Maphunziro a kutalika kwa nthawi yayitali amafunika kuwulula zolaula zosayenera
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Tikufuna kuyamba kuyankha positi yanu pamwambapa pofotokozera zina zomwe simunamvetsetse patsamba lathu.
1. Mwaphonya kwathunthu lingaliro lathu lalikulu
Motero, zambiri zomwe mwalemba sizikugwirizana ndi mfundo yathu yaikulu: Zokonda zolaula zomwe zasintha chifukwa cha kusintha kwa ubongo komwe kumabwera chifukwa cha chizolowezi sizimatiuza zambiri zokhudza zokonda zogonana za ogwiritsa ntchito otere. Pokhapokha ngati kafukufuku akutsatira zomwe amakonda pa intaneti pa ogwiritsa ntchito pawokha kwa zaka zambiri , sangathe kutsutsa mfundo yomwe tidapereka mu positi yathu. Yanu sinatero.
Kusintha kwa ubongo komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha chizolowezi choledzera kumachitika pakapita nthawi. Mwachitsanzo, amuna ambiri omwe timawafufuza ali ndi zaka za m'ma 20 ndipo akhala akugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwa zaka 8-12.
Mbiri ya miyezi itatu yomwe mudasanthula sinawulule zomwe tidakambirana chifukwa mbiri zazifupi sizingakhale zokwanira kudziwa mitundu ya zokonda zomwe ogwiritsa ntchito akufotokoza. Chifukwa chake, iwo omwe amadalira kusanthula kwanu sakuganizira za chisokonezo chachikulu chomwe chingachitike: kukwera kwa mitundu yatsopano chifukwa cha kusintha kwa ubongo komwe kumabwera chifukwa cha chizolowezi.
Kuti tifotokoze bwino, sitinanene kuti amuna ambiri amaonera mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kugonana nthawi imodzi (ngakhale ena amachita zimenezo, monga momwe mukunenera). Mfundo yathu ndi yakuti anthu ambiri ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula sakuyimiranso chilakolako chawo chachikulu chogonana.
Sitikukayika kuti pomwe ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amatsegula ma tabu ambiri nthawi yayitali, ma tabo amenewo amakhala okhudzana ndi fetish-du-jour wawo. Komabe, mwa malingaliro athu muyenera kukhala osakayikira kunena kuti zolaula zomwe zimakhala zosasunthika pakapita nthawi.
Momwemo, zosaka zolaula zonse ndizosaka zachilendo. Zikadapanda kutero, ogwiritsa ntchito akadapitiliza kuwonera zokonda zawo zosungidwa mwadongosolo / zosungidwa. Amuna ambiri akuti adalemba zolaula zambiri ... ndipo osaziwona chifukwa zokopa zatsopano ndizolimba. Kugwiritsa ntchito ma webusayiti mwamphamvu ndichitsanzo chabwino chokonzekera kwatsopano-ngakhale titha kunena kuti amunawa amalumikizanabe ndi zowonera, osati anthu.
Kumbukirani kuti munthu amene amaonera zolaula pa intaneti akayamba kugwiritsa ntchito chizolowezi chogonana , pali njira ziwiri zosiyana zopezera chizolowezi: 1) kuonera zinthu zambiri zomwe amakonda komanso 2) kuonera zinthu zatsopano. Kufunafuna (kufufuza), zinthu zatsopano komanso zodabwitsa, zonsezi zimachotsa dopamine , kupatula dopamine yomwe imatulutsidwa poyankha nkhani zogonana.
2. Inu mumayika chikhulupiriro chochulukira mu kafukufuku wamakedzana
Mwatchula kafukufuku wambiri wotsimikizira zomwe mwapeza kuti zokonda sizisintha. Kodi pali kafukufuku wina aliyense amene wafufuza ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti? Timafufuza kafukufukuyu ndipo sitinawone chilichonse chatsopano chokwanira kukhala chofunikira, popeza intaneti ikuwonetsa kuti ndi yosokoneza (kwa ogwiritsa ntchito ena) mosiyana ndi zolaula zakale. (Mafukufuku okhudzana ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti asonkhanitsidwa pano . Ena akuphatikizapo kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula.) Chofunika kwambiri, kodi mwawonapo kafukufuku aliyense amene amatsatira zokonda za kugonana za ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti pakapita nthawi?
