Kodi zolaula pa intaneti zimavumbula zilakolako zathu za kugonana-kapena zimawasintha?
Mnzanga wina wa "Psychology Today" Leon F. Seltzer posachedwapa amaliza mndandanda wazigawo khumi ndi ziwiri zokamba za intaneti komanso chilakolako cha kugonana (kutengera Ogi Ogas ndi Sai Gaddam's Maganizo Oipa Ambiri Biliyoni, 2011). Mwa iye gawo lomaliza, anachita ntchito yabwino kwambiri yowonetsera zoopsa za kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula pa intaneti.
Komabe, ndikuyembekeza kuti ayang'ananso malingaliro ndi kuwunika kwa Ogas ndi Gaddam potengera zoopsa za zolaula za pa intaneti masiku ano. Makamaka, ndikhulupilira kuti aganiziranso ngati Maganizo Oipa Ambiri Biliyoni amafotokoza zomwe akunena kuti ndi "chowonadi chosadziwika cha zokonda [zathu] zakugonana."
Ndizotheka kuti Maganizo Oipa Ambiri Biliyoni imapereka china chosiyana kwambiri: chithunzithunzi cha chandamale chosunthira cha mamiliyoni azomwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito, zomwe ambiri mwa iwo amatengera njira zamatenda zomwe Ogas ndi Gaddam sanaganizirepo. Izi ndizo kulolerana, ndondomeko ya thupi yomwe imawoneka kuti imakhala ndi ubongo pamene ikulowerera muzolowera-Momwemo wogwiritsa ntchito amakhala wopanda chidwi ndi zosangalatsa (osasamala) ndipo amafunafuna zambiri.
Mwachitsanzo, ena amagwiritsa ntchito kanema imodzi kwa mphindi zingapo patsiku. Kusanthula zotsatira zawo mphamvu perekani zambiri zokhudzana ndi zolaula pa anthu onse. Ogwiritsa ntchito ena amatsegula ma tabu 10+ pazowonera zingapo komanso m'mphepete mwa kanema pambuyo pa kanema, makamaka pofunafuna zachilendo chifukwa ma dopamine squirts ochokera zachilendo amapanga zomwe zimakhala ngati bongo muubongo. Zachidziwikire, gululi likhala likuthandizira mosagwirizana ndi ziwerengero zosaka. Kuphatikiza apo, monga tidzawonera kwakanthawi, zokonda zawo nthawi zambiri zimawonongeka akamatsata zachilendo momwe angathere. Izi zimachepetsa kufunika kwa deta yawo pofufuza zikhumbo zazikulu zakugonana kwa ogwiritsa ntchito onse.
Mwanjira ina, kusaka kwa mkango mwina kumachokera kwa ochepa ogwiritsa ntchito, komabe Ogas ndi Gaddam kapena owerenga awo akuwoneka kuti sakudziwa izi. Kuyesera kwa olemba kupeza mfundo zazikulu kuchokera pazofufuza ngati izi kuli ngati kusanthula malingaliro amomwe kasitomala amatengera kutengera kuti adayamba kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kudzera mukununkhiza kapena kuwombera. Momwemo, ndi ofunafuna zachilendo omwe ali ndi mavuto akulu kwambiri pazogwiritsira ntchito zolaula malinga ndi Ofufuza a ku Germany. Izi zikugwirizana ndi lingaliro lakuti kusintha kwa ubongo wokhudzana ndi mowa kumagwira ntchito mu ubongo wawo.
Palibe amene akudziwa kuchuluka kwa ogwiritsa ntchito masiku ano chifukwa chololerana, koma zikuwoneka kuti kuchuluka kwake ndikokwanira kuti zomwe Ogas ndi Gaddam adapeza sizimawulula zakuya, zanzeru zokhudzana ndi chilakolako cha kugonana.
Ndili wokondwa kwa Seltzer poyambitsa zokambirana izi. Kuyambira pamenepo Maganizo Oipa anatuluka, ndakhala ndikukayikira za malingaliro ake. Yankho langa ligawika magawo awiri. Gawoli likufotokoza za kulolerana. Chotsatira chotsatira chimalankhula ndi Malingaliro Oyipa ' kulingalira; ndiye kuti, zokonda zakugonana sizisintha.
