera kuti wafika pachimake—chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito kwambiri zolaula. Posakhalitsa, woulutsa nkhani pa TV Joy Behar adapanga pulogalamu yokambirana momwe zolaula pa intaneti zingachepetsere chilakolako chogonana komanso kuziziritsa miyoyo ya okwatirana. ( Onani chithunzithunzi ) Posachedwapa, ofufuza aku Italy (ofufuza amuna 28,000 aku Italy) adalengeza kuti anyamata akukumana ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana omwe amawalepheretsa kugonana chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwa nthawi yayitali.
"Pamene Zithunzi Zimakwera, Machitidwe Akutha?”Adanenanso kuti amuna anali kunena zakusokonekera kwa erectile pankhani yogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti-ngakhale ali ndi zaka makumi awiri. Yankho lake linali lodabwitsa. Nkhaniyo yawerengedwa makumi masauzande, ndipo ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ambiri atsimikizira kuti alidi ndi vuto la kuthekera kwa erectile. Zikuwoneka kuti kuseweretsa maliseche "sizinali momwe zimakhalira kale." Mavidiyo aulere, otsatsira, opatsa chidwi ndizosangalatsa posachedwa, komanso modabwitsa.
Vuto silili m'mabowo a owonera omwe ali ndi thanzi labwino, koma m'mabowo a mphotho muubongo wawo—ndipo palibe njira yofulumira yothetsera vutoli. Kuzindikira dopamine m'mabowo a mphotho ndikofunikira kwambiri pakuchita bwino kwa kugonana, ndipo kukondoweza kwambiri kumawoneka kuti kumafooketsa kuyankha kwa dopamine kwa ubongo wambiri . Kuti ubongo ubwerere mwakale, umafunika nthawi yoti uyambenso popanda kukondoweza kwambiri.
Tsoka ilo, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ambiri sazindikira zomwe zikuchitika mpaka vutoli likhale lalikulu kwambiri, chifukwa mwachibadwa amakonda "kuthetsa" ulesi uliwonse wa erectile ndi zolaula zowopsa kwambiri (motero kukakamiza kutulutsa dopamine kumafunikira kuti akwaniritse erection, komanso Kuchepetsa chidwi cham'maganizo ndikumvera kwawo pakugonana). Odwala ena mwachilengedwe amayamba kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, osazindikira kuti akungobisa vuto lomwe angadzichiritse okha. Mwachitsanzo, nazi ndemanga za munthu zaulendo wake wobwerera ku thanzi la erectile:
[Sabata lachitatu lopanda zolaula, kuseweretsa maliseche kapena kuseweretsa maliseche] Kwa zaka zambiri, ndimayang'ana zolaula ndipo ndimadziseweretsa maliseche kangapo patsiku, kuyambira ndili kusukulu ya sekondale. Ku yunivesite, ndinali munthu wokonda makompyuta wokhala ndi magalasi komanso wopanda moyo wocheza ndi anthu, ngakhale kuti ndinkasewera masewera ambiri. Ndinkakhala m'chipinda changa ndikuwerenga, kusewera gitala kapena kuseweretsa maliseche. Ndinali waluso kwambiri pazinthu zonsezi.
Ndinapeza ntchito ya IT, ndipo ndikangakwanitsa kugula intaneti yanga, zipata zosefukira zinatseguka. Ndikulephera kupeza zolaula za 24/7, ndimakhala mpaka 4 m'mawa ndikudzuka masana. Miyezi ingapo ndimakhala ndikudya kwambiri kotero kuti ndidapitilira gawo langa la pa intaneti ndikulandila ngongole za $ 1000. Ndinkakonda kukhala ndi mawindo 5-10 otsatsira makanema otseguka nthawi imodzi, ndipo ndimangodumphadumpha pakati pawo, zomwe zimakweza milingo yakudzutsa. Izi zidapitilira zaka makumi awiri zoyambirira. Sindinali wokondwa konse, ndipo adotolo adandipeza ndi vuto la kukhumudwa.
