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Amuna ena omwe akuyesera kuti abwezeretsenso amakhulupirira kuti bola akapewera kutulutsa umuna, akuyambiranso. Malingaliro opotokawa amawatsogolera kuti avomereze chizolowezi chosathandiza chomwe chimakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, chotchedwa edging. Uku ndiko kuseweretsa maliseche mpaka kumapeto kwa chiwonetsero, kenako kuima kuti uziziziritsa pansi, ndikubwezeretsanso. Zolemba zitatu zomwe zimafanana:
- Kuonera zolaula popanda kuphwanya maliseche
- Kuchita maliseche kwinaku mukuonera zolaula, koma osakopeka
- Kuchita maliseche popanda zolaula komanso mopanda kukondweretsa
Popeza kuyambiranso kugonana kumatanthauza kuti palibe zolaula kapena zolaula zomwe zimalowa m'malo mwa 1 ndi 2 sizikumveka. Kwa iwo omwe akuyesera kuthana ndi vuto la kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, kusokoneza maganizo pamene akuonera zolaula (kapena kuganiza za zolaula) n'koipa kwambiri kuposa kungokhala ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi kuthetsa. Chifukwa chiyani? Zonsezi zimadalira dopamine.
Ubongo wokhudzana ndi chiwerewere umasintha ndi zikhalidwe zogonana (Pavlovian) zimayambitsidwa ndi:
- Maseŵera a Dopamine omwe ali apamwamba kuposa momwe amachitira kudzera mwa njira zachilengedwe (mankhwala, mwachitsanzo)
- Maseŵera ochepa a dopamine otsala okwera kwa nthawi yaitali
- Kombo ya 1 & 2
Ngati mukufuna kuonera zolaula, mukusakaniza kuchuluka kwa dopamine m'thupi lanu ndi mphamvu zowonjezera dopamine monga 1) zithunzi zosangalatsa, zatsopano 2) kufunafuna zolaula pa intaneti 3) kupeza mitundu yodabwitsa kapena yodabwitsa. Kujambula zithunzi kumatha kusunga kuchuluka kwa dopamine m'thupi lanu kwa maola ambiri, ndikuphunzitsa ubongo kuti ufune kusangalala ndi maso nthawi zonse, zinthu zatsopano mwachangu, kudina kuchokera pamalo ena kupita kwina, zithunzi zinazake, ndi kukakamizidwa ndi dzanja lanu. Palibe chilichonse mwa izi chomwe chikugwirizana ndi kugonana kwenikweni. (onani kanemayu - Kuyambiranso: Kodi Ndi Chiyani Chimawerengedwa Ngati Kubwerera M'mbuyo?, lolembedwa ndi Noah Church )
Dopamine yayikulu amauza oyang'anira mphotho kuti "Ntchitoyi ndiyofunikadi, ndipo uyenera kuichita mobwerezabwereza." Iwalani zotheka (zenizeni) zotheka kusintha kwamaubongo okhudzana ndi zosokoneza. Kutalika kwambiri kwa dopamine kumapangitsa kuti mukhale ndi chilakolako chogonana pazinthu zonse zokhudzana ndi zolaula pa intaneti. Mukuphunzitsira masewera olakwika. Zili ngati kuthera nthawi yanu kumenya mipira ya gofu kuti mukhale wosewera wamkulu wa basketball.
Choyipa kuposa kuphunzira masewera olakwika, mungakhale mukudzichotsa mu masewerawa. Dopamine ndi yachilendo. Imakwera kwambiri ngati china chake chili bwino kuposa momwe mumayembekezera, koma imatsika pamene ziyembekezo sizikwaniritsidwa. Kuyikanso kugonana kwanu ndi zolaula pa intaneti kumatanthauza kuti mosadziwa mukuyembekezera kukhala wowonera dopamine yanu ndi mbewa. Ngati kugonana kwenikweni sikukugwirizana ndi zolaula, dopamine imatsika - limodzi ndi chisangalalo chanu ndi chilakolako chanu. Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kumawoneka kuti kukuyambitsa kuchuluka kosayembekezereka kwa zovuta zogonana za achinyamata: Kafukufuku akutsimikizira kuwonjezeka kwakukulu kwa zovuta zogonana za achinyamata.
Nanga bwanji za edging popanda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ? Ndikuganiza kuti zimadalira zolinga zanu. Kumbukirani kuti YBOP ikunena za zolaula pa intaneti, osati maliseche (moni nofap/reddit). Kodi zikufanana ndi kungokhala pafupi ndi m'mphepete mwa mnzanu? Osati kwenikweni, chifukwa mukulumikiza yankho lanu la kugonana ndi dzanja lanu. Kugonana kumatanthauza kuti mukulumikiza yankho lanu la kugonana ndi munthu wina. Izi zitha kukhala zofunikira kwa alendo omwe akukumana ndi zovuta zogonana ndipo akufunika kulumikizana ndi anzawo enieni. Onani Kafukufuku wolumikiza kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula/chizolowezi ndi zovuta zogonana, kuchepa kwa chilakolako chogonana, komanso kuchepa kwa kukhutira ndi kugonana ndi ubale
Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti kukakamiza kugonana ndi gawo lapamwamba kwambiri la dopamine yopangidwa mwachilengedwe. Dopamine ili pachimake pomwe ili pafupi kutsetsereka (edging). M'masiku omwe asanachitike pa intaneti, anyamata amakonda kuseweretsa maliseche, maliseche ndikuchita nawo - zimatha kutenga mphindi 10 kapena apo. Pamalungo, prolactin imatuluka, yomwe imagwetsa dopamine pamlingo woyambira ndikuletsa kumasulidwa kwake. Izi nthawi zambiri zimatonthoza.
