Imiba yoqeqesho lobuchopho-ikakhulukazi ngexesha lokukhula
(Qaphela: Jonga izimvo ezininzi ezingezantsi kweli nqaku)
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bafune ukufunda konke malunga nokwabelana ngesondo, ngakumbi ngexesha lokufikisa kunye nokufikisa. Kulapho ukuzala kwakhona kuyeyona nto iphambili engqondweni. Ngale nto sinokubulela ngokuthe ngqo ukukhula kwengqondo yolutsha.
Cinga nge-primate ye-jungle ye-primate ibukele elinye iqela elinomdla kangangokuba yena (okanye, kwezinye iintlobo) ashiye amaqabane akhe, kwaye anyamezele isilingi kunye neentolo zokungabinamanyano ezantsi kolunye umkhosi-konke ithuba ukuyifumana kunye nokutshisa okungaqhelekanga kwikamva. Izinto izinto zethu zegesi ezenzayo ukuqinisekisa ukuhlukahluka kofuzo!
Ngoku, ngokukhawuleza ukuya kumfana omncinane ekufumaneni ingcamango engqondweni ye-intanethi ye-intanethi:
Ndaqala ukujonga iphonografi kwi-Intanethi xa ndandineminyaka eli-11. Ndakhawuleza ndaba ngumsi, kwaye ndachitha iiyure mihla le ndibukela iphonografi. Ukubona nje amabele amabini abonakalayo kwakwanele ukuba kundikhuphe. Kodwa ke, ngokukhawuleza ukuzilahlela kukhatyelwe, kwaye ndiye ndaqala ukukhulisa amayeza afanayo ukufumana into efanayo nakumanyala. Yaqala ngaphandle ngokobuhlanga obahlukileyo, emva koko kwaba sembian, emva koko iipports zamanzi, emva koko kwasasazeka / beastiality / BDSM / tranny. Kwaye ke naluphi na udibaniso olungasentla lokudala ukugula okungamanyala okwenzeka ngoku. Ndikhumbula ndihleli esikolweni ndicinga ngemifanekiso engamanyala egula endinokuyikhangela ngobo busuku.
Yintoni le malunga nengqondo yokufikisa eyenza ukuba amava alo mfo angaqhelekanga? Impendulo: Ngexesha lokufikisa kukhula ukungalingani kwemithambo-luvo okwethutyana. "Isondo, iziyobisi kunye nerock & roll" yinxalenye yengqondo ikwi-overdrive. Inxalenye ethi "masicinge ngale nto" isaqhubeka nokwakhiwa, kwaye ayizukufikelela ebudaleni kude kube mdala.
Le ndlela yokuphambanisa kunye nokuziphatha okuyingozi iphinda ilungelelanise ezinye iingqondo zokufikisa. Yindlela yendaleko yokuqhuba inkululeko yokuzimela uninzi lwezilwanyana ezincancisayo eziyidingayo njengoko zifuna amaqabane kwaye zenze imimandla. Kuhlalutyo lweendleko zenzuzo yengqondo, isikali sitsala kakhulu kwicala imivuzo enokwenzeka.
Kukho umkhabi nangona. Umthamo wolutsha lwethu ukufakela iintambo zombutho omtsha wesini amakhowa ajikeleze i-11 okanye i-12. Nangona kunjalo, ebudaleni ingqondo yakhe kufuneka ithene iisekethe ze-neural ukuze imshiye kunye nolungelelwaniso olulawulwayo lokukhetha. Ngemashumi amabini, usenokungabi njalo banjwe kunye nezenzo zesondo ezithathayo ngexesha lokukhula, kodwa zinokuba njengeengcambu ezinzulu kwingqondo-kungekho lula ukungazihoxisi okanye ukuzilungisa kwakhona.
Imiba yokuchasana ngokwesondo ngakumbi ngexesha lokufikisa kunalo naliphi na elinye ixesha ebomini. Ngoku, yongeza kule nyaniso itshisayo ulwelo olukhanyayo lwala maxesha langaphandle eludongeni olukhoyo kwimpompo yomnwe. Ngaba kuyamangalisa ukuba olunye ulutsha lucime isigxina ngokusisigxina kwi-cyber engaqhelekanga endaweni yamaqabane anokubakho? Okanye ucofe ukuphendula kwabo ngokwesondo kwizinto ezingahambelaniyo nokuzibandakanya kwabo ngokwesondo? Okanye ulawule ukungafuneki kwengqondo yabo-kwaye ungene umlutha wezobisi?
Ngesiqhelo, ngaba ungumfana okhumbula ixesha lakho lokufikisa-kwaye awunakuze ufumane incopho eyaneleyo ngaloo minyaka? Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba i-intanethi ye-intanethi yayiya kuba yinto enhle kakhulu. Ukuba kunjalo, funda la manqaku mabini: I-Porn, Intsingiselo kunye ne-Coolidge Impumelelo kwaye I-Porn Now And Now: Siyakwamukela kwiBrain Training. Imifanekiso engamanyala, umxholo wayo, indlela ehanjiswa ngayo, kunye neziphumo ezinokubakho kwingqondo ziguqukile. Abasebenzisi banamhlanje, i-orgasm ngakumbi inokukhokelela nelisa.
Ubungqina bentsha buhluke kubungqina abadala
Xa sagqiba uphando lobuchopho kulutsha, sasimangalisa indlela ubuchopho bentombazana obuthathaka ngayo. Utshintsho olukhulu kwiimeko zesondo lubabethe nzima. Nazi iindlela ezine ezibuthathaka eziyingqayizivele kubungqina beselula:
1. Yomelele ngakumbi "Yiyokuthatha!" imiqondiso
Isekethe yomvuzo sisiseko sayo yonke idrive (kubandakanya i-libido), iimvakalelo, ukuthanda, ukungathandi, ukukhuthaza… kunye neziyobisi. Ngexesha lokufikisa, iihormones zesondo ziqhubela phambili ezijikelezo zamandulo kwiwindow ye-hyperactivity, exhasa iminyaka engamashumi amabini. Njengentatheli UDavid Dobbs uyachaza.
Sonke siyazithanda izinto ezintsha nezinomdla, kodwa asikaze sizixabise ngaphezu kokuba sizenza ngexesha lokufikisa. Apha sibetha phezulu kwinto inzululwazi yokuziphatha ekuthiwa kukufuna imvakalelo: ukuzingelwa kwe-neural buzz, i-jolt yezinto ezingaqhelekanga okanye ezingalindelekanga. … Olu thando lweencopho zemincili zineminyaka eli-15 ubudala.
Ubuntununtunu bengqondo kwi-dopamine, "Uyifumene!" i-neurochemical crests, ethi ikhuthaze ukufuna izinto ezintsha, igqithe ngaphezulu kolawulo oluphezulu, kwaye incede ukudibanisa ukufunda kunye nemikhwa.
Enyanisweni, ubuchopho bentsholongwane buyaphendula nantoni na ebonwayo kabini kwi ezine ukusebenza komsebenzi wesiphaluka kubantu abadala ngokubulela kwi-dopamine yabo yokwenza uvakalelo iipikki ezinkulu ze-dopamine. Zomibini ezitshintshileyo kunye nokufuna / ukufuna i-spop dopamine in zonke Ubuchopho bomntu, kodwa amathuba e-cyber erotica angapheliyo abonisa ukuba ngumtsalane ongenakunqandeka kulutsha oluninzi.
Ngethuba lokuqala ndakhangela loo mizobo eshushu ifana neyobonakala ngathi ayikho kweli hlabathi, lingenakwenzeka. Ngokukhawuleza ndazi ukuba kukho into ekufanele iphile ngayo, yonke into yayiyinto engathandekiyo, ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ndabalekela kwesi sidakamizwa: Kwakungekho qhe lekile ukubukela i-porno iiyure ngosuku.
“Ayinakuchazwa?” Ewe. Abaselula banamathuba amaninzi okubhalisa ukuvuswa kwezesondo, kunye nezinye iindawo eziphakamileyo, njengoko amava, amava okukhunjulwayo. Oko Kungenxa yoko le nto usenokukhumbula iinkcukacha ezimenyezelayo zelo ziko liphambili. Kodwa kukho ubungqina obuninzi bokuba ne-hypersensitivity to thrills. (Cofa kwitshathi ukuze wandise.)
Yeha, imvakalelo yabo ephakame yokufumana umvuzo ngokuzenzekelayo inika ulutsha ukuba luchaphazeleke ngakumbi ukuba likhoboka kunokuba behlelwa zizinto ezifanayo kamva ebomini.
2. Ukunciphisa ububele ekunciphiseni
Emva kokuchitha ubusuku bangoLwesihlanu sidlala "World of Warcraft" kude kube yi-4AM, ngelixa sihlamba izilayi ezisibhozo zepitsa kunye nengxowa yeDorritos enepakethi ezintandathu zeNtaba yoMbethe, iqhawe lethu likulungele ukuyenza yonke loo nto kwakhona ngoMgqibelo ebusuku. Uphando lubonisa ukuba ulutsha kuncinci iimpawu zokugqithisa. I-Aversion ngumsebenzi wendlela yokufumana umvuzo, kwaye intsha ingakwazi ukuphatha umthamo ongaphezulu phambi kokuba iireksi zazo zigqithise
Makhe uzibuze ukuba kutheni Abancinci + abaselula (isondo)2 = Ibhokisi yeHhovisi-yeHhovisi yoHlelo Konke kuya kwezinto ezimangalisayo kwengqondo. Akumangalisi ukuba imifanekiso engamanyala abantu abadala eyothusayo, "eeeew," okanye enogonyamelo, ibhalise njengolutsha olungaqhelekanga. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ulutsha alunako ukuthatha ezinye iimvakalelo zabantu ingqalelo (nokuba ngabadlali ababi).
Xa ndandingu-14/15 ndadibana ne-[transexual] yamanyala ngelixa ndisebenzisa i-Intanethi. Ndisayikhumbula imeko yemifanekiso yentengiso. Into ethile yavele yangena kwingqondo yam ye-pubescent. Zonke iifoto ezingamanyala ezithandanayo endandizibukele kangangeminyaka eliqela zazibonakala ziqhelekileyo. Intliziyo yam yaqala ukugijima. Intloko yam yayihlaba, kunye noloyiko lokubanjwa… hayi ukubukela iphonografi, kodwa ukubukela oko abanye banokukujonga njenge-100% ye-porn ethe ngqo… yenze ukuba ibe kukukhunjulwa ngakumbi. Namhlanje ndikhumbula ndilila emveni kokuba ndigqibile. Andizange ndiyazi into eza kum. Ndandisoyika kakhulu ndifuna ukugoba ibhola egumbini lam lokulala. Kodwa andiyekanga ukuyibukela. Ndisakhange ndithandwe ngamantombazana, kodwa ngoonobumba [abathandanayo ngokwesini], bendinako ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza.
3. Ebuthathaka “Yima!” imiqondiso
Ihormone zesondo eziqala ulutsha kulutsha ukuba lonwabe ngelishwa alwenzi nto ukukhawulezisa ukukhula kweziko labo lokuzilawula. Ingqondo yolutsha ifana nemoto entsha enenjini yeFerrari kunye neziqhoboshi zeFord Pinto.
Ngexesha lokufikisa, "isantya" esisebenza kakhulu siza kwi-Intanethi: indlela yokusebenza kwengqondo yokukhuthaza iimvakalelo, okanye umvuzo wesekethe, ebekwe ngaphantsi kwecortex yokuqiqa. It yoyisa “iibhuleki, ”Yingqondo“ ye-CEO ”okanye i-cortex yangaphambili ebunzi, engayi kuvuthwa ngokupheleleyo elishumi. Olu lokugqibela luvavanya umngcipheko, lucinga kwangaphambili, lukhetha izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka, luhlanganyele ingqalelo kunye nokulawula iimpembelelo.
