Amuna: Kodi Kuthamangitsidwa Kwafupipafupi Chifukwa Chakudya? (2012)

Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani mukamapangidwira kwambiri? 

Asayansi akupeza "matsire" okhudzana ndi minyewa itatha kukhuta, yomwe ikapitilira kukodzera kwambiri, imasokoneza malingaliro komanso kuthekera kolimbana ndi zopatsa mphamvu. Poyamba tiwona sayansi; ndiye tiona zomwe zingatanthauze kwa omwe akuchita maliseche pafupipafupi kuposa momwe angakhalire popanda zolaula pa intaneti.

Asayansi amachita kafukufuku wambiri pa makoswe aamuna pofuna kumvetsetsa zambiri zokhudza kugonana kwa anthu ndi amuna. Limodzi mwa magulu ofufuza odziwika bwino lili ku Mexico City. Chaka chatha adafalitsa kafukufuku wosangalatsa wosonyeza kuti makoswe akakhuta kugonana kwawo (momwe ndi momwe makoswe nthawi zambiri amakhalira limodzi, ndipo amafunika maola 2.5 ndi kutulutsa umuna mpaka 7), amasonyeza kusintha koyamba kwa zotsatira zoyezeka.

Kuzungulira kwachilengedwe kumeneku, komwe kumawoneka ngati gawo loyamba la kuzungulira kwakutali kwambiri, kumatenga maola 96. Munthawi imeneyi chilakolako cha kugonana cha makoswe (libido) sichili chaulesi, ndipo amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi mankhwala osiyanasiyana. Pambuyo pa masiku anayi awa, amatha kugona kangapo, koma zimamutengera masiku 15 kuti abwerere ku kuwerenga kwambiri. Malinga ndi asayansi:

Khalidwe lokhalitsa la onse [wovuula libido ndi hypersensitivity] lingathe kufotokozedwa ndi zochitika za kusintha kwa mapulasitiki a ubongo omwe, mochititsa chidwi, amatha pang'ono pang'onopang'ono.

Kusintha kwa pulasitiki sikungokhala kusintha kwa kuchuluka kwa mankhwala a mitsempha. Ndi kusintha kwa mphamvu ya synapse pakati pa maselo a mitsempha. Choyamba chimakhala chaching'ono; chachiwiri chimakhalapobe. Ofufuzawo akuganiza kuti "kupuma" kumeneku kwa kusintha kwa pulasitiki kungakhale njira yotetezera ku kusonkhezera kwambiri kwa gawo la mphotho ya ubongo:

Tingaganize kuti kuledzera kwa nthawi yayitali chifukwa cha kugonana mpaka kukhuta kumapanga njira yotetezera ku kukondoweza kwambiri kwa ma circuits a ubongo omwe amagwira ntchito pokonza.

Amanena kuti zotsatira zowonongeka mobwerezabwereza zimatha kutsanzira zotsatira za mankhwala osokoneza bongo:

Dongosolo la mesolimbic [gawo la mphotho] limagwira ntchito pokonza mphotho zachilengedwe kuphatikizapo khalidwe la kugonana. Kulimbikitsa kosalekeza kwa derali mwa kupereka mankhwala osokoneza bongo mobwerezabwereza kumabweretsa chidwi cha khalidwe chomwe chimafanana ndi kukhudzidwa kwa mankhwala komwe kumawonetsedwa ndi makoswe otopa pogonana atatulutsa umuna mobwerezabwereza pakapita nthawi yochepa, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti dongosolo la mesolimbic lizigwira ntchito nthawi zonse.

Kulimbikitsa kwambiri ndi kukulitsa chilakolako, ndipo kugonana ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo zimatha kuwononga ndalama zambiri. Zina mwa kusintha kwa pulasitiki komwe asayansi ayesa kale muubongo wa makoswe omwe atopa ndi kugonana ndi izi:

  • kuchepetsa androgen receptors
  • apamwamba otchedwa estrogen receptors
  • kuwonjezeka kwa opioids komwe kumachepetsa libido.