Kusokoneza maganizo ndi zolaula zimakonda kwambiri
M'buku lake la brain plasticity, Ubongo Womwe Umasintha, katswiri wa zamaganizo Norman Doidge ananena kuti,
Zithunzi zolaula zimawoneka, poyamba, kukhala nkhani yeniyeni: zithunzi zolaula zimayambitsa zenizeni, zomwe zimapangidwa ndi mamiliyoni a zaka zamoyo. Koma ngati izo zinali zoona, zolaula sizidzakhala zosasintha. Zofanana, ziwalo zofanana ndi zathu, zomwe zidakomera makolo athu zikanatipangitsa ife kukondwera. Izi ndi zomwe ojambula zolaula amafuna kuti tizikhulupirire, chifukwa amati akulimbana ndi chiwerewere, mantha, ndi mantha ndipo cholinga chawo ndi kumasula zachilengedwe, zachiwerewere.
Koma kwenikweni zolaula ndizo zazikulu chodabwitsa chomwe chikuwonetsa bwino kukula kwa kukoma komwe kwapezeka. … Chikoka cha pulasitiki cha zolaula kwa achikulire atha… kukhala ozama, ndipo iwo omwe amaigwiritsa ntchito sazindikira kukula kwa ubongo wawo.
[Ndakhala] ndathandizira kapena kuyesa amuna angapo omwe onse anali ndi nkhani yofanana. Aliyense anali ndi chilakolako cha zolaula zomwe, pang'ono kapena pang'ono, zomwe zimamuvutitsa kapena kumunyansitsa, zimasokoneza mtundu wa chisangalalo chake chakugonana, ndipo pamapeto pake zimakhudza ubale wake ndi mphamvu zogonana. …
Ojambula zolaula akadzitama kuti akukankhira envelopu poyambitsa mitu yatsopano, yovuta, zomwe samanena ndikuti ayenera, chifukwa makasitomala awo akupanga kulolerana ndi zomwe zili. (kugogomezedwa kwina)
Chifukwa chake, wamwamuna yemwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kuyamba ndi zotchinga zamunthu wokonda kanema. Ndiye, pamene ubongo wake umasiya kuyankha iwo, "amapita patsogolo" kumakanema azakugonana, amuna okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kuyika, magulu achifwamba, zolaula, zolaula, zolaula (ngakhale amatanthauzira izi) komanso zolaula zazing'ono. Ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula achiwerewere komanso azimayi ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amafotokozanso zomwezi, zomwe zikuwachitikira iwonso. Mnyamata wogonana adagawana izi pansi pa posachedwa positi:
Ndikukhulupirira kuti ine ndinabadwira amuna, malingaliro anga oyambirira anali okhudza abambo ndi amuna omwe nthawi zonse adandipatsa ine, pamene akazi andipatsa ine pang'ono. Ndinayamba kugwiritsidwa ntchito pa zolaula pa intaneti ndili ndi zaka zoposa 20. Gay sex kwa ine ndi yachibadwa ndi yachibadwa. Komabe ndinataya chidwi pa nthawiyi. Ndinayamba kuchita chidwi ndi zolaula zowonongeka ndipo ndinkangowonongeka ndi kutuluka kwa mwana wamwamuna ndikuyamba kukhala ndi mwana wamkazi wamwamuna. Sindinkakopeka nazo zisanaoneke kuti zolaula zinkangopitirira. Mankhwala atsopano pang'ono ndi pang'ono adalowetsa anthu akale mu chiwerewere. Ndinachita mantha kwambiri, ndinayamba kuganiza kuti ndikhoza kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, choncho ndinakonza msonkhano ndi amayi omwe amapita kukayesa izi. Komabe, sindinali wokondwa kwambiri ndipo mkhalidwewo unali wolakwika kwa ine. Zinali zosiyana kwambiri ndi zolaula.
Ndinaganiza zosiya kuonerera zolaula, ndipo nditatha kuonera zolaula kwa nthawi ndithu, nditha kusangalala kuti mwana wanga wamwalira wapita. Kugonana kwa amuna okhaokha kwabwerera ku chizolowezi kwa ine. Ndikhoza kuwonjezeranso kuti panthawi yanga yolaula, kugonana kwagonana sikungandipangitse ine pang'ono, ngakhale kuti pre-opera transwomen ali ndi mbolo. Zingakhale ngati kufunsa munthu wolunjika ngati angagone ndi mwamuna yemwe ali ndi chiwerewere, zomwe ndikuyenera kuwonjezera ndi chinachake chimene chinandichititsa chidwi nthawi imodzi.