Okwangoku, intsha ihlala isekelwe ukukhetha kwabo iimvakalelo zomzwelo ngokuchasene nokuqiqa okanye ukucwangcisa. Emva kwexesha, njengoko ikortex yokuqala ikhula, kuyakubakho ezimbalwa "Andikholelwa ukuba wayenza loo nto" amaxesha. Ulutsha lwenza izigwebo ezivakalayo kwaye zilungelelanise imood, zicwangcise kwaye zikhumbule ngokufanelekileyo.
Okwangoku, abakwishumi elivisayo banengxaki yokuqonda imiphumo "yokuyifumana." Kwakhona, oku akuyiyo ingozi. Ukutyekela Ngexesha lokufikisa khonza iintlobo ekufuneka zithathe umngcipheko emva koko zizenzele okanye zifumane amaqabane. Kwimeko yabantu abakwishumi elivisayo, uguquko alunalo ixesha lokuziqhelanisa neengozi zeziyobisi zokuzonwabisa, iimoto ezikhawulezayo, okanye ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kokutya okungenampilo, imidlalo ye-Intanethi okanye iphonografi ye-Intanethi. Kungenxa yoko le nto sineeMbasa zikaDarwin.
4. Ukuqhekeza ngokukhawuleza ukususela ebusheni
Ngokufanelekileyo, phakathi kwexesha le-10 kunye ne-13, a ixesha eliphambili lokuphuhliswa, thina bantu sibonakaliswe kwisimo esifanelekileyo sokuziphatha ngokwesondo. Sifunda indlela yokudlala kunye nokudibanisa kunye nabalingani abangakwaziyo. Oku kubaluleke kuba ebusheni bethu ubuchopho bethu bodwa benza ukuba imisebenzi yethu eqhelekileyo kunye neendlela zokucinga ziphumelele. Ukufezekisa oku, ubuchopho bethu buya kuphelisa ukunxibelelana kwe-neural engasetshenziswanga, ngelixa beqinisa abanye.
Akumangalisi ke ngoko ukuba ukuba neemvakalelo kutshintsho! Ngokudibeneyo, zofuzo kunye nokusingqongileyo kukrola udongwe lwecortex yolutsha. Njengokusetyenziswa-okanye-okanye-ukulahleka-oko kuyaqhubeka, ingqondo iphinda izihlelele kwaye izenze kakuhle:
I-cortex iziqhumane zijikeleze iisekethe ezincinci ezisetyenziswayo, ngelixa ziqinisa iindlela eziqhelekileyo. Iimpawu zeeselonda zamagxobhozo ezindleleni ezithandwayo ziba negazi elingcono kunye ne-myelin, ukwandisa ijubane leempembelelo zentsholongwane. Amasebe amancinci athola imiyalezo (ebizwa ngokuthi i-dendrites) ikhula njengemivini ukuphucula kakuhle uphawu olungenayo. Ukudibanisa phakathi kwama-axon kunye ne-dendrite (i-synapses) yanda kwiisekethe ezinamandla kwaye iphela kwizinto ezibuthathaka. Ekugqibeleni unemikhumbuzo, izakhono, imikhwa, ukhetho kunye neendlela zokujamelana nazo ezima ukuvavanywa kwexesha. (ibid., iDobbs, ugxininiso olongeziweyo)
Ngemiqathango emininzi encinci, sinciphisa indlela esinokukhetha ngayo-ngaphandle kokuqonda indlela eziphambili ngayo ukhetho lwethu ngexesha lokugqibela, u-pubescent, ukukhula kwe-neuronal. Ngokomphandi Jay Giedd, (Jonga le ntetho- I-Brain Teenage: UDkt. Jay Giedd weSizwe seZiko leMpilo yengqondo nguJay Giedd)
Ukuba ulutsha lusenza umculo okanye ezemidlalo okanye izifundiswa, ezo ziiseli kunye nonxibelelwano oluya kubakho lukhuni. Ukuba balele esofeni okanye badlala imidlalo yevidiyo okanye iMTV [okanye iphonografi ye-Intanethi], ezo ziiseli kunye nokunxibelelana okuza kuphila.
Esi sesinye sezizathu zokuba ukuvota kubuze ulutsha ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwe-intanethi kwi-Intanethi kuyabachaphazela akunakulindeleka ukuba buchaze ubungakanani beziphumo ze-porn. Abantwana abangazange baphulula amalungu esini ngaphandle kwe-porn abazi ukuba kubachaphazela njani. (Kufana nokubabuza, "Kukuchaphazele njani ukuba yindoda?") Akukho nto banokuyithelekisa nayo. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba abasebenzisi abangamanyala abadala bahlala bengazidibanisi neempawu zabo ezinxulumene ne-porn kunye nokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-porn-nokuba bakhula ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo ngoonobumba (PISD). I-Porn ihlala ibonakala ngathi "yonyango," kuba nokuba abanako ukuyifumana ngesondo, banokuyifumana xa bebukele iphonografi eyoneleyo. Ngaba sinokulindela ukuba ulutsha luyifumanise?
Ingxaki efanayo ngokubabuza malunga nefuthe le-porn kwiimvakalelo. Abasebenzisi bahlala "beziva bhetele" xa besebenzisa, nokuba basebenzise ngakumbi, i ngakumbi beziva kukonke. Ngoko kutheni i-pornography ibonwa njengengxaki? Ngaphezu koko, xa abasebenzisi bezama ukuyeka, ngamanye amaxesha bajamelana neveki zempawu ezinzima zokuziyeka, ngoko ukusetyenziswa kokulawula kungaphoswa ngxaki ngaphandle kwesisombululo.
Inyani yile, uninzi lwabasebenzisi abanzima abaza kubetha eludongeni ukusuka ekugqithileyo, musa ukwenza oko de kube yiminyaka engamashumi amabini- kanye malunga nexesha lokufumana isekethe yomvuzo kunciphise uvakalelo lwayo. Umzekelo, ngokuba mdala, i-dopamine receptors kwisekethe yomvuzo ngokuthe ngcembe yehla ngo yesithathu okanye isiqingatha. Ngoku, imincili ayonwabisi, kwaye iziphumo zokugqithisa ziyaphazamisa. Xa unyawo lwendalo lucimile kwisantya somvuzo, lixesha lokuba umzingeli aqokelele ukuhlala phantsi kwaye akhulise ulutsha.
Akukho ziintaka okanye iinyosi, iipekseli nje ziyakukholisa
Okwangoku, ingqondo yengqondo iselula evuthiweyo isiphepho esipheleleyo njengokuzingelwa kwemfuza kwezinto ezintsha kunye nokungqubana okungalindelekanga kunye ne-erotica engapheliyo ye-Intanethi. I-Hypnotic Web-surfing-engadingi mzamo kodwa ukuskrola nokufota-ithatha indawo yokushiya isizwe sikabani siye kukhangela i-savanna kumaqabane achumileyo.
Xa ndingu 18, ndabelana ngesondo okokuqala. Xa wathi "usezantsi kuyo yonke le ndlela", ndabaleka ndisiya kwivenkile ekufuphi ndiyokulanda iikhondom ngokungathi bendileqwa nguMvuni. Emva kwesenzo, iingcinga zam bezisithi, “Hmm… khange ive ngathi yahluke mpela ekuphulula amalungu esini, kwaye ifuna isihogo somsebenzi omninzi! Meh, ndiza kubambelela kwi-porn kwaye ndingazikhathazi ngentombazana endiyithandayo. ”
Omunye umfana waphendula,
Iingcinga zam ngqo. Intlungu ebuyela emva, uxinzelelo lwemisipha, ukungaphefumli, ukubila kunye noxinzelelo lokusebenza. KUNINZI uxinzelelo lokuqhekeka kube kanye, kwaye une 'Iron Fist' yakho ekwenza ukuba ubengcono kunelo lobufazi bokwenyani. Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, uhlala ufumana 'ukubonwa okuhle' kunye 'nentombi engamanyala.' Ungayibona yonke loo mijelo mihle yomzimba ekukhanyiseni okugqibeleleyo, amabele n 'amathumbu n amathanga ajongeka ezukile, kwaye ahlala * ebonakala. Kubomi bokwenyani obunqabileyo njalo. Ukuqala kwam ukuyenza, khange ndiyonwabele (nangona sobabini size kakhulu). Ixesha lam lokuqala bekufanele ukuba ndiziva ngathi NDINGUMNTU, ngenxa yokuba 'uphumelele', kodwa kwaziva ngathi Kwaye ke ndi-KNEW kukho mhlawumbi into ephosakeleyo. Ubundlobongela engqondweni yam isoloko ibukeka bubucayi kwaye buyolisayo. I-sex * yangempela endiyifumane yona yayingundoqo kwezoshishino kunye nokungabonakali. Akulunganga.
Ulutsha lwanamhlanje ngamanye amaxesha lucofa ukuvusa i-Intanethi ngokungathandabuzekiyo ngokungathandabuzekiyo, izinto ezenziwayo zokwakha okwexesha leminyaka elishumi ngaphambi kokuba bazame ukunxibelelana namaqabane okwenyani. (Jonga iphepha le- ukuzibika Ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-porn.) Le meko iba semngciphekweni ukuba ulutsha olungenatyala lufuna i-jollies kukhokelele kutshintsho lobuchwephesha, okt, likhoboka. Kwakhona, intsha Kaninzi banomdla wokubamba umlutha kunabantu abadala, ngenxa yemigudu yabo yokufumana umvuzo kunye nolawulo olulawulayo.
Inkathazo
Okubaluleke ngakumbi, ngelixa ekhohliweyo kwisikrini (s), umfana osemncinci hayi izakhono zokufunda ngokuthandana. Ngokukwanjalo, akachithi xesha lixesha malunga nezinto zokwenene ezinokwenzeka kubantu abatshatileyo. Ingqondo yakhe hayi Ubuncwane bakhe bokuzonwabisa ngokwesondo, i-pheromones okanye amaqabane amathathu athathekayo aqhelekileyo anikezela ukulinganisa okuqhelekileyo. Kwiintsuku ezidlulileyo, amajaha enesantya aqhubezela nge-one-on-one, i-vanilla ngesondo ngaphambi kokugqitywa kwi-as sutra. Ngoku, i-17 yeminyaka ubudala yintombi ibona okokuqala ngothando lwakhe lokuqala njengokubandakanya ababini abahlobo bakhe, izihlangu, i-gear-gear kunye nenani elikhulu le-lube.
Akunakwenzeka nokuba iqhawe lethu likwazi ukuchazela umntu onomtsalane ozayo, ukunyuka kwakhe kunye nekhondom i-mishaps, okanye ukukhwabanisa kwakhe ukuzama ukuhlala kanzima ngokuzicingela bukela umntu ulala ngesondo. Akanalo nofifi lokuba kutheni engaphenduli, okanye indlela yokwenza ukulungisa umonakalo. Akunjalo noontanga bakhe.
Ndiyoyika kakhulu ukuba ekubeni yonke ingqondo yam iyazi ukuba ibukele i-porn (ezi zezona zinto zimbini zokuhlangana ngokwesondo endakha ndazifumana, kwaye zombini zisilele ngokupheleleyo) ukuba ndiyonakalisile ingqondo yam soooooo kakhulu ukuba andisokuze ndibengcono. Ndiyathetha, onke amava am ezesondo ukususela ebusheni bam avela kwi-pornography. Eyona minyaka ibalulekileyo ebomini bam, bendikhe ndenza amanyala. Yiyo yonke ingqondo yam eyaziyo. Ngaba ndiya kuze ndikwazi ukuyifumana kunye nomfazi oqhelekileyo? Ngaba ndiya kuze nditsaleleke kumfazi oqhelekileyo ngendlela endiyiyo kwezi pixels zikwikhompyuter? Ndiyoyika kakhulu ukuba ndizonakalisile ngokulungileyo. Ndingatshintsha?