Kuyika phazi lanu pa mpweya wa dopamine, popanda kugwedeza brake (prolactin) kumapangitsa kuti mukhale ndi chilakolako chosalekeza popanda kukhutitsidwa. Chizolowezi chofuna kusokoneza chilakolako chimatikumbutsa zoyeserera zoyambirira pa kayendetsedwe ka mphotho ya ubongo momwe nyama zimadzilimbikitsira mobwerezabwereza, kupirira kugwedezeka kwamagetsi ndikunyalanyaza okondedwa awo.
Pamapeto pake, kuchuluka kwa dopamine nthawi zonse (mogwirizana ndi chilimbikitso china) ndi komwe kumayambitsa kusintha kwa ubongo komwe kungayambitse chizolowezi chokwanira, chifukwa kukondoweza kwambiri kwa gawo la mphotho kumabweretsa kusonkhanitsa kwa DeltaFosB, kuyambitsa majini, ndi kusintha kwina kwa ubongo . Pamene mamolekyu opitilira akusintha kukhala chizolowezi, DeltaFosB imayambitsa zizolowezi zamakhalidwe ndi zamakemikolo. Komabe chimodzi mwa zolinga zake zosinthika ndi kugonana. Imasinthanso gawo la mphotho kukhala zizindikiro zogonana zomwe zili m'chilengedwe ndikupanga "kugonana" kukhala kokopa kwambiri. Ngati malo anu ogonana ndi zolaula pa intaneti, ndicho chomwe gawo lanu la mphotho limayembekezera ....ndipo limalakalaka.
Mnyamata wina adayesa nthawi yayitali - osachita maliseche popanda zolaula / kusanja motsutsana ndi zolaula / zosasintha:
NoFap "yopambana" imagwira ntchito m'malo ena
Zaka 2 zapitazo ndinapanga chovuta changa choyamba cha no-fap, kuti ndiwone ngati ndingathe kuchita, ndikukhala ndi mphamvu yochuluka. Kwa zaka 2 ndakhala ndikuyesera kubwereza kumverera kotero, ndipo sindinapambanepo. Pazaka 2 izi, mayesero onse a nofap amene ndinayesera ndikungofuna kuti ndipeze mphamvu.
Lingaliro langa linali loti limalumikizidwa ndi kusatulutsa umuna, ndi testosterone ndi zina zotero. Chifukwa chake ndidachita nofap, komabe ndimayang'ana zithunzi za atsikana okongola, kapena zolaula, kapena zokulirapo ... chilichonse chomwe ndingathe kupititsa patsogolo ma T-level anga, osatulutsa ... koma osapeza zotsatira. Panthawiyi, ndinaganiza zopanga nofap, osati chifukwa cha mphamvu, koma chifukwa ndinali nditatopa ndi zomwe ndimachita tsiku ndi tsiku kwa PMO - ndipo ndimapitilizabe, movutikira, ngakhale opanda mphamvu zoposa.
Zotsatira zake: Ndili ndi mphamvu zonse tsopano. Zomaliza: Kwa ine, "zopambana" zimawoneka kuti sizokhudzana ndi kutulutsa umuna, kapena kudzichotsera zochepa ... koma kuti ndisadziwonetse ku Zolaula, mndandanda wazaka zambiri wa bikini-makanda, kuwongolera, kulingalira, kapena ngakhale kudzikhudza. Palibe lingaliro momwe limagwirira ntchito, koma ndikuganiza kuti ndi logwirizana ndi china chonga ichi: (repost from another thread) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jX2btaDOBK8
Mwachidule: ngati mukufuna kumva kuti ndi "opambana": palibe zolaula, palibe zithunzi, zosanjikiza, zosakhudza - pitani zolimba kwa milungu ingapo.
Mnyamata wina ananena kuti ululu wake wamtunduwu unali chifukwa chokonzekera:
Mipira yanga nthawi zonse inali kupweteka chifukwa cha ma varicoceles. Zinandivuta kwambiri. Koma nditayamba nofap, idapita patatha sabata limodzi ndipo palibe zowawa m'matumbo anga. Bulogu ya "Yodelout" inali yolondola ponena za varicocele.
Chisangalalo chosadziwika cha kugonana ndi chifukwa cha varicocele ndi zowawa zomwe zimakhudzana ndi izi. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mumvetsetsa momwe ndimamvera ndikakhala kuti palibe zopweteka m'mipira. Ndizachikulu. Ngakhale chotupa cha varicocele sichinasowepo, kutupa sikokulirapo ngati kale. Nthawi zonse ndikapuma, ululu umabweranso. Uwu ndiumboni waukulu kuti ma edging ndi varicocele ndizofanana kwambiri. Kuchita maliseche sikumakulitsa ululu, kusintha kumatero. NoFap inapangitsa moyo kukhala wosavuta. Ulendo wa Mwezi wa 4, tsiku la 61 streak (kupatulapo maloto onyowa)
Mwa njira, ambiri omwe amakumana ndi zovuta zogonana chifukwa cha zolaula amakhala ndi mbiri yokonda zolaula. Monga momwe munthu wina ananenera,
Kodi akukwera moipa?
