Amuna: Kodi Kuthamangitsidwa Kwafupipafupi Chifukwa Chakudya? (2012)

Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani mukamapangidwira kwambiri? 

Asayansi akupeza "matsire" okhudzana ndi minyewa itatha kukhuta, yomwe ikapitilira kukodzera kwambiri, imasokoneza malingaliro komanso kuthekera kolimbana ndi zopatsa mphamvu. Poyamba tiwona sayansi; ndiye tiona zomwe zingatanthauze kwa omwe akuchita maliseche pafupipafupi kuposa momwe angakhalire popanda zolaula pa intaneti.

Asayansi amachita zambiri za kuyesera pa makoswe amphongo pofunafuna kumvetsetsa zambiri za amuna ndi amuna. Mmodzi mwa magulu ochita kafukufuku kwambiri ali ku Mexico City. Chaka chatha iwo adafalitsa kuphunzira kochititsa chidwi Kuwulula kuti pambuyo pakhomphati imadzipangitsa kugonana (yomwe ndi momwe makoswe amachitira, ndipo amafunika maola ochepa a 2.5 mpaka 7 ejaculations), amasonyeza nthawi yoyamba ya zotsatira zoyenerera.

Kuzungulira kwachilengedwe kumeneku, komwe mwachiwonekere kumakhala gawo loyamba lazunguli lalitali kwambiri, kumatenga maola 96. Munthawi imeneyi makoswe ogonana (libido) alibe mphwayi, ndipo amatengeka ndi mankhwala osiyanasiyana. Pambuyo masiku anayi awa, amatha kuthana kangapo, koma zimutengera masiku 15 kuti mubwererenso pamtunda. Malinga ndi asayansi akuti:

Khalidwe lokhalitsa la onse [wovuula libido ndi hypersensitivity] lingathe kufotokozedwa ndi zochitika za kusintha kwa mapulasitiki a ubongo omwe, mochititsa chidwi, amatha pang'ono pang'onopang'ono.

Kusintha kwa pulasitiki kumangoposa kusintha kwamagulu amankhwala amitsempha. Ndi kusintha kwamphamvu pakati pa maselo amitsempha. Zakalezo ndi zazifupi; yotsirizira ichedwa. Ofufuzawo akuti "vuto" ili la pulasitiki lingateteze kuti ubongo usapitirire Dera la mphoto:

Icho chingakhoze kuganiziridwa kuti chizoloŵezi chogonana chokhalitsa chomwe chimakhalapo chifukwa cha kusamalidwa ndicho chitetezo chotsutsana ndi kukakamizidwa kwa madera a ubongo omwe akugwiritsidwa ntchito.

Amanena kuti zotsatira zowonongeka mobwerezabwereza zimatha kutsanzira zotsatira za mankhwala osokoneza bongo:

Dongosolo la mesolimbic [mphoto] limagwira ntchito pakuwongolera mphotho zachilengedwe kuphatikiza machitidwe ogonana. Kukondoweza pafupipafupi kuzungulira kwazobwerezabwereza ka mankhwala ozunza kumabweretsa chidwi chomwe chimafanana ndi kupsinjika kwa mankhwala komwe kumawonetsedwa ndi makoswe otopa pogonana pakubwerezabwereza kwakanthawi kochepa, zomwe zikanatha kupangitsa masolimbic kuyambitsa.

Kusokoneza maganizo ndikulingalira kwambiri, ndipo kugonana ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo kungapangitse malo ozungulira mphoto. Zina mwa kusintha kwa mapulasitiki omwe asayansi ali nawo kale ayesedwa mu ubongo wa makoswe otha kugonana ndi awa:

  • kuchepetsa androgen receptors
  • apamwamba otchedwa estrogen receptors
  • kuwonjezeka kwa opioids komwe kumachepetsa libido.

Kuwonjezera pamenepo, pamene makoswe okhala ndi tanthwe lonse adzayankhidwa ndi kukakamiza magetsi a madera ozungulira ndi khalidwe la kugonana, a Ng'ombe yamakono yosagonana siyi. Kuyankha kwakusangalatsa kwaubongo kumakhala kovuta.

Mwachidziwikire, kusintha kwina kumayambira pambuyo pa kumangidwanso kwina. Opioids imadzuka pomwepo, ndipo mayendedwe a androgen amayamba kuchepa kwapang'onopang'ono, zomwe zimaphatikizapo zigawo zina za ubongo monga amuna amadzikuza okhaokha.

