Ukubaleka ukulutha iphonografi kubalulekile ukuba abasebenzisi be-porn baqonde ukuba kutheni banokufumana i-porn ibe mnandi ngakumbi kuneqabane lokwenene.
EZIPHAKATHI:
- Ngolwazi olungakumbi qaphela Iphonografi kunye ne-ED icandelo.
- Ngaphezulu kwezifundo ze-75 ezidibanisa ukusetyenziswa koononophelo ukuya kwisini esincinci kunye nolwaneliseko lobuhlobo.
- Iziphumo ze-40 zidibanisa ukusetyenziswa kwezilwanyana / ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kwiingxaki zesini kunye nokunyuka okuphantsi kwizesini. I izifundo ze-7 zokuqala uluhlu lubonisa bangela, njengabathathi-nxaxheba baqhelise ukusetyenziswa koononophelo kunye nokuphulukisa izifo ezingasinikiyo zesondo.
- Izifundo ze-55 Ukunika ingxelo ngeziphumo ezihambelana nokwanda kokusetyenziswa kwe-porn (ukunyamezelana), ukuhlala kwi-porn, kunye neempawu zokurhoxa.
- Ukongezelela kwizifundo ezingentla, Eli phepha liqulethe amanqaku kunye namavidiyo ngeengcali ze-150 (urology profesors, urologists, psychiatrists, psychologists, sexologists, MDs) abavuma kwaye baphumelele ukuphatha i-porn-induced ED kunye ne-porn-induced loss of sexual desire.
- Iphepha elibukeziwe ngabalingane ngabagqirha base-US Navy - Ngaba iinthombe zoononopasho ze-intanethi zibangelwa izidakamizwa zesondo? Ukuphononongwa ngeeNgxelo zeKliniki (2016) - Uhlalutyo olubanzi lweencwadi kwiingxaki zesini-zesondo ezibangelwa ziintlanzi. Ukuhlaziywa kunika iinkcukacha zakutsha nje ngokubonisa ukunyuka okukhulu kwiingxaki zesini zolutsha. Eli phepha liphinda lihlolisise iinjongo zeengcinga ezinxulumene nokuxhatshazwa koonwabo kunye nesimo sengqondo sesondo. Oogqirha bahlinzeka ngeengxelo ze-3 zecandelo lamadoda aphuhlisa i-porn-induced the dysfunctions.
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KUFUNDO: I-neuroscience ibonisa ukuba i-intanethi ye-intanethi ingacinga njani ukulala ngesondo
Kunzima ngokwenene ukufumana izilungiso xa ndizama [ukulala ngesondo]. Kuthatha malunga nemizuzu engama-20 ukuyivusa. Iintloni nyani. Kodwa ukuba ndihleli ndibukele iphonografi yam, iphantse ibe yeyoko nangoko. — Umntu osebenzisa iphonografi akwi-20s yakhe
Ngaba ungumsebenzisi we-porn onzima othi, xa usenza uthando, ungabinakho ukuvelisa / ukugcina ulwakhiwo okanye ungene kwiqabane lokwenyani, uzive uziva kakhulu, okanye uvuthondaba (ngaphandle kobunzima)? Ukuba ugqirha wakho ugwebe izizathu ezingunobangela woyeha wakho, kunokwenzeka ukuba akunike ipakethe yeViagra kwaye akuthumele kwingcebiso malunga "nemicimbi yakho yesondo". Ukucinga ngonyango kukuba umba wakho ngowengqondo (ukusebenza koxinzelelo) kunokwasemzimbeni. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba ungayifumana iphonografi, impilo yakho ye-penile ilungile.
U bungqina obukhulayo Ucetyisa ukuba ingxaki inene entloko yakho, kungeyiyo ipenisi yakho, kodwa oko kubaluleke kakhulu ngokomzimba. Ngokukodwa, ukugqithisa ngokugqithiseleyo kuye kwavelisa utshintsho lweplastiki kwingqondo yakho, okwenza ungaphenduli kangako kwimincili-kodwa ungayiphenduliyo kwi-intanethi ye-intanethi. Ezi utshintsho olunxulumene neziyobisi zibizwa ukungafuneki kwaye ukukhuthaza, ngokulandelelana. Ngokudibeneyo, bayacacisa ukuba kutheni iphonografi isenza umsebenzi kunye nosana lwakho olushushu alwenzi njalo.
Ngaphambi kokwethuka, yazi ukuba ezo nguquko zengqondo zibonakala zibuyiselwa-ngokulula kakhulu kubafana abanamathele kwisini sangempela phambi kokuba I-intanethi ephezulu yafika. Abafana abayeke ukuhlaziya i-masturbating kwi-pornography ngokubanzi baphinde baphinde baphendule ngexesha lesini kwiinyanga ze-2-8 (ngokuphindaphindiweyo emva ukuhoxiswa kakubi kunye nokuphazamisa, okwethutyana ukungabikho kwe-libido):
(Ubudala be-30, iinyanga ze-4) Ukusuka kwindawo yokuqalisa kwakhona, ndenza okumangalisayo! Naliphi na ixesha kunye nentombi yam kunye, senza i-caress njl, ndifumana nzima kwaye ihlala. Ngokwenyani andikhathazeki malunga nomsebenzi we-penile.