Awu, amaqabane amaninzi adidekile okanye onzakele ukuba ajikeleze kwimeko edimazayo. Isiphumo sokuxhalaba kwintsebenzo siyenza mandundu imeko yeqhawe lethu. Ngaba oku kungacacisa ukuba kutheni iipesenti ezingama-36 zabafana abancinci baseJapan kunye neepesenti ezingama-20 zabantu abancinci baseFrance akukho nxaxheba kubalingani bokwenene? Okanye kutheni amazinga okuzilahla e-States zanda?
Namhlanje, i-13 yeminyaka ubudala yeendlela zesondo zenziwe nge-hardcore porn, iifestile ezininzi, kunye nokucofa rhoqo. Ngokuchaseneyo, utata ukhule waya kuSally kumnyango olandelayo kunye nengcinga yakhe echumileyo. Ekuqaleni, samangaliswa kukubona abanye abantu abadala abangamakhoboka ezi-porn befumana kwakhona kwi-PISD (ukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo). Ngaba kungenxa yokuba amashumi amathathu anamashumi amane amaxesha athile ayenze kakuhle indlela yobuchopho enxulumene nokunxibelelana namaqabane okwenyani ukusuka kwiintsuku zangaphambi kwe-Intanethi? Nceda ujonge le Septemba ka-2015 intetho ye-TEDx yindoda encinci efuna ixesha elongezelelekileyo kunye nokufunda kwakhona / ukubuyela kwakhona ukuze woyise i-ED kunye ne-anorgasmia ye-porn:
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba iingqondo zigcina ezinye iiplastikhi nasemva kweminyaka yeshumi elivisayo. Xa umntu eyeka ukusebenzisa imikhwa yokwabelana ngesondo (okanye ukucinga kubo) kangangeenyanga ezi-2-3, ukubuyela kwengqondo ekubuyiseleni umvuzo wesekethe kuqala 'ukujonga ujikeleze' iindlela zesondo eziguquke zafunyanwa. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, eyona nto iphambili kuyo kukudlula kwimfuza, ke ifuna isenzo. Ngokuthe ngcembe ibiya isekethe ye-neuronal yendlela yendalo ngamandla ngakumbi kwiziko lobumnandi bengqondo. Intombazana elandelayo ibukeka inomdla ngakumbi.
Wathi umfana oneminyaka eyi-21 ubudala emva kokushiya i-pornography / i-masturbation:
Ndikhumbula ndisithi kwintombi yam, ngeentsuku zam zokusebenzisa iphonografi kunye nokunxibelelana okungamanyala okunxulumene ne-porn, engaziva ngathi bendikhe ndabelana ngesondo okwangoku. Wayengaqondi kakuhle, kwaye andinakukwazi ukuzicacisa. Kodwa phezolo, i-OMG yaziva imnandi kakhulu. Ndiziva yonke into, kwaye yayintle. Uvakalelo lwam lwe-penile lonyuse imithwalo. Ngethuba lokuqala ebomini bam, kubonakala ngathi ndilahlekelwe ubuntombi bam.
Omnye umfana:
[Kwiminyaka yokuqala] Usuku lwe-43 ngoku, ngokuqinisekileyo ndibona intombazana njengomthombo wokuvusa kwam ngoku, kunokuba ndimbone njengomfanekiso onokuwugcina ukusetyenziswa kamva. Ndibona intombazana eshushu ngoku kwaye ndicinga ukuba 'Yile nto ndiyifunayo', kwaye ndizame ukuthatha amanyathelo okumhlangabeza. Kube kukutshintsha kancinci kotshintsho. Ndimalunga ne-90% apho, kodwa ndiyakhumbula ndingu-10%, 20% njl.
namhlanje, abaselula abaseNtshona zixhaphaza ukuhlakulela i-neuronal phakathi kwazo zonke iintlobo ze-intanethi kunye nokuphendula kwabo ngokwesondo. Asisayi kuphinda siyithathele ingqalelo into yokuba ukuvuswa kolutsha kuvela kwindawo ethile engaqondakaliyo, yomntu, engatshintshiyo, nesazisi esisisiseko sesini. Ngombulelo kwiminqweno yengqondo yolutsha engapheliyo yokufuna ukukhulula umniniyo osoloko enesithukuthezi, olunye ulutsha luyakwazi ukwenza ukuthanda izinto zesondo ezibenza bangathandabuzi ulwabelana ngesondo.
Imibala embalwa
Ixesha lokufikisa lixesha elikhethekileyo lokukhula kwengqondo. Kwimeko elungileyo, isebenza kakuhle kwaye iyasebenza. Nokuba babenomdla kangakanani abazingeli-babaqokeleli kulutsha ukuba bafune ulonwabo, babefana nabaqhubi beenqwelo mafutha. Babenamathuba ambalwa okuxhoma ukuphendula kwabo ngokwesondo kuyo nayiphi na into engaphaya kobushushu obuselumelwaneni.
Ubuchopho babantwana banamhlanje banomdla ngokulinganayo, ukanti baxhamla ngendlela evuselela inkanuko evuselela onke amaqhosha abo: ukuthanda ukuthanda izinto ezintsha, ukonwaba ngezinto ezothusayo, ukubanakho ukwaneliswa satiety okuqhelekileyo, kunye nomnqweno wokuyalelwa ngesondo kunye nabantu abadala.
Abantu abadala bavame ukucinga ukuba ukusetyenziswa koononophelo lwe-Intanethi akunabungozi kuba "iphonografi kudala yavela." Kodwa bangaphi abantu abangamadoda abazalwayo, bathi, kwi1960 baqala ukusebenzisa yonke imihla nge-1973? Ingakumbi inoveli enzima, engapheliyo nekiso ekhoyo ngoku?
Abantwana banamhlanje abanakuziyeka ngokwabo:
Iminyaka, ukususela ekubeni ndandineminyaka eyi-11 ubudala, bendijonge iphonografi kunye ne-masturbating. Andikwazi tu ukumelana nayo kwaye ndiyenza kakhulu ngoku. Ndifuna ukuwumisa ngoku. Ndiyiminyaka eyi-15 ubudala kwaye ndifuna ukuyiyeka kuba ndicinga ukuba ichaphazela ubomi bam bezentlalo, ubudlelwane kunye namabanga esikolweni. Ndima njani?
Abantu abadala bahlala becinga ukuba abantwana baya kushiya isimilo esinganyangekiyo ebudaleni. Ewe kunjalo, uphononongo lubonisa ukuba abantwana abakwikholeji abaneminyaka yobudala bathambekele ekuphupheni ukuzinkcinkca ngotywala, ukusebenzisa imbiza, njl. Ngaba abantu abadala abangaphaya kokusebenzisa gwenxa iziyobisi baqala ukusela / ukusetyenziswa kwembiza yeminyaka ye-11?
[Ubudala be-35] Xa ndandikwiminyaka yam yeshumi elivisayo kwaye umama wam wasisa kwithala leencwadi, ndaye ndazimela ndifuna inoveli evuselela inkanuko yesini. Ukuthetha / inkcazo yowesifazane kuphela eya kundenza ndihambe. Thixo, ndiyilangazelela njani loo mihla kwakhona i-LOL. Namhlanje, unokufumana 'ukuxhamla ngaphandle' kwi-porn. Kumanqanaba okuqala yayiyinto entsha kwaye kunzima ukuyibamba. Kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo, iphonografi ihlala ithepha. Ngoku kunyanzelekile kunokuba ube yimincili / umvuzo. Kubuhlungu kangakanani oko? Andinakuchasana nokuziphatha okubi. Ngapha koko ngokuchaseneyo, kodwa xa ufika kwimeko yam, ayisasebenzi, ilungile. I-ankile enkulu, enamafutha entanyeni yam.
Khumbula, ukufunda ukuzinkcinkca ngotywala okanye ukuziphakamisa akubalulekanga kangako kwindaleko; ukuzala kwakhona. Imikhwa yokutya isenokuba ngumfanekiso ongcono. Ngaba abaneminyaka engama-22 ubudala batshintsha ngesiquphe ukutya kwabo kwesiqhelo? Ngoku ukutya okungenamsoco kukuyo yonke indawo, abantu aba-4 kwaba-5 abadala baseMelika batyebe kakhulu. Phantse isiqingatha sabo batyebileyo (okt, baxhonyiwe kukutya). Ngaba bayatshintsha ukuthanda kwabo ngokwesondo? Mhlawumbi ngaphandle kokuba babetha udonga lwe-PISD.
Ixesha elide
Ngokucacileyo, ukubukela iphonografi kwi-Intanethi kwasebusaneni akuthethi ukuba umsebenzisi uya kugqibela ngokutenxa. Okanye usabelana ngesondo ngakumbi, okanye ubundlobongela ngakumbi kumaqabane. Nangona abanye benokukholelwa ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo kumaqabane ezesondo ukonwaba "ngee-facials" ngelixa zonke izinto ezizaliswe zizinto. Ngelishwa, nangona kunjalo, ipesenti yabasebenzisi iya kugqibela ngokuba likhoboka. Kwaye loo pesenti ingangaphezulu kunokuba sicinga, ngokunikwa amaxabiso okulutha kwi-Intanethi sele kuchaphazela ulutsha. Iirhafu zi-6-18%, kuxhomekeke ekubeni ngaba i-Itali, China okanye iHungary zilwenzile uphando.
Kwabaninzi, iimiphumo eziqhubekayo zokusebenzisa i-intanethi enzulu kakhulu ziyakwazi ukufana neziphumo kwi-gamers ye-intanethi. Ukuchithwa kwamanzi kushiya ingqondo ngengqondo imfuno yokuvuselela okukhulu (ngaphandle kokuba ibuyiselwe ngokuqinisekileyo kwintlupheko evakalayo). Eminye imisebenzi ibonakala iyakhazamisayo xa ithelekiswa. Kule ntetho emfutshane yeTED, Ukuditywa kwamaGay? Isazi ngengqondo esidumileyo uPhilip Zimbardo uchaza imiphumo emibi “yokukhobokisa” okuxhaphakileyo.
Ezi ziphumo zichaphazela ubudlelwane. Isiqhelo esisisigxina sinye yezizathu eziphambili ze-intanethi ye-intanethi yi-superstimulus yengqondo. Uqeqesho lwe-Erotic oluxhomekeke kuyo intsha njenge-aphrodisiac unokubangela ukuba abasebenzisi abaqhelekileyo balahlekelwe ngokukhawuleza.ukuvalela abasebenzisi abachaphazelekayo kwi-hook-ups ezingenanto. Kwakhona, iinkalo ezingezona ngxinxu zesondo (ukunxibelelana kwesikhumba ukuya kwesikhumba, ukumanga, ukuzithuthuzela, ukuziphatha okudlalayo, njl.) Kungenzeka ukuba awuqhelekanga kwaye ungabonakali ukuba ubhalise njengomvuzo onomvuzo. Ngelishwa, ezi zizinto eziziphathekayo ezonceda ingqondo kunye noncedo Izibini ziqinisa ubudlelwane babo.
Umntu wokuqala-Mhlawumbi kukulula kunye nokuthuthuzela kokuhlala nje phambi kwekhompyuter yam kujongisa kwimifanekiso ekungafuneki ndiyikholise. Ndingahamba ngesantya sam kwaye ndingakhathazeki ngazo. Ukuba nentombazana yokwenene ebhedini yam kuya kundiphazamisa.
