Maphunziro a kutalika kwa nthawi yayitali amafunika kuwulula zolaula zosayenera
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Tikufuna kuyamba kuyankha positi yanu pamwambapa pofotokozera zina zomwe simunamvetsetse patsamba lathu.
1. Mwaphonya kwathunthu lingaliro lathu lalikulu
Zotsatira zake, zambiri zomwe mwalemba sizikugwirizana ndi mfundo yathu yoyamba: Porn zokonda zomwe zili ndi morphed monga zotsatira za kugwiritsira ntchito mowa ubongo Zosintha sizimatiuza zochepa za zomwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito ogwiritsa ntchito. Pokhapokha kafukufuku akuwonetsa zolaula pa intaneti zomwe zimakonda munthu aliyense wogwiritsa ntchito zaka zoposa, sitingathe kutsutsa mfundo yomwe tapanga positi yathu. Anu sanatero.
Ubongo wokhudzana ndi mowa umasintha pakapita nthawi. Mwachitsanzo, ambiri mwa amuna amene kudzipereka kwake timaganizira zaka makumi awiri ndipo akhala akugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zaka 8-12.
The Mbiri ya mwezi wa 3 mudasanthula sakanakhoza kuwulula chodabwitsachi chomwe tidatumiza chifukwa zolemba zazifupi sizingakhale zokwanira kunyamula mitundu yazosintha zomwe ogwiritsa ntchito akusimba. Chifukwa chake, iwo omwe amadalira pakuwunika kwanu sakuganizira zosokoneza zomwe zingakhale zofunikira: kukwera kwamitundu yatsopano chifukwa cha kusintha kwa bongo komwe kumachitika.
Kuti tifotokoze, sitinanene kuti amuna ambiri amayang'ana mitundu yambiri yosiyanasiyana gawo limodzi (ngakhale ena amatero, monga mukuwonetsera). Tikutanthauza kuti anthu ambiri ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula sakuyimiranso zilakolako zawo zogonana.
Sitikukayika kuti pomwe ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amatsegula ma tabu ambiri nthawi yayitali, ma tabo amenewo amakhala okhudzana ndi fetish-du-jour wawo. Komabe, mwa malingaliro athu muyenera kukhala osakayikira kunena kuti zolaula zomwe zimakhala zosasunthika pakapita nthawi.
Momwemo, zosaka zolaula zonse ndizosaka zachilendo. Zikadapanda kutero, ogwiritsa ntchito akadapitiliza kuwonera zokonda zawo zosungidwa mwadongosolo / zosungidwa. Amuna ambiri akuti adalemba zolaula zambiri ... ndipo osaziwona chifukwa zokopa zatsopano ndizolimba. Kugwiritsa ntchito ma webusayiti mwamphamvu ndichitsanzo chabwino chokonzekera kwatsopano-ngakhale titha kunena kuti amunawa amalumikizanabe ndi zowonera, osati anthu.
Kumbukirani kuti pamene osokoneza amagwiritsira ntchito wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti pali njira ziwiri zakukulira: 1) kuwona zambiri zamtundu womwe munthu amakonda ndi 2) kuwona mitundu yatsopano. Kufufuza (kusaka), zachilendo komanso kudabwitsidwa zonse kumasula dopamine, mosiyana ndi dopamine yotulutsidwa poyankha mitu yankhanza.
2. Inu mumayika chikhulupiriro chochulukira mu kafukufuku wamakedzana
Mumatchula kafukufuku wambiri wotsimikizira kuti zomwe amakonda sizikusintha. Kodi pali amene adafufuza ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti? Timatsata kafukufuku mderali ndipo sitinawonepo chilichonse chomwe chingakhale chofunikira, popeza kuti intaneti ikuwonetsa kuti ikuthandizira (kwa ogwiritsa ntchito) m'njira zomwe zolaula zam'mbuyomu sizinali. (Maphunziro omwe ali ndi vuto losokoneza bongo pa intaneti ndi awa anasonkhanitsidwa pano. Zina zimaphatikizapo kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula.) Chofunika kwambiri, mudawonapo kafukufuku wina aliyense yemwe amatsata zomwe amakonda zolaula pa nthawi yayitali?
