Zambiri mwa zosafunika za zolaula zimayambitsidwa chifukwa chofuna kugonana ndi zolaula komanso intaneti. Zitsanzo ndi zomwe ena amagwiritsa ntchito pochita zachiwerewere, zolaula-zomwe zimapangitsa ED, kusakopeka ndi anzawo enieni (ngakhale kukhulupirira zakugonana), kuchedwa kuthamangitsidwa, anorgasmia, kufuna kulimbikitsidwa kwambiri kuti akwaniritse zomwezi. Kwazaka zambiri akatswiri akhala akuyesetsa kutchula chidwi cha chochitika ichi, ndi maumboni ena okhudzana ndi kugonana. Onani Mwachitsanzo:
Kugonana kwa anthu kumatha kukhazikitsidwa pogwirizanitsa zizindikiro zinazake ndi maliseche. Izi zili ndi tanthauzo lofunika kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano. Mu kafukufukuyu (wokhudza zizindikiro za fungo), akazi amasonyeza kuti ali ndi mphamvu zogonana kuposa amuna. Mwachidule, Dawson et al. 2013 adapeza kuti amuna ndi akazi ali ndi chizolowezi chofanana (ndi zolimbikitsa kugonana).
Mayankho okhazikika adawoneka amphamvu mu kafukufukuyu poyerekeza ndi kafukufuku wam'mbuyomu wokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa anthu. Zotsatira zapano zimathandizira kugwiritsa ntchito njira yolumikizirana ndi kugonana kuti mumvetsetse momwe mungayankhire pogonana.
Ngati ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amapeza zolaula ndikukweza komanso kukhutiritsa kuposa momwe amagonana ndi anzawo, atha kukhala ndi vuto lodana nawo nthawi yogonana. …
Nthawi zambiri zolaula zimatha kukhala chiwonetsero champhamvu cha [zovuta kumaliseche] pakati pa atsikana.
Ngakhale chidwi chogonana ndi wokondedwayo chidafotokozedwa ndi omwe akutenga nawo mbali, zidziwitso zathu zikuwonetsa kuti kudalitsika kwa maliseche kumayamba chifukwa chakuyankha kwawo pakugonana kokhazikika pamakhalidwe oyipa, ndipo kumalimbikitsidwa ndi magawo azidziwitso omwe akuwonetsa machitidwe osiyanasiyana panthawi ya maliseche ndi kugonana ndi mnzanu.
Popeza kuti [odwala] anena kuti adakumana ndi zolaula komanso zolaula pa intaneti, koma popanda izi, kafukufuku amafunika kuti azindikire zikhalidwe zogonana mosazindikira monga zomwe zikuthandizira masiku ano mavuto azakugonana komanso chidwi chochepa cha abambo 40.
Kugonana ndi maliseche, omwe nthawi zambiri kumakhala ndi kudalira pa zolaula, kumawoneka kuti zimathandiza kuti anthu azikhala ndi matenda enaake osokoneza bongo. Ndikofunika kuonetsetsa kuti kukhalapo kwa zizoloŵezizi kulipo kusiyana ndi kuchitapo kanthu kuti chidziwitso chichotsedwe, kuti chiphatikize njira zowononga zizoloŵezi zowonongeka.
Zokhudza kugonana:
Ophunzira angapo omwe sananene kuti anali ndi chidwi chogonana asanabadwe ana asanaonere CP ankakhulupirira kuti kukhudzana ndi zinthuzi nthawi zambiri 'kumawalimbikitsa' kuti azikonda ana.
Pafupifupi pafupifupi onse omwe sananene kuti akufuna kuchita nawo zachiwerewere, ndizotheka kuti izi zidapangitsa ophunzirawo kuti azikhala ndi chidwi ndi CP, mmalo mwa ana iwowo (komanso powonjezera kuchitira ana nkhanza). Ophunzira adafotokozera momwe amawonera izi:
Zili ngati ... mukakhala ndi gin yanu yoyamba, kapena chilichonse. Mukuganiza, 'izi ndizowopsa', koma mumangopita ndipo pambuyo pake mumayamba kukonda gin. (Yohane).