Zolaula zidandichotsa pakanthawi kochepa, motero ndimaganiza kuti ndichinthu chabwino, kundipangitsa kukhala "wokhazikika." Ndinkanyadira kuti ndimatha kuyang'ana msungwana wotentha mumsewu osamva chilichonse chodzutsa chilakolako chifukwa zolaula zidandichititsa chidwi. Imeneyi inali njira yobwezera mphamvu yomwe ndimakhulupirira kuti azimayi anali nayo pa ine. Patapita nthawi ndinazindikira kuti izi zinali zowononga.
Zambiri zomwe ndidaphunzira kusukulu, pawailesi yakanema komanso pa intaneti zidati kuseweretsa maliseche, ngakhale zolaula, ndizabwino. Amuna onse omwe ndimadziwa anali mgululi, kotero sindinadziwepo kuti sizolondola mosiyana ndi moyo wachiwerewere. Momwe ndimadziwira, kuseweretsa maliseche kunalibe vuto, ndipo kuwona zolaula ndichinthu chomwe anyamata amachita nthawi zonse. Anzanga ambiri amaonabe choncho.
Pomwe ndidataya unamwali wanga pa 23, nthawi yanga yoyamba inali yoyipa. Ndinali wolimbikira, wamanjenje ndipo palibe chomwe chimagwira. Sindinasangalale nazo konse, ndipo ndikutsimikiza kuti bwenzi langa lakale lanenanso chimodzimodzi. Ndinkamukonda, koma ndakhala ndikuphunzitsa dongosolo langa lamanjenje kuyankha mwanjira ina kwanthawi yayitali, zinali ngati thupi langa silikudziwa choti ndichite. Moyo wathu wogonana chinali chimodzi mwazifukwa zazikulu zomwe tidasiyana patadutsa zaka zingapo. Ndinkangoyang'ana zolaula nthawi zonse. Tsopano, ndazindikira kuti ndimasokoneza ubale wathu, koma panthawiyo ndimamuimba mlandu. Anali ndi mavuto ake, koma sanayenere kuweruzidwa. Podziteteza, moona mtima sindimadziwa chilichonse.
Kuyambira pamenepo, ndimagonana, koma sindinakwanitse kumasuka ndikusangalala. Ndimakhala wamanjenje nthawi zonse, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi vuto lokhala ndi erection. Mpweya wanga wotsiriza unali m'manja mwa msungwana waku China wadzisisitira ndipo ngakhale pamenepo, ndinali ndi vuto losokoneza bongo. Anali wokongola komanso anali ndi thupi lokongola, koma zinanditengera nthawi yayitali kuti ndikhale wosangalala, ndipo anangotsala pang'ono kusiya. Ichi ndi chitsanzo chimodzi chokha cha momwe ndafupitsira-kutulutsa kuthekera kwanga kuti ndidzutsidwe kudzera munjira zachilendo.
Msungwana wotentha amatha kukhala wamaliseche ndi miyendo atayala pabedi patsogolo panga, ndipo ndikufunikirabe mtundu wina wamomwe mungalimbikitsire kuti mukhale wolimba. Izi zimandiwopsa kwambiri. Ndikufuna libido yanga kubwerera. Ndikufuna kumva kuti ndine wabwinobwino. Ndikufuna kulumikizidwa ndi dziko lonse lapansi ndikusangalala ndi moyo wanga. Ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti ndithawe, ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti zidathandizira kwambiri pakukhumudwa kwanga kwakale.
