- Video by Malawi WathuZizolowezi zolimbana ndi zolaula sizitengera kugonana: SASH Conference, 2015
- ZOCHITIKA (2018): Phunziro limapeza Kusiyanasiyana pakati pa kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula ndi mitundu ina ya zovuta zogonana, ndipo ofufuza amafunsa ngati kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kuyenera kugawidwa padera ndi chiwerewere ("chizolowezi chogonana"): Magazini imodzi ndi yakuti zolaula zogwiritsidwa ntchito zingaganizedwe kukhala magulu a chiwerewere ngati chiyanjano ndi kukhudzidwa ndi kukhudzidwa sizowoneka ngati zowonongeka kale [monga momwe ziliri mu phunziro lino]. Nkhani yachiwiri-yomwe ingagwirizane ndi kugawidwa kwa zolaula zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pansi pa ambulera ya chiwerewere-ndi momwe zolaula zimagwiritsira ntchito (makamaka zovuta zolaula pa Intaneti) zingakhale bwino.
- ZOCHITIKA (2018) Akatswiri amanena lingaliro lokhazikitsidwa ndi physiology kusiyanitsa "omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula" ndi "osokoneza bongo": Tikukonzekera kuti tiyambe kufufuza pazokambirana ngati tsogolo lofotokozedwa ndi khalidwe lachiwerewere lingathe kudziwika ndi chikhalidwe chapamwamba chofunafuna ndi chisokonezo chodziwika bwino monga momwe bungwe la RDS linakhalira, pamene chigawo chokhala ndi zovuta zowononga zolaula komanso zochitika zogonana zimatha kudziwika mmalo mwa kuwonjezeka kwachidziwitso chogonjetsa chidziwitso cha zochitika zowonongeka ndi zopindulitsa popanda kusokoneza kwa madera a mphoto.
- ZOCHITIKA (2022) Phunziro limapeza kusiyana pakati pa omwerekera ndi zolaula: "Poyerekeza OCSB [okonda zolaula] ndi odwala omwe si a OCSB [okonda kugonana], zotsatira zasonyeza kuti odwala omwe si a OCSB amawonetsa kuchuluka kwa matenda opatsirana pogonana, chiwerengero chachikulu cha kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kukhala ndi nkhawa zambiri komanso kulephera kudziletsa.
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CHIKHALIDWE: Kugonana kwa kugonana kumafuna anthu enieni; Kuchita zachiwerewere kumafuna chinsalu
Kuyika 'chizolowezi cha zolaula pa intaneti' ndi 'chizolowezi chogonana' m'gulu la Sex Addiction Umbrella kumapangitsa kuti izi zisawonekere chifukwa chizolowezi chogonana chachikale sichipezeka kawirikawiri. Chifukwa chake, opereka chithandizo chamankhwala nthawi zambiri amazindikira molakwika omwe ali ndi zizindikiro za chizolowezi chogonana, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti asalandire chithandizo choyenera. Mwachitsanzo, achinyamata, omwe ali ndi thanzi labwino la zolaula omwe ali ndi vuto la erectile dysfunction amapatsidwa mankhwala m'malo mwa upangiri kuti achotse zolaula . Ena amachiritsidwa chifukwa cha kuvutika maganizo, kuzengereza kapena mavuto oganizira m'malo mwa chizolowezi chomwe chingakhale chifukwa cha zizindikiro zawo.
Kusiyanitsa pakati pa zizoloŵezi zolaula ndi kuledzera kwakukulu kumakhala kwakukulu, monga momwe zikuwonetsedwera mwazidziwitso izi:
Wogonana (wazaka 35): Ndimakhala wotopa komanso wotsika chifukwa usiku wapitawu ndimafuna kugonana osadziwika. Chifukwa chake ndimabwerera pa intaneti. Mkazi akuyang'ana kuti agwirizane mosadziwika. Amandiuza kuti ndibwere, ndiye ndimatenga makondomu. Ndikupita, amandilembera mameseji ndikundiuza kuti ndikatenge pizza. WTF? Izi ndizodabwitsa, koma chiyembekezo chofuna kudziwika ndi kugonana kwachilendo sichingafanane pano. Komabe, poopa kuti andibera, ndimamuuza kuti ndikufuna ndikumane naye kaye. Chitseko chimatseguka ndipo mkati mwake muli mdima wambiri kupatula kuwala kwa kompyuta. Sindingamuone kwenikweni, koma ndimayenda m'njira iliyonse. Akuti, "Tawonani zomwe ndavala. Zosangalatsa eti? ” Koma ndi liwu lakuya ... ndi wachinyamata! Ndipo SHE akuti, "Izi sizabwino sichoncho?" Ndikuganiza kuti ndingomugulira pizza chifukwa chokoma mtima ndikutuluka kumeneko. Kenako ndimamva wina akusuntha m'chipinda chakumbuyo. Ndimakhala wamantha kwambiri ndikunyamuka kunyumba, ndikusangalala kuti sindikuchita nawo seweroli ndikukhala ndi ndalama. Ndimangogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndikugona.