Umntu wesibini-andizisebenzisi i-porn, kodwa ndihamba nembali yam yemifanekiso, ndiyaqonda ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ndijonga amawaka emifanekiso ngeyure. Ndikhangele loo ntombazana ifanelekileyo okanye umfanekiso [ondenza ndifike kuvuthondaba]. Iphonografi ayisiyiyo into ebonakalisa ukuphendula kwam ngokwesondo; Ndicinga ukuba indawo yam enkulu ye-Intanethi.
Imfundo yeplastiki yemfundo
Mhlawumbi akukho mntu unokukhululwa kwiplanethi namhlanje ngaphandle kwemfundo egqibeleleyo malunga nokujikeleza komvuzo wobuchopho kunye nayo ubungozi obukhethekileyo ngexesha lokukhula. Yilapho ihlaselwa ngokutya okungenamsoco, iziyobisi, imidlalo yevidiyo, iifowuni kunye ne-intanethi ye-intanethi. Kutheni ungafundisi abantwana isayensi eyenziwe lula emva kweziphumo ezinokubakho zesishukumiso esigqithisileyo kwingqondo? (Jonga Izinto Ongazange Uzazi Ngeentlanzi, malunga nezizathu ezifanelekileyo ezifanelekileyo ze-10-13 ubudala ubudala.)
Namhlanje, abakwishumi elivisayo banakho (kwaye benze) ukubopha iingqondo zabo kwizinto ezingaqhelekanga ezingakhange zicingelwe ngookhokho babo, kungasathethwa ke kujongwa iminyaka ngaphambi kokutshata. Abasebenzisi banokwazi ukuba i-cartoonish ye-2-D ye-porn inkuthazo iphantse yenzeka njengeSanta. Nangona kunjalo abo ngokungazi ngokungacwangciswanga ukubanakho kwabo ukufikelela kuvuthondaba kwimixholo ye-gonzo yamanyala ngamanye amaxesha boyike. Uninzi luyoyika ukucela uncedo kuba lucinga ukuba ziziphoso ezingenathemba. Abanye bade bazibulale.
Abacebisi abangawuqondi umahluko phakathi kokuziqhelanisa nokwabelana ngesondo kunye nokufunyanwa ngokungacwangciswanga, iincasa zeplastiki zinokunyusa i-angst yokufikisa. Okulusizi kukuba, zimbalwa iingcali ezinolwazi olwaneleyo malunga neplastiki yengqondo yokunceda abantwana ukuba baphinde basebenze, nto leyo ekhokelela kwezinye iingcebiso ezibuhlungu. (jonga - Abaselula abasebenzisa izilwanyana badinga ixesha elide ukuze bafumane iMojo yabo)
Njengoko ubuchopho be-pubescent buya kuqala ukufikelela kwi-wiring uphando lwezocansi, nika abantwana inyaniso kunye nolwazi olucacileyo abafunayo-ngaphandle kweengxaki ezingenakwenzekayo abenzi bobucayi kufuneka baxhomekeke ekukhonkeleni ababukeli abanengqondo ekhulile ukuxhaswa kweentlobano zesini. Bafundise abantwana umahluko phakathi kokuzibandakanya ngokwesondo kunye neentlobo zesini, kunye nendlela aba babini abangakwazi ngayo ukutshintshana kunye nokusetyenziswa ngokubaluleka okukhulu. Kwakhona, bafundise indlela yokuziphathaiimpawu zomlutha ukubukela, kwaye indlela yokujika ezo zinguqu.
[Ubudala be-17 bafika kunye ne-erections ebuthathaka, kwaye babesabonisa umda wempilo ye-erectile ngoSuku lwe-50 ngaphandle koononophala / i-masturbation] Usuku lwe-76: Ndiziva ndonwabile, ndonwabile kwaye ndinamandla kwaye ndisebenzisa indlela engakumbi ye-libido. Umthi wam wakusasa ngale ntsasa wawungenangqondo-ngekhe uyeke ukuhla kangangemizuzu engama-20 nkqu nokuma! Ndiza kuyinika iintsuku ezingama-90 ukuze ndenze iinyanga ezi-3 ezigcweleyo kwaye ke kufuneka ndibuyele esiqhelweni kwaye ndikulungele ukuzama ukufumana iqabane. Ukhululekile ke oku kuyasebenza.
Ndingu 27 kwaye ndinayo inzululwazi kunye nemfundo yezonyango, kwaye ndikholelwa kakhulu ukuba le ngqondo yeplastikhi malunga nembono ye-Intanethi ifuna ukuphuma phaya. Siphulukana nethuba lokufundisa abafana abancinci abaneengxaki zomzimba ngaphakathi kwengqondo yabo. Ngokusisiseko, ndinqwenela ukuba ndaye ndafunda ngale minyaka ili-15 idlulileyo.
UKUPHELA KWESIFUNDO
Esi sithuba sithatha umxholo wokuba kutheni uJohnny engafanelekanga ukusebenzisa iphonografi ngexesha lokufikisa
Ekugqibeleni ndilahlekelwe ubuntombi bam, kwaye ngexesha le ndandibukela iifotunu kwintloko yam
Ndiqale ukubhabha nge-15 kwaye ndaqala ukubukela iphonografi nge-16.
Kudala ndiyibukele kwaye ndizikhuphela kuyo ngokungaphezulu nangaphantsi ngokungagungqiyo ukusukela ngoko, kule minyaka ili-7 idlulileyo.
Iminyaka embalwa edlulileyo ndazama / r / nofap ubuhle kakhulu, ndafumana / r / i-pornfree kwaye ndaqonda ukuba ngumba obaluleke ngakumbi lowo; Emva koko, ndaye ndachasana ne-porn, ngelixa ndandingakwazi ukushukumisa umkhwa-ngaphandle kokucoceka okucocekileyo kweenyanga ze-6, bendihlala ndibuya.
Kwangexesha elide, kude kube ngoku kum ubomi wam omdala ngokwenene, ndayichaza njenge / r / phambili, kwaye iphantse i / r / incel, nangona kungenjalo kwezo zinto zigqithisileyo. Umdibaniso woxinzelelo lwentlalo, ukudakumba kunye nokuzithemba okukhulu kunye nemicimbi yokuzithemba eyakhokelela kum ekubeni ndindodwa kakhulu, uloyiko, ukuzicekisa, ukucaphuka, umona, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukuzenzakalisa kwabantu abadala.
Ubomi bam, loo nto yayingubani, kwaye yinto endiyayi kuba yinto endikufa ngayo, mhlawumbi kwiminyaka emihlanu okanye ezayo xa ndiza kuphelisa isibindi sokuzibulala ngenxa yokukhupha okukhawulezayo, endaweni yenkqubo yokuphuza kunye nokuzihlambalaza kwaye ukwenqaba ukuzinyamekela.
Emva kweenyanga ezintathu ezedlule, ngaphandle kwayo, le ntombazana ibonakalisa ebomini bam yatshintsha yonke into.
Ngoku ndinyangwa kabini ngeveki, ndifunda ukuthanda nokuzamkela, ndinobomi ekuhlaleni, kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba ndiyathandana nalo mfazi. Uneminyaka eli-12 ubudala kunam kodwa akabonakali ngathi unjalo. Usebenza emncinci, ubonakala emncinci. Kwaye undixelele ukuba ndijongeka kwaye ndenza okudala kunabo bonke abafana abalingana nam. Saba ngabahlobo ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza saba ngamaqabane kunye nolwalamano olunzulu ngokweemvakalelo. Sobabini sikhe sahamba shit kwaye sobabini sifunde ukujongana nayo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Undibonisile ukuba bendisenza into engalunganga ebomini kwaye ukuhlala kungangamava agcwele ulonwabo, ukumangaliswa, ukudideka, uvuyo, kunye namaxesha athile kodwa angenakuphepheka entlungu kunye nokubandezeleka. Andisafuni kufa. Ndifuna ukuhlala, kwaye ndifuna ukufumana ubomi kunye naye.
Kodwa laa nto indala ndiyakhele mna kule minyaka… ayikapheli. Isekhona, kwaye iyanditya. Andifuni ukukuchazela nina bantu ukuba iphonografi iyikhuphile njani ingqondo yam, emva kokuba ndithintelwe ukuba ndithandane kunye nokunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kwiminyaka yokuqala ye-23 yobomi bam, kuba nonke niyazi ukuba isebenza njani. Ndiyazi, emazantsi ezantsi, ukuba ibiphazamisa umbono wam, uyigqwetha kwaye uyijijile ngeenxa zonke kwiimilo ezingaziwayo, kodwa yathatha ekugcineni Ukulahlekelwa ubuntombi bam, kulo mntu ndiyakhathalela kakhulu kwaye ndamtsalane kungekhona kuphela emzimbeni, kodwa ngokomoya, ukuqonda ngokucacileyo indlela eyonakalisa ngayo isazela sam iminyaka ye-intanethi.
Eyona nto indixhalabisayo ngokuphulukana nekhadi le-v kukuba ndiza kugqiba ngokukhawuleza. Isichasi sasiyinyani. Andikwazi ukugqiba, konke. Kwafuneka ndiyenzile ngokwam. Wayepholile nayo, kwaye wayeyiqonda, kuba wayesazi ukuba ukuhamba yedwa yinto endandiyiqhelile, kodwa akazi ukuba ingena nzulu kangakanani. Ndinomdla kuye ngesiqhelo, xa enxibe, kodwa xa iimpahla ziphumile, kukho into etshintsha entlokweni yam. Ngesiquphe ndiyaqonda nje ukuba ayinguye nongowamawaka amantombazana kwi-porn kunye nemizimba engenakufezeka, ungumntu wokwenene. Kwaye ndiyamthanda. Ndiyabuthanda ubuntu bakhe, ndiyamthanda uncumo, kwaye ndiyawuthanda umphefumlo wakhe. Undikhathalele kakhulu kwaye uhlala esithi uyandithanda, kwaye nam, ngaphandle kwenxalenye yomtsalane.
Ngokwenene andinakuhlala ndivukile ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo. Ndahlala nzima ngaphandle kwengxaki ezininzi, kodwa ndandingangeni kuyo. Kwaye khange ndive nto. Hayi ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, hayi ngexesha lesandla, hayi ngomlomo, kodwa ngexesha kwaye KUPHELA ngexesha lokuphulula amalungu esini. Kwakufuneka ibe ME, kunye nesandla sam, kwaye okona kubi, ukucinga KWAM ukwenza wonke umsebenzi. Nokuba wenza ntoni na okanye atheni, nokuba ndimjonge kangakanani kwaye ndizama ukuqiqa nam, bendingaziva nto. Ndandihamba nje, ndingaziva.
Ndigqibile ukugqibezela, kabini, kwaye omabini la maxesha ayevela ekuzikhuthazeni, kwaye omabini la maxesha bendingenaye ngengqondo, bendikhe ndaya kwenye indawo, nditshintsha phakathi kweethebhu ezivulwe kwiimemori eziphawuliweyo, imifanekiso kunye nokulandelelana kunye nezandi ezivela ngendlela eyoyikisayo isiseko esikhulu samaphikseli atshiswe kwingqondo yam. Yile ndlela ndihle ngayo. Kwafuneka ndibukele iphonografi entlokweni yam.
Kuyadinwa.
Kukho lo mfazi umangalisayo othetha ngakumbi kum kunaye nabani na okanye nantoni na eyenye kweli hlabathi, osindise ubomi bam ngokuba yinxalenye yalo, endimthandayo kumgangatho onzulu, phantse wezulu lonke, yindlela enamandla ngayo. Ungumhlobo wam osenyongweni kwaye ndiyamthanda kwaye ndiyamkhumbula mzuzwana ngamnye andinaye. Kodwa kukho le nxalenye yentloko engaphazamisekiyo enokuthi ikhethe i-100 amanye amantombazana ngaphezulu kwakhe, amantombazana amancinci kwaye anomdla ngakumbi, amantombazana angakhathali ngam, amantombazana andingawakhathalelanga. Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba andikalifumani ithuba lokuba nomnye umntu, okanye lokuyifumana loo nto, kodwa ndiyayinqwenela.