Kuphatikiza apo, pomwe khoswe wokhala ndi thanki yodzaza amayankha ku mphamvu zamagetsi za circuitry ya mphotho ndi khalidwe la kugonana, khoswe wokhuta sachita zimenezo . Yankho la chisangalalo cha ubongo wake limakhala lopanda mphamvu.

Mwa njira, kusintha kwina kumayamba munthu akangomaliza kumwa umuna . Ma opioid amatuluka nthawi yomweyo , ndipo ma androgen receptors amayamba kuchepa pang'onopang'ono , zomwe zimaphatikizapo madera ena a ubongo pamene amuna amadzitopetsa okha.

Zowonjezereka: Phunziro linamasulidwa Juni, 2014: Matenda osokoneza ubongo a dopaminergic neurons m'dera la ventral tegmental amachititsa zachilengedwe komanso amapereka mphotho (2014).

Zomwe zapezedwa mu makoswe amphongo: Kutulutsa kumayambitsa kusintha kwamapangidwe am'mitsempha yopanga dopamine yopanga mphotho - makamaka VTA. Maselo amitsempha mu VTA adachepa kukula, ndipo amakhala momwemo kwa masiku osachepera 7 (miyezo idatengedwa masiku 1, 7, ndi 30). VTA imapereka dopamine yambiri pazinthu zina zoyang'anira dera.

Kuonjezera apo, kuthamanga kwadothi kunachititsa kuti makoswe asamamvetsetse morphine yomwe inayikidwa, posonyeza kuti (yankho) lachisangalalo chosangalatsa. Kumbukirani kuti dopamine imayambitsa chilakolako ndi kufuna, pamene chisangalalo chenicheni cha kudya ndi kugonana chimabwera kuchokera ku opioid yomwe imatulutsidwa mu dera la mphoto.

Chinthu chofunika kwambiri: Kupititsa patsogolo kunayambitsa kuchepa kwa dopamine ya mphoto, komanso kuyankha mobwerezabwereza, komwe kunatenga masiku osachepera 7, ndipo mwinamwake nthawi yayitali.

Nchiyani chinachitika kwa makoswe omwe anazitenga posachedwa?

Pambuyo pokhuta, chilakolako cha makoswe pa kugonana chimachepa. Pa tsiku loyamba kapena kuposerapo, mungathe kumulimbikitsa kuchitapo kanthu mwanjira imodzi yokha: Kupatsa mkazi watsopano. Nthawi zambiri nyama zoyamwitsa zimanyalanyaza kukhuta kwawo kwachibadwa malinga ngati akazi ofunitsitsa ali pafupi . Taganizirani nyengo yokwatira.

Pambuyo pa maola a 24 kapena kotero, Bambo Rat nthawi zambiri amanyalanyaza akazi. Kwa tsiku lotsatira kapena awiri, iye ali mu Kugonana Kwachiwerewere. Pakati pa zida zazing'onoting'ono, pafupi ndi theka la makoswe amatha kukwera ndi mkazi wothandizira-ndipo akhoza kuchita kamodzi kokha.

Chochititsa chidwi n'chakuti, ofufuzawo adapeza kuti ma superstud awa sanapindule ndi umuna. Nthawi zambiri, umuna umatonthoza makoswe aamuna, zomwe zimachepetsa nkhawa zawo kwa kanthawi. Amunawa anakhalabe ndi nkhawa . Makoswewa analinso ndi vuto la mankhwala osokoneza bongo kuposa makoswe ena okhuta, zomwe zikusonyeza zizindikiro za dopamine yochepa pamene munthu wasiya kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo.

Mwachidule, umboni woyesera ukusonyeza kuti "zochuluka sizili bwino." Ndipotu, "zochuluka" zimapangitsa kuti phindu lichotsedwe . Lingaliro lotani: Pakhoza kukhala chinthu chabwino kwambiri. Bwanji simukuwona izi m'magawo a upangiri wokhudza kugonana?