Wokonda zachiwerewere: Ndine 23. Ndidayesa koyamba kugonana ndili ndi zaka 18, koma sindinathe. Ndakhala ndikuseweretsa maliseche pafupifupi tsiku lililonse kwa zaka 6, nthawi zambiri ndimagwira mwamphamvu komanso zowonetsa zolaula, kangapo patsiku. Ndinagonana ndi anzanga anayi m'moyo wanga ndipo sindinafikepo pachimake ndi aliyense wa iwo. Mwachidule, moyo wanga wogonana wakhala wokhumudwitsa. Zowonadi, chibwenzi changa chomaliza chidatha chifukwa cha zovuta zakumangirira. Anandinena kuti ndine gay. Ndidadziwa kuti izi sizowona ndipo andikhulupirira bwanji ngati thupi langa silikuwoneka kuti limamukonda?
Wokonda zolaula (wazaka 25): Kodi ndizotheka kukhala osokoneza bongo koma osagonana? Ndikudziwa kuti sindingathe kuwonera zolaula, kapena kuseweretsa maliseche ndi malingaliro. Koma nditatha kugonana ndimakhutitsidwa kwambiri. Nthawi zina ndimakhala ndi moyo wopanda sabata. Inenso sindinachitiridwe nkhanza zaubwana, kotero sindikuganiza kuti ndikuthawa kukumbukira zakale. Ambiri omwe ali ndi vuto logonana lomwe ndimadziwa pamsonkhano wa SLAA nawonso amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Sindinakhalepo ndi chilakolako chomwa mowa kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ngakhale ndimamwa mowa kwambiri kamodzi kanthawi. Sindichita manyazi ndi zolaula zanga ndipo sindinachitepo. Komanso, a Patrick Carnes akuti chikhulupiriro chachikulu cha omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi "Palibe amene angandikonde ngati atandidziwa monga momwe ndilili". Ndikudziwa kuti sizowona chifukwa anzanga komanso anzanga amadziwa za zomwe ndimakonda ndipo sindinakumanepo nazo chifukwa cha izi. Inde ndili ndi mavuto mozungulira anthu ndipo sindine wolimba mtima, koma ndikukhulupirira kuti ndichifukwa chothamangira komanso nthawi yochuluka patsogolo pamakompyuta ndikuyanjana ndi anthu enieni. Zolakalaka zanga ndi njira yokhayo yopulumukira kuzowona ndikuthana ndi kupsinjika-galimoto yothandiza kwambiri komanso yosangalatsa kuthana ndi zenizeni. Kunena zowona sindimaganiza kuti ndine 'wokonda zogonana.'
Nazi njira zina zolaula zosiyana ndi kugonana:
1. Kugonana kumakhudza anthu enieni; Zizolowezi zolaula pa intaneti zimaphatikizapo chinsalu. Anthu osokoneza bongo amakhala ndi mapikiselo / kusaka / zachilendo zowoneka bwino. Mosiyana ndi izi, omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zachiwerewere amakonda anzawo, voyeurism, nyumba zazing'onoting'ono, zachiwerewere, zogonana zowopsa, ndi zina zotero; zolaula zitha kuwonjezera kapena kuwonetsa machitidwe ena.
2. Kukonda zolaula pa intaneti kuli ngati chizolowezi cha masewera apakanema kuposa chizolowezi chogonana. Nthawi zambiri sikulowerera m'zochitika zina zogonana. Ndipotu, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ambiri sangakhudzidwe ndi akazi enieni—ngakhale akazi omwe amawaona kuti ndi okongola. Kuyerekeza munthu wokonda zolaula ndi munthu wokonda kugonana kuli ngati kuyerekeza munthu wokonda World of Warcraft ndi munthu wokonda kwambiri masewera a Las Vegas.
3. Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la zolaula pa intaneti nthawi zambiri amanena kuti akufuna chibwenzi chokhazikika, kapena, ngati ali ndi mnzawo, kuti akufuna kumuchita naye zachiwerewere . Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la kugonana amafuna anthu osiyanasiyana. Amakopeka ndi anthu atsopano osati ma pixel atsopano.