Yeyona nto indenza ndiqiniseke ngokuhlala naye, ukuzahlulela kuye kuye kuphela. Ndisaziva njengolutsha olune-horny olunamathambo alukhuni oluye luthambe phezu kwawo onke amabhinqa ashushu alubonayo, kwaye lifuna ukwenza zonke ezi zinto kubo, kinky kwaye ngamanye amaxesha izinto ezihlazo ezisekwe kwinto endiyibonileyo-endiyibonileyo, engaziva- kwiminyaka kwaye iminyaka yokubukela iphonografi. Konke kubonakala. Zonke ezi zinto zijika zindenze ndihambe, ezi zinto zinomdla kunye nezinto ezibangela ukuba kube nzima kwaye zikhuphe kum, zonke zizinto ezibonakalayo. Akukho mvakalelo ibandakanyekayo, akukho kubamba, akukho kunuka, akukho kunambitha, akukho mvakalelo. Ukubonwa kunye nezandi kuphela, kodwa ubukhulu becala ukubonwa. Yile ndlela ingqondo yam i-wired ngayo ngoku.
Ayisiyiyo kwaphela indlela endandiyicinga ngayo, xa eneneni ndikulo mzuzu, ndifumana amava okwenyani, akukho lonwabo, akukho kuvusa, akukho mincili, nje… ukungabi nto, ukungabi nalutho apho kufanele ukuba kubekho into ekhethekileyo. Ndiziva ndinqanyuliwe kwaye ndineentloni ngam ngoku ndisebenzisa umzimba wam ukufumana into endiyifunayo iminyaka, kwaye ekuphela kwendlela endinokwanelisa ngayo iminqweno yam, njengoko bendinjalo kule minyaka ili-8 idlulileyo, ukuyenza ngokwam. Kwaye xa ndikude naye kwaye ndiqala ukuyifuna, ndiyazi ukuba ndiyaphi. Into ekufuneka ndiyenzile kukuvula ilaptop yam, isithandwa esinye esisoloko sikhona kum.
Nokuba akukho sikrini phambi kwam, imifanekiso isekhona. Ndiyakwazi ukubabiza kwaye ndibadibanise ngentando kwaye ndibasebenzise ukwenza i-cum, ngelixa ndijonge intombi yam emehlweni, ngelixa ehamba nam ngaloo mzuzu, kwaye ndihamba kwindawo yokulala ehotele okanye ekhitshini okanye igumbi lokuhlambela elinomnye umfazi endingasoze ndidibane naye. Ndiziva ndigula. Kuvakala ngathi kukukopa. Ndibukele iphonografi kwimizuzu nje eyi-30 eyadlulayo ndaza ndagxuma ndaza ndaziva ngathi ndimangalisiwe kwaye ndingenanto kwaye ndonwabile ngokwasemphefumlweni ngendlela ehlala ihleli, kwaye intombi yam iphume edolophini kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezizayo, kwaye ndifunga isithixo, ndiziva ngathi Andithembekanga kuye. Ndiyamthanda ngentliziyo yam yonke, kodwa ingqondo yam inamehlo kuphela kubo bonke abanye abantu. Ndiyisiqwenga somntu.
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Uluhlu olufanelekileyo lwezifundo:
- Umlingo woTywala / wesondo? Eli phepha liluhlu Izifundo ze-50 ze-neuroscience (I-MRI, i-fMRI, i-EEG, i-neuropsychological, ihormoni). Zonke zibonelela ngenkxaso eqinileyo kwimodeli yokulutha njengeziphumo zazo zesiphumo iziphumo zonyango lwe-neurological ezichongiweyo kwizifundo zokuthengisa iziyobisi.
- Iingcamango zangempela zeengcali zoononongo / isondo? Olu luhlu luqulethe I-25 yakutshanje ye-neuroscience esekwe kuncwadi kunye neenkcazo ngenye yezinzulu zenzululwazi kwihlabathi. Yonke inkxaso ngenkxaso yomzobo.
- Iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa kunye nokunyuka kwamanqaku angaphezulu? Izifundo ezingaphezu kwe-50 zokubika iziphumo zihambelane nokukhula kwezilwanyana (ukunyamezela), ukuhlala kwimiba yezononophelo, kunye nokukhutshwa kweempawu (Zonke iimpawu kunye neempawu ezinxulumene nokulutha). Iphepha elongezelelweyo kunye Izifundo ezili-10 ezixela iimpawu zokurhoxa kubasebenzisi be-porn.
- Iiduna kunye neengxaki zesondo? Olu luhlu luqulethe iikhompyutheni ze-40 ezidibanisa ukusetyenziswa koononophelo / ukuxhatshazwa koononophelo kwiingxaki zesondo kunye nokwenyuka kwe-sexually stimulus. The Izifundo zokuqala ze-7 kuluhlu lubonisa bangela, njengabathathi-nxaxheba baqhelise ukusetyenziswa koononophelo kunye nokuphulukisa izifo ezingasinikiyo zesondo.
- Imiphumo yeSigxina kwimibutho? Izifundo ezingaphezu kwe-75 zidibanisa ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn ukuya kwisini esincinci kunye nolwaneliseko lobuhlobo. Ngokuba sifuna zonke Izifundo ezibandakanya abesilisa ziye zaxela ukusetyenziswa koononophelo olunxulumene nalo zihlwempu zesini okanye ukwaneliseka kobudlelwano.
- Ukusetyenziswa koonobumba kunokuchaphazela impilo yengqondo nengqondo? Ngaphezulu kwezifundo ze-80 ezinxibelelanisa ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn nakwimpilo yengqondo-yeemvakalelo kunye neziphumo ezibi zokuqonda.
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Kudala ndifunda onke amanqaku kunye nezimvo kule ndawo okwangoku. Njengakwiiwebhusayithi ezininzi, andihlali ndenza umgudu wokwenza iakhawunti ukuze ndithumele nje iisenti zam ezimbini. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba ababhali kunye nabasebenzisi bale webhusayithi benze umsebenzi olunge kakhulu wokucinezela ezantsi iimpembelelo zoononophala kuphuhliso lomntu ngokwesondo, ndaziva ndifuna ukubonisa amanqaku aliqela apho indawo idanisa khona kodwa ayizukuphuma ithi. Mhlawumbi elam elidlulileyo likhanyisa ezi ngcamango ngokucacileyo kum kunakwabanye abantu.
Kanye ngexesha lokujika kwam i-21, ndadibana nentombazana eneenwele ezimhlophe, enamehlo aluhlaza kwikholeji yokufunda. Kwinyanga yokuqala, njengoko uthando lwam lokuqala lwaluqhakaza, khange ndibone ukuba kwenzeka ntoni. Emva koko, ngolunye usuku, ngokungathi ndibethwe lutolo, ukubakhona kwakhe kwandenza ndaziva ndinenyama kwaye ndishushu, phantse ndide ndiphulukane nolawulo lwam. Iminyaka emibini elandelayo (emva kokulahlwa nguye) ibe sisihogo esicocekileyo. Unyaka wokuqala ubandakanya ukungakwazi kwam ukulala nokulala. Ndabethwa yintliziyo, ndozela, ndehla emzimbeni, ndangcangcazela, ndangcangcazela. Kufana nokuba bendixingile ephupheni; ndaye ndazama ukubaleka ukubaleka, kokukhona iphupha landitya. Wayengene kubudlelwane bexeshana elifutshane nomnye umfana kangangeenyanga ezimbini, kwaye imifanekiso yobusuku bobusuku yayigcwalisa ingqondo yam kunye nengcinga. Ndandikhathazwa ziingcinga zesini endizibonileyo kwimifanekiso engamanyala, kwaye yandiphazamisa kwinqanaba elinzulu kakhulu. Njengentombi enyulu efundiswe ngesondo kuphela kwi-intanethi, umbono wokuba uthando lobomi bakho uluchithe ubusuku emva kobusuku ujongene nomfana angamaziyo ukuba undithumele ngaphaya komda.
Kulo nyaka uphelileyo, bendikhanyisa ngento engahambanga kakuhle, ndikhangela iimpendulo kwimibuzo emininzi edidayo. Kutheni le nto ndathandana nge-22 okokuqala, ngelixa kwakubonakala ngathi oontanga bam babefumana le nto ukusukela babeneminyaka eyi-16? Kwenzeka njani ukuba ndingathandi mntu kubomi bangempela kude kube lelo xesha? Kwenzeka njani ukuba kungabikho mntu de kufike elo xesha, kwaye kutheni ndingabathandi abantu kwizidanga, njengabanye? Kwakungathi kutshintshwe ngesiquphe kwingqondo yam- impendulo engenanto okanye engenanto ibangelwe.
Kukho ingozi eza nako konke oku kucamngca. Ngenye, ndihamba ndisiya kumhlaba ongenakulinganiswa okanye ungqinwe, okanye ubuncinci awulinganiswa ngayo nayiphi na indlela ethembekileyo / efanelekileyo. Akukho mntu waziyo apho ubuchopho buyeka khona kwaye nengqondo iqala, ke kuzo zonke izifundo zenzululwazi phaya ngaphandle kweziyobisi ezingamanyala, ekuphela kwemali endinayo kulo mbandela kukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka okupheleleyo. Andikwazi ukungqina iimpendulo zale mibuzo, kodwa ndinganyaniseka kwaye ndithethe inyani kangangoko. Yiyo yonke endinayo.
Xa ndijonga ngasemva, ndiyazi ngoku ukuba * inxenye yesizathu sokuba ndihluke kwezona ziqhelekileyo yayikukuba ndandisemva kwexesha ngokusemthethweni, njengoko babenjalo umama nomalume wam. Kuze kube yiminyaka eyi-18 ubudala, ndandinako kuphela ukuvuswa ngesondo ngamantombazana atshisayo. Amantombazana ashushu ngokungenakwenzeka- kwi-PlayBoy, kwi-porn, njl.njl. Kwimeko enqabileyo abayenzileyo, bekungekho ntshukumisa yokwenza * nantoni na nabo (okt, ukwanga, ukuwola, ukuzonwabisa, ukuziphathaphatha, ukufunxa). Ndandishukunyiswa ngokwesondo ngabo. Ngoku, ndingajonga amantombazana amahle kwaye ndibone ngokucacileyo ukuba babenomdla. Kodwa kwakungekho mahluko wokwenyani kwiimvakalelo kunokwazisa ngobukrelekrele indoda entle. Bayefana nakum.
Kwiinyanga ezimbini ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwam kwe-18th, nangona kunjalo, izinto zatshintsha. Amantombazana amathathu kwiklasi yam ephezulu abamba iliso lam, kwaye ndaye ndanomdla wokungabonakali kubo. Andazi nokuba ungayibiza ngokuba kukuphambana. "Umdla" unokuba ligama elingcono. Kodwa loo maxesha adlulayo anyuka, ndaza ndaya kwikholeji i-3000 mi kude nekhaya, ukuya kwisikolo se-Ivy League hayi ngaphantsi.
Unyaka wokuqala wekholeji awuzange ubonise mdla kumantombazana. Ukuba ubulili bam / ubomi bam buthandana, awuyi kufumana nto ngaphandle kweekhilikithi, iibhokhwe, ukuthula kunye nobumnyama. Abahlobo bam babezibuza ukuba ingaba ndilifanasini na ... kodwa ubukhulu becala babecinga ukuba ndi-asexual. Khange ndiyicinge kangako, ndicinga ukuba ndijolise kakhulu esikolweni nakwezinye izinto. Ngeminyaka eyi-19, ndandinowam wokuqala otyumkileyo, endandingakhange ndiwuqaphele. Ndithathe uninzi lweemvakalelo zokundala komntu kum kuxinzelelo kunye nobusika obubandayo baseNew York. U-Ergo, akukho nanye kwezi ebhalisiweyo kunye nam.