Ukuba iingxaki zokusebenza zikunzima, thatha oku vavanyo olulula. Ingaba iingxaki zakho zibonakala zifana neefayili? Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufunde kabanzi malunga noshintsho oluqhubekayo kwingqondo yakho. Ngaphandle koko, usenokugqiba ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba ukuba unokwenza utyhutyha, nina awunangxaki, kwaye ingxaki ilele ekusebenziseni kwakho utywala okanye kwindlela oziphatha ngayo iqabane lakho, okanye inkangeleko yakho, okanye kuphela kwiimvakalelo zakho zokukhathazeka. Unokuchitha amawaka eedola ekucebiseni, okanye ubhenele ekusebenziseni iziyobisi ngendlela ebiza imali eninzi, kwaye isanda ukungasebenzi, kwaye ushiyeke nengxaki yakho:
Andizange ndibe neengxaki kunzima kwi-pornography, kodwa xa kwenzeka into yangempela, ndaqala ukuthatha i-Cialis. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ndathatha ngaphezulu, kwaye kwaze kubekho namaxesha apho bekuza kusebenza kuphela. WTH? Nangona kunjalo ndiyakwazi ukuzinzima ukujonga iifoto.
Kutheni uMnu. Happy uyazibamba izinto zokutshisa?
Nge-intanethi ye-intanethi kulula ukugqithisa ingqondo yakho ukuze ufumane porn ngakumbi umdla. Ukukhangela nganye, umfanekiso wenoveli nganye, umfanekiso obonakalayo omangalisayo, uhlobo ngalunye olutsha, kunye nesini esivusayo ngokwayo konke kukhutshwa kwedopamine umvuzo wesiphaluka. I-Dopamine yi-gas egunyazisa umjikelezo wesiphaluka kwaye ilingana nomnqweno, ukulindela, ukuthanda, nokufuna into ethile ngakumbi.
Ngelishwa, izizathu ezikhuthaza kakhulu ezinye ubuchopho ukuzikhusela ukunciphisa ububele babo kwi-dopamine, kwaye ke ngokonwaba, okwethutyana. Ngokucacileyo, ukuba ingqondo yakho iyakwenza oku kwaye usebenzisa iphonografi rhoqo kwaye kakhulu, ingqondo yakho ayinakuba nethuba lokubuyela kuvakalelo oluqhelekileyo. Unokuzifumana unqakraza kwizinto ezigwenxa ngakumbi ukuvusa umvuzo wakho wesekethe yolonwabo.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ubuchopho bakho buya kutshintshela kule meko ngokunciphisa ukulinganiswa kwindlela yokubonakalisa i-dopamine. Wena ufuna okungakumbi, kodwa amava anelisekile. Le yinkqubo yomlutha ebizwa ngokuthi ukungafuneki. (Jonga Iimpawu zokuxhatshaza: I-300 Vaginas = I-Dopamine.) Uphando olutsha luqinisekisa ukuba lwenzeka kwiimpawu zokuziphatha ezifana nokuziphatha ukungcakaza, ukutya, yokudlala ividiyo, yaye Umlutha we-Intanethi (e ziquka i-cyber eerotica addiction). Xa ulahliwe, ufumana impendulo enqabileyo kuyo yonke into ebizwa ngokuba "yimivuzo yendalo" -kubandakanya isondo kunye neendawo ezishushu.
Umjikelo wesekethe yakho yibarometha "Inomdla kangakanani le nto?" ke ukuba ukubonakaliswa kwe-dopamine (umnqweno) kuphantsi, ii-erections zinevila. Izilungiso zivela kuphela xa iimpawu ze-dopamine ziphuma kumasekethe omvuzo kwi-hypothalamus.
Kutheni uMnu Happy unomdla wokuzonwabisa?
Ukuba ukungafuneki kwimeko ebelilibali elipheleleyo, ukulungiswa bekuya kuba buthathaka nokuba ngaba intombazana leyo yayiyintombazana, umbono wakho, okanye iphonografi. Kodwa ngokucacileyo ayililo ibali elipheleleyo, kuba i-porno isenza umsebenzi. Ngapha koko, njengoko uzama ukuyeka ukusebenzisa, ifuthe le-porn okwethutyana ukwanda. Kulapho iindlela ezinengqiqo Ngena.
Phawula: Isigama sesigxina siyadideka. Ukuxhatshazwa ibhekisa ekucofeni ngokuthe gabalala kwempendulo yakho kulo lonke ulonwabo… utshintsho olusisiseko. Sensitization ibhekisela kwi-hyper-reactivity / injabulo-kodwa kuphela ekuphenduleni iingcamango ezithile iingqondo zakho ezidibanisa nomlutha wakho.
Ukuba ezi ziinguqu zingu-neuroplastic zithetha, ukungafuneki Ingangxola, "andinakufumana lwaneliseko" (uphawu lwe-dopamine ephantsi), ngelixa ku khuthazwa Ndiza kukubamba ngeembambo kwaye uthi, "Heyi mfondini, ndiyifumene le nto uyifunayo"… eyenzekayo yeyona nto ibangele ukungafuneki. Ixesha elingaphezulu, le ndlela inamacala amabini inomvuzo ojikelezayo wokubhabha kwinto yokusebenzisa iphonografi, kodwa ingaphantsi kokuchaphazeleka xa iboniswa ngesivumelwano sokwenyani.
Ndibuyele kwi-porn kanye, kwaye nangona ndingakhange ndimiswe ngokupheleleyo, andizange ndikholelwe ubungqongqo bokukhawuleza endikufumene xa ndicofa indawo! Imincili enamandla kakhulu-ukurhawuzelela, umlomo owomileyo, kunye nokungcangcazela. Andizange ndiluvale olo hlobo lokubaleka kuba ndandisencotsheni yokufikisa kwaye ndafumana umbono ongalindelekanga kwisiketi sentombazana!
Ingqondo yakho ephezulu yenza i-loop yengxelo
Ngoko kuvela njani ukukhushulwa? Ngendlela elula, ukukhuthaza kukuquka iindlela ezimbini eziqhelekileyo zobuchopho ezithathwe kakhulu: ixesha elide (LTP), yiyo nokuqiniswa kwee synapses, yaye uxinzelelo lwexesha elide (LTD), okuyi-weakening of synapses.