Zowonjezereka: Phunziro linamasulidwa Juni, 2014: Matenda osokoneza ubongo a dopaminergic neurons m'dera la ventral tegmental amachititsa zachilengedwe komanso amapereka mphotho (2014).

Zomwe zapezedwa mu makoswe amphongo: Kutulutsa kumayambitsa kusintha kwamapangidwe am'mitsempha yopanga dopamine yopanga mphotho - makamaka VTA. Maselo amitsempha mu VTA adachepa kukula, ndipo amakhala momwemo kwa masiku osachepera 7 (miyezo idatengedwa masiku 1, 7, ndi 30). VTA imapereka dopamine yambiri pazinthu zina zoyang'anira dera.

Kuonjezera apo, kuthamanga kwadothi kunachititsa kuti makoswe asamamvetsetse morphine yomwe inayikidwa, posonyeza kuti (yankho) lachisangalalo chosangalatsa. Kumbukirani kuti dopamine imayambitsa chilakolako ndi kufuna, pamene chisangalalo chenicheni cha kudya ndi kugonana chimabwera kuchokera ku opioid yomwe imatulutsidwa mu dera la mphoto.

Chinthu chofunika kwambiri: Kupititsa patsogolo kunayambitsa kuchepa kwa dopamine ya mphoto, komanso kuyankha mobwerezabwereza, komwe kunatenga masiku osachepera 7, ndipo mwinamwake nthawi yayitali.

Nchiyani chinachitika kwa makoswe omwe anazitenga posachedwa?

Pambuyo pa kukhutitsidwa mwakugonana, chidwi cha khoswe pazakugonana chimatsika. Kwa tsiku loyamba kapena kupitilira apo, mutha kumangomulimbikitsa kuti achitepo kanthu mwanjira imodzi: Pangani mkazi wachikazi. Ndizofala kuti zinyama zizinyalanyaza kukondana kwawo kwanthawi yayitali Akazi odzipereka ali pafupi. Ganizilani nyengo yochezera.

Pambuyo pa maola a 24 kapena kotero, Bambo Rat nthawi zambiri amanyalanyaza akazi. Kwa tsiku lotsatira kapena awiri, iye ali mu Kugonana Kwachiwerewere. Pakati pa zida zazing'onoting'ono, pafupi ndi theka la makoswe amatha kukwera ndi mkazi wothandizira-ndipo akhoza kuchita kamodzi kokha.

Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, ofufuzawa adapeza kuti opembedzawa sanapeze phindu lililonse potulutsa umuna. Nthawi zambiri, kutulutsa umuna kumapangitsa makoswe amphongo, kuchepetsa nkhawa zake kwa pang'ono. Amuna awa anakhalabe ndi nkhawa. Mphunoyi inalinso yogwiritsira ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kusiyana ndi makoswe ena, omwe amasonyeza zizindikiro zochepa za dopamine pambali pa kuchotsa mankhwala.

Mwachidule, umboni woyesera ukuwonetsa kuti "zambiri sizabwino." M'malo mwake, "zochulukirapo" zimatsogolera ku kuchotsa za phindu. Ndi lingaliro lotani: Pakhoza kukhala chinthu chochuluka kwambiri. Bwanji simukuwona izi muzitsulo za uphungu wa kugonana?

Koma si anthu zosiyana ndi makoswe?

Inde, koma mwina sitingakhale osiyana kwambiri ndi ena mwa njira zomwe tafotokozazi. Kupatula apo, asayansi samaphunzira makoswe kuti athandizire iwo ndi zolemba zawo ndi libido. Mwanjira ina iliyonse, malinga ndi akatswiri,

Ngakhale anyamata achikulire amasonyeza khalidwe lochepa la kugonana; zotsutsana ndi kugonana. [Kusintha kwa Neuroendocrine kumachepa] kugonana kumadzutsa mwa kulepheretsa njira yapakati ya dopaminergic.

Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ifenso takhala ndi njira zowonjezera zomwe zimalimbikitsa nthawi yowononga pambuyo pa kugonana. Taganizirani zomwe zinachitikira mnyamata yemwe ali ndi chiwerewere amacheza ndi chibwenzi chake kumapeto kwa sabata (monga momwe adafotokozedwera ndi mnyamata mmodzi yemwe adadzipatulira kuonera zolaula mlungu umodzi):

Lachinayi, ndikusiya ntchito, ndinazindikira kuti panali atsikana 5 odabwitsa patsogolo pathu. Mnzanga adati amatcha "Lachinayi Zotsatira." Chibwenzi chake chimakhala ku Gothenburg, chifukwa chake amakumana kumapeto kwa sabata. Akuti Lolemba m'mawa sazindikira msungwana aliyense wokongola pa metro, ochepa Lachiwiri, ena Lachitatu, ndipo Lachinayi ladzaza ndi atsikana okongola - kutengera mita yomwe amagwiritsira ntchito poyesa momwe amamuwonekera .

Zomwe anakumana nazo zikutikumbutsa momwe makoswe amachitira mu kafukufuku yemwe watchulidwa koyambirira kwa positiyi. Tsiku lotsatira kuyendera uchi wake, ngakhale akazi achikazi samawoneka bwino. Komabe patangopita masiku ochepa, libido yake imayamba.

Kodi kuzungulira kwa amuna ndikutalika liti? Angadziwe ndani? Koma ife tikudziwa kuti pali osachepera Tsiku la 7 tsiku lomaliza Pambuyo pa kuthamangitsidwa kwa amuna, chifukwa ofufuza amapeza chozizwitsa, koma chosasinthika, chokhazikika cha testosterone ya plasma tsiku lachisanu ndi chiwiri. Palibe amene amadziŵa chomwe testosteroneyo imachita, kapena ndi zina zotani zomwe zimaphatikizidwa.

Ponena za testosterone, anyamata ambiri amaganiza kuti kuchuluka kwa testosterone kwamwazi kumakhudzidwa ndi kusinthasintha komanso kusadziletsa. Nthano zachikhalidwe za pa intaneti zimakana kufa. Chowonadi: Kafukufuku onse wa anthu ndi zinyama awona kuti kuchuluka kwa testosterone sikumvekedwa ndi kusinthasintha kapena kudziletsa. Kupatula a tsiku lina kuthamanga, ngakhale kudziletsa kapena kutulutsa umuna sikunakhalepo zilizonse zokhudzana ndi kuchuluka kwama testosterone amwazi.

Kodi mikhalidwe yathu yachiwerewere ingagundane bwanji ndi chilengedwe chamakono chogonana?

Pokumbukira kuti njira zathu zogwiritsira ntchito neural zimasintha kuti ziwonjezere kubereka, zikuwoneka kuti pali imodzi yokha achilengedwe Njira yowonjezera kugonana kwachibadwa pakati pa zinyama: mayi wachilendo. Pokhapokha makolo athu atakhala ndi makompyuta, nthawi zambiri ankayenera kulola kuti ubongo wawo ukhale ndi nthawi yowonjezera atatha kugonana.

Masiku ano, komabe, bevy ya akazi apabanja amapempha kuti umuna ukhale pang'onopang'ono. Ndipo ubongo wathu ukayamba kuchepa, china chake chosangalatsa kwambiri chimakhala patsamba lotsatira. Kodi anyamata ena sakugwirizana ndi "libido yawo yeniyeni?" Palibe nyama ina yamtundu uliwonse yomwe imakhala ndi zolaula kuti iziziwotcha kuposa momwe zimakhalira. Achinyamata osaka-samakhala m'zipinda zokha usiku akuphulitsa nyongolotsi zawo, kapena amabwera kunyumba kuchokera kusukulu ndikuchita zolaula kwa maola ochepa makolo awo asanafike.

Powonjezera chisokonezo, kuseweretsa maliseche mwachidziwikire kumapereka uthenga wofooka kuti "mwatha" kuposa momwe mumagonera. (Prolactin amasulidwa ndi anayi nthawi zoposa Zikuwoneka kuti tidasinthika kuti nthawi zina kugona tokha kusatifooketse kuthamangitsa chinthu chenicheni.

Izi zinati, pali zikhalidwe zabwino zogonana mu Africa kuti osachita maliseche. Kuyang'anitsitsa kwa iwo kumawulula mtundu wa mating wokumbukira womwe asayansi amapeza mu makoswe. Liti "kufufuza ana, ”Aka ndi Ngandu amakwatirana kawiri kapena katatu usiku. Koma samachita usiku uliwonse. Kuphatikiza apo, mpaka khanda likuyenda, pamakhala choletsa kutsutsana pakati pa okwatirana. Okonda kupumula kwakutali-ngakhale kuloleza kuti aberere pang'ono pambali.

