Ndithe tye, kodwa nditsalelekile kwi-transgender okanye kwi-porn ye-gay (okanye i-gay itsaleleke kwi-porn ethe ngqo). Yintoni ephezulu?

HOCD

PHAWULA: Eli phepha linengxelo ezininzi ezenziwa ngabantu (ezinye zazo zichanekile kwezopolitiko kunabanye), abagqiba kwelokuba ukuthanda kwabo amanyala kuchaphazele ukuthanda kwabo ngokwesondo emva kokuba beyekile ukubukela iphonografi kwaye baqaphela ukuba ukuthanda kwabo kuyabuya. Ezi ngxelo zakho zithathwa kwiiforamu zokubuyisa iphonografi. I-YBOP icacisa kakuhle njengoko injalo, kwaye izimvo zababhali / ukubethabethana kwazo akuthethi ukuba kule webhusayithi. Ukuba wanelisekile kwiminqweno yakho yesini, okanye uziva ukuba ukuthanda kwakho ngokwesondo kubekiwe, ungafundi kude. Eli phepha lelabantu abakholelwa ukuba ukunyuka kwabo kuqhutywa ngokwesondo ukuya kuhlobo lwenoveli kunokuba kukufihla ukuthanda kwabo ngokwesondo kwangaphambili okanye ngokuzalwa. Ixoxa nge-HOCD.

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UKUBA UYE OCD UKUQAPHELA:

  • Ukuba unengxaki yokunyanzelisa ingxaki (OCD) sincoma ukuba uxubushe nomcebisi okanye ugqirha ogxininise kwi-OCD. Abanye abane-HOCD baye bazuza kakhulu kumachiza kunye neyeza elifanelekileyo.
  • Abo abanenkinga yokunyanzelisa i-OCD okanye ukuthambekela kwe-OCD abaye bahlaziya i-masturbation banokufumana iimpawu ezikhulayo. Njalo okwethutyana ukuziyeka ukuhlaziya i-masturbation kungekhona kuwe.
  • I-YBOP ibonisa ukuba abo abane-OCD bafunde i-HOCD i-akhawunti yokubuyiselwa phantsi ngezantsi kwaye uthathe kubo okukusebenzayo. Akukho nanye indlela.

INTSHAYELELO

Uninzi lwale mibuzo lujoliswe kulabo abanengxaki yokunyanzelisa i-homosexuality disorder (HOCD). Oku kuthetha, ininzi yeziphakamiso zingasetyenziselwa abo abanomlutha woononopopayi okanye iimfesane eziphatheka kakubi. Izinto ezifanelekileyo:

Wazisa kwiklinikhi yethu kwinyanga enye emva kokungeniswa kwe-aripiprazole [i-dopamine agonist] kwinkqubo yakhe yonyango ekhalaza ngoxhatshazo olufuna ukuba neentlobano zesini kunye neqabane lakhe kunye nokuphulula amalungu esini kwangolo suku lunye kunye neengcinga ezintsha zobufanasini kunye neminqweno efanayo yesini. Kwakukho nokusetyenziswa rhoqo kwe-intanethi. … Isigulana sanyanzelisa kwaye sasiqinisekile ukuba i-aripiprazole yayisisizathu sokuxhatshazwa ngokwesini. Emva kweentsuku ezine ukuya kwezintandathu zokumisa i-aripiprazole indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo yaqala ukuhla, ngesiqabu esipheleleyo emva kweeveki ezimbini. Isigulana silandelwe rhoqo kwaye sihlala kakuhle ngaphandle kweziphumo ebezesondo.

[Umtsalane kubesilisa bendalo abanamabele omabini kunye nelungu lobudoda] “yeyona nto igqalwa njengeyona ingaqhelekanga yokulalana kwabantu besini esahlukileyo kunokuba kuthethwe ngendlela eyahlukileyo.

The nqaku e phambili iqala ngezantsi kweli qela lonxibelelwano. Icandelo lokuqala linamabali empumelelo (ukuvuselela iakhawunti) yamadoda ane-HOCD ye-porn okanye i-fetish. (Elona candelo lokugqibela kweli phepha liyingcebiso kunye nokuqonda ekubuyiseni abafana.) Ukuba ufuna ukuthomalalisa uxinzelelo lwakho kwaye uzive unethemba, ndicebisa ukuba sifunde iiposti zethu zebhlog ezidweliswe emva kweeakhawunti zokuqalisa kwakhona, njengoko bephendula uninzi lwemibuzo umntu anokuba nayo . Okanye ungaqala ngecandelo leengcali, elifana neli nqaku - NdingumGay? Inkathazo yoBugcisa-i-Compulsive Disorder ineNinzi yeeFomu. Le ngqakraza kuyo:

Imithetho ye-HOCD

Molo apho! Igama lam nguMarko, kwaye ndiyindoda engumfana wesilisa i-dispersive disorder (OCD). Ndiyibhala ukuze kuzuze abantu abathandana nabo bafuna ukusebenzisa le nqaku ukuba baqonde ukwesaba kwabo ngokuba ngumlingani (owaziwa nangokuthi u-OCD ongumfana okanye i-HOCD). Akukho nkxalabo, mhlobo wam: Ukuba uzama ukuqonda wena okanye umntu osondeleyo kuwe ophethe i-HOCD, ufunda inqaku elifanelekileyo.

  • Umthetho omnye: Ukuba uthe uhamba ngesondo, ngoko ukhona. Ixesha.
  • Umthetho omibini: Akukho mithetho.

Ndiyabonga ngokuthatha ixesha lokufunda nokuthobela imithetho. Ndingumfundisi ebomini bam bokwenene, kwaye ndihlala ndichaza imigaqo ekuqaleni.

Ngoku ukuba siza kule nto evela kwi-mindset efanayo, nceda uthwale nam njengoko ndihamba ngeHOCD.

Abasebenzisi abangabonwayo boononophelo bavame ukuchaza ukunyuka kwezilwanyana ekusebenziseni iifostile ezithatha ixesha elide lokujonga okanye ukufuna uhlobo olutsha lwe-pornography. Iimpawu ezintsha ezenza ukutshatyalaliswa, ukutshatyalaliswa, ukuphulwa kwezinto ezilindelekileyo okanye ukuxhalabisa kunokusebenza ukwandisa ukuvusa isondo, kwaye kubasebenzisi bezithombe zobungqina bezithombe ezingabonakaliyo ngenxa yokugqithisela, le nto ibonakala yinto eqheleke kakhulu.Norman Doidge MD wabhala malunga nalo ncwadi Ubungqina Obuguqula:

Ubhubhane wangoku we-porn unika umfanekiso ocacileyo wokuba ukuthanda izinto zesondo kunokufunyanwa. Imifanekiso engamanyala, ihanjiswa ngesantya esiphezulu kwi-Intanethi, yanelisa nganye yezinto ezifunekayo zotshintsho lwe-neuroplastic… Xa oonografi beqhayisa ukuba bayayityhala imvulophu ngokuzisa imixholo emitsha, enzima, abangayithethiyo kukuba kufuneka, kuba abathengi babo bakha ukunyamezelana nomxholo.

Ubuntu ngokwesini kakhulu "imeko-ekwaziyo" kunokuba iingcali ziqaphele. A Ucwaningo lwe-2016 fu manisa isiqingatha Abasebenzisi be-intanethi abasebenzisa i-intanethi benyukele kwizinto ababezifumene ngaphambili "zingenamdla okanye zenyanyeka."Imisebenzi yezocwangciso ze-intanethi: Ukufundisisa ukuhlolwa kweepateni zokusebenzisa ingxaki kunye nokungenanto ingxaki kwisampula samadoda). Ingqungquthela:

Amashumi amabini anesithoba ekhulwini akhankanya amaxesha athile afuna umxholo wesondo okanye abandakanyeka kwii-OSA [zoonwabo] ezingazange zithandeke kubo ngaphambili okanye ukuba zibhekiselele ezinyanyekayo.

Olu pho nonongo lwaseBelgium lufumene ingxaki yokusebenzisa i-intanethi kwi-intanethi yayinxulumene nokunciphisa umsebenzi we-erectile kunye nokunciphisa ukwaneliseka ngokwesini. Nangona kunjalo abasebenzisi be-porn abanengxaki bafumana iminqweno emikhulu (i-OSA = imisebenzi yesondo ekwi-intanethi, eyayingamanyala nge-99% yezifundo). Into enomdla kukuba, i-20.3% yabathathi-nxaxheba bathi enye injongo yokusebenzisa kwabo iphonografi "yayikukugcina inkanuko kunye neqabane lam."

Izifundo ezininzi, ukusebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo kunye nokuvavanya zibikile Ukunyuka (kunye nokuhlala) kwi-Porn Users. Ngokomzekelo, olu cwaningo lwe-2017 luye lwavanywa kwaye lwavavanya i-questionnaire esetyenziswayo ingxaki ye-i-questionnaire eyayihlongozwa emva kwemibuzo ye-drug addiction Ukuphuhliswa kweNgxaki yokuTyekisa i-Pornography Scale (PPCS). Ngokungafaniyo novavanyo lwangaphambili lweziyobisi ezingamanyala, eli phepha lemibuzo le-18 lavavanya unyamezelo (ukunyuka kokusetyenziswa) kunye nokurhoxa, ukuzifumana zombini, ukuphelisa impikiswano malunga nokurhoxa kunye nokunyuka kwabasebenzisi be-porn rhoqo. Imibuzo emibini eyayisetyenziselwa ukujonga ukunyuka kokusetyenziswa kwe-porn:

  • Ndandibona ngokugqithiseleyo "ubugqwetha" obugqithiseleyo, kuba i-pornography engayibonayo ngaphambili ayinelisekanga
  • Ndandiziva ukuba ndifuna i-pornography ngakumbi kwaye ndiyanelisa iimfuno zam

Ukongeza, olu phononongo lwe-2016 lubeka amathandabuzo kwinto yokuba ukuthanda ezokwabelana ngesondo kuzinzile ngokubhekisele kwi-intanethi yangoku (yokuhambisa) iphonografi (Ukusetyenziswa kweMidiya ecacileyo ngesondo ngoBume boBugcisa: Uhlalutyo olulinganiswayo lweGay, uBualxual, kunye nabaHeterosexual Men eUnited States). Ingqungquthela evela kulolu cwaningo:

Iziphumo zikwabonakalisile ukuba uninzi lwamadoda ajonge umxholo ocacileyo wesini (SEM) ongahambelaniyo nesazisi esichaziweyo. Kwakuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba amadoda achongwe ngokwesini esahlukileyo axele ukubonwa kwe-SEM equkethe indlela yokuziphatha kwabantu besini esifanayo (i-20.7%) kunye namadoda achongiweyo angama-gay ukuba anike ingxelo yokujonga indlela aziphatha ngayo kwi-SEM (55.0%).

Esi sifundo, sithathwe kunye ezinye izifundo kule khasi, debunks meme ukuba abasebenzisi be-porn banamhlanje ekugqibeleni "bafumene ukuziphatha kwabo ngokwesini”Ngokuntywila kwiziza zeetyhubhu, emva koko unamathele kuhlobo olunye lwephonografi okwexeshana.

Amabali okubuyiswa kwalabo abane-HOCD okanye i-transgender fetish:

QAPHELA: Abo bane-OCD banethamsanqa elingcono lokusika iphonografi kunye nokunxibelelana nge-porn, ngaphandle kokuzama ukuphelisa i-masturbation. I-YBOP iphakamisa ukuba ufunde ezi akhawunti zilandelayo zokuqalisa kwakhona kwaye uthathe kubo okukusebenzelayo. Akukho ndlela inye.

Izithuba zebhulogi kwiimfestile ezikhutshwe ngoonobumba kunye ne-HOCD (zidweliswe ukusuka ekuqaleni ukuya kutshanje):

Izinto eziphathekayo ngeengcali:

I-YBOP intetho ejongene nendlela umntu ahlakulela ngayo iimfestile kunye ne-porn-induced ED

Irediyo kaGary ibonisa ukujongana ne-HOCD okanye iimfesane ezibangelwa iphonografi:

Amanqaku ngabatheli beendaba:

Inzululwazi enxulumene ne-SOCD eyenziwe ngoononophelo

Iingcebiso malunga nezonyango:

QAPHELA: Asikho oogqirha, kwaye kufuneka uhlolisise olu lwazi nodokotela ngaphambi kokuba uzame enye yale mibono. Kodwa nantsi iimbono ezivela kubafana ababini abaxabana neHOCD:

Ukuthanda izinto ezigqithiseleyo okanye ukuxhalabisa kunokunyuka ngakumbi ekuqaleni ngenxa ye iziphumo zokuhoxiswa. Khangela oku Uluhlu lweReddit.

Umntu wokuqala:

Ndi… ndiqalisile ukuthatha i-inositol kwaye… NDIFUNE MNTU kunceda iLOTI ELITSHA. Andiqinisekanga ukuba ayisiyiyo i-placebo kuphela, kodwa sele idlule inyanga ngoku kwaye ndiziva ndibhetele. Kukho iintsuku apho ndingenayo ingcinga enye yokungena ngaphakathi, ngokoqobo, enye yokugcwala. Kuya kufuneka ujonge abafana.

Umntu wesibini:

Ndiyesibili i-inositol ingathanda ukongeza i-N Acetyl Cysteine ​​okanye i-NAC njengencediso encedo kakhulu i-inositol ekunciphiseni ukugqithiswa kwe-NAC kunciphisa uxhalaba oludibeneyo. Ingakumbi xa idibene nokucamngca kunye neyeza.

Iingcebiso zenkxaso ye-OCD ngokubanzi

ISIHLOKO ESIKOLO:

Ngaba unzima nemvakalelo enje?

Ndacinga kakhulu ukuba ndiguquka. I-HOCD yam yomelele ngelo xesha, bendicinga ngokuntywila kwindawo ephezulu ekufutshane. Ndaziva ndidandathekile. Ndazi ukuba ndiwathanda amantombazana kwaye andinakumthanda omnye umntu, kodwa kutheni ndine-ED? Kutheni le nto ndifuna izinto ezithandanayo / ezesini ukuze undothuse? Ngoku ukuba ndiyasiqonda isizathu sokuba ndibandezeleke, ndiye ndangcono kakhulu. Ndikhangela intombi, ngelixa ndiqala kwakhona ngexesha elinye. Ndonwabile kakhulu ukuqonda ukuba kutheni, kwaye iyintoni.

Kucacile kuvavanyo lwe-nofap uninzi lwabasebenzisi be-porn olonyuka luye kwiindidi zoononophala ezingahambelani nobungqingili babo. Phantse iipesenti ezingama-60 ze nofap Amalungu athathiweyo athi ukuthanda kwabo kuye kwanda kakhulu okanye baphambuka. Phantse isiqingatha sabo saphazanyiswa lolu tshintsho, esinye isiqingatha-asikho kangako. Ngaphezu koko, nini Abaphengululi baqubuzela abasebenzisi be-porn ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwabo koononophelo kwakuye kwanda kwizinto ezazifunyenwe ngaphambili "zingenamdla okanye zenyanyeka," isiqingatha kubo bathi. Kwaye Abaphandi beYunivesithi yaseCambridge sele iqalile ukubonisa ukuba i-intanethi yabangela ukuba abasebenzisi baqhube ngokukhawuleza kunokulawula, kwaye babe nokuphendula ngokuthe tye.

