Kuphunzitsa ubongo pa nkhani za kugonana makamaka makamaka paunyamata
(Chidziwitso: Onani ambiri ndemanga pansipa)
Ndi zachilendo kwa ana kufuna kuphunzira zambiri zokhudza kugonana, makamaka pa nthawi ya kutha msinkhu ndi unyamata. Apa ndipamene kubereka kumakhala kofunika kwambiri muubongo. Pachifukwa ichi titha kuthokoza zenizeni zakukula kwaubongo wachinyamata.
Ganizirani za anyani a m'nkhalango akuwonerera gulu lina losangalatsa kotero kuti (kapena iye, mwa mitundu ina) asiyane ndi anzawo, ndikupirira kuponyedwa ndi mivi yopanda ogwirizana pansi pa gulu lina lankhondo - zonsezo mwayi kuti muzipititsa patsogolo ndi zotentha zosangalatsa m'tsogolomu. Zinthu zomwe majini athu amachita kuti atsimikizire kuti pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya zamoyo.
Tsopano, mwamsanga kupita kwa mnyamata wamng'ono kuti apeze zatsopano zoganizira za intaneti:
Ndinayamba kuyang'ana zolaula za pa intaneti ndili ndi zaka 11. Nthawi yomweyo ndinayamba kuzolowera, ndipo ndimakhala ndikuwona zolaula tsiku lililonse. Kungowona mabere owonekera kunali kokwanira kundichotsa. Koma posakhalitsa, ndinayamba kulakalaka kuti ndiyambenso kuchita zolaula. Zinayamba ndi mitundu yosiyanasiyana, kenako olembetsa, kenako mapesi amadzi, kenako kuwaza / beastiality / BDSM / tranny. Ndipo kuphatikiza kulikonse pamwambapa kuti muthe kupanga zolaula zodwala kwambiri ndizoganiza. Ndikukumbukira nditakhala pasukulu ndikulingalira zolaula zodwala zomwe ndimatha kusaka usikuwo.
Kodi ndi chiyani chokhudzaubongo wachinyamata chomwe chimapangitsa zomwe zimachitikira mnyamatayu kukhala zachilendo? Yankho: Munthawi yaunyamata kusamvana kwakanthawi kwamitsempha kumayamba. "Kugonana, mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi rock & roll" gawo laubongo latha. Gawo la "tiyeni tiganizirepo" gawo ili likumangidwabe, ndipo silitha kufikira uchikulire.
Njira iyi yamakhalidwe oyipa komanso yowopsa imakonzanso ubongo wa achinyamata ena-zinyama nawonso. Ndi njira yokhazikitsira kuyendetsa ufulu wodziletsa zomwe zinyama zazing'ono zambiri zimafunikira mukamayang'ana anzawo ndikupanga madera. Pakusanthula kwaubwino wamaubongo, sikelo ikudikira kwenikweni mphoto zotheka.
Pali wokankha ngakhale. Kutha kwa mwana wathu wachinyamata kulumikizana ndi bowa watsopano wazaka 11 kapena 12. Pakadali pano kulumikizana kwatsopano (ma synapses) mabiliyoni kumabweretsa mwayi wambiri. Komabe, akakula ubongo wake umayenera kudulira ma neural circry kuti amusiye ndi zisankho zingapo. Pofika zaka makumi awiri, mwina sangakhale anatsamira ndi zogonana zomwe zimagwera pa nthawi ya unyamata, koma zimatha kukhala ngati zovuta zakuya mu ubongo wake-osati mosavuta kunyalanyaza kapena kugwirizananso.
Nkhani zokhudzana ndi kugonana zambiri paunyamata kuposa nthawi ina iliyonse m'moyo. Tsopano, onjezerani ku chowonadi chowopsya madzi amadzimadzi owonekera pakhoma lamasiku ano omwe amapezeka pampopi wa chala. Kodi ndizosadabwitsa kuti achinyamata ena amangokhalira kulumikizana pafupipafupi m'malo mwa omwe angakhale okwatirana nawo? Kapena kutumizira mawu awo okhudzana ndi kugonana pazinthu zosagwirizana ndi zomwe amakonda? Kapena samalani kuti asokoneze ubongo wawo-ndikulowa zolaula?
Zodabwitsa ndizakuti, kodi ndinu mnyamata wokumbukira zaka zanu zaunyamata — komanso momwe simukadakwanira kufikira zaka zomwezo? Mwina mukuganiza kuti zolaula pa intaneti zikadakhala zatsopano. Ngati ndi choncho, werengani nkhani ziwiri izi: Zosangalatsa, Zachilendo ndi zotsatira za Coolidge ndi Zomwe Zilipo Pakadali pano: Mwalandiridwa ku Maphunziro a Ubongo. Zolaula, zomwe zilipo, momwe amaperekedwera, komanso zomwe zingayambitse ubongo zasintha kwambiri. Kwa ogwiritsa ntchito masiku ano, chiwonetsero chochulukirapo chimatha kubweretsa osakhutira pang'ono.
Ubongo wa achinyamata umasiyana ndi ubongo wamkulu
Pamene ife tinakumba mu kufufuza kwa ubongo pa achinyamata, tinadabwa kuona kuti ubongo wa achinyamata ndi wotani. Kusintha kwakukulu mu chikhalidwe cha kugonana kunawagunda kwambiri. Pano pali zovuta zinayi zosiyana ndi ubongo wa achinyamata:
1. Wamphamvu kwambiri "Pita ukatenge!" zizindikiro
Oyang'anira mphotho ndiye maziko azoyendetsa zonse (kuphatikiza libido), zotengeka, zomwe amakonda, zomwe sakonda, zolimbikitsa ... Muunyamata, mahomoni ogonana amachititsa kuti madera akalewa azikhala osakhazikika, omwe amayamba kumapeto kwa zaka makumi awiri. Monga mtolankhani David Dobbs akufotokoza.
Tonsefe timakonda zinthu zatsopano komanso zosangalatsa, koma sitiziona kuti ndizofunika kwambiri kuposa zomwe timachita tili achinyamata. Apa tikupita patsogolo pazomwe asayansi amakhalidwe amatcha kufunafuna chidwi: kusaka kwa buzz ya neural, kugwedezeka kwachilendo kapena kosayembekezereka. … Chikondi ichi chakusangalatsa chimakwera pazaka zapakati pa 15.
Kuzindikira kwa ubongo ku dopamine, "Mukumvetsa!" ma neurochemical crests, omwe amalimbikitsa kufunafuna zachilendo, amaposa oyang'anira, ndikuthandizira kuphatikiza maphunziro ndi zizoloŵezi.
Ndipotu, ubongo wa achinyamata umayankha chilichonse chomwe chimakondweretsa kawiri kapena kawiri kuwonetsa mphoto kwa okalamba chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa mphamvu zawo za dopamine komanso ziphuphu zazikulu za dopamine. Zosangalatsa zonse ndikufufuza / kufunafuna mankhwala otchedwa dopamine in onse ubongo waumunthu, koma kuthekera kosatha kwa cyber erotica kumatsimikizira kukopa kosaletseka kwa achinyamata ambiri.
Nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndinayang'ana pa otentha zithunzizo zikuoneka kuti sizinali zochokera m'dziko lino lapansi, zosatheka. Mwadzidzidzi ndinadziwa kuti pali chinthu choyenera kukhala nacho, china chirichonse chinali chokhumudwitsa, moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndinathawa mankhwala osokoneza bongo: zolaula ndi maliseche. Sizinali zachilendo kuonera zolaula kwa maola ambiri pa tsiku.
“Zosatheka?” Inde. Achinyamata amatha kulembetsa chilakolako chogonana, ndi zina zambiri, monga zochitika zosakumbukira, zosakumbukika. kuti ndichifukwa chake mukukumbukirabe tsatanetsatane wonyezimira woyamba uja. Koma pali umboni wina wokhudzidwa ndi zosangalatsa. (Dinani tchati kuti mukulitse.)
Kalanga, chidwi chawo chambiri cholozetsa mphotho chimapatsa achinyamata chiwopsezo chambiri chokhala ndi chizolowezi chomaliza kuposa zomwe anakumana nazo m'moyo wamtsogolo.
2. Kuchepetsa kutengeka kwa chidziwitso
Popeza tidakhala Lachisanu usiku kusewera "World of Warcraft" mpaka 4AM, ndikutsuka magawo asanu ndi atatu a pizza ndi chikwama cha Dorritos chokhala ndi mapaketi sikisi a Mountain Dew, ngwazi yathu ili wokonzeka kuzichita zonse Loweruka usiku. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti achinyamata ali osachepera pang'ono ndi zizindikiro zowonjezera. Kuponderezedwa ndi ntchito yoyendetsera mphoto, ndipo achinyamata amatha kusamalira madzi ambiri asanayambe kuyendetsa maulendo awo
Zidabwitseni chifukwa chake Achinyamata ochepa kwambiri (kugonana)2 = Bokosi la Chilimwe-Malo Ogwira Ntchito? Zonse zimatsikira ku zodabwitsa za ubongo. Nzosadabwitsa kuti zithunzi zolaula zomwe achikulire zimawona ngati zododometsa, "eeeew," kapena zachiwawa, zimadziwika kuti ndizosangalatsa achinyamata. Komanso kumbukirani kuti achinyamata sangathe kutenga zina Maganizo a anthu kuganizira (ngakhale ochita masewera oipa).
