Kodi Zingatheke Kuti Mwamuna Kapena Mkazi Wanu Asamaoneke Pang'ono?
Ngati mwakwatirana ndikugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, "Inu da man!" Osachepera m'maganizo anu. Choyamba, malumbiro anu aukwati amachulukitsa mwayi woti mwana wanu wothandizana nawo azitha kukhala ndi osamalidwa awiri, motero kumathandiza kuti mapulaneti a jini (ana) omwe mumakhala nawo ndi abwino.
Chachiwiri, mumatumikira aliyense pa kompyuta yanu mwachidwi chifukwa cha mbewu yanu yamunthu, motero mukuyesetsa kufalitsa majini anu ngakhale patali. Izi ndi zomwe gawo lanu lachibwana lanu limakhulupirira molimba mtima. Mukuona, zinasintha pamene "kutentha" kukuwonetsa "mwayi weniweni wa umuna."
Kukhala "da man" ndiwopambana, kupatula kuti zolaula za 24 / 7 zamakono zingapangitse ubongo kukhala wosiyana ndi chirichonse chimene makolo anu anakumana nacho panthawi ya chisinthiko. Monga Mae West, ambiri a ife amaganiza kuti zambiri za chinthu chabwino ndi ... ngakhale bwino. Mwinamwake ayi. Pamene zolaula zowonongeka zinayamba kupezeka m'maganizo a anthu odwala matenda a maganizo Norman Doidge anaona chinthu china chosokoneza pakati pa zolaula zake pogwiritsa ntchito odwala:
Ananena kuti akuvutika kwambiri chifukwa chotsogoleredwa ndi abwenzi awo okwatirana, okwatirana kapena abwenzi, ngakhale kuti amawaona kuti ndi okongola. Nditafunsa ngati chodabwitsachi chinali ndi ubale uliwonse poona zolaula, adayankha kuti poyamba anawathandiza kupeza chisangalalo pa nthawi ya kugonana koma patapita nthawi anali ndi zotsatira zosiyana. Tsopano, mmalo mogwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zawo kuti azisangalala kukhala pabedi, pakalipano, ndi anzawo, kukonda chikondi kumafuna kuti iwo aganizire kuti iwo anali mbali ya zolemba zolaula. Ubongo Womwe Umasintha, p. 104
Ananena kuti munthu wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula woganizira bwino:
Ndinawona pulogalamu yokhudza mahule achiwerewere. Anati amatha kuuza ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula chifukwa palibe chomwe adachita "chingalimbikitse" mwamunayo kuti atenge. Taganizirani izi, ngakhale atsikana omwe amaphunzitsidwa bwino kukwaniritsa malingaliro azakugonana amuna ndi akazi sangathe kufanana ndi zomwe zimalimbikitsa zolaula, kuphatikiza atsikana ena omwe alidi in zolaula. Amayi okhazikika omwe amangofuna zokonda zathu samakhala ndi mwayi.
Kodi zolaula zamakono zingathe bwanji kuchepetsa kugonana kwanu kwa mnzanuyo? Mwa kukonzetsa njira zitatu za ubongo:
- Pulogalamu yamakono yakale imayambira mu ubongo wa zinyama zonse. Zimapangitsa kuti anthu azisangalala ngati ali ndi zibwenzi zambiri. Ganizilani nyengo yochezera. Ndipo amadziwa zatsopano zatsopano (kapena kutentha chirichonse) pazenera lanu ngati mwayi wamtengo wapatali.
- Kulimbikitsana kwakukulu kungathe kusokoneza chisangalalo cha ubongo kwa nthawi yokhala ndi zikhumbo zofuna zolemba zambiri. Mwamuna wodziwa bwino amawoneka mochepera.
- Kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti kuyendetsa kwambiri ubongo kumalo osokoneza ubongo kumalepheretsa njira zamagwirizano azimayi.
Zotsatira zake? Kusasamala.
kukakomana Zotsatira za Coolidge
Ganizirani zomwe zimachitika mukamapereka khoswe wamphongo mu khola ndi khoswe wamkazi wamkazi womvera. Choyamba, pali zovuta zogonana. Zolemba khumi ndi ziwiri pambuyo pake zoziziritsa moto. Ngakhale atakhala kuti akufuna zina, alibe chidwi. Ubongo wake umanong'oneza kuti, "Gubuduzika ndi kununkhiza." Komabe, ngati mkazi watsopano abwera, kutopa kwake kumatha pang'ono mozizwitsa kuti athe kuyesayesa molimbika ntchito zake za umuna. Mutha kubwereza njirayi ndi akazi atsopano mpaka abambo atamwalira atatopa.