4. Zovuta zakugonana ndizodandaula pakati pa omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti. Sitimamva zovuta zakugonana pakati pa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto logonana.
5. Chizolowezi cha zolaula chikuoneka kuti chikuwonjezeka pamene mwayi woonera zolaula zothamanga kwambiri pazaka zaunyamata ukuwonjezeka, ngakhale kuti anyamata ena achikulire amanenanso kuti adayamba chizolowezicho atasintha kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti yothamanga kwambiri.
Mwachidule, kufunafuna anthu amoyo kumakhala kopambana, pomwe zolaula zimasowa zochita za 3-D. Mwakutero, zolaula zimatsimikizira "kugonana" kwa ogwiritsa ntchito ambiri. Kodi izi zitha kuchitika bwanji?
Zolaula pa intaneti: kwambiri zachilendo zachilengedwe reinforcer
M'zaka zaposachedwapa, mphotho zachilengedwe zopanda vuto monga chakudya ndi kugonana zaphatikizidwa ndi achibale ena osazolowereka . Anthu onyenga awa amakumana ndi zinthu zomwezo zomwe zimayambitsa ubongo monga mphotho zachilengedwe zomwe ubongo wathu unasintha kuti uzitsatire. Ubongo wathu wa limbic umakonda zimenezi —ndipo umakonda kunyalanyaza zovuta zake.
Mwachitsanzo, popereka mitundu yambiri ya zakudya zotsika mtengo, zokoma, komanso zama calorie ambiri, 79 peresenti ya akuluakulu aku America ndi onenepa kwambiri, ndipo pafupifupi 30 peresenti ya ife timakonda kwambiri zakudya izi (kunenepa kwambiri), ngakhale kuti zotsatira zake zimakhala zoipa mwakuthupi, pagulu komanso m'maganizo. "Addicted" ndi mawu azachipatala pano, osati fanizo. Zimatanthauza kuti ubongo wa munthu wasintha mofanana ndi momwe munthu wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo amachitira.
Zolimbikitsa kugonana nazonso zasintha. Kwa zaka zosachepera theka la khumi ndi ziwiri, anthu omwe ali ndi intaneti yothamanga kwambiri akhala akugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zaulere komanso zatsopano pa intaneti. Monga zakudya zopanda thanzi masiku ano, ndizosangalatsa kwambiri m'mbiri ya anthu. Zotsatira zake? Mwa anyamata achichepere, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumafanana ndi kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti. Zoonadi, deta yofufuza yomwe idasonkhanitsidwa zaka 5 zapitazo idavumbulutsa kale kuti amuna 9 mwa 10 azaka za koleji (ndi pafupifupi gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu a akazi) anali kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti. Mitundu yakale ya chiopsezo cha chizolowezi imachokera ku zinthu, osati pa zakudya ndi kugonana kwa masiku ano, kotero akatswiri ambiri amaphunzitsidwabe kuti zizolowezi zonse zogonana ndizosowa.
Koma ngati ma forum a pa intaneti ndi chizindikiro chilichonse, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano akudandaula kwambiri kuti (1) sangathe kusiya kuonera, ndipo (2) izi zikusokoneza chitukuko chawo cha luso logonana komanso kukwatirana. Palibe amene akudziwa kuti ndi angati mwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti masiku ano omwe akuyamba kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, koma chiwerengero cha achinyamata omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chogwiritsa ntchito intaneti chikukwera. Kafukufuku wa ku Hungary posachedwapa adanena kuti m'modzi mwa achinyamata asanu ali kale ndi chizolowezi. (Ubongo wa achinyamata ukuwonetsa kusintha kofanana ndi chizolowezi .)
Ndinazindikira kuti ndingathe kufika pamlingo woti ndifike pachimake pongofuna kuona zinthu zochititsa chidwi—popanda kugwiritsa ntchito dzanja langa konse. Maganizo anga anasinthidwa kuti ndizidalira zithunzi zoopsa zomwe maso anga ankandipatsa kuti ndizisangalatse. —Wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti
Kodi zolaula za pa intaneti zitha kupitirira kuchuluka kwa kunenepa kwambiri m'magulu ena pano popeza zolaula zapaintaneti zikufalikira kuposa china chilichonse chothandizira kupatula zakudya zopanda pake? Mwina. Kupatula apo, ubongo mwachilengedwe umatulutsa dopamine yochulukirapo kuposa momwe amachitira pakudya. (Kutulutsidwa kwa Dopamine panthawi yogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti sikunayesedwe, pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana ndi zina.) Komanso, pali malire pamankhwala ogwiritsira ntchito, koma palibe owonera zolaula. Komanso, ngakhale palibe amene akufuna kunenepa, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumakhala kovomerezeka pakati pa anthu tsiku lililonse.