Kubonakala ukuba ukungafuneki ngokutsha kwesiphaluka somvuzo isemva kwabasebenzisi abaninzi be-porn abaqhubela phambili kwi-porn engahambelaniyo nezoqobo zabo zesondo okanye ulwazelelo. I-HOCD inokuba yeyona nto iphazamisayo yeyiphi into exelwa ngabafana ngalo lonke ixesha- ukunyuka kweelwimi ezintsha. Uloyiko, unxunguphalo, okanye ukothusa konke ukuphakamisa i-dopamine kunye ne-adrenaline (norepinephrine), enokuthi ikhulise uchulumanco ngokwesondo. Yiyo kanye le nto inqwenelekayo yengqondo. Kwaye ukuba ingqondo yakho iyanqwenela ngokwaneleyo ukuba ivuseleleke (kuba awukwazi ukufikelela kuvuthondaba ngokulula kuhlobo lwangaphambili), usenokude usebenze, njengoko olu ndwendwe lwenzayo:

Kwelam icala andikaze ndoyike “ukuguqula isini” kuba ndinendlela ENKULU yokuxabisa ifom yabasetyhini kuzo zonke iintlobo zayo eziqaqambileyo. KODWA bendinemibono malunga nokwabelana ngesondo namanye amadoda kwaye ndide ndenze ezi zinto zibalulekileyo. Into kukuba, umzimba oyindoda awundenzeli nto ngokuya kuvulwa, kodwa into "engavumelekanga" yayo yenza ukuba ingqondo yam yokulangazelela dopamine idlale ngombono kunjalo.

Umgaqo osisiseko ekuqondeni ukuba sibiya ngocingo njani, okanye siphinda sibambe ucingo, iingqondo zethu zezi, "zii-neurons ezivutha kunye kunye." Oko kukuthi, ukuba zimbini izinto ezenzeka ngaxeshanye, ubuchopho bethu buhlala budibanisa kunye nonxibelelwano lwangempela lwe-neural. Ngakumbi iziganeko ezinxulumene noko, okanye kokukhona ziphindaphindwa, kokukhona womelele iintambo. Amaqela eeseli zemithambo-luvo ezinikele ekuziphatheni okanye ekusebenzeni ngamanye amaxesha zibizwa ngokuba "ziimephu zobuchopho."

Ukuzala kwakhona yeyona nto iphambili kuthi, kunye nokuvuselelwa ngokwesondo kuvelisa awona manqanaba aphezulu edopamine, enceda ukuqinisa iinkumbulo kunye nokufunda. I-Orgasm yi-neurochemical blast emnandi kakhulu kangangokuba ubuchopho bethu bayicofa ngokulula (kunye nokuvuselela) kwiminyhadala kunye neemeko ezinxulumene noko. Njengoko ugqirha wezifo zengqondo uNorman Doidge ecacisile Ubungqina Obuguqula:

Amadoda kwiikhompyuter zawo ajonge iphonografi ayengathandekiyo njengeempuku ezikhejini ze-NIH, becinezela ibha ukuba badubule i-dopamine okanye ilingane nayo. Nangona babengayazi, babekhohlisiwe kwiiseshoni zoqeqesho zoononografi ezihlangabezana nazo zonke iimeko ezifunekayo kutshintsho lweplastiki kwiimephu zengqondo. … Ngalo lonke ixesha besiva ukonwaba ngokwesondo kwaye babe ne-orgasm xa bephulula amalungu esini, "i-spritz ye-dopamine," i-neurotransmitter yomvuzo, yadibanisa unxibelelwano olwenziwe kwingqondo ngexesha leseshoni. [Ukusuka kwisahluko esithi "Ukufumana iiNcamelo noThando."]

Oku akuyona into ecacileyo njengoko uphando lwezilwanyana lwakutsha lubonisa ukuba amazinga aphezulu e-dopamine (i-dopamine agonist) ukutshintsha izinto ezikhethwe ngokwesondo kwindoda. UNorman Doidge weluleka amadoda amaninzi ayenomdla wokuziphatha ngokwesondo ongafanelanga ukulala ngokwesondo:

Umxholo wento [izigulane] ezithandekayo zatshintshile njengoko iiWebhsayithi zazisa izihloko kunye neempendulo eziguqule ubuchopho babo ngaphandle kokwazi kwabo. Ngenxa yokuba i-plasticity ikhuphisana, ubuchopho bubala kwimifanekiso emitsha, enomdla okwenyukayo kwenyuka kwintlawulo yezinto ezazibatsalwe ngaphambili. (p.109)

Ngamanye amagama, kubonakala ngathi amadoda amaninzi ngoku afumana utshintsho olwenziwe ngoononophala kwiintlobo zesondo. Ngaba kuyamangalisa oko? Ookhokho bethu khange bachithe iiyure bebaleka ukuya kwimifanekiso ye-ejaculating penises.

Nangona kunjalo, i-HOCD ingaphezulu nje kokuya kwi-porno entsha, okanye nokusebenzisa iphonografi engahambelani nolwalamano lwakho lokwenyani. Endaweni yoko sisifo esaziwayo esinokuba sisihogo esiphilayo. Ukusuka I-OCD echanekileyo: ukuvusa okungaqhelekanga, i-Guardian, ibhinqa elincomekayo yowesifazane kunye neSOCD:

Ukubonakaliswa okuqhelekileyo kokuphazamiseka okunyanzelekileyo okubizwa ngokuba yi-OCD yobungqingili (HOCD), ebizwa ngokuba yi-OCD yesini okanye i-OCD yobungqingili. Oku kuvela njengoloyiko kunye nokuthakazelela ukuba li-gay- ngesiqhelo umntu okholelwa kuye ukuba uthe tye uya kubuza olo lwabelana ngesondo kwaye aqale ukuthanda kakhulu ubufanasini.

Nantsi into enye ukuba umcebisi uza kukukhumbuza kwangoko xa uqala unyango lwe-HOCD: ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba uthe tye, unjalo.

Iimeko zomntu othe tye "ufumanisa ukuba" bayathandana ngeziqendu ze-HOCD zincinci kakhulu ngokwezibalo ukuba zingaphantsi kweempukane. Ziphantse azikho. Uninzi lwabo "baguqukayo" ukuya kubufanasini benza oko okwexeshana njengoko beqala ukuqonda ukuba ukuthanda kwabo izinto kwakungekho malunga nesini sabo, kodwa malunga nolunye uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo olunokuthi lunganxibanga nobufanasini.

Kubonakala sengathi zikhona ezimbini iintlobo ze-HOCD:

  1. Ukholo lwe-OCD + ngokwesini (okanye isiganeko) = HOCD
  2. Iminyaka yokusetyenziswa koononophelo + uxinzelelo malunga nokunyuka kwezesini / ubushushu bobulili obushushu bobulili = i-HOCD enxulumene nezocwangco

Iziganeko ezingalindelekanga ebomini, njengengcamango engabonakaliyo ngabaontanga kwixesha elikhuselekileyo, kunokubangela ukuba abanye abantu baqale ukubuza imibuzo yabo yesondo ngokunyanzela (HOCD).

Nangona kunjalo, namhlanje isikhuthazi esivelayo se-HOCD kukunyanzeliswa okungapheliyo, okushiya ingqondo ingaphenduli kangako kulonwabo lwemihla ngemihla kwaye ngenxa yoko linqwenela uvakalelo. Kwinqanaba elithile oku kuyenzeka nakubasebenzisi be-porn abangaphuhlisi i-HOCD. Yabona Izifundo zokudibanisa ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn okanye i-porn / sex addiction kwizenzo zesondo, ukuvusa umntu ongaphantsi, kunye nolwaneliseko olungezantsi ngokwesondo

Ukusasaza iphonografi kwi-Intanethi kwenza ukuba kube lula ukugqithisa okungapheliyo. Xa kuthelekiswa ne-erotica yexesha elidlulileyo ku khuthaza ukuba, kwabanye abasebenzisi, ivelisa inguqu enxulumene neziyobisi. Yiyo lonto. Ngaphandle kokuzibamba ngesondo ngokungapheliyo, i-intanethi yanamhlanje isebenzisa inkqubo yomvuzo wengqondo kuyo yonke into ekhulayo, yokwandisa imemori (i-wiring):

Ngaphezu koko, kunokwenzeka ukuba abo bahlakulela i-HOCD banokuba neengqondo ezibaluleke kakhulu kwiiplastiki ngesizathu esithile. Ngokwe- Ukufundiswa kweShayina, abo abanokuthambekela kwe-OCD ngaphambi kokuba bavelele kwi-intanethi babeneengozini yokuxhatshazwa.

Ngayiphi na imeko, ingqondo yomlutha we-porn inokukhula kunqwenela ukuzonwabisa okuqhelekileyo njengoko liba njalo unempembelelo echanekileyo yokukhetha iingongoma. Nantsi indoda ichaza ukuqhubela phambili okuqhelekileyo, okuhlala kuchazwa ngabo batyibilika kwi-HOCD enxulumene ne-porn:

I-29 y / o kunye ne-17 iminyaka ye-MO (ukuya kwi-softcore kunye neengcamango) kunye ne-12 iminyaka yokuhlaziya i-masturbating, ekhulayo ukuya kwi-pornography egqithisileyo. Ndaqala ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwisini sokwenene. Ukwakhiwa kunye nokukhululwa kwi-porno komelela kunokuba kwakunjalo ngesondo. Iphonografi ibonelela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ndingakhetha into endifuna ukuyibona ngalo mzuzu. Ukulibazisa kwam ukulibazisa ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kwaba kubi kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha ndandingakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm kwaphela. Oku kubulale umnqweno wam wokugqibela wokulala ngesondo.

Iimeko zesondo zesondo

Emva kokuba le nqanaba le-désensitization libekwe, isigaba sisetyenziselwa i-HOCD ehlobene nezocwangco. Ukungafanelani noonobumba obuphambene noonobumba bunqanda ukulindela, kukhupha i-dopamine kunye ne-norepinephrin kunezinye iintlobo zeentlobo zoononophelo zangaphambili, kwaye inike ukukhaba okukhawuleza okutshabalalisa i-circuit circuit (i-addicted). Umsebenzisi angaqala ukubuza ukuba kutheni angakwazi ukukhupha i-pornography kunye nesenzo somntu ongatshatanga ngesondo / ukungatshatanga kodwa angakhange athathwe ngamaqabane angokwenene awamvusa ngexesha elidlulileyo.

Ingqondo yakhe, ke, iqalisa ngokuzenzekelayo ukuchukumisa impendulo yalo yesondo kule ncwadana, ukukhuthaza uhlobo-kwimeko yeklasi yesimo sezesondo. Njengoko kuchaziwe kwi post yangaphambili, isini sinokuthi sinikwe nantoni na, nokuba livumba lokufa, ayothusi into yokuba uninzi lwabasebenzisi be-porn banamhlanje baxela ukuba I-porno iyakuthandayo kuyo yonke loo ndawo njengoko iimpendulo zabo ziyancipha.

Ngoku, umsebenzisi wethu unokufumana ukuba unakho kuphela uvuthondaba kuhlobo lwakhe lwakutshanje (kwaye ke lolona luvuselelayo). Ukuba yeyona nto ayijonga ngokungahambelani nokuziphatha ngokwesini, ixabiso lothuselo likhulu… kwaye likhupha imichiza ye-neurochemicals ekhuthazayo ngakumbi. Ukuvuka kwakhe kuphakanyisiwe, ngokuyinxenye, ngoxinzelelo lwakhe. Aba bantu bachaza amava abo:

Umntu wokuqala: Into eyoyikisayo kukuba bendibona abantu basetyhini njengabanomdla ophambeneyo, kunye namadoda okanye umbono wamadoda angathandekiyo. Njengendoda enobungqingili obukhethekileyo kuphela enolwalamano namanye amadoda ukusukela kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, olu luhlobo olungaqhelekanga. Naxa ndibona amanenekazi “amabi” ehamba esitalatweni, andikwazi ukuzibamba ndicinga ukuba kunganjani ukuba neentlobano zesini ngobuhlanya nabo kanye apho. Ngaba iza kuyeka? Ngaba inokubuyiselwa umva?

Umntu wesibini: Kwiintsuku ezimbini zokuqala ndandinexhala elinzima, phantse ndifuna ukuzibulala ngenxa yokuba ndilahlekelwe kuko konke okukhangayo kuwo nawuphi na umfazi. Ezi ngcinga zindenza ndicinge ukuba ndithandana nabanye abantu, indenza ndibuze into endiyenzayo, into endiyithethayo, indenza ndigule. Andikwazi kutya. Ndicinga iingcinga eziphazamisayo… ezindenza ndizive ngathi ndingumlingani, xa ndisazi ukuba andinguye.

Umnqweno wabasebenzisi wokuqonda ukuba inkanuko yesini yabo itshintshile ngesiquphe inokukhokelela ekuvavanyeni rhoqo, okunyanzelekileyo kunye nezinye iindlela zokuqinisekisa. Njengazo zonke iintlobo ze-OCD (kubandakanya i-HOCD engeyiyo eye-porn), ukuvavanywa kunye nokukhangelwa kwesiqinisekiso kubonelela ngoncedo lwethutyana. "Uvavanyo" ngalunye luqinisa ukuvusa okungafunekiyo-nokuba kukufumana isiqabu esinomvuzo, okanye ukubangela uxinzelelo ukuba uvavanyo aluphumelelanga. Ngale ndlela, iimvavanyo zomeleza iingxaki.

Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ngugqirha?

Gcina ukhumbule ukuba izilingo zokuziphatha kunye nokunyanzeliswa kuqhubeka ibuyiselo. Siyazi ngokusela kweziyobisi ukuba izilingo ziphuluke ngokulula njengoko loo mivuzo ayisekho ngenxa yokuziyeka. Kancinci, ingqondo iyanciphisa iindlela ezihambelanayo.

Ingcali ingakwazi ukukunceda ukuvavanya ngokuchanekileyo imbuyekezo emva kwe-HOCD yomthengi othile. Ukuba umvuzo wakhe okhuthazayo ikakhulu sisiqabu "kuvavanyo" okanye ukubhengeza ukuphindaphinda imeko yakhe itshintshile (ukufumana isiqabu sexeshana), emva koko ukubhengeza kunye nokuthintela ukuphendula (akusekho kuvavanyo okanye ukubhengezwa kukhuthazwe lixhala) kunokwenza iqhinga.

Kwimeko ye-HOCD enxulumene ne-porn, nangona kunjalo, umvuzo wokulutha ungabandakanya isabelo sengonyama somceli mngeni wabathengi. Kukho imivuzo emibini yokulutha kumxube: uloyiko kunye nokuvuka ngokwesondo.

Ukoyika njengomvuzo

Inkxalabo ayinakuvakala ingeniso kodwa uloyiko lusebenzela i-circuitry reward kwaye uxhalaba lunokuvusa isondo. Cinga ii-coasters kunye neefilimu ezibuhlungu. Kwingqondo ephelelwe yintlungu (ngenxa yenguqu yenguqu ekhutshwe ngumntu ongapheliyo / umlutha), ukusebenziselwa ukwesaba okwenza ukwesaba kunokubhalisa njengoko kubaluleke kakhulu. Yifaka i-dopamine kunye ne-norepinephrine (uhlobo lwe-adrenaline). Njengomnye umntu onomdla wokuziphatheka kakubi ngokwesini esicatshulweyo:

Ndibuyele kwi-porno yobufanasini ngoku, Ndifumene i-pornography yesisu evukisayo ngokwenene ekuqaleni, kodwa kungeyiyo indebe yam itiye. Xa ndayeka ukuyika ukuba abantu bayayicinga ntoni, lahlekelwa yinto endiyinike yona kwaye yandiqhayisa.

Ukuqala kwam ukufumana iphonografi ebusayo yayintsha kwaye inomdla, kodwa ngoku ndingumfazi. Uloyiko luye lwakhokelela ekutsaleni kwam shemales, kodwa nje ukuba uloyiko luphelile umtsalane ubuye. Akujongeka njengokujonga umfazi ophethe i-dick kwakhona. Ayonyanye kodwa ayilunganga.

Kodwa kukho okungakumbi okuqhubekayo kwinqanaba lebhayiloji. Uxinzelelo lwe-cortisol ye-neurochemical nayo inokuphakamisa iziphumo ezinomvuzo ngokuthi kubangela ukukhululwa kwe-dopamine. Ekugqibeleni, utshintsho lweengqondo lunokwenza umntu aphendule ingqalelo kwiimpawu ezixinzelelekileyo. Uphando luqinisekisa ukuba uxinzelelo olubi kunye neziyobisi zokusetyenziswa kakubi zombini ukwandisa amandla okuxhatshazwayo (umlutha) endleleni yengqondo. Abaphandi bacinga ukuba i-cortisol idlala indima ephambili izifo zokuziphatha ezihlobene nomvuzo.