Inde, zilidi zoyipa. Chifukwa chake ndi chophweka: m'malo mokhala ndi vuto losangalatsa ndikulimaliza, mumaphunzitsa ubongo wanu kusamba ndi mankhwala kwa maola ambiri. Ndi chinthu choyipitsitsa chomwe mungachite, omangira. Choyipa chachikulu. Ngati mwayamba ndikuzindikira zomwe mukuchita munthawi yake, siyani kapena thamangani mpaka kumapeto. Chilichonse chomwe mungachite, musasunge mayendedwe. Ambiri aife sitinali osokoneza bongo kwa PMO, koma ku PEO.
Ngati muli ndi vuto la kugonana losatha chifukwa cha zolaula, sizingakhale kuti kumaliseche ndi komwe kunayambitsa vuto lanu la kugonana (ED/DE) - mwina linali zaka zambiri mukugwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Zolaula za pa intaneti ndi zomwe zimasintha ubongo, ndipo, mwa ogwiritsa ntchito ena, zimayambitsa vuto la kugonana. Kumbukirani, zolaula za masiku ano sizongoleketsa chifukwa zimapangitsa kuti munthu afike pachimake; ndizoleketsa chifukwa ogwiritsa ntchito amatha kuzigwiritsa ntchito kuti awonjezere dopamine mosalekeza mu ubongo wawo. Ndipotu, tikudziwa za mwamuna m'modzi yemwe adayamba kuonera zolaula pa intaneti. Ndondomeko yake inali kuonera zolaula tsiku lililonse, koma kudziseweretsa maliseche kamodzi kokha masiku khumi aliwonse.
Kodi chimachitika n'chiyani mukachotsa maliseche koma kubwereranso ku zolaula:
Moni anyamata, zosintha pang'ono apa. Ndakhala ndikupita ku nofap ndipo ndakwanitsa kusaphulika kuyambira Januware 3rd. Kwa mwezi woyamba wa nofap sindinayang'ane zolaula. Zosintha zomwe ndinali nazo zinali zosatheka. Kulimba mtima kwambiri, mawu ozama, Dick wamkulu (wopanda nthabwala). Mwezi wachiwiri mkati ndidayamba kuyang'ana zithunzi za bikini ndi sewero lowonera ngati zithunzi. Izi zimawoneka ngati zabwino koma ndinayamba kuzindikira kuti sindikufuna kutuluka mnyumba mochulukira, ndipo nkhawa zamagulu zinayambiranso kuwonjezeka, kuchokera pazithunzi za bikini, ndichiyani.
Ndinayamba kumira pang'ono sabata yatha ndikupita patsamba lakale lolaula pomwe ndimayang'ana za kanema wa 10 mphindi. Kuthamanga kwa dopamine kunali kopanda tanthauzo. Mtima ukugunda, kugwedezeka, koma sindinathe. Sabata yapitayi nditayang'ana nyengoyi yakhala tsoka. Kuwonera Netflix tsiku lonse, osagwira ntchito, blah. Chifukwa chake ndili pano, masiku 5 azolaula, nofap 90 china. Osakhalanso zolaula kwa ine, sizomwe zimangothamangitsidwa, ndizo zolaula. Dzimasuleni.
Monga momwe "kuseweretsa maliseche" kumanenera:
Ndimaona kuti kukhutiritsa kugonana ndi maliseche kothandizidwa ndi zolaula kumaposa chisangalalo chogonana (kapena machitidwe ena) ndi mnzanu. Ndipo ndili ndi chifukwa chokhulupirira kuti mfundo imeneyi ndi yofala pakati pa anthu ochepa omwe amadziwika kuti ndi odziseweretsa maliseche nthawi zonse. Ndine wochita nawo magulu angapo a pa intaneti omwe amagwiritsa ntchito maliseche, komanso woyang'anira gulu limodzi . Anthu odziseweretsa maliseche nthawi zambiri amanena kuti amakonda kwambiri maliseche, ngakhale atakhala pachibwenzi ndi anthu ogonana nawo. Ambiri amafika posiya kugonana ndi mnzanu ngakhale kuti mnzanuyo akukhalabe wokonzeka komanso wokonzeka.