Koma si anthu zosiyana ndi makoswe?

Inde, koma sitingakhale osiyana kwambiri ndi njira iliyonse yomwe yafotokozedwa kumene. Ndipotu, asayansi sakuphunzira makoswe kuti awathandize ndi chilakolako chawo chogonana komanso chilakolako chawo chogonana. Mulimonsemo, malinga ndi akatswiri ,

Ngakhale anyamata achikulire amasonyeza khalidwe lochepa la kugonana; zotsutsana ndi kugonana. [Kusintha kwa Neuroendocrine kumachepa] kugonana kumadzutsa mwa kulepheretsa njira yapakati ya dopaminergic.

Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ifenso takhala ndi njira zowonjezera zomwe zimalimbikitsa nthawi yowononga pambuyo pa kugonana. Taganizirani zomwe zinachitikira mnyamata yemwe ali ndi chiwerewere amacheza ndi chibwenzi chake kumapeto kwa sabata (monga momwe adafotokozedwera ndi mnyamata mmodzi yemwe adadzipatulira kuonera zolaula mlungu umodzi):

Lachinayi, ndikusiya ntchito, ndinazindikira kuti panali atsikana 5 odabwitsa patsogolo pathu. Mnzanga adati amatcha "Lachinayi Zotsatira." Chibwenzi chake chimakhala ku Gothenburg, chifukwa chake amakumana kumapeto kwa sabata. Akuti Lolemba m'mawa sazindikira msungwana aliyense wokongola pa metro, ochepa Lachiwiri, ena Lachitatu, ndipo Lachinayi ladzaza ndi atsikana okongola - kutengera mita yomwe amagwiritsira ntchito poyesa momwe amamuwonekera .

Zomwe anakumana nazo zikutikumbutsa momwe makoswe amachitira mu kafukufuku yemwe watchulidwa koyambirira kwa positiyi. Tsiku lotsatira kuyendera uchi wake, ngakhale akazi achikazi samawoneka bwino. Komabe patangopita masiku ochepa, libido yake imayamba.

Kodi nthawi imeneyi mwa amuna ndi yayitali bwanji? Ndani akudziwa? Koma tikudziwa kuti pali nthawi ya masiku 7 ya endocrine pambuyo pa umuna, chifukwa ofufuza apeza kuchuluka kwa testosterone m'magazi modabwitsa, koma kosasinthasintha pafupifupi tsiku lachisanu ndi chiwiri. Komabe, palibe amene akudziwa bwino lomwe zomwe testosterone imakwera, kapena zomwe ma domino ena amakhudzidwa nazo.

Ponena za testosterone, amuna ambiri amaganiza kuti kuchuluka kwa testosterone m'magazi kumakhudzidwa ndi kutulutsa umuna ndi kudziletsa. Nthano za pa intaneti zimakana kufa. Zoona zake: Kafukufuku wonse wa anthu ndi nyama wapeza kuti kuchuluka kwa testosterone sikukhudzidwa ndi kutulutsa umuna kapena kudziletsa. Kupatula kukwera kwa tsiku limodzi , kudziletsa kapena kutulutsa umuna sikukhudza kuchuluka kwa testosterone m'magazi.

Kodi mikhalidwe yathu yachiwerewere ingagundane bwanji ndi chilengedwe chamakono chogonana?

Pokumbukira kuti njira zathu zolumikizirana ndi mitsempha zinasinthika kuti ziwonjezere kubereka, zikuwoneka kuti pali njira imodzi yokha yachilengedwe yochotsera kamvekedwe ka kukhuta kwa kugonana mwa nyama zoyamwitsa: yaikazi yatsopano. Pokhapokha ngati makolo athu anali ndi ana aakazi, nthawi zambiri ankafunika kulola ubongo wawo kuchira nthawi ina akafika pokhuta—asanabwererenso.