Pamene ndinali 14/15 ndinakumana ndi zolaula [zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha] ndikufufuza pa intaneti. Ndimakumbukirabe mawonekedwe atsopanowo. China chake chimangolowa muubongo wanga wachinyamata. Zolaula zonse zowongoka komanso zachiwerewere zomwe ndidaziwona kwazaka zingapo zimawoneka ngati wamba. Mtima wanga unayamba kuthamanga. Mutu wanga unali kugunda, ndikuopa kugwidwa… osangoyang'ana zolaula, koma kuwonera zomwe ena angaganize osati zolaula zenizeni za 100%… zidapangitsa kuti zisakumbukike. Lero ndikukumbukira ndikulira nditamaliza. Sindinadziwe zomwe zinandigwera. Ndinachita mantha kwambiri ndipo ndimafuna kupiringiza mpira m'chipinda changa. Koma sindinasiye kuonera. Ndinali wokondweretsabe atsikana, koma ndi zolaula [zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha], ndimatha kuchita zachiwerewere mwachangu.
3. Ofooka “Imani!” zizindikiro
Mahomoni ogonana omwe amayambitsa chidwi cha achinyamata mwatsoka mwatsoka samachita chilichonse kuti afulumizitse chitukuko cha malo awo odziletsa. Ubongo wachinyamata uli ngati galimoto yatsopano yokhala ndi injini ya Ferrari ndi mabuleki a Ford Pinto.
Pakutha msinkhu, "accelerator" yogwira ntchito kwambiri imabwera pa intaneti: momwe ubongo umathandizira, kapena kupatsa mphotho oyang'anira, omwe ali pansi pamiyala yolingalira. Icho kugonjetsa "mabuleki, ”" CEO "wamaubongo kapena kotsogola koyambirira pamphumi, komwe sikukhwima kwathunthu kwa zaka khumi. Omaliza amayesa zoopsa, amaganiza zamtsogolo, amasankha zoyambira, amapereka chidwi ndikuwongolera zomwe akufuna.
Pakalipano, achinyamata nthawi zambiri amasankha zochita zawo maganizo motsutsana ndi kulingalira kapena kukonzekera. Pambuyo pake, preortalal cortex ikayamba kukula, padzakhala zochepa "Sindikukhulupirira adachita izi" mphindi. Achinyamata amapanga ziweruzo zomveka bwino ndikusintha momwe akumvera, kukonzekera ndi kukumbukira bwino.
Pakadali pano, achinyamata amavutika kuzindikira zotsatira za "kupitako". Apanso, izi sizangozi. Makhalidwe oipa paunyamata amapereka mitundu ya nyama yomwe imayenera kukhala pachiwopsezo kuti iziyenda yokha kapena kupeza okwatirana. Pankhani ya achinyamata, chisinthiko sichinakhale nayo nthawi yoti chizolowere zoopsa zamankhwala osokoneza bongo, magalimoto othamanga, kapena kudya mopitirira muyeso zakudya zopanda thanzi, masewera a pa intaneti kapena zolaula pa intaneti. Ichi ndichifukwa chake tili ndi Mphotho ya Darwin.
4. Kudulira mwansanga nthawi yonse yaunyamata
Moyenera, pakati pa zaka za 10 ndi 13, a nthawi yovuta kwambiri, anthufe timakhala ndi khalidwe labwino la kugonana. Timaphunzira kukonda masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikugwirizanitsa ndi anthu omwe angakhale nawo. Izi ndizofunikira chifukwa pa nthawi ya ubwana ubongo wathu umangodzipangitsa kuti ntchito zathu zodziwika bwino komanso malingaliro athu azigwira bwino. Kuti tichite izi, ubongo wathu umathetseratu kugwiritsidwa ntchito kosagwiritsidwa ntchito mosagwiritsidwa ntchito, ngakhale kulimbikitsa ena.
Nzosadabwitsa kuti kusintha kwa malingaliro kumakhala chizindikiro cha unyamata! Pamodzi, majini ndi chilengedwe zimajambula dothi lakumaso kwa mwana. Mukamagwiritsa ntchito-kapena-kutaya, ubongo umadzikonzekeretsa ndikuwongolera bwino:
Kalotex imadula maulendo ang'onoang'ono omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito, ngakhale kulimbikitsanso bwino njira zowongoka. Mitsempha ya mitsempha yamakono mu njira zovomerezeka imakhala yosungunuka bwino ndi myelin, kuwonjezereka msanga wa zofuna za mitsempha. Nthambi zing'onozing'ono zomwe zimalandira mauthenga (otchedwa otupa) zimakula ngati mipesa kuti imve bwino chizindikiro cholowera. Kugwirizana pakati pa axons ndi dendrite (synapses) kumawonjezeka pa maulendo amphamvu ndipo imatuluka pa ofooka. Pomaliza pake muli ndi malingaliro, luso, zizoloŵezi, zokonda ndi njira zothetsera zomwe zimayesedwa nthawi. (ibid., Dobbs, kutsindika)
M'mawu ochepa chabe, timalephera kusankha zosankha zathu - osazindikira momwe zosankha zathu zinalili zovuta pa nthawi yathu yotsiriza, ya pubescent, neuronal kukula. Malingana ndi wofufuza Jay Giedd, (Onani nkhani iyi - Ubongo Wachinyamata: Dr. Jay Giedd wa National Institute of Mental Health ndi Jay Giedd)
Ngati wachinyamata akuchita nyimbo kapena masewera kapena ophunzira, amenewo ndi ma cell ndi kulumikizana komwe sikungakhale kolimba. Ngati akugona pakama kapena akusewera masewera apakanema kapena MTV [kapena zolaula pa intaneti], amenewo ndi ma cell ndi maulumikizidwe omwe apulumuke.
Ichi ndi chifukwa chimodzi chomwe kafukufuku amafunsa achinyamata momwe kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kumawakhudzira sangathe kuwonetsa kukula kwa zolaula. Ana omwe sanachitepo maliseche popanda zolaula sakudziwa momwe zimawakhudzira. (Zili ngati kuwafunsa kuti, "Kukhala amuna kwakukhudzani bwanji?") Alibe chofanana ndi ichi. Kumbukirani kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula achikulire nthawi zambiri samalumikiza zizindikiro zawo zokhudzana ndi zolaula ngakhale atayamba kale zolaula zolaula zimapangitsa kugonana kosayenera (PISD). Nthawi zonse zolaula zimawoneka ngati "mankhwala", chifukwa ngakhale atalephera kuzipeza zogonana, amatha kuzipeza akawonera zolaula zokwanira. Kodi tingayembekezere kuti achinyamata azindikire?
Vuto lomwelo powafunsa za zolaula pazosangalatsa. Ogwiritsa ntchito nthawi zonse "amamva bwino" mukamagwiritsa ntchito, ngakhale atakhala kuti akugwiritsa ntchito kwambiri, zowawa kwambiri onse. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani zolaula zimaonedwa ngati vuto? Komanso, pamene ogwiritsa ntchito ayesa kusiya, nthawi zina amatha kusonkhana masabata masabata, choncho kugwiritsira ntchito ntchito kukhoza kungolakwika chifukwa cha vutoli m'malo mwa yankho.
Zowona ndizakuti, ogwiritsa ntchito kwambiri omwe adzagunda khoma kuchokera mopitirira muyeso, samatero mpaka zaka makumi awiri - pafupifupi nthawi yomwe oyang'anira mphotho achepetsa kuchepa kwawo. Mwachitsanzo, pakukula, ma dopamine receptors mu mphotho yoyenda pang'onopang'ono amachepa ndi lachitatu kapena theka. Tsopano, zosangalatsa sizosangalatsa, ndipo zotsatira zakuchulukitsitsa ndizosokoneza. Phazi lachilengedwe likangothamangitsa mphotho, ndi nthawi yoti wosaka-nyama akhazikike ndikulera ana ena.
Palibe mbalame kapena njuchi, ma pixel basi chonde
Pakalipano, ubongo wa achinyamata ndi kucha kucha mphepo yabwino monga kusakasaka komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha zachilendo komanso zosayembekezereka zomwe zimafanana ndi intaneti. Kusinkhasinkha pawebusayiti - komwe sikungafune khama koma kungoyenda pang'onopang'ono - kumalowetsa m'malo mwa fuko lanu kuti mufufuze ku savanna kwa akazi achonde.
Ndili ndi zaka 18, ndinagonana koyamba. Atanena kuti "watsika", ndinathamangira ku sitolo yapafupi kuti ndikatenge makondomu ngati kuti Wotuta uja akundithamangitsa. Pambuyo pa chikalatacho, malingaliro anga anali, "Hmm ... sizinamveke mosiyana kwambiri ndi maliseche, ndipo zimafunikira gehena yantchito yambiri! Meh, ndimamatira ku zolaula ndipo sindivuta ndi bwenzi langa. ”
Mnyamata wina anayankha,
Maganizo anga NDIPONSO. Zowawa zakumbuyo, kupsinjika kwa minofu, kupuma, kutuluka thukuta komanso kuda nkhawa. KUPOSA nkhawa kwambiri kuti ungodula kamodzi, kuphatikiza apo uli ndi 'Iron Fist' yako yomwe imakupangitsa kuti ukhale wabwino kuposa ukazi weniweniwo. Osati zokhazo, nthawi zonse mumakhala ndi 'chiwonetsero chabwino' ndi 'bwenzi lachiwerewere.' Mutha kuwona mawonekedwe onse okongola amtundu wowala bwino, mawere ndi ntchafu zimawoneka zolemekezeka, ndipo zimawoneka nthawi zonse. Mu moyo weniweni zomwe sizichitika kawirikawiri. Nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndidachita, sindinasangalale nayo (ngakhale tonse tinabwera kwambiri). Nthawi yanga yoyamba ndiyenera kuti ndimamverera ngati CHIKHALITSO, potengera momwe 'zidapindulira', koma izo zimamverera zopanga. Panthawiyo, NDINKADZIWA kuti pangakhale chinachake cholakwika. Kugonana m'maganizo anga * nthawi zonse kunkawoneka kosangalatsa komanso kosangalatsa. Kugonana kweniyeni kumene ndinali nako kunali makamaka mafakitale komanso osakondera. Zosakhala bwino.