Zowonjezereka zake zowonjezereka sizisonyezero za libido yosasunthika. Sichikuwonjezera ubwino wake-ngakhale kuti ziwonekere (ndikumverera kwa kanthawi kwa iye) mwanjira imeneyo. Amatsata mkazi aliyense watsopano chifukwa cha surge ya dopamine mu ubongo wake. Iwo amamulamulira iye siyani mkazi wovomerezeka wosadziwika.
Asayansi amadziwa kuti pulogalamu yotereyi ndi "Zotsatira za Coolidge." Zikuwonekeranso munyama zazimayi, zomwe zimawonetsedwa kuti zimakonda anyamata atsopano. Sikuti majini athu amangofuna kukwera mabwato ambiri momwe angathere kupita m'tsogolo, amakondanso kusiyanasiyana kwa ana athu.
Genesis siigone konse. M'malo mwa chisangalalo "iwo anakwatirana ndipo amakhala mosangalala nthawi zonse," nkhani zachibadwa za jini zimathera ndi ana ndi ana ambiri-njira iliyonse yomwe majeremusi angapezere-Burnham ndi Phelan, olemba Matanthauzo Achibadwa
Dopamine ndiye "Mukumvetsa!" mitsempha yamankhwala pazoyambitsa zonse. Popanda izi ife zinyama sitingavutike kupita kubwalo lamilandu, kupita pachimake, kapena ngakhale kudya. Dopamine ikagwa momwemonso zolimbikitsira. Yawn.
Icho ndichinsinsi cha zotsatira za Coolidge. Pomwe makoswe amamenyana ndi amayi omwewo, amadwala pang'ono chifukwa cha kuyesetsa kwake mpaka atayendayenda, akuchotsa kutali. Sanapereke mkazi watsopano.
Taganizirani graph iyi. Nthawi yachisanu, nkhosa yamphongo imalumikizana ndi mkazi yemweyo, zimamutengera maminiti 17 kuti achoke. Koma ngati atembenukira kuzinthu zachikazi ... angathe kuchita ntchito yake pasanathe mphindi ziwiri, kasanu pamzere.
Ubongo wa Ram umapanga kuwala kwachilendo kotero amasiya anyamata osapangidwira
Mosiyana ndi nkhosa zamphongo, anthu ndi abwenzi awiri. Tili ndi wired, moyenerera, kulera ana palimodzi. Kotero, kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti sitimayesedwa ku zotsatira za Coolidge? Ayi. Pulogalamu yakale iyi imakhala mkati mwathu, inunso. Mwamuna wina anati,
Ndinawonera zolemba za anyamata okhala ndi "zidole zachikondi" zotsika mtengo kwambiri. Mnyamata m'modzi anali ndi zochuluka kwambiri kotero kuti chipinda chake chidatha. Ngakhale izi zinali zidole, anali atayamba kale kuwawona ngati atsikana omwe amakhala nawo nthawi yokwanira. Mwina ndichifukwa chake anyamata amatenga zolaula zambiri. Ndimaganiza kuti ndapeza zosangalatsa zambiri. Koma sindikukumbukira kuti ndimabwerera m'mbuyo. Gawo lokakamiza ndi chithunzi CHATSOPANO, chithunzi chatsopano… chidole chachikondi.
Kuwonetsa zolaula pa intaneti kungapangitse wogwiritsa ntchito mosalekeza, popeza ali ndi zinthu zonse zomwe zimapangitsa kuti dopamine ayambe kugwedezeka. Chisangalalo cha kusaka kwa chithunzi chabwino chimatulutsa dopamine. Komanso, nthawizonse pali chinachake chatsopano, nthawizonse chinachake cha kinkier. Dopamine imamasulidwa pamene chinachake chikukweza kuposa momwe chikuyembekezeredwa, kuchititsa maselo a mitsempha kuwotcha ngati wopenga.