Le meko ifana ne-BDSM, apho iintlungu zomzimba zonyusa isincoko somntu ngenxa yesiphumo sobuchopho. Kwabagulayo be-HOCD, ukuvusa kunye nokwesaba kufikelela kwisiphelo esifanayo. Okukwintsusa: Ngaphandle kokungonwabi ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, ukuvusa inkanuko kunokwenza isimilo kunzima kakhulu ukuyeka (umlutha). Ixhala lixhala, nangona ngamanye amaxesha uvakalelwa uthanda ukuvusa kwingqondo efuna ukuvuselela.

Ukuxhalaba kwam kutolikwa ngendlela engeyiyo "njengemvakalelo enzulu" kulomfo ndithetha naye kuba uxinzelelo luhlobo lokuvuka.

Ingqondo yesifo se-HOCD ifunde ukufumana inxenye yomvuzo wayo kuxinzelelo lwayo. Okubi nangakumbi, xa umntu ogulayo ezama ukuyeka iphonografi, uxinzelelo lwakhe luya kukhula ngokwendalo ixesha elide. Ukurhoxa kuphakamisa uxinzelelo kwi zonke Ukubuyisa iziyobisi, kubangele iminqweno enamandla yokuvuselela ngakumbi ngaphandle kwexhala le-HOCD. Uninzi ekugqibeleni luye lufumanise ukuba "ukukhangela" ngoyena ndoqo:

Bendihlala ndisebenzisa iGoogle HOCD yonke imihla, kodwa ibangele ukudideka kakhulu kuye kwafuneka ndiyeke. SUKUJONGE naziphi na iinkcazo zobufanasini okanye ukholelwe kwinto oyifundayo ngobufanasini. Ndenze yonke into ongafanelanga ukuba uyenze. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, uya kuba nakho ukufunda amabali aphumayo kwaye uqaphele ukuba yayingenguwe. Awukabikho phofu. Ukho apho ndandikho kwiinyanga ezili-6 ezidlulileyo okanye kunjalo. Ewe, kuthatha ixesha elide ukudlula, andizukuxoka kuwe.

Kubantu abanesifo se-HOCD oku kwanda kuqengqeleka koxinzelelo kuthanda ukucima i-spikes (panics malunga nokuziqhelanisa) kunye nokukrokra "ukujonga," kuhlala kubabuyisela kumlutha. Ewe kunjalo, abanye baxela ukuba uloyiko lwabo lwe-HOCD lwalungenamsebenzi de bayeka u kunye nokuxhalabisa ukulahlwa koonwabo zibethe. Njengoko ubuchwephesha bobuchwephesha buthintela "ukulungisa" okunamandla kunokucinga: ukothuka + ukujonga + ukuvusa inkanuko yesini kwizinto ezinxulumene ne-HOCD, iimvakalelo ezichanekileyo zibonakala ngathi ziyanyamalala.

Ukuvusa ngokwesondo njengomvuzo

Umlutha we-intanethi ye-intanethi ngumlutha we-orgasm-aid. Ukuvuselela inkanuko yesini ngowona mvuzo wendalo unamandla onokuthi uveliswe yingqondo. Nangona kunjalo ukuvuswa kwinto engaqhelekanga yoononophala (indawo nganye inikezela enye into ekhuthazayo ye-neurochemicals) inokuvelisa umvuzo omangalisayo. Ubundlobongela, okanye i-orgasm, inokuthi ibonakale ngamandla njengoko umlutha wezobisi uqhubeka kunye nokuphendula kwimihla ngemihla. Abanye abasebenzisi baphela babambeke kwi-buzz ye-neurochemical ukusuka ekuhleleni ukuya kwi-noveli ye-porn kangangeeyure, ukunikezela ngenjongo, okanye ukunqanda, uvuthondaba.

Ingqondo yavela yathatha ukuba umthombo wokuvuselela inkanuko yesini lithuba lokuchumisa elinokubakho. Ukuba umntu uvuka ngento ekhupha eyona dopamine kunye ne-norepinephrine, ingqondo iya kuyifaka ngokuzenzekelayo "njengexabisekileyo." Ayinamsebenzi ukuba ayihambelani nesini sakhe esingokwemvelo-kuba ingqondo ilinganisa ubuchule ngokwemigangatho yomvuzo wesiphaluka sokusebenza, hayi ukuqhelaniswa. (Kuyenzeka nje ukuba kwingqondo iphendule ngesiqhelo kulonwabo, inkuthazo efanelekileyo kuqhelaniso lomntu ngokubanzi ivelise lunelisayo iimvakalelo.)

Akumangalisi ukuba ingqondo yengqondo Iingcamango zesondo ezibuhlungu zihluke kwiinkcazo ezingaphantsi (kunye nezo zesondo). Siyakwazi ukukhenkcela ngokugqibela, kodwa kungekhona okokuqala. Oku kuboniswe kuphando, njengoko kulandiswa UJames G. Pfaus okqhubekayo:

ULalumière noQuinsey (I-1998) yabika ukuvuswa komzimba ngokusemthethweni kwindoda engqingiliyo emfanekisweni wesifazane okhangayo, ongekho nto idibene nevidiyo ebonisa ukusebenzisana ngokuphangaleleyo kwezesondo. Iqela elilawulayo elifumana ukufikelela kwisithombe yedwa (ngaphandle kwevidiyo) ibonise ukuhlala [esikhundleni]. (ugxininiso olongeziweyo)

Njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla, kubantu abanesifo se-HOCD abanesifo se-porn banomdla kakhulu kuba baphakanyisiwe yimiphumo ye-neurochemical of fear.

Uphulo lwangaphandle luya kuphinda lukhuphe xa kukho umlutha we-porn

Kwi-intanethi yeziyobisi ezingamanyala kusetyenziswa unyango oluqhelekileyo lwe-HOCD, ukubonakaliswa kwamadoda angama-gay okwenyani akujongani nomthombo weemeko zakhe ze-HOCD-ezingezizo ebantwini okanye ezokwabelana ngesondo nabantu, kodwa ziipixels. Ukanti ukuba uzama ukubhengeza unyango kunye ne-porn ye-gay, uzibandakanya ngendlela echanekileyo yokuziphatha kwakhe. Umntu ngekhe abangele ukuba likhoboka lokuhlala ngokubonelela ngezona zinto azithandayo!

Kungenxa yesi sizathu le nto unyango olusekwe kwi-porn lusenokuba loluphosakeleyo kubafana abazama ukukhupha i-HOCD enxulumene ne-porn. Kufana nokusela isiselo esinxilisayo ngakumbi kwithiyori yokuba uya kukruquka kukusela, okanye indawo yokungcakaza ibhejhe ngakumbi de ibe ihlala. Kwikhoboka, ukusetyenziswa okuqhubekekayo kuphela kuqinisa ukoyisa ubuchopho. Unyango lokuboniswa unokuthi ngaloo ndlela uhambise umyalezo ongavelisi mxube kwisigulana esineziyobisi ezingamanyala endaweni yokukhuthaza imeko eluncedo (ukuhlala).

Ngoko uqala phi? Ukuxhatshazwa koonobumba kufuneka kukhuphe ukusetyenziswa kwezilwanyana ze-intanethi ngaphezu kwazo zonke. Njengoko ubuchopho babo babuyela ekulinganiseni baninzi banokuqaphela ukuba ukudibanisa iziganeko zesini kuphelelwa ngamandla.

Ukuba iziyobisi ezingamanyala nge-HOCD zama ukusebenzisa iindlela ezinxulumene nenjongo yonyango endaweni yokuba uziyeke ziyabomeleza
indlela yokuziphatha yokulutha. Le yiCatch 22. Umlutha (kwaye mhlawumbi ugqirha wakhe) unokugqiba ngokungekho mthethweni ukuba impendulo yakhe eqhubekayo, enamandla kwiingxaki ezingenayo i-HOCD, kodwa kunoko "ubungqina" bokuthi ukuziphatha kwakhe ngokwesondo kuguqulwe ngokumangalisayo.

Inqaku kukuba umlutha ubonakalisa umqobo kunyango oluqhelekileyo lwe-OCD kunye nonyango lokuthintela ukuphendula. Nokuba umlutha we-porn uyeka ukufuna umvuzo isiqabu (ukusuka kuvavanyo okanye kuhlalutyo), ukuboniswa kwi-porn "kusamvuza" ngokwenza kwakhe iindlela ezinomdla.

Intoni ntoni Nceda?

Asiyena abagqirha. Nangona kunjalo, sizifundele iingxelo ngokwazo ngabasebenzisi base-intanethi bangaphambili be-intanethi abazichaza ngokwabo njengobandezeleka / ukubuyiswa kwi-HOCD (isampula-ingxelo). Siza kushwankathela amava abo xa kunokwenzeka ukuba abonakale eluncedo.

Abafana babika ukuba ukuyeka umvuzo we-intanethi kwaye ukunikezela okwethutyana umvuzo wesenzo sezesondo (ngaphandle kokukhululeka, isini esithandanayo sex) bobabini banceda ukusombulula i-HOCD yabo. Njengoko beyeka ukuqinisa umvuzo wabo wokuqala (ukusetyenziswa koononophelo), ubuchopho babo bujonga ngokukhawuleza, kunye nocingo, eminye imivuzo yesondo. Oku kungathatha iinyanga. Ngenxa yamava aba bafana, abanyangi banokufuna ukumema abathengi ukuba banqamle kwi-intanethi kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokungenisa unyango (ukuba ukhona).

Ekuqaleni, abafana abanakho ukuphendula ngokuqhelekileyo kumaqabane, nangona uthando lukhululekile ku khuthaza (mhlawumbi kuba ikhupha i-oxytocin). Kwaye, kude kubekho ukugqithiswa kokugqithiswa komdaka, kudlulele kwakhona ukufumana ama-spikes amaninzi. Ixhala eliveliswe yilo rhoxiswa okanye olunye uxinzelelo kunokwenzeka ukuba lukutyhale ukuba "uzivavanye" ngokujonga imifanekiso evelisa ixhala. Ukuvavanya kuphela kuqinisa le meko.

Ezo ngxelo zibuyisayo ukuba ukuba ziyazamkela iingcinga ze-HOCD ezingenantandabuzo ngaphandle koxinzelelo, bayayiphepha indlela yokuqinisa uloyiko. Ukongeza, bakufumanisa kuluncedo ukufunda ukuhlala nokungaqiniseki malunga nokuziphatha kwabo ngokwesondo kunye nokuphepha lonke uvavanyo kunye nemizamo "yokufumana inyaniso." Ngale ndlela bayayeka ukomeleza ukomeleza isiqabu esikhawulezileyo kunye "nokuqiniseka."

Ngamanye amagama, umguli we-HOCD kufuneka asebenze ekumisekeni Ntathu imivuzo evuzayo: Ukusetyenziswa kwezilwanyana ze-intanethi, ukufuna ukukhulula nokukhathazeka.

Ingxelo yendoda enye

Ingxelo yale ndoda inomdla kuba yaqala ngokwenza buthathaka umvuzo wamanyala, kodwa yafumanisa ukuba ayikhange ijongane noloyiko kunye nokufumana umvuzo.

Ngoku ndingaphezu kweenyanga ze-3 ngaphandle koononophala, kodwa ndaye ndatshona ekuhlaleni rhoqo iibhodi zemiyalezo ye-HOCD. Ndichitha iiyure yonke imihla kwezi sayithi, ngamanye amaxesha ndibajonga kangangezihlandlo ezininzi ngeyure: emsebenzini, ngelixa ndiqhuba, ndilele ebusuku, njl njl njl njl njl njl njl. Ingqondo yam yayivuzwa xa ndifunda into eyandiqinisekisayo, kwaye yayiza kuvutha kwaye ikhuphe xa ndifunda into eyayibangela ukuxhalaba kwam.

Ndikwandisile ukujonga kwam kwezinye iibhodi zemiyalezo, kubandakanya iibhodi zesini kunye nesini. Oku kuqhubela phambili ukujikeleza. Khange ndilale kakhulu ngenxa yoxinzelelo lwam lonke, kwaye bendingekho ebomini bam. Ndikunye kwezi bhodi okanye ndikhathazekile malunga noko ndikufundileyo kubo. Rhoqo. Ulwalamano lwam lwalusokola. Ngamanye amaxesha, ndedwa ebusuku, ndiza kuhamba nge-2-3 iyure yokujonga i-HOCD kwiibhodi zemiyalezo ye-intanethi, emva koko ndizive ndibuhlungu emva koko.

Ndagqiba ekubeni ndiyeke. Umlingane wam ufanelwe ngumntu okhoyo, angaphazamiseki ngokupheleleyo. Ukusukela ngoko, ndineseshoni enye yemizuzu eli-15, ndikhangela iimpendulo. Kuye kwafuneka ndizabalaze ukuxhathisa isilingo, kodwa iziphumo kukuba ndiziva ndibhetele kakhulu.

Kuyamangalisa ngokwenene. I-HOCD yam iye yancipha ngoku ngoku ndingasoloko ndibonisa ingqondo yam "LEZI ZI-HOCD ZIBALULEKILE" ngokuya kwiibhodi kunye nokuzibandakanya ekuhloleni nasekuqinisekiseni. Andizange ndiyifunde incwadi ngeenyanga, kodwa ngoku ndikwesibini okokoko ndayeka iibhodi. Ixesha lam lasimahla ebusuku ngoku ndilichithe kunye nentombi yam okanye ukufunda ngomlilo. Ndilele kamnandi kakhulu.

Ewe, ndisafumana i-spike ngamaxesha athile xa ndibona umntu onomtsalane. Kwaye emva kokujonga kunye neengcinga zakhe. Kodwa ifunyenwe incinci kakhulu, kwaye loo ngcinga iphela ngokukhawuleza okukhulu.

Ngoku ndicinga ukuba i-HOCD yam isenokuba ngenxa yokuba xa ndagqithisa i-PMO emva kweminyaka kunye neminyaka yayo, ndilahlekelwa yinto endibambeleyo kubafazi bonyani. Ngaphandle kwaloo mabhinqa namadoda aqala ukujonga okufanayo kum, kwaye i-BAM ixhala malunga nokutshatyalaliswa kwe-gay.

Indlela yonyango yokungabonakali ye-Schwartz

Kukho inkqubo ekhoyo yokunyanga i-OCD engakhuthazi ukubonakaliswa. Ingcali yengqondo uJeffrey Schwartz wayiphuhlisa. (Funda inkcazo ithathwe kwiDoidge Ubungqina Obuguqula.)

Schwartz ufundisa izigulane zakhe indlela i-neuroplasticity isebenza ngayo ke bayaqonda ukuba ukunyanzelwa kwabo kuvela ngokungafunekiyo, ekusebenzeni kwengqondo okungaphaya (hayi ngokungafaniyo nokulutha). Emva koko ucacisa ukuba iintambo zobuchopho zinokutshintshwa ngomzamo wokuqonda.

Ngandlela thile, ichasene kakhulu nokunyanga. Endaweni yokuzama ukuziqhelanisa nokuvezwa, enye iinzame zokuphinda isebenze ngengqondo ngokutshintsha iigiya kwangoko kuphume ikheyisi ehambelana nayo. USchwartz ucebisa ukuba atshintshele kwinto eyakhelweyo ekhethiweyo.

Injongo ayikukuthintela ukungonwabi ngokufuna isiqabu, kodwa endaweni yoko kusebenze iindlela ezingahambelaniyo zobuchopho endaweni yezo zinengxaki ukuze ingqondo inqamleze "kwimivuzo" yayo yangaphambili, kwaye mhlawumbi ide ifike ekudibaniseni uxinzelelo nomsebenzi onemveliso. Ngayiphi na imeko, ukwamkela iingcinga ezingathandekiyo ngaphandle kokuphendula ngokweemvakalelo kunceda kakhulu. Yathi enye:

Inye into endiyenzayo esebenza kakuhle kum kukwamkela ngokupheleleyo inyani yokuba ndinengcinga engafunekiyo. Ndenza konke okusemandleni am ukuze ndiphumle kwaye ndingahoyi le ngcinga, kwaye ndigxile emsebenzini okanye ndiphefumle kwaye ndiphile kumzuzu endikuyo. Oku kuphantse kungasebenzi ukuba ndizama ukugxila kwenye into. Phumla nje, uyayiqonda ingcinga yokuba ikhona kwaye ugxile (ngokukhululekileyo) emsebenzini wakho. Ekugqibeleni ndiyaqonda ukuba khange ndicinge ngcinga kwaye bendigxile ngokupheleleyo emsebenzini wam. Ewe, ingcinga ibuya kweli nqanaba kuba ndiyakhumbula ukuba bendinayo.