Achinyamata amasiku ano nthawi zina amawotcha zolaula zolaula zapaintaneti zomwe sizabwino kwenikweni kwa zaka khumi asanayese kulumikizana ndi anzawo enieni. (Onani masamba a kudzipereka Vutoli limakhala loopsa kwambiri ngati kutsatira kosalakwa kwa achinyamata kwapangitsa kuti ubongo usinthe kwambiri, mwachitsanzo, osokoneza. Apanso, achinyamata ali Zambiri amayamba kuledzera kusiyana ndi achikulire, chifukwa cha madera omwe amapereka ndalama zambiri komanso olamulira akuluakulu.
Kuwononga tsoka
Chofunika kwambiri, pamene adagwiritsa ntchito masewera ake, mnyamata wamng'ono ali osati kuphunzira luso la chibwenzi. Mofananamo, sakuwonongera nthawi yocheza ndi anthu omwe angathe kukhala okwatirana naye. Ubongo wake uli osati Kuwongolera zokondweretsa zogonana ndikunyengerera, ma pheromoni kapena zibwenzi zitatu zomwe zimakhala zofanana ndi zomwe zimapereka zofanana. M'masiku apitawo, anyamata amanjenjemera akudandaula pogwiritsa ntchito imodzi, imodzi, kugonana kwa vanila pang'ono kuti asamalize maphunziro awo ngati sutra. Tsopano, msinkhu wakale wa 17 akuyang'ana nthawi yoyamba ndi chikondi chake choyamba monga chogwirizana ndi abwenzi ake awiri, zikhomo, mapepala ndi zida zambiri za lube.
Ngakhalenso msilikali wathu sangathe kufotokoza kwa wokondedwa wake wam'tsogolo wokonda kusowa kwake, kuphulika kwake ndipo kondomu imasokonezeka, kapena kuyesayesa kwake kuyesetsa kukhalabe wovuta poganizira kuyang'anira wina amagonana. Alibe chidziwitso chifukwa chake sakuyankha, kapena momwe angachitire kuti akonze zowonongekazo. Ngakhalenso azinzake.
Ndili ndi mantha kuti popeza ubongo wanga wonse umadziwa kuti ndikuonera zolaula (awa ndiwo okhawo omwe ndinakumana nawo kale, ndipo onse ndi zolephera kwathunthu) kuti ndasokoneza ubongo wanga soooooo kwambiri kuti sindidzakhala bwino. Ndikutanthauza, zochitika zanga zonse zogonana kuyambira ndili mwana zimachokera ku zolaula. Kwa zaka zopambana kwambiri pamoyo wanga, sindinakhalepo wokonda zolaula. Ndizo zonse zomwe ubongo wanga umadziwa. Kodi ndidzatha kuzimva ndi mkazi wabwinobwino? Kodi ndidzakopeka ndi mkazi wabwinobwino momwe ndimakondera ma pixels omwe ali pakompyuta? Ndikuwopa kwambiri kuti ndadzisokoneza ndekha. Kodi ndingasinthe?
Tsoka, okwatirana ambiri asokonezeka kwambiri kapena kupwetekedwa mtima kuti azingokhala m'malo otaya mtima chonchi. Zotsatira zakusokonezeka kwamachitidwe zimapangitsa kuti ngwazi yathu ifike poipa kwambiri. Kodi izi sizingafotokoze chifukwa chomwe 36 peresenti ya anyamata achijapani achichepere ndi 20% achichepere aku France ali nawo palibe chidwi kwa enieni enieni? Kapena chifukwa chiyani kudziletsa kumakhala ku States akuwonjezeka?
Masiku ano, njira zogonana zazaka 13 zakonzedwa ndi zolaula, mawindo angapo, ndikudina kosalekeza. Mosiyana ndi izi, abambo adakula ku Sally oyandikana naye komanso malingaliro ake achonde. Poyamba, tinadabwitsidwa kuwona achikulire omwe ali ndi vuto lachiwerewere akuchira ku PISD (zolaula zomwe zimayambitsa zolaula) mwachangu kuposa achichepere. Kodi ndichifukwa choti makumi atatu ndi makumi anayi mphambu makumi anayi anali atakhazikitsa bwino njira zamaubongo zokhudzana ndi kulumikizana ndi anzawo enieni masiku am'mbuyomu pa intaneti? Chonde penyani nkhani iyi ya Seputembara 2015 TEDx ndi wachinyamata yemwe amafunikira nthawi yochulukirapo ndikuwunikiranso / kubwereranso kuti athetse zolaula zomwe zimapangitsa ED ndi anorgasmia:
Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti ubongo umasungabe mapulasitiki ena ngakhale atatha zaka zaunyamata. Mnyamata akaleka kugwiritsa ntchito zokometsera zogonana (kapena kuziganiziranso) kwa miyezi 2-3, ubongo wake womwe umalandila mphotho yoyambira imayamba 'kuyang'ana mozungulira' pazogonana zomwe adapeza kuti apeze. Kupatula apo, cholinga chake chachikulu ndikudutsa majini, chifukwa chake amafuna kuchitapo kanthu. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono imakoka makina ozungulira a neuronal pazinthu zachilengedwe mwamphamvu kwambiri kumalo osangalatsa aubongo. Msungwana woyandikana naye amawoneka wosangalatsa kwambiri.
Anati mnyamata wachikulire wa 21 wa miyezi itatu atasiya zolaula / maliseche:
Ndimakumbukira ndikumuuza chibwenzi changa, m'masiku ovuta kwambiri ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula komanso zovuta zokhudzana ndi zolaula, zomwe sizinamve ngati kuti ndagonanabe. Sanamvetse kwenikweni, ndipo sindinathe kufotokoza ndekha. Koma usiku watha, OMG idamva bwino kwambiri. Ndinkatha kumva chilichonse, ndipo zinali bwino. Kumva kwanga kwa penile kwawonjezera katundu. Kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga, zimangokhala ngati ndataya unamwali wanga.
Mnyamata wina:
[Zaka makumi awiri zoyambirira] Tsiku 43 tsopano, ine ndikuwona ndithu mtsikana ngati gwero la kukweza kwanga tsopano, osati kumuwona ngati chithunzi chimene ine ndingakhoze kusunga kuti mugwiritse ntchito. Ndikuwona msungwana wotentha tsopano ndikuganiza 'Ndizomwe ndikufuna', ndikuyesera kuchitapo kanthu kuti ndikomane naye. Zakhala zikuwombera pang'onopang'ono. Ndili pafupifupi 90% kumeneko, koma ndikukumbukira ndikukhala 10%, 20% etc.
Today, pafupifupi achinyamata akumadzulo ndizochita mantha kulima kugwirizana kwa neuronal pakati pa zolaula zamtundu uliwonse pa intaneti komanso kugonana kwawo. Sitingathenso kutenga mopepuka kuti kukwatira kwachinyamata kumachitika chifukwa chodziwika bwino, chokha, chosasintha, chizolowezi chogonana. Tithokoze kufunafuna kosalekeza kwaubongo wachinyamata kuti azitha kupeza zatsopano kuti athetse kunyong'onyeka kwa eni ake, achinyamata ena amatha kuchita zomwe amakonda zomwe zimawakayikitsa zoyenera kugonana.
Mipata yochepa
Achinyamata ndi nyengo yapadera yomwe ubongo umakula. M'malo oyenera, imagwira ntchito bwino komanso imasintha. Ngakhale achinyamata omwe amasaka -saka mosamala amafunafuna zosangalatsa, amakhalanso ngati oyendetsa magalimoto ambiri. Anali ndi mipata yochepa yolumikizira kuyanjana kwawo ndi china chilichonse kupatula malo oyandikira.
Ubongo wa ana amasiku ano ndiwofunanso chimodzimodzi, komabe amakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kutulutsa zolaula zomwe zimakankhira mabatani awo onse: kukonda zachilendo, kusangalala ndi zinthu zowopsa, kuthekera kopitilira muyeso wokhutira, ndikukhumba kulangizidwa zogonana ndi "wamkulu" cachet.
Akuluakulu amaganiza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kulibe vuto chifukwa "zolaula zakhala zikuchitika kuyambira kalekale." Koma ndi amuna angati obadwa, akuti, mu 1960 adayamba kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula tsiku ndi tsiku cha 1973? Makamaka buku lolimba, losatha zolaula zilipo tsopano?
Ana amasiku ano sangathe kudziyimitsa okha:
Kwa zaka zambiri, kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 11, ndakhala ndikuyang'ana zolaula ndikuchita maliseche. Sindingathe kuzikana ndipo ndikuchita mopitirira muyeso tsopano. Ndikufuna kuyimitsa tsopano. Ndili ndi zaka 15 ndipo ndikufuna kuisiya chifukwa ndikuganiza kuti ikukhudza moyo wanga, mayanjano, komanso magiredi akusukulu. Ndiyima bwanji?
Akuluakulu nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti ana amasiya zikhalidwe zawo zosakhazikika atakula. Zowonadi, kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti ana azaka zakukoleji amakonda kupitirira kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso, kugwiritsa ntchito mapoto, ndi zina zambiri. Komabe, zizolowezi zolaula pa intaneti zitha kukhala zosiyana. Kodi achinyamata omwe apitilira kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo adayamba kumwa / kumwa mphika tsiku lililonse ali ndi zaka 11?