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Mukuona kuti tikuvomereza Norman Doidge MD's akuwona kuti kulolerana kukuthandizira masiku ano zolaula. Zomwe makasitomala ake akumana nazo zimagwirizana bwino ndi malipoti awo ochokera pa intaneti. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti ofufuza akhala akudzidalira mopitirira muyeso pa lingaliro lakuti "zokonda zakugonana sizingasinthe (makamaka mwa amuna)" kotero kuti sanawulule zomwe ife ndi Doidge taziwona.
Komabe, ngati mukufuna kuchita kafukufuku wofunikira, tidzakhala okondwa kukutumizirani mazamu akudutsa pa intaneti m'mayiko ambiri komwe amuna akulongosola zodabwitsa za morphing zokhazokha nthawi zonse. Kafukufukuyu adzafunikanso mafunso ndi kusanthula kunyozeka malingaliro oyamba.
Pamenepo, reddit / nofap anapanga a kufufuza kwa anthu, yomwe idapeza kuti zopitilira 60% za zomwe mamembala ake amakonda kuchita zogonana zidakwera kwambiri, kudzera pamitundu yambiri yazolaula.
Q: Kodi zokonda zanu zolaula zasintha?
- Zomwe ndimakonda sizikusintha kwambiri - 29%
- Zomwe ndimakonda zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kapena zosokoneza ndipo izi zinandipangitsa kumva manyazi or kupanikizika - 36%
- Zomwe ndimakonda zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kapena zonyansa ndipo izi zinatero osati ndipangeni manyazi kapena nkhawa - 27%
3. Zosintha zimakhala ndi malire aakulu pomwe zimakhudzidwa kwambiri
Kukambirana kwanu kwa akazi ndichidule china chabe. Apanso, sitikulemba za omwe akufuna zachilendo mkati gawo, kapena ngakhale mu nthawi yochepa. Tikukamba za kuledzera komwe kumatchedwa kulekerera, komwe kumachitika pakapita nthawi monga ubongo umasinthira.
Kutsetsereka kofulumira kwa kulolerana kokhudzana ndi zosokoneza bongo kumakhudzana ndi kutsika-kwa kuwonetsa kwa dopamine muubongo ndikusaka zolimbikitsa zambiri. Ndizosadabwitsa kuti azimayi amafunanso kukonza kwawo. Ndiponso sizosadabwitsa kuti amakonda kusakanikirana kosakanikirana. Ena anena kale kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwawakhumudwitsanso.
Zithunzi zanu sizikufotokozera zomwe amuna ambiri amafotokoza: Kulephera kupita ku zolaula zomwe zilipo pakadali pano komanso kufunika kopita kuzinthu zosazolowereka mpaka kufika pachimake… kutsuka ndikubwereza. Buku lanu limakana kuti izi zitha kuchitika — komabe izo zikuchitika. Malingana ndi momwe tikudziwira, chitsanzo cha ubongo wamaphunziro ndi ubongo ndizofotokozera zomwe zimadziwika bwino tsopano.
Mukutsutsa malingaliro a deensitization, koma kafukufuku wasonyeza kale kuti akupezeka pa intaneti. Onani Ochepetsa Driam Dopamine D2 Ovomerezeka Anthu Amene Ali ndi Internet Addiction ndi Dopamine yotumiza Striatal Transporters mu Anthu omwe ali ndi Internet Addiction Disorder Chonde onani chithunzi ichi cha kusintha kwa ubongo wina wokhudzana ndi chizolowezi chopezeka pa intaneti: Maphunziro a ubongo aposachedwa a intaneti akuphatikizapo zolaula.
4. Mwasokoneza maganizo athu
Tidadabwitsidwa titawerenga zomwe zikuwonetsa kuti zomwe tatumiza zinali zoloza kapena kuwonetsa zolaula zilizonse zosochera. Ameneyo anali mawu a Seltzer. Cholinga chathu chinali chakuti zolaula zimakonda, zomwe zimasokonezeka chifukwa cha chizolowezi chomwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ndi chizindikiro cha zovuta-kaya vanila, chokoleti kapena sitiroberi. Ndiponsotu, nucleus accumbens imalembetsa mphamvu za matenda, osati zokhutira.