Isikhundla sexesha elide (LTP) sisiseko salo ukufunda nokukhumbula. Ingashwankathelwa ngokuthi “iiseli zesibindi ezivuthayo kunye, ucingo kunye.”Iinkumbulo zivela ngokwamanqanaba amabini. Okokuqala, imiqondiso yakho yokujikeleza yesekethe yokuba amava abalulekile ngokuthumela i-dopamine yakho i-correx (PFC). I-dopamine eyona nto ibaluleke ngakumbi ubuchopho bakho bufikelela kumava.
Okwesibini, i-PFC iphendula eyakho “Oku kubalulekile!” uphawu ngo (1) ukunitha kunye yonke into enxulunyaniswa nomvuzo, kunye (2) nokwenza i-neural feedback loop ebuyela umva kwisekethe yomvuzo. Emva koko, nayiphi na ingcinga, inkumbulo, okanye isimilo esinxulunyaniswa nomvuzo othile kusebenze indlela, kwaye usete umvuzo wakho wesekethe i-buzzin '. Kungaba ngamavumba ahambelana nomdibanisi wakho owuthandayo. Kwi-tomcat inokuba ngumngxunya ocingweni okhokelela kwimazi xa kushushu. Kwintaka inokuba ibona umntu ogcwalisa ukutya kweentaka. Injongo yendaleko kukukunceda ukhumbule ukuba ngubani, yintoni, phi, nini kwaye njani ngesondo, ukutya kunye nerock 'n' roll.
Ngokubalulekileyo, i-loop yempendulo ayiqhubeki kwi-dopamine. Iyaqhubeka glutamate. Zombini iikhemikhali ze-neurochemicals zinamandla okwenza ukuba "Yiyifumane!" imiqondiso kwisekethe yakho yomvuzo. Ukuvuselela iGlutamate yoko kutheni i-porn iyakwazi ukubethelela i-chimes yakho nangona umbane wakho wesiphaluka eyekile ukuphendula kwi-dopamine kunye namaqabane oqobo. Umvuzo wesekethe (dopamine) → I-PFC (imibutho eyenziwe) → impendulo ye-loop (glutamate) ukuvuza isiphaluka.
Ukwazisa: indalo yememori ephezulu
Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, le nkqubo yinkqubo njengesiqhelo. Uvelwano, nangona kunjalo, luguqula le ndlela yesiqhelo ye-PFC
- Ngokubonisa imvakalelo, iinkumbulo ezicacileyo (ezinje ngezehlo kunye neziganeko) ziguqukela kwimikhwa, eyaziwa ngokuba ngokupheleleyo khumbula. Umzekelo: ukwazi indlela yokukhwela ibhayisikili ngaphandle kokucinga. Izinkumbulo ezinxulumene neziyobisi zifana nemeko yePavlovian kwii-steroids-kunzima ukuyihoya. Xa umntu osela utywala edlamkileyo ehamba ngebhari, zonke izandi zokuhleka nokujoja kwebhiya endala zinokuyibetha ibe sisiphithiphithi, zimise iminqweno… kwaye zisuse zonke izigqibo.
- I-LTP yomeleza indlela yempendulo yokuba iskirt esincinci se-glutamate kuko konke okudingayo ukutshisa iiseli zemithambo-luvo ezibonisa ukuba, lo ngoku! ” Iindlela eziqwalaselweyo zezi indlela engeyiyo yedopamine ngokwenza i-neurons yomvuzo-yokujikeleza-kuza isihogo okanye amanzi aphezulu. Olu phawu lucocekileyo lubonakala lusembindini wazo zonke izongezo. Ukuxinana kwetrafikhi kuhola wendlela omkhulu we-dopamine kukugcina ungaziva mnandi kwisini sokwenene? Akukho ngxaki. Unenye indlela yokufika ekhaya, kodwa ivumela kuphela uhlobo olunye lwesithuthi (ukuvuselela): IPORN.
- Ukusetyenziswa okuqhubekayo komlutha wakho kusebenze Isithathu Inkqubo kwinkqubo yovuselelo: uxinzelelo lwexesha elide (LTD). Inkqubo yokuqhawulwa kwangaphakathi kwesekethe (GABA) buthathaka, ukuqhubela phambili ukwandisa "Yiye!" imiqondiso ye-glutamate. Endaweni yokusebenza kwengqondo eqhelekileyo, okufana nokuqhuba kwesixeko apho ujonga khona ukugcwala kwabantu kuyo yonke indlela, indlela yakho ye-porn autobahn. Akukho zibane zendlela kunye ne-porn kuphela yi-BMW M-5 yendlela.
I autopiloNdiyinto eqhelekileyo kum. Kufana nokuba unedemon ephosakeleyo, kwaye emva kokuba ugqibile, uqobo lwakho luyabuya kwaye luyazibuza ukuba kwenzeka ntoni esihogweni kwaye kutheni uchithe lonke eli xesha ujonge iividiyo ezenyanyekayo.
Inkosi efanayo iya kutshintshana ngesondo / ukutya njengokuxhatshazwa kweziyobisi
I-master switch ishukumisa ukuba utshintsho olumalunga neziyobisi luyiprotheni DeltaFosB. Amanqanaba aphezulu okusetyenziswa imivuzo yemvelo (isini, iswekile, ephezulu) okanye ukulawula okungapheliyo malunga naliphi na iziyobisi zokusetyenziswa gadalala kubangela i-DeltaFosB (into ebhaliweyo) ukuba iqokelele kwiziko lokuvuza, elichaphazela ukuthetha kwemizimba.