Zikuwonekeratu kuti zochitika zamtunduwu zokhudzana ndi zolaula sizikugwirizana kwenikweni ndi ogwiritsa ntchito kuwulula "zolakalaka zawo zazikulu komanso malingaliro awo osavomerezeka" (mawu a Ogas ndi Gaddam). Zolingazo zikuyenda mwachangu kwambiri. Ogwiritsa ntchito wamba amazindikira ngakhale izi zikuchitika:
Mapiko a Porn kwa maola 4-6 masiku angapo apitawo. Pa mbali yowonjezera, zinaonekeratu kuti zolaula zogonana ndi amuna ndi akazi sizigwirizana ndi kugonana kwanga. Atatha maola 30 + m'masiku ochepa a 5 akuwonera zolaula, zolaula zolaula zayamba kukhumudwitsa! Ndinayamba kufunafuna zinthu zina zonyansa komanso zochititsa mantha.
Ndiye chikuchitika ndi chiyani? Tiyeni tiyambe posiyanitsa kunyalanyaza ndi chizolowezi. Kukhutira (chizolowezi) ndikukhumba zachilendo kumamangidwa mpaka muubongo wama mammalia ndipo sizowopsa. Simungadyeko pang'ono (osakhuta), koma mumakhala ndi chidwi ndi chitumbuwa cha dzungu (dopamine yotulutsidwa ndi chakudya chatsopano, chambiri chambiri). Njirayi imadzibwereza tsiku lotsatira. Mwachiwonekere, chilengedwechi chimatha kusiya ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula kukhala pachiwopsezo chambiri chongotengera chifukwa chachilendo chimangokhala "inde!"
Kusiyanitsa maganizo, mosiyanitsa, ndi matenda omwe amayamba chifukwa chopitirirabe. Zosintha, ubongo wa thupi umasintha (kumachepa mu D2 mitsempha ya maselo) kumasonyeza kuti kumwa mowa kumayendetsedwa. Mosiyana ndi zotsatira zazing'ono zomwe zimakhalapo, kukhumudwa kumatenga nthawi kuti iwonongeke, mbali imodzi chifukwa imangirizidwa ndi ena osamvera ubongo wokhudzana ndi mowa umasintha.
Chilendo = dopamine
Pankhani ya ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, pempho lakupitirira malire ndiloti limapangitsa wogwiritsa ntchito kugonjetsa zenera zowonongeka za innate. M'malo modikira kuti chilakolako chake cha kugonana chibwerere mwachibadwa akhoza kuthandizira kukakamiza kokwanira kuti atulutse mankhwala osokoneza bongo (monga dopamine ndi norepinephrine). Amakwaniritsa chiukitsiro chomwe sichikanatheka, kapena chovuta kwambiri.
Tsopano, ubongo wake umadziwa onse zolaula zomwe zimamudzutsa, mosasamala kanthu za zomwe zili, ndizofunika chifukwa zimatulutsa "pitani mukazitenge" zamagulu amitsempha. Apanso, zonse zomwe amafunikira ndizolemba, zochititsa mantha, kaya zikugwirizana kapena zomwe amakonda. Chinyengo mu Maganizo Oipa ndi zimenezo okha Zomwe timakonda zimatha kumasula dopamine mokwanira mu ubongo wathu kuti tilimbikitse kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Palibe chomwe chingakhale patali ndi choonadi. Dopamine ndi dopamine, komabe iwe umayambitsa izo.
Chifukwa chake, kuchuluka kwa zolaula zodabwitsazi ndikofunikira makamaka chifukwa ndichizindikiro chachikulu cha chizolowezi, osati chifukwa chimafotokozera omwe ali ndi vuto lachiwerewere (kapena wina aliyense) zidziwitso zokhudzana ndi zikhumbo zawo zachiwerewere. Kuledzera kwakukulu, kufunikira kwakukulu kwa mpumulo wamankhwala am'magazi, mwa zina chifukwa zosangalatsa zabwinobwino sizikukhutiritsa komanso zikhumbo zazikulu.
Choyipa chachikulu, ngati wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amafika pachimake pachinthu china chomwe sichikugwirizana ndi zomwe amakonda komanso zomwe amakonda, koma zimatulutsa dopamine ndi norepinephrine wokwanira muubongo wake (chifukwa ndizosangalatsa kapena zimabweretsa nkhawa), ubongo wake nawonso umatha zolimbikitsa zatsopano mpaka kumalipiro ake oyang'anira. Nthawi yotsatira akakumana ndi chilichonse chokhudzana ndi matendawa, adzawapeza modabwitsa - ndipo othandizira masiku ano nthawi zambiri amamutsimikizira kuti wapeza chidziwitso chofunikira chokhudza "zofuna zake zazikulu". Ayi sichoncho.
