Lumikizanani ndi pepala lomwe lili pamwambapa
Monga momwe amuna omwe anasiya zolaula ndikuchira ku mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana panthawi yogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo akusonyezera, ED yoyambitsidwa ndi zolaula ikuwoneka kuti imachitika makamaka chifukwa chowongolera momwe amayankhira pa zolaula za pa intaneti osati anthu enieni . Mavuto awo sali chifukwa cha "hypersexuality." Ndipotu, amuna omwe amanena za vutoli - monga momwe pepala la 2020 ili likusonyezera - nthawi zina "hypersexuals" ndipo nthawi zina ayi.
Pali njira ziwiri zomwe abambo amalingalira kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zimayambitsa zovuta zawo:
- Kuyesa ngati angapeze ma erections ndi ejaculate popanda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Ngati sangakwanitse, koma mungathe khalani okonzeka kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, ndiye kuti atulutsa zolaula. Mwaona Mayeso a PIED kanema kuti mumve zambiri. Ganizirani izi kuchokera ku "Kodi Zithunzi Zolaula za pa Intaneti Zimayambitsa Mavuto Ogonana? Kubwereza ndi Malipoti a Clinic. "
Othandizira omwe ayesa kupeza mayeso aumoyo angafunse kuti, "ngati wodwalayo atha kukonza ndikukhalitsa (ndikufika pachimake monga angafunire) akadziseweretsa maliseche popanda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula za pa intaneti". Ngati sangathe, koma atha kukwaniritsa izi mosavuta ndi zolaula za pa intaneti, ndiye kuti vuto lakelo lingagwiritsidwe ntchito ndi ntchito.
- Kuchotsa zolaula pa intaneti kwakanthawi ndikuwona kuwongolera poyankha zakugonana, monga kafukufuku wambiri komanso pepala lina wanena. (Zambiri pansipa)
Kuti mudziwe zambiri zokhudza kuchiza zolaula, onani kanema uyu wa munthu amene wachira.
Pepala latsopano la 2020: silitiuza chilichonse chokhudza mavuto okhudzana ndi zolaula
Kampeni yokonzedwa bwino ya atolankhani (ndi Prause & Ley pakati) idapangidwa kuti "itanthauzire" pepalali kuti lifalikire anthu onse pamene lidayamba kupezeka. Mosakayikira, popeza olemba ambiri a kafukufukuyu ndi mamembala a tsamba lawebusayiti lolimbikitsa zolaula (lomwe limaphwanya chizindikiro cha tsamba langa , ndipo limalemba ma tweets ndikusunga kafukufuku wosankhidwa bwino womwe umatilimbikitsa kukonda makampani opanga zolaula), mabodza okhudzana ndi izi adalengeza kuti PIED sinatsimikizidwe.
Poyankha kampeni yokonzedwayi, katswiri wa za ubongo adalemba pa Twitter, akuwona kuti ofalitsa nkhani anali kugwiritsa ntchito, "bodza lomwelo monga kunena kuti galu wa Pavlov akadali wokhoza kutulutsa malovu (kumveka ngati mabelu!), chifukwa chake palibe vuto lililonse." Nchifukwa chiyani anganene izi? Chifukwa ofufuzawo sanayese bwino lingaliro lakuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumatha kukhudza momwe munthu amayankhira kugonana - osati mwa "ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" okha. Komabe ofalitsa nkhani amachita ngati kuti adachita.
Choncho, ngakhale kuti anthu okonda zolaula monga David Ley amanena kuti pepalali limapereka umboni wotsutsa vuto la kugonana lomwe limayambitsa zolaula (PIED), silitiuza chilichonse chokhudza izi.
Choyamba, PIED ndi kulephera kumanga ndi wokondedwa. (Mwa amuna ena, kuchepa kwa chisangalalo chomwe chimabwera chifukwa cha vutoli kumakula kwambiri kotero kuti pamapeto pake amazindikira kulephera kwa chilakolako ngakhale akamagwiritsa ntchito zolaula, koma zimenezo sizichitika kawirikawiri.)
Chowonadi ndi chakuti amuna omwe ali ndi PIED amatha kukhala ndi zolaula. Kupatula apo, kukondweretsedwa kwawo kumakhala ndi zolaula! Amatha "kulavulira belu," koma amathanso kukhala ndi zolaula kotero kuti amavutika ndi kugonana pakati pawo, kapenanso kupeza zovuta popanda zolaula. Ofufuzawo sanayang'ane zomwe zachitika.
Mulimonsemo, kafukufukuyu sanayese PIED. Anangoyang'ana momwe kugonana kumakhudzira poonera zolaula . Ndipo anthu onse omwe adaphunzira (MSM, kapena amuna omwe amagonana ndi amuna) anali ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula - ngakhale ofufuzawo sanagawane muyeso womwe adagwiritsa ntchito pozindikira izi muzolemba zawo.