Qaphela ukuba iziyobisi eziyingozi zibangelwa umlutha kuba ziphakamisa okanye zivimbela iindlela sele sele ikhona kwimbuyekezo yemvelo. Yingakho i-American Society of Addiction Medicine ithi ukuba izidlo zokutya kunye neentlobano zesini ziyizobisi eziyinyaniso.
DeltaFosB injongo yokuziphendukela kwemvelo kukukhuthaza thina ukuba "siyifumane ngelixa ukufumana kulungile!" Yindlela yotywala ye ukutya kwaye ukuvelisa, esebenza kakuhle kwamanye amaxesha kunye neendawo. Le mihla yenza izilingo ukutya okungenamsoco kunye ne-intanethi ye-intanethi njengoko kulula njenge1-2-3.
Akukona nje kuphela ukuqala umlutha, kodwa kunceda ukuyigcina ixesha elide. Enyanisweni, ixhomekeke ngeenyanga okanye ezimbini emva kokuba uyeke ukusebenzisa, ukwenza ukuphindaphinda kwakhona. Ukongezelela, iindlela ezixhasayo zomlingo zibangelwa ixesha elide elingaziwayo. Ngamafutshane, iifom ze-porno ziyakunokutshatyalalisa ixesha elide.
Umlutha we-neuroplasticity ungatshwankathelwa ngokuthi: Ukuqhubeka kokusebenzisa → iDeltaFosB → ukusetyenziswa kweendiza → utshintsho kwi-synapses → ukukhuthaza nokungafuni. (Jonga Ubunzima Bomlutha ukufumana iinkcukacha ezingaphezulu.) Kubonakala ukuba ukugqithiswa kwemisebenzi ekugqibeleni kukukhokelela ukulahlekelwa kolawulo olulawulayo (ulwaphulo-mthetho), enye into ebalulekileyo yezobisi.
Iindlela ezenziweyo kunye nokurhoxa… ugh
Masithi uthatha isigqibo sokuzincama kakhulu kwaye uyeke ukusebenzisa iphonografi. Uya kuziva ubolile okwethutyana. Khumbula, ingqondo yakho yaqala yabona ukusetyenziswa kwakho kwe-porn enzima njenge-bonanza yemfuza. Ibicinga ukuba wenza abantwana nge-ejaculation nganye. Yabeka ezona nkumbulo zibalaseleyo ke wena a ngafuni shiya i-bevy yakho "exabisekileyo" yobuhle (okanye nantoni na obufikelela kuyo).
Ngoku, njengoko uhlaziya ubuchopho bakho ngokuyeka, sele ukhona amaconsi aphantsi ngakumbi. Kwakhona, i-libido-squelching brain stress hormones CRF kunye neorepinephrin dubula phezulu. Ukungafuneki kwemeko kukudlula ngaphezulu, ke iqabane lokwenyani alimi lithuba. Akumangalisi ukuba uninzi lwabantu lube namava anjalo iimpawu zokurhoxa. Baziva Ngaphantsi ukuzonwabisa kunanini ngaphambili ngokuphendula kwisimo esiqhelekileyo, ukuvakalelwa Kaninzi xhalaba, kwaye uzama ukuyeka enye into ekwazi ukuhambisa umvuzo wabo wesiphaluka. Kukho izizathu eziqinileyo zokuba izilingo zinzima kakhulu ukubetha.
Okubi nangakumbi, ngexesha lokuziyeka kukhula ngakumbi. Ingathi iziko lakho lokonwaba likhwaza ngenkuthazo… kodwa kuphela likhoboka elinokuva umnxeba. Amasebe (dendrites) kwiiseli zemithambo-luvo eqhuba imiqondiso yomvuzo babe "super spiny." Oku kugqithisa kwee-nub ezincinci kuvumela unxibelelwano ngakumbi lwe-synaptic kunye nolonwabo olukhulu. Kufana nokukhulisa iindlebe ezine zeendlebe ngelixa ubambekile kwikonsathi ye "Spinal Tap". Xa imikhwa okanye iingcinga (glutamate) isando somjikelo wesekethe yomvuzo, isikali sokunqwenela sihlasela ishumi elinanye.
Ndifumanisa ukuba imifanekiso engahleliwe kwiintengiso kunye nezinto zibeka iminqweno. Nokuba iimodeli zinxitywe ngokupheleleyo, ndifuna ngokwenene ukunikezela.
Ngexesha lokuchacha, kulula ukwenza impazamo kwindlela esebenzayo yovuselelo lwe-libido yokwenyani. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba ufumana amava oqobo yehla kwi libido ngaxa lithile ekuvuseleleni kwakho. Ngethuba lesi sigaba se "flatline", i-porn cue isenokukutshisa, kwaye ibangele ulwakhiwo olunomdla. Oku kunokukukhohlisa ukuba ucinge ukuba i-porn yiyo unyango ngenxa yakho yokulukhuni. Ukunyanga okwenene kukulinda ngesineke izakhiwo kwindawo yakho yengqondo ukufumana ulawulo olutsha. Okwangoku, zonke ezinye izishukumiso, kuquka umlingane wakho, azivuki.
Kwiinyanga ezimbini zokuphola kwam ndabona isakhelo esilula se-esile elingenanto kwitshaneli yabantu abadala. Ukunyaniseka kuthixo, kwakungathi ndifakwe uhlobo oluthile lweziyobisi. Ndandinomdla omkhulu kwilungu lobudoda kunye nengqondo yam, ukuyibeka kwakhona. Ndibaleke ndaya phezulu ndayohlamba amazinyo. Ukuba bendihleli ezantsi, ngendibuye ndibuyele kwi-100%. Ndizive ndiyinxalenye yokuhamba kwam, "YINTONI INDODA ESIHOGWAYO? BUYELA EMVA KWEZANTSI !!!!!!!!! ”. Bendingcangcazela ndikhefuzela. Emva kwe-8 min yokuxubha amazinyo angayeki, ndibuyele esiqhelweni.