Zachidziwikire, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amakwanitsa kukonza zinthu zawo mwa kuwona zolaula zawo m'njira zomwe amakonda (mwachitsanzo, mtundu womwe umawonetsa zikhumbo zawo zazikulu zogonana). Komabe, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ambiri masiku ano akuti zolaula zimakonda kukhala ponseponse pomwe ubongo wawo umakulira. Izi zati, zizolowezi zolaula zitha kukhala zosiyana kwambiri pakati pa abambo ndi amai.
Njira imodzi mumsewu?
Omwe akukwera pamtunda nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mantha kudziwa kuti sangathenso kufikira zomwe amakonda kale. Zachisoni, momwe zimawasowetsa mtendere (zosankha zawo) zolaula, zosankhazo zimatha kukhala zowopsa, chifukwa cha mankhwala am'magazi omwe amamasulidwa ndi nkhawa zawo pazomwe amawonera.
Nthawi zambiri samazindikira kuti ubongo wawo ukadatha msana ukhoza kudzisintha wokha - potero umabwezeretsa ma dopamine receptors ndi kuyankha kwawo kuzomwe amakonda kale. Chifukwa chiyani? Amayesetsa kusiya kuseweretsa maliseche ngakhale kwa milungu ingapo, gawo lina chifukwa akafuna kuletsa libido ikhoza kusiya mochititsa mantha ndipo sakudziwa kuti ndi zotsatira zazing'ono zobwezeretsa ubongo wawo kuti ukhale bwino. Mawu pamsewu ndi, "gwiritsani ntchito kapena mutaye," ndipo popeza ambiri ataya kale mojo wawo chifukwa chakuwonjezera, akuwopa kuti asiye.
Mwachidule, vuto la ogwiritsira ntchitowa si ufulu wochita zilakolako zawo zakuya, koma zokonda zakunja, zomwe makamaka zimachokera ku kusintha kosasinthika kwa matenda a m'magazi mosayembekezeka kubweretsedwa ndi ogwiritsa ntchito.
Izi zikuchitika mwanjira ina chifukwa cha kusanthula kopanda tanthauzo komwe, kunena zowona, kusokeretsa koopsa, osanenapo zomwe zitha kupweteketsa mtima, kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula omwe agwera poterera:
- Izi zimatanthauza kuti iwo alibe mphamvu pa zosintha zawo.
- Zimasokoneza chidwi chawo pazinthu za sayansi zokhudzana ndi chizoloŵezi cha mankhwala osokoneza bongo, zomwe zimafunikira kumvetsetsa zochitika zawo ndikuwongolera zotsatira zomwe akufuna.
- Zimawalimbikitsa kunyalanyaza, kapena kuvomereza ndikutsatira, zokonda zawo zomwe zikuwonjezeka ngati zathanzi, pomwe ali, kwa ogwiritsa ntchito ambiri masiku ano, zizindikiritso zamatenda okhazikika: chizolowezi chamakhalidwe.
Kuledzera "Kukhazikika"
Seltzer analemba kuti:
Chimodzi mwa zinthu zothandiza kwambiri zomwe Maganizo Oipa Ambiri Biliyoni kukwaniritsa ndikumangika zokonda zambiri za kugonana zomwe mpaka pano zikukukhudzani (ndipo mwinamwake anthu ambiri) ngati zopanda pake. Mwachiwonekere, kufalikira kwowonjezereka, ndikovuta kwambiri kungozisiya ngati "wodwala"-makamaka ngati pali zifukwa zamaganizo ndi zamoyo zomwe zimafotokozera mogwira mtima.
Nanga bwanji ngati zina mwazomwe zimatchedwa kuti 'zopatuka' zimangokhala chifukwa chakuledzera komanso kulolerana (kufunikira kolimbikitsidwa mwamphamvu)? Ngati anthu okwanira akumana ndi umboni wamatenda atha kukhala chizolowezi, koma sizitanthauza kuti machitidwe awo si "odwala"
Miliri yoledzera idachitikapo kale m'mbiri ya anthu ndipo sizinapangitse kuti zizolowezi zomwe zidalembedwa "zachilendo" kutanthauza "opanda matenda." Mwachitsanzo, pakati pa zaka za m'ma 18, mbali zina za mkati mwa London zinavutika ndi mliri woyamba wa misala padziko lapansi zauchidakwa. Ndipo mkati Compass of Pleasure David Linden akunena za chizoloŵezi chofuna kutulutsa ether yotsika mtengo ku Ireland mu 1880s.