Mwa amuna ena, zogonana lero zachilendo-tapampu Zikuwoneka kuti zimayambitsa pulogalamu yakale yoyamwitsa yomwe imadzutsa chilakolako chamwamuna kwa okwatirana atsopano ngakhale atakhala wokhutira bwanji. Kodi amunawa angakhale ndi nyimbo zosiyana zogonana ngati zolaula pa intaneti sizotheka? Mwinanso kayendedwe kamene kamayendetsedwa ndi kusintha kwa ubongo-ndikutaya nthawi pambuyo poti agonane?

Kugonjetsa kugonana kungapangitse zizindikiro zambiri

Njira zathu zodzikongoletsera sizopusa. Kupatula apo, ngati atagwira bwino ntchito (malinga ndi momwe timaonera), palibe amene angakhale wonenepa. Titha, ndipo nthawi zambiri timachita, kupitilira izi "mtengo wapatali”Mayesero. Izi zimapangitsa zozizwitsa zosiyana siyana kuchokera ku zosangalatsa za tsiku ndi tsiku-ngakhale omwe ife timakonda kwambiri.

Ndizinthu zamakono zamakono zomwe luso lapadera ku zimapangitsa kuti zisawonongeke potilimbikitsa kuti tisanyalanyaze chizindikiro chathu "Ndamaliza". Tikatero, ndipo kuwonjezeka kwathu kumakhala kosatha, timakhala pachiwopsezo ubongo wosatha womwe umasintha.

Kumbukirani kuti mankhwala osokoneza bongo amangobweretsa chizolowezi chifukwa amakulitsa kapena amalepheretsa njira kale m'malo mwa mphoto zachilengedwe, monga kugonana. Izi ndizosakayika chifukwa asayansi asonyeza kuti dera la mphoto ndilo njira yomaliza yowonekera kuti mumvetsetse khalidwe lachiwerewere la amuna.

Kukhoza kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti kugonjetsa kugonana kosayenera kumapangitsa kusintha kwazomwe zimakhala zovuta kwa ena ogwiritsa ntchito (mwachitsanzo, kusonkhanitsa DeltaFosB)? Monga tawonera, ubongo wamakoswe otopa ndiumboni wotsika wa dopamine ndikuwononga zovuta zakuthana ndi nkhawa zikagonjetsa mikhalidwe yawo yachilengedwe yokhudzana ndi kugonana.

Kodi amuna omwe amakhala ndi feteleza masiku ano "okwatirana" ali pachiwopsezo chobisalira nthawi zonse akamatuluka umuna pafupipafupi? Kodi akuwombera zochepa kuposa zotengera zonse? Mowopsa, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ambiri pa intaneti amafotokoza zomwe zimapereka yankho inde. Taonani zomwe bambo uyu ananena:

Kuchita maliseche kasanu lero ndipo malingaliro onse okhumudwa abwerera. Ndinkatha kuona bwino kuti kukhumudwitsidwa sikunali chifukwa ndimamva chisoni ndikubwerera, chifukwa sindinatero. Zinali zokhudza ubongo wanga. Zinayamba kukhumudwa, kudandaula komanso kuda nkhawa kwambiri mphindi 5 nditamwa mowa kwambiri. Pomaliza ndimamvetsetsa tsopano, osati pazolemba zokha, koma ngati chidziwitso. Ndinazindikira momwe ndimamvera zomwe zimandipangitsa kukhala wokhumudwa komanso wamanyazi. Yankho langa nthawi zonse linali vuto. Sindinkaganiza kuti kubetcherana kukhoza kukhala ndi gawo lalikulu pa moyo wanga wonse.

Amuna ena amatha kusintha zotsatira zake:

Ndimakumbukira bwino kwambiri masiku oyambirira a interwebz, pomwe teh Pr0n inali yoyamba kubweza ndalama zolembetsa kubweza (ndinali nayo) komanso pomwe ambiri mwa "ochita zisudzo" ankasewera "zikopa zachilengedwe" ndipo analibe ma tattoo kapena kuboola m'mimba. … M'zaka zoyambirira ndili m'banja, ndimakonda kuyang'ana teh Pr0n kangapo pamlungu. Ndinabisa mawu anga a kirediti kadi omwe amawonetsa kampani yolipirira. Ndinazidya mobisa. Unali chisangalalo choletsedwa.