Ukubuyiselwa kuphendulela iindlela ezinqabileyo eziya kwiikiti zamaphepha
Naphezu kwamandla abo amakhulu, iindlela zokunceda ekugqibeleni zilahlekelwa zibukhali njengoko ubuchopho bakho bubuyela kwizinto eziqhelekileyo kunye nokuzonwabisa kwansuku zonke. Ukuqhaqhazela ngamaphikseli aqala ukubhalisa njengomsebenzi ongenalutho, kwaye ekugqibeleni ubuchopho buvumela iindlela ezinokuthi zinciphise ngexesha elifanayo lomeleza indlela ehambelana neminye imivuzo ethembisayo (njengabalingani boqobo).
Apha, abafana bachaza ukuba lolu tshintsho luyathanda njani. Hlalani nikhumbule ukuba abaninzi babo baye bafumana isigaba sokurhoxisa kanzima kunye nenyanga (okanye iinyanga eziliqela) zokuphepha ukugqithwa koonwabo / ukuhlaziya umzimba.
- Kwixesha elidlulileyo ndiza kuba neminqweno yesini esomeleleyo ukujonga izinto ezigqithileyo, ezibukhali. Kodwa ngoku ezo ntlobo zeminqweno ziyancipha. Andisalwi nam ngoku ndindwendwela indawo ye-porn- kodwa endaweni yokufuna ukubona owasetyhini omangalisayo, onetoni, oshushu… nokuba unxibe iimpahla. Kufana nokuba ndiphinda ndibuyele kurhulumente ngaphambi kokuba ndenze i-hardcore- xa iindlela ezikhohlakeleyo zesini zinokundonwabisa. Oku kuyamangalisa kwaye kuyonwabisa! Ndikhumbula xa ndiphuma kwiziselo ezineswekile kwiminyaka eyadlulayo- bendihlala ndisela i-5 okanye ngaphezulu iziselo zekola ngosuku. Khange ndicinge ukuba ndilikhoboka kodwa xa ndibanikile bendifuna i-coke kakubi kwisidlo ngasinye. Ukuba namanzi nje kwakuvakala kungaqhelekanga. Kodwa emva kokunamathela kuyo malunga neenyanga ezi-2 ndandigqithile kuyo. Akukho nkanuko. Ndikhe ndafumana i-coke ukusukela ngoko, kwaye khange ndiyithande-ndiyifumene ndikhetha amanzi.
- Ngexesha eliphakamileyo lokulutha kwamanyala, andizange ndijonge phambili kuyo nayiphi na into: ndisoyika ukuya emsebenzini, kwaye andikaze ndibone ubudlelwane nabahlobo kunye nosapho njengako konke oko, ngakumbi xa kuthelekiswa namasiko am amanyala, endinika ukonwaba ngakumbi kunye nokukhuthaza ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye into. Xa umlutha uhambile, izinto ezincinci ziyandonwabisa. Ndizifumana ndihleka rhoqo, ndincumile ngaphandle kwesizathu, kwaye ndihlala ndikwimeko elungileyo. Ndacinga ukuba ndingathembanga, kodwa ngokwenene ndandingumlutha. Namhlanje, ukulungiswa okuzenzekelayo kuye kwahlala ngaphezulu kwemizuzu engama-25. Andizange ndive nomnqweno wokuhlaziya i-masturbate. Ndilale nje apho kwaye ndonwabela imvakalelo, kwaye ndacinga ngendlela endiza kude ngayo.
- Ndifumene njengoko ndiqhubela phambili, amaphupha am aba sesini ngakumbi kwaye ajonge ngaphezulu, endaweni yokuzibona ndibetha inkawu phambi kwekhompyuter yam. Kwakhona, ndiziva ngathi ukuphulula amalungu esini xa ndibona intombazana enomtsalane xa ndiphumile- endaweni yokuziva ngathi ndibukele iphonografi. Ngaphambili, andizange ndive ngathi "nje ukuphulula amalungu esini." Ndihlala ndifuna iphonografi.
- Ndisafumana ukubonwa kwamanyala: iinkwenkwezi ezingamanyala okanye iinxalenye zemiboniso. Ekuqaleni kokuqalisa kwam kwakhona, kwiiveki zokuqala, ezi ngxaki zandenza ndacinga ngokugcoba okanye ndijonga iphonografi. Ngoku, xa ndizifumana, andiziva ndinomnqweno wokwenza ezo zinto. Ndifumana ukukhawuleza okuncinci ukusuka ekuboneni loo mifanekiso entlokweni yam, kodwa malunga nayo. Ndiyakwazi ukuwashukumisa ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngaphandle kwesiphumo. Amandla abo ayancipha.
- Imifanekiso kunye nezikhumbuzo ziyafa: Ndibone inani lezithuba ezivela kubantu abathi abakwazi ukulibala ezinye zezinto abazibonayo. Ndiyakwazi ukusho oko kumava am, ewe, ezinye zazo aziyi kuze ziphele. Kodwa ininzi iya kuba. Ndine-300GB stash kwaye ndisoloko ndineeseshoni apho ndizakuchofoza umkhangeli wesiphequluli Vala iqhosha uze ubone umyalezo othi "Unayo iifayile ze-130 ezivulekile. Ngaba uqinisekile ukuba ufuna ukuvala ifestile? ". Andikwazi ukukhumbula i-95% yento endibonile. Kodwa, ndiyakhumbula i-5% kwaye leyo inokuba yinto eninzi kwabanye. Nantsi into, ayinandaba ngoku. Ndiyakhumbula ezinye iinkcukacha, kwaye ndiyichithe. Lezo mifanekiso azibambezeli kum njengoko ekugqibeleni ndishiye emva kwehlazo, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kunye nokungathinteki kwengqondo, okwangaphambili kwandenza ndibuyele kwakhona.