Masiku ano, komabe, bevy ya akazi apabanja amapempha kuti umuna ukhale pang'onopang'ono. Ndipo ubongo wathu ukayamba kuchepa, china chake chosangalatsa kwambiri chimakhala patsamba lotsatira. Kodi anyamata ena sakugwirizana ndi "libido yawo yeniyeni?" Palibe nyama ina yamtundu uliwonse yomwe imakhala ndi zolaula kuti iziziwotcha kuposa momwe zimakhalira. Achinyamata osaka-samakhala m'zipinda zokha usiku akuphulitsa nyongolotsi zawo, kapena amabwera kunyumba kuchokera kusukulu ndikuchita zolaula kwa maola ochepa makolo awo asanafike.

Kuwonjezera pa chisokonezo, kudziseweretsa maliseche kumabweretsa uthenga wofooka wakuti “watha” kuposa kugonana. (Kutulutsidwa kwa prolactin kumawonjezeka kanayi pambuyo pa kugonana.) Zikuoneka kuti tinasintha kuti nthawi zina kugonana patokha kusatilepheretse kufunafuna chinthu chenicheni.

Komabe, pali zikhalidwe zokhudzana ndi kugonana ku Africa zomwe sizimaseweretsa maliseche . Mukayang'anitsitsa, zimasonyeza kuti kugonana kumafanana ndi komwe asayansi adapeza mwa makoswe. Aka ndi Ngandu akamafunafuna ana , akazi amagonana kawiri kapena katatu usiku. Koma sachita izi usiku uliwonse. Kuphatikiza apo, mpaka mwana wakhanda atayamba kuyenda, pali lamulo loletsa kugonana pakati pa akazi. Okondana amapuma nthawi yayitali—ngakhale kulola kuti achite zachinyengo pang'ono.

Mwa amuna ena, kugonana kwatsopano kwa masiku ano komwe kumachitika nthawi zambiri kumaoneka kuti kumayambitsa pulogalamu yakale ya zolengedwa zomwe zimayamwitsa yomwe imadzutsa chilakolako cha mwamuna chofuna akazi atsopano mosasamala kanthu kuti wakhuta bwanji. Kodi amuna awa angakhale ndi kamvekedwe kosiyana kogonana ngati zolaula za pa intaneti sizikanakhala njira ina? Mwina kamvekedwe kolamulidwa ndi njira za ubongo zomwe zasintha—ndi nthawi yopuma pambuyo poti ntchito yawo yogonana yatha?

Kugonjetsa kugonana kungapangitse zizindikiro zambiri

Njira zathu zokhuta sizingalephereke. Kupatula apo, ngati zikanagwira ntchito bwino (kuchokera m'malingaliro athu), palibe amene angakhale wonenepa. Tikhoza, ndipo nthawi zambiri timachita, kuwapitirira pa mayesero " amtengo wapatali ". Izi zimapangitsa kuti zinthu zachilendo zikhale zosiyana ndi zosangalatsa za tsiku ndi tsiku—ngakhale zomwe timasangalala nazo kwambiri.

Ndi zinthu zamakono izi zomwe zili ndi mphamvu yapadera yopangitsa munthu kumwa mopitirira muyeso mwa kutilimbikitsa kuti tisinthe zizindikiro zathu zachilengedwe zakuti “ndatha”. Tikatero, ndipo kumwa mopitirira muyeso kumakhala kosatha, timakhala pachiwopsezo cha kusintha kwa ubongo kwa nthawi yayitali.

Kumbukirani kuti mankhwala osokoneza bongo amangoyambitsa chizolowezi chifukwa amakulitsa kapena kuletsa njira zomwe zilipo kale kuti munthu alandire mphotho zachilengedwe, monga chilakolako chogonana . Ichi ndichifukwa chake asayansi apereka lingaliro lakuti njira yopezera mphotho ndiyo njira yomaliza yodziwira khalidwe la amuna okwatirana.