Ndiye tsiku lina, ndinali ndikunyezimira nditagona pabedi, ndizingwe pambuyo poti ndatha ukwati, ndipo ndinazindikira kena kake: Teh pr0n inali kuwononga chisangalalo changa pachinthu chenicheni. Ngakhale titayesetsa kuchita zachiwerewere kapena zachilendo bwanji, sizinali zokwanira… zambiri… Zambiri… .ZAMBIRI. Pomwe ndimayang'ana ma girly mags kapena kuwonera matepi a vidiyo, sindinakhalepo ndi vuto lililonse kapena kusakhutira ndi zomwe ndimakumana nazo zenizeni m'thupi. Ndinali ndi chidziwitso: Teh Pr0n anali wonyenga. [Friggin '] choyipa.

Pasanapite nthawi ndinasiya kutentha. Ndatsutsa kulembetsa kwanga ndipo ndinasiya kuyendera malo omwe amangotuluka kumene. Pasanathe sabata imodzi, maganizo anga ndi kukhutira ndi maukwati athu amakula bwino.

Kwa ena, ubongo wa pulasitiki umasinthika mokwanira kuti athetse kugonana koyenera:

Ndinayamba kuyang'ana kusiya zolaula patatha miyezi 6 ndikulephera kugwira ntchito bwino. Ndine wachiwerewere, ndipo ndikadakhala ndi anyamata omwe amawoneka ngati nyenyezi zolaula za 18-yo amaliseche pamaso panga, ndipo ndimalephera kukhala ndi malingaliro ogonana, ndikupereka zifukwa zakuti "ndatopa" kapena "iyenera kukhala mowa . ” Ndazindikira kuti ndikapanda zolaula / maliseche / zolaula kwa masabata a 2, ndimabwereranso kuzinthu zodabwitsa.

Anyamata ena amawoneka kuti akusintha ubongo wam'mapulasitiki wokhalitsa, ndipo amatha kukhala osokoneza bongo. Omwe akuledzera akapuma kupumula amakumana ndi zizindikilo zoopsa zochoka ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala "osasunthika" osagonana. Mnyamatayu adadzizindikiritsa kuti ndi osokoneza bongo ndipo amayesera kusiya:

Pambuyo masiku 6 osachita zolaula / maliseche, ndimagwiritsa ntchito. Tsopano, tsiku lotsatira, ndikulakalaka kwambiri kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ngakhale kuti mbolo yanga yamwalira. SIYO mbolo yomwe ikusowa zolaula. Sizingatheke. Ndi ubongo. Nazi zizindikiro zanga: Wotopa. Lero ndagona kwambiri. Zizindikiro zoyipa za chimfine. Khosi langa limapweteka ngati misala. Wokhumudwa. Ndimawona chilichonse chakuda. Zili ngati tsiku loipa kwambiri m'moyo wanga. Kuda nkhawa, mantha. Liwu langa lakonzedwa. Anali ndi zokumana nazo zingapo zachilendo zachilendo. Ndakhala ndikuganiza zambiri za nyenyezi zingapo zolaula; sindingathe kuwachotsa pamutu panga. Sizingatheke. Ndine wosakhazikika komanso wopanda dongosolo.

Zikuwoneka kuti anthu ena ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula angakhale akulakwitsa chilakolako chawo chokwiya cha libido, pamene zilakolako zowonongeka ndizochokera kwa wovutitsa dopamine muzowonjezera mphoto yawo. Tsoka, pamene munthu angathe kukonda zolaula, koma osati ndi mnzako, angaganize zachilendo zachilendo zolaula monga "mankhwala" a ulesi wake. Powonjezera zizindikilo zake zachilengedwe zokhala ndi zowonetsa zambiri (dopamine yambiri), amatha kuyambitsa kusintha kwa ubongo, komwe kumatha kuchotsa kugonana kwake kwa miyezi.

Kodi sayansi yomwe ili pamwambayi ingafotokoze bwanji zomwe amunawa adakumana nazo?