Chaka chatha, ndinayesetsa kusiya zolaula ndikuwona kusintha. Koma ndinali ndikuchita maliseche ndikuwerenga zolaula nthawi imeneyo. Khama lamakonoli ndi nthawi yoyamba kuti ndiyesere kupita popanda vuto lililonse kapena zokopa zakunja, ndipo ndikumva kuti ichi ndiye fungulo. Zikuwoneka kuti kudziletsa kwathunthu kumathandizira kufulumira. Ndikuwonetsanso kuti ndili ndi zaka 28 komanso wathanzi komanso wathanzi, ndipo zomwe ndimadya ndizabwino. Ndikugwira ntchito pafupipafupi. Sindisuta. Ndimamwa mopitirira muyeso kumapeto kwa sabata ngakhale.
Chodabwitsa ndikuti sizinakhale zovuta kusiya, nditangopanga chisankho. Kuwonjezera pa kupweteka kwa mutu komanso kugona mopanda tulo, sindinakhale nawo zizindikiro za kuchotsa anthu ambiri amatchula. M'malo mwake, sindimva chilichonse. Zili ngati ndilibe libido. Palibe matabwa ammawa. Palibe maloto onyowa. Palibe zozizwitsa zokha. Palibe zolakalaka. Sanakhalepo wamanyazi. Ndakhala ndi mwayi wogonana koma thupi langa silikuyankha. Ndikuphunzira maphunziro a tango, chifukwa chake ndimakhala ochezeka koma palibe chisonyezo cha libido yanga. Nditha kuvina ndi msungwana wokongola ndipo sindimachita chilichonse. Ndikudziwa kuti mtsikana ndi wokongola, koma sindimamva.
Chomwe chimandipangitsa kuti ndizitha kudziletsa ndichikhulupiriro changa kuti nditha kuyambiranso ubongo wanga ndikubwerera mwakale. Koma ndizokhumudwitsa.
[Patapita milungu isanu ndi umodzi] Sabata ino ndi nthawi yosinthira kwambiri pakuchira kwanga. Ndisanapitirire, ndiyenera kufotokoza za mtsikana wa kuvina kwa tango. Ndi wamtali, maso obiriwira (ndimakonda maso obiriwira), thupi labwino, komanso wozizira kwambiri. Ndi wanzeru kwambiri komanso wodzichepetsa ndipo amatha kukambirana za zinthu zambiri. Amangofuna kusangalala, zomwe ndi zomwe ndikufunika pakali pano.
Ndikuganiza kuti nditha kunena kuti chilakolako changa chabwerera, koma panali milungu isanu ndi itatu yopanda zolaula, kudziseweretsa maliseche kapena kugonana , komanso maloto ochepa. Cholinga changa chinali kufika pamalo olowa m'maloto, monga chizindikiro chakuti thupi langa layamba kuchita bwino. Sindinafikepo. Sabata yatha, ndinakumana ndi mtsikana waku Thai yemwe ankandisisita. Mbali yanga ina imafuna kuti ndikanadikira, chifukwa chongofuna kudziwa nthawi yomwe zikanatenga. Koma cholinga changa ndikukhalanso ndi moyo wathanzi wogonana, osati maloto olowa m'maloto.
Kupatula zomwe zidachitikazi, kunali kudziletsa komweko. [Nditagonana ndi msungwana yemwe ndidakumana naye kusukulu ya tango], kunalibe vuto la erectile (ED). Ndinali wolimba popanda kundigwira pansi. Tinagonana kangapo, kotero nthawi yachiwiri ndi yachitatu ndimafunikira "thandizo" pang'ono, koma kunalibe ED wotero. Nthawi yachinayi tidadikirira maola ochepa, ndipo ndidayamba kulimba popanda thandizo, kungoyatsidwa. Chifukwa chake ndikuganiza kuti zili bwino kunena kuti ndikupeza zosavomerezeka, zosathandizidwa tsopano.