M'malo mongodziseweretsa maliseche nthawi zambiri amachita chizolowezi chomwe timachitcha " edging ": kudzibweretsa tokha pamphepete mwa orgasm mobwerezabwereza, popanda kutulutsa umuna. Titha kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana kwambiri kwa maola ambiri, ndikufufuza momasuka malingaliro athu ogonana achinsinsi komanso aumwini. Kukhutitsidwa kumeneku kungakhale kotheka ndi mnzanu wogwirizana komanso wothandizana naye, koma ndikuganiza kuti okwatirana ambiri amatopa ndi zomwe akuchita kapena amasinthasintha malingaliro awo ogonana nthawi yayitali munthu wodziseweretsa maliseche nthawi yayitali asanafike pokhuta mokwanira. Chifukwa chake kudziseweretsa maliseche kumapangitsa kuti chilakolako chikhale chovuta kupeza mwanjira ina. Chikhalidwe chomwe chingakhale chosokoneza cha edging chiyenera kuonekeratu. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kumva anthu odziseweretsa maliseche nthawi zonse akuvomereza poyera kuti ali ndi chizolowezi ndipo nthawi yomweyo akuwonetsa kufunitsitsa komanso chikhumbo chofuna kukhala "ozolowera kwambiri."
Ubongo wanu womwe uli ndi chizolowezi chogonana umafuna zolaula, kotero udzakonza zochitika zosiyanasiyana, ndipo kuonera popanda kugonana ndi chimodzi mwa zomwe amakonda kwambiri - makamaka kwa iwo omwe akuvutika kale ndi vuto lofika pachimake kapena kusunga chilakolako chogonana (chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso). Popeza kutulutsa umuna si chizolowezi, kapena chifukwa cha zovuta zogonana, kuwongolera kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kungakhale kovulaza. (Werengani " Nanga bwanji ngati nditasintha ubongo wanga poonera zolaula popanda kudziseweretsa maliseche? " pansipa tsamba lino.) Kutopa kwanu kwa mitsempha mukamaliza kuonera zolaula sikungakhale koopsa ngati momwe mumachitira mukafika pachimake, koma kuonera zolaula kumafooketsa njira zanu zodziletsa za ubongo ndikulimbitsa njira zanu zoledzera za ubongo - kumalumikiza chilakolako chanu kwambiri ku zolimbikitsa zatsopano za zolaula pa intaneti. Malangizo ochokera kwa anyamata awiri:
Ndinaphunzira zinthu zambiri ndikamabwereranso, monga pang'ono, pang'ono pang'ono ndiwowopsa… osati patsikulo, koma tsiku lotsatira chilimbikitso chimakhala champhamvu pang'ono ndipo pofika tsiku lachitatu sichitha. Chifukwa chake pakadali pano sindimadzikhudza. Inenso tsopano ndikulamulira malingaliro anga omwe amandibwezera m'mbuyo. Tsopano ndimasintha malingaliro kuchokera kwa anthuwo akangofika m'mutu mwanga.
Ngakhale chithunzicho chikhale chosalakwa bwanji, m'buku langa kuyang'ana ma vids / kujambula ndikuwazimitsa mwachangu kumayikidwa kuti 'kuli pachiwopsezo chobwereranso.' Kufufuza, kuyang'ana ndi kukhudza kumapangitsa kuti pakhale chilimbikitso chothamanga kwambiri chomwe chimadzipangitsa kukhala mawonekedwe owonera. Masomphenya amtunduwu, mwa zomwe ndakumana nazo, amadziwika ndi kutseka kwathunthu kwa 'ubongo watsopano / womveka.' 'Ubongo wakale / wakale' umakhala wamphamvu. Zolinga, zotulukapo, ndi kulingalira zilibe, ndipo ndizovuta kwambiri kuti musagonje. Dzichitireni zabwino ndikuchoka pakompyuta yanu ndikukhala ndi nthawi yopindulitsa. Osamuseka mkango, chifukwa ungakupeze limodzi la masiku awa :-).
Palibe munthu wokonda zolaula amene amasiya chizolowezichi mwa kusakaniza edging ndi 'kungowonera.' Nazi zina mwa zomwe anyamata apeza:
Dotolo wabwino yemwe ndidamufunsira zaka zapitazo, adandiuza kuti edging ndiyabwino kwambiri chifukwa umuna umabwerera ndipo ukhoza "kufalikira" mu prostate yathu ndichifukwa chake ululu ndi mipira yabuluu, adandiuza kuti sanalandiridwe mgulu la urology chifukwa adati kuseweretsa maliseche kumatha kuyambitsa mavuto ambiri mu prostate, madotolo ena adamuwuza kuti ngati abambo aziseweretsa maliseche pafupipafupi adzakhala ndi makasitomala ambiri. Samalani, abwenzi !!!!!! Btwm dotoloyu anandiuzanso kuti zaka 10 zapitazo 90% ya odwala ake anali opitilira 60 ndipo tsopano akuthandiza anthu azaka 16, achichepere ambiri azikambirana naye. Ananena kuti kuseweretsa maliseche, zolaula komanso mahomoni, ali ndi chithandizo cha singano kuti alowetse michere yofunikira m'mitsempha ya mbolo, zili ngati kupitirira koma bwino, mumamva ngati ng'ombe.