Kodi kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti kuti muchepetse kukhuta kwa kugonana kungayambitse kusintha kochepa kwa chizolowezi mwa ogwiritsa ntchito ena (monga kuchuluka kwa DeltaFosB )? Monga taonera, ubongo wa makoswe otopa ndi kugonana umasonyeza kuti dopamine ndi yochepa ndipo umalepheretsa zotsatira zotsutsana ndi nkhawa akamanyalanyaza kamvekedwe kawo kachibadwa ka kukhuta kwa kugonana.

Kodi amuna omwe nthawi zonse amabereketsa "anzawo" a pa intaneti masiku ano ali pachiwopsezo chokhala ndi vuto la kugona nthawi zonse akamatulutsa umuna pafupipafupi? Kodi amawombera pa masilinda ochepa kuposa onse chifukwa cha izi? Chomvetsa chisoni n'chakuti, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti ambiri amanena zizindikiro zomwe zimasonyeza kuti yankho ndi inde . Taganizirani ndemanga za munthu uyu:

Kuchita maliseche kasanu lero ndipo malingaliro onse okhumudwa abwerera. Ndinkatha kuona bwino kuti kukhumudwitsidwa sikunali chifukwa ndimamva chisoni ndikubwerera, chifukwa sindinatero. Zinali zokhudza ubongo wanga. Zinayamba kukhumudwa, kudandaula komanso kuda nkhawa kwambiri mphindi 5 nditamwa mowa kwambiri. Pomaliza ndimamvetsetsa tsopano, osati pazolemba zokha, koma ngati chidziwitso. Ndinazindikira momwe ndimamvera zomwe zimandipangitsa kukhala wokhumudwa komanso wamanyazi. Yankho langa nthawi zonse linali vuto. Sindinkaganiza kuti kubetcherana kukhoza kukhala ndi gawo lalikulu pa moyo wanga wonse.

Amuna ena amatha kusintha zotsatira zake:

Ndimakumbukira bwino kwambiri masiku oyambirira a interwebz, pomwe teh Pr0n inali yoyamba kubweza ndalama zolembetsa kubweza (ndinali nayo) komanso pomwe ambiri mwa "ochita zisudzo" ankasewera "zikopa zachilengedwe" ndipo analibe ma tattoo kapena kuboola m'mimba. … M'zaka zoyambirira ndili m'banja, ndimakonda kuyang'ana teh Pr0n kangapo pamlungu. Ndinabisa mawu anga a kirediti kadi omwe amawonetsa kampani yolipirira. Ndinazidya mobisa. Unali chisangalalo choletsedwa.

Ndiye tsiku lina, ndinali ndikunyezimira nditagona pabedi, ndizingwe pambuyo poti ndatha ukwati, ndipo ndinazindikira kena kake: Teh pr0n inali kuwononga chisangalalo changa pachinthu chenicheni. Ngakhale titayesetsa kuchita zachiwerewere kapena zachilendo bwanji, sizinali zokwanira… zambiri… Zambiri… .ZAMBIRI. Pomwe ndimayang'ana ma girly mags kapena kuwonera matepi a vidiyo, sindinakhalepo ndi vuto lililonse kapena kusakhutira ndi zomwe ndimakumana nazo zenizeni m'thupi. Ndinali ndi chidziwitso: Teh Pr0n anali wonyenga. [Friggin '] choyipa.

Pasanapite nthawi ndinasiya kutentha. Ndatsutsa kulembetsa kwanga ndipo ndinasiya kuyendera malo omwe amangotuluka kumene. Pasanathe sabata imodzi, maganizo anga ndi kukhutira ndi maukwati athu amakula bwino.