[Zaka 35] Ndili ndi zaka XNUMX ndipo mayi anga ankatitengera ku laibulale, ndinkapita kukapeza buku lonena zachiwerewere. Kungolankhula / kufotokoza kwa mkazi kumandipangitsa kuti ndipite. Mulungu, ndikulakalaka masiku amenewo LOL. Lero, mutha 'kuthamangitsidwa' pa zolaula. Kumayambiriro koyambirira zinali zachilendo komanso zovuta kuzimitsa. Kwa zaka zingapo zapitazi, zolaula nthawi zonse zimakhala pampopu. Tsopano ndikofunikira m'malo mokhala wokondweretsa / mphotho. Ndi zomvetsa chisoni bwanji? Sindimatsutsana ndi zolaula. M'malo mwake, ndizosiyana, koma mukafika kudera langa, sizikhala zabwino, kungokhala koyipa chabe. Nangula wamkulu wonenepa m'khosi mwanga.
Kumbukirani, kuphunzira kumwa mopitirira muyeso kapena kukwera pamwamba sikofunikira kwenikweni kwaubongo; kubereka ndi. Zizolowezi za chakudya zingakhale fanizo labwino. Kodi azaka za 22 amasintha mwadzidzidzi zomwe amakonda kudya? Tsopano kuti zakudya zonenepetsa zili paliponse, anthu anayi mwa asanu achikulire aku America ndi onenepa kwambiri. Pafupifupi theka la onenepa kwambiri (mwachitsanzo, ogwiritsidwa ntchito pachakudya). Kodi amasintha zokonda zawo zakugonana? Mwina pokhapokha atagunda khoma la PISD.
Zotsatira za nthawi yaitali
Zachidziwikire, kuonera zolaula pa intaneti kuyambira ali mwana sizitanthauza kuti wogwiritsa ntchitoyo amakhala wopatuka. Kapena kugonana kwambiri, kapena kuchitira nkhanza anzawo. Ngakhale ena angaganize kuti si zachilendo kuti anthu ogonana nawo azisangalala ndi "nkhope zawo" ali ndi malo aliwonse odzazidwa ndi zinthu. Chomvetsa chisoni ndichakuti, ogwiritsa ntchito ambiri amatha kukhala osuta. Ndipo chiwerengerocho chikhoza kukhala chachikulu kuposa momwe tikuganizira, malinga ndi kuchuluka kwa zosuta pa intaneti zomwe zakhudza achinyamata. Mitengoyi ndi 6-18%, kutengera ngati Italy, China kapena Hungary adachita kafukufukuyu.
Kwa ambiri, zotsatira za kugwiritsira ntchito zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti zingakhale zogwirizana ndi zotsatira pa osewera pa intaneti. Kusokoneza maganizo kumachititsa ubongo kukhala ndi amafunika kukondweretsa kwambiri (pokhapokha ngati mwadzidzidzi mukubwezeretsedwa kumvetsa mwachibadwa). Zinthu zina zimaoneka ngati zosangalatsa poyerekeza. Mu zokambirana zapakati pa TED, Kodi Kudandaula kwa Anyamata? Katswiri wa zamaganizo wotchuka Philip Zimbardo akufotokoza mavuto amene amabwera chifukwa cha “chizolowezi chomadzutsa chilakolako” chofala.
Zotsatira zotere zimakhudza maubwenzi. Zosangalatsa kwambiri ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zolaula pa Intaneti ndi superstimulus kwa ubongo. Maphunziro otere omwe amadalira zachilendo monga aphrodisiac akhoza kuwonetsa ogwiritsa ntchito kuti abwenzi omwe amadziwa bwino mwamsanga amataya chilakolako chawo-kutsegula ogwiritsa ntchito omwe akukhudzidwa kuti asamangidwe. Komanso, zomwe sizomwe zimakhalapo pachimake pazogonana (kukhudzana ndi khungu ndi khungu, kumpsompsona, kutsekemera kolimbikitsa, khalidwe la masewera, etc.) mwina sichidziwike komanso sichidziŵika kuti chilembetse ngati chopindulitsa kwambiri. Mwatsoka, izi ndizo khalidwe lomwe limalimbikitsa ubongo ndi chithandizo maanja amalimbitsa mgwirizano wawo.
Mnyamata woyamba - Mwinanso ndikosavuta komanso kukhala chete kukhala pansi patsogolo pa kompyuta ndikugwedeza zithunzi zomwe sindiyenera kusangalatsa. Ndikhoza kupita pandekha ndipo sindisowa kudandaula za iwo. Kukhala ndi msungwana weniweni pakama panga kumandisokoneza.
Mnyamata wachiwiri - sindigwiritsa ntchito zolaula, koma ndikadutsa mbiri yanga yazithunzi, ndazindikira kuti nthawi zina ndimayang'ana zikwi za zithunzi mu ola limodzi. Ndikuyang'ana msungwana woyenera kapena chithunzi chomwe [chimandifikitsa pachimake]. Zolaula sizomwe zimasokoneza chidwi changa chogonana; Ndikuganiza kuti nyumba yanga yayikulu ya intaneti ndi.
Ubongo wa pulasitiki
Mwina palibe amene ayenera kumasulidwa padziko lapansi lero osaphunzitsidwa bwino za mphotho zamaubongo ozungulira ndi zake zovuta zapadera paunyamata. Ndipamene amaphulitsidwa ndi zakudya zopanda pake, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, masewera apakanema, ma foni am'manja komanso intaneti. Bwanji osaphunzitsa ana sayansi yosavuta yomwe ingayambitse zomwe zingayambitse ubongo? (Penyani Zinthu Zomwe Simunadziwe Zokhudza Zolaula, chifukwa cha mfundo zomwe zingathandize achinyamata a 10-13.)
Masiku ano, achinyamata amatha (ndipo amatero) kukweza maubongo awo kuzinthu zosokoneza bongo zomwe makolo awo sanaganizirepo, osatinso zowonera zaka zambiri asanakwatirane. Ogwiritsa ntchito amatha kudziwa kuti zolaula za 2-D zojambula zolaula sizingachitike ngati Santa. Komabe iwo omwe mosakonzekera amagwiritsira ntchito kuthekera kwawo kufikira pachimake pamitu yolaula ya gonzo nthawi zina amakhala amantha. Ambiri amaopa kupempha thandizo chifukwa amaganiza kuti ndi opotoza opanda chiyembekezo. Ena amadzipha kumene.
Alangizi omwe samamvetsetsa kusiyana pakati pazikhalidwe zoyambirira zakugonana ndi zomwe amapeza mwachisawawa, zokonda zapulasitiki zitha kuwonjezera kukwiya kwa wachinyamata. Zachisoni, ndi akatswiri ochepa okha omwe amadziwa zokwanira zamaubongo apulasitiki kuthandiza ana rewire, zomwe zimapangitsa ena pepani malangizo. (onani - Achinyamata Amagwiritsa Ntchito Zambiri Kuti Apeze Mojo wawo)
Monga ubongo wa pubescent udzayamba kuyambitsanso zokonda za kugonana, kupereka ana zenizeni ndizofotokozera momveka bwino zomwe akufuna-popanda zochitika zosayembekezereka Opanga zolaula ayenera kudalira kuyenga owona omwe ali ndi ubongo okalamba kwambiri kusokoneza zosangalatsa za kugonana. Phunzitsani ana kusiyanitsa pakati pa kugonana ndi zokonda za kugonana, ndi momwe awiriwa angagwirizane ndi kugwiritsidwa ntchito kachitidwe kolimbikitsa kwambiri. Komanso, aphunzitseni khalidwe labwino-zizindikiro zowonongeka kuyang'anira, ndi momwe mungasinthire kusinthako.
[Zaka 17 zidafika ndi zovuta, ndipo zikuwonetsabe zochepa zaumoyo wa erectile pa Tsiku 50 la zolaula / maliseche] Tsiku 76: Kumva kukhala wokondwa, wosangalala komanso wolimba komanso wopatsa libido. Mitengo yanga yammawa m'mawawu inali yopanda tanthauzo - sinatsike ngati mphindi 20 ngakhale itaimirira! Ndikupatsa masiku 90 ndiye kuti ndatha miyezi itatu ya 3 kenako ndiyenera kubwerera kwathunthu ndikukonzekera kuyesa kupeza bwenzi. Kutonthozedwa kumeneku kumagwiradi ntchito.
Ndine 27 ndipo ndili ndi maphunziro asayansi komanso zamankhwala, ndipo ndikukhulupirira mwamphamvu kuti malingaliro awa okhudza zolaula za pa intaneti amafunika kutuluka kunja uko. Tikutaya mwayi wophunzitsa anyamata omwe ali ndi mavuto amthupi mwawo. Kwenikweni, ndikulakalaka ndikadaphunzira zaka 15 zapitazo.
MAPETO A NKHANI
Nkhaniyi ikufotokoza chifukwa chomwe Johnny sayenera kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula ali wachinyamata
Potsiriza ndinasiya ubwana wanga, ndipo panthawiyi ndinali kuyang'ana zolaula m'mutu mwanga
Ndidayamba kupsinjika ndili ndi zaka 15 ndipo ndidayamba kuwona zolaula ndili ndi zaka 16.
Ndakhala ndikuziyang'ana ndikudziponyera kosalekeza kuyambira pamenepo, kwa zaka 7 zapitazi.
Zaka zingapo zapitazo ndinayesa / r / nofap wokongola kwambiri, ndiye ndinapeza / r / zolaula ndipo anazindikira kuti imeneyo inali nkhani yofunika kwambiri; Pambuyo pake, ndinakhala wotsutsa kwambiri zolaula, pomwe sindinathe kugwedeza chizolowezicho - ngakhale miyezi yoyera ya 6, nthawi zonse, mosalephera, ndimatsiriza kubwerera.
Kwa nthawi yayitali, kutali kwambiri ndi moyo wanga wachikulire weniweni, ndinadziwika ngati / r / zambiri, ndipo pafupifupi / r / chilimbikitso, koma osati kuzowonjezera izi. Kuphatikizika kwa nkhawa zamagulu, kukhumudwa komanso kudziona kuti ndine munthu wosafunika, zomwe zidapangitsa kuti ndikhale munthu wosungulumwa kwambiri, wamantha, wonyansa, wokwiyitsa, wansanje, komanso nthawi zina wodzivulaza.