Chifukwa chiyani kuzolowera zolaula sikungokhala "chizolowezi chogonana?"
"Chizolowezi chogonana" chikuwoneka chachilendo. Dr. Carnes adaziwerenga kwazaka zambiri. Ntchito yake ikuwulula kuti iwo omwe, monga ana, adanyalanyazidwa, kuzunzidwa, kuzunzidwa, kugwiriridwa, kapena kuchitiridwa nkhanza kapena / kapena chiwerewere ali achichepere ali pachiwopsezo chokhala ndi chizolowezi chogonana (chomwe ndi chizolowezi chogonana mosasamala / kuwotcha / voyeurism ). Amagwiritsa ntchito kugonana ngati njira yodzipangira mankhwala kuti athawe, kuti athetse ululu wawo wamaganizidwe akumva kukhala osatetezeka komanso okondedwa osakwanira.
Anthu ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula omwe amayendera tsamba lathu nthawi zambiri satsatira izi, ngakhale amadzizindikiritsa okha ngati anthu omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chogonana. Mu chitsanzo cha Carnes, anthu omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chogonana omwe amachira amafunika zaka zitatu mpaka zisanu, komanso thandizo lalikulu kuti abwezeretse ubale wabwino m'miyoyo yawo. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, alendo ambiri amachira, ngakhale atadwala zizindikiro zazikulu monga kusabereka chifukwa cha zolaula, pakatha miyezi iwiri kapena inayi. Zizindikiro zosiya kugonana zimatha kukhala zovuta kwambiri, koma pamapeto pake anyamata ambiri amabwerera ku umunthu wawo asanachite zolaula komanso kuchuluka kwa chikoka.
Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto logonana amayenera kugwira ntchito molimbika ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala pachiwopsezo chogwidwa kapena kudwala kuti achite zinthu zoipa. Ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amangofunika kudina pazenera zawo kuti apeze njira yothetsera vutoli. N'zosadabwitsa kuti anyamata ambiri osakwana zaka zina amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, ambiri mwa iwo amakhala otanganidwa kwambiri, mosasamala kanthu za kuvulala kwa ana. Ubongo wa achinyamata (ndi akuluakulu) wathanzi umakopeka ndi kusakanikirana kodabwitsa kwa zolaula pa intaneti, zachilendo, zogonana, komanso kupezeka kosalekeza.
Ngakhale kuti wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwambiri sagwiritsanso ntchito malongosoledwe achizolowezi ogonana a Carnes, zolaula zimapitilizabe kukhala ndi chizolowezi chogonana ndi akatswiri komanso atolankhani omwe amadalira. Kuganizira zakumwa zolaula pa intaneti ngati "gawo" lachiwerewere (chosowa kwambiri) kumachepetsa kuwoneka kwake. Katswiri wina anatitsimikizira kuti popeza chizolowezi chogonana sichichitika kawirikawiri, kuchuluka kwa anthu ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, "ndikuchepa". Ah?
Tamvanso akatswiri akunena kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti omwe sagwirizana ndi momwe ana amakhalira ndi chizolowezi chogonana sangakhale chizolowezi, ngakhale ogwiritsa ntchitowo akukhulupirira kuti ndi chizolowezi. Akatswiriwa amanena kuti chizolowezi chogonana chimayamba chifukwa cha matenda ena (monga chizolowezi chogonana, ADHD, kuvutika maganizo kapena nkhawa za anthu). Zili ngati kuyesa kusokoneza chizolowezi cha masewera apakanema chifukwa cha chizolowezi cha masewera apa bolodi, kapena kusuta fodya chifukwa cha chizolowezi cha mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Izi zimabisa zenizeni ndipo zimasiya anthu omwe ndi chizolowezi "chabodza" cha zolaula panja.
Kodi "zovuta zokhudzana ndi chibwenzi" zitha kufotokozera bwanji zolaula pakati pa achinyamata omwe sadziwa zambiri? Ambiri mwa achinyamata ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amakopa okoma mtima. Amangodabwitsidwa ndi kuti ma penise awo amangoyankha zolaula osati amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Mwachidule, sagwirizana ndi 'zovuta zokhudzana ndi kugonana'.
Mwina chifukwa cha malingaliro osakwanira otere, kafukufuku wokhudza zotsatira za kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti akutsalira kwambiri kumbuyo kwa zenizeni zomwe zikuchitika pazochitikazo. Komabe, kale, "chizolowezi chofuna kusangalala ndi kugonana" ndi chofala mokwanira kuti chiyenerere nkhani ya TED ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Philip Zimbardo: " Kutha kwa Anyamata ."