Mosiyana, kugonana ndi mnzanuyo ndi osati nthawi zonse bwino kusiyana ndi kuyembekezera. Kapena sichipereka zosiyanasiyana. Izi zingayambitse mavuto chifukwa chakuti mbali yoyamba ya ubongo yanu imaganiza kuti kuchuluka kwa dopamine kuli kofunika kwa ntchito-ngakhale pamene siili.
Zoonadi, zolaula za dopamine zozimitsira moto zimatha kupanga mankhwala ngati mankhwala omwe ndi ovuta kwambiri kuposa kugonana ndi mwamuna wodziwa bwino. Mu Playboy Pambuyo pa chaka chatha, woimba John Mayer adavomereza kuti akufuna kupita ku mafano kusiyana ndi kugonana. Iye anafotokoza,
Zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti zasintha ziyembekezo za mibadwo yanga. Kodi mungakhale bwanji mukupanga chizolowezi [ndi munthu] potengera kuwombera kambiri? Mukuyang'ana imodzi… mwa 100 yomwe mumalumbira kuti ndiomwe muzimalize, ndipo simumaliza. Masekondi makumi awiri apitawa mudaganiza kuti chithunzicho chinali chinthu chotentha kwambiri kuposa chilichonse chomwe mudawonapo, koma mumachiponyera ndikupitiliza kusaka kwanu ndikupitilizabe kudzachedwa kuntchito. Kodi izi sizimakhudza bwanji psychology yokhala ndiubwenzi ndi winawake? Iyenera kutero.
Mayi ndi kapolo wa zotsatira za Coolidge. Ubongo wake umamupweteka ndi dopamine nthawi iliyonse akamangokhalira ku "chibwenzi" chatsopano. Pitirizani kukumbukira kuti dopamine ndi ndowe muzoledzera zonse. Mwachitsanzo, Cocaine imasefukiranso ubongo ndi dopamine wambiri (mwa kulepheretsa kubwezeretsedwa kwake).
"N'chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga sakuchita zimenezi?"
Kupanda chikhumbo ndiko komwe kudapangitsa kuti banja langa lilephere, komanso kulephera kwaubwenzi pambuyo pake. Ndili ndi zaka za m'ma 30, ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuyambira ndili wachinyamata, ndipo ndakhala ndikuwonetsa mavuto anga kwa anzanga ("Sindikukukondani" / "Ndikulakalaka mukadakhala omvera kwambiri"), atsopano a abwenzi (" Ndiyenera kupatsa thupi langa nthawi yoti ndikafike ku ubongo ”/“ Ndiyenera kuthana ndi wakale wanga ”), misinkhu yolimbitsa thupi, zakudya, zaka, kupsinjika, kuda nkhawa ...
Monga amuna ambiri, ndinapita kwa dokotala, ndinakhala ndi thupi lomwe linkadwala matenda aliwonse oopsa, ndipo ndinapeza Viagra. Chikwati changa chitatha, ndipo sindinakwatirenso, kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula kunayamba kuwonjezereka-kamodzi patsiku ndipo kawiri kawiri. Koma pamene ndinazindikira kuti sindingathe ngakhale kugonana ndi maliseche popanda zolaula, chinachake chinangobwereza. Chifukwa ndi zotsatira zikuwoneka zosaoneka bwino tsopano, ndithudi.
Ndili ndi mnzanga watsopano yemwe ndimakopeka naye komanso amene ndimakondana naye kwambiri - koma sindingathe kuchita. Mwamwayi ali wokonzeka kukambirana moona mtima za izi.
Nchifukwa chiyani wokondedwa wanu ayamba kuyang'ana kwa inu ngati ozizira oatmeal, ngakhale ngati ena amamuwona ngati chophimba chopangira thupi? Chinthu chimodzi chikhoza kukhala kuchuluka kwa kusokoneza kwadzidzidzi kwa zolaula pa intaneti. Kulimbikitsana kwakukulu kungathe kusokoneza chidwi cha ubongo wanu, kupanga zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana. Tikudziwa izi kuchokera kufukufuku waposachedwa otchova njuga, kudya kwambiri, ndipo, ndithudi, ogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala. Ubongo umayamba kuyankha zambiri zofooka ku dopamine iliyonse is kuzungulira-monga zomwe zinafalitsidwa ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu, "Honey, ndi Tsiku Night."