Umenewu unali moyo wanga, umenewo unali wanga, ndipo ndi zomwe ndikanakhala mpaka tsiku limene ndinamwalira, mwinamwake mkati mwa zaka zisanu kapena zisanu zotsatira pamene ndikadzatha kulimbitsa mtima ndikudzipha ndekha, mmalo mwa ndondomeko ya kumwa mowa komanso kudzipatulira ndikukana kudzisamalira ndekha.
Kenaka miyezi itatu yapitayo, mosadziwika, msungwana uyu anawonetsa mu moyo wanga yemwe anasintha chirichonse.
Tsopano ndikulandila chithandizo kawiri pa sabata, ndikuphunzira kukonda ndikudzivomereza ndekha, ndimakhala ndi anzanga, ndipo ndikutsimikiza kuti ndimakondana ndi mayiyu. Ndi wamkulu zaka 12 kuposa ine koma samawoneka ngati ali. Amakhala wachichepere, amawoneka wachichepere. Ndipo wandiuza kuti ndimawoneka ngati wamkulu kuposa anyamata amsinkhu wanga. Tinakhala abwenzi nthawi yomweyo ndipo posakhalitsa tinakhala othandizana kwambiri. Tonse tidakumana ndi zoyipa ndipo tonse taphunzira kuthana nazo m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Adandiwonetsa kuti ndakhala ndikuchita zolakwika pamoyo ndipo kuti kukhala ndi moyo KUNGakhale chochitika chodzaza ndi chisangalalo, kudabwitsidwa, chisokonezo, chisangalalo, komanso kupweteka komanso kuzunzika kwakanthawi koma kosapeweka. Sindikufunanso kufa. Ndikufuna kukhala ndi moyo, ndipo ndikufuna kukhala ndi iye.
Koma chidziwitso chakale chomwe ndidadzipangira ndekha pazaka zambiri… sichinachoke. Idakalipobe, ndipo ikudya ine. Sindikusowa kuti ndikufotokozereni anyamata momwe zolaula zimasinthira ubongo wanga, nditasoweka pachibwenzi komanso kulumikizana kwakazaka zoyambirira za 23 za moyo wanga, chifukwa nonse mukudziwa momwe zimagwirira ntchito. Ndinadziwa, pansi pamtima, kuti zinali zosokoneza ndi malingaliro anga, kuzipotoza ndikuzipotoza mozungulira kukhala mawonekedwe osadziwika, koma zidatenga potsiriza Kutaya unamwali wanga, kwa munthu ameneyu ndimamukonda kwambiri ndipo sindimakopeka ndi thupi langa, koma m'maganizo mwanga, kuzindikira momwe chikumbumtima changa chawonongeka ndi zaka zolaula za intaneti.
Chomwe chimandidetsa nkhawa kwambiri kutaya v-khadi ndikuti ndimaliza mwachangu kwambiri. Chosiyana chinali chowonadi. Sindingathe kumaliza, konse. Ndinayenera kuzichita ndekha. Anali ozizira bwino nawo, ndipo amamvetsetsa, chifukwa amadziwa kuti ndimakhala ndekha ndimomwe ndinkakonda, koma sakudziwa momwe zimakhalira. Ndimakopeka naye mwachizolowezi, akavala, koma zovala zikangotuluka, china chake chimasintha m'mutu mwanga. Mwadzidzidzi ndikungodziwa kuti si m'modzi mwa atsikana masauzande ambiri azolaula omwe ali ndi matupi angwiro, ndiye munthu weniweni. Ndipo ndimamukonda. Ndimakonda umunthu wake, ndimakonda kumwetulira kwake, ndipo ndimakonda moyo wake. Amasamala za ine ndipo nthawi zonse akunena momwe alili ndi ine, ndipo inenso, kupatula gawo lokopa.
Sindingathe kukhala nditadzuka nthawi yogonana. Ndinakhala wolimba popanda zovuta zambiri, koma sindinakhalepo. Ndipo sindinamve kalikonse. Osati panthawi yogonana, osati panthawi yakunyamula manja, osati pakamwa, koma nthawi komanso PAMODZI pakuseweretsa maliseche. Amayenera kukhala INE, ndi dzanja LANGA, ndipo choyipa kwambiri, kulingalira kwanga ndikugwira ntchito yonse. Ziribe kanthu zomwe adachita kapena kunena, ziribe kanthu momwe ndimamuyang'ana mozama ndikuyesera kulingalira ndekha, sindimamva chilichonse. Ndimangodutsa mwamantha, popanda kumva.
Ndidamaliza kumaliza, kawiri, ndipo nthawi zonse ziwiri zimachokera pakudzikongoletsa, ndipo nthawi zonse ziwiri sindinali ndimaganizo ake, ndimapita kwina, ndikusintha pakati pa ma tabu otsegulidwa kuchokera kuzikumbukiro, zithunzi ndi machitidwe ndikumveka koopsa nkhokwe yayikulu yama pixels yatenthedwa muubongo wanga. Ndi momwe ndidatsikira. Ndinkayenera kuonera zolaula pamutu panga.
Ndizovuta.
Pali mkazi wodabwitsayu yemwe amatanthauza zambiri kwa ine kuposa wina aliyense kapena china chilichonse mdziko lino lapansi, amene adapulumutsa moyo wanga ndikukhala gawo la iwo, omwe ndimamukonda kwambiri, pafupifupi chilengedwe chonse, ndi momwe zilili zamphamvu. Ndi mnzake wapamtima ndipo ndimamukonda ndipo ndimamusowa sekondi iliyonse sindikhala naye. Koma pali gawo lalikulu lamutu wanga lomwe limakonda kuthana ndi atsikana ena a 100 kuposa iye, atsikana ocheperako komanso owoneka bwino, atsikana omwe samandisamala, atsikana sindimawasamala. Mwina ndi chifukwa chakuti sindinapeze mwayi wokhala ndi wina aliyense, kapena kuti ndikumane ndi zina mwa izo, koma ndikulakalaka.
Ndicho chinthu chimodzi chomwe chimandipangitsa kukhala wosatsimikiza za kukhala naye, kudzipereka kwa iye ndi iye yekha. Ndikumvabe ngati mwana wachinyamata yemwe ali ndi mahomoni okwiya omwe amasefukira mkazi aliyense wotentha yemwe amamuwona, ndipo amafuna kuwachitira zonsezi, zowoneka bwino komanso nthawi zina zonyoza kutengera zomwe ndaziwona- sindinazimve - m'zaka ndi zaka zowonera zolaula. Zonse zowoneka. Zinthu zonsezi zomwe zimandipangitsa kuti ndipite, zokonda izi zomwe zimandipangitsa kuti ndizivutika ndikundichotsa, zonse ndizowoneka. Palibe kumverera komwe kumakhudzidwa, palibe kukhudza, kununkhiza, kulawa, kapena kutengeka. Zowoneka chabe ndi zomveka, koma zowoneka makamaka. Ndipo ndi momwe ubongo wanga wadzipangira wokha tsopano.
Sizomwe ndimaganizira, pomwe ndili munthawiyo, ndikukumana nazo zenizeni, palibe zosangalatsa, palibe kukondweretsedwa, kulibe chisangalalo, kungoti ... zopanda pake, zopanda pake pomwe payenera kukhala china chapadera. Ndimamva kulumikizidwa komanso kuchita manyazi ndi ine ndekha popeza tsopano ndikugwiritsa ntchito thupi langa kupeza zomwe ndakhala ndikufuna kwazaka zambiri, ndipo njira yokhayo yomwe ndingakwaniritsire zokhumba zanga, monga ndakhala zaka 8 zapitazi, kuti ndichite ndekha. Ndipo ndikakhala kutali ndi iye ndikuyamba kuifuna, ndimadziwa koti ndipite. Zomwe ndiyenera kuchita ndikutsegula laputopu yanga, wokonda m'modzi yemwe amakhala akundithandiza.
Ngakhale palibe chophimba patsogolo panga, zithunzizi zidakalipo. Nditha kuwaitanitsa ndikuwakumbutsa momwe angafunire ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito kuti ndizikhala bwino, kwinaku ndikuyang'ana bwenzi langa m'maso, pomwe ali ndi ine nthawi yomweyo, ndikupita kuchipinda china chosadziwika ku hotelo kapena kukhitchini kapena bafa ndi mkazi wina yemwe sindidzakumananso. Zimandinyansa. Zimamveka ngati kubera. Ndinawona zolaula maminiti 30 okha apitawo ndipo ndinachoka ndikudandaula ndipo ndinamva zodabwitsa ndikutsitsimula ndikukhala ndi nkhawa momwe zimakhalira, ndipo bwenzi langa lili kunja kwa tawuni masiku angapo otsatira, ndipo ndikulumbira kwa mulungu, ndikumva ngati Ndakhala wosakhulupirika kwa iye. Ndimamukonda ndi mtima wanga wonse, koma ubongo wanga umangokhala ndi maso a wina aliyense. Ndine chidutswa cha munthu wopanda nzeru.
Kuti mumve zambiri:
- (Phunziro) “Kuwonetsa zolaula pa moyo ndi kuopsa kwa zilakolako za kugonana: Zotsatira zamatsenga ndi zakathari”Kuwonetsedwa kwaunyamata kunkapangitsa kuti olakwira azikhala achiwawa komanso owachititsa manyazi kwambiri kuposa momwe amawonera akuluakulu.