Chofunika: Kukonza maliseche si njira yoyenera yochira. Samalani ndi zimenezo! Sikuti kungosewera ndi machesi okha. Kungokhudza ndi dopamine kumangopita muubongo wanu ndikokwanira kuchepetsa kuchira. Sindinamvetse bwino izi poyamba, kotero tsopano ndawonjezera choletsa maliseche - ndipo ndi masiku 4 kale. Nthawi zambiri, ndimakhala bata kwambiri, chete mkati. Kugonana kwanga m'mawa kwabwerera. Ndikumva kusasangalala pang'ono - mabuluu abuluu - koma kumatha msanga. Chomwe chimathandiza chikayamba kulakalaka ndikudzikhudza mwanjira ina, yopanda chilakolako, kusamba kozizira kapena kungotulutsa madzi pang'onopang'ono pa mbolo yanga ndi mabulu, kupuma, ndi kusokoneza (kuchita china chake chosiyana).
https://web.archive.org/web/20201112031244/https://i.imgur.com/LsVO7rB.gif “When I read about people edging on the forum”
Mbiri - Ndili ndi zaka 21, ndili ndi thanzi labwino kwambiri, wophunzira. Ndinayamba kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwa masiku 16, ndipo ndinkachita masewera olimbitsa thupi pafupifupi kangapo patsiku, tsiku lililonse. Pofika kumapeto kwa tsiku la 16, prostate yanga inali yosasangalatsa kwambiri ndipo zinali zovuta kukhala pansi. Ndinaganiza kuti ndi bwino kutulutsa. Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, kuchuluka kwa umuna kunali kochepa KWAMBIRI, ndipo ndinali ndi ululu waukulu mu prostate yanga nditatulutsa umuna. Izi zimandipweteka kwambiri. Patatha masiku angapo (lero) ululu watha. Ndiyambanso masewera olimbitsa thupi, nthawi ino (ndipo sindidzabwerezanso). Sindikudziwa kuti izi zimayambitsa vutoli, koma ndizoopsa kwambiri ndipo ndikukulangizani kuti MUSAMAPEZE. Ngati nthawi zonse mumachita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndibwino kuti mutulutse.
Musamachite zinthu mopitirira muyeso. Zoonadi. Musachite zimenezo. Ndi chinthu choipa kwambiri kuchita. Ngakhale simungawerengere edging ngati kubwerera m'mbuyo (zomwe zili choncho), mukangoyamba edging, ndi nkhani ya maola kapena masiku omwe mudzabwereranso. Zaka 20 - Kukhala ndi chidaliro kwambiri & kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino, Ndinapanga mabwenzi ambiri mwezi watha kuposa zaka ziwiri zapitazo
"Zotsatira za Zeigarnik ndimakonda kukhala ndi malingaliro olakwika okhudza cholinga chomwe chidakwaniritsidwa kale ndikusiya chosakwanira (Baumeister & Bushman, 2008, pg. 122). Njira zodziwikiratu zimawonetsa malingaliro ozindikira, omwe atha kuyang'ana zolinga zatsopano, kuti zochitika zam'mbuyomu zidasiyidwa zosakwanira. Zikuwoneka kuti ndi chibadwa cha anthu kuti timalize zomwe timayambitsa ndipo, ngati sizinamalizidwe, timasokonezeka. ”
Njira yabwino yopeŵera kuyambira ndiyo kupeŵa kuyamba.
Tsekani osatsegula. Tsegulani maso anu mutayamba kuganiza. Chotsani TV. Tulukani pabedi. Zipani.
Chofunika kwambiri musayambe. http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2u0s0l/dont_edge_the_ziegarnik_effect/
Ndinayamba Nofap, ndipo ngakhale zinali zovuta poyamba ndinakumba zidendene ndipo zinthu zinayamba kuyenda bwino pang'ono pang'ono. Ndinachita masiku anga oyambirira 90. Kenako ndidaganiza zobwezeretsa momwe poyamba ndinkalola kusintha ndipo ndimafuna kuzichita bwino. FYI ndizosavuta kwambiri ngati simutha.
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-accounts/rebooting-accounts-page-1/1-year-my-wife-and-i-have-a-much-more-active-and-passionate-sex-life/
Ndinasiya kuonera zolaula pa June 8, 2011 ndipo sindinawonepo mtsikana wamaliseche pazenera langa (mwanjira iliyonse) kuyambira pamenepo. Komabe, cholakwika chachikulu chomwe ndimapanga, mpaka masiku 32 apitawo, chinali KUYENDA. Ndidawona zochepa, ayi, kupita patsogolo kwa miyezi 6 yoyambirira kapena kupitilira apo, ndipo sindinathandizirepo izi pakukonzekera (mwina chifukwa chokana, mwina chifukwa chinali chikhalidwe chachiwiri komanso china chake sindimaganizira kwambiri pamene chinali zikuchitika). Chifukwa chake, kwa masiku 30 apitawa, ndakhala ndikuwona kupita patsogolo kwakukulu. POMALIZA! Nazi zomwe ndakumana nazo mpaka pano, komanso maupangiri ndi upangiri:
Masiku a 10 a nofap osasintha ndi ofanana ndi masiku 60 a nofap ndi edging.
1st amayesa masiku a 74 ndi edging, tsiku la 2nd kuyesa masiku 39 ndi edging, masiku 3rd kuyesera masiku 15 ndi kusintha ndi 4th kuyesa masiku 5 ndi edging.