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Mukunena zoona kuti tikuvomereza maganizo a Norman Doidge MD akuti kulekerera kukuchita gawo pakugwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano. Zomwe makasitomala ake adakumana nazo zikugwirizana bwino ndi malipoti omwe adadzilemba pa intaneti. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti ofufuza akhala akudalira kwambiri lingaliro lakuti "zokonda zogonana sizisintha (osachepera mwa amuna)" kotero kuti sanawululebe zomwe ife ndi Doidge tawona.
Komabe, ngati mukufuna kuchita kafukufuku wofunikira, tidzakhala okondwa kukutumizirani ku ma forums pa intaneti m'maiko ambiri komwe amuna akufotokoza za izi pafupipafupi. Komabe, kafukufukuyu adzafuna mafunso ndi kusanthula kopanda malingaliro okondera.
Ndipotu, reddit/nofap inapanga kafukufuku wa mamembala, womwe unapeza kuti zokonda zogonana za mamembala ake zoposa 60% zidakula kwambiri, kudzera mu mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya zolaula.
Q: Kodi zokonda zanu zolaula zasintha?
- Zomwe ndimakonda sizikusintha kwambiri - 29%
- Zomwe ndimakonda zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kapena zosokoneza ndipo izi zinandipangitsa kumva manyazi or kupanikizika - 36%
- Zomwe ndimakonda zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kapena zonyansa ndipo izi zinatero osati ndipangeni manyazi kapena nkhawa - 27%
3. Zosintha zimakhala ndi malire aakulu pomwe zimakhudzidwa kwambiri
Kukambirana kwanu za akazi ndi chithunzi china chabe. Apanso, sitikulemba za amene akufuna zatsopano mkati mwa gawo, kapena ngakhale mkati mwa kanthawi kochepa. Tikukamba za njira yoledzera yotchedwa kulekerera, yomwe imachitika pakapita nthawi chifukwa cha kusintha kwa ubongo komwe kumachitika.
Kutsetsereka kofulumira kwa kulolerana kokhudzana ndi zosokoneza bongo kumakhudzana ndi kutsika-kwa kuwonetsa kwa dopamine muubongo ndikusaka zolimbikitsa zambiri. Ndizosadabwitsa kuti azimayi amafunanso kukonza kwawo. Ndiponso sizosadabwitsa kuti amakonda kusakanikirana kosakanikirana. Ena anena kale kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwawakhumudwitsanso.
Chitsanzo chanu cha zithunzi sichikufotokoza zomwe amuna ambiri amafotokoza: Kulephera kuyamba kugwiritsa ntchito mtundu wa zolaula zomwe muli nazo komanso kufunikira kusamukira ku chinthu chosazolowereka kuti mufike pachimake ... kutsuka ndikubwereza. Buku lanu limakana kuti zitha kuchitika - komabe zikuchitika . Monga momwe tikudziwira, chitsanzo cha ubongo chokha ndi chomwe chimafotokoza momwe zinthu zilili tsopano.
Mumakana lingaliro la desensitivity, koma kafukufuku wasonyeza kale kuti limapezeka mwa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la intaneti. Onani Ma Receptors Ochepetsa Striatal Dopamine D2 mwa Anthu Omwe Ali ndi Vuto la Intaneti ndi Ma Transporters Ochepetsa Striatal Dopamine mwa Anthu Omwe Ali ndi Vuto la Internet Addiction Chonde onani positi iyi kuti mudziwe kusintha kwina kwa ubongo komwe kumapezeka mwa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la intaneti: Kafukufuku wa Ubongo Waposachedwa wa Internet Addiction Ukuphatikiza Zolaula.