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- Zomwe zimachititsa kuti achinyamata asamagwiritsidwe ntchito molakwika pa nkhani ya kugonana
- Kuphunzira ubongo kumawunikira momwe achinyamata amaphunzirira mosiyana ndi akulu (2016)
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- Kugonana ndi kugonana / kugonana? Tsambali likulemba Zotsatira za 50 za sayansi (MRI, fMRI, EEG, neuropsychological, mahomoni). Onse amapereka chithandiziro chamachitidwe osokoneza bongo monga zomwe zapezedwa zikuwunika pazotsatira za mitsempha zomwe zimanenedwa mu maphunziro a kusokoneza bongo.
- Malingaliro enieni a akatswiri okhudzana ndi zolaula / kugonana? Mndandanda uwu uli Ndemanga za 25 zaposachedwa kwambiri zokhudzana ndi ma neuroscience & ndemanga ndi ena mwa apamwamba a sayansi ya sayansi padziko lapansi. Zonse zothandizira mtundu wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
- Zizindikiro za kuledzera ndi kuchuluka kwa zinthu zoopsa kwambiri? Zofufuza za 50 zofukufuku zomwe zikupezeka zikugwirizana ndi kukula kwa zolaula (kulekerera), chizoloŵezi choonera zolaula, komanso ngakhale kusiya (Zizindikiro zonse ndi zodabwitsazi). Tsamba lowonjezera ndi Kafukufuku 10 wofotokoza zizindikiro zochotsa zolaula.
- Zolaula ndi zogonana? Mndandandawu uli ndi zofufuza zoposa 40 zomwe zimagwirizanitsa zolaula / zolaula ku mavuto a kugonana ndi kuchepetsa chilakolako chogonana. The Zotsatira za 7 zoyambirira mumndandanda ukuwonetsa zovuta, pamene ophunzira adasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndikuchiza matenda opatsirana pogonana.
- Zotsatira za zovuta pazoyanjana? Kufufuza kwa 75 kumalumikiza zolaula kumachepetsa kugonana komanso kukhutira ndi ubale. Monga momwe ife tikudziwira onse Kafukufuku wokhudza amuna adanena za kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula zambiri zogwirizana osauka kugonana kapena kukondana.
- Kodi kugwiritsa ntchito zithunzi kumakhudza bwanji maganizo ndi maganizo? Pazofufuza za 80 zomwe zimagwirizanitsa zolaula zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi thanzi lakuthupi lamaganizidwe & zotsatira zazidziwitso zosauka.
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Ndakhala ndikuwerenga zolemba zonse ndi ndemanga patsamba lino kwakanthawi tsopano. Monga mawebusayiti ambiri, nthawi zambiri sindimayesetsa kupanga akaunti kuti ndingotumiza masenti anga awiri. Koma chifukwa olemba ndi ogwiritsa ntchito webusaitiyi achita ntchito yabwino yochepetsera zotsatira zolaula pakukula kwa kugonana, ndinawona kuti ndikufunika kusonyeza mfundo zingapo zomwe malowa amavina mozungulira koma samatuluka kunena. Mwina zakale zanga zimawunikira malingaliro awa momveka bwino kwa ine kuposa kwa anthu ena.
Nditakwanitsa zaka 21, ndinakumana ndi mtsikana wina watsitsi, wamaso a buluu pasukulu ina yapa koleji. Kwa mwezi woyamba, pamene chikondi changa choyamba chinakula, sindinazindikire chimene chinali kuchitika. Ndiyeno, tsiku lina, monga ngati ndalasidwa ndi muvi, kukhala pamaso pake kunandipangitsa kumva thupi ndi kutentha, pafupifupi mpaka kulephera kudziletsa. Zaka ziwiri zotsatila (atakanidwa ndi iye) zakhala kumoto wamoto. Chaka choyamba ndidalephera kugona komanso kugona. Ndinavutika ndi kugunda kwa mtima, kusowa tulo, kuwonda kwambiri ndi kuwonda, kunjenjemera, kunjenjemera, kuganiza movutikira. Zili ngati ndinali m'maloto; pamene ndinalimbana kwambiri kuti ndithawe, m'pamenenso malotowo anandinyengerera. Analowa muubwenzi wanthawi yayitali ndi mnyamata wina pafupifupi miyezi iwiri, ndipo zithunzi za pakati pausiku soirees zidadzaza malingaliro anga ndi malingaliro anga. Ndinavutika ndi maganizo okhudza kugonana komwe ndinkaona m’zolaula, ndipo zinkandisokoneza kwambiri. Monga namwali yemwe maphunziro ake ogonana amangochokera ku zolaula za pa intaneti, lingaliro loti chikondi cha moyo wanu chimakhala usiku ndi usiku ndikukankhidwa ndi mnyamata yemwe samamudziwa kuti adanditumiza m'mphepete.
Chaka chathachi, ndakhala ndikungoyang'ana zomwe zidalakwika, ndikufufuza mayankho a mafunso ambiri ovuta. N'chifukwa chiyani ndinayamba kukondana ndi zaka 22 kwa nthawi yoyamba, pamene zinkawoneka ngati anzanga akhala akukumana ndi izi kuyambira ali ndi zaka 16? Nanga bwanji sindinakonde aliyense m'moyo mpaka nthawi imeneyo? Nanga bwanji palibe amene adafika mpaka pomwe adandigwira, ndipo chifukwa chiyani sindimakonda anthu a digiri, monga ena adachitira? Zinali ngati kuti chosinthira chinayatsidwa mwadzidzidzi muubongo wanga - kuyankha kwapang'onopang'ono kudabwera.
Pali ngozi yomwe imabwera ndi kulingalira konseku. Choyamba, ndikusamukira kudera lomwe silingayesedwe kapena kutsimikiziridwa, kapena osayezedwa mwanjira iliyonse yodalirika/yovomerezeka. Palibe amene akudziwa komwe ubongo umayima ndipo malingaliro amayamba, kotero pa maphunziro onse a neuroscientific kunja uko okhudzana ndi zolaula, ndalama zenizeni zomwe ndili nazo pankhaniyi ndizowona mtima ndi zowona. Sindingathe kutsimikizira mayankho a mafunsowa, koma ndikhoza kukhala woona mtima ndi wowona mtima momwe ndingathere. Ndizo zonse zomwe ndiri nazo.
Ndikayang'ana m'mbuyo, ndikudziwa tsopano kuti * gawo * la chifukwa chomwe ndinali wosiyana ndi anthu ambiri chinali chakuti ndinali wovomerezeka mochedwa, monga amayi ndi amalume anga. Kufikira pamene ndinafika zaka 18, ndinali wokhoza kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi atsikana achangu kwambiri. Atsikana otentha kwambiri-mu PlayBoy, zolaula, ndi zina zotero. Palibe m'moyo weniweni amene adafika pamlingo wapamwamba kwambiri umenewu. Ndipo nthawi zina zomwe amachita, panalibe chikhumbo chochita * chilichonse ndi iwo (mwachitsanzo, kupsompsona, kukumbatirana, kudzikongoletsa, kusisita, hump). Ndinangokopeka nazo. Tsopano, ndimatha kuyang'ana atsikana okongola ndikuwona kuti ndi okongola. Koma panalibe kusiyana kwenikweni m’malingaliro kuposa kuzindikira mwaluntha mwamuna wokongola. Iwo anali chimodzimodzi kwa ine.
Miyezi iwiri isanafike tsiku langa lobadwa la 18, komabe, zinthu zinasintha. Atsikana atatu a m’kalasi lathu anandigwira mtima, ndipo ndinayamba kuwakonda kwambiri. Sindikudziwa ngati munganene kuti kuphwanya. "Kuchita chidwi" kungakhale mawu abwinoko. Koma nthawi zosakhalitsazo zinasintha, ndipo ndinapita ku koleji mtunda wa makilomita 3000 kuchokera kunyumba, kupita kusukulu ya Ivy League.
Chaka choyamba cha koleji sichinapereke chidwi kwa atsikana. Ngati moyo wanga wogonana / wachikondi ukanakhala chipinda, simungapeze chilichonse koma crickets, cobwebs, chete, ndi mdima. Anzanga ankadabwa ngati ndinali gay… Sindinaganizire kwambiri za izi, chifukwa ndinali wotanganidwa kwambiri ndi sukulu ndi zinthu zina. Ndili ndi zaka 19, ndinali nditayamba kukopeka kwenikweni, zomwe ngakhale panthawiyo ndinali ndisanazione. Ndinanena zambiri za malingaliro a kukana kwa munthuyo kupsinjika maganizo ndi nyengo yozizira ya New York. Chifukwa chake, palibe chomwe chidalembetsedwa ndi ine.
Pambuyo pake, palibe kwa zaka ziwiri. Ndinali wolunjika ku malire a anthu.
Kusiyanasiyana ndi lingaliro lachisinthiko ndi maphunziro asayansi yachilengedwe omwe amathandizira kulimbikitsa kuthekera kwa zamoyo kuti zisinthe ndikupulumuka. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, tonse ndife osiyana, chifukwa popanda kusiyana kwathu sitingathe kukula ndi kusinthika. Koma pansi pa kusiyana konseku, mungadziwe bwanji ngati pali chinachake chimene chiyenera kukonzedwa? Kodi munthu angasiyanitse bwanji vuto lenileni ndi kukhala lapadera?
Nditakumana ndi mtsikana watsitsi, ndinayamba kufunafuna mayankho a mafunso anga okhudza chifukwa chimene ndinalibe chidwi chenicheni ndi atsikana mpaka pamene ndinakwanitsa zaka 22. Helen Fisher anali wasayansi woyamba amene ndinapunthwa; Kafukufuku wake wokhudza umunthu adandipatsa mayankho a mafunso anga. Mwachitsanzo, adawona kuti chimodzi mwazinthu zinayi zazikulu zamaganizidwe amunthu (wotsogolera / zotsatira za testosterone) analibe chidwi chenicheni pa chibwenzi. Malingaliro awo olimba anali enieni komanso mpaka; palibe chimene amachita chiribe cholinga chenicheni. Chilichonse ndi mpikisano nawo. Zokonda zawo ndizozama kwambiri komanso zopapatiza, mosiyana ndi kukhala otakata komanso osazama. Ndi anthu amphamvu kwambiri, omwe amatengeka mosavuta (nthawi zina amatengeka) ndi zomwe zimawasangalatsa. N'chimodzimodzinso ndi chibwenzi, iye akutero. Sali okondweretsedwa kwambiri ndi zibwenzi wamba, chifukwa sizomveka kwa iwo. Koma akapeza munthu amene amamukonda, sasiya mpaka atapeza zimene akufuna.