Into elandelayo endiyenzayo kukuzixelela, "umsebenzi olungileyo" kwaye uphinde ngentla. Gxila kwakhona. Nikela kwakhona. Ixabiso kwakhona. njengoko kugutyungelwe kwimathiriyeli ye-OCD kaGqirha Schwartz. Ewe, ayivakali ngathi izakusebenza de ndizame.

Unyanzelekile ukuba uziphathe njengomntwana onyana. Njalo xa ulibale ingcamango, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kukude kangakanani, vuyisana kwaye uzibambe emqondweni ngengqondo. Ziba mnandi kuwe. Ubundlobongela ngokwabo, emzimbeni uba bubundlobongela kwangaphandle, kunye nangoko. Yiba nomhle, zinyamezele. Zibophezele ukuphumla nangona ucinga ukuba ukhulula ngokupheleleyo. Naluphi na umcabango onalo ukuba awubalulekanga njengoko unganakukwenza!

Ukuba uwela kwipateni apho "uvavanyo" ngalunye olutsha lukwenza ukhathazeke ngakumbi, ingqondo yakho isebenzisa uloyiko lwakho njengesiqhelo sesondo. Kule meko, unokufumana indlela yeSchwartz yokoyisa i-OCD elona cebo liluncedo. Omnye onesifo se-HOCD wathi:

ndenze unyango i-HOCD yam, kwaye ngoku ndisebenzisa Schwartz indlela. Ukubonakaliswa kwimbono yam kusebenza kakuhle xa ukunyanzeliswa kunye nokunyanzeliswa kubuthathaka, yilapho imiba ye-HOCD ingumbuzo nje emva kwengqondo yomntu.

Inkqubo kaSchwartz ilunge ngakumbi kwimbono yam kumntu okwinqanaba lokugqibela le-HOCD. Kuthatha uqeqesho ukoyisa inkohliso kunye noxinzelelo ukuze ungaziqinisekisi. Inkqubo yeSchwartz yindlela enzima kakhulu ukuqala, kodwa xa umntu ephumelele ekuyekiseni ukutyeba, kuya kuba lula, njengoko bekwazi ukuqhuba usuku ngaphandle kokuthabatheka… de kube yingcinga engathandekiyo ibabambe kwakhona.

Ngoku, lelona nqaku libalulekileyo kubuchule bukaSchwartz bokukhaba. Umntu kufuneka atshintshele kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo / ukucinga / ukubonwa kwangoko. Kungenxa yokuba kanye xa umntu ephanda ingcinga engathandekiyo iba ngololiwe obalekayo njengoko kuvela ixhala. Myeke ahambe! Ngokwenyani, umntu kufuneka azifunele inkqubo entsha yomvuzo. Kum, umvuzo kukususa ixhala logama nje ndingazinanzi iingcinga.

Unyango lokuvezwa kweli nqanaba linamandla, apho ixhala lam ligubungele kwaye likhohlisa, akunantsingiselo. Yondla kuphela i-OCD yam. Unyango lokuveza ulwazi lusebenza kakuhle xa umntu esakwazi ukuqonda ukuqonda okuqinisekileyo kunye nokuqonda, ukuqonda ukuba uloyiko lwabo alunangqondo. Xa ukuqiqa kuthathelwa indawo kukuxhalaba, uxinzelelo lwe-IMO londla i-OCD. Uluvo lwam nje.

Lo mfana ubiza umlomo wakhe:

Ndifumanise ukuba ukuluma ubuchule bemilebe phakathi eklasini kusebenza kakuhle kakhulu. Andizange ndicinge ngesini esinye imini yonke ngaphandle kwale ntsasa ndandinayo enye ingcinga ehlala incinci kakhulu. Kodwa andinaxhala ngayo kuba ibingu-1 ngaphezulu kweeyure ezingama-24 ezidlulileyo. Kuya kuthatha ixesha elide ukuba lo mkhwa ungabikho kodwa ubuncinci kukho umqondiso wokuba sele ndifikile. Andikunqweneli nokubuyela kwi-porn ye-gay, ethi yona isiqabu esikhulu.

Njengengcambu, ingcali ye-HOCD uFred Penzel nayo idimaza unyango lwezonyango zokuxhatshazwa kwezesondo, Ngaphandle kwento yokuba ucebisa ngonyango kunye nokuthintela ukuphendula kumatyala akudala e-HOCD.

Ngethemba, abaphandi baya kutshintsha ukuba zeziphi iiprotokthi ezisebenza kakuhle kuzo zonke ii-HOCD abagulayo. Uninzi lwabachaphazelekayo banqwenela ukulungisa uxhalabo lwabo. Enyanisweni, kuwo onke ama-addicts abatyebileyo abavakatyelayo site yethu, abafana be-HOCD babandezeleka kakhulu kwaye baphinde baphinde baphinde baphindwe.

Okwangoku, abaninzi banqikaza ukufuna uncedo ngenxa yokwesaba ukuba intsholongwane iya kubaxelela ukuba bayingqingili (okanye iqonde) xa beyazi ukuba abayikho.

Abagulayo abanesifo se-HOCD ngokubanzi abanalo nofifi lokuba baphinde basebenzise njani kuba unyango olusemgangathweni alusebenzi, kwaye ezona zisombululo zithembisayo zivakala zinokuchasana (kufuneka bahambe kude ekukhululekeni, kuhlalutyo, nasekuvuseleleni ngokwesondo ixesha). Uninzi aluyi kuyifumana ngaphandle koncedo olunolwazi. Ukuqhubela phambili, banokufuna ukufumana ugqirha owazi kakuhle kuzo zombini iziyobisi kunye nendima yokuziyeka ekukhetheni ingqondo ukusuka "kwimivuzo" engafunekiyo.

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Ekhethekileyo njengoko injalo, incasa ye-transsexual porn iyinto eqhelekileyo kumadoda athe tye. Nantsi inkcazo evela kwifayile ye- Inqaku lithetha ngencwadi yakutshanje malunga neentlobo zoonwabo:

Ababhali bathi, “ukuba ubeka iisayithi kuLuhlu lwaBantu Abadala ngamagama eziza, iisayithi ze-T-girl zezesine zithandwa
udidi lweWebhusayithi yabantu abadala. ” Kwakhona, “'shemales' lelona weshumi elinesithandathu uthandwa kwezesondo kwi-Dogpile, ithandwa kakhulu kune 'butts,' 'threesomes,' kunye 'sex sex.'” Ke ngubani owenza uphando? U-Ogas noGaddam bacaphula umninimzi, osebenza kwiindawo ezininzi ezingamanyala:

"Abaphulaphuli bam abaphambili, kunye nabaphulaphuli bezononopopasho ezininzi zesini, zi-dudes ezichanekileyo. Yindlela ehlala ihleli ngayo. Ndiza kuthi bonke abatyeleli kwiindawo ezithandana nabantu abangatshatanga nabo zichanekile. ”

Bona kwakhona Intsha engaqhelekanga isayensi emva "Billion Iingcinga ezimbi".

Ke sivela phi isibheno se-transexual porn? Abafana abathandanayo ngokubanzi abafuni kuyibona. Ukudluliselwa kwezesondo akuyiyo "inkanuko yesini." Ayifumaneki kwindalo, ngenxa yoko abantu ngekhe baguquke bafuna ukuyibona. Ayisiyonto uninzi lwabasebenzisi abaya kuyikhangela… ngaphandle kokuba baye baba nobuchule bokwenza ngobuqhophololo ngabenzi beendawo ze-porn.

Yintoni iphonografi engamanyala… yindlela yokudibanisa iindlela ezinamandla zesini ngokuqhelekileyo ezingenakudityaniswa. Umyalezo oqinileyo ngokuthe ngqo kwinkqubo ye-limbic yengqondo. Idibanisa ababukeli abazithandayo ngokwesini: amabele, ukuma kwamadoda, ukukhupha ipenisi, i-BJ, ukuphulula amalungu esini, njl njl.

Ingqondo ye-limbic, engenakuqiqa kwaye ingazi into enjalo ayikho kwindalo, ithi nje, “Oooh! Oooh! Iimpawu zethu esizithandayo zokuvusa isondo! Le yeyona HOTI yongezelelweyo! ” Ngaphezulu kwelo, njengamanyala angamafanasini kumntu othe tye, okanye udlwengulo oluchanekileyo lomntu wesini, iyothusa kwaye iyonwabisa. Kwaye, * cha-ching! * Abenzi be-porn bapokota ingeniso yentengiso kutyelelo lwakho.

Iyavakala into yokuba amava amabi, enoveli "anamathele" engqondweni yakho kwaye kamva aqhubeke nokudubula kuzo zonke iintlobo ze-neurochemical "YENZE!" imiyalezo-ngakumbi xa impendulo yakho yolonwabo ingaphantsi kwe-par (mhlawumbi ngenxa yokugqitha). Isitshixo sokwenyani kukuba amava ayanelisa ngenene… okanye akushiye ulambele okungakumbi.

Nali elinye ithuba lokuvula amehlo:

Ngamanyala ndibe ngumlutha kakhulu kwiimfesane. Kwabangela umbuzo omkhulu ngokuphathelele ubulili bam xa ndandifaka kwiimvakalelo ezinjalo. Ewe, ndagqiba kwelokuba ndizame ukuhamba ngesidlo esisodwa ukuze ndibone.

HAYI into yam! Khange ndikwazi ukudlula ndide ndibone / ndithethe "naye" ngaphezulu kwemizuzu embalwa kwaye ndayeka ngobunono ngokuhlwa. Thetha ngokugqabhuka kwebhola, i-LOL. Ke loo nxalenye igqityiwe.

Omnye umntu uchaza indlela ukudideka kwakhe kwaqala ngayo:

Ukugqwetha kwam kuye kwanda ngakumbi, ekuqaleni ndandise-vanilla, kodwa kungekudala, kwakungekho ngokwaneleyo nge-20s yam yokuqala, ndaqala ukubukela amathumbu agqithisileyo, i-hentai, ubukhoboka, ukuchama, i-shemales, ukulawula kwengqondo, ukukhanyela i-orgasm kunye ukuba nephupha lokuba ndifuna i-harem yamakhulu amabhinqa angenawo omnye umnqweno ebomini ngaphandle kokundanelisa. Ekugqibeleni yafika kwinqanaba apho ndandijonge umfazi ongenamdla kwaye ndabona ipipi lendoda njengohlobo lokuzisa ulonwabo…. Ndaziva ngathi nam ndiyayifuna loo nto, ndaza ndaqala ukucinga malunga nokuba nomntu. Ubudala 29 - Ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale i-nofap ndacinga ukuba ndithandana ngokwesini, andisekho

Iimbono zomkhiqizi weTV phantsi oku kuhlaziywa kwe-documentary yase-UK ye-Porn In Brain

Stuart Bull-01 Okthobha 2013

Iminyaka emithathu edluleyo ndiyinxalenye yeqela labaphandi be-TV abaye bajonga kwimibandela enxulumene ne-intanethi yeprogram engazange iphumelele. Umlimi oyintloko wazibona ubungqina bobunzululwazi obandakanyekayo (oko kwakufuneka ukuba ibe yinkomo yangemva kwenkqubo) yayingenamandla ngokwaneleyo.

Ngethuba lophando ndalithetha kunye nenani labantu abaneengxaki ezinxulumene nezocwangco, zifundela ngamawaka amazwana avela kumadoda kwiindawo ezinxamnye noononophelo kwaye zathetha ngeengcali zenzululwazi. Ubuninzi besophando lwenzululwazi lusengumntwana kodwa akukho nto yam engqondweni yam ukuba ukujonga ixesha elide lokujonga iifostile kungabangela umphumo ongeyingozi kakhulu kubantu abadala kunye nabantwana.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu endiyifumanayo yayingamadoda amadala kunye nabantu abafikisayo abaqala ukubukela iphonografi esemgangathweni (ukuba kukho into enjalo) rhoqo kwaye kwisithuba seminyaka eliqela baqala ukufudukela kwimifanekiso ethe kratya nangaphezulu njengoko beye baba nomdla kwi-porn esemgangathweni kwaye Ndikhangele eyona 'intsha' entsha.

Abantu ababebonakala bebonakala bengabantu abaqhelekileyo bekhathazekile ukuba banokufumana ukulungiswa koononophelo, abazange bazive banqwenela ukwenza ubudlelwane obufanelekileyo kunye nomfazi njengengxaki yokubethwa iifostile bebebambele indawo, amadoda angqingili kunye nabesilisa ababethathwe I-pornographic sexual sexual they found themselves viewing homosexual pornography, amadoda ayenenkxalabo malunga neemvakalelo zabo kubantwana kuba umgca phakathi kokufunyanwe kakuhle okanye omhle kunye noko bafumene i-sexy beqala ukuphazamiseka.

I-99% yabantu babe ngabantu abadala kwaye babe nexesha lokwakha ubulili obufanelekileyo kunye nobudlelwane ngaphambi kwemiba yabo. Oku kwakuthetha ukuba, njengokuba esinye isazi senzululwazi siphakamise, ngoncedo olufanelekileyo lwabo ubuchopho buya kubuyiselwa kwizaziso zabo zangaphambili zesondo, nangona imifanekiso ababeyibukeleyo ayiyikulibala ngokupheleleyo.

Kwinkwenkwe eneminyaka eyi-10-14, engenamava angokwesondo angaphambili, akukho qhosha lokuseta kwakhona. Sinokuba nezizukulwane ezizayo zabafana abajolise kwabasetyhini kwaye banezimvo ezingekho ngqiqweni ngesondo kwaye kwezinye iimeko amadoda aya kuthi iingqondo zawo ziphinde zenziwe ngocingo ngemifanekiso egqithileyo kangangokuba babe semngciphekweni kubafazi nakubantwana ababangqongileyo. . Ke akufuneki sibeke iintloko zethu entlabathini kwaye silindele ubungqina bokwenene benzululwazi. Kufuneka senze into ngoku.

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AmaMedi anceda lo mfana:

Ndifumene i-nofap inceda i-OCD yam kakhulu njengoko yenza imisebenzi emitsha okt umthambo wemihla ngemihla. Inye into andiyiva ixoxwa kwiiforamu lunyango okanye unyango. Kum, iidosi eziphezulu ze-inositol isongezelelo esivuselela i-dopamine receptors ngokudibanisa ne-valerian kunye ne-NAC kunciphise ukuthanda kwam. Kodwa kusathathe yonke imizamo yam ukuba ndinganikeli ngokujonga ngokunyanzelekileyo [kuvavanyo] nakwi-porn.

QAPHELA: Amacandelo anceda abanye abane-OCD abagulayo, kodwa kungekhona abanye ngoDkt. Gottman:

Omnye umntu wayenomuvo wefilosofi njengoko ebeka izicwangciso ndawonye:

(Usuku lwe-13) Ndiyicacile - ngoko akukho bunzima, kwaye akukho mdla wesini kubafazi. Ndakhe ndayeka ukuhlala ekholejini. Kwahlala iiveki ezi-3. Kodwa ndaphinda ndabuya kuba ndicinga ukuba ndiguqula ubungqingili- kuba bendingenayo imvakalelo yokulalana namantombazana ahamba ngendlela. Ndacinga, "kutheni ndingaziva ndifuna ukubabetha?" Ndaba nexhala. Ndabona kwakhona ukuba andinayo i-libido. Kwaye emva koko ndaba nexesha elide kunye ne-HOCD, ngoku ephelayo njengoko ndingacingi ngayo. Kuyamangalisa indlela ezisebenza ngayo iingqondo zethu, ezilungileyo nezingalunganga.