NDI Tsopano:
Masiku a 11 a nofap popanda edging (osayang'ana ngakhale mbolo yanga kapena yowonongeka kwachiwiri, anali ndi 1st usiku kugwa kwa moyo wanga pa 4th tsiku, ndine 25 YO) ndipo ndikudabwa momwe malingaliro anga ndi thupi langa zimakhudzira anthu ndipo kuyang'ana kwanga kuli koopsa kwa amayi onse amakopeka momwe ndikuwonekera. Kumva zabwino ndikudalira nthawi yovuta yomwe ndikukumana pakali pano kumathandiza kwambiri, koma nthawi zina mumadandaula chifukwa cha zinthu zina zomwe zikukuzungulirani zimakulimbikitsani kuti mumenyane nawo.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti uwu ndi ufulu wapamwamba, ngati mukuposa chilakolako chanu chogonana.
SUNGANI: - ndasiya kuyang'ana zolaula kumapeto kwa mwezi
Ndikuphunzira za neuroscience ku sukulu ya sekondale, ndipo chimodzi mwa zinthu zoyamba zomwe mudzaphunzire za dongosolo la mphotho ndichakuti dopamine imadzaza dongosololi poyembekezera mphotho - osati pambuyo pa mphotho yokha. Chifukwa chake kuchokera ku lingaliro la neurobiological, kungokhala mphindi 15 n'koipa kwambiri kuposa kungochotsa imodzi mumphindi zochepa. Ngati mukuganiza moona mtima, chomwe mumakonda ndi PM, osati O.
KOMA… ndikuganiza kuti ndikofunikiranso kuzindikira kuti chifukwa choti umasiya kuyang'ana ndikuyamba kusintha kwa mphindi, sukuyenera kutsata chifukwa "chabwino chitani kuti ndikonzekera kale ndikhoza kumaliza ndikuyamba". Pali kuchuluka KWAMBIRI komwe kungapezeke poyimirira mpaka kukana kukakamizidwa ngakhale munthawi imeneyo.
[Kwa masabata angapo asanayambe, bambo uyu anali kudandaula kuti anali kusewera mofulumira ndi ziwalo zake zamkati.]
Sindinakhudze mbolo yanga kwakanthawi. Masabata a 5 palibe M, sabata la 1 palibe P. Ndikumva kuti ndine wofatsa. Mwanjira yabwino. OCD yanga yatha. Ndikuganiza kuti ndinali ndi matenda amiyendo yopuma. Ndasiya kusuntha miyendo yanga nthawi zonse. Ndimachita izi mosazindikira kuti ndikhudze mbolo yanga. Ndine wotentha kwambiri pakalipano. Chilichonse chikuchepa, ndipo ndimakhala wodekha ndikamalankhula ndi anthu. Ndamasuka sooooooooooooooooooo, ndipo sindikusowa chinthu choti ndichite. Amuna, ndili pamwamba padziko lapansi. NDIKUFUNA KUYITANA X-msungwana wanga ndikumuuza kuti ndimamukondabe… haha… ndimatero. Tinathetsa zolaula. Chilakolako changa chatha ndikakhala nacho, koma ndikapanda kutero, ndili pamwamba padziko lapansi. Ndikuwopabe kubwerera m'mbuyo, chifukwa ndimangochita. Nthawizonse zidzatero. Koma chochitika ichi chobwezeretsanso pamapeto pake chimalipira.
Usiku watha ndimayesa kuwonera zolaula osadzikhudza (ndikubwezeretsanso pompano). Ndinamva ngati kuti ndikulamulira. Ndinkagwira bwino ntchito zina ndikuwonera, zomwe sizingatheke kwa ine ndikamagwira ntchito yotentha. Komabe, m'mawa uno ndimamva utsi wamaubongo (chisonyezo changa choti umagwirira ubongo wanga suli bwino). Sizoipa monga momwe ndinkakhalira MO kupita ku P, koma zilipo. Ndipo ndikuyembekeza masiku angapo otsatira (osachepera) kukhala gehena, popeza ndili ndi zithunzi zatsopanozi zoti ndithane nazo. Sindipanganso izi. Pazofunika.
[kuchokera ku Reddit/NoFap ] Chifukwa chake simuyenera kuletsa - "Chimene mukufotokoza chimatchedwa edging. NDIKULONJEZANI ngati mupitiliza kuletsa mudzabwereranso palibe ngati, ndipo, kapena zinthu zina.