- Kwixesha elidlulileyo ndiye ndaphawula ubuhle, ewe, kodwa andikaze NDIMNQWENELE ukuba nentombazana. Ndiyalela yonke into yokulala kwam kwi-porn. Yonke into yezesondo kum yayingu-porn. Andizange ndicinge ngam, lo mfo unale d * ck, ulala ngesondo lokwenyani nentombazana yokwenene. Ngoku, ndiziva ngathi isondo yeyona nto yendalo yokwenza. “Esihogweni ewe kunokwenzeka ukuba ndibelane ngesondo. Esihogweni ewe maninzi amantombazana apha phandle afuna ukuba nam! ” Ngokukhawuleza, iingcinga zokuzibetha zibonakala zibubudenge kunye nokuchitha ixesha. Ekugqibeleni ndiziva ngathi uninzi lwamadoda luvakalelwa. Kwaye kuhle.
- Ekugqibeleni ndagqiba kwelokuba ndihlaziye i-pornography. Inye into eyayingaqhelekanga: Khange ndibonakale ngathi ndonwaba kwi-porn njengoko bendikhumbula. Nokuba ukufumana indawo oyithandayo kwakungabonakali kuhambisa. Iphonografi yayikruqula ngandlela thile. Nangona ibingeyiyo "intle" njengoko ndiyikhumbulileyo, ndaye ndatsalelwa kuyo. Kuba iphonografi yayingaphantse ibe nkulu njengoko ndiyikhumbulayo, ukubuyela umva kuya kuba lula.
- Ngethuba lokuqala xa ndiqala ukuhlaziya i-masturbating kwakhona, ndaziva ukuba ingqondo yam ifuna i-pornography. Oku kuya kuba nzima ukuyichaza… bekukho indawo kwingqondo yam apho i-junk ye-porn yahamba khona (iinkumbulo, iminqweno, njl. Xa ndikhanyela i-porno, ndaziva ndiwile okanye ndiziva ndingenanto kuloo nxalenye yengqondo. Njengokuba yayingasekho kwaye nengqondo yam yayiqonda. Kwakungathi xa uqhwaba izandla. Ingqondo yam yayilindele into phakathi kwezandla, kodwa ke yaqonda ukuba akukho nto iphakathi ngaphandle komoya.
- Ke ngoku ndilapha, iintsuku ezingama-75 ndakuqala kwakhona kwaye ndiziva ndilungile. Kubonakala kuyindalo, ngoku, hayi ukufuna iphonografi okanye i-masturbate. Ngelixa kwivenkile ethengisa iziyobisi ndathenga iphephancwadi malunga nomdyarho wokurhuqa, ngendlela eyayingayo kwii-60s kunye nee-70s. Kwakukho inqaku malunga nomdyarho wokurhuqa kwaye yabonisa, ngokubalaseleyo, imifanekiso yentombazana yakhe ethandekayo. Ndikhumbula ndibona imifanekiso efanayo xa babepapashwa okokuqala, phaya kudala phaya kwiminyaka yee-70s. Emva phaya babebetha izinto, ngobu busuku khange ndizive ndonwabile kwaphela. Ndicinga ukuba ekugqibeleni ndifunde ukujonga umfazi ngaphandle kokumenza umntu kwaye ndivumele iingcinga zam ukuba ziye kumjelo. Wayengumfazi omhle, ngokungathandabuzekiyo malunga naloo nto, kodwa ulilinye nje ilungu losapho lomntu.
- Kwakuqhele ukuba ndikhe ndizive ndinobubi obuncinci xa ingcinga yokujonga iphonografi ingena engqondweni yam. Kwakungathi kukho into endiyibayo. . . Ndiqinisekile ukuba yayiyimvo yovuyo eqale ngala twinge. Kwakungumjikelezo omfutshane weeminqweno zam eziqhelekileyo. Ngapha koko, loo twinge ibonakala ngathi yehlile. Ukukwazi nje ukuthetha oko kundenza ndizive ndimnandi. Andiphumi ehlathini, kodwa ndingcono kunangaphambili ebomini bam, ndonwabile nam.
- Amanqaku ambalwa apho ndiboniswe kwizinto ezikufutshane-i-porno, kwiinyanga ezidlulileyo ze-18, ndandithanda ukuphendula ngokukhulu (ekuqaleni). Ndicinga ukuba mhlawumbi kuyinto ekhuselekisayo, kufana nokuphuza kotywala okukuphela kokufa ekunxileni kwaye uya kubiza umntu ukuba aphuze nangona loo mntu engenayo ingxaki. Indlela yam yokusabela ngayo kwizinto ezinje iya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo kule ndawo. Ndandifuna into ephosakeleyo kwaye andisayi kwenza njalo. I-IMHO, xa sinqwenela ukuba sesini yinto enxibelelene nemvakalelo esiyinqwenelayo. Ndicinga ukuba oku kuyacacisa, i-BTW, kutheni izilwanyana zihamba ziyekhathaza ngokufuna iqabane endaweni yokuzikhuthaza. Ndiqinisekile ukuba nakwindawo yezilwanyana kukho into eneemvakalelo ekwaluseni, nangona incinci kunobunzima ebantwini.