Dopamine ndi mpweya wa injini yanu yofuna. Kumvetsetsa bwino kumatanthauza kuti ngakhale mutakhala ndi mpweya wambiri, V-8 yanu imangoyenda pazitsulo zinayi. Ubongo wanu wosasintha samamuyankha iye monga kale.
Chodabwitsa ndichakuti, ngakhale kugonana ndi mnzanuyo sikukuyitanani, mungamve kulakalaka kwambiri chinthu china (chowopsa, chowopsa). Mumangokhalira kunyoza izi dopamine accelerator chifukwa ubongo wanu umafuna kwambiri kuti mudzakhalenso bwino. Monga nthabwala Bill Maher, "Hugh Grant anali ndi a Elizabeth Hurley kunyumba, ndipo amafuna kuti Marvin Hagler awike wigi."
Kotero, bwanji ife takhala tikusinthika kuti tisakhale osakhutira kwambiri titatha kukhudzidwa kwenikweni? Zingakhale kuti njirayi inawatsogolera makolo athu kuti apitirize kuwononga chilengedwe chawo pa nthawi ya mating, kapena pamene chakudya chambiri chokoma chinali pafupi. Ganizirani zotsatira za Coolidge pa mapasa awiri.
Mwachitsanzo, pamene a nkhumba yamphongo Anathyola mu khola lazimayi, adatha kubala ziphuphu makumi anayi ndi ziwiri. (Atagwidwa, adagona kwa masiku awiri molunjika. Ubongo umafuna nthawi yowonongeka kuchokera ku zokopa zoterezi.) Tikamawonjezera ubongo wathu ndi ziwonetsero zambiri za okwatirana tikupempha zofuna zathu za kugonana, ubongo wathu umawona zofanana ndi ma bonanza ndipo zimatiyendetsa kuti tizitha kudzimva mofulumira kuti tipeze chidwi chathu.
Pokhapokha mutamvetsetsa makina obisika aubongo awa, omwe amakulimbikitsani kuti mupondere mpweya ngakhale mutakhala ndi zochulukirapo, ndizovuta kulumikiza libido yosakhutitsidwa ndi ubongo wosamvera kwenikweni. Kupatula apo, zimamveka kuti libido yanu ikukula. Chowonadi ndichakuti kusakhutira kwamitsempha komwe kumapangitsa kuti mukhale osakhutira mkati mwaubongo kukukulimbikitsani kuti mupeze chidwi.
Zomwe zizindikiro zanu zowonjezera zamasinthidwa zidzakhala: mumadzimva osasamala komanso osakhutira nthawi; mukufuna chiyanjano chakugonana ndi mnzanu; Pezani mnzanu wosakongola / wokakamiza kuposa Intaneti; amafunikira zakuthupi zowonjezereka, ndi zina zotero. Akatswiri amatchula zotsatirazi "kulolerana. "Ikhoza kusonyeza a Kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo mu ubongo.
Ndayamba kulankhula ndi akale anga kachiwiri. Ndinawafotokozera kuti sindinali kutali chifukwa ndamupeza kuti sakufuna kugonana, koma chifukwa chakuti ndinkangoyang'ana zolaula zambiri pa intaneti kuti adziyendetse mapazi ake, kuyamwa kavalo, kuti ndigwirizane mokwanira nthawi yopanga chikondi.
Kodi Zingatheke Bwanji Kuti Munthu Azigwirizana ndi Awiri?
Ngati kugwirizana kwapakati kumatipindulitsa ife ndi ana athu, ndiye chifukwa chiyani timakhala otetezeka kwambiri kuti tigwiritsidwe ntchito mofulumizitsa mwatsatanetsatane wa "cyber"? "Mwachidziwikiratu, ndi chifukwa chakuti tili ndi njira za ubongo zomwe zingagwirizane ndi chikondi. Izi zitha kuthetsa zibwenzi zimadalira kwambiri Kuphulika kwa dopamine kukonza maulendo athu achikondi. Mu 97% ya zinyama zomwe ziri zachiwerewere, maulendo a ubongo awa kuti agwirizanitse zowonjezereka akusowa.