NDIKHULUPIRITSE izi ndizosavuta ngati 1 + 1 = 2. Ndasiya kupita / b / pachifukwa chomwecho. Muyenera kudula zithunzi zolaula, ngakhale kugwiritsa ntchito Facebook ya msungwanayo kungakhale koopsa. Umu ndi momwe zimayambira, "Amuna, ndikuchita bwino ku nofap. Ali kale masiku 60?!?!? Sindikufunanso kuti fap… hmmm… wow. Stephanie akuwoneka wotentha mu chidutswa ziwiri zija… ndinganene chiyani ndikungofuna kuyang'ana azimayi otentha. Palibe chilichonse mu nofap chotsutsana ndi kuyang'ana azimayi otentha… Ndiroleni ine ndiwone / s / kuti ndiwone zomwe zikuyenda, sizili ngati ine ndikuti fap kapena chilichonse. Ndikungofuna kuwona mawere ena ... Oo, atsikana awa ndiotentha kwambiri. Ndiloleni ndiwone / gif / sizili ngati kuti ndikutsitsa zolaula kapena china chilichonse, ndi ma gif ...… Oo, ndili ndi nkhawa kwambiri pakadali pano.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti zilibe kanthu ngati ndingodzikhudzira pang'ono ... sizili ngati kuti ndadzaza ndi fap kapena pachimake pachilichonse. Atsikanawa akutentha kwambiri. Ndikudziwa msungwana pa xnxx yemwe amawoneka ngati iye… Sizikhala ndi vuto ndikamamuyang'ana. Sindikumaliza, ndikungofuna kumuwona ndipo vidiyoyo ikudwala… OMG, sindingathe kudzithandiza ndekha, ndiwotentha kwambiri. Sindikupatsanso chidwi. maliseche Wow… woooowwwww..wwwoooooowwww… .90 masiku pansi pa FUCKING kuda… omfg.
Nditha kupitilirabe pano popeza ndidaswa kale mikwingwirima… zomwe ndimakonda ... Ndipo kuti nzanga ndi momwe zimakhalira. Mukadzilola kuyenda pa chingwecho mosakayikira mudzataya mphamvu. MUSACHITE! ” -Esibietoo
Kutsetsereka kotereku ndi chinthu chomwe tonsefe tiyenera kuyang'anitsitsa! Vuto lalikulu ndiloti anthu amaganiza kuti atha "kubera" dongosololi pongodzikongoletsa koma kukana chiwerengerocho. Komabe, kuthamanga kwa dopamine komwe kumakhudzana ndi kusakatula zolaula kumapangitsa kuti chizolowezicho chizichitika… ndipo pansi panu mukamayandikira pamene mukuyandikira kwambiri mpaka kufika pobwezera mukamakonzekera, kutsata ndikuwongolera ziwonetsero sizingapeweke . Chifukwa chake, ndikulimbikitsanso kuti aliyense apewe kusintha! Cholinga ichi ndi [palibe zolaula / maliseche], osati NoCum. Chitani nawo.
Ndinayesa kuyesa miyezi ingapo yapitayo momwe ndimayang'ana zolaula zambiri ndikukhala mopanda zolaula masiku 21. Nditatulutsa panalibe zolaula. Kwa milungu ingapo yotsatira ndidachotsedwa ZOOPSA. Kotero pali phunziro kwa inu.
Ndatsimikizira. Kusintha ndikoyipa kuposa kuseweretsa maliseche. Zili ngati bizinesi yosamalizidwa. Ndikukonzekera lero. M'mbuyomu, ndimakhala chete. Patatha pafupifupi ola limodzi, ndinamva kusokonezeka mkati mwanga. Ndikumva mphamvu ngati, pali mkuntho mkati mwa thupi langa. Poyerekeza ndi nyanja yozizira, yamtendere yomwe ndinali nayo ndisanakonzekere, ndizowopsa kwambiri. Zinanditengera maola angapo kuti ndikhalenso bata. Ndaphunzira phunziro langa. 🙁
Chifukwa chake ndidachita nofap kale masiku 63 koma ndimatha kuyang'ana zolaula kamodzi kwakanthawi. Sindinawone zotsatira zambiri pambuyo pa sabata yoyamba pomwe ubongo wanga unazolowera kusadzimangirira ndikungochotsa PMO ndi PM ndipo ndinali nditabwerera ku umunthu wanga wakale. Ndinaganiza zoyesanso osayang'ana zolaula kapena zosintha konse. Zinali zovuta kwambiri poyamba koma zopindulitsa kwambiri.
Kunyada komwe ndimamva pochita izi kunali kwabwino ndipo ndinali ndi chidaliro komanso mphamvu zowonjezera komanso jazi yonseyo. Ndipo patadutsa sabata china chake chidachitika. Ndinayamba kukopeka ndi atsikana ambiri. Atsikana omwe ndimacheza nawo akuti pali china chake chosiyana ndi ine, ndiwokopa ndipo awiri ayesapo kucheza nane. Ndikuwona atsikana akundiyang'ana, akumwetulira komanso kundiyang'ana.
Samalani mukamakonzekera kapena kuyerekezera - chilichonse chomwe chimakupangitsani kuti mukhale okonzeka kukonzekera. Ndawona zolemba zingapo za: NoFappers akumva kupsinjika / kupweteka kwa prostate posintha magawo. Mizere iwiri yomwe ndidagwira posachedwa idandipweteka kwambiri nditamasula katundu wambiri.
Izi mwina zinali chifukwa cha prostate kubwerera kumbuyo kukula. Ndimayenera kuthyola masabata anga awiri pakadali pano chifukwa prostate yanga imamvera kwambiri zomwe zimamveka ngati zachilendo.Ndine wotsimikiza kuti kuganiza ndi kukongola kunali kuyambitsa umuna wambiri kuti umange umene unali wokonzeka kuti ukhale wokonzedwa. Kukonzekera ndi kulingalira pa nthawi kunayambitsa katundu wambiri kuti amange omwe sungakhoze kufalikira mwachidwi kupyolera mu maloto ozizira.