- Isitshixo ekuqondeni kwam le ngxaki kuxa ndaye ndabona ukuba andifuni kwenza nto ngokwesondo. [Indoda enye emva konyaka] Ndihlala ndikhwankqiswa ngumgangatho okwenzeke kuwo oku. Khange ndibhalele iiforamu mva nje kwaye ndiziva ngathi ndiqhubekile nobomi bam ngoku. Anditsho ukuba ndikhuselekile, iya kuba yinto ebubudenge ukugqiba, kodwa ndiye ndafika kwinqanaba apho ndingaziva nasiphi na isilingo sokuphinga amalungu esini kunye nokutsala amanyala kuye nako. Leyo isenokuba yeyona nto imangalisayo, iphonografi ibonakala ngathi ilahlekelwe ngamandla kuyo. Bonke ubomi bam, de kube yiminyaka emibini eyadlulayo, iphonografi inokuba nefuthe kum. Ukuhlala nje kwithemba lokubona iphonografi kungandifaka kwimeko eguqulweyo. Ayisenamandla. Utshintsho oluninzi endilufumanayo luyamangalisa.
- Kufana nokuba ndinempendulo eyahlukileyo kuyo. Ayinamdla kum, andiyifumani inqweneleka, ithemba lokujonga iphonografi kubonakala lingathandeki kwaphela. Inje le; kuba uninzi lobomi bam bendijonga iphonografi kwaye ibinganele. Ngoku andijongi kwi-porn kwaphela kwaye ingaphezulu kokwaneleyo. Nokuba yeyiphi na endiyifunayo kwi-porn andisayifuni.
Ngamafutshane, iingongoma zisenokuvusa ingqondo enamandla lindele. Nangona kunjalo njengoko usabela ngakumbi kulonwabo lokwenyani, ukuphulula amalungu esini kwiiphikseli kubonakala kuya kusiba lilize kwaye kungonelisi. Ewe, ukuba ubuyela ekusebenziseni i-porn ekhethekileyo, uyayitshisa kwakhona inkqubo yokuvuselela ubuntununtunu. Ngamanye amagama, ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo ekuziphatheni ngokwesondo akukukhuseli ekugqithiseni kwexesha elizayo.
Nguwuphi na umcimbi oye waqeqesha?
Ngokudabukisayo, abafana abancinci abafika kwindawo yethu kunye ne-porn-eyanyanzeliswa kukungasebenzi ngokwesondo bahlala benelona xesha linzima lokuphinda bavuselele ubuchopho babo (jonga- Abaselula abasebenzisa izilwanyana badinga ixesha elide ukuze bafumane iMojo yabo). Nantsi imeko eqhelekileyo:
Xa ndilahlekelwe ubuntombi bam bekungenakuvakalelwa kukuba. Ndandibuhlungu ngokwenene. Ndilahlekelwe ukulungiswa emva kwemizuzu elishumi. Wayefuna ubulili obukhulu, kodwa ndenziwe. Ngexesha elilandelayo ndazama ukulala ngesibini kwintombi. Ndandilungiswa ekuqaleni, kodwa ndilahlekile ngaphambi kokuba ndifake. Ukusetyenziswa kwekhondom kwakungaphandle kombuzo-kungekhona ukulungiswa okwaneleyo.
Ngokwesiqhelo abafana abanjengaye baqala ngokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-Intanethi kubudala be-11 okanye njalo, kwaye akazange azame ukulala ngesondo neqabane lakhe kwesinye ishumi leminyaka. Baye banamathela kwi-octane ephezulu ye-octane ngendlela ye-intanethi ye-intanethi, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba ubuchopho bubekwe ezinye zeesekethe zabo ezingasasetyenziswanga "zokutshatisa" njengoko befikelela ebudaleni.
Emva kwexesha emva kokutshintshela kumlingani oqobo (uphethiloli oqhelekileyo), bahamba kunye kunye nokukhawuleza bavale. Abanye kufuneka benze umgudu owenziwe ngokuchithwa ukuba bachithe ixesha elijikeleze abalingani bokwenene, kwaye ube nesigulane njengoko ubuchopho babo bufumana ulawulo olutsha. Ngamanye amaxesha badinga iinyanga ze-4 okanye ngaphezulu ukuba baphendule ngokuqhelekileyo kumaqabane asemandleni. A udidi lomhlobo unceda.
Ngokwahlukileyo, abafana abafake iintambo kumaqabane okwenyani ngaphambi kwe-Intanethi ekwi-Intanethi banezo ndlela ziphucukileyo "zamaqabane okwenyani" endaweni. Uninzi aluzange luziqaphele iingxaki zomsebenzi de bazoyise ukuququzelela nge-bandband. Xa belahla i-porno, umvuzo wabo wesiphaluka uyabuya. Abatshatileyo baqala ukujonga ukutshisa kwakhona. Ininzi idinga malunga neenyanga ezimbini, kodwa enye i-50 yeminyaka imva ivakaliswe ukuba, emva kweminyaka emithathu ye-erectile echaphazelekayo, ifuna i-8 yeentsuku ezingamaphepha-mifanekiso ukuba ibuyele kwi-saddle.
Ukuba iphonografi kuphela kwendlela onokufikelela kuvuthondaba, oko kuthetha ukuba uyicombile ingqondo yakho ekujoliseni okungalunganga. Ayisiyo eyokwenyani kunye nokugiggles ayithandeki. Bazi. Kodwa ngelixa umvuzo wakho wesekethe ukhona zi ngafuni kwiziyolo eziqhelekileyo, inqanaba lakho lesisu (eneneni, inqanaba lobuchopho) impendulo kumaqabane okwenyani…meh. Esona sizathu sokuba imiqondiso ye-porn isenza lo msebenzi kungenxa yokuba wenze i-neural sledgehammer enamandla ngokwaneleyo ukuba unyuke kwisekethe yakho yomvuzo-ubuncinci ngelixa ujonge iphonografi.