Pamene asayansi akufanizira anthu amtundu wina wamtundu wa anthu omwe amacheza ndi anthu amtundu wawo akudandaula ndi msuweni wawo wamwano, phirilo, adapeza zinthu ziwiri zodziwika bwino.
- Nyama zomwe zimapanga mgwirizano wapakati, kapena kugwera "chikondi," ziri zambiri zowonongeka. Amapeza kuphulika kwakukulu kwa dopamine kuchokera ku mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Kodi ndi chifukwa chake ambirife timakopeka mosavuta ndi zinthu zopangira dopamine ndi zinthu monga zolaula pa intaneti ndi njuga?
- Zowonjezera kwambiri ndi zomwe sanatero zimachitika pamene asayansi amapanga mchere mwakachetechete pa ubongo wa azimayi awiriwa ndi kukakamiza mankhwala. Nyama izi mwachibadwa sanakhazikitsenso zokonda kwa mnzanu mmodzi. Kulimbikitsana kwapangidwe kunapanga makina awo ogwirizana ndi dopamine, kuwasiya iwo ngati zizolowezi zowonongeka (zachiwerewere).
Kukhala ndi ubongo womwe umazindikira kukondana kwambiri kumathandizira ubale wanu. Nthawi zina mumakhala ndi “chizolowezi” chomangirira mnzanu, ngati palibe wasayansi amene akukulemberani mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Mwabwino, mumangokhalira kukumbatirana monga momwe mudasinthira-chifukwa palibe mayesero ena ambiri. (Zachidziwikire, ngati mayesero agwera m'manja mwanu, majini anu amatha kusokoneza chikwapu chawo cha dopamine.)
Zachidziwikire, komabe, kuti chidwi chomwecho chomwe chimakulimbikitsani kuti mukondane chimakhala pachiwopsezo mukadzaza ndi zosangalatsa zakugonana. Mwadzidzidzi, madera omwe mabatani anu awiri amadalira amakhala ndi dopamine yokhudzana ndi zoyambitsa ena kuposa mnzanu. Zingapangitse wokwatirana kusakondwera, ndikupangitsani njira zowonongeka.
Kuwonjezera pa kungochotsa "minofu," timakhala ndi chizolowezi chochita malingaliro otchedwa "edging": Timadzifikitsa pamphepete mwa chiwonongeko mobwerezabwereza, mopanda kukonzedwa. [Chifukwa chachilendo chosatha cha zolaula za pa intaneti,] tikhoza kumangokhalira kugonana kwambiri kwa maola ambiri. Ine ndikugwira ntchito mwakhama m'magulu angapo a intaneti ogwiritsa ntchito maliseche, komanso woyang'anira umodzi.
Ambiri a ife timapita mpaka kusiya kugonana naye, ngakhale pamene wokondedwayo amakhalabepobe ndipo akufunitsitsa. Timagwiritsanso ntchito mawu akuti "zopanda mphamvu" chifukwa cha zomwe zimachitika podziwa zolaula pa intaneti, koma osati kwa wokondedwa.
Kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti aliyense amene amaonera zolaula amasiya ukwati wake? Inde sichoncho. Komabe, kuthandizira kuganiza kuti zozizwitsa zowonjezereka-ngakhale m'matembenuzidwe ochepa kwambiri kuposa zithunzi zolaula za pa Intaneti-zimalowetsa zida za anthu awiri zomwe zawonetsedwa kale mufukufuku.
Malinga ndi phunziro 2007, kumangokhala ndi zithunzi zowonongeka kwazimayi kumapangitsa munthu kuti aziwonetsa wokondedwa wake weniweni. Amamukongoletsa osati chidwi chokha, komanso komanso kutentha komanso nzeru. Komanso, pambuyo pa kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula, nkhani za amuna ndi akazi mu phunziro 2006 sanagwirizane ndi wokondedwa wawo-kuphatikizapo chikondi cha mnzawo, maonekedwe, chilakolako cha kugonana ndi ntchito. Kuwonjezera apo, iwo anagawira kwambiri kufunika kwa kugonana popanda kukhudzidwa mtima.
Mwachiwonekere, ngati mukufuna kukhala wokwatirana mokwanira, mumapanga ntchito yanu mosavuta posankha osati kuyambitsa kusintha kwachinsinsi komwe kumapangitsa mnzanuyo kuti awoneke ngati Wowathandiza ku Hamburger.