Zozungulira zomwe zinali muubongo wanga zomwe zinali zokhudzana ndi kugonana komwe kumabwera, magawo omwe anali kuwombera pomwe ndimayang'ana zithunzi za ana ... zaka zochita zomwe mwina zidapangitsa zinthu mu ubongo wanga kusintha. (Ben)
Pamene chidwi chawo ku CP chikukulira, owonera omwe anali atawona zolaula za akulu ndi ana adanenanso kuti zimawavuta kukakamizidwa ndi akuluakulu omwe amagonana.
Pamaso pa nkhope, njira yodziwikirayi imatha kuwoneka ngati yosemphana ndi zomwe zimachitika kale. Komabe, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti kwa anthu omwe alibe chidwi chogonana ndi ana, momwe zimakhalira zikuwoneka ngati zimayamba pakati pa nthawi yomwe akuwona CP ndi zomwe ophunzira akutenga nawo gawo pazinthuzi.
Kafukufukuyu adawonetsa kuti gulu la zaka 18-30 linanena kuti lili ndi chiwerengero chachikulu cha malingaliro olakwika okhudzana ndi kugonana kutsatiridwa ndi omwe ali ndi zaka 31-50, kenako omwe ali ndi zaka 51-76. Mwachidule, gulu la zaka lomwe lili ndi chiwerengero chachikulu cha ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula (ndi omwe adakulira pogwiritsa ntchito mawebusayiti a chubu ) limafotokoza kuchuluka kwakukulu kwa malingaliro olakwika okhudzana ndi kugonana (kugwiririra, fetishism, kugonana ndi ana). Chidule cha gawo lokambirana chikuwonetsa kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kungakhale chifukwa chake:
Kuonjezerapo, chifukwa chomwe anthu osakwanitsa zaka 30 amavomereza zogonana zosagwirizana ndi omwe ali ndi zaka zoposa 30 mwina chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa zolaula pakati pa anyamata. Ofufuza apeza kuti kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula kwawonjezeka kuyambira 1970s, kuyambira pa 45% mpaka 61%, ndikusintha kwakanthawi kochepa kwambiri kwa anthu achikulire omwe kutsata zolaula kumachepa (Mtengo, Patterson, Regnerus, & Walley, 2016). Kuphatikiza apo, pakuphunzira zolaula pakati pa achichepere a 4339 aku Sweden, ochepera gawo limodzi mwa omwe adachita nawo kafukufukuyu adawonera zolaula zachiwerewere, nyama ndi ana (Svedin, ermankerman, & Priebe, 2011).
Ngakhale kuwonetsa zolaula ndikugwiritsa ntchito sikunayesedwe kafukufukuyu, omwe sanakwanitse zaka 30 mu zitsanzo zathu atha kukhala akuwona zolaula zambiri, komanso mitundu yonyansa yazithunzi, kuposa omwe ali ndi zaka zopitilira 51 monga zolaula pakukula kukhala ovomerezeka pagulu (Carroll et al., 2008).
Kubwerezabwereza kwa binomial komwe kungasinthidwe mosiyanasiyana kunagwiritsidwa ntchito poyesa mgwirizano pakati pa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndi kuchitidwa kwa IPV m'moyo wonse, kuwongolera jenda, zaka, mtundu/fuko, ubale, maphunziro, udindo wa usilikali, kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso, kuvutika maganizo, kugwiritsa ntchito zolimbikitsa, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala ochepetsa nkhawa, ndi matenda opsinjika maganizo pambuyo pa zoopsa. Mwa anthu omwe adawunikidwa, 41% ya asilikali adanena kuti amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa sabata, ndipo 9.6% adanenanso kuti akuchita mtundu uliwonse wa IPV. Asilikali omwe adanena kuti amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula anali ndi mwayi waukulu pakati pa 1.72 ndi 3.56 wonena za kuchitidwa kwa IPV m'moyo wonse, kuwongolera ma covariates.
Zina mwazinthu zam'mutu zam'mutu za erectile zinali,
zokhudzana ndi maonekedwe akuluakulu ndi zochitika zogonana.
Amuna omwe anali ndi vuto la kugonana anali atakhala nthawi yayitali m'mabala ndi m'mabafa komwe zolaula zinali " ponseponse ," komanso " kusewera nthawi zonse ". Ofufuzawo anati:
Kukambirana ndi nkhaniyi kunalimbikitsa lingaliro lathu kuti ena mwa iwo anali ndi chidwi chokwanira kufooka kwawoneka kuti zakhala zikuchititsa kuti anthu azikhala ochepa kwambiri pa "vanilla kugonana" komanso kuti chiwerengero chowonjezeka cha zachikhalidwe ndi zosiyana, nthawi zina kuphatikizapo kusowa kwachindunji mitundu ya zokakamiza kuti awutse.
Kafukufukuyu wazokhudza zinziri zomwe zikuwonetsa kuti amuna amatha kuchita zachiwerewere kuti alowe m'malo mwa okwatirana naye (chovala cha terry). Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, omwe amatsata (mwachitsanzo, "akuwonetsa kuyankha kotsimikizika") pogwiritsa ntchito chinthucho akupitilizabe kuchipeza chikukopa, kaya ali ndi mwayi wopeza zachiwerewere ndi akazi enieni.
Makhalidwe oyenda a zinziri zamphongo [omwe amatsata ndi chinthucho] sanawonetse zambiri, ngati zilipo, zikuchepa pakutha kwa mayesedwe ngati amuna alandila kufikira kwa akazi m khola lawo nthawi yakumapeto.
Mofananamo, amuna ambiri omwe amakakamiza kuti azichita zachiwerewere (zolaula), kenako amapeza zibwenzi, akuti kupitiriza (nthawi zina ngakhale kukakamiza) kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula.
Zimbalangondo zomwe sizinapeze mwayi wopeza akazi zinayamba kugwiritsa ntchito chinthucho mokakamiza (kugonana pafupipafupi). Kuchuluka kwa kugonana kwawo ndi chinthucho kunawonjezeka kwambiri. Mwachidule, chilimbikitso chopangidwa chinakhala chilimbikitso chachikulu , chofanana ndi mnzawo weniweni, koma mwachiwonekere sichikukhutiritsa kwenikweni.
Ofufuzawa amafotokoza zomwe zimachitika pakufufuza kwawo pankhani yokhudza kuseweretsa maliseche / chizolowezi, yomwe ndiimodzi mwamavuto akulu mu CSBD (Compulsive Sexual Behaeve Disorder).
Ngati zosowa zazikulu za anthu sizikwaniritsidwa monga ubale, kuyanjana komanso kugonana ndi wokondedwa, atha kusintha kukhutira. Chilichonse kapena chochita chilichonse chomwe chingapatse mpata mayankho okhudzana ndi chiwerewere chitha kulimbikitsa kulimbikitsidwa komwe kumapangitsa kuti munthu azichita maliseche kapena kuchita zachiwerewere.
… Kulimbana ndi chinthu choloweza mmalo sikukhutiritsa kwathunthu ndipo sikungathetseretu kusowa kwa boma. Chifukwa chake, kufunikira kwa omwe akutenga nawo gawo m'magulu Aayi azimayi kumawonjezeka pang'onopang'ono pakutha. Izi zimapangitsanso kuwonjezeka kofananira kwamayankho okopera kwa omwe amalowa m'malo mwake, olimbikitsidwa]. Chitsanzo chathu chimaneneratu kuti kuchuluka kwachiwerewere [mayankho omaliza, kukopera] kumangowonedwa ngati (1) nyama zitasoweka chofunikira [cholimbikitsa] (chamoyo chachikazi), (2) kunyalanyaza kumapangitsa kufunikira kwakukulira [kukondoweza ], ndipo (3) pali chinthu choloweza mmalo chomwe ophunzira atha kutsata kuti athe kuchepetsa zosowa zawo.