Kwa ena, ubongo wa pulasitiki umasinthika mokwanira kuti athetse kugonana koyenera:

Ndinayamba kuyang'ana kusiya zolaula patatha miyezi 6 ndikulephera kugwira ntchito bwino. Ndine wachiwerewere, ndipo ndikadakhala ndi anyamata omwe amawoneka ngati nyenyezi zolaula za 18-yo amaliseche pamaso panga, ndipo ndimalephera kukhala ndi malingaliro ogonana, ndikupereka zifukwa zakuti "ndatopa" kapena "iyenera kukhala mowa . ” Ndazindikira kuti ndikapanda zolaula / maliseche / zolaula kwa masabata a 2, ndimabwereranso kuzinthu zodabwitsa.

Anyamata ena amawoneka kuti akusintha ubongo wam'mapulasitiki wokhalitsa, ndipo amatha kukhala osokoneza bongo. Omwe akuledzera akapuma kupumula amakumana ndi zizindikilo zoopsa zochoka ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala "osasunthika" osagonana. Mnyamatayu adadzizindikiritsa kuti ndi osokoneza bongo ndipo amayesera kusiya:

Pambuyo masiku 6 osachita zolaula / maliseche, ndimagwiritsa ntchito. Tsopano, tsiku lotsatira, ndikulakalaka kwambiri kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ngakhale kuti mbolo yanga yamwalira. SIYO mbolo yomwe ikusowa zolaula. Sizingatheke. Ndi ubongo. Nazi zizindikiro zanga: Wotopa. Lero ndagona kwambiri. Zizindikiro zoyipa za chimfine. Khosi langa limapweteka ngati misala. Wokhumudwa. Ndimawona chilichonse chakuda. Zili ngati tsiku loipa kwambiri m'moyo wanga. Kuda nkhawa, mantha. Liwu langa lakonzedwa. Anali ndi zokumana nazo zingapo zachilendo zachilendo. Ndakhala ndikuganiza zambiri za nyenyezi zingapo zolaula; sindingathe kuwachotsa pamutu panga. Sizingatheke. Ndine wosakhazikika komanso wopanda dongosolo.

Zikuwoneka kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula zambiri akhoza kukhala akulakwitsa kuti chilakolako chawo chopitirira muyeso ndi chilakolako chofuna kugonana kwambiri, pomwe chilakolakocho chimachokera ku chizolowezi ndipo chimachokera ku dopamine yomwe imayankha pang'onopang'ono m'magawo awo olipira. Tsoka ilo, mwamuna akatha kutulutsa umuna ku zolaula, koma osati ndi mnzake , angaone molakwika zachilendo zosatha za zolaula ngati "mankhwala" a ulesi wake. Mwa kupitirira zizindikiro zake zachilengedwe za kukhuta ndi zithunzi zolimbikitsa (dopamine yambiri), angayambitse kusintha kwina kwa ubongo, komwe kungawononge magwiridwe antchito ake ogonana kwa miyezi ingapo.

Kodi sayansi yomwe ili pamwambayi ingafotokoze bwanji zomwe amunawa adakumana nazo?

Amuna ambiri amene amasiya kuseweretsa maliseche pafupipafupi pa zolaula pa intaneti akuti amatuluka mu nkhungu patangotha ​​milungu ingapo, ngakhale omwe sanazolowere. Phindu lomwe amafotokoza limamveka ngati zozizwitsa. Mwina amadzimva kuti ndi olimba mtima, opindulitsa komanso osangalatsa, amapeza omwe angakwatirane nawo kukhala osangalatsa, kapena cholinga chawo chokwaniritsira zolinga zawo. Ena amati amavala minofu yambiri pamalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi; tsitsi lawo limakula msanga; mawu awo amamveka achidaliro kwambiri komanso omasuka ndipo ngakhale chibwibwi chimasiya. Amakhala omvera kwambiri pazinthu zosagwirizana ndi kugonana, ndipo machitidwe awo ogonana amakula.

Kodi amuna awa akungosintha mitundu ya kusintha kwa mitsempha ya m'magazi komwe kumaoneka m'makoswe omwe amatopa ndi kugonana kumayambiriro kwa nkhaniyi? Kodi amunawa akubwerera ku moyo wabwinobwino?