Ngokukhawuleza kuyacaca i-HOCD hayi khanyela:

Khumbula into enye, ayikukhanyeli! LEYO yayiyeyona nto inzima ukuba ndiyiqonde. Ukuba uwathandile amantombazana, bendihlala kunye namantombazana, kwaye ucinga kuphela ngamantombazana. Kuza kuhlala kunjalo. Ngoku nantsi isizathu sokuba i-OCD ikhohlise. Ingqondo yakho ikwindawo engaqhelekanga kwaye imiqondiso yakho ayitshisi ngokuchanekileyo. Kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba ungaba li-gay. Oko kuvakala ngathi kuyaphambana, ndiyazi, kodwa ayisiyiyo. Okukhona ulinde ukuba wenze into malunga nayo iba mbi ngakumbi. Ndikholelwe. Thatha loo ncwadi kwaye ucacisele ugqirha wakho ukuba kwenzeka ntoni.

Ukuba bakuxelele ukuba usisitabane, zibuze ukuba yile nto uyifunayo. Ukuba akunjalo, fumana ugqirha owaziyo malunga ne-OCD. Kananjalo musa ukufumana unyango olusoloko lukuqinisekisa. Oko akunakunceda. Apho ndikhoyo ngoku, ayisiyi-100% ihambileyo kodwa intle kakhulu. Ndiyakwazi ukugxila ebomini.

Chaza ugqirha wakho okwenzekayo. Ukuba bakuxelele ukuba usisitabane, zibuze ukuba yile nto uyifunayo. Ukuba akunjalo, fumana ugqirha owaziyo malunga ne-OCD. Kananjalo musa ukufumana unyango olusoloko lukuqinisekisa. Oko akunakunceda. Apho ndikhoyo ngoku, ayisiyi-100% ihambileyo kodwa intle kakhulu. Ndiyakwazi ukugxila ebomini.

I-HOCD ayigxininiswa ngokwesini:

Kuye ixesha elide ukususela kwam ndenze uhlaziyo lwami lokugqibela. Imeko ilandelayo:

I-HOCD ngokuqinisekileyo ihambile ixesha elithile ngoku, kuyacaca ukuba yayingeyonxalenye yenkqubo "yokuphuma", yayisisifo sengqondo esenziwa kukurhoxiswa kwe-porn. Andiyi kubhala enye into malunga nayo, kuba ngokunyanisekileyo ndinomdla wokucinga ngale nxalenye yobomi bam endinokuyichaza njengesihogo uqobo, kwaye andizukubaxa izinto.

Izilungiso zibuyele kwi-100% (ngaphandle kweentsuku ezimbalwa emva kokubukela iphonografi)… Damn ndiyawakhumbula la maxesha xa ndandibetha ilitye le-porn, kwakungekho nto emhlabeni eyayiza kundinika ulwakhiwo.

Nantsi ingxoxo phakathi kwabanye abantu:

"Mna nomhlobo wam besithetha ngokudideka kokuzibandakanya kwezesondo. Uthe, 'Ndibe nengxaki yokuyiqonda. Ndiya kwi-Intanethi kwaye ndibona into endenza ndicinge ukuba ndithandana nabantu besini esahlukileyo; emva koko ndibona into endenza ndicinge ukuba ndilifanasini; kodwa ke ndibona enye into eyenza ndicinge ukuba ndithandana nabantu besini esahlukileyo. Ndifikelele kwisigqibo sokuba ndithanda ubufanasini! '”

[Omnye umntu] Ke ndiye ndaqala ukucinga ukuba ayisiyiyo malunga nokuziqhelanisa kodwa nokusebenza. Okokugqibela, ndaqala ukuphanda ngezinto, emva koko ngethamsanqa ndaphelela apha.

[Omnye umntu] Kuphantse ngokungathi abavelisi bayayazi into abayenzayo ukuzama ukuguqula abantu ukuba babelane ngesondo. Ndifunde ndaweni ithile ukuba umntu onemicimbi ye-PMO uza kuvulwa kuphela nge-porn ye-gay. Ngoku andikaze ndifike kweli nqanaba, kodwa kanye ngeholide ndazama enye yezo ndawo zonqulo. Umboniso wesini esithandanayo weza (iscreen safaka amajelo angacwangciswanga rhoqo kwimizuzu / imizuzwana embalwa) kwaye nangona ndingazange ndibenayo "ndifuna ukuba nemvakalelo apho", yayiqala ukuvusa… ngendlela engaqhelekanga, enomdla.

Kwakukho i-ac * ck, ezinye i-t! Ts, ubuso bomfazi, ukwanga, w * nking, bl * w imisebenzi. Kwakufana nekholaji engaqhelekanga yemikhombandlela ezimeleyo yonke into ejikelezayo engavakaliyo ngokupheleleyo kum njengoko ndingenjalo. Kodwa bekukho unxibelelwano olubuthathaka olusisiseko phakathi kwazo zonke iindlela ezifanelekileyo ezazisenza ukuba ivuse. Ndicinga ukuba imibutho yayenza ukuba ingqondo yam icinge ngakumbi (malunga nokwabelana ngesondo) ukuzama ukuyenza ngokungazi, ngenxa yoko ingqondo yam yayifumana phezulu ngaphandle kokuqonda kwam. Khange ndiphinde ndibukele izinto, kodwa iyamangalisa indlela ezinokukuchaphazela ngayo ezi zinto. Ngoku ndiyabazi abanye abantu, umzekelo, bade bagqibe ekulweni nesilwanyana, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo abenzi njalo hamba ujikeleza ucinga "Wow jonga amabele kuleya nkomo!"..Ngabo?" Ngamafutshane, i-PMO egqithisileyo yingqondo yokwenene * ck.

Uninzi lwe-porn kukuphamba kwengqondo oku "kudala" ukuthanda, hayi isibheno kukhetho lwezesondo esele likho. Omnye umntu wathi:

Ndijongane ne-HOCD okoko bendineminyaka eyi-15. Kwaqala ukwenzeka emva kokubukela abantu ababhinqileyo / ukubukela iphonografi emva koko ndafunda inqaku elalisithi olu sana lwaludumile kuluntu oluthandana nabasetyhini. Kwaba kukuthabatheka ukusuka apho ukuya phambili… ngakumbi emva kokuqala ukubukela iphonografi. Ndithembele ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba andizange ndivelise i-HOCD ukuba kwakungekho kwi-intanethi ye-intanethi. Ndicinga ukuba ezi zinto zimbini zidityanisiwe.

Nantsi incam yomntu olwa nale ngxaki:

I-HOCD yam isoloko ilawula imisebenzi yam enxulumene nezocwangco. Kwakusetyenziswa ukulandela iphethini elula:

1. Bona umfanekiso wesono / into ephakamisa

2. I-HOCD iqala, ingenza ndiqale ukuxhalabisa

3. I-HOCD iqina, iqala ukungenza ukuba ndiyithandabuze indlela yam yesondo

4. I-HOCD indenza ndiqiniseke ukuba andingowesini ngokujonga iphonografi

5. Ndiyigqiba kwi-porno, i-HOCD iphela kwaye ivakalelwa njenge-idiot yokuwa kwayo.

Ndandilandela le nyathelo:

- Ukungazi: Musa ukuphanda nantoni na kwi-HOCD. Sukufunda ngayo. Sukufunda amanye amatyala. Yishiye yodwa. Ndiyazi ukuba abanye abanyangi bacela umngeni kwi-HOCD. Inokuba yinto elungileyo ukuyenza, kodwa xa ungumlutha we-porn onayo i-HOCD, ngaba singathi uphawu lwayo, okanye inxenye yomlutha, awunako "ukucel'umngeni kwiingcinga" kuba kubenza babe mandundu, kwaye uphinde ubuye kwi-porn ekugqibeleni. Ukunyaniseka, ngekhe ubenethuba lekati-yesihogo lokubetha oku ngelixa ulikhoboka le-porn. Ukwenzela wena, kuba uye wanyukela kwi-gay [okanye nantoni na] iphonografi, "isitabane" sinxibelelene nokusetyenziswa kwakho kwe-porn, ke "ukwamkela" ispike njengonyango oluninzi kusenokwenzeka ukuba ayingombono olungileyo! Ubuncinci de ube uyikhethile iphonografi, kwaye emva koko i-HOCD iya kube iphelile kakhulu.

Ulwabiwo lwexesha: Ukufunda xa kunokwenzeka ukuba uphephe ngoxinzelelo malunga ne-HOCD, kum yayiyeyona ngokuhlwa (kuba kulapho bendihlala ndisiya khona kwi-5-yure ye-porn binge, ngamabona-ndenzile? Ngelo xesha, qiniseka ukuba unayo into ecwangcisiweyo. Hlala uthetha nelungu losapho kude nekhompyuter, okanye ubize umhlobo okanye isihlobo, hamba uhambo olude / umthambo, njl.

Ukutshiza: Ukuba uqala ukukora, kuya kufuneka usebenzise amanyathelo okhuseleko kwangoko. "INDLELA YOKUSEBENZA" yindlela yam yokhuseleko. Ndiyifake kwiidolophu ezinkulu kuba xa ndicofa, ndithi "I-OCCUPY MODE" entlokweni yam kwaye ndicinge uphawu olukhulu lwe-neon kunye nalo olubhaliweyo. Emva koko ndenza into-ENYE NAYO-efuna amandla omzimba nawengqondo. Njengokwenza ukuhlala phantsi ngelixa usombulula iingxaki zezibalo, kwanokubala ngelixa uphakamisa iintsimbi kuya kusebenza. Ngena i-OCCUPY MODE malunga nemizuzu elishumi elinesihlanu. Ngasemva kwentloko yakho, cinga uphawu "OCCUPY MODE" kwaye wenze nantoni na ekufuneka uyenzile. Emva kwexesha, i-spike iya kugqitywa.

Ukuphepha ukubonwa ngokwesini kunye neminqweno yesondo iyitshabalalisile into yam yokuvusa. Njengokoqobo, andiyiva nto kwakhona. Ndiyakhumbula "iimvakalelo" endizifumene kuyo, kodwa azisekho. Kunzima ukukholelwa ukuba kwiminyaka emibini eyadlulayo, ndafika kwinqanaba apho eyona nto iphambili endandikhupha kuyo yayikukuziphatha kakubi ngokwesini, kodwa ngoku kunzima ukubeka amagama ngendlela utshintsho olwenzeke ngayo. Ukuvuswa kwabafazi bokwenyani kukonyuse kwinqanaba endililibeleyo ngenxa yeminyaka yokujonga iphonografi.

Ndifumene i-HOCD curbs kwii-4 iiveki kum. Ukuphela kweveki yesi-2 / ukuqala kweveki yesi-3 kusoloko kunzima kakhulu. Ndiqinisekile nge-110% ukuba i-HOCD + ye-Porn likhoboka linye kwaye iyafana. Njengoko ukhaba i-porno, i-HOCD ayinamandla kuba ukutsalwa kwe-porn akunamandla, kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha kuya kuphelela ngokupheleleyo.

Ngendlela, le ayisiyondlela yesitrato enye kuphela. Akuqhelekanga ukuba amadoda angama-gay ahlakulele ngokuthe ngqo okanye nokuba neentlobano zesini. Ndizibonile kwiwebhu yonke kwiiwebhusayithi ezahlukeneyo zeziyobisi. Ndicinga ukuba yeyona nto imbi ngakumbi kunale yethu. Kithina luxinzelelo oluncinci, olucaphukisayo olusenza sithandabuze imeko yethu yesini. Kwindoda eyintombazana, engazange ibathande abafazi, efihle iimvakalelo zakhe zokwenyani eluntwini, emva koko waba nesibindi sokuphuma ukuze afumanise ukuba angatsaleleka kubafazi emva kwako konke (!!!). Ewe, oko kuya kuba yinto eyoyikisayo.

Kodwa inyani yile, abafana ekuthethwa ngabo abajiki ngqo. Abathandwa ngokwenene ngabafazi. Bakwisikhephe esinye njengathi, kodwa ngasemva.

Ukuphulukiswa kancane

Kwafuneka ndijongane neHOCD kwaye ndisajongana nayo kancinci. Yinto oyaziyo ukuba ayiyonyani kodwa endaweni yoko kukukhuthaza kwengqondo yakho ngenxa yezinto ezingahleliwe. Indlela endiye ndafunda ukujongana nayo kukungazinaki iingcinga, sukuzixakekisa ngazo okanye uzame ukuhlalutya kunye nokuzithethelela kwaye uzixelele ngokwakho ukuba uthe tye, myeke nje bahambe. Kufana nokuba unokuba nengcinga engacwangciswanga yokubetha umntu ebusweni, ngekhe uyenze ke vumela ingcinga idlule.

Enye indlela kukuhlekisa ngayo. Yithi ukunye nomhlobo wakho kwaye ngokungacwangciswanga ucinga ngokumanga okanye enye into, yithi nje kuwe, “Owu ndoda ndiyindoda engathethekiyo ndifuna ngokupheleleyo ukwanga umhlobo wam”. Ukunyaniseka, i-HOCD yinto enzima kuye kwafuneka ndijongane nayo kwaye yandenza ndakhangela ngaphakathi ngakumbi. Ndiyazi ukuba ndithe ngqo; okoko ndaqala konke endikucingayo ngabantu besini esahlukileyo. Ndiqinisekile ukuba yayikukukhuthaza nje okungamanyala okufikileyo kum. Ukuqhubela phambili ekuqaliseni kwam ukuqala kwakhona i-HOCD ayichaphazeli nakanye, kwaye xa ndikhululekile kwiintsuku andikhumbuli nokuba ndinayo.

Uvavanyo:

Ndasela kakhulu ubusuku obunye kwaye ndafumana umbono entlokweni yam wokuba kufuneka ndizame ukutshintsha ukuze ndifumane inyani malunga nokwabelana ngesondo / nomtsalane. Ngelixa ndinxilileyo, ndathetha kwi-Intanethi ndadibana. Ndavuswa ngandlela ithile ukuba ndicinga ukuba ndigqitha kwi-porn, kodwa amava onke awaziva ulungile kwaye ndanezothe. Andikwazi ukuhamba nantoni na kwaye kwafuneka ndikhuphe.

Emva kokuba kwenzeke oko, ndandikunye namantombazana ambalwa awayekunye nam. Ndaziva ndivukile kwaye ndonwabela amava onke okudlala ngothando / ukuthetha nabo. Yaziva ilungile. Ke, ngelixa bekungafuneki ukuba ndifuna naluphi na ukomeleza, ndicinga ukuba iyaqhubeka ingqina ukuba umtsalane we-trans uthathwe ngoonobumba kwaye awuqhubeki kakuhle kumava obomi bokwenyani. Ndifanele ndikwazi oku ukususela ngexesha lokugqibela ndayeka i-porn kwaye ndayeka ukuziva ndikhangeleka kuyo nayiphi na into enxulumene nokuhamba.

Omnye umntu wachaza ubuchule bakhe:

Xa uhamba ngobuqhetseba ngeengcamango ezinzulu, fumana into yokwenza oko kuya kubakho iingcamango ezingcono. Ukuhamba kwendalo, okanye iphazili, okanye into, ubugcisa mhlawumbi. Ekuqaleni uvakalelwa ngathi akusebenzi okanye ukuphazamisa nje ingcamango, kodwa kusebenza. Uza kubona emva kwexesha, uxela ubuchopho bakho ukuba ucinge okanye wenze enye into xa ezi ngcamango ziphakama kwaye ziza kulala ngokukhawuleza.

Yicinge ngale ndlela. Iingcinga zihlobo lwamandla e-astral / etheric. Kungenxa yokuba zenziwe ngamandla nantoni na oyenzayo ngokuzama ukulwa nabo okanye ukuzitshintsha kuphela kunxibelelana nazo ngamandla kwaye kuzenza zomelele. Kwanentiyo yakho kubo iyabomeleza. Musa ukuyicaphukela iphonografi [kwaye musa "kuvavanya"], iya kwenza nakuphi na ukubuyela umva kunokuba nzima ngakumbi.