Kotero, nchiani mmenemo kwa okhutira awiri wokondwa? Kuwonjezera pa kukhala ndi ndalama zokhala ndi banja limodzi, iye amapindula ndi thanzi labwino. Mwachitsanzo, kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti kugonana kumakhudza kwambiri thupi kusiyana ndi maliseche. Amatulutsa mankhwala omwe amachititsa kuti tizilombo toyambitsa matenda kuchepetsa nkhawa bwino, ndipo phindu limakhalapo kwa masiku. Komanso, kukhudza tsiku ndi tsiku pakati pa maanja kumapindulitsa anthu ndi kuchepetsa kuthamanga kwa magazi.
Internet sizingathe kuchita zimenezo. Monga momwe munthu wina ananenera,
M'kupita kwanthaŵi, malingaliro opanga zolaula amachititsa nkhawa. Kulakalaka zomwe simungathe kuzipeza ndizosalongosoka komanso zosakhutiritsa.
Mosiyana, kukhala pa ubwenzi wabwino ndi a kutsindika pa kukhudzidwa mwachikondi sizongomangirira zokha, komanso zimangowonjezera mgwirizano.
Pakatikatikatikati pa banja lathu, ndinasiya kupembedza mkazi wanga. M'malomwake, anthu ambiri ankakonda kulambira mafano. Nthawi zonse ali wamng'ono. Nthawizonse wokongola. Nthawi zonse amawotcha. Nthawi zonse zatsopano. Nthawi zonse amatha kupeza malonda. Ndipo osakwaniritsa. Posachedwa ndatulutsidwa ku zolaula, ndipo ndabwezeretsa mkazi wanga kumaliseche. Banja lathu lakhalapo nthawi yaitali ndipo limatsitsimutsidwa. Ife tiri pafupi kuposa momwe ife takhala tiri kwa zaka, pabedi ndi tsiku lonse. Ndimasangalala kwambiri ndi kukonda kwamakono kosalekeza komwe sikungatheke-timangopuma ndikuyambiranso tsiku lotsatira. Ndikumva bwino, ndipo libido yanga ikuwoneka kuti ikupezeka mosalekeza.
Mukufuna Kuti Magetsi Abwerere?
Mungathe kugwirizanitsa kugonana kwanu ndi mnzanuyo. Lekani kumapeto kwa zovuta zomwe zimapangitsa dopamine kwambiri kuposa momwe amachitira. Kumbukirani, njira yamakono mu ubongo wanu nthawi zonse imakulimbikitsani kuganizira njira yomwe imatulutsa dopamine kwambiri. Sichikusamala chomwe chimachepetsa nkhawa yanu, chitetezani thanzi lanu, kapena chimalimbikitsa ubale wanu. Pamene e-babe akuwombera, ubongo wanu ukuganiza kuti muli mu bizinesi yofalitsa-chinthu chofunika kwambiri.
Tsopano kuti mukumvetsetsa momwe kukakamiza kwakukulu kwamakono kungawononge mosavuta kuyamikira kwanu kwa mnzanu mwa kukasokoneza ndi mapulogalamu ena okhudza ubongo wanu, ziri kwa inu.
Popeza ndinasiya kugonana ndi zolaula masabata angapo apitawo zinthu zikusintha. Ndikaona mkazi yemwe ali ndi tsitsi lalitali akuvala ndiketi kapena zovala, ndimapeza mphamvu. Ndinkafuna kukhala ndi zolaula zowonongeka kuchokera pa intaneti kuti ndipeze mtundu uliwonse waukitsidwa.
Mu masabata angapo ngakhale mkazi wake amupatsa mpikisano.