Izi ndizotheka kuziganizira ndi kuziyesa. Makoswe, pambuyo pake, amafunika masiku 15 kuti abwerere ku mphamvu zawo zapamwamba. Amuna omwe adalowa mu chizolowezi, ndithudi, angafunike nthawi yonse yochira, kuphatikiza miyezi kuti ubongo wawo usinthe kusintha komwe kumatenga nthawi yayitali. Ena " osasinthasintha " kwa milungu ingapo kapena kuposerapo, chilakolako chawo chitatha.

Ndikoyenera kutchula kuti, kupatulapo zotsatira za kayendedwe ka mitsempha ya m'magazi pambuyo pokhuta, anthu sanapangidwe kuti azitha kutulutsa umuna wambiri . Zoonadi, wolemba nkhani zachiwerewere Tim Birkhead akunena kuti:

Mlingo wa umuna wa munthu umakhala wocheperapo kuposa wa zinyama zilizonse zomwe zikufufuzidwa pano. Chiwerengero cha umuna umene wasungidwa mu epididymis ndi wotsika.

Popeza kuti anthu ambiri masiku ano amakumana ndi vuto la kugonana pa intaneti mosavuta, amuna omwe akukumana ndi zizindikiro zosafunikira ayenera kuganizira ngati angakhale ndi vuto la neuroendocrine losatha—kapena chizolowezi choledzera.

Kodi kukhuta mwachibadwa kumachititsa kuti anthu azisangalala nthawi zonse, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anzawo asakopeke, komanso kuchepetsa kukhutira ndi ubale wawo? Mwachitsanzo, kodi izi ndi zomwe zikuchititsa kuti anthu ambiri azikonda kwambiri kugonana ku Japan komwe anthu amakonda zolaula? Kapena tifotokoze chifukwa chake munthu m'modzi mwa anthu asanu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula ku Australia amakonda zolaula kuposa kugonana?

Poganizira za ubwino wosiyanasiyana umene amuna amanena akasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, mwayi umenewu uyenera kufufuzidwa mosamala. Pakadali pano, amuna ambiri masiku ano amaganiza kuti maliseche ndi kuyabwa kochepa, komwe kuyenera kukanda nthawi iliyonse komanso nthawi zambiri—monga momwe zimakhalira nthawi zambiri. Komabe zikuwoneka kuti pali zambiri zokhudza umuna kuposa kutulutsa mbewu ya mwamuna.

Onaninso:

Malingaliro Othandiza

Mnyamata woyamba:

Pa masiku 100 apitawa ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito pafupifupi 95 yamasiku amenewo opanda zolaula. Ngakhale ndikagone mwachangu bwanji, nditatopa bwanji, masiku amenewo ndimangogona maola 8 MAX. Masiku 4-5 omwe ndidachita zolaula, ndimagona maola 10 mosavuta. Madokotala ena "akatswiri" ndi akatswiri amisala anganene kuti izi zimachitika chifukwa chokhala omasuka, zomwe ndimawona kuti sizabodza. Nditangomaliza kumene, ndimakhala womasuka, koma mkati mwa ola langa nkhawa / nkhawa / kupsinjika kwanga kumangokwera (makamaka m'mawa wamawa). Nditabwereranso ndikugona kwa maola opitilira 10, ndimamvanso nkhawa tsiku lonse.

Mnyamata wachiwiri:

Inde! Masiku ano nditasiya zolaula ndimagona MAX 7 maola. Nthawi zina zochepa. Ziribe kanthu ndikagona. Koma, ndimamva kuti ndimapumulo ogona ndipo ndimakhala tcheru masana. Zaka zapitazo pamene ndinkasewera maliseche ndimatha kugona maola 10-12.