Ndazindikiranso kuti kugonana si magwiridwe… ndi za anthu awiri olumikizana ndikusangalala. Ndikuganiza kuti zitenga kanthawi kuti ndidziwe zopanda pake zomwe ndimaphunzira ndikuonera zolaula, zomwe sizomwe zimakhudzana ndi kugonana. Ndikudziwa zoyenera kuganizira tsopano; Ndinayesetsa kuti gawoli likhale lochedwa komanso lachiwerewere momwe zingathere, ndikudandaula komanso kukhudza. Chifukwa chake, ndikuganiza kuti ndi nkhani yanthawi yayitali ndikugonana kwenikweni ndi akazi enieni.
Ndikuganiza kuti tsopano ndikumvetsetsa zinthu: Mukakhala kuti simunadyeko kwakanthawi, ubongo wanu umayamba kutulutsa dopamine, zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti muzilakalaka chakudya. Awa ndi mayankho opulumuka kuti akulimbikitseni kufunafuna chakudya, kotero thupi silifa ndi njala. Mukakhuta, ubongo wanu umachotsa izi ndipo simulakalakanso chakudya. Ngati mumagwiritsa ntchito njirayi mosalekeza ndikudya chakudya, ubongo wanu umachepetsa mphamvu yake ku dopamine ndi zomwe zimayambitsa. Izi zimakulimbikitsani kuti muzidya kwambiri kuti mumve chimodzimodzi. Zolaula zimagwiranso chimodzimodzi. Zakudya ndi kugonana sizoyipa, koma ngati mumamwa mowa mwauchidakwa, mungakwiyitse kuchuluka kwamaubongo anu a dopamine komanso kuchuluka kwa ma receptor, ndipo ndizomwe zimayambitsa chizolowezi. Tsopano ndikuganiza za zolaula monga "zakudya zopanda thanzi za ubongo". Zakudya zolaula komanso zosapatsa thanzi zimawoneka kuti zimakhala ndi zotsatira zofanana muubongo.
[Ndemanga zotsatirazi zidalembedwa ndi bamboyu poyankha pempho la munthu wina kuti amupatse upangiri.] Ndikulingalira kuti kuthamanga kwakanthawi kumasiyana chifukwa cha zinthu zingapo:
- Ndinali nthawi yaitali bwanji mukuonera zolaula / maliseche (maola awiri pa tsiku, ndi zaka).
- Kodi zolaula / zokondweretsa zodziyeretsa zimakhala zofanana ndi zochitika zina (mwachitsanzo, kugonana ndi anthu enieni).
- Zomwe mumaonera zolaula zikukula mofanana ndi zokhudzana ndi hardcore ndi gonzo.
- kugwiritsa ntchito zina zothandizira kulimbikitsa kumverera (mwachitsanzo, masewero, machitidwe monga auto-erotic asphyxiation, etc.).
- Zinthu zina zomwe zimakhudza ma dopamine (zolimbitsa thupi, zakudya, zowonjezereka, kuvutika maganizo, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, etc.).
- momwe "zochititsa manyazi" mumaonera zolaula zili m'maganizo mwanu (makamaka "zochititsa manyazi", dopamine imatulutsidwa, yomwe imayambitsa vuto).
Kutengera zomwe ndakumana nazo, ndikulingalira kuti njira zotsatirazi ndi zomwe zithandizire kuti zitheke:
- Palibe zolaula, kuphwanya maliseche, kapena zachiwerewere.
- Palibe zolaula, maliseche koma palibe zolaula
- Palibe zolaula, maliseche, zolaula mwa njira zina (mwachitsanzo ndi mnzanu)
- Palibe zolaula, kuseweretsa maliseche.
- Kujambula zolaula, kusasula, osasangalatsa.
- Kujambula zithunzi zolaula, maliseche koma osati zolaula
- Kujambula zithunzi zolaula, kutsegula maliseche, kupweteka ndi njira zina (mwachitsanzo ndi mnzanu)
- Kujambula zithunzi zolaula, kuseweretsa maliseche.
Ndingaganize kuti kusiyana pakati pa njira zoyamba ndi zomalizira mu nthawi yowonetsera nthawi zingakhale miyezi 2-3 motsutsana ndi zaka 2-3.