Mwamwayi pa tsogolo la anthu, bungwe la American Society of Addiction Medicine posachedwapa latsimikizira kuti kuledzera kungakhale matenda oyamba . Ndi ntchito ya kusintha kwa ubongo - mosasamala kanthu za kukula kwa ubwana, komanso ngati munthu woledzerayo amachita zinthu zomwe anthu amaona kuti n’zovomerezeka/zosavomerezeka.
Mfundo yofunika: Chifukwa cha chizolowezi chogonana sichikugwirizana ndi chifukwa cha chizolowezi chogonana cha anthu ambiri pa intaneti (ngakhale kuti anthu ena omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chogonana amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso, ndipo ena omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chogonana ali ndi mavuto aubwana). Anthu omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chogonana amatha kukula chifukwa cha zifukwa zomwezo zomwe amakula nazo: (1) kumwa kwambiri zinthu zolimbikitsa kwambiri, (2) ubongo womwe mwachibadwa umaona zinthu zachilendo ngati zosagonjetseka, ndi/kapena (3) kuyamba kugwiritsa ntchito ali achinyamata, pamene ubongo umakhala wosangalatsa kwambiri ndipo umakonda kufunafuna zosangalatsa komanso zatsopano.
Kutsutsana "maliseche" komanso "zolaula" kumabisa zolaula
Akatswiri onse komanso achinyamata omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula amalephera kusiyanitsa "zolaula pa intaneti" ndi "maliseche." Akatswiri (mibadwo yakale) amaganiza zolaula pa intaneti ngati njira ina yothandizira kuseweretsa maliseche. Mosiyana ndi izi, mibadwo yaying'ono sadziwa kuti kuseweretsa maliseche ndizotheka. Amalumikizidwa ndi zachilendo kwambiri pawebusayiti ndipo zowoneka zowopsa nthawi zambiri. Ambiri sanachitepo maliseche mwanjira ina iliyonse. Talingalirani zoyesayesa zodabwitsa za mnyamatayu:
Patatha milungu iwiri nditasiya zolaula, ndinayesa chinthu china chosiyana kwambiri ndi maliseche osachita zolaula zomwe sindinaganizepo (ndimakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti). Patatha masiku awiri, ndinawonjezera zolaula ndikubwerera.
Zochitika ziwirizi zinali zosiyana kwambiri. Kugonana kokha kumasoko kunali pafupi kudabwitsa pamapeto, chifukwa ndinalibe chibwibwi, palibe kusintha kwa maganizo. Icho chinakhala kukhala kumverera kokoma, kokondweretsa.
Koma mwina zidayambitsa zolaula / maliseche, zomwe zimamveka ngati ndili pa DRUG. Chithunzi chilichonse chimasandutsa thupi langa kuphulika, chilichonse chatsopano champhamvu kuposa chomaliza. Ndimamva kuti "dope surge" yodziwika imayenda kuchokera muubongo wanga kudutsa mthupi langa. Ndimamva ndikumva ZONSE mwamphamvu kwambiri. Pazosangalatsa, zinali ngati mtambo wonyenga udandigwera, ndipo chilichonse chidachita dzanzi. Kumverera kofooka kumeneku kunatenga masiku osachepera awiri.
Kuthetsa maliseche komanso kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kumapangitsa kuti pakhale kulumikizana kowopsa. Timamva zochitika zotsatirazi mobwerezabwereza pamsonkhano wathu: Mnyamata yemwe akuvutika kuti sangakhale ndi zovuta zofananira amafunsira kwa urologist. Ngati angaganize kufunsa ngati kuseweretsa maliseche (mawu akuti "maola ogwiritsira ntchito zolaula tsiku lililonse pa intaneti") kumayambitsa vutoli, urologist amayankha, "kuseweretsa maliseche (mawu oti" kugonana kwachikale ") sikungayambitse ED (kapena chizolowezi chanu china -ngati zizindikiro), kotero china chake chikuyambitsa mavuto anu. Nawa mapiritsi oyeserera a Cialis ndikuwatumizira azachipatala. ” Mnyamatayo achoka, akukhulupirira kuti mavuto ake alibe mankhwala, ndikupitiliza kukulitsa vuto lake kuwopa kuti akapanda kuzigwiritsa ntchito ataya.