Amuna ambiri amene amasiya kuseweretsa maliseche pafupipafupi pa zolaula pa intaneti akuti amatuluka mu nkhungu patangotha ​​milungu ingapo, ngakhale omwe sanazolowere. Phindu lomwe amafotokoza limamveka ngati zozizwitsa. Mwina amadzimva kuti ndi olimba mtima, opindulitsa komanso osangalatsa, amapeza omwe angakwatirane nawo kukhala osangalatsa, kapena cholinga chawo chokwaniritsira zolinga zawo. Ena amati amavala minofu yambiri pamalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi; tsitsi lawo limakula msanga; mawu awo amamveka achidaliro kwambiri komanso omasuka ndipo ngakhale chibwibwi chimasiya. Amakhala omvera kwambiri pazinthu zosagwirizana ndi kugonana, ndipo machitidwe awo ogonana amakula.

Kodi amuna awa amangokhala kubwerera Mitundu ya kusintha kwa ubongo kuwonetseredwa pa makoswe ogwidwa ndi kugonana kumayambiriro kwa positiyi? Kodi abambo akubwerera zachibadwa?

Izi ndizotheka kuganizira ndikuyesa. Makoswe, pambuyo pa zonse, amafunikira masiku 15 kuti abwererenso kumtunda. Amuna omwe adayamba kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa, amafunika nthawi yochulukirapo, komanso miyezi kuti ubongo wawo usinthe kusintha kwakanthawi. Ena "chokhazikika”Kwa milungu ingapo kapena kuposerapo, zilakolako zawo zitatha.

Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti, kupatula zotsatira zoyipa za neuroendocrine pambuyo poti munthu ali ndi chilakolako chogonana, anthu ali osati kumangidwira kuti zitheke. Poyeneradi, Kusakhulupirika wolemba Tim Birkhead ananena kuti:

Mlingo wa umuna wa munthu umakhala wocheperapo kuposa wa zinyama zilizonse zomwe zikufufuzidwa pano. Chiwerengero cha umuna umene wasungidwa mu epididymis ndi wotsika.

Popeza mpumulo wolumikizana ndi drip ya lero yapaintaneti, amuna omwe akukumana nawo zizindikiro zosayenera Ayenera kudzipangira okha ngati angagwiritse ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo osatha, kapena oledzeretsa.

Kodi zimapangitsa kuti anthu ambiri azikhala osangalala komanso osasangalala, komanso kuti chibwenzi chawo chichepetse? Mwachitsanzo, izi zikhoza kuwerengera kukula kwa chiwerewere mu Japan wokonda zolaula? Kapena tithandizeni kufotokoza chifukwa chake munthu mmodzi mwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ku Australia amakonda zolaula mpaka kugonana?

Malingana ndi madalitso osiyanasiyana Amuna akunena atasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, izi zikuyenera kufufuzidwa mosamala. Pakadali pano, anyamata ambiri masiku ano amaganiza za kulira ngati nyanga ngati tinthu tating'onoting'ono, tomwe tifunika kukanda pena paliponse ngakhale zitakhala kuti zimachitika kangati-monga kuphulira mphuno. Komabe zikuwoneka kuti pali zochulukira kutulutsira kuposa kutsitsa manseed.

Onaninso:

Malingaliro Othandiza

Mnyamata woyamba:

Pa masiku 100 apitawa ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito pafupifupi 95 yamasiku amenewo opanda zolaula. Ngakhale ndikagone mwachangu bwanji, nditatopa bwanji, masiku amenewo ndimangogona maola 8 MAX. Masiku 4-5 omwe ndidachita zolaula, ndimagona maola 10 mosavuta. Madokotala ena "akatswiri" ndi akatswiri amisala anganene kuti izi zimachitika chifukwa chokhala omasuka, zomwe ndimawona kuti sizabodza. Nditangomaliza kumene, ndimakhala womasuka, koma mkati mwa ola langa nkhawa / nkhawa / kupsinjika kwanga kumangokwera (makamaka m'mawa wamawa). Nditabwereranso ndikugona kwa maola opitilira 10, ndimamvanso nkhawa tsiku lonse.

Mnyamata wachiwiri:

Inde! Masiku ano nditasiya zolaula ndimagona MAX 7 maola. Nthawi zina zochepa. Ziribe kanthu ndikagona. Koma, ndimamva kuti ndimapumulo ogona ndipo ndimakhala tcheru masana. Zaka zapitazo pamene ndinkasewera maliseche ndimatha kugona maola 10-12.