4. Mwasokoneza maganizo athu
Tinadabwa kuwerenga zomwe mwalemba zomwe zikusonyeza kuti positi yathu inali yokhudza kupatsa anthu makhalidwe abwino kapena kunena kuti zolaula zilizonse “zolakwika.” Zimenezo zinali mawu a Seltzer. Mfundo yathu inali yakuti zokonda zolaula, zomwe zikusintha chifukwa cha chizolowezi, ndi chizindikiro cha matenda —kaya vanila, chokoleti kapena sitiroberi . Kupatula apo, nucleus accumbens imawonetsa mphamvu ya mitsempha, osati zomwe zili mkati.
Tikudziwa kuti ndizosangalatsa kukhulupirira kuti mukuteteza ufulu wakugonana kwa 'oyipa,' koma kuti owerenga asasokeretsedwe ndi mawu anu, nayi gawo lathu la positi:
Seltzer analemba kuti:
"Chimodzi mwazinthu zothandiza kwambiri zomwe Maganizo Oipa Amakwaniritsa ndikukhazikitsa malingaliro azakugonana omwe mwina mpaka pano amakukhudzani (ndipo mwina anthu ambiri) ngati opatuka. Mwachiwonekere, kufalikira kwa chiwerewere, kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kungonena kuti "ndikudwala", makamaka ngati pali zovuta zamaganizidwe ndi zamoyo zomwe zimafotokoza momveka bwino. "
Nanga bwanji ngati zina mwazomwe zimatchedwa kuti 'zopatuka' zimangokhala chifukwa chakuledzera komanso kulolerana (kufunikira kolimbikitsidwa mwamphamvu)? Ngati anthu okwanira akumana ndi umboni wamatenda [kukula] kumatha kukhala chizolowezi, koma sizitanthauza kuti machitidwe awo si "odwala." [zokhudzana ndi zoledzeretsa]
Miliri yoledzera idachitikapo kale m'mbiri ya anthu ndipo sizinapangitse kuti zizolowezi zomwe zidalembedwa "zachilendo" kutanthauza "opanda matenda."
Palibe mawu amodzi a positi athu anali oweruza nkhani zina. Chizindikiro chokhalira ololera chinali kukambirana mu gawo lino.
Kodi mungafotokozere zomwe "malingaliro okhudzana ndi zosokoneza bongo" angakhale? Nthawi zambiri timayang'ana zolemba zathu ndi akatswiri odziwa zakumwa zoledzeretsa, ndipo ife kapena iwo samalimbikitsidwa ndi chikhumbo chofuna kukhala ndi makhalidwe monga momwe tikudziwira.
Mukunenanso kuti timaphatikiza zonse zokhudzana ndi zolaula ndipo timati "mosapeŵeka zimayambitsa 'kuwonjezeka kwa zolaula zachilendo.'" Izi zikutsutsana ndi zomwe talemba mu positi yathu. Mawu akuti 'kuwonjezeka kwa zolaula zachilendo' amatanthauza momveka bwino anthu omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zolaula, osati ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula onse. Kuwonjezeka kwa zolaula ndi ntchito ya kusintha kwa ubongo kaya wina akumwa vanila kapena fetish erotica mopitirira muyeso.
Sikuti ubongo wonse uli ndi ubongo wokhudzana ndi chizoloŵezi chogonjetsa, ndithudi, ndipo izi ziyenera kukhala zooneka kuchokera ku positi yathu. Ife timayima mwa lingaliro lathu kuti kwa iwo omwe amayamba kuledzera, kukula kwa zolaula zosayembekezereka mwachiwonekere ndi chizindikiro cha matenda m'malo mowonetsera zolaula zogonana.
Timavomereza kuti, isanachitike kwambiri, zokonda amuna zinali zogwirizana kuposa akazi. Tikukhulupirira kuti kafukufuku woyenera awulula kuti zolaula pa intaneti zafooketsa malingaliro amenewo, makamaka komwe amakonda zolaula.