Ukwabelana ngokoqobo ngesini, ukuthintela, ukuthinteka, ukuthunga, i-pheromones, ukudibanisa kunye nokusebenzisana nomntu. I-porn ye-intanethi yi-2D voyeurism, ukuchofoza imouse, ukucwaninga, iithebhu ezininzi, ukuzihlukanisa, ukungaqhelekanga, ukuhlala kunye nokusebenzisana kuphela ngesandla sakho.
Sebenzisa ukufaniswa kwezemidlalo, sesiphi isiganeko ingqondo yakho ebesiqeqeshelwa sona? Ukuba ufuna ukudubula iihupu njenge pro, awuchithi ixesha lakho ujinga iklabhu yegalufa. Ngaba iminyaka yokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-Intanethi yenze ukungafani phakathi kokulindelwe yingqondo yakho kwaye kwenzeka ntoni kanye ngexesha lokutshatisa okwenyani? Ixesha le-rewire.
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Umsonto - Ukhoboka Lwenene.
Ukusuka kwi reddit.com
I-pmo / ed yam yayimbi kakhulu ndacinga ukuba ndiyi-asexual iminyaka emininzi
Xa ndisebenzisa utywala, andifuni ukulala ngesondo
izinto eziqhelekileyo zenzeka
ukusuka reddit nofap -
Nabani na ofumana i-P ye-PMO
Ndingu 30 ke ndikudidi oludala kakhulu
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inkungu iphakanyisiwe.
Ndizamile ukufota ngaphandle koononophala ... kubangela,
Ubume obuncinci bobulili boqobo yinto ehlala iqhutyelwe kum
Ukwabelana ngesondo okwenyani akuzange kuphile kumava am njengendoda kwi-porn
Andikwazi ukonwabela ukulala nomfazi wam kuba ingqondo yam ikhukhumala
Ukuqala kunye nokuyeka
inkcazelo efanelekileyo yokukhuthaza
Imiphumo emibi kakhulu yakho
I-orgasm engavumelekanga?
Ndicinga ukuba inxalenye yomfanekiso omkhulu wesizukulwana sethu.
Ndiyindoda eneminyaka eyi-24 ubudala
Nalapha kunjalo
Ndiyayiqonda imeko yakho, kwaye kubonakala ngathi iyafana neyam… Ndikunqwenelela ithamsanqa elihle!
Ndifuna ukukhunjulwa ngobomi bam ngokuxubusha kwangaphambili
GUY 2)
Awunakho ukugqiba ukulala nam, kuya kufuneka abambe ukufa
Awunakho ukugqiba ukulala nam, kuya kufuneka abambe ukufa
Fafism
Malunga ne-ED yakho ..
Umfazi onesizungu ufuna iingcebiso ekukhohliseni umyeni wakhe osondelene naye
Ndinentombi endineminyaka emibini itshaya ishushu kwaye ihlakaniphile
nqakraza kude nefantasy yakho enkulu kakhulu.
kuba ndiyicimile ingqondo yam ukuba ndiyithande iphonografi kunokwesini sokwenene
Xa isihogo wonke umntu wayenomdla kangaka?
nawuphi na umntu ofumanisa ukuba banesondo esiphezulu sezesondo
Akunomdla wokulala naye
Kwiveki enye, iqiniseke ngaphezu kwayo yonke into endiyingxaki.
Ingqondo yam ikhetha i-PMO kwisini sokwenene. Ndenziwe njalo nge-porn.
Kungcono ukuba fap emva koko ulale ngesondo, uhlaziye kodwa uyinyaniso
I-Porn Porn imbi: nje umzekelo omfutshane wokuba ubuninzi bobugqwetha
Ngoku ndiyakwazi ukulala ngesini kunye nabasetyhini (akukho dibane okanye pe)
Umntu ongaziwayo ubeke ingxelo ngaye:
Ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-intanethi kwi-intanethi kuyandoyikisa.
Ukukhathazeka ngakumbi kunye nokuzaliswa komlutha
I-PIED eqhelekileyo phakathi kweentlobano zesini?
I-Porn ilahlekise imbono yam yabasetyhini bokwenene
ukuqhumaiintsuku 81
Ndicetyiswa ukuba ndwendwela iiforam
kwaye ubuze loo mibuzo-jonga phantsi kwethebhu yenkxaso yeeforamu ezisebenzayo.
Ubundlobongela kunye noononophala bunamandla kakhulu
Njani i-PMO ye-bf yam indityhalele endaweni emnyama… kwaye ngoba
ngakumbi iPavlovian conditioning?
Umfana uchaza indlela ezivakalelwa ngayo xa ukukhushulwa kwezinto kuqhubeka:
I-Porn iphela kwesazela sam: Albeit kakhulu kancinci. Iinkumbulo malunga nemiboniso yam endiyithandayo zisekhona, kodwa andizicingi rhoqo. Impembelelo yabo enamandla kum iye yehla. Imifanekiso yobomi bokwenyani yabasetyhini endiyinqwenelayo ithathe indawo yezi ndawo (hayi ngendlela "engamanyala", kodwa kwindalo kwaye intle). Inene lifana nelizwi eliqhubela phambili.
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Uza kubakho nini xa ubulili boqobo bebhetele?
Nabani na umntu uqaphela ukuba wabo
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I-Porn yenza ukuba ubone ubuhlobo obusondeleyo njengento obukeleyo, kunokuba
I-Porn yenza ukuba ubone ubuhlobo obusondeleyo njengento obukeleyo, kunokuba into oyithandayo.
I-Porn imenza umsebenzi omkhulu ekukuphazamiseni ngendlela engangenayo