Chikhalidwe changa, pogwiritsa ntchito mafunso ake, ndicho cha Mtsogoleri.
Chifukwa chake gawo la chifukwa chomwe ndimakhulupirira kuti sindinachite nawo zibwenzi mpaka 22 inali chabe nkhani ya umunthu wanga. Ine sindine munthu wopepuka kwenikweni. Kuwonjezera apo, kukhala pachimake mochedwa poyamba.
Koma palinso zina. Kukhala kwanga m'chikondi kunandisokoneza m'njira, chifukwa sindinathe kumvetsa mwadzidzidzi zomwe ndinawona mu zolaula. Kodi ndingachite bwanji chinthu chonyozetsa munthu amene, monga Robin Williams anganene, “anali Mngelo woikidwa padziko lapansi ndi Mulungu mwiniyo”? Momwemonso mwana amachitira umboni zakupha m'mafilimu owopsa koma samataya tulo chifukwa cha zomwe adakumana nazo chifukwa gawo lina lake limamvetsetsa kuti akuwona ma pixel osati zenizeni, inenso sindimaganizira zambiri za zolaula zomwe ndidaziwona. Sizinandizindikire kuti zimenezi n’zimene anthu amachita m’dziko lenileni. Aliyense, makamaka. Ndipo kuzindikira uku kunandikakamiza kuti ndipeze mayankho amalingaliro / m'malingaliro pazochitika zenizeni zomwe ndimakhala nazo zokhudzana ndi kugonana. Nazi zinthu zomwe ndawona kuti palibe amene akuwoneka kuti anganene.
1. Moyo weniweni ogonana nawo samawonana ngati matumba anyama. Ana oleredwa pa zolaula chifukwa cha maphunziro awo ogonana samamvetsetsa zinthu zambiri zomwe akuluakulu amaganiza kuti ndi "opatsidwa" chabe. Mnyamata akamawona kugonana pa tepi kwa nthawi yoyamba, monga momwe ndinachitira, samamvetsa kuti anthu omwe amagonana nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi malingaliro a wina ndi mzake. Samvetsetsa kuti zomwe "amawona" ndizosiyana ndi zomwe ophunzira "amawona," m'lingaliro lakuti amawona chinthu chokondedwa, pamene akuwona chinthu chogonana ndi kuganiza kuti ochita nawo nawonso amachita. Kwa munthu yemwe sanagonepo, koma amaonera zolaula nthawi zonse, ndinayamba kukhulupirira kuti mukamayang'ana mkazi yemwe mukufuna kugonana naye, mukuyenera kumuwona MONGA ngati chidutswa cha nyama. Ndinayamba kukhulupirira kuti anthu mwadzidzidzi anali ndi zilakolako zauchinyama zogunda thupi, popanda kuvomereza kapena kuzindikira umunthu wa munthu wina. Ili ndi lingaliro lovuta kufotokozera anthu, chifukwa ndimati "chidutswa cha nyama," anthu ambiri amangoganiza kuti ndikungofanizira pang'ono. Koma zoona zake n’zakuti ndimaganiza kuti amuna ndi akazi amene amagonana amakhala nyama kwa mphindi makumi atatu za tsiku lawo ndipo anali ndi zilakolako zazikulu zoika maliseche mkamwa mwawo kaamba ka iwo okha. Ndinaganiza kuti mchitidwewo unalibe tanthauzo lakuya; zinali, m’maso mwanga, pa mlingo wa chimbudzi, kukodza, kapena kudya tchipisi ta mbatata. Icho chinali chabe chinachake chimene inu mumachita. Zoletsa zinali chifukwa chokha chomwe ndimaganiza kuti aliyense samagona ndi mnzake.
Izi zimayika malingaliro oyipa pa chilichonse chokhudzana ndi kugonana, makamaka kwa wachinyamata woganiza bwino ngati ine. Pali tsamba lawebusayiti lomwe limafotokoza zomwe ndidapeza kumene za zomwe anthu ambiri amakhalidwe abwino akuchita mchipinda chogona, otchedwa makelovenotporn.com. Pazolaula, sindinawonepo kupsopsonana, kugwirana, kukumbatirana, kukumbatirana, ndi chikondi. Sindinaonepo maola ndi maola osokonezeka maganizo pambuyo pa kutha. Kapena zaka za kugawana mwachinsinsi. Kapena zinthu zobisika monga kudzutsidwa mwachidwi ndi kukongola kwa manja a mkazi, kapena maso ake, kapena kumwetulira kwake. Kukula pa zolaula kunandipangitsa kuwona kugonana kukhala konyozeka komanso kopanda kanthu, osati chikondi. Palibe amene angamvetse mtundu wa kuwonongeka kwa maganizo komwe kumayambitsa maganizo achichepere. Zolaula zimasintha zomwe kwenikweni ndi kupsompsona kwakukulu kukhala kumenya koopsa.
2. Zolaula = kudzutsa chilakolako chogonana; moyo weniweni = kukhudzika ndi malingaliro apamtima achikondi. Mukayang'ana zolaula, kumverera komwe mumapeza SIKUTI mumamva ndi kugonana kwenikweni. Zolaula mwanjira ina zimalekanitsa chikondi ndi kugonana. Monga momwe ana samamvetsetsa kuti omwe akuchita nawo mchitidwewo ali ndi malingaliro akuya a ulemu ndi chikondi kwa wokondedwa wawo (monga tafotokozera pamwambapa), amakhalanso ndi lingaliro lakuti kudzutsidwa koyera kwa kugonana AMAmva pamene akuwonera zolaula ndikumverera komweko komwe iwo amamva. adzapeza pa kugonana kwenikweni. Izi zimakulitsanso kusamvetsetsana kwa kugonana. Zinandipangitsa kukhulupirira kuti ndimayenera kumverera chimodzimodzi kwa munthu m'moyo weniweni monga momwe ndimachitira ndikuwonera zolaula, zomwe pamapeto pake zimadetsa umunthu.
3. Kudzutsidwa kwa zolaula ndi 400X kwambiri kuposa kudzutsidwa m'moyo weniweni. Kudzutsidwa kwakukulu komwe kumamveka mu zolaula kumasinthidwa m'moyo weniweni ndi malingaliro ofunda kwambiri achikondi.
4. Zinthu zomwe ochita zisudzo amachita pa zolaula, anthu ambiri samachita m'moyo weniweni. Anthu ambiri abwino amakhala ndi malire m'moyo weniweni. Ndikuganiza pano, koma sindimakhulupirira kuti anthu m'moyo weniweni amakhala ndi chikhumbo choyamwa umuna kuchokera m'matumbo a mnzawo ndikumacheza nawo (felching), kusuntha lilime lawo pamphuno ya wina (rimming), kumaso. wina, apangane ndi umuna wa bwenzi lake (kuwomba chipale chofewa), kapena kuti mwamuna yekha awatsire umuna kumaso kwake. Kwa mnyamata amene samvetsa mawu oti “kukondana” kuchita zimenezi sikusonyeza chikondi ayi, koma kuchititsa manyazi ndiponso kunyozetsa.
5. Ngati anthu m'moyo weniweni AKUCHITA zinthu zomwe mnyamata amawona mu zolaula, nthawi zambiri amazichita m'njira zosiyana kwambiri. Sikuti ZIMENE akuchita pano zili zofunika kwambiri monga momwe akuchitira. Anthu m'dziko lenileni akhoza kuona kugonana m'kamwa monga chongowonjezera kupsopsona mnzawo, kulikonse. Mu zolaula, blowjobs ndi zonyansa komanso zonyansa komanso ngati nyama. Mulu kuyendetsa mu zolaula mu zosangalatsa ndi zosangalatsa; m'moyo weniweni, mwina ndizosasangalatsa komanso zochititsa manyazi.
6. Zolaula zimagawanitsa wowonera m'maganizo, ndikuchotsa nyonga m'maganizo mwake. Amakhala anthu awiri, woyang’anira ndi wotengapo mbali. Kwenikweni kudzipatula kwa iyemwini kumamulepheretsa kuchita zinthu mogwirizana ndi zilakolako zake zachikondi.
Pali mutu wapansi pa mfundo zonsezi zokhudzana ndi zolaula, zomwe zimasiyanitsa chikondi ndi kugonana. M’yoyo, ngakhale anthu aŵili osakondana akagonana, amacitabe zimene akanacita akanakhala kuti ali pa cikondi. Anthu omwe amati amakankhana atsikana otentha koma kupanga chikondi kwa atsikana kwenikweni kuyesera kunena kuti wakale ndi kukupsopsonani kuti si wachikondi, koma yotsirizira ndi kukonda smooch. Kupsopsona ndi kupsopsona. Pali njira zochepa zomwe ndingaganizire zopangira zachiwawa. N'chimodzimodzinso ndi moyo weniweni kugonana mwaulemu, mogwirizana. Kumapeto kumodzi kwa sipekitiramu, “maubwenzi” ena atha kukhala ogonana kwambiri kuposa okondana (mwachitsanzo, “mabwanawe ogonana”), ndipo mbali inayo akhoza kukhala okondana kuposa kugonana (ie, “Romeo ndi Juliet”). Koma ngakhale monyanyira, palibe unansi weniweni wopanda chikondi kapena chilakolako. Onsewo ndi ophatikiza onse awiri. Achinyamata ayenera kumvetsetsa izi, kotero kuti makampasi awo amakhalidwe abwino asasokonezeke ngati momwe ine ndinachitira.
kulandira ndi kuyamikira chifukwa cha zidziwitso
Mfundo zomwe mumabweretsa (1-6) ndi zifukwa zazikulu zomwe akatswiri ambiri amakhudzidwa ndi masamba a "anti-porn". Chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe sitimayang'ana pazomwe timalemba ndikuti masamba ena ambiri ndi akatswiri amachita. Ntchito yathu ndikulemba za zomwe timadziwa ndikuphunzitsa anthu za neurobiology ya chizolowezi.