Akatswiriwa akunena zoona m'njira imodzi: Chizolowezi chodziseweretsa maliseche sichingakhale chosowa popanda zolaula pa intaneti. Zolaula za masiku ano sizimangothandiza kudziseweretsa maliseche. Zimalowa m'malo mwa malingaliro ndi ma tabu angapo, kufufuza nthawi zonse, kutumiza mwachangu ku malo abwino, malingaliro a wowonera ndi zina zotero. Ndi chinthu chosiyana, komanso chokopa kwambiri m'mitsempha , cholimbikitsa kuposa kugonana wekha.
Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano kumapitirira mphoto ya kufika pachimake. Amuna sachita maliseche mpaka kufika pachimake akamaonera kuntchito, akugawana makanema pafoni zawo, akuuluka m'ndege , kapena nthawi ya maola ambiri akusewera mafunde.
Chisokonezo chachikulu chokhudza zolaula chikuwoneka kuti chimachokera pamalingaliro olakwika, omwe amanyalanyaza mfundo yayikulu. Zimayamba ndikulingalira koyenera kuti maliseche ndi achilengedwe ndipo anthu samakonda kuzolowera. Zimapitilira poganiza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti sikungapangitse chilichonse kukhala ndi nkhonya zambiri zamagulu kuposa ziwalo zina. Amaliza kunena kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula sikungakhale kosokoneza bongo.
Nayi cholakwika: Kuledzera sikumalumikizidwa ndi kukula kwa dopamine. Mwachitsanzo, ndudu zimakopa pafupifupi 80% ya omwe amayesa, pomwe heroin imakopa ochepa chabe a ogwiritsa ntchito. Mwachionekere, dopamine imakhudza ndudu ndi yaying'ono poyerekeza ndi dopamine imakhudza heroin. Kukopa kwa ndudu kumakhala mu kuthekera kwawo kuphunzitsa ubongo ndi kupopera kulikonse (kugunda kwa dopamine). Chifukwa cha izi, mphamvu zawo zosinthira ubongo kuti ukhale ndi chizolowezi sizingayesedwe ndi mphamvu zawo za neurochemical. Mfundo iyi yafotokozedwa m'buku la David Linden lakuti The Compass of Pleasure.
Kugonana kumatha kukhala kofanana ndi chizolowezi cha heroin popeza pali malire oti munthu amatha kukonza kangati, ndipo munthu amene amakonda kumwa mankhwalawa nthawi zambiri amafunika kukonzekera. Komabe, zolaula pa intaneti zimawoneka ngati zogwirizana ndi kusuta. Chithunzi chilichonse chopezeka mosavuta, chimapereka phokoso laling'ono, lopindulitsa la dopamine, lomwe limaphunzitsa ubongo kubwereza zomwe amachita, osati mosiyana ndi kuwomba kulikonse.
Mwachidule, si kuphulika kwa mitsempha komwe kumakopa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la zolaula pa intaneti, ngakhale kuti kuphulika kwa maliseche kumalimbitsanso kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Chidole champhamvu kwambiri ndi chinthu chatsopano chomwe chimapezeka nthawi zonse pa zolaula pa intaneti. N'zosadabwitsa kuti, munthu akamayesa "kuyambiranso" ubongo wake, izi zimachitika kawirikawiri:
Ngakhale kuti ndakhala ndikulimbikitsidwa kwambiri pa zolaula panthawiyi, sindinakhale ndi chilakolako champhamvu chodzisangalatsa. Mwinamwake izi ndizofunika kwambiri, kuti ubongo wanga umasowa zolaula kusiyana ndi momwe amachitira ndi maliseche / orgasm.
Anthu omwe ali ndi zolaula masiku ano amafanana kwambiri ndi omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito makanema apaintaneti, chifukwa (kapena iye) amadalira ma mini-dopamine omwe amawoneka pafupipafupi kuchokera pazowoneka zosangalatsa. Monga masewera apakanema, zolaula pa intaneti ndizosangalatsa. Palibe chifukwa chofunira mnzanu weniweni. Amakhalanso ngati wokonda kudya chifukwa zolaula pa intaneti zimasokoneza chilimbikitso chathu chachilengedwe (kuberekana) pogwiritsa ntchito njira yolimbikitsira yomwe imagwiritsanso ntchito pazinthu zomwe timapanga mwatsopano ndi kufunafuna.
Wokongola kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi
Omwe amamwa zolaula samakonda kugonana; ali ndi zizolowezi zolaula pa intaneti. Sanaphunzitsidwe zogonana, koma zolimbikitsa. Nawa ndemanga za atatu:
Ndinadziŵa kuti ndinali muvuto pamene moyo weniweni atsikana ataima wamaliseche patsogolo panga sankandimenya, koma posachedwa ndinalumphira pa kompyuta ndipo ndinayang'ana zolaula ndinasangalala ndikugwedezeka mwamphamvu.