N'zotheka kuti pamatenga zaka zochepa chabe kuti zolaula za pa intaneti zomwe zimakulimbikitsani kwambiri masiku ano zichititse amuna ena kukhala opanda mphamvu zogonana kapena zogonana. Kunena zoona vuto si zolaula; koma ndi kukhudzidwa kwambiri komwe kumayambitsa dopamine kulephera kugwira ntchito bwino. Munthu wina amene ali ndi ED analemba kuti:
Ndimapeza kukambirana pavidiyo vuto lalikulu. Ndikuganiza kuti dopamine "hit" ndiyolimba kwambiri ndi mnzake wothandizirana naye kumapeto ena, popeza akuwoneka ngati chinthu chenicheni kuposa kanema. Mapeto ake, ndidakhala ndi mavuto omwewo omwe ndimakhala nawo pa kamera omwe ndimakhala nawo ndi mnzanga weniweni.
Achinyamata ambiri omwe akufotokoza mavuto tsopano atha kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti patsogolo pa gulu, zomwe zingatanthauze kuti ndiomwe ali pagulu lalikulu kwambiri. Komabe, ogwiritsa ntchito mibadwo yonse ali pachiwopsezo. Amanena kuti nthawi zonse amatha kukhala ndi zolaula ngati "atha" zolaula zokwanira, koma sangathenso kutengera anzawo enieni. "Kusintha," monga kuwona mawindo XNUMX mpaka khumi osatsegula a zolaula, kumapangitsa chidwi kwambiri, chomwe chimaposa chilichonse chomwe makolo athu adakumana nacho mosalekeza - chomwe mwina chimafotokozera chifukwa chomwe chimasinthira ubongo wosafunikira chifukwa cha kutha mphamvu kwawo.
Mulimonsemo, chodabwitsachi ndi chenichenicho, ngati sichidziwika. Mwamuna wina anati:
Usiku wina ndimayang'ana pulogalamu yokhudza mahule; Ndinazindikira atsikana ena ochokera m'makanema olaula. Nthawi ina adati amatha kudziwa omwe ali ndi maliseche achiwerewere chifukwa palibe chomwe angachite chomwe "chingalimbikitse" mwamunayo kuti atenge. Taganizirani izi, ngakhale atsikana omwe amaphunzitsidwa bwino kukwaniritsa malingaliro azakugonana amuna ndi akazi sangathe kufanana ndi zomwe zimalimbikitsa zolaula, kuphatikiza atsikana ena omwe ali zolaula. Amayi “abwinobwino” omwe amangofuna zokonda zathu sakhala ndi mwayi.
Komanso pankhaniyi pali nthano yakuti kudziseweretsa maliseche pafupipafupi ndikofunikira kwambiri pa thanzi la kubereka. Amuna nthawi zambiri amazindikira kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zawo sikungatheke ndipo kumayambitsa zizindikiro zosafunikira, koma asocheretsedwa kuti ayenera kutulutsa umuna pafupipafupi. Chosankha chawo chokha chikuwoneka kuti ndikuwonjezera mphamvu ya chilimbikitso.
Ndipotu, nthawi yayitali, yosavuta, nthawi yowonjezera ingakhale yonse yomwe ikufunikira kubwezeretsa ubongo wa ubongo ndi ntchito yachibadwa.
(Onani zosintha za miyezi isanu za munthu uyu pansipa.)
Onaninso lipoti la 2013 la munthu wazaka 23, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti anali wamng'ono ndi zaka 8 kuposa munthu amene nkhani yake ili pamwambapa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti wazaka 23 anayamba kuthamanga kwambiri msanga: Ali ndi zaka 24 - ED akadali kubisala patatha chaka chimodzi . Malipoti ngati awa otsiriza mwatsoka akuchulukirachulukira.
Kuti mudziwe zambiri zokhudza thanzi la kugonana, onani Gary's Erectile Dysfunction and Porn slide show.