Kachiwiri, maphunziro owerengeka (osapangidwa bwino) akuwonetsa kuti zolaula sizichita zomwe mumafotokoza. Ngati titabweretsa mfundo zanu zenizeni, otsutsa amangolemba mndandanda wowerengeka wowunikiridwa kuti atsutse mfundo izi.
Dziwani, ndikuganiza kuti ndinu olondola. Ndiwo mafunso amafunso osavomerezeka omwe saulula zowona. Kufunsa wachinyamata momwe amaganizira kuti zolaula zimawakhudza iwo amakonda nsomba zomwe amaganiza za madzi. Chowonadi chimawoneka bwino mwa anyamata zikwizikwi omwe amachira zolaula, kapena kungogwiritsa ntchito zolaula.
Timakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kusindikizidwa kwamaganizidwe. Ndizachikulu. Tsamba langa limalumikizana ndikuwoneka kulikonse. Ndidawerenga ulusi masauzande, ena ndi zolemba masauzande, ochokera kumayiko pafupifupi 30. Nditha kutsimikizira zonse zomwe mwanena.
Palibe vuto
Nditawerenga yankho lanu, ndinatsegula "zolaula zamaganizo" ndikuyamba kuwerenga kafukufuku wonse. Ndimasangalala kuwapeza akunena zomwe ndatchulazi, nthawi zina ngakhale ndi chinenero chomwecho. Sindikudziwa momwe ndingasiyanitse zotsatira za zolaula kuchokera ku umunthu wanga wachilengedwe kapena mahomoni. Ndikutanthauza, aliyense amachita mosiyana. Nditayamba kuwonera zolaula, zinali zomveka kwa ine kuti zomwe ndimayang'ana zidapangidwa. Koma pamene zinthu zinkapitirira, mzere pakati pa kugonana komangidwa ndi zenizeni pa tepi unayamba kuzimiririka. Makanema ena anali ndi anthu omwe mwachiwonekere sanali ochita zisudzo, koma mwachiwonekere amadziŵa kuti akujambulidwa ndi munthu wina m’chipindamo.
Chifukwa chiyani zolaula zinandikhudza mosiyana ndi ena zimakhalabe chinsinsi. Zingakhale ndi chochita ndi chakuti anyamata ena akuyamba kugwa kwa atsikana nthawi yomweyo anayamba kuonera zolaula? Zimenezi zingatsutse maganizo olakwika amene ali nawo okhudza kugonana kwenikweni. Mwina ali ndi umunthu wocheperako, kapena mwina saganiza mozama. Chifukwa chiyani zolaula zimakopa anyamata ena osati ine? Nditatha chaka changa chachiwiri ku koleji, ndidangosiya kuwonera popanda vuto lililonse. Sindinafunikire kudziletsa ndi khama; Ndinangokulirakulira.
Chodabwitsa n’chakuti, ngati ana akufunadi kudziwa zimene ayenera “kumva” akafuna kukondana ndi munthu wina, angachite bwino kuonera mafilimu monga “Titanic,” “Good Will Hunting,” kapena “Forrest. Gumpa." Zolaula zimasokoneza kwambiri ndipo mwanjira ina zimavula chikondi chomwe chimamangiriridwa mosalekeza ndi kugonana kwenikweni, wamba kapena ayi.
China chomwe chingayambitse mavuto onsewa ndi amuna omwe amawona zolaula ndikuti pali nthawi ya nthawi mu moyo wa mwamuna pamene kugonana SALI za chikondi, kumene kudzutsidwa komwe amamva kulibe chikondi chilichonse. Zilibe kanthu kuti amaganizira bwanji za "chikondi" sangadzuke. Ayenera kulingalira chinachake chachindunji komanso chowoneka bwino kuti adzuke. Chodabwitsa ichi pakati pa chikondi ndi kugonana sichinthu chomwe akazi amakumana nacho, sindikuganiza. Izi zimandifotokozera chifukwa chake anyamata nthawi zambiri samakhala ndi "zophwanya" monga momwe atsikana amachitira. Izi zikufotokozeranso chifukwa chake anyamata amatha kugonana mwachisawawa kuposa momwe akazi alili, kapena chifukwa chake anyamata amatha kudzutsidwa mosavuta ndi zowonera, pomwe amayi amafunikira mtundu wina wamapepala wamapepala kuti akafike pachimake.
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Kuchokera patsamba lokumananso - Kuwonetsa kochititsa manyazi pa zolaula pa intaneti
Kukumbukira bwino? Muyenera kusankha ngati wachinyamata
Comments: Timakumbukira zinthu zowonjezereka mu msinkhu wathu
Julayi 20th, 2012 mu Psychology & Psychiatry
"Kukumbukira bwino? Muyenera kusankha kuti mukhale wachinyamata. ” Julayi 20, 2012. http://medicalxpress.com/news/2012-07-memory-youre-teen.html
Kukambirana komwe ndinamva pa basi kunandipweteka kwambiri
"Kutumizirana zolaula" kumalumikizanso kugonana koopsa pakati pa achinyamata
"Kutumizirana zolaula" kumalumikizanso kugonana koopsa pakati pa achinyamata
By Genevra Pittman
NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - M'modzi mwa ana asukulu 2011 ku Los Angeles omwe ali ndi foni atumiza foni kapena chithunzi zolaula, malinga ndi zotsatira za kafukufuku wina mu XNUMX zomwe zidapezanso kuti "zolaula" zimatha kukhala pachiwopsezo machitidwe ogonana.
Pakafukufuku watsopano, achinyamata a LA omwe adatumiza zolemba zachinyengo anali ndi mwayi wopitilira kasanu ndi kawiri kuposa omwe adati sakanatumizirana mameseji.
"Palibe amene angatenge matenda opatsirana pogonana chifukwa amatumizirana zolaula," atero a Eric Rice, wofufuza malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ku University of Southern California ku Los Angeles, yemwe adatsogolera kafukufukuyu.
"Zomwe timafuna kudziwa ndikuti, kodi pali kulumikizana pakati pa kutumizirana zolaula ndi kuwononga thupi lanu? Ndipo yankho ndi loti 'inde,' ”adauza Reuters Health.
Kafukufuku wa Houston, Texas, a sukulu zam'mbuyomo kumayambiriro kwa chilimwe adapeza kuti mmodzi mwa achinyamata anayi adatumiza chithunzi chamaliseche pokhapokha kudzera m'mauthenga kapena ma imelo, ndipo anawo amakhalanso ndi chiopsezo chogonana. (Onani nkhani ya Health Reuters ya July 2, 2012).
Zomwe Rice adapeza, zomwe zidasindikizidwa Lolemba mu magazini ya Pediatrics, zidakhazikitsidwa ndi ophunzira 1,839 m'masukulu apamwamba aku Los Angeles, ambiri mwa iwo anali Latino. Atatu mwa atatu aliwonse anali ndi foni yam'manja yomwe amagwiritsa ntchito pafupipafupi.
Pa kafukufuku wothandizidwa ndi Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, opitilira 40 peresenti ya achinyamata omwe ali ndi foni yam'manja ati adagonana, ndipo pafupifupi awiri mwa atatu mwa atatu aliwonse adagwiritsa ntchito kondomu nthawi yomaliza yomwe adachita.
Rice adati kutumizirana zithunzi zolaula kwa achinyamata ku Houston mwina kukadakhala kocheperako poyerekeza ndi ku Los Angeles chifukwa chakusiyana kwa kuchuluka kwa anthu - koma malipoti onsewa ndiwofanana.
"Kumalo ena pakati mwina ndi kuyerekezera kwabwino zomwe zikuchitika mdziko lonse," atero a Jeff Temple, katswiri wama psychology komanso wofufuza zaumoyo wa azimayi ochokera ku The University of Texas Medical Branch ku Galveston yemwe adagwira nawo kafukufukuyu ku Houston.
Kafukufuku wake adapeza kuti atsikana makamaka omwe amatumiza zithunzi zamaliseche amakhala pachiwopsezo chogonana, kukhala ndi zibwenzi zingapo zaposachedwa kapena kumwa mowa ndi mankhwala asanagonane.
"Kutumizirana zithunzi zolaula kumawoneka ngati chisonyezo kapena chisonyezo chamakhalidwe enieni ogonana," Temple adauza Reuters Health.
"Zomwe akuchita pamoyo wawo wapaintaneti ndizomwe akuchita pa intaneti."
Rice anavomera kuti ndicho chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuchotsera pamaphunziro onsewa. "Izi sizingakhale zovuta kwa makolo ena, koma zitha kukhala zowopsa kwa ena," adatero.
"Awa ndimakhalidwe omwe achinyamata ochepa amachita, koma ndi ocheperako omwe ali mgulu lachiwerewere ... osati kungotumizirana zolaula."
Ndikutumizirana zolaula, palinso nkhawa kuti zithunzi zamaliseche zimathera pa intaneti ndipo achinyamata azizunzidwa pa intaneti, kapena kuti ophunzira omwe amalandila zolaula atha kuimbidwa mlandu wolaula.
Ochita kafukufuku akadali ndi mafunso ambiri okhudza kutumizirana mameseji, kuphatