Intaneti Ndi Yabwino Kuposa Anthu (2012)

Kujambula kwapansi: Kodi ma pixel angathe kuchepetsa chilakolako chofuna kusintha?

Scott Adams, katswiri wa "Dilbert," posachedwapa analemba nkhani yotchedwa The Digital Crossover . Nayi chidule,

Pakangotha ​​kugonana ndi ukwati mdziko loyeserera… kukhala bwino kuposa chinthu chenicheni, palibe amene azivutikira ndi ndalama, kupsinjika, ndi zovuta .... Anthu sakukondweretsanso pomwe intaneti ikulowerera kwambiri. Crossover ya anthu ena yafika kale…. Intaneti ikamaphunzira kuyembekezera ndi kudyetsa zilakolako zanu molondola kwambiri, zizolowezi zanu zidzakulirakulira.

Akunena zowona kuti crossover ikuchitika kale - ngakhale osati mwadala. Nkhani yamunthuyu ikufala kwambiri:

Ndili ndi zaka makumi awiri ndipo ndili ndi vuto la matenda osokoneza bongo a 21st Century omwe amayendetsedwa ndi ED. Ndakhala ndi mwayi katatu wotaya unamwali wanga ndi akazi enieni komanso amwazi ndipo ndakhala ndikulephera nthawi zonse (monga, azimayi awa anali pabedi langa ndipo anali okonzeka kupita, kuvala, koma sindinathe. Ndakhala ndi mwayi wina, ndipo ngakhale atsikana ena akugona pakama panga, koma sindinasunthe chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti sindingathe kutero… ngakhale ndili pakati pa 18 ndi 22 wazaka). Sindinena zambiri koma nthawi iliyonse ndinkachita manyazi, kukhumudwitsa komanso kulimbitsa thupi. Sindine wachiwerewere ngakhale pang'ono (ndimakwiya kwambiri amuna kapena akazi okhaokha,) koma sindingagone ndi akazi awa.

Ngati ndingasankhe liwu limodzi lofotokozera momwe zimakhalira ndikamayesa kugonana nawo, ndimagwiritsa ntchito liwu loti 'mlendo.' Zinkawoneka ngati zachilendo komanso zachilendo kwa ine. Zili ngati kuti ndakhala wokonzeka kukhala kutsogolo kwa chinsalu ndikuchigwedeza ndikumwalira zaka zonsezi kuti malingaliro anga aziganiza kuti ndi kugonana kwabwino m'malo mochita zogonana zenizeni. Ndikhoza kukhala wovuta zolaula, palibe vuto, koma osati kwa moyo wanga ndingakhale wovuta kwa mkazi weniweni.

Kwa ogwiritsa ntchito ambiri, zolaula za pa intaneti masiku ano zimakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri kuposa kungoganizira za atsikana ovala majekete olimba omwe amakhala pafupi nawo mu algebra. Komabe, kodi kugonana kwenikweni ndi kofanana ndi chokoleti ndi sitiroberi? Mwina ayi—makamaka pamene munthu asankha zolimbikitsa kugonana zopangidwa kuchokera paunyamata kupita mtsogolo. Ubongo wa achinyamata/achinyamata unasintha kwambiri kuti ugwirizane ndi chilichonse chomwe chimadzutsa chilakolako cha kugonana. Pofika kumayambiriro kwa zaka za m'ma 20, ubongo unachepetsa ma circuits osagwiritsidwa ntchito.

M'malo mwake, wachinyamata amene akufuna kugonana tsiku lina akuphunzira masewera olakwika. Angathe kusokoneza zomwe ubongo ukuyembekezera ndi zomwe mnzanu weniweni amapereka. Pambuyo pa zaka zambiri akugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti ngati gwero lalikulu la kugonana, ogwiritsa ntchito ena amafunika khama lalikulu, ndi miyezi ingapo , kuti asinthe kukhala anzawo enieni. Izi zimawonjezera mwayi womwe ena angavomereze pa intaneti.

"Shift imachitika"

Ndemanga ya Adams imanenanso kuti kukongola kwakuthupi kumalumikizidwa mwamphamvu ndikukhutitsidwa kwakugonana kwakuti ma 2-D otentha ali bwino kuposa 3-D osakhala otentha. Kutsata malingaliro awa, akumaliza kuti ngati simuli mnyamata wokongola, ma 2-D otsogola ndi njira zabwino kuposa azimayi enieni omwe mungagonane nawo. Kuphatikiza apo, akuneneratu kuti, m'kupita kwanthawi, ngakhale anthu omwe ali ndi mwayi wokhala pagulu komanso zachiwerewere adzasiya kulumikizana ndi anthu m'malo mokonda zosangalatsa zapaintaneti.

Kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti kokha, kapena kwambiri, mwachibadwa kungapangitse ogwiritsa ntchito kuganiza kuti kutentha kwambiri ndikobwino. Choyamba, wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula zambiri amakonda kuyeza kukhutira kokha poganizira za mphamvu ndi kuchuluka—osati kukhutira konse . Komabe ogwiritsa ntchito ena amaona kusiyana kwakukulu akagwiritsa ntchito zolaula poyerekeza ndi kugonana kwenikweni:

Ndine munthu wowongoka yemwe amasangalala kuwona zamaliseche komanso zolaula komanso makanema azimayi omwe amagonana ndikugonana, monga amzanga ambiri amzanga amachitira. Komabe, sindikutsimikiza kuti amachita izi mpaka maola atatu nthawi imodzi. Komabe, m'maganizo ndi mwathupi ndimamva bwino kwa maola ochepa. Koma ndimamva kutopa kwambiri m'maganizo, nthawi zina ngati IQ yanga idadulidwa pakati ndipo sindimatha kuganiza bwino. Ndikachita izi usiku kwambiri, zotsatira zake tsiku lotsatira zimakhala zoyipa kwambiri. Izi sizimachitika ndikangoseweretsa maliseche osayang'ana zolaula nthawi imodzimodzi, kapena nditagonana ndi chibwenzi changa. SIZICHITIKA ngakhale ndimagonana m'kamwa ndi bwenzi langa ndipo ndimakhala nthawi yayitali ndikuyang'ana kumaliseche kwake. (Zimachitikanso pang'ono ndikayang'ana zolaula ndipo sindichita maliseche tsiku lomwelo).

Kutentha kofananitsa sindicho chifukwa chokha chowotcha 2-D kuposa anzanu enieni. Pali chifukwa china chobisika. Ubongo unasinthika kukhala (re) waya m'malo molimba ku chilichonse chomwe chimalumikizana ndi zokumana nazo zapamwamba. Njira yachilengedweyi imachepetsa chidwi chamtsogolo ndikuchitapo kanthu, kuthandiza anthu kuti azolowere malo awo.

Mwachionekere, zimabwerera m'mbuyo pamene zinthu zopangidwa ndi anthu zimakakamiza mokwanira kuti zigonjetse njira za ubongo zomwe zimati "ndatha", ndikusokoneza njira zopezera chilakolako. (Onani Chifukwa Chiyani Ndimaona Zolaula Kukhala Zosangalatsa Kwambiri Kuposa Mnzanu? ) Ogwiritsa ntchito ena amakumana ndi zizindikiro zosasangalatsa:

[Mnyamata woyamba, wazaka 23] Ndinali ndikupita mbali yoipa kwambiri ndi matenda a maganizo, kumva ngati ndilibe kanthu komanso vuto lalikulu la ED kotero kuti ndimayenera kudziseweretsa maliseche ndi manja onse awiri ndikuonera zolaula kuti ndikhale wolimba pang'ono, zomwe sizili bwino ndili ndi zaka 23.

[Mnyamata wachiwiri, wazaka 20] Matenda anga a ED anayamba kuyenda pang'onopang'ono zaka 2 - 3 zapitazo. Ndipo zinthu zaipiraipira kwambiri chaka chatha. Ndinafika poti sindinkaona matabwa am'mawa kawirikawiri ndipo zithunzi zambiri zolaula sizinkandithandiza. Theka la nthawi ndinkasewera ndi maliseche ofooka. Ndinkathera maola ambiri ndikusewera pa intaneti kuti ndipeze chitsanzo chomwe chinali "chotentha" mokwanira. Ndipo chomwe chinali "chotentha" lero sichinali chokongola mawa.

Adams atha kukhala olondola komwe tikupita, koma ulendowu ukhoza kukhala wovuta kwambiri komanso kopita kukakhala kosakhutiritsa chilakolako chogonana kuposa momwe adanenera.

Nanga, kugula ng'ombe weniweni?

Pogwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a digito, maubwenzi apakati komanso okhazikika samayamikiridwa kwambiri. Bwanji osachita zonse zomwe mungathe, chabwino? M'malo mwake, Adams akuwonetsa kuti kupikisana ndi ma cyber vixens atsikana ali kale "akupititsa patsogolo masewera awo," omwe amatanthauzira kuti amakhala ndi zibwenzi zogonana. Pali lingaliro lenileni loti kugonana mwachisawawa kumapereka chilichonse chomwe mungakhale nacho, mwina chifukwa chimatsanzira kwambiri pachimake pazomwe intaneti imafuna.

Komabe chibwenzi/ubwenzi wapamtima pamapeto pake ungathandize kuteteza ubongo ku zoopsa zobwera chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito mopitirira muyeso. Ndipotu, zitha kuwoneka kuti ndi bwino kuchita zogonana zochepa kuposa momwe timaganizira (koma kukhudza kwambiri), kuposa kukhala pachiwopsezo cha kumwa mopitirira muyeso nthawi zonse.

“Zovuta” za mchitidwe wa chibwenzi zitha kuchititsanso kuti banja likhale logwirizana, lokhalitsa, lomwe lingapindulitse ana komanso okonda iwowo. Izi mwina zikukhudzana kwambiri ndi zovuta zamankhwala am'magazi okhudza kukondana pafupipafupi komanso kucheza nawo pafupi, odalirika. Zambiri:

Tilimbikitsidwa ndi kutentha, nthawi zambiri timazindikira kuti ubongo wathu unasinthika kuti atipatse ife ndikumverera kwabwino kuti tigwirizane ndi kukhudzidwa kwachikondi ndi ubwenzi umene timafunikira. Zochitika izi zimakhala ngati mankhwala odana ndi nkhawa. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, kugonana kokha kumangopatsa mphindi zochepa chabe, ndipo zambiri zingatilepheretse kumva:

[Zaka 29] Zaka ziwiri zokha zapitazo nthawi zonse ndinali ndi anzanga ambiri. Ndinkakonda kupita kunja. Ndikukumbukira momwe ndimamvera ndikangoona mtsikana mumsewu. Sindinkafuna zinthu zolimbitsa thupi kuti ndikhale wosangalala. Unali kumverera kwamkati ... mphamvu imeneyo ... mphamvu yopanda kanthu, yomwe inkandipangitsa kukhala patsogolo pazinthu zonse. Kuseweretsa maliseche kunali chizolowezi changa cha tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndipo sindinamvepo zotsatirapo zoyipa chifukwa cha izi. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ... kugwira ntchito ... kukopa ... kudzidalira. Chilichonse chinali changwiro.

Nditayamba chizolowezi cholaula zaka 2 zapitazo, sikunali kuledzera; chinali chabe chithandizo chodziseweretsa maliseche. Koma posakhalitsa idakulirakulira mpaka kugwiririra, nyama, chiwerewere. Palibe chifukwa choganizira zachiwerewere ndi bwenzi langa kuyambira kale. Ndinkanyadira kwambiri kuti sindinkafuna mtsikana aliyense. Ndinaganiza, “Ine ndikudziyang'anira ndekha. Anthu ndiopusa kwenikweni kupita kukakhala pachibwenzi. Maukwati… !!! Ndiyang'aneni ine! Ndine munthu womaliza !!! Ndikhoza kukhala ndekha. ”

Koma zinali zolakwika kwathunthu. Zolaula zinali kundidya mkati. Pasanapite nthawi ndinayamba kupsinjika mtima ... ubongo wa muubongo… nkhawa za chikhalidwe cha anthu… Ubongo wanga wakale unali wolumikizidwa. Sindinakule ndi zolaula. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndikuwona kusiyana kwakukulu.

Kodi tikukumana ndi zosowa zathu?

Ngakhale kuti anthu amaoneka ngati ofanana, ndi mtundu wa nyama zomwe zimagwirizana . Mosiyana ndi 97% ya nyama zomwe zimayamwitsa, tili ndi ubongo womwe umatithandiza kukondana. (Onani Chifukwa Chake Bonobos Amachita Zitsanzo Zoipa .) Nyama zomwe zimagwirizana nthawi zambiri zimakhala ndi makhalidwe ogwirizana nthawi zambiri komanso nthawi zina zimagonana—osati kugonana nthawi zonse m'malo mwa makhalidwe ogwirizana. (Onani Kukondana ndi Monkey-Style .)

Njira yathu yapadera yolumikizirana ndi anthu awiri imatiuza kuti kusangalala ndi kugonana kumachokera ku chisakanizo cha chikondi ndi chikondi kuchokera ku kukhudzana, kudalirana, chikondi, ndi zina zotero. " Makhalidwe ogwirizana " amenewa nthawi zambiri amatonthoza ubongo (zomwe zimathandiza kupanga maubwenzi amalingaliro), motero zimawonjezera chimwemwe chathu.

Funso losangalatsa ndi ili: Popanda kukakamiza kugonana mwachibadwa, kodi zofooka zathu zogonana zomwe zili mkati mwake zingathandizire pulogalamu yathu yolumikizirana bwino , zomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala okhutira kwambiri ? Ndiko kuti, kodi pali mgwirizano wothandiza womwe wapangidwa kuti utithandize kukhalabe ogwirizana ndi mnzathu pogwiritsa ntchito machitidwe osiyanasiyana ogonana ndi ogwirizana?

Kodi kuchita zinthu mopitirira muyeso pofuna kukopa chilakolako cha kugonana kungakhale kukuthandizira kusakhulupirirana ndi kusakhutira mu maubwenzi chifukwa zosowa zathu zomwe zasintha osati "kugonana kokha" sizikukwaniritsidwa ? Lingaliro ili lingamveke losazolowereka, koma kwenikweni, akazi ambiri amanena kuti amakwiya kwambiri komanso amalira akangogonana. Amuna nawonso, angakumane ndi vuto la maganizo akangotulutsa umuna wambiri . Mayankho amenewa akhoza kukhala chizindikiro chakuti tikupitirira muyeso woyenera wa kukopa chilakolako cha kugonana komanso/kapena sitikuchita bwino kukwaniritsa zosowa zathu za kukhudzana mwachikondi ndi anthu muubwenzi wathu.

Mwamwayi, ngati wina asiya zolaula za pa intaneti ndi zoseweretsa zogonana zomwe zilipo masiku ano , maubwenzi apadera angakhalenso njira yothandiza kwa akuluakulu ambiri. Zachidziwikire, izi zitha kubweretsa kusasangalala kosiya njira ya dopamine-cranking, " yosangalatsa-monga-aphrodisiac " yomwe yaphunziridwa pa intaneti, komanso kufunitsitsa kusiya malingaliro ena otchuka.

Mwachidule, mgwirizano waukulu sikutanthauza kuti kugonana kukhale kochepa , koma kungatanthauze kufufuza njira zopangira chikondi zomwe zimawonjezera chikhutiro chomwe chilipo kudzera mu machitidwe ogwirizana popanda kuwononga kwambiri mgwirizano wathu wa neuroendocrine ndi ma jollies obwerezabwereza.

Kodi kusintha kumeneku kuli ndi phindu lililonse? Zimatengera momwe mumakondera ndi "The Digital Crossover" ngati malo omaliza. Zodabwitsa ndizakuti, chikhalidwe chathu chimatha kukhala kumeneko posachedwa kuposa momwe chimaganizira. Malinga ndi Adams ngati anthu,

pitilizani chizolowezi chawo chonenepa ndi kukangana kwambiri… Digital Crossover isadathe zaka khumi.

Yosavuta kuwonerera, makanema okonzedwa mochenjera pakukwera modabwitsa kwa Japan mu "asexuality" komanso gawo lomwe "Dating Sims" lingatenge.

zosintha

  1. Zizindikiro za kuledzera ndi kuchuluka kwa zinthu zoopsa kwambiri? Zofufuza za 35 zofukufuku zomwe zikupezeka zikugwirizana ndi kukula kwa zolaula (kulekerera), chizoloŵezi choonera zolaula, komanso ngakhale kusiya (zizindikiro zonse ndi zizindikiro zosokoneza bongo).
  2. Kulingalira mfundo yosalimbikitsidwa yolankhulidwa yakuti "chilakolako chachikulu cha kugonana" akufotokozera zolaula kapena chizolowezi chogonana: Kafukufuku wa 25 amapusitsa kunena kuti kugonana & zolaula "amangokhala ndi chilakolako chofuna kugonana"
  3. Zolaula ndi zogonana? Mndandandawu uli ndi maphunziro a 30 omwe akugwirizanitsa ntchito zolaula / zolaula ku mavuto a kugonana ndi kuchepetsa chilakolako chogonana. FZosintha za 5 zilibe mndandanda zovuta, pamene ophunzira adasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndikuchiza matenda opatsirana pogonana.
  4. Zotsatira za zovuta pazoyanjana? Kufufuza kwa 60 kumagwirizanitsa zolaula kumagwiritsira ntchito kugonana kosachepera komanso kukhutira ndi chibwenzi. (Monga momwe ife tikudziwira onse Kafukufuku wokhudza amuna adanena za kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula zambiri zogwirizana osauka kugonana kapena kukondana.)