Jikelele OCD:

Ukususela ekubeni ndandinzima kwi-pornography, ndihlala ndiqaphela ukuba ndineempawu ezincinci ze-OCD. Kwakungekho nto inzulu, kodwa ukuba izinto bezingalandelelananga kwigumbi lam, bekunzima kum ukugxila emsebenzini wam. Ngoku, kufana nokuba baphelile ngokupheleleyo. Ndisengumntu olungelelaniswe ngokubanzi, kodwa isezantsi kakhulu kuluhlu lwam lwezinto eziphambili. Ndiza kukhupha izinto ezibalulekileyo endleleni, ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale ukulungiselela i-shit yam.

Omnye umfana:

Yep… nangona ingayekanga i-OCD, umkhwa wokuluma isikhonkwane ngomnwe uphelile. Ndiza kubasusa ngokunyanzela, kwaye babehlala beyinto ecekisekayo echithiweyo ekupheleni kweminwe yam.

Omnye umfana:

Kuyafana nakum iqabane, xa ndikude ne-porn kwaye ndingabinamabhanti okanye enye into abahambayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo ndibona unxibelelwano kunye ne-PMOing kunye ne-OCD. Yaphuma kumlutha we-PMO kum.

Uncedo olungakumbi:

Ndizokuyiphelisa le nto ngokudwelisa iindlela zokunceda abo bachatshazelwe koku:

  1. Ukuba ujonge i-Shemale ye-porn / ye-gay ye-porn / ye-bi-ngokwesondo yamkela. Oku kuvakala kunzima njengokundithemba, kodwa xa usenzile, kulula ukubona ukuba uyayithanda okanye awuyithandi. Mhlawumbi ubunomdla wokufuna ukwazi? Okanye uphathwe kakubi ngabantu besini esahlukileyo, okanye unengqondo evulekileyo kwaye ufuna ukuphonononga, kodwa kufuneka uyamkele into oyenzileyo, nokuba iyachasa.
  2. Akukho mntu, kungekhona isazi sezengqondo, kungekhona umhlobo, kungekhona iwebhusayithi, anokuxelela ukuba ungubani. Oku kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo. Ingqondo yakho iya kwenza izinto zibe ukwesabisa wena, ukuzama ukukugcina ungenzi nantoni na ebomini bakho. Qaphela oku kukuxhalabisa kwaye kungeyona ingqiqo.
  3. SUKUMAMELE umntu othi kuya kufuneka uyokuzama izinto zesini. Oku kunokuba yimpikiswano kodwa andikhathali. Ukuba uthe tye ubomi bakho bonke, uya kuhlala ulungile. Akukho sidingo sokudlula kwingxaki yesazisi. Iya kukuthintela kuphela, kwaye iyafana nabantu abathandana ngokwenene, abafuna ukuzama ukuba tye. Uya kuphelisa ukuwacaphukela amaqabane akho kwaye ayisiyonto yomntu othe tye okanye osisitabane ngokwenene.
  4. Yeka ukukhangela iimpendulo kwi-intanethi. Ithetha ntoni le nto? Sukuya kwiiforum, sukujonga i-HOCD, ungabuzi nabani na ongungqingili okanye othe ngqo ngayo. Yiyeke. Uyenza mandundu ngakumbi ngokufuna iimpendulo. Ndithembe, bendisoyika ukuba ndizotshintsha ngonaphakade. Ndandisoyika ukuba, "I-OMG IM IYA KUBA GAY." Ngenye imini, ndiyekile ukunikezela. Ndayeka ukufunda, ndayeka ukucinga ngako kwaye ndacinga ukuba yintoni, ukutsala kwam abafazi kwabuyela ngamandla kwaye ndakwazi ukuza kule nto. Oku kuzisa kwinqanaba lam lokugqibela.
  5. Ixhala sisilo. Kodwa iyakwazi ukuthanjiswa. Iya kukwenza ukholelwe izinto ezingeyonyani, kodwa kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba konke kuphenjelelwe nguwe. Nguwe obangeleyo. Iimeko zinokukwenza ukuba ziphume ngakumbi kodwa ulawula. Makhe ndibeke nje kuwe ngolu hlobo: Ukwabelana kwabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye kuhambile, kubuyela kwindlela endandihlala ndicinga ngayo. Ewe, kukho ukugqwethwa kwiqela ngalinye labantu, oko akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu ligwenxa. Ndiyathandwa kakhulu ngabasetyhini kwaye ndihlala ndihlala njalo. Ngoku kushiyeke ntoni? Umlutha wamanyala. Leyo yinto yokugqibela esele. Ingcebiso yam kuye nabani na ohamba noku, yeka iphonografi. Kuyanceda. Musa ukukukholelwa oko kuthethwa yenye ingcali ngesondo, zithembele. Oko kubhenela kwigunya nokuba kwenzeka ntoni NGENDLELA yokubuyela kwi-reddit. Hlala kude reddit nayo. Zinike ithuba lokuba ucinge kwaye uphilise. Kungenzeka ukuba abafana. Akukho mntu wayenokundixelela ukuba ndiyisitabane ngeli xesha kuba ndiza kuhleka iesile lam. Ukuba ikhona into, le indenze ndomelele ngakumbi kunangaphambili. Qaphela ukuba i-OCD kunye nezinye izifo ezinxulumene noxinzelelo ziluncedo kakhulu kunenye into.

Ukuqwalasela okungakumbi ngababenayo (okanye babenayo) i-HOCD:

Kungenxa yoko Imicu efana nale yenza ndibuhlungu.

Kungenxa yokuba umntu, othi emva kweminyaka efumene ukuba ungungqingili kufuneka azame ukukholisa wonke umntu ukuba i-HOCD ayikho, abantu kufuneka baphinde babuyele kwi-porn, abenza i-HOCD.

Sukuba nexhala le-syndaren, umntu onesifo se-HOCD apha. Ndiye ndahlupheka kwi-OCD iminyaka ngoku, kwaye ibonakalisile ngeendlela ezininzi nangaphandle kwembonakalo ye-HOCD. Malunga nonyaka ophelileyo, bendididekile kwaye bendinokuphakuzela kwaye ndinokudakumba ngenxa yokuba ndiqinisekile ukuba i-porn ye-gay yandenza isitabane. Kwaye ngoku ndiqalisile uhambo lwam lokuyeka uonobumba ngokulungileyo, ndilahlekelwe ngokupheleleyo yimvakalelo yokujonga iphonografi. Ayisenamdla kum ngokwesondo kwaye, enyanisweni, andikhange ndicinge nokucinga ukuba ndithandana nabantu ukususela ngaloo nyaka. Ngoku ndixelele i-OP, ndingahlula njani njenge-gay ngasese?

Kumava am, kukho umahluko phakathi kwabantu abaziyo ukuba bayingqingili kuba bayazi ukususela ebusheni babo, kwaye bazifihla emva kwe-HOCD, kunye nabantu abazi ukuba baqonde, badideke ngokubukela ngokunyanisekileyo koononophala kunye nokukhathazeka ubusuku nemini ukuba yinyani bubuxoki. Eyona nto ngokucacileyo ayisiyiyo.

UGary Wilson ukunike ulwazi oluninzi kodwa kubonakala ngathi awuphenduli kule OP. Ndingathatha ingcebiso ethe kratya kuye kuba uyazazi izinto zakhe, uthatha nje izinto ozicingayo ngaphandle kokucinga kakuhle. Kungenxa yokuba uguqukile (ndiqinisekile ukuba uyayazi le nto, nakwinqanaba le-HOCD), oko akuthethi ukuba i-HOCD ayikho.

Ndihlala kwi-NIGHTMARE emsulwa ngenxa ye-HOCD, kunye nabanye abaninzi. Ndibe kunyango loku, kwaye ndibubungqina obuphilayo bokuba ikhona, kwaye kunokwenzeka ngokupheleleyo ukuba uguqule iminqweno ye-porn ngaphandle kokuthelekisa intando yokwenyani kunye nendalo yokwenza njalo kubomi bokwenyani. Nceda ungandixeleli ukuba ndiyintoni i-OP, abantu abayithathi kakuhle loo nto.

Ugqirha wam ukholelwa ukuba umlutha wamanyala wawunefuthe elibi kuphuhliso lwam lwe-OCD.

Ke bendijongana nesiyobisi se-porn okoko bendineminyaka eyi-18, kwaba yingxaki enkulu kwiinyanga ezili-18 ezidlulileyo. Ndaqala ukufumana iingcamango ezingaqhelekanga emva kokugcoba i-masturbating kwaye ndiza kuba nenkungu yengqondo kwithuba elithile emva koko. Kwaye kwakhokelela ekubeni ndihlaziye i-masturbate kwizinto ezichasene nokuziphatha kwam (akukho nto engekho mthethweni) endinako ngakumbi okanye ngaphantsi ndikwazi ukuyeka ndedwa ngexesha lokulutha.

Nangona kunjalo, ekugqibeleni ndaqala ukuphulula amalungu esini iiyure ezingama-2-3 ngelixa ndaye ndaya kuhlala kwindawo entsha nentombi yam andinakukunceda, ndimlinde ukuba aye emsebenzini ukuze ndibethwe ngamatye ndize ndihlaziye ixesha elide ekugqibeleni. Ekugqibeleni konke kwafika entloko xa ingqondo yam yaphuka ngokoqobo. Yonke into endiye ndayeka ukuphulula amalungu esini ukuba andivumelani nayo yayikhala entlokweni yam ifuna ityala lam.

Ekugqibeleni ndafumana isiqinisekiso kumgqirha wam. Andizange ndikholelwe ukuba ndinomlutha, kodwa emva kokuba ndibuyele kaninzi kula maxesha kwaye ndaziva ukuba kubi kangakanani okwenze iingcinga, kodwa ndibuye ndibuyele kwindlela yokunyusa ukuthanda kwam, ndade ndamkela ukuba ayindim nje inkwenkwe ethande iphonografi kwaye ekufaneleyo ukwenza izinto azithandayo ebomini. Ngexesha lam lokugqibela lokuphinda ndibuye ndaye ndathatha iintsuku ezintathu ukusuka ekubukeni iphonografi ye-vanilla, ukujoyina enye yezo zinto zingathandekiyo zencoko yezinto apho uphulula amalungu esini nabanye abantu, kwaye bendiphulula amalungu esini nabanye abantu ukuhambisa iphonografi. Isini andisoze ndacinga ukuba siyinxalenye yokuzibandakanya kwam kwezesondo kwiintsuku ezi-3 ngaphambili.

Kwandithatha ukuwa ezantsi nzulu ukuze ndiqonde ukuba umlutha wam undonakalise kangakanani. Ndicinga ukuba isizathu sokuba ndibhale le yeyomnye umntu ofumana iingcinga ezincinci kwaye uyazibuza ukuba ingaba yinto enkulu leyo okanye hayi. Sukwenza impazamo endiyenzileyo. Yamkele ingxaki ngokukhawuleza.

Iibhola ze-Porn zeeyure ze-4-6 iintsuku ezimbalwa zokugqibela. Ngalinye icala, kwacaca ngakumbi ukuba i-pornsexual sexual sex is unrelated to sexuality. Emva kokuchitha iiyure ze-30 + kwii-5 iintsuku ezidlulileyo zibukele i-pornography, i-pornsexual sexual sex started to be boring! Ndaqala ukukhangela ezinye izinto ezinyanyekayo nezikrakra.

Ndine-HOCD, nangona ingabalulekanga njengokuba yayiqhelekile xa ndandiqala ukufumana ubukrelekrele kwiinyanga ezingamanyala ezidlulileyo kwaye ayisindi okanye indilawule kwakhona. Ngamanye amaxesha ndiziva ngathi ndiyintombazana, okanye ndibe nesizathu esifanelekileyo okanye iimvakalelo zam. Bendihlala ndibukela iphonografi eyabelana ngesondo, kwaye ngelixa ndingakhange ndibone iphonografi ndibone izikrini kunye nemifanekiso xa ndikhangela iphonografi. Kwakhona, abahlobo bam bayathetha kwaye benze ngathi bayathandana ngalo lonke ixesha sijinga, kwaye andiyithandi / iyandonwabisa.

Ndiyazi ukuba ndikhula ndihlala ndithandwa ngamantombazana. Ndiyakuthanda ukubajikeleza, way indlela abavumba ngayo, ukuba nje ubambe intombazana ezingalweni zam. Isihogo ndaqala ukubukela iphonografi ukubona amantombazana… ewe ewe ndiyazi ukuba iimvakalelo zam kunye nendlela endiphendula ngayo ekubeni ndingumlingani ayisiyonto ndiyithandayo, into endonwabisa, into endiyidlayo imihla ngemihla.

Uloyiko oluqhelekileyo kunye noxinzelelo lwe-OCD olundenza ndithandabuze ngokwam, kwisangqa esikhohlakeleyo. Ukuba yinto endingeyiyo. Kodwa njengoko benditshilo andikhe ndive ukuba ixeshana kwaye uxinzelelo aluhambisani neengcinga kwakhona.

Ndicinga ukuba konke kuhambelana neendlela zengqondo ezenziwe kwiminyaka yokusetyenziswa koononophelo kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi. 9ish iminyaka kum. Ukusuka kwinto endiyiqondayo, ngalo lonke ixesha ndisiya kwindawo ye-MF ingqondo yam eyenzileyo, emva koko ndomeleza loo ndlela, ndenza izinto kuyo, njengendoda entle, ehamba ze zexesha lesondo kunye nengqondo yakho xelela umahluko. Ubuyisele ingqondo yakho kwinto entsha. Ngamanye amaxesha kwindawo yokuzivocavoca ndiza kubona umntu obonakala emhle okanye onemisipha kwaye iya kutsala umdla wam kwaye ndizive ndinyanzelekile ukuba ndijonge. Ndicinga ukuba ngoku ndiyazi ukuba abafazi baziva njani xa esithi uvukile kodwa hayi ngendlela yesondo, ukuba iyavakala.

Kudala ndikhathazeka kwaye indoyikisa kodwa ngoku andiyivumeli ukuba indikhathaze ixesha elininzi.

Kwenzekile ngelixa ndibukele umdlalo webhasikithi, ndacinga ukuba "lo mdlali ungoyena mntu ujongeka kakuhle" kwaye ngequbuliso kwavela iingcinga ze-HOCD (Ngaba ndingumlingani, i-WTF, isihogo siqhawukile). Andizange ndiyilibale, kwaye ngobo busuku ndaqala ngoyikeka ebomini bam. Ndade ndazivavanya, ndibukele iphonografi kodwa ndanezothe. Kuthathe ixesha (iinyanga ezimbalwa) kuqala ukufunda ngesi sifo kunye nendlela yokubetha. "Ndamkele" iingcinga zesini gay ezibangela ukuba ungabinakho ukukhetha ulwalamano ngokwesondo kunye Ndayeka ukuzingela.

Kungekudala ndadibana kwaye ndathandana nentombazana enye enkulu, yabelana ngesondo okokuqala kwaye emva koko i-HOCD yimbali yakudala kum. Andinguye gay, zange ndibekho, kodwa akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuba sisitabane, akukho mntu unyanzelayo ukuba wenze nantoni na, ukuba ikunika ulonwabo ke yenze, ukuba akunjalo nge-dont obsess! Thina bantu siyakwazi ukubona ubuhle, nokuba sithini isini.

Ndandidla ukuguqulwa yiyiphi into ekude ihamba nayo xa ndingu 13, kodwa oko kwanditshintsha ngokugqithiseleyo njengoko ndandibukela i-pornography ngakumbi. Ndaqala ukuxhalabisa ngesondo sam ngenxa yokuba ndisazi ukuba ndilungile ngokusekelwe kwimbali, kodwa ngelo xesha ndingazange ndiphendule ngokwenyama. Ngamanye amaxesha xa ndandidla ngokukhululeka okanye ndanxila, ndandiphendula ngendlela endiyenza ngayo xa ndisemncinci. Kwakudideka gqitha kuba andizange ndibe neengcinga zobungqingili okanye iiminqweno.