Mfundo ndi yakuti anthu onse ndi olamulira anali kale ndi mwayi wowongolera momwe amayankhira pa zolaula . Anthu onse kapena olamulira sanapemphedwe kuti achotse kugwiritsa ntchito kwake kuti awone ngati ntchito yawo yogonana yakula (yomwe ndi njira yodalirika kwambiri yodziwira ngati PIED ikugwira ntchito).
Mwa njira, anthu onse omwe adatenga nawo mbali ndi omwe adawalamulira anali ndi mayankho ochepa okhudzana ndi kugonana. Taganizirani pepala ili: Kulephera Kugonana ndi Kutulutsa Mtedza Pasadakhale mwa Amuna Ogonana ndi Amuna Ogonana ndi Amuna Osagonana: Kuwunikanso Kwadongosolo ndi Kusanthula kwa Maphunziro Oyerekeza (2019). Linanena kuti amuna omwe amagonana ndi amuna ali ndi chiwopsezo chachikulu cha kulephera kugonana, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula komanso kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula (CSBD).
Ngakhale ndizosangalatsa kuti panalibe kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa "ma hypersexourse" ndi ena, zotsatirazi sizimanyalanyaza kuthekera kwa zolaula zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula.
Ngakhale olemba awa akukana, PIED ndi "chinthu." Mapepala asanu ndi awiri omwe adawunikidwa ndi anzawo mpaka pano awonetsa kuti odwala akasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zapa digito, zovuta zogonana nthawi yayitali zimachira. Pali maphunziro ena 32 ogwirizanitsa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndi mavuto ogonana kapena kukwiya pang'ono panthawi yogonana ndi okwatirana. Maphunziro okhala ndi zigawo . Kuphatikiza apo, maphunziro opitilira 75 amagwirizanitsa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndi kukhutitsidwa kochepa kwa kugonana ndi ubale. (Malinga ndi momwe tikudziwira, maphunziro onse okhudzana ndi amuna anena kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zambiri kumalumikizidwa ndi kukhutitsidwa kosauka kwa kugonana kapena ubale.)
N'zodetsa nkhawa, koma sizosadabwitsa, kuti Dr. Ley ndi ena anganene molakwika za PIED ndikupotoza zomwe zapezeka zosafunikira kukhala mabodza osachirikizidwa. Akulipidwa ndi makampani opanga zolaula kuti atsimikizire ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kulibe vuto.
Pepala latsopanoli "silingafanizire" kuyesa kwa 2007
Makampani opanga zolaula ndi wolemba nawo pepalali Prause ndi mnzake Ley akunena molakwika kuti pepala latsopanoli ndi lofanana ndi zoyeserera zomwe zafotokozedwa mu 2007 mu chaputala cha buku lolembedwa ndi Bancroft ndi Janssen (yemwenso ndi wolemba nawo pepala latsopanoli). “ The Psychophysiology of Sex., Chaputala: The Dual-Control Model: The role of sexual instrument & enthusiasm in sexual accent and behavior .” Wofalitsa: Indiana University Press, Mkonzi: Erick Janssen, pp.197-222. Ulalo wa chaputala
Komabe mapepala atsopano awa siali ofanana ndi zoyesa zakale, ndipo pali kusiyana kwake:
Kusiyanitsa # 1 - Kafukufuku wa 2007 adafunsa amuna omwe sanathe kudzutsidwa ndi zolaula kuti adziwe chomwe chikuyambitsa.
Choyamba, mosiyana ndi kafukufuku watsopano wa 2020, ofufuza a 2007 adafunsa mafunso achinyamata 50 (azaka zapakati pa 29) omwe mozizwitsa sanakhuzitsidwe ndi kuyesedwa kwa zolaula mu labu, ndipo adaganiza kuti kuwonetsa zolaula ndi zomwe zimayambitsa. Asayansiwo adafotokoza kuti amunawa nthawi zambiri amapeza zolaula pomwe amapezeka paliponse. Omwe akufufuza kuchokera mu kafukufuku wa 2007:
Pamene tidagwiritsa ntchito kapangidwe kameneka (ndi mitundu iwiri ya mafilimu ogonana, zosokoneza ndi kufunikira kwa magwiridwe antchito) pa chitsanzo chatsopanochi, komabe, tidakumana ndi chinthu china chosayembekezereka, koma chosangalatsa. Amuna khumi ndi awiri, kapena pafupifupi 50% mwa anthu 25 oyamba (zaka zapakati = zaka 29), sanayankhe ku zolimbikitsa kugonana (monga, kuuma kwa mbolo kosakwana 5% ku mafilimu osakakamiza; amuna 8 anali ndi kuuma kwa 0%). Izi, malinga ndi kudziwa kwathu, ndi chimodzi mwa maphunziro ochepa a psychophysiological omwe amuna adatenga nawo mbali omwe adasankhidwa kuchokera kumudzi - m'malo mwathu, kuchokera ku malo osambira, zipatala za STD, malo ogulitsira mowa, ndi zina zotero.