[Masabata nditasiya zolaula] Ndakhala ndikulakalaka akazi enieni kwanthawi yoyamba. Ndizachilendo, koma ndimakonda zolaula pomwe ndimakhala zolaula.
Ndikuyembekeza kuswa zolaula zaka 30 zomwe, mwa zina, zandipangitsa kukhala namwali wazaka 40. Ndinayamba kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndili ndi zaka 12-13, ndimakonda kujambula zithunzi zongopeka za akazi okhaokha (azimayi oyenerera / athanzi ndi / kapena ma boobs akulu), osatulutsidwa popanda zolaula, ndipo ndimazigwiritsa ntchito pafupipafupi. Ndakhala ndi mwayi ndi akazi angapo, koma ndinali dud wathunthu. Kumayambiriro kwa chaka chino, ndinali ndi vuto lina lochita ndi mayi yemwe ndimamukonda pang'ono, ndipo nditatha zaka 30 ndidaganiza zochitapo kanthu. Vuto ndilakuti, ndikuganiza sindinakhalepo ndi njira "zoyenera" zamaubongo azomwe zimakhalira kwenikweni kugona ndi mnzanu. Palibe ngakhale njira yakale, yodutsidwayo yoti mubwererenso; silinakhaleko. Ndine masiku 33 zolaula / maliseche kwaulere. Koma nditatseka msewu wanga wapano, ndimamva ngati ndazunguliridwa ndi nkhalango zowirira pomwe phazi silinapikepopo. Ndipo ine wopanda ngakhale chikwanje, ndikawona ngati ndikufunikiradi unyolo wa unyolo ndi bulldozer.
Malingana ngati chizolowezi cha zolaula sichikuoneka, ogwiritsa ntchito omwe ali ndi zizindikiro amakhala pachiwopsezo chachikulu. Ayenera kudzipezera okha zinthu, ndipo sizophweka kulumikiza mfundo pakati pa mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana omwe amabwera chifukwa cha zolaula (kapena nkhawa zokhudzana ndi zolaula, kuvutika maganizo kapena mavuto okhudzana ndi kusinkhasinkha) ndi kuonera zolaula. Kupatula apo, zolaula za pa intaneti ndi chinthu champhamvu chokondetsa chilakolako cha kugonana. Zimathandizanso kuti wogwiritsa ntchito azimva bwino akamaonera. N'zosadabwitsa kuti ogwiritsa ntchito amaika zizindikiro zawo pachiwopsezo china chilichonse, kapena amangomaliza kuti, "Ndili ameneyu."
Pakadali pano, ndondomeko za akatswiri komanso atolankhani otsogola akupanga maulendo a ambiri omwe ali pachiwopsezo chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kwanthawi yayitali. Kuphatikiza apo, iwo omwe amafunikira thandizo lochulukirapo, chifukwa amadzichiritsa okha chifukwa cha zovuta zaubwana nawonso akugwidwa muukonde wa "zolaula zilibe vuto". Kuphatikiza apo, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mapikiselo, osati anthu — ndipo ena amadzutsidwa mwankhanza pamene sangakwanitse, kapena kusangalala ndi kugonana kwenikweni. Kodi ogwiritsa awa akuyenera kudikirira mpaka atakhala osokoneza bongo kuti ayambirenso ubongo wawo?
Ndakhala ndikuvutika ndi nkhawa komanso kudzidalira kwazaka zambiri. Ndinkaganiza kuti zina zake zinali chifukwa cha PMO koma nthawi zonse ndimamva kuti zinali zovuta kusiya. Zaka zingapo zapitazo ndidasiya pafupifupi miyezi 3 ndikusangalala kuposa momwe ndidakhalira moyo wanga wonse. Ndinkacheza ndi anthu, ndinkacheza ndi akazi, ndipo ndinali wolimba mtima kuposa kale lonse. Komabe… pazifukwa zilizonse zosungulumwa… kapena chizolowezi… ndinabwereranso. Ndinayamba kuvutika maganizo kwambiri ndipo mpaka ndinaganiza zodzipha. Kuyambira pamenepo zakhala zovuta ... mpaka pano! Ndili tsiku la 21 kukhala PMO mfulu ndipo sindikuyang'ana kumbuyo!