Andizange ndibone oku kwi-porn / ukunciphisa ubuzwe be-dopamine ukuba andizange ndikhubeke kule ndawo, ngoko enkosi! [Ukuqalisa kwakhona] kuphelise nakuphi na ukuthandabuza kuba ngoku i-libido yam iphantse yaninzi kakhulu ukuba ingaphathwa. Kwaye nabafazi bendingajongi kubo, ngokuqinisekileyo bendinokulala nabo. Ukuphendula ngakumbi kwabasetyhini, kwaye uphendule kokuninzi by bafazi.

I-28 yeminyaka ubudala.

Iintsuku ze-90, iintsuku ze-86 akukho-orgasm. Ihlanganiswe kabini, ibukela ngokuphindiweyo iifilesi kabini (engahambelani nokuguqula). Uxhala lwezenhlalakahle, i-HOCD, kunye nokuxinezeleka kakhulu kuncipha. Ukuzithemba, amandla, ubudlelwane obomeleleyo, kunye nokulingana nomntombazana. AMA.

Ibhinqa apha! Inqaku lokuqala… Ukuzama ukumisa le ngxaki ngaphambi kokuba yenzeke.

Ndikhe ndafumana ezinye ii-hookups kulo nyaka, ezingafane ndizigqibe ngezo, kodwa ngoku ndibona umntu rhoqo kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo. Silale ngesondo ubuncinci amaxesha e-15 kwaye akukhange kube kanye ndikwazi ukuba ne-orgasm. Mhle, ulungile, ulungile ebhedini. Sisebenzisa i-lube, nokuba sisebenzise ukonyusa okongeziweyo. Ndinga. Hayi. Gqiba. Andizange ndibe ne-orgasm kwisini ngaphezu konyaka. Bekulusizi. Xa eshiya indlu yam emva kwesondo, ndijonga iphonografi ukuze ndizifezekise. Yimvakalelo elusizi xa unayo loo ngcaciso emva kokuba kwenziwe konke.

I-Porn idale iingcinga ezingqondweni zam eziye zandifaka. Ayikuko ukuba ubufanasini akulunganga, kodwa andingowesini. Andifuni ukuba ndithandane okanye ndithandane nentombazana. Andizange ndivulwe yintombazana kumntu (ngaphandle kokubona ukukhanga, kodwa ndingakhange ndivule ngokomzimba). Kodwa ndiphuma kwi-porno yobungqingili ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na into. Ibuyisele kum ngokupheleleyo. Ngaba akhona amanye amabhinqa anamava oku? Andizange ndibenomdla wokubukela i-MM okanye i-MMF ye-porn, kodwa mva nje ndizibambile ndiguqulwa yiyo. Ukunyuka nje ukuya kwindawo engaqhelekanga, kum, ubuncinci.

Khange ndibenangxaki ne-HOCD ixesha elide, kwaye kusekutsha kakhulu ukuba mandithi "ndiphilisiwe", kodwa ezi ndawo zibonakala ngathi ziyandinceda:

Ndakhe ndakhangela i-HOCD ngaphambili kwaye ndafumana abanye abantu bethumela ngayo, kodwa iiakhawunti zabo zazingabonakali ngathi ziyanceda. Kwakusiqinisekisa ukuba ayindim ndedwa ophethwe yiyo, kodwa ayenzanga ukuba uhlaselo lube nzima.

Nokuba kungasiphi na isizathu, ezi ndawo zimbini zindincedile. Okoko ndizifundileyo, andikhange ndibenazo kwaphela iingcinga ze-HOCD, nangona ndifumana ixhala xa ndicinga kum "Hayi hey, andiphindi ndicinge nge-HOCD." indlela yokubonisa ukuhleka

Indawo yesibini ngokuqinisekileyo icebisa p / m / o ukuyeka ukuziyeka, ke ndiqinisekile ukuba ixesha i-HOCD iya kucoca ngokupheleleyo. Iindlela zokuqonda kunye nokuvezwa ziqhelekile ukuba ziphathwa njani iingxaki ezingafunekiyo. Oku akukho ngaphandle, ngaphandle kokuba ungazivezi kwi-ponografi (duh). Ndicinga ukuba iba buthathaka kwaye ibe buthathaka kude kube kumke ngokupheleleyo.

(Kunyaka kamva, kwelinye ilungu leforum) ndandine-HOCD enzulu. Imkile ngoku, nangona kunjalo. “Abafazi banesini, amadoda wona acacile.” Njengoko utshilo, loo nto, mhlobo wam, yeyona nto iphambili kuyo yonke le nto. Amadoda ngekhe acace ukuba ubuthandana nabantu besini esahlukileyo okanye ubufanasini. Uya kufuna ukubamba nabo esofeni, ucofe imizimba yabo kwaye uhambe nabo ngothando, UKUBA ubuthandana nabantu besini esahlukileyo okanye ubufanasini.

Ngaba ucinga ukuba abantu abanyukela kwisilwanyana bayakhathazeka ukuba bangabathandi beebhokhwe ngasese? Ngaba ucinga ukuba banexhala lokuba ngoku ngenxa yokuba benyukele ekuzimiseleni konke abanokukwenza ngumhla ziibhokhwe okanye into? Ewe abenzi njalo, kwaye le ndlela yokunyuka (ukusuka ekusebenziseni kakubi i-porn) ayifani ngokwahlukileyo.

Ukususela ekuqalekeni kweNoFap ndishiye kwi-bi ukuya kwi-hetero. I-Porn iyakwenza inkqubo yakho ingqondo.

(Ukuchaza ukubuyiswa koMhla we-23) Ndaphinda ndaphupha amaphupha. Abanye babonisa amanyala. Kodwa andide ndivuswe yiyo. Ke ngoku iphonografi ingakhokeleli kwi-hetero yam yokuqhelanisa kwakhona, kufuneka ndiyifumane kubomi bokwenyani. Ndiqinisekile ukuba ndiyazi ukuba yintoni, kodwa ingqondo yam ihlela i-junk ngaphandle.

Ukuba kukho umntu owakha wakhangela igolide (sayenza kwindawo yabakhenkethi-umgodi wegolide embindini welizwe kwihlobo ephelileyo), uyazi ukuba kufuneka ulahle ukungcola okuninzi kunye nengxubevange kunye namatye angeyonyani ukuze ufumane isuntswana zegolide. Yile ndlela ingqondo yam ivakalelwa ngayo ngoku. Ukucoca ngokupheleleyo yonke le nto, kwaye inkqubo inokuba mbi ngamanye amaxesha.

Nantsi into endisebenzeleyo: Ndicinga ezinye iimeko ezingenakwenzeka (ezinjengokubulala umama okanye ukuphuma kuhola wendlela omkhulu) ndaza ndaqonda ukuba * abanako ukuba nemithombo yoxinzelelo olunyanzelekileyo. Ngale ndlela, ndazibonisa ukuba iingcinga malunga ne-HOCD zazingenayo nayo. Yizame. Cinga ngokuzibulala ngokubaleka ubaleke phakathi kuhola wendlela. Thatha umzuzu kwaye ucinge ngeenkcukacha. Ngoku ubunayo loo ngcinga. (Kanye njengokuba unengcinga yesini.) Uya kuhamba ujikeleze luloyiko njengokuba uza kuzibulala ukusukela ngoku? Hayi. Awuyi kuyenza. Ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe uphinde ucinge ngemeko leyo. Nokuba uyayenza, uya kuyihleka. Ingcinga efanayo apha.

Ewe, ukufumana ngaphezulu kwe-HOCD kukufunda ukungakhathali. Nanini na xa iqala ukuvutha, ndiyicinga njengenja encinci ecaphukisayo. Mhlawumbi uthanda i-shih tzu, i-yapping. Ingqalelo oyinika yona, ngakumbi iya kuba yap. Ngokuthe ngcembe, iya kuncipha kwaye inciphe kude kube lula kakhulu ukungahoyi ngokupheleleyo. Okwam kungamaxesha amaninzi phantsi kolawulo ngoku, kodwa i libido angadlala kunye nam. Yeyona combo yokugqibela. Ndicinga ukuba nje ukuba ndibuyise i-libido yam kwaye ndakhe ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye nabasetyhini, oko kuya kuba xa kupheliswa ngokwenene.

[Ubudala 22] Ndifuna nje ukukhankanya indlela yam iifoto zoononophala ezithintele ngayo kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo. Okokuqala kwakunzima. Emva koko, i-porno yobushushu yenzelwe mna, kwaye emva kweminyaka embalwa edlulileyo ndakhubeka kwi-pornography, yaye ngokuhamba kwexesha ndaqonda ukuba ndiphendulwe ngolu hlobo. Kwaye kwanda ngakumbi, ngamanye amaxesha ndiza kuhlambalaza ngokugqithisileyo kwezesitho zobunjenge-gay baba rhoqo. Yandijika kodwa emva kokuba ndiziva ndiphosakele.

Ndiyazi ukuba ndithe tye, xa ndizonwabisa, amadoda ayinto yokugqibela engqondweni yam. Ndiyathandeka kakhulu kumantombazana amnandi, ndiyababona ukusuka kumgama oziikhilomitha, ngoko le mifanekiso engamanyala iye yaguqula ukuthanda kwam kakhulu. Kwaye bendididekile nokuba ndithandana nabantu besini esahlukileyo, kodwa ngoku ndijonga ngasemva kwaye ndiyaqonda ukuba andingobabini, kukuba ingqondo yam iphinde yaxhonywa yimifanekiso engamanyala. Ke kwangoko kulo nyaka ndandine-erectile dysfunction. Intombazana leyo yayinomtsalane ngokumangalisayo kwaye yayigcwele kuyo. Nangona kunjalo khange isebenze! Kwaye ke kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo yenzekile kwakhona, ngaphandle kwale ntombazana ibinomtsalane ngakumbi.

Ngoko ndaqonda ukuba into ethile imele iphosakele.

[Inyanga yokuqalisa kwakhona] Ndandinamava amnandi phezolo, bendisemthendelekweni kwaye ndenziwe nentombazana ekugqibeleni (wayengekho mhle) kwaye ndandinolwakhiwo olukhulu ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye ke ndandifana, "Oo thixo wam," kwaye ndaziva ndoyikeka.

Ndisebenza njengomphuhlisi wesoftware, ndichitha iiyure ezininzi phambi kwekhompyuter yam. Kungenxa yoko le nto kulula kum ukuba ndiphulula amaphambili kwimifanekiso engamanyala ... I-Facebook, Iindaba ze-BBC, ii-imeyile zizinto zonke ezidla ixesha lam. Ndifuna nje ukudibana namantombazana!

Kutheni ndichithe iminyaka yokugqibela ye-4 yobomi bam ngokuphulula amalungu esini kunye nokuchitha ixesha lam phambi kwekhompyuter? Ngoku ndiza kugxila ekudibaneni namantombazana amnandi, ndidlala umdlalo endiwuthandayo kwaye ndigcina ndisempilweni.

I-HOCD yi-BITCH. Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba indlela oziva ngayo inxulumene noxinzelelo kwaye ayisiyiyo eyokwabelana ngesondo. Kuye kwafuneka ndijongane nelo shit ngexesha le-flatline kwaye ndiyazi ukuba andinguye gay. Eyona nto iphambili yile, ukuba iimvakalelo ze-HOCD ziyenyanyeka kuwe kwaye zikwenza uzive uxhalabile… zixoka kwaye uthe tye.

Ukukhathazeka kunye nokukhathazeka kunokubangela ukuba ingqondo idlale kuwe. Kwandithatha ixesha lokuba ndiqonde ukuba xa ndifumene i-HOCD, iimvakalelo zaveliswa ngoloyiko, kungekhona ukuza kubakho komnye umntu.

Kufuneka utyeshele. Kuxhomekeke kwixhala.

Njengoko usiya ungcono ngokungahoyi kwaye uqhubeke neshishini lakho, uya kufumanisa ukuba uya KULibala ngayo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba yi-OCD-kufana nokuba umi emaphethelweni eqhwa kunye nengqondo yakho ithi tsiba.

Uyazi ukuba awufuni kodwa ngekhe uyeke ukucinga ngako. Zithembe kwaye unyamezele. Wena kunye nam sobabini siyazi ukuba awufuni ukuba neentlobano zesini ngaphandle kokuba ufuna ukutsiba eweni!

Ngethamsanqa andizange ndiphambukele kwi-gay okanye kwi-tranny porn okanye andazi ukuba ndiza kuba phi ngokwasemphefumlweni ngoku. Kwakufana ne-OCD xa abanye beza kuvela kumabonwakude, kwaye ingqondo yam yayiya kuthi, "Ewe kuba awukwazi ukuyifumana kumantombazana, khangela oko." Ewe andizange ndivuswe ngumzimba wesilisa kodwa ukuxhalaba okuvelisayo kwenza ukuba kube ngumlutha wokucinga entlokweni yam ngaloo ndlela kukhokelela ekuhlaleni kwe-HOCD, eyayibangela ukuba i-porn-eyenza ukungakwazi ukwenza i-fueled ngokukhawuleza. Lixesha elibi kum, kodwa ndiyifumene le ndawo, ndayeka ukwamkela ezo ngcinga, ndayeka ukubukela iphonografi, kunye ne-poof zanyamalala ngokoqobo.

Ndandisoloko ndicinga ukuba ndiyintombazana, kodwa ngakumbi xa ndibukele ndandidla kuzo zonke iintlobo zoononophala, kubandakanywa noonobumba bobulili obufanayo. Ke kuya kufuneka ucoceke okwethutyana ukuze ufumane umbono ocacileyo wokuba "uyintoni". Permalink

Musa ukondla i-OCD yakho. Ukuba uzama UKUQINISEKA ngenyaniso ngohlalutyo okanye uluvo lwabanye abantu, udlala umdlalo we-OCD. Uyile nto uyithethayo wena, period. Ukuba kukho into ekucaphukisayo, akunamsebenzi nokuba ibangela ukuvuswa okanye akunjalo, ayisiyiyo eyona nto uyithandayo. Ndithi ulibale malunga nokubuza kwaye uyisuse ingqondo yakho kuko.

Ukuba unomdla omnandi wesini kunye ne-HOCD iphakamisa intloko yayo embi, ndithi ngalo mzuzu uyeke ukucamngca kunye kunye nokukubeka kude kube yinto emnandi ngakumbi esempilweni. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba ulwe ne-OCD ukuze uphumelele, konke okufuneka ukwenze kukwazi ukuba lixoki.

Xa ndiqala ukukhathazeka nge-HOCD, kwakubonakala ngathi ukukhathazeka okukhulu kwakucinga ukuba ndiphendukile ngesondo, xa ndingazange ndivuke ngokwenyama, ngokwenene. Ndenze kakuhle ukungazihoxisi zam iingcamango ukujonga kunye nokutshekisha kabini, okokuqala ekubangela ukuxhalaba ngakumbi, kodwa ngoku ndiqala ukukhathazeka ngephantsi kweentsuku nganye.

Ngaphezulu kweminyaka eyi-6 ndahamba nzima ndaza ndangena nzulu kwiindidi ezahlukeneyo zoononophala, ndaye ndagqibela ngathi ndiyaphambana nokuziphatha gwenxa kwe-shemale… Ukuya kwinqanaba lokuba ndibathande (ngakumbi i-shemales zaseAsia) kwaye ndade ndacinga ngokuya eThailand okanye eJapan. Ukudibana nje nol. Zange khe kubekho unxibelelwano lwasentlalweni n shemales nangona… Kodwa umnqweno wam kubo wanyuka ngokukhawuleza… Kwaye ndaziva ndithandana nabantu abancinci ubuncinci. Ngapha koko… Emva kweenyanga ezi-3 okanye ezi-4 ze-nofap ndiye ndalibala malunga ne-shemales kunye nayiphi na enye indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesini. Kwaye ngoku… Emva kweenyanga ezisi-8 ezingamanyala .. Andicingi nokucinga nge shemales .. Heck ndicinga ukuba ingqondo yam yaphinda yazibuyisela kwinqanaba lokuthanda amantombazana kuphela malunga neminyaka yam (25 ukuya ku-30).