Sindikufuna kuwopseza aliyense, ingodziwa izi. Ndidawerenga pano za momwe wina amafunikira maantibayotiki chifukwa chodandaula kuti Prostatitis chifukwa cha izi. Onani ulalo http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2pex8m/warning_edging_may_harm_your_prostate/
Palibe chilakolako cha fap popanda zolaula.
Ndimangofuna kugawana zomwe zandichitikira. Popanda zolaula (masiku 22 tsopano) ndilibe chilakolako chodziseweretsa maliseche. Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala wamanyazi. Ndikakhala wovuta ndimafuna kuonera zolaula. Popeza sindikuwona zolaula sindingayang'ane zolaula, koma sizimachitika kuti ndizimenya popanda zolaula. Sindikudziwa ngati ndingathe!
Nthawi zina ndikagona ndimavutika maganizo chifukwa cha malingaliro anga, koma sindikufuna kudzisangalatsa. Ndimangokhala wovuta komanso woganiza mozama. N'zachilendo, ngakhale ndikamaonera zolaula sindinkafuna kudzisangalatsa . Kudzisangalatsa kunali kwachiwiri, ndimangofuna kupitiriza kuonera zolaula nthawi yonse yomwe ndingathe. Nthawi zambiri ndimayesetsa kupewa kusangalala chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti zikachitika manyazi angandigwere ndipo ndimasiya kuonera zolaula. Izi zinkapitirira kwa maola ambiri ndikamayamwitsa munthu wovuta. Ndimayesetsa kuzilimbikitsa kuti ndikhale ndi chidwi koma osati mokwanira kuti ndigone, kuti ndizingopitiriza kuonera tsiku lonse / usiku wonse.
Izi ndi zomwe zimawoneka ngati zolaula, ndipo ndizopenga. Osati kuseweretsa maliseche ndi gawo losavuta, osadzipereka ndikuwonera zolaula ndiye gawo lovuta kwambiri.
Kwa nthawi yayitali, mutha kupeza chisangalalo chochuluka kuchokera mu kugonana nthawi zina popanda zolaula kapena maloto a zolaula kuposa momwe mumaonera zolaula, kaya ndi pachimake kapena ayi. Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, izi zili choncho chifukwa zolaula za pa intaneti zimakulimbikitsani kwambiri. Sizili ngati chilichonse chomwe makolo anu adakumana nacho (pokhapokha ngati anali ndi akazi okongola kwambiri).
Ofufuza a Kinsey Institute anali m'gulu la oyamba kunena za vuto la kuonera zolaula zomwe zinapangitsa kuti anthu asamachite zinthu zogonana. Mu 2007, adazindikira kuti kuonera kwambiri makanema olaula kumawoneka kuti kumachepetsa chidwi cha kugonana. Adawonanso kufunika kokhala ndi zinthu zowopsa, zapadera kapena "zonyansa" kuti zidzutse chilakolako, koma sanafufuze zambiri. Mu 2016 kafukufuku adafunsa, ndipo adapeza kuti theka la ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula omwe adafunsidwa adafika pa zinthu zomwe adazipeza kale "zosasangalatsa kapena zonyansa."
Sayansi ikuyamba kufotokoza bwino zomwe zimayambitsa kukwera kwa chiwerengero cha anthu. Mu 2015, gulu la Cambridge lomwe linkafufuza momwe ubongo umayankhira anthu ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti linapeza kuti ubongo wawo umakhala wofulumira kuposa momwe umalamulira , ndipo umalakalaka zinthu zatsopano. Chifukwa chakuti dopamine yochuluka imatha kuchepetsa kusangalala mu ubongo, kusonkhezeredwa kwa zolaula pa intaneti kungapangitse kuti munthu asakhutire. Ngakhale kuti "kuyang'ana" nthawi zonse kumakupatsani chisangalalo. Kufotokozera kwa chisinthiko cha zotsatira izi zomwe zikuwoneka ngati zodabwitsa kwafotokozedwa mu buku lakuti Has Evolution Trained Our Brains to Gorge on Food and Sex?
Kugonana kokha kungabweretse chilakolako chofuna kudya kwambiri, makamaka ngati kuli koopsa kwambiri. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, kudzikonda pang'ono komanso kosangalatsa sikukuwoneka kuti kumayambitsa vuto lomwelo (ndipo ndi njira yabwino pa moyo wanu wachikondi 😉).
Dziwani kuti, poyamba, simungapeze kuti kugonana komaliza popanda zolaula n’kokhutiritsa, kapena kupeza kuti kugonana kopanda zolaula n’kolimbikitsa mokwanira kuti kuthe. Izi zili choncho chifukwa ubongo wanu sukumva bwino. Anthu ambiri amene akuchira anati atasiya kuonera zolaula, chilakolako chofuna kugonana chinachepa kwambiri, chifukwa “popanda zolaula, kugonana komaliza sikunali kosangalatsa kwenikweni.” Palibe chifukwa chodzikakamiza kuti uthe. Khalani oleza mtima.
Nkhani yabwino ndi yakuti miyezi ingapo yopanda zolaula ingapangitse kugonana kwamtundu uliwonse kukhala kosangalatsa kwambiri.