Pankhani ya zolaula pa intaneti, kodi ndi nzeru kuganiza kuti zomwe tikufunika kudziwa ndikuti zokonda ndi "zabwinobwino" kapena "zopatuka"-kumayankha yankho lathu pa ziwerengero mmalo mokhala ndi zamoyo? Kodi tikuyankhira funso loyenerera ngati tinyalanyaza kuti mwina zolaula za morphing zimakhala ndi mphotho yambiri yomwe ikuyendetsedwe pofufuza njira yokhudzana ndi matenda osokoneza bongo ngakhale zili zotani?
Kupititsa patsogolo injini: Umboni wakuti zolaula sizidakhala zachilendo
Chodabwitsa kwambiri, owerenga omwe amasiya zolaula zonse za pa Intaneti ndikulola ubongo wawo kuti ubwerere ku chidziwitso chodziwikiratu kawirikawiri kudziwa kuti iwo sanali pamsewu umodzi pamtunda. Zolaula zawo zimayamba kuchepa-mochititsa chidwi, mwachitsulo chobwezeretsa-njira yonse yobwereranso kukonda kwawo koyambirira. Mwachitsanzo, kugonana kwenikweni ndi abwenzi awo nthawi zambiri imadzutsa (kachiwiri).
Njirayi si yosavuta. Izi zimaphatikizapo zoipa zizindikiro za kuchotsa, maumboni okhumudwitsa, ndipo nthawi zambiri amatenga "libido mosabisa." Koma, kwa ambiri, imabwezeretsanso zilakolako zawo zenizeni zakugonana, zomwe zolaula zawo sizigwiritsanso ntchito. Munthu wina anati:
Ndinkakonda kutsegulidwa ndi chilichonse chachikazi ndili ndi 13, koma izi zidasintha pomwe ndimayang'ana zolaula zambiri. Ndinayamba kuda nkhawa zanga zogonana chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti ndinali wolunjika kutengera mbiri, koma nthawi yomweyo sindinayankhe pazinthu zakale. Nthawi zina ndikakhala womasuka kapena woledzera, ndimayankha monga momwe ndimachitira ndili mwana. Zinali zosokoneza kwambiri chifukwa sindinakhalepo ndi malingaliro kapena zilakolako zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kupatsa maliseche zolaula kwathetsa kukayika kulikonse, chifukwa tsopano libido yanga ili pafupi kwambiri kuthana nayo. Ndimvera kwambiri akazi, ndipo ndimayankhidwa ndi akazi ambiri.
Kusokoneza mwatsatanetsatane
Malingaliro a Ogas ndi mpumulo wa Gaddam pa kukhudzika kolakwika kuti zokonda zonse zogonana sizikusintha ndi kuti ziribe kanthu momwe zolaula zimaperekedwera ku ubongo wathu, zokonda zathu zidzakhala zofanana ndi zochitika zathu zachiyero, zosasintha.
Chifukwa chakuti kudandaula kwakukulu kudzera pa zolaula pa intaneti ndi kusintha okonda zakugonana, chojambula cha Ogas ndi Gaddam sichimapereka chidziwitso chenicheni pazokhumba za anthu. Kugwiritsa ntchito kwambiri deta yawo kungakhale kufananizira ndi zomwezo kuyambira nthawi ina, kuti njira yolimba yoyerekeza ikwaniritsidwe pakati pa anthu pakapita nthawi, ndikumvetsetsa kwenikweni kwa zomwe akumvazo zimamveka bwino.
Kuphunzira za chikhumbo chaumunthu kudzakhalabe mopanda phindu ndipo sizingagwiritsidwe ntchito kwa anthu mpaka akatswiri akuphatikizira ndi kuphunzitsa anthu momwe ubongo umagwirira ntchito, momwe umaphunzirira, ndi momwe zizoloŵezi zingasokoneze zokonda za kugonana chifukwa cha deensitization / kulekerera.
M'ndandanda yanga yotsatira ndidzayankha lingaliro lofunikira lomwe limalimbikitsa ntchito ya Ogas ndi Gaddam, zomwe ndi malingaliro akuti zokonda zathu sizisintha.
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