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Malingaliro a anyamata ogonana nawo pankhaniyi (yolembedwa pa "The Good Men Project"):
Nkhaniyi inali yowulula. Ndinaganiza kuti ndakhumudwa patsamba la amuna owongoka AM kudzera pa nkhani ya NYT ya Thomas Matlock, "Munthu Ndikufuna Cuddle Wabwino" ndipo chifukwa chake nkhaniyi. Sindingathe kuyankhulira amuna okhaokha ogonana amuna okhaokha… ndekha ndekha, koma ndimawona anzawo omwe ndimagonana nawo ngati WAY kuseri kwa khola kuti ndimvetsetse ndikuyankha zolaula pa intaneti. Ndi CHAKUDYA cha amuna ambiri ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha osamvetsetsa za momwe izi zingakhudzire kulumikizana ndi amuna ena paubwenzi wapamtima. Sindikusamala kulira wovutitsidwayo, koma ndikuthandizira pang'ono (ngakhale kukukula) ukwati wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, zovuta zoyipa zimadziwika. Mwadzidzidzi ndikudziwa kuti amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mwa kuvomereza kwathu mwachidwi kukhala "okhutira ndi zogonana," titha kukhala munthawi yaying'ono ya dopamine moyo wathu wonse. Tithokoze chifukwa chodziwikiratu pazowonjezera pazowonjezera pazokambirana!
- Kukula kwasayansi umboni wokhudzana ndi kupuma kwa msana (maphunziro)
- Zofufuza za kugonana pakati pa kugonana ndi mankhwala mu ubongo
zosintha
- Kodi munthu amadziwa bwanji? Mankhwala omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri padziko lonse, Mayiko Akumayiko Onse a Matenda (ICD-11), ali ndi matenda atsopano woyenera kuchita zachiwerewere: "Kugonana Kwachiwerewere. ”(2018)
- Kugonana ndi kugonana / kugonana? Tsambali likulemba Zotsatira za 39 za sayansi (MRI, fMRI, EEG, matenda opatsirana pogonana, mahomoni). Amapereka chithandizo cholimba cha mtundu wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo pamene zofukufuku zawo zimagwirizanitsa zochitika za m'maganizo zomwe zimafotokozedwa mu maphunziro osokoneza bongo.
- Malingaliro enieni a akatswiri okhudzana ndi zolaula / kugonana? Mndandanda uwu uli Ndemanga za 16 zaposachedwa & ndemanga ndi ena mwa apamwamba a sayansi ya sayansi padziko lapansi. Zonse zothandizira mtundu wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
- Zizindikiro za kuledzera ndi kuchuluka kwa zinthu zoopsa kwambiri? Kupitilira maphunziro a 30 omwe amafotokoza zomwe zikugwirizana ndi kuchuluka kwa zolaula (kulolerana), chizolowezi choonera zolaula, komanso zisonyezo zosiya (zizindikiro zonse ndi zizindikiro zosokoneza bongo).
- Kulingalira mfundo yosalimbikitsidwa yolankhulidwa yakuti "chilakolako chachikulu cha kugonana" akufotokozera zolaula kapena chizolowezi chogonana: Kafukufuku wa 25 amapusitsa kunena kuti kugonana & zolaula "amangokhala ndi chilakolako chofuna kugonana"
- Zolaula ndi zogonana? Mndandandawu uli ndi maphunziro a 26 omwe akugwirizanitsa ntchito zolaula / zolaula ku mavuto a kugonana ndi kuchepetsa chilakolako chogonana. FZosintha za 5 zilibe mndandanda zovuta, pamene ophunzira adasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndikuchiza matenda opatsirana pogonana.
- Zotsatira za zovuta pazoyanjana? Zofufuza pafupifupi 60 zimagwirizanitsa zolaula zimagwiritsa ntchito kugonana kosachepera komanso kukhutira ndi chibwenzi. (Monga momwe ife tikudziwira onse Kafukufuku wokhudza amuna adanena za kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula zambiri zogwirizana osauka kugonana kapena kukondana.)
- Kodi kugwiritsa ntchito zithunzi kumakhudza bwanji maganizo ndi maganizo? Pazofufuza za 55 zomwe zimagwirizanitsa zolaula zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi thanzi lakuthupi lamaganizidwe & zotsatira zazidziwitso zosauka.
- Kodi kugwiritsa ntchito zithunzi kumakhudza bwanji zikhulupiliro, malingaliro ndi makhalidwe? Onani maphunziro aumwini - Phunziro la 25 limagwirizanitsa zolaula zimagwiritsira ntchito "maganizo osagwirizana" kwa amayi ndi malingaliro ogonana - kapena chidule cha mndandanda wa 2016: Media ndi Sexualization: Boma la Kafukufuku Wofufuza, 1995-2015.
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