Patapita mwezi umodzi + palibe zolaula / maliseche:

Ndakhala ndikuchita NoFap kuyambira Disembala 16 ndipo ndimamva bwino kuposa momwe ndimamvera nthawi ina iliyonse ndili wachikulire. Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa komwe kumachitika chifukwa chokhala ndi nkhawa zochepa. Pakadali pano ndimamva ngati sindingathe kugwedezeka paphiri. Sabata yatha ndidagonana ndi mkazi wanga kasanu ndipo ndidakwanitsa kumaliza kondomu nthawi iliyonse. Tikagonana, kamodzi pa miyezi isanu kapena iwiri (palibe bodza) timayitcha "yesani" kugonana. Ndinganene kuti ndikulephera kuchita zipsinjo kapena kukhumudwa kapena mankhwala anga. Ndikumva bwino kwambiri tsopano. Izi ndi zomwe munthu aliyense angathe kuchita. Palibe chinyengo kwa icho, kungolanga. Kukhala pachibwenzi kumathandiza. Ndingakonde kuchita izi ngati mbeta. Ndimasangalala ndi izi ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zikupitilira. Ndikutha kumva kuti chidaliro changa chikuwonjezeka m'mbali zonse za moyo wanga. Kuntchito, malo ochezera, ndi banja langa.

Mnyamata wina:

Ndapeza, ndikakhala kuti sindikhala ndi zolaula, ndimasamala kwambiri kuseweretsa maliseche. Poyamba ndimaganiza kuti ndikufuna kuthawa tsiku lililonse ndikayang'ana kukhoma kapena mkatikati mwa zotchinga zanga, koma sizinayende choncho. Tsopano ndimasewera maliseche kamodzi patsiku lililonse la 14, ndipo nthawi imeneyo imangowonjezereka. Ndipo OSATI chifukwa ndikuyesera, ndichifukwa chakuti kuseweretsa maliseche kopanda zolaula sikungokhala kwanthawi yayitali (kwa ine

ndi Diana Richardson. Awa ndi ndemanga za mnyamata wamakumi awiri:

Sindikuganiza kuti ndizochuluka bwanji zomwe munthu angawone pokhudzana ndi kugonana kwachizolowezi. Zizindikiro pambuyo pachimake - Ngati sindigona nditangotha ​​kumene, ndikupita kokayenda, ndili ndi izi:

  • Chidziwitso champhamvu chikufalikira mkati mwa ine.
  • Kuyanjana ndi anthu kumakhala kovuta kwa ine. Sindikumva ngati ndikuwona anthu.
  • Kutsogolo kwanga kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kwa masiku awiri otsatira.
  • Kumbuyo kwanga kumbuyo kuli mgwirizano.
  • Mtima wanga watha.
  • Thupi langa nthawi zambiri limatha. Palibe malo mwa ine, palibe kuyenda.
  • Ndine wokwiya.
  • Ndimachita ngati mwana yemwe sanagone mokwanira, ngakhale nditagona kwambiri.
  • Ngakhale zinthu zochepa nthawi zambiri zimakhala zochuluka kwambiri. Ngati ndiyenera kuchita chinachake, nthawi zambiri zimakhala ngati chopinga chosatha.
  • Maganizo anga akuthawa.
  • Ndikukayika mu ntchito yanga, ubale wanga, malo anga okhala, ndi moyo wanga. Palibe chowoneka ngati chabwino.
  • Ndikusowa mtendere. Sindikumva chimwemwe. Ndikuwopa kuti chirichonse chidzakhala chochuluka kwambiri.
  • Maso anga ali ophwanyika ndipo mutu wanga umakhala wovuta.
  • Sindikufuna kuyang'ana wokondedwa wanga panonso, ndipo sindingathe kumuyang'ana. Ndipo ngati ndichita izo, sindikumuwona momveka bwino.
  • Ndimamva ngati ndilibe mpumulo.
  • Mwachidule, palibe chosangalatsa.
  • Ndikufuna masiku a 2-3 mpaka ndachira (ndipo) ndikuyamba kuyang'ana mafilimu kosatha ndikupewa kucheza.

Chidziwitso: Nkhaniyi idasindikizidwa koyamba pa 5-18-2012.