Tiyeni tifike kumapeto kwa zizindikilo zowopsa zomwe ogwiritsa ntchito pano akuti anene
Kafukufuku wanu 'wachithunzi' sangawulule zomwe tikuzitchulazi. Komabe, n'zotheka kuti sizinali zofala kwambiri mu 2006 pamene munasonkhanitsa deta yanu. M'zaka zisanu zapitazi takhala tikumva malipoti athu okhudza zizindikiro zazikulu zomwe timalemba: mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana, kusintha kwa zokonda zogonana, nkhawa yosagwirizana ndi anthu , kusakopeka ndi anthu omwe angakhale okwatirana nawo a 3-D, ndi zina zotero.
Zikuoneka kuti zizindikiro zimenezi zimagwirizana ndi nthawi yomwe munthu amalowa mwachangu komanso momwe munthu amayamba kuzigwiritsa ntchito ali wamng'ono . Tikuganiza kuti ndi bwino kuchenjeza anthu, monga Seltzer, omwe amadalira kusanthula kwanu, kuti kusanthula kwanu sikungakhale kokwanira kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano komanso osamalira awo.
Ngati tikunena zowona, ndiye kuti tonsefe tifunika kusiya kukangana pazabwino za kafukufuku zomwe zachitika zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi ndipo sizinathetsere kuthekera kwakuti kulolerana kungakhalepo pantchito, ndikuyamba kufufuza zizindikiritso zowopsa tsopano akunenedwa ponseponse komanso chifukwa chake chachikulu.
Malo abwino oyambira ndi kumvetsetsa bwino tanthauzo la chizolowezi cha neuroscience chaposachedwa pa zotsatira za kufalikira kwamphamvu kwa zinthu zolimbikitsa pa intaneti masiku ano . Vuto lenileni pano mwina silikugwirizana kwenikweni ndi zolaula koma likugwirizana ndi zinthu zatsopano nthawi imodzi. Nayi nkhani yakale ya wogwiritsa ntchito yonena za momwe zolaula za pa intaneti zimakhudzira anthu. Zangowonekera lero.
"Zithunzi zolaula" [nthawi ina] zinali zocheperako kuposa Playboy, mwina zinthu zina zofewa zomwe zimapezeka pa chingwe, koma kwa anyamata ambiri njira yokhayo yosangalalira [inali] kuyimitsa VCR yanu pa NTHAWI YABWINO (kumbukirani kuti ?? Holy sh * t !! Tangoganizirani izi ndikulemba izi). Zithunzi zolaula - pambuyo pa chigamulo chofunikira kwambiri ku Khothi Lalikulu - [zidatetezedwa kwathunthu ndi Lamulo Loyamba, kupatula ngati [linali] kugwiririra mwana kapena zolaula. Tsopano, muli ndi anthu omwe amadana ndi zolaula, koma tengani zomwe "Sindikukonda zomwe mumanena koma ndidzateteza kufikira imfa ufulu wanu woti muzinena", ndikuwona kuyesayesa kulikonse kosokoneza zolaula ngati "Un-American" / kupondereza / kupondereza / kuyankha. Gahena, ngakhale okonda akazi [amayamba] kunena kuti zolaula zitha kupatsa mphamvu azimayi (ngakhale zolaula).
Komabe, palibe amene amaganiza mpaka kumapeto kwa zaka za 2000, pomwe a Johnny ndi Lisa amatha kulumikizana ndi mwana aliyense wamanyazi ndi -philia mu High Definition mu nanosecond yokhala ndi intaneti yothamanga kwambiri (O munthu… kumbukirani kudikirira ngati mphindi 5 Chithunzithunzi chimodzi kuti mutsitse kumapeto kwa zaka za m'ma 90 ??? Dziwani, kulemba izi ndikubwezeretsanso!). Gahena, masiku ano ambiri a KU SCHOOL SCHOOL amatha kulumikizana ndi mwana aliyense wopindika yemwe adakhalako m'masekondi ndi chida chomwe angakwanitse kutengera m'thumba mwake.
Zolinga zambiri "zabwino" sizinayende bwino. Mfundo zomwe zili m'malo opanda kanthu nthawi zonse sizimveka bwino m'dziko lenileni, ndipo ukadaulo umasintha zinthu.
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