Onerani kanema wa Gabe Deem wokhudza kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti mugone pa RebootNation.org
Ndemanga zochokera kwa amuna awiri:
- Kupsinjika kowonjezereka = kuseweretsa maliseche kwambiri. Pafupipafupi kumapita kumapeto kwambiri ndipo pepala lisanachitike. Ndiwotsitsimula ndikuyeretsa ubongo kuti mutha kuyang'ana.
- Posachedwa pambuyo mimba (nthawi zina ngakhale mphindi 10) Ndili ndi malingaliro a mitambo, ammutu, osokonezeka, ndi osadandaula, ngakhale kuti nthawi ndi kukula kwa zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana zimasiyana. Orgasm sizinali chifukwa chokhalira mavutowa komanso ankawoneka ngati CURE. Nthawi zina ndimatha kuchita kawiri ngati woyamba sanagwire ntchito. Koma patapita kanthawi, ndinapeza kuti ndiyenera kutero nthawi zambiri kuti ndithetse zizindikiro. M'kupita kwa nthawi ndinayamba kangapo kasanu patsiku. Izi zinali zochititsa mantha, ndipo kubwezeretsa kumbuyo kunali ndi zotsatira zochotsera mphamvu.
Kugonana kwa munthu ndi chinthu choyamba kumamasuka—mwina chifukwa chakuti pachimake ubongo umatulutsa ma opiates, prolactin, serotonin ndipo nthawi zina oxytocin. Nthawi yomweyo dopamine, yomwe ndi "Ndiyenera kuimvetsa!", imatsika. Monga nkhani yosinthika, malingaliro abwino awa ndi njira yachilengedwe yonenera kuti, "Ntchito yabwino! chifukwa chochita zinthu zokhudzana ndi umuna." Ahhhh… (Chosangalatsa n'chakuti, pali umboni wakuti zotsatira za kugonana kwa munthu ndi zosiyana ndi za kugonana kwa munthu payekha.)
Mukamayesetsa kuti muzitsatira kwambiri?
Koma chimachitika ndi chiyani mukasankha kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala ochepetsa nkhawa nthawi iliyonse mukavutika maganizo? Yankho lake limadalira zinthu zosiyanasiyana, monga: kukhudzidwa kwa ubongo wanu, mphamvu ya chilimbikitso chomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito ( zolaula za pa intaneti zili pamlingo wapamwamba ), momwe muli kutali ndi zabwino zina zachilengedwe zomwe zinathandiza kuti ubongo wa makolo anu ukhale bwino (kugwirizana nanu pafupi, kudalirana, kukhudzana mwachikondi, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi mwamphamvu, chakudya chanthawi zonse, ndi zina zotero).
Tinene kuti mulibe mphotho zina zambiri ndipo muli ndi ntchito yambiri yoti muchite. Chifukwa chake mukufuna kutsika mwachangu momwe mungathere kuti muwongolere chidwi chanu ndikubwerera kuntchito. Mwachilengedwe, mumadina zolaula pa intaneti ndikupeza china chotentha kuti mupeze zotsatira pompopompo.
Mwatsoka, pakapita nthawi, ubongo wanu ungafunike kulimbikitsidwa kwambiri kuti upeze mpumulo. Kapena ubongo wanu ungafunike zolaula ngakhale mutakhala kuti mulibe nkhawa, kapena ungafunike kugona pafupifupi usiku uliwonse . Ponena za chizolowezi, "mukulimbitsa kulekerera " mankhwala a mitsempha omwe ubongo wanu umapanga, monga momwe anafotokozera katswiri wa zamaganizo Norman Doidge . Mwa kuyankhula kwina, nthawi zonse kupeza "mankhwala achangu" pa intaneti kungakulitse zizindikiro zanu.
Tikunena izi molimba mtima chifukwa pamene ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwa milungu ingapo, ambiri amanena kuti kusintha kwakukulu kwa malingaliro, zokolola, tulo, komanso zodabwitsa kwambiri, kuchepa kwa kukhumudwa konse pogonana.
Kuzungulira kwa nthawi yopuma kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kuposa momwe anthu ambiri amadziwira. Sikutha ndi malingaliro abwino omwe amachepetsa nkhawa. Pambuyo pa mphamvu ya pachimake, zimatenga nthawi kuti ubongo wanu ubwerere ku homeostasis - mwina kwa sabata imodzi. Pakadali pano, mitsempha ya ubongo wanu ikusintha. Kutsika kumatha kuwoneka ngati kuwonjezeka kwa kumverera kosakhazikika, nkhawa, kukhumudwa ndi zina zotero - kutengera zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wanu. Izi zingakupangitseni kumva ngati wokwiya, wosasamala za anthu, komanso ngati kuti pali vuto ndi inu.
Zokhumudwitsa bwanji! Tsopano mwawonjezera nkhawa zanu pongofuna kumva bwino. Mosadziwa, mwayambitsa " kuyambitsa kusuta " kwanu kosinthika ndi kusonkhezera kwambiri. Izi zikachitika, ubongo wanu umazolowera momwe mungathere kuti ugwirizane ndi kusonkhezera kosalekeza. Komabe, chimodzi mwazotsatira zake ndikuti umakhala wosakhudzidwa ndi chisangalalo . Izi, zimathandizira kukwera kwa kupsinjika (kulekerera) komwe kwafotokozedwa pamwambapa.
Ndiye chochita chiyani?
Kuchita maliseche kungakhalebe gawo la moyo wanu, osachepera mpaka mutakhala naye. Koma pali zinthu zomwe zimathandiza.
- Pewani zokopa kwambiri. Zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti zitha kukhala njira yofulumira kutsika, komanso ndichimodzi choopsa kwambiri, chifukwa ndi kanema; ndi nthano; ndi kinky, ndi zina zambiri. Chifukwa chake kutsika kwake kotsika kwambiri kumatchulidwanso. Kuchita maliseche popanda Intaneti pa Intaneti, ndipo muwone ngati muwona mapindu.
- yesani kubwezeretsanso. Amuna amapeza kuti kuchepa kwa maliseche, kumapangitsa kuti asasewere maliseche… mpaka pang'ono. Pezani pomwepo pomwe zosowa zanu sizikula. Zitenga nthawi kuti mupeze ngati ubongo wanu suli bwino. Modabwitsa, nthawi yanu yabwino itha kukhala ngati sabata limodzi kapena awiri.
- Yesetsani kuti mupeze wina mankhwala achilengedwe Zimapangitsa kukhala ndi thanzi labwino. Mwanjira imeneyi simudzadalira zolaula pa intaneti kuti muchepetse kupsinjika.
- Kuti mumvetse zambiri zomwe ubongo wanu ukuvutikira, penyani Ubongo Wanu pa Zithunzi: Momwe mafilimu a pa Intaneti amakhudzira ubongo.