Tikudziwa kuti ndizosangalatsa kukhulupirira kuti mukuteteza ufulu wakugonana kwa 'oyipa,' koma kuti owerenga asasokeretsedwe ndi mawu anu, nayi gawo lathu la positi:
Seltzer analemba kuti:
"Chimodzi mwazinthu zothandiza kwambiri zomwe Maganizo Oipa Amakwaniritsa ndikukhazikitsa malingaliro azakugonana omwe mwina mpaka pano amakukhudzani (ndipo mwina anthu ambiri) ngati opatuka. Mwachiwonekere, kufalikira kwa chiwerewere, kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kungonena kuti "ndikudwala", makamaka ngati pali zovuta zamaganizidwe ndi zamoyo zomwe zimafotokoza momveka bwino. "
Nanga bwanji ngati zina mwazomwe zimatchedwa kuti 'zopatuka' zimangokhala chifukwa chakuledzera komanso kulolerana (kufunikira kolimbikitsidwa mwamphamvu)? Ngati anthu okwanira akumana ndi umboni wamatenda [kukula] kumatha kukhala chizolowezi, koma sizitanthauza kuti machitidwe awo si "odwala." [zokhudzana ndi zoledzeretsa]
Miliri yoledzera idachitikapo kale m'mbiri ya anthu ndipo sizinapangitse kuti zizolowezi zomwe zidalembedwa "zachilendo" kutanthauza "opanda matenda."
Palibe mawu amodzi a positi athu anali oweruza nkhani zina. Chizindikiro chokhalira ololera chinali kukambirana mu gawo lino.
Kodi mungafotokozere zomwe "malingaliro okhudzana ndi zosokoneza bongo" angakhale? Nthawi zambiri timayang'ana zolemba zathu ndi akatswiri odziwa zakumwa zoledzeretsa, ndipo ife kapena iwo samalimbikitsidwa ndi chikhumbo chofuna kukhala ndi makhalidwe monga momwe tikudziwira.
Mukunenanso kuti timagawanika pamodzi ndikunena kuti "zimayambitsa 'zolaula zowopsa.'" Izi sizimadziwika bwino zomwe tidalemba patsamba lathu. Mawu oti 'kuchuluka kwa zolaula zachilendo' amatanthauza zolaula oledzera, osati onse ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Kuchulukitsa ndi ntchito ya ubongo amasintha kaya wina akuwotcha kwambiri vanila kapena kutuluka.
Sikuti ubongo wonse uli ndi ubongo wokhudzana ndi chizoloŵezi chogonjetsa, ndithudi, ndipo izi ziyenera kukhala zooneka kuchokera ku positi yathu. Ife timayima mwa lingaliro lathu kuti kwa iwo omwe amayamba kuledzera, kukula kwa zolaula zosayembekezereka mwachiwonekere ndi chizindikiro cha matenda m'malo mowonetsera zolaula zogonana.
Timavomereza kuti, isanachitike kwambiri, zokonda amuna zinali zogwirizana kuposa akazi. Tikukhulupirira kuti kafukufuku woyenera awulula kuti zolaula pa intaneti zafooketsa malingaliro amenewo, makamaka komwe amakonda zolaula.
Tiyeni tifike kumapeto kwa zizindikilo zowopsa zomwe ogwiritsa ntchito pano akuti anene
Kafukufuku wanu wa 'chithunzithunzi' sakanakhoza kuwulula chodabwitsa chomwe tikuloza. Komabe, zikuwonekeranso kuti sizinali zofalikira mmbuyo mu 2006 pomwe mudasonkhanitsa deta yanu. Pazaka zisanu zapitazi pomwe takhala tikumva malipoti athu pazizindikiro zazikulu zomwe timalemba: zovuta zakugonana, zokonda zogonana, zosagwirizana nkhaŵa zadziko, kusowa chidwi kwa okondedwa a 3-D, ndi zina zotero.
Zikuwoneka kuti zizindikirozi zikugwirizana ndi nthawi yapamwamba kupeza ndi momwe aliri wamng'ono wina ayamba kugwiritsa ntchito. Ife tikuganiza izo wanzeru kuchenjeza iwo, monga Seltzer, omwe amadalira kuwunika kwanu, kuti kusanthula kwanu sikokwanira kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano ndi omwe amawasamalira.