Emva koko, akukho nto kwenye iminyaka emibini. Ndandisoloko ndikhokelwa ngokusemthethweni kwimida yoluntu.
Ukwahluka ngumxholo kwindaleko nakwizifundo zesayensi yendalo ezinceda ukukhuthaza amandla ohlobo lokuziqhelanisa nokuphila. Ngamanye amagama, sonke senzelwe ukwahluka, kuba ngaphandle kweyantlukwano yethu ngekhe sikhule kwaye siguquke. Kodwa phantsi kwawo wonke lo mahluko, ungazi njani ukuba kukho into efuna ukulungiswa? Umntu wahlulahlula njani ukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwenyani?
Emva kokudibana nentombazana e-blonde, ndazimisela ukufumana impendulo kweminye imibuzo yam malunga nokuba kutheni ndingenamdla wokwenyani kumantombazana de ndaneminyaka eyi-22. UHelen Fisher wayengusosayensi wokuqala endakhubeka kuye; Uphando lwakhe ngobuntu lwanikezela ukuqonda kwiimpendulo zemibuzo yam. Umzekelo, uqaphele ukuba enye yeendlela ezine ezisisiseko zengqondo yomntu (umlawuli / iziphumo ze testosterone) wayengenamdla wokwenyani ekuthandaneni. Iingqondo zabo ezinzima zazichanekile kwaye zingena kwinqanaba; akhonto bayenzayo ayinanjongo ithile. Yonke into lukhuphiswano nabo. Umdla wabo unzulu kakhulu kwaye umxinwa, ngokuchasene nokuba kubanzi kakhulu kwaye akukho nzulu. Bangabantu abanzulu kakhulu, abangena lula (ngamanye amaxesha bathabathele ingqalelo) ngento enomdla kubo. Kuyafana nangokuthandana, utsho. Abanamdla kakhulu kukuthandana ngokungaqhelekanga, kuba ayivakali kubo. Kodwa xa befumana umntu abanomdla kuye, abayeki de bafumane into abayifunayo.
Isimo sam, esekelwe kwimimandla yakhe, ngulo Mlawuli.
Inxalenye yesizathu sokuba ndikholelwe ukuba andizibandakanyi kubudlelwane bobudlelwane kude kube yi-22 yayingumbandela wobuntu bam. Andingomntu ulula kakhulu. Yongeza kuloo nto, ukuba ubhlomle kade kwindawo yokuqala.
Kodwa kukho okungakumbi kuyo. Ukuthandana kwam kwandiphazamisa ngandlela thile, kuba andinakuyiqonda ngequbuliso into endayibonayo kwi-porn. Ndingayenza njani into ethoba isidima komnye umntu, njengoko uRobin Williams esitsho, "Yingelosi eyabekwa nguThixo nguThixo ngokwakhe"? Ngendlela efanayo umntwana ubona amangqina okubulala kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya eyoyikisayo kodwa engaphulukani nokulala ngenxa yamava kuba enye indawo yakhe iyaqonda ukuba ubukele iipikseli ayisiyonyani, nam khange ndicinge kakhulu nge-porn endiyibonileyo. Akuzange kwenzeke kum ukuba le yinto yabantu bokwenyani abayenzileyo kwilizwe lokwenyani. Wonke umntu, ikakhulu. Kwaye oku kuqonda kwandinyanzela ukuba ndize nezisombululo zeemvakalelo / zengqondo kwii-hang-ups zokwenyani endinazo malunga nesondo. Nazi izinto endiye ndaziqaphela akukho mntu ubonakala ngathi uthetha ngokuthe ngqo.
1. Amaqabane okwabelana ngesondo okwenyani awabonani njengeengxowa zenyama. Abantwana abakhuliswe kwimifanekiso engamanyala kwimfundo yabo yezesondo abaziqondi izinto ezininzi abantu abadala abacinga ukuba "banikwe". Xa umfana ebona isondo kwi-tape okokuqala ngqa, njengam, akaqondi ukuba abantu abalala ngesondo ngokubanzi baneemvakalelo omnye komnye. Akaqondi ukuba le nto "ayibonayo" yahlukile kuleyo bayibonayo abathathi-nxaxheba, ngengqondo yokuba babona into ethandwayo, ngelixa yena ebona into yokwabelana ngesondo kwaye ethatha inxaxheba. Kumntu ongazange athabathe nto, kodwa abukele iphonografi ngokungaguquguqukiyo, ndaye ndakholelwa ekubeni xa ujonga umfazi ofuna ukulala naye, kufanelekile ukuba umbone njengesiqwenga senyama. Ndaye ndakholelwa ukuba abantu ngesiquphe babeneminqweno yezilwanyana yokuhlaba inyama, ngaphandle kokuvuma okanye ukuqonda ubuntu bomnye umntu. Lo ngumbono onzima kakhulu ukuwucacisa ebantwini, kuba xa ndisithi "iqhekeza lenyama," uninzi lwabantu luthathela ingqalelo ukuba ndicinga ukuba ndingumfuziselo omncinci. Kodwa inyani kukuba bendicinga ukuba amadoda nabafazi abalala ngesondo baba zizilwanyana imizuzu engamashumi amathathu yosuku lwabo kwaye babenomdla onzulu wokubeka amalungu angasese emilonyeni yabo ngenxa yabo. Isenzo, ndicinge ukuba, ayinantsingiselo inzulu; bekunguye, emehlweni am, kwinqanaba lokuchasa, ukuchama, okanye ukutya iitshiphusi zetapile. Yinto nje oyenzayo. Ukuthintela kuphela kwesizathu sokuba ndicinge ukuba wonke umntu akalali omnye nomnye.
Oku kubeka uphawu olubi kakhulu kuyo yonke into enxulumene nokwabelana ngesondo, ngakumbi kulutsha olunomdla njengam. Kukho iwebhusayithi echaza ukuqonda kwam into entsha abayenzayo abantu kwigumbi lokulala, ekuthiwa makelovenotporn.com. Kwizinto eziqhelekileyo zoononophala, andizange ndibone ukumanga, ukubamba, ukugubungela, ukuxubana kunye nothando. Andizange ndibone iiyure kunye neeyure zokuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo ezibandakanyekileyo emva kokuqhekeka. Okanye iminyaka yokwabelana ngasese ngokusondeleyo. Okanye izinto ezifihlakeleyo njengokuvusa inkanuko ngobuhle bezandla zowesifazane, okanye ngamehlo akhe, okanye ngoncumo lwakhe. Ukukhula kwi-porn kubangele ukuba ndibone isini njengokuhlazisa kwaye kungenanto, hayi isenzo sothando. Akukho mntu unokuqonda uhlobo lomonakalo wengqondo obangela ingqondo encinci. Iphonografi ijika eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuncanca.
2. Iphonografi = inkanuko yesini; ubomi bokwenyani = uthando kunye neemvakalelo zothando. Xa ubukela iphonografi, iimvakalelo ozifumanayo AKUKHO mvakalelo uyifumana ngesondo lokwenyani. Iphonografi ngandlela thile yahlula uthando kwisini. Njengokuba abantwana bengaqondi ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba kwisenzo baneemvakalelo ezinzulu zentlonipho kunye nothando kumaqabane abo (njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla), bakwacinga ukuba inkanuko yesini emsulwa Baziva ngelixa bebukele iphonografi ikwayimvakalelo efanayo uya kufumana ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo lokwenyani. Oku kukonyusa ukungavisisani ngesondo. Kwandikhokelela ekubeni ndikholelwe ukuba bekufanele ndive into efanayo kumntu wobomi bokwenyani njengoko ndenzayo ngelixa ndibukele iphonografi, ethi ekugqibeleni ihlazise ubuntu.
3. Ukuvuswa koononophala ku-400X kunamandla ngakumbi kunokuvusa ubomi boqobo. Uninzi lwavusiweyo oluvakalelwa kwi-pornos lugqithiselwa ngobomi bokwenene ngemvakalelo efudumeleyo yothando.
4. Izinto ezenziwa ngabadlali kwi-porn, uninzi lwabantu aluzenzi ebomini bokwenyani. Uninzi lwabantu abanesidima banemida kubomi bokwenyani. Ndenza uqikelelo apha, kodwa andikholelwa ekubeni abantu kubomi bokwenyani banomnqweno wokuncancisa i-ejaculate ukusuka kwi-rectum yamaqabane abo kwaye benze nabo (felching), bahambise ulwimi lwabo kwirektamu yomntu (rimming), ebusweni umntu othile, yenza amadlozi amaqabane abo (ibhola ekhatywayo), okanye kuphela umntu oyindoda afafaze ubuso bawo ngamadlozi (ii-facial). Kumfana osemtsha ongaliqondiyo igama elithi “ukusondelelana” ezi zenzo azibonisi uthando kodwa zihlazisa kwaye zihlisa isidima.
5. Ukuba abantu kubomi bokwenene BENZA izinto umfana azibonayo kwi-porn, bahlala bezenza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ayisiyiyo le nto bayenzayo apha ebaluleke kangangendlela abayenza ngayo. Abantu kwihlabathi lokwenyani banokubona isondo ngomlomo njengolwandiso lokuncamisa amaqabane abo, kuyo yonke indawo. Kwimifanekiso engamanyala, ii-blowjobs zibi kwaye ziyathoba kwaye zifana nezilwanyana. Imfumba yokuqhuba kwi-porn inomdla kwaye imnandi; kubomi bokwenyani, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ayonwabisi kwaye ineentloni.
6. Iphonografi ngokwengqondo iyahlula umbukeli, ikhuphe ubungqina obuvela engqondweni yakhe. Uba ngabantu ababini, umlindi kunye nxaxheba. Ngokwenene ukuhlukanisa kuye kuye kumnciphisa amandla akhe okuthatha izinto ezithandwayo.
Kukho umxholo ophambili kuwo onke la manqaku malunga ne-porn, yeyokuba iphonografi yahlula uthando kwisini. Kubomi bokwenyani, nokuba abantu ababini abangathandaniyo babelana ngesondo, basenza into abanokuyenza ukuba bebethandana. Abantu abathi bayabhaqa amantombazana ashushu kodwa benza uthando kwiintombi zabo abazama ngokuyintloko ukuzama ukuba eyokuqala ingamanga engathandani, kodwa eyokugqibela iyayithanda i-smooch. Ukwanga kukuncamisa. Zimbalwa iindlela endinokucinga ngazo zenze ubundlobongela. Kuyafana nakubomi bokwenyani obuhloniphekileyo, ngokwesini esivumayo. Kwelinye icala lesiphelo, abanye "ubudlelwane" bunokuba bokwabelana ngesondo ngakumbi kunothando (okt, "abahlobo abangabahlobo"), kwaye kwelinye icala banokuba nothando ngakumbi kunokwabelana ngesondo (okt., “Romeo noJuliet”). Kodwa kuyo nayiphi na imeko egqithileyo, akukho bomi bobomi bokwenyani obungenalo kwaphela uthando okanye inkanuko. Zonke zidityanisiwe zombini. Abantu abancinci kufuneka bakuqonde oku, ngenxa yoko iikhampasi zabo zokuziphatha azingqubeki njengam.
simkele kwaye sibulele ngokuqonda
Amanqaku oza nawo (1-6) zezona mpikiswano ziphambili zidweliswe ziingcali ezininzi ezichaphazelekayo kunye neewebhusayithi "ezichasene ne-porn". Esinye sezizathu zokuba singaphicothi ukuprintwa kwengqondo kukuba uninzi lwezinye iisayithi kunye neengcali zenza. Umsebenzi wethu kukubhala malunga noko sikwaziyo kunye nokufundisa uluntu kwi-neurobiology yeziyobisi.