M'malo ena mwa awa, zolimbikitsa kugonana (kuphatikizapo makanema) zimapezeka paliponse, ndipo izi, pamodzi ndi ndemanga kuchokera kwa ophunzira za kusowa kwa zolimbikitsa zosangalatsa, zapadera ("niche"), kapena zolimbikitsa kwambiri kapena "zochepa", zinatipangitsa kuganizira za kuthekera kwakuti kuchuluka kwakukulu kwa anthu osayankha kungakhale kogwirizana ndi kuchuluka kwa anthu omwe akuwonetsedwa komanso kukumana ndi zinthu zogonana.
Kusiyana # 2 - kafukufuku wa 2007 omwe adatsimikiza kuti amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula anali oyambitsa!
Ofufuzawo adanenanso kuti, " Kukambirana ndi anthuwa kunalimbitsa lingaliro lathu lakuti mwa ena mwa iwo kuwonetsa kwambiri za kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumawoneka kuti kwapangitsa kuti anthu asamayankhe kwambiri za kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kuti pakhale kufunikira kwa zinthu zatsopano, kusiyanasiyana ."
Kukambirana ndi nkhaniyi kunalimbikitsa lingaliro lathu kuti ena mwa iwo anali ndi chidwi chokwanira kufooka kwawoneka kuti zakhala zikuchititsa kuti anthu azikhala ochepa kwambiri pa "vanilla kugonana" komanso kuti chiwerengero chowonjezeka cha zachikhalidwe ndi zosiyana, nthawi zina kuphatikizapo kusowa kwachindunji mitundu ya zokakamiza kuti awutse.
Kusiyanitsa # 3 -2007 kwawonjezera kuyesa kwachiwiri kochokera pazomwe zimapangitsa kuti azisangalala ndi zolaula zochepa.
Ofufuzawo adawonjezeranso kafukufuku wachiwiri kuti aganizire za chilakolako chochepa chomwe chimabwera chifukwa cha zolaula. Kuyesera kwachiwiri kudaphatikizapo makanema atsopano, aatali, komanso osiyanasiyana, ndipo kunalola anthu kusankha makanema okha. Komabe ambiri sanayankhe!
Tinasintha kafukufukuyu ndipo tinaganiza zochotsa zosokoneza ndi kufunikira kwa magwiridwe antchito ndikuyika ma clip atsopano komanso osiyanasiyana, komanso ma clip atali a kanema. Komanso, m'malo mopereka anthu omwe ali ndi makanema osankhidwa kale ("osankhidwa ndi ofufuza") okha, tinawalola kusankha ma clip awiri okha kuchokera pa 10, omwe adawonetsedwa kwa masekondi 10 ndipo omwe adaphatikizapo machitidwe osiyanasiyana ogonana (monga kugonana m'magulu, kugonana kwa mitundu yosiyanasiyana, kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi, ndi zina zotero). Tinalemba anthu ena 51 ndipo tinapeza kuti ndi kapangidwe kabwinoko, amuna 20, kapena pafupifupi 25%, sanayankhe bwino ma clip a kanema wogonana (kuuma kwa mbolo kosakwana 10% poyankha filimu yayitali yodzisankhira yokha).
Zoyeserera za 2007 zidayesa "otsika poyankha" payekhapayekha, ndipo adati: "ochita kafukufukuwo adatsimikiza kuti kuchuluka kwa mafilimu olakwika omwe adawonedwa chaka chathachi ukuwonjezeka omwe atenga nawo mbali ayenera kutchulidwa kuti samayankha."
Kusiyana # 4 - Kafukufuku wa 2007 sanayese kugonana
Kuyesera kwa 2007 sikunayese kugonana kwa anthu ambiri. Kafukufuku wa 2020 adayesa, ndipo adayerekeza gulu la anthu ambiri ogonana ndi anthu olamulira. (Komabe panalibe kuwunika kwa munthu payekha pazinthu zomwe zimayambitsa ED, monga mu 2007). Komabe, gulu la anthu ogonana ndi anthu ambiri la 2020 linali ndi mphamvu zochepa zogonana ndi zolaula kuposa gulu lolamulira:
Kenako olembawo "adalamulira" pazinthu zinazake zosafunikira - kuti agwirizane mwachinyengo mayankho a magulu awiriwa ndikupeza kuti maguluwo sanayankhe mosiyana. Zikuonekanso kuti ndi zodziwikiratu, poganizira za chifundo chawo cholimbikitsa zolaula komanso cholinga chawo chofalitsa nkhani zabodza.
Choncho, samalani ndi zolaula zomwe zikufuula zabodza . Ganizirani komwe kwachokera , ndipo yang'anani mosamala zomwe zapezeka. Monga momwe zimakhalira nthawi zambiri, nkhani zabodza zokhudza pepalali sizikuwonetsa zomwe zili mkati mwake zenizeni komanso zosatsimikizika.
Yakwana nthawi yakufufuza zachiwerewere zomwe zimayambitsa zolaula, ndikusiya kuzisokoneza ndi zolaula. Ambiri omwe amakwaniritsa zokonda zawo zakugonana ndikukonda zolaula sakhala ogwiritsa ntchito mokakamiza komabe amakhala ndi vuto logonana chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Zachisoni.