Ingcebiso yam kwabanye abantu phaya: Nokuba izinto zibaxekileyo kwaye nengqondo yakho ikuqinisekisa ukuba ukuguquka kwakho, kukuphosakele. Bendinamaxesha apho ndingakholwanga yile ndlela yokuqalisa kwakhona kwaye besele ndinengcinga zokuzibulala, kodwa iyasebenza, ngokunyaniseka. Ukuba uyinika ixesha, hayi iiyure okanye iintsuku ezimbalwa, ngaphezulu kwexesha elide uza kuba ngcono, ngokuya uhamba ixesha elide uya kuzibona ubuyela kwinto yakho endala. Uya kuba ngcono, yinto nje yexesha. Nokuba ubuyela umva kwaye ungena kuxinzelelo, kuya kufuneka ufumane amandla angaphakathi okukuhambisa ebumnyameni kwaye akukhumbuze ukuba konke kungumbandela wokubuyela endleleni.

Ndicetyiswa kakhulu ukucamngca ngabantu ababuyiselwa phambili kunye ne-HOCD. Yiya kwiziko lokucamngca lendawo uze wenze ngokuhlwa okanye ukubuyela. Kunempilo ukujonga iingcamango zakho ngaphandle kokuphendula kubo.

Ndibe ne-ED emva kokuba ndibukele i-porn, ndandibukela i-gay ne-tranny yoononopopayi Kodwa ngoku andinayo ingxaki kwi-ED kwaye ndinalo ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nentombi yam. http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=5914.msg91811#msg91811

Imifanekiso engamanyala rhoqo ayizange iphinde iyenze. Ndijonge kuzo zonke iintlobo zamabhinqa ahlukeneyo, izikhundla ezahlukileyo, imingxunya eyahlukeneyo, khange isanele kwakhona. Umntu othile wandinyanzela ngokuthumela ividiyo ye-shemale ye-shemale, kwaye iyenzile loo nto. Umfazi owayengenguye mfazi ngenene, umbono wandiguqula. Lo mntwana unamathele kum iminyaka emininzi (mhlawumbi emihlanu okanye emithandathu). Khange ihambe inde kuba bendonwabile ukuzingela ii-shemales ezibonakala zifana ncam namantombazana, kunye okanye ngaphandle kwamalungu esini obudoda. Ndiyazi ukuba kwakubuhlungu ngokwesini sam, kodwa ndaqhubeka nje. Ndacinga ukuba ngaba ndingumlingani, kodwa andizange ndizive ndithandwa ngabantu njengokuba ndenza kubafazi. Abasetyhini yinto enhle kakhulu emhlabeni kwaye ndilahlekile.

Emva kweenyanga ezintathu ze-nofap, ukuba intombazana kakhulu ijonge kwicala lam ngokubanzi iyajika. Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, baziva njengamazibuthe kum. Nditsaleleke kakhulu kubafazi kwaye ndifuna ukunxibelelana ndibathinte. Xa ndibona abafazi ngaphambi kwe-nofap, ndiza kuhamba ndicinga, "Andikhathali ngawe, uhambe". Namhlanje kuchasene ngokupheleleyo, nditsalelekile kubafazi abaninzi ngendlela yakudala. Ndiyayithanda ngokupheleleyo. I-porn ayisekho kum.

hocd: umbulali omkhulu we libido.

Ekugqibeleni ndiyifumene unobangela wokungabikho kwam libido. Impembelelo enkulu yokuba ne-porn kuye kwaba kukufa komnqweno wesini. Into engaqhelekanga kukuba ndilahlekile i-libido kule minyaka ilishumi idlulileyo, ukusukela kwiminyaka ye-13. Ndandinomlutha we-porn kwiinyanga ezi-3 kuphela, ndade ndayeka ukubandayo. Kutheni le nto i-libido yam ibingekho kwiminyaka elishumi emva kokuyeka iphonografi? Ithiyori yam yayikukuphulula amalungu esini. Ndacinga ukuba irejimeni yokuphulula amalungu esini iye yathintela ingqondo yam ekubeni ifumane yonke into eyifunayo, yiyo loo nto ingqondo yam ikwimeko egqithisileyo. Kodwa kutshanje ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba ukungabikho kwam umnqweno wesini kubangelwa yingxaki enzulu.

Umbulali wokwenyani, othuleyo we-libido yam luxinzelelo oluvela kwi-hocd. Ukuthambekela ngokwesondo okuvela kwi-hocd kuvelisa uxinzelelo, kwaye lulo uxinzelelo olucinezela i-libido. Isizathu soku silula. Umnqweno wesini kunye nokuvuka kunxulunyaniswa nokuzonwabisa. Ukuxhalaba kuchasene ngokuchasene nomnqweno wesini. ILibido ichaphazeleka kwinkqubo yovelwano yemfesane. Xa unxunguphalo lusengqondweni nasemzimbeni wakho, luhlasela inkqubo yakho ye-symathetic system, ngaloo ndlela luphazamise luze lubethe i-libido.

Ukuqala kwam ukufunda oku kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, kwakungathi iiglowubhu zihambile entlokweni yam. Kwakungowona mzuzu wokugqibela "AHA". Iminyaka yokuthanda inkanuko yesini engakhange ibonakalise imeko yam yokwenyani yesini ivelise umbono wobuxoki wokuvuka. Imvuselelo engeyonyani yayiyiyo "ukothuka" okunamava okulutha xa ukusetyenziswa kwethu kunyuka kuya kuhlobo lwenoveli olungachaphazeli imikhwa yethu. Kodwa oku "kothuka" kuvelise ixhala, uninzi lwazo ndingakhange ndilwazi ngokuzithemba. Nangona ndingazange ndiyiqonde ngelo xesha, le yayiyeyona nto ibangelwe kukungabikho kwe-libido.

Ukusukela oko ndenze le nto, kunditshintshe kakhulu. Ukungazi ngokuqinisekileyo okwenzekileyo kum kuye kwaba ngowona mthombo mkhulu wokuzibamba kunye noxinzelelo. Kodwa ngoku ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba kutheni ndichaphazeleke ngendlela endinayo. Kwaye ngoku ndifumene isiqwenga esilahlekileyo sephazili, ndiziva ndinoxolo kwaye ndizithembile. Ukudakumba kwam kuhambile, ndonwabile, ndonwabile kwaye ndizolile ngoku kunakuqala.

Yade yenza umahluko emzimbeni wam. Ndiziva ndonwabile entanyeni yam esezantsi / kwindawo ephezulu yangasemva. Ndicinga ukuba ngumqolo ongasentla. Lo mmandla uziva ngathi umthwalo ususwe, kwaye unovakalelo olungephi… ingathi yimvakalelo onayo emva kokuphuma kwishawari eshushu. Andazi ukuba le yinto yam yokucinga, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ndiziva ngumahluko.

Ndidinga ukuba ndilumke ndingabhidanisi oku kunye nemvakalelo yokufumana amava okulutha emva kokwenza isigqibo sokutshintsha ubomi. Kodwa sele ziintsuku eziliqela ngoku, kwaye ndihlala ndonwabile ukuzola kwangaphakathi okungazange ndibenakho ukususela ebuntwaneni. Konke oku kungenxa yokufumanisa ukuba yintoni engalunganga ngaphakathi kum. Ndiyisusile i-mistique kwaye andaziwa ngemeko yam. Ngenxa yoko indinike ithemba. Ikwenzile ukuba ndibonise indlela endiphila ngayo ngokwasemphefumlweni iminyaka emininzi ngoku.

Ukuba unayo i-hocd, okanye naluphi na uhlobo lobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo okanye unxunguphalo, oku kufuneka kube yeyona nto kugxilwe kuyo. Ukuba unokufumana indlela yokujongana noxinzelelo lwakho, kuya kufuneka wenze njalo ukuze uphinde ubuye. Ukuyeka ukuxhalaba kubalulekile njengokuyeka i-PMO.

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Ukucaphula ukusuka: wilder ngoMeyi 31, 2014, 03: 51: 04 AM

Amathuba okuba uxhalabile kuba wena, njengabanye abaninzi, ukhulele kwikhaya apho ukutsala abantu ababhinqileyo yeyona nto ilungileyo. ”

Andazi nokuba yingxaki leyo, nangona ndicinga ukuba inokongeza kuxinzelelo. Indawo endikuyo kunye nabazali bam khange bayenze ingxaki malunga nokuba li-gay, kwaye nam khange ndibekho. Ndihlala ndisazi ukuba andinguye.

Kuze kufike i-PMO'ing rhoqo kum kwaye ndaqala ukungathandabuzeki: HOCD. Ngaphandle koloyiko lokusingqongileyo okukugwebayo .. kuyothusa ngokwenene ukuziva ngathi abanye awuzange ubathandabuze ebomini bakho baguquke nje.

I-PMO yam ibangele i-OCD ayizibopheleli kwisini sam. Ithiyori yam kukuba olu xinzelelo lubangelwa yi-OCD * lubambelela kuyo yonke into oyenzayo ukuchonga nge. Umzekelo, ndinesazisi esomeleleyo somntu kunye nomsebenzi wam. Ndizibona njengomntu osebenza nzima. I-OCD yandenza ndathandabuza ukuba ndandiwuthanda umsebenzi wam kwakhona, ngendlela efanayo eyandenza ndathandabuza ukuba ndingabafazi. Ndichonga njengomntu othembekileyo kwaye onqwenela ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo. Kodwa i-OCD yam yabangela ukuba ndikholelwe ukuba andiyithandi intombi yam ngelo xesha .. nangona kwakungekho sizathu sokukholelwa njalo. Ngoku unokuthi: Usenokuba uphelelwe luthando. Ndiyazi ukuba uziva njani, nangona kunjalo. Kwaye oku kwakungaziva ngathi. (Ndingaqhubeka nokuchongwa okunamandla ngakumbi endinako, apho i-OCD izame ukugoba nayo)

Ukuba bendikholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ndingumlingani, ngekhe ndibenangxaki yokuxelela abazali bam kwaye ndifunxe yonke inkuku emhlabeni. Ukuba ndiyakholelwa ngokwenyani umgca wam womsebenzi yayingenguye umsebenzi endandikuwo .. ndingayeka. Kodwa ndandisazi ukuba andiziva ngaloo ndlela. Into eyayizama ukuyifaka ngentloko yam, ngokuhlaselwa iziqulatho endazixabisa kakhulu. (Ngoku kukho into enokuthethwa ngam malunga nokuchongwa okunamandla kwindima kunye nezinto eziphathekayo, kodwa yingxoxo eyahluke kwaphela)

Xa i-OCD ibuyisa ubuso bakhe obubi, yenza ntoni ukuba kukungabaza ngalezo zihlomelo okanye ezo zinto udla ngokuzithandela (njengobunqunu bakho). Impendulo yemvelo kukuvavanya oku. Uninzi lwabantu luyayenza, nam ngokunjalo. Siqala ukuhlala sicinga malunga nokuba sonwabela umsebenzi wethu, okanye siyayithanda ngokwenene intombi yethu, okanye sinomdla kwabafazi. Nje ukuba siqale ukuzama 'ukuphikisana' kwaye siqiniseke ukuba iingcinga zangaphakathi ze-OCD zisiphosa: I-OCD iqala ukuphikisana.

Ngexesha elizayo xa ubona intombazana, uxhalabile kangangokuba ngekhe ucinga nokutsalwa. Awuva nto, ke uqala ukuphinda uthandabuze .. "Hayi mfo, khange ndive nokuba * zing * xa ndabona la ntombazana intle .. NGABA ndilifanasini?". Emva kokuba umfana ehamba kwaye ucinga ukuba uyathandeka .. uxinzelelo lwakho luye lwavela kwakhona: "Shit, laa mfo wayeshushu .. Ndiyayiva emzimbeni wam."

Ingxaki kukuba uhlala uqala ukujonga amantombazana ukukuqinisekisa ukuba usengu hetero, kwaye uqalise ukujonga abafana ukuze uziqinisekise ukuba awufanasini. Wonke umntu wasetyhini ongakufumani ekukhathazayo, kwaye yonke into oyindoda ocinga ukuba mhle (engelulo uphawu lokuba li-gay) iyakukhathaza ngokufanayo. Ngokulinganayo kubi: Ngalo lonke ixesha ubona intombazana ekutsalayo, endaweni yokucinga nje "Hayi, loo ntombazana ikhangeleka intle". Ucinga: "Yesu .. mhlawumbi andinguye gay!". Ngalo lonke ixesha ubona umntu ombi ucinga ukuba "ngoku anditsaleki kulomfo! Ndingayimunca incanca yakhe? Hayi, hayi. ”

NGOKUQINISEKILE ujonge isiqinisekiso sokuba awuyongqingili kwaye usatsala umdla kubafazi. Ngokucacileyo ngekhe uphumle kwaye utsaleleke kubafazi. Ubanjwe kukudakumba kweengcinga ezimbi. Ithatha usuku lwakho lonke. Khawufane ucinge uhamba-hamba ujikeleza emsebenzini wakho imini yonke ucinga “Ngaba ndiyawonwabela lo msebenzi? Ngaba ndiyawonwabela lo msebenzi? ”. Amathuba kukuba: ngekhe uwonwabele umsebenzi wakho.

Le ingcinga yam malunga ne-HOCD kunye ne-PMO ehlobene ne-OCD, ndiyathemba ukuba bayanceda. Bandiqinisekisa xa ndingathandabuzekiyo. Nangona kunjalo kunzima kunamanye amaxesha. (Kuphela xa ndibuya kwakhona, btw.)

OP. Yeka ukukhangela kwi-craigslist, uyeka ukujonga i-OKCupid, uyeka ukukhangela kwiindawo zokuthandana, iintengiso kwiintlanganiso zokuthandana kwe-gay, iintengiso kwanoma yini. Uhlala uvavanya ukuvusa kwakho, ukubona ukuba i-gay kunye ne-trannies zisakuvusa. Ngaba ucinga ukuba oku kungcono kunokuba ujonge i-porn? Ukuvuswa kusekhona. I-dopamine isesekho. Ukuvuselela, ukuvuyisa .. kusekhona!

Ndiyakucetyisa ukuba ulande inkqubo yoColdTurkey uze ufake kwi-craiglist uluhlu kunye nayiphi na indawo eyenza ungathandabuzi ngesondo sakho. YONKE I-SITE FUCKING SITE EYENZA UKUBA UKUBA UKUBA UKUBA UKUBA UKUQHUBA.
Ngoku. Phuma. Thatha uhambo, fumana umoya omtsha. Hlangana nabafana. (Akunjalo ngaloo ndlela.) Hamba uphuze (uphuze utywala, unzulu).

Zama ukubona ukuba ukuhlala kude nazo zonke iiwebhusayithi kukunceda nakanjani. Khumbula: Ukuvavanywa ukuba ukhangeleka kubasetyhini ngokujonga iintengiso ze-tranny kubaluleke kakhulu. Nika ingqondo yakho ubuncinane kwi-30 kwiintsuku ze-60 ukuphumla kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba uya kubona ummahluko.

Awufanasini. Awuyithandi i-trannies.

* Ndisebenzisa i-OCD ngokungabikho kwegama elingcono apha. Andikholelwa ukuba ndine-OCD epheleleyo. Inye kuphela enxulumene ne-PMO.

I-hocd paranoia yam ihambile. Ndabona iveki kwi-nofap ukuba iingcamango zam ze-hocd zazilahleka. Eso yayisesona sizathu sikhulu sokuba ndingayeki i-nofap ukusukela ngoko. Ngoku ndiziintsuku ezingama-6 ukusuka kwiintsuku ezingama-90, kwaye ngekhe ndiyeke naxa ndibetha olo phawu. Ndiza kuqhubeka. Ngoba? Kungenxa yokuba iyabutshintsha ubomi bam. Indlela endijonga ngayo: Ngoku ukuba ndinokulawula ngakumbi ubulili bam, ndiya kunqoba amancinci amancinci. Ekupheleni kosuku, sonke siyagoduka. Ngethamsanqa indoda kwaye uyazi nje i-hocd iya kuphelelwa. I-Nofap yenye into. Bubomi obutshintsha ngokuqinisekileyo. http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2uw8q3/do_you_have_any_questions_…