Okwesibini, izifundo ezimbalwa (eziyilwe kakubi) zibonisa ukuba i-porn ayenzi le nto uyichazayo. Ukuba sivelisa amanqaku akho asemthethweni, abachasi badwelise uluhlu lwezifundo ezimbalwa ezijongwe ngoontanga ukuphikisa la manqaku.
Yazi, ndicinga ukuba ungaphezulu kokuchanekileyo. Ngamaphepha emibuzo angabhalwanga kakuhle angabonakalisi nyaniso. Ukubuza ulutsha ngendlela abacinga ngayo ukuba iphonografi iyabachaphazela bathanda intlanzi bacinga ntoni ngamanzi. Inyaniso ibonwa kakuhle kulawo mawaka amadoda aselula aphulukana nobukhoboka be-porn, okanye ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-porn.
Sixhalabile kakhulu kukushicilelwa kwengqondo. Kukhulu kakhulu. Indawo yam inxibelelana nokubonakala kuyo yonke indawo. Ndifunde amawaka emisonto, eminye inamawaka ezithuba, isuka kumazwe angama-30 ahlukeneyo. Ndiyakuqinisekisa yonke into oyithethileyo.
Akhongxaki
Emva kokufunda impendulo yakho, ndaya "kwimifanekiso engamanyala yengqondo" ndaza ndaqala ukufunda lonke uphando. Ndothukile ukubafumana bethetha ezona zinto ndizithethileyo, ngamanye amaxesha nangolwimi olunye. Andiqinisekanga ngendlela yokwahlulahlula imiphumo yamanyala kubuntu bam bendalo okanye iihormone. Ndiyathetha, wonke umntu usabela ngokwahlukileyo. Xa ndiqala ukubukela iphonografi, kwakucacile kum ukuba into endandiyibukele yayihleliwe. Kodwa njengoko izinto ziqhubeka, umgca phakathi kwesini esakhiweyo kunye nesokwenyani kwiteyiphu saqala ukufiphala. Ezinye iividiyo zibonise abantu ababecacile, kodwa ngokucacileyo babezazi ukuba zirekhodwe ngomnye umntu egumbini.
Kutheni le nto iphonografi indichaphazele ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunabanye ihlala ingaziwa. Ngaba kunokuba nento yokwenza nento yokuba abanye abantu baqala ukuwa amantombazana kanye ngexesha elinye abaqala ngalo ukujonga iphonografi? Oku kuya kulwa nayo nayiphi na imbono ephosakeleyo abanayo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo okwenyani. Mhlawumbi banobuntu obuncinci, okanye mhlawumbi abacingi nzulu. Kutheni le nto ama-porn hook abanye abantu hayi mna? Emva konyaka wam wokugqibela ekholejini, ndayeka ukujonga ngaphandle kwengxaki. Andizange ndikhe ndiyeke ngomzamo; Ndikhule nje kuyo.
Isimanga kukuba ukuba abantwana bafuna ngokwenene ukwazi ukuba bafanele bazive njani xa befuna ukwenza uthando nomntu, bangangcono xa bebukela iimovie ezinje nge "Titanic," "Good Will Hunting," okanye "Forrest Gump. ” Iphonografi iyabaxeka kwaye ngandlel 'ithile isusa uthando olunxibelelene ngokungathandabuzekiyo kunye nokwabelana ngesondo okwenyani, ngokungaqhelekanga okanye hayi.
Esinye isizathu esinokubangela zonke ezi ngxaki emadodeni abukela iphonografi kukuba kukho ixesha elithile kubomi bendoda xa isini singekho ngothando, apho ukuvuswa kwakhe akuva thando kwaphela. Nokuba ucinga kangakanani "ngothando" akanako ukuvuswa. Kuya kufuneka acinge into ethile kunye ne-visceral ukuze avuswe. Le paradox phakathi kothando kunye nokwabelana ngesondo ayisiyonto ejongene nabasetyhini, andicingi. Oku kuyandicacisela ukuba kutheni abafana bengahlali bekhulisa "ukutyumza" kakhulu njengamantombazana. Oku kukwacacisa ukuba kutheni abafana benakho ukulala ngesondo ngokungaqhelekanga kunabafazi, okanye kutheni abafana benokuvuswa ngokulula kuphela kwimiboniso, ngelixa abasetyhini bedinga uhlobo oluthile lwephepha leemvakalelo ukuya kuvuthondaba.
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Ukusuka kwesi sithuba sokudibana kwakhona - Impembelelo ecacileyo ye-intanethi ye-intanethi
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Amazwana: Senza iinkumbulo ezinamandla xa siselula
Nge-20 kaJulayi, ngo-2012 kwiPsychology & Psychiatry
“Imemori elungileyo? Kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo njengomntu ofikisayo. ” Nge-20 kaJulayi, 2012. http://medicalxpress.com/news/2012-07-memory-youre-teen.html
Incoko evezwe kwibhasi yandenza ndenze kakubi kuwe
"Ukuthumelelana imiyalezo nemifanekiso yamanyala ngefowuni" kwakhona kunxulunyaniswa nesondo eliyingozi kulutsha
"Ukuthumelelana imiyalezo nemifanekiso yamanyala ngefowuni" kwakhona kunxulunyaniswa nesondo eliyingozi kulutsha
By Genevra Pittman
ENEW YORK (Reuters Health) - Omnye kwabafundi abasixhenxe baseLos Angeles abaphethe iselfowuni uthumele umyalezo okanye iifoto ezibonisa ngesondo, ngokweziphumo zophando lowe-2011 ekwafumaniseka ukuba "abathumelelana imiyalezo nemifanekiso engamanyala" indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo.
Kwisifundo esitsha, ulutsha lwe-LA olwaluthumele imibhalo ye-racy lwalunamathuba aphindwe kasixhenxe okuba babelane ngesondo kunabo bathi ngekhe bathumele imiyalezo yamanyala.
“Akukho mntu uza kufumana isifo esidluliselwa ngeentlobano zesini kuba bathumela imiyalezo ngefowuni,” watsho uEric Rice, umphandi wezonxibelelwano kwiYunivesithi yaseSouthern California eLos Angeles, owayekhokele kolu phando.
"Eyona nto besifuna ukuyazi yile, ngaba kukho unxibelelwano phakathi kokuthumela imiyalezo nemifanekiso engathandekiyo nokuthatha umngcipheko ngomzimba wakho? Impendulo ithi 'ewe,' utshilo uxelele iReuters Health.
Uhlolisiso lwe-Houston, eTexas, izikolo eziphakamileyo ngaphaya kweli hlotyana lafunyanwa ngumntu oneminyaka emine ubudala uye wathumela isithombe sazo ngokwazo ngomyalezo wesicatshulwa okanye i-imeyile, kwaye abo bana bantwana banakho amathuba okuba nobulili obuyingozi. (Jonga indaba ye-Reuters ye-July 2, 2012).
Iziphumo zerayisi, ezipapashwe ngoMvulo kwiphephancwadi iPediatrics, zisekwe kubafundi abayi-1,839 kwizikolo eziphakamileyo zaseLos Angeles, uninzi lwabo belunguLatino. Iikota ezintathu kubo babeneselfowuni ababeyisebenzisa rhoqo.
Kuphononongo oluxhaswe ngamaZiko okuLawula nokuKhuselwa kwezifo, ngaphezulu nje kweepesenti ezingama-40 zolutsha olunefowuni eyathi zalala ngesondo, kwaye malunga nesibini kwisithathu basebenzise ikhondom xa begqibile.
URice uthe izinga lokuthumelelana imiyalezo nemifanekiso yamabhinqa akwishumi elivisayo eHouston kusenokwenzeka ukuba laliphakame kancinci kunaseLos Angeles ngenxa yomahluko wabantu-kodwa ezo ngxelo zombini ziyahambelana.
"Indawo ethile embindini mhlawumbi luqikelelo olulungileyo lwezinto ezenzekayo kuzwelonke," utshilo uJeff Temple, ugqirha wezengqondo kunye nomphandi wezempilo wabasetyhini ovela kwiYunivesithi yaseTexas Medical Branch eGalveston owayesebenza kuphando lwaseHouston.
Uphando lwakhe lufumanise ukuba amantombazana ngakumbi abo babethumele iifoto ze zezo zinto kunokwenzeka ukuba babandakanyeke kwisondo eliyingozi, ukuba babe namaqabane amaninzi esondo okanye basebenzise utywala neziyobisi ngaphambi kwesondo.
"Ukuthumelelana imiyalezo nemifanekiso yamanyala ngefowuni kubonakala ngathi kukubonisa indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo," utshilo u-Temple uxelele iReuters Health.
"Into abayenzayo kubomi babo be-intanethi bayenza kubomi babo be-Intanethi."
Ilayisi yavuma ukuba yayiyeyona nto ibalulekileyo yokufumana kuzo zombini ezi zifundo. "Oko kunokuba yinto engekhoyo kwabanye abazali, kodwa inokothusa kwabanye," utshilo.
"Le yindlela abaziphatha ngayo iqaqobana labakwishumi elivisayo, kodwa ke elo qaqobana libandakanyeka kwiqela lezenzo zokuziphatha kakubi ngokwesondo… hayi nje ngefowuni."
Ngokuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni, kukho inkxalabo yokuba iifoto ze zize ziphele kwi-Intanethi kwaye ulutsha luya kuxhatshazwa kwi-Intanethi, okanye abafundi abafumana izicatshulwa ezicacileyo banokuhlawuliswa imifanekiso engamanyala yabantwana.
Abaphandi basenemibuzo emininzi malunga nokuthumelelana imiyalezo nemifanekiso yamanyala ngefowuni, kubandakanya nokuba yeyiphi na abafundi abakwaziyo ukuthumela imiyalezo kunye nokuba zeziphi ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha okanye ezobuntu ezinokuthi zixhaphake phakathi kwabantu abathumela imiyalezo ngefowuni. UTempile kunye noogxa bakhe ngoku basebenza kufundo ukuze babone ukuba yintoni eza kuqala phakathi kolutsha-ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni okanye isondo.
Okwangoku, uRice uthe abazali kunye nootitshala banakho ukusebenzisa imithombo yeendaba yosasazo lwamva nje okanye ezopolitiko bathumele impikiswano njengendawo yokuthetha nolutsha malunga nokuthumela imiyalezo kunye nokwabelana ngesondo okwenyani- ngakumbi kuba ezi zinto zimbini zidibene kakhulu.
"Ukuthumelelana imiyalezo nemifanekiso yamanyala ngefowuni kungayincoko elula kootitshala ukuba baqale ukuba nolutsha kunokuba incoko iqala, 'Masithethe ngesondo,' utshilo.
SOURCE: bit.ly/jsoh2P I-Pediatrics, kwi-intanethi yeSeptemba 17, i-2012.
Yiyo yonke into esiyaziyo, ukusukela thina
ayikaze eve nge-intanethi kude kube ngumnyaka wam
KUFUNDA; Ukuguqulwa kwedijithali kunye nokuziphendukela kwengqondo kwintsholongwane.
Ukuguqulwa kwedijithali kunye nokuziphendukela kwengqondo kwintsholongwane.
imvelaphi
Icandelo lokuBalingiswa kweBongo, iSebe leNzululwazi yengqondo, iZiko leSizwe lezeMpilo yengqondo, iBetdada, eMaryland, eU.SA.