Mbiri ya nkhanza ikuwoneka kuti ndi yofala kwambiri mwa ogonana ndi ana omwe amakonda anyamata omwe amazunzidwa. Mamembala a gululi ali ndi makhalidwe angapo omwe amawasiyanitsa ndi ogonana ndi ena. Khalidwe lawo loipa nthawi zambiri limayamba msanga, mwina sangakhale ndi chidwi chovomereza kugonana ndi akuluakulu (ili ndi gulu lomwe Groth amalitcha kuti ndi olakwa "okhazikika"), khalidwe lawo nthawi zambiri limakhala lokakamiza kwambiri komanso losafuna chithandizo, ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi ozunzidwa ambiri. Mu mndandanda wina, gulu la ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha 146 m'deralo linachita ziwawa pafupifupi 279 pa aliyense. Malipoti ochititsa chidwi ochokera m'mapulogalamu angapo ochizira akuwonetsa kuti ngakhale kuti matenda amisala amtundu uliwonse ndi osowa m'gululi, mbiri ya nkhanza zogonana ndi yofala kwambiri, kuyambira 40 mpaka 60 peresenti. Mu pulogalamu ina yochizira odwala kunja, ogwira ntchito adayerekeza kuti 55 peresenti ya ogonana ndi ana adazunzidwa, makamaka ndi amuna osamalira ana. Anaonanso kuti anyamata omwe ankagwiririra akazi sanali ndi mbiri yochitira nkhanza kawirikawiri, koma kuti anyamata omwe ankagwiririra amuna nthawi zambiri anali ozunzidwa ndi nkhanza zogonana. Ponseponse, deta iyi ikusonyeza kuti kuvulala kwa anyamata paubwana kungakhale chifukwa chachikulu chomwe chingayambitse khalidwe lochitira nkhanza zogonana kwa amuna. Kuzungulira kwa chiphunzitso cha nkhanza kungakhale ndi mphamvu yolosera za anthuwa.
Ndichidziwitso chanyama chilichonse chazakugonana komanso mphotho yakugonana yomwe imapanga mphamvu pazoyankha zomwe zimaperekedwa pazokhumba zogonana.
Zizindikiro za Somatosensory [monga kuvala jekete ya makoswe kumayambiriro kogonana] zitha kuwonetsa kukondweretsedwa kapena kuletsa makoswe amphongo kutengera momwe zakhalira.
Kugwiritsa ntchito SEM [zolaula] kumapezeka kuti kumalumikizidwa kwambiri ndi mikhalidwe yakugonana. Ophunzira omwe akuchulukirachulukira osagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo a SEM adanenanso zakuti UAI [kugonana mosadziteteza] ndi I-UAI [kulowerera kumatako] atasintha pazinthu zina pogwiritsa ntchito ziwerengero zambiri.
Zochitika, osati ubwana kapena majini, zimakonza mawaya oyendetsera mphotho. Kupeza kochititsa chidwi kumeneku kumapangitsa kuti anthu azikayikira kalekale. Mwachidule, kuledzera SAKUTHANDIZA kwambiri, zokonda zogonana sizimayikidwa mwala, ndipo zokumana nazo zimakhudza kwambiri gawo lakale laubongo. Kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti zomwe timakonza zakugonana kuti zitha kupanga zokonda zamtsogolo? Zikuwoneka choncho.
“Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, malo osangalalira komanso machitidwe omwe amatsogoza amawumbidwa makamaka ndi zokumana nazo pamoyo wawo osati majini athu. Izi zimatsutsana ndi malingaliro am'mbuyomu akuti ntchito ya dopamine imatha kubadwa molunjika. ” -Paul Stokes, MD, PhD
A Safron, V Klimaj
Kubadwa kwapang'ono kumasonyeza kuti kutsata sikungatsimikizidwe kwathunthu ndi majini.
... chikhalidwe chosangalatsa cha kugonana kumatanthauza kuti kuphunzira kwa mphotho kungakhale ndi zotsatira zokhuza kugonana (Hoffmann & Safron, 2012). Zowonadi, ena anena kuti kusintha kwachikale komanso kothandiza kungakhale njira yayikulu yomwe zokonda zakugonana za akulu zimakhazikitsidwa mwa anthu komanso zamoyo zina.
...kusiyana uku kungathenso chifukwa cha pulasitiki ya muubongo-kuthekera kwaubongo kudzisintha wokha kudzera mu zomwe wakumana nazo m'malo moyamba chifukwa cha dongosolo la mahomoni ogonana.