Ngati tikunena zowona, ndiye kuti tonsefe tifunika kusiya kukangana pazabwino za kafukufuku zomwe zachitika zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi ndipo sizinathetsere kuthekera kwakuti kulolerana kungakhalepo pantchito, ndikuyamba kufufuza zizindikiritso zowopsa tsopano akunenedwa ponseponse komanso chifukwa chake chachikulu.
Malo abwino oti tiyambe ndikumveka bwino kumvetsa zofunikira za Zotsatira zamakono zokhudzana ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo zotsatira zakubwera kwamphamvu kwamakono kwa cyber stimulation. Vuto lenileni pano silikukhudzana kwenikweni ndi zochitika zokhudzana ndi chilengedwe komanso chilichonse chokhudza zachilendo-ndikudina. Nayi mbiri yakale ya wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula zolaula pa intaneti. Zangowoneka lero.
"Zithunzi zolaula" [nthawi ina] zinali zocheperako kuposa Playboy, mwina zinthu zina zofewa zomwe zimapezeka pa chingwe, koma kwa anyamata ambiri njira yokhayo yosangalalira [inali] kuyimitsa VCR yanu pa NTHAWI YABWINO (kumbukirani kuti ?? Holy sh * t !! Tangoganizirani izi ndikulemba izi). Zithunzi zolaula - pambuyo pa chigamulo chofunikira kwambiri ku Khothi Lalikulu - [zidatetezedwa kwathunthu ndi Lamulo Loyamba, kupatula ngati [linali] kugwiririra mwana kapena zolaula. Tsopano, muli ndi anthu omwe amadana ndi zolaula, koma tengani zomwe "Sindikukonda zomwe mumanena koma ndidzateteza kufikira imfa ufulu wanu woti muzinena", ndikuwona kuyesayesa kulikonse kosokoneza zolaula ngati "Un-American" / kupondereza / kupondereza / kuyankha. Gahena, ngakhale okonda akazi [amayamba] kunena kuti zolaula zitha kupatsa mphamvu azimayi (ngakhale zolaula).
Komabe, palibe amene amaganiza mpaka kumapeto kwa zaka za 2000, pomwe a Johnny ndi Lisa amatha kulumikizana ndi mwana aliyense wamanyazi ndi -philia mu High Definition mu nanosecond yokhala ndi intaneti yothamanga kwambiri (O munthu… kumbukirani kudikirira ngati mphindi 5 Chithunzithunzi chimodzi kuti mutsitse kumapeto kwa zaka za m'ma 90 ??? Dziwani, kulemba izi ndikubwezeretsanso!). Gahena, masiku ano ambiri a KU SCHOOL SCHOOL amatha kulumikizana ndi mwana aliyense wopindika yemwe adakhalako m'masekondi ndi chida chomwe angakwanitse kutengera m'thumba mwake.
Zolinga zambiri "zabwino" zasokonekera. Mfundo zomwe zimapezeka pachabe sizikhala zomveka nthawi zonse zenizeni, ndipo ukadaulo umasintha zinthu.
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- Kulingalira mfundo yosalimbikitsidwa yolankhulidwa yakuti "chilakolako chachikulu cha kugonana" akufotokozera zolaula kapena chizolowezi chogonana: Kafukufuku wa 25 amapusitsa kunena kuti kugonana & zolaula "amangokhala ndi chilakolako chofuna kugonana"
- Zolaula ndi zogonana? Mndandandawu uli ndi maphunziro a 26 omwe akugwirizanitsa ntchito zolaula / zolaula ku mavuto a kugonana ndi kuchepetsa chilakolako chogonana. FZosintha za 5 zilibe mndandanda zovuta, pamene ophunzira adasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndikuchiza matenda opatsirana pogonana.
- Zotsatira za zovuta pazoyanjana? Zofufuza pafupifupi 60 zimagwirizanitsa zolaula zimagwiritsa ntchito kugonana kosachepera komanso kukhutira ndi chibwenzi. (Monga momwe ife tikudziwira onse Kafukufuku wokhudza amuna adanena za kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula zambiri zogwirizana osauka kugonana kapena kukondana.)
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