Nditadutsa gawo la masabata a 2 ndidayamba kuwona kuchepa kwa nkhawa, kudzidalira, komanso kutulutsa mawu. Ndikumva ngati kuti ndikukhalanso wabwinobwino-monga momwe ndiyenera kukhalira. Azimayi akundiwonanso ndipo ndimatha kukambirana nawo moona mtima. Ndikumva ngati ndikulumikizana ndi anthu ambiri bwino. Ndikumachita bwino pamasewera. Ndikumva kukhala wamphamvu, wachangu komanso wakuthwa. Zili ngati kuti nkhungu yakwezedwa! Ndili ndi zaka 29 ndipo tsopano ndimamva ngati ndili ndi mphamvu zomwe ndinali nazo ndili wachinyamata. Cholinga changa ndikukhala PMO kwaulere pamoyo wanga wonse. Mphamvu yomwe ndimamva kuti ndiyolimba kuposa chisangalalo chotsika mtengo chomwe PMO imabweretsa. Ndikuyembekezera kukhala ndi moyo ndipo sindidzabisalinso. Kubwezeretsa kuwongolera ndichinthu chomwe chimamasula kwambiri chomwe ndidakhala nacho kwakanthawi.
Mutu: aliyense ali ndi chizolowezi chogonana?
momwe ndimayang'anirako, ngati mukugonjetsa kugonana ndikusangalala ndi zomwe mumachita, bwanji mukuimitsa? osati monga zolaula pamene mukuyang'anitsitsa pakompyuta. akazi anu enieni akutha! chikondi chomwe inu muli!
GUY 2)
Kunena zowona, monga munthu yemwe amakonda kwambiri zolaula kwa zaka zambiri zaunyamata wanga mpaka pano ndipo chifukwa chake, sindinayambe ndagonanapo - sindingathe kulingalira zomwe anthu amakamba pankhani zakugonana . Ndikuganiza kuti sindingathe kuziyerekeza panthawiyi. Sizikumveka kwa ine.
GUY 3)
Lol ine nayenso !!!
Pakalipano ndikuganiza kuti chizolowezi chogonana chingakhale chabwino koma ndichifukwa choti zikutanthauza kuti sindinachite zolaula zomwe zidapangitsa ED. Ndikulingalira komabe kuti zenizeni zitha kukhala zofananira ndi zolaula - kugonana kumatha kulamulira malingaliro anu ndipo nthawi yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito pogonana. Ndikulingalira ngati mutakhala pachibwenzi cha nthawi yayitali ndi munthu amene amakonda kugonana komweko ndiye kuti zingakhale bwino. Ngati sichoncho ndiye ndikuganiza kuti zikhoza kukhala ngati gehena.
Kungolingalira - ndizovuta kuti namwali ayankhe.
GUY 4)
zikuwonekeratu kuti zolaula zamasiku ano ndizopambana, ndizokonda kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti:
Ngati anyamata mukufuna kudziwa chinsinsi changa, sizinali zovuta kwenikweni. Laputopu yanga idathyoka. Zovuta, ndizo zonse zomwe zidatenga. M'nthawi yotentha ndimatha kukhala ngati sabata limodzi kapena ziwiri mpaka kubwereranso, koma laputopu itachoka, ndinali womasuka kunyumba. Kupatula ndikumverera zofuna zakale kuti zibwerere. Osanena kuti ndikupeza pc yatsopano m'masabata awiri otsatira. Ndipezereni kukhudzanso.
zosintha
- Kugonana ndi kugonana / kugonana? Tsambali likulemba Zotsatira za 40 za sayansi (MRI, fMRI, EEG, matenda opatsirana pogonana, mahomoni). Amapereka chithandizo cholimba cha mtundu wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo pamene zofukufuku zawo zimagwirizanitsa zochitika za m'maganizo zomwe zimafotokozedwa mu maphunziro osokoneza bongo.
- Malingaliro enieni a akatswiri okhudzana ndi zolaula / kugonana? Mndandanda uwu uli Ndemanga za 20 zaposachedwa & ndemanga ndi ena mwa apamwamba a sayansi ya sayansi padziko lapansi. Zonse zothandizira mtundu wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
- Zizindikiro za kuledzera ndi kuchuluka kwa zinthu zoopsa kwambiri? Kupitilira maphunziro a 30 omwe amafotokoza zomwe zikugwirizana ndi kuchuluka kwa zolaula (kulolerana), chizolowezi choonera zolaula, komanso zisonyezo zosiya (zizindikiro zonse ndi zizindikiro zosokoneza bongo).
- Kodi munthu amadziwa bwanji? Mankhwala omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri padziko lonse, Mayiko Akumayiko Onse a Matenda (ICD-11), ali ndi matenda atsopano woyenera kuchita zachiwerewere: "Kugonana Kwachiwerewere. "
LUWANI KU UTHENGA WA PORNFREE: Kodi ndi zisankho ziti zoyipa zomwe munasankha zomwe zinakupangitsani kukhala ndi zolaula?