Abstract
Inkqubela phambili emangalisayo kubuchwephesha obenza ukuhanjiswa kunye nokusetyenziswa kolwazi oluncanyathiselwe ngokulandelelana kwidijithali kwe-1s okanye i-0s kuyitshintshe kakhulu indlela yethu yokuphila. Abafikisayo, badala ngokwaneleyo ukuba baphumelele ubuchwephesha kunye nabaselula ngokwaneleyo ukuba bamkele ubutsha babo, baphambili kolu “hlaziyo lwedijithali.” Isiseko sokwamkelwa kolutsha olufikisayo kwezi nguqu zitshintshayo yinkqubo ye-neurobiology eyenzelwe yimililo yendaleko ukuze ibe nobuchule obukhulu kulungelelwaniso. Iziphumo zokuziqhelanisa nengqondo kwiimfuno kunye namathuba obudala bedijithali anefuthe elikhulu kubasebenzi bezempilo abafikisayo.
Ipapashwe ngu-Elsevier Inc.
Ubomi obulibaleke ngabaninzi
GUY 2)
GUY 3)
isicatshulwa ngokwesondo malunga ne-2nd graders
Ingxelo evela kuminyaka eyi-50 ubudala
Ingxelo evela kuminyaka eyi-45 ubudala
Asisayizibona ngobungakanani bendoda
Ukugcoba nge-vibrator ngexesha elidala kwakha i-ED engapheliyo
Abazali bam banginika ulawulo lwe-0 ngeekhomputha
UGabe ukhumbula ingxoxo kunye ne-15 ubudala
Re: UGabe (iminyaka eyi-25) kunye noGary baxoxe ngokufumana ukufumana ukuphuhliswa kwe-ED
Oku kulandelayo kubhalwe nguGabe Ukuqalisa kwakhona isizwe. UGabe udla ngokuthetha nentsha, kwaye oku kukukhumbula kwakhe ingxoxo kunye nomnyaka we-15.
Yimpendulo yalo mbuzo:
-Ewe, abanye babo bayayazi le nto ayenzayo. Khange angene kwindlela abasabela ngayo, kodwa wathi lo mfo akakhathali.
Nayi inxalenye yethu yencoko ecacileyo oku:
Mna: "Ngoko wonke umntu esikolweni sakho ufumana i-laptop yakhe ngokufanelekileyo?"
Umntwana: "yea"
Mna: “bayayivala i-facebook kunye ne-twitter ukugcina i-yall ingabikho imini yonke, ukuthumela malunga nokuba isikolo sidinisa njani, okanye unqwenela kangakanani ukuba ubudlala ekhaya ubiza umsebenzi? (umdlalo wevidiyo) ”
Intsha: "haha bayazama, kodwa wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ajikeleze ibhloko, athi xa sibanjwa (kwi-facebook) uyathunyelwa eofisini, kodwa ayiyi kubuyiselwa loo nto. Bathi baya kusebenzisa iakhawunti yomntu onobungane kunye neqela labafundi baze babone bonke abahlala kwi-intanethi bazigubungele, kodwa musa ukwenza. "
Mna: "Yaye yinto eyenzeka ngayo nathi xa i-Xanga kunye ne-MySpace kuqala ikhulu. Sacinga indlela yokujikeleza iibhloko zazo kwiintsuku ze-2. Kuthekani ngeefowuni, ndiyazi ukuba wonke umntu usefowuni yabo yonke imini kwaye angayifumana kwi-intanethi kubo? "
Umntwana: "O ngokuqinisekileyo haha, ndiyathetha ukuba ezinye iifowuni zithatha ifowuni yazo, kodwa amaninzi amaxesha afuna ukuba siwabeke. Sithi yei mam kwaye emva kwee-5 imizuzwana emva kokuthumela i-tweet malunga nokuvalwa kohlobo haha "
Mna: “mandikubuze le nto… bangaphi abafana esikolweni ababukela iphonografi kwiifowuni zabo, okanye kwiilaptops?”
Umntwana: "O man, toni. Ayikho yonke into kwii-laptops kodwa malunga nomntu wonke kwiifowuni zazo. "
Mna: "Ewe yiloo nto endicinga ukuba uya kuthi, ndiyibheja ukuba yenza okulungileyo phakathi kweklasi elungileyo?"
Umntwana: "lonke ... ixesha ... ixesha. Akukho mahlazo lo mntu uhlala emva kwam kwaye ekhangele ngeso ifowuni kwiphitshi lakhe lonke iklasi lijonga iividiyo. Akabakhathaleli ngubani ombonayo. "
Mna: "Lindani, nangona amantombazana embona?"
Umntwana: "Ewe unokunyamekela xa intombazana ibona, yena kunye nabahlobo bakhe bacinga ukuba kuyamangalisa."
Mna: "Kumele ube nzima kwiklasi ukuba uqaphele ukuba uyazi ukuba kuyaqhubeka kanye nawe."
Umntwana: "Ngokwenene! Ndingumfana, unamantombazana amnandi ahlezi ngeenxa zonke kuwe, kwaye uhleli apho efonini yakho ekhangela kwisikrini, ayinangqiqo. "
Mna: "haha akukho, akunakudala kangakanani xa uqala ukubonwa ngoonwabo?"
Umntwana: "Eh, kwakukho ihlobo ngaphambi kwe-5th kwibanga xa ndaya endlwini yomhlobo; wayenombutho walo kwi Xbox yakhe. "
Mna: "Ewe umyinge ophakathi kweminyaka eyi-10 ubudala ngoku kubafana, kudibana. Yayinjani isikolo esiphakathi, kuba iiphones ziye zajikeleza ngokukhawuleza ngoku. "
Umntwana: "Isikolo esiphakathi sasifanayo, mhlawumbi sibi kakhulu. Kwakukho amaxesha ambalwa kwinqanaba le-7th xa abafana beza kufaka ifowuni yabo phakathi kwetafile yasesidlo sasemini kwaye bonke abantu babeza kutyhawula ngeenxa zonke kwaye babukele. "
Siphakathi kwindyikitya ebhubhisa izigidi zabantu, injongo yam ukwenza intsholongwane emva kokujonga ulwazi oluqhelekileyo lwezono.
mncinci ukuba ndilale ngesondo, kodwa ndafumanisa i-intanethi ye-intanethi
Kuvakala ngathi ngekhe ndoneliseke ndide ndizame izinto
ndaphinda ndivuselele ingqondo yam, nciphise ukuchaswa kweso
Emva kweminyaka eyi-6 yokungafani nokuziphatha okubi ngokwesini,
Andizange ndizimisele ngokwenene ukwabelana nantoni na ebhalayo, kodwa mhlawumbi oku kuya kunceda umntu.
Yintoni eqhelekileyo kwakhona?
Ndingu-27yo onyanzelwe ukuba abukele iphonografi kwi-4-6yo
Ileta yokuxolisa
ukuxhalaba emva kweentsuku ze-20, kodwa ukumbamba umntakwethu kwisenzo sokunceda
Ngeminyaka eyi-10 ndaqala ukukhangela i-intanethi ukukhangela amagama
I-Porn indifundise ukuba ukuba indoda yayingumngcipheko.
Ngaphambi kokuba ndiqalise konke oku, ndandijonga iindlovu nje ngezesondo
Kukho umahluko okhoyo phakathi kokubukela i-vanilla encinane
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokugqithisileyo, ukuthemba kwam
Ngoku ndiyifumana kwiYANYE. Gore, i-snuff, i-hardcore anal, i-prolapses
Iinyanga ze-2 Iprostitute Simahla! Kwabo bacinga ukusebenzisa
P ayinyani.
Ndizama ukuyeka iphonografi
KUFANELE UFUNYE UKUNCEDA
Ingaba: Ngaba iidemon ziguqula ubuntu bakho?
Ingaba: Ngaba iidemon ziguqula ubuntu bakho?
Oku, oku kunye nalokhu.
notfeelingit
Ngaphambi koThutho
Khange ndicinge ukuba ndilikhoboka
kodwa bonke babenomlutha, kwaye bayazi ukuba kufuneka bayeke.
Into endiyifunayo kwiifostile
Into endiyifunayo kwiifostile
by kutywalaiintsuku 21
NguKrowgiintsuku 37
Ungalibali "omnye" umphumo ombi we-porn.
Ngaba kukho nabaphi na abahleli kwakhona abalishumi elinambini abaqala i-nofap? AWUKHO wedwa
wayengenamlutha, kodwa undichaphazele ngayo yonke enye indlela
Ndiyindoda eneminyaka eyi-26 (inqaku kumadoda amancinci, i-porn kunye nesondo)
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/reader-comments/p/comment/link/43647381
Ndiyiminyaka eyi-15 ubudala kwaye i-sex drive yam iyancipha
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1vlk0o/kids_access_to_porn/
Uhlaziyo. Yisiphi iphosi ebonakalayo kwingqondo yethu.
Ubudala 16 - Iidemon aziyonxalenye yoBomi bam kwakhona
Iimathebhu kunye nokulandwa kunye nemifudlana kunye njl njl njl njl njl njl njl njl njl njln njl
ukususela kwi-r / nofap
Kutheni ndimise (17 yo)
Kutheni ndimise (17 yo)
Le nto yatshintshile ubuchopho bethu kwaye konke kuyaqondakala
I-Sexual Sex iyangena kwi-Sex Real ngaphakathi kwigumbi lokulala
I-Sexual Sex iyangena kwi-Sex Real ngaphakathi kwigumbi lokulala
Emva kwexesha lokuyeka, uyawubona umonakalo owenziwa zii-Porn
Umonakalo weP endibonayo ngoku
Kwiintsuku ze-40, ndicinga ukuba isondo sasiyingozi ngenxa yam PMO
Kwiintsuku ze-40, ndicinga ukuba isondo sasiyingozi ngenxa yam PMO
Iifoto ziqhelekile namhlanje
… Akukho xesha ndakhe ndaxelelwa ukuba iphonografi imbi- yayamkelekile / yamkelekile eluntwini, nokuba kulindelwe, kwi-PMO. iziqhulo ezingapheliyo kwimithombo yeendaba eziqhelekileyo zomeleze umbono wokuba konke kuqhelekile. kwaye njengomntu okhulele kwisizukulwana sokuqala sabasebenzisi be-intanethi, andazi nto eyahlukileyo. I-porn iqhelekile.
Ndicinga ukuba ndiyazi ngokungazi ukuba iphonografi eyonakalisayo yayilixesha elide kangakanani. Ndiza kujonga emva kweeyure zokuhlela ukuya kwi-porno eyothusayo, kwaye ndiziva ndinentloni. Ndingazifumana sele ndilele namantombazana ephethe i-lick dick yam ngesandla sam, ndicela uxolo- soloko ndinezizathu (ukusela kakhulu, ukungalali ngokwaneleyo, ukungabinanto esiswini.) ndiphelele njani apha? ndisukaphi apha? bendinemibuzo kuphela ngaphandle kweempendulo….
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2hpqo3/90_days/
Abantu baxhamla kakhulu ngoonwabo!
Abantu baxhamla kakhulu ngoonwabo!
Abantu abaneminyaka eyi-16 akufuneki babelane ngesondo njengabantu abakwimifanekiso engamanyala.
Eyona nto inzima endakha ndayichwetheza. (Iya kukukhuthaza)
Ubungakanani bePenis obuyinkxalabo yam enkulu
Ubungakanani bePenis obuyinkxalabo yam enkulu
Ndandicinga ukuba ndiyi-asexual.
Ndandicinga ukuba ndiyi-asexual.
Umlingo wesihlanu wezilonda zocwangco
Umlingo wesihlanu wezilonda zocwangco
I-PMO ilinda izakhono zakho zentlalo
I-PMO ilinda izakhono zakho zentlalo