Patapita mwezi umodzi + palibe zolaula / maliseche:

Ndakhala ndikuchita NoFap kuyambira Disembala 16 ndipo ndimamva bwino kuposa momwe ndimamvera nthawi ina iliyonse ndili wachikulire. Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa komwe kumachitika chifukwa chokhala ndi nkhawa zochepa. Pakadali pano ndimamva ngati sindingathe kugwedezeka paphiri. Sabata yatha ndidagonana ndi mkazi wanga kasanu ndipo ndidakwanitsa kumaliza kondomu nthawi iliyonse. Tikagonana, kamodzi pa miyezi isanu kapena iwiri (palibe bodza) timayitcha "yesani" kugonana. Ndinganene kuti ndikulephera kuchita zipsinjo kapena kukhumudwa kapena mankhwala anga. Ndikumva bwino kwambiri tsopano. Izi ndi zomwe munthu aliyense angathe kuchita. Palibe chinyengo kwa icho, kungolanga. Kukhala pachibwenzi kumathandiza. Ndingakonde kuchita izi ngati mbeta. Ndimasangalala ndi izi ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zikupitilira. Ndikutha kumva kuti chidaliro changa chikuwonjezeka m'mbali zonse za moyo wanga. Kuntchito, malo ochezera, ndi banja langa.

Mnyamata wina:

Ndapeza, ndikakhala kuti sindikhala ndi zolaula, ndimasamala kwambiri kuseweretsa maliseche. Poyamba ndimaganiza kuti ndikufuna kuthawa tsiku lililonse ndikayang'ana kukhoma kapena mkatikati mwa zotchinga zanga, koma sizinayende choncho. Tsopano ndimasewera maliseche kamodzi patsiku lililonse la 14, ndipo nthawi imeneyo imangowonjezereka. Ndipo OSATI chifukwa ndikuyesera, ndichifukwa chakuti kuseweretsa maliseche kopanda zolaula sikungokhala kwanthawi yayitali (kwa ine

ndi Diana Richardson. Awa ndi ndemanga za mnyamata wamakumi awiri:

Sindikuganiza kuti ndizochuluka bwanji zomwe munthu angawone pokhudzana ndi kugonana kwachizolowezi. Zizindikiro pambuyo pachimake - Ngati sindigona nditangotha ​​kumene, ndikupita kokayenda, ndili ndi izi:

  • Chidziwitso champhamvu chikufalikira mkati mwa ine.
  • Kuyanjana ndi anthu kumakhala kovuta kwa ine. Sindikumva ngati ndikuwona anthu.
  • Kutsogolo kwanga kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kwa masiku awiri otsatira.
  • Kumbuyo kwanga kumbuyo kuli mgwirizano.
  • Mtima wanga watha.
  • Thupi langa nthawi zambiri limatha. Palibe malo mwa ine, palibe kuyenda.
  • Ndine wokwiya.
  • Ndimachita ngati mwana yemwe sanagone mokwanira, ngakhale nditagona kwambiri.
  • Ngakhale zinthu zochepa nthawi zambiri zimakhala zochuluka kwambiri. Ngati ndiyenera kuchita chinachake, nthawi zambiri zimakhala ngati chopinga chosatha.
  • Maganizo anga akuthawa.
  • Ndikukayika mu ntchito yanga, ubale wanga, malo anga okhala, ndi moyo wanga. Palibe chowoneka ngati chabwino.
  • Ndikusowa mtendere. Sindikumva chimwemwe. Ndikuwopa kuti chirichonse chidzakhala chochuluka kwambiri.
  • Maso anga ali ophwanyika ndipo mutu wanga umakhala wovuta.
  • Sindikufuna kuyang'ana wokondedwa wanga panonso, ndipo sindingathe kumuyang'ana. Ndipo ngati ndichita izo, sindikumuwona momveka bwino.
  • Ndimamva ngati ndilibe mpumulo.
  • Mwachidule, palibe chosangalatsa.
  • Ndikufuna masiku a 2-3 mpaka ndachira (ndipo) ndikuyamba kuyang'ana mafilimu kosatha ndikupewa kucheza.

Chidziwitso: Nkhaniyi idasindikizidwa koyamba pa 5-18-2012.