…Pakapita nthawi, zowongolera zomwe zasonkhanitsidwa zitha kubweretsa zokonda zokhazikika
…Pamene kukhazikika kokwanira kwachitika, zosonkhezera izi zitha kuyambitsa malingaliro achizoloŵezi, zongopeka, ndipo potsirizira pake makhalidwe, zonse zimene zingabweretse zokumana nazo zina za chilimbikitso. Ndipo chifukwa cha kusiyana kwa mphamvu zakudzutsa kwa maliseche zomwe zafotokozedwa pamwambapa, amuna amatha kukhala ndi mwayi wokumana ndi 'zovuta kwambiri' zokhazikika m'mawindo ovuta akukula kwa pulasitiki.
…Maganizo oyambilira ndi zolembedwa zimakhazikitsa maziko oti zidzachitike mtsogolo (Pfaus et al., 2012), motero mikhalidwe yokhudzana ndi kugonana koyambilira ndiyotheka kukhala ndi mwayi 'woyambitsa' pakupanga chitukuko chogonana. Kuphatikiza apo, njira yophunzirira ikayamba kukula (Safron, 2019), m'pamene imakhala ndi nthawi yambiri yogwira ntchito ndikudziunjikira mbiri yakale yokhazikika. Kuphatikiza apo, zokumana nazo zakale zitha kutenga mwayi pakupumira kwakukulu kwaubongo wachichepere, womwe udakali m'nthawi yakusintha kwamphamvu chifukwa cha zinthu monga kusintha kwa mahomoni, kusuntha kwapang'onopang'ono, komanso kudulira kwa neuronal ndi synaptic.
…kukokoloka kwa maliseche kumachita ngati chilimbikitso champhamvu komanso chodalirika chomwe chimakulitsa zokonda kuti zikhale zokhazikika.
…Pfaus ndi ogwira nawo ntchito awonetsa kuti mbali zambiri za makwerero amatha kupangidwa ndi zomwe wakumana nazo, komanso kuti zokopa zosagwirizana ndi kugonana zimatha kukhala zopindulitsa pakugonana chifukwa chokhazikika. Zitsanzo za chikhalidwe cha kugonana zimachokera ku makoswe okhala ndi "zojambula" za jekete za velcro zomwe ankavala panthawi yogonana koyambirira, mpaka makoswe omwe amalakalaka fungo la fungo losavomerezeka la cadaverine. Njira zodziwikiratu zakugonana zawonedwanso m'mitundu ina yambiri
Ngakhale ziwonetsero zaposachedwa za momwe anthu amagwiritsidwira ntchito pogonana sizochuluka kapena zamphamvu, kudzutsidwa kwa kugonana kwawonetsa kukhala koyenera mwa amuna ndi akazi.
Mkhalidwe wa mabuku omwe alipo pano ukusonyeza kuti machitidwe a RDoC-positive valence ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri mu PPU. Pakuyembekezera mphotho, umboni umasonyeza kuti anthu amalimbikitsidwa ndi zinthu zomwe zimalengeza mphotho zogonana mwa odwala omwe ali ndi PPU, koma sizikudziwikabe kuti ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zimapangitsa kuti izi zichitike. Mofananamo, maphunziro ambiri adapeza kuti anthu ambiri amayankha bwino mphotho, monga momwe zimasonyezedwera mu mayankho a mitsempha ndi chidwi/njira yopezera mphotho zogonana zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi zizindikiro za PPU. Izi zitha kukhala chifukwa cha mbiri yakale ya odwala yomwe adaphunzira ndi mphothozi. Kafukufuku wowerengera mphotho adanenanso kuti pali kusiyana kwakukulu kwa mphotho zogonana zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi PPU. Izi zitha kuwonetsa kukhudzidwa kwakukulu ndi chidziwitso cha phindu la mphotho zogonana zomwe zingakhale zoyambira kapena zotsatira za PPU. Pomaliza, maphunziro ophunzirira mphotho awonetsa kuyankha kwakukulu kwa zinthu zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi mphotho zogonana m'malingaliro akale.
Kafukufuku wa zolaula 2019: zolaula za pa intaneti zikusintha momwe timagonana

Kafukufuku wambiri wosonyeza kuti anthu ena ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula awonjezeka kwambiri angakhalenso othandiza pano. Onani kafukufuku woposa 50 amene akufotokoza zomwe zapezeka zomwe zikugwirizana ndi kuchuluka kwa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula (kulekerera), kuzolowera zolaula, komanso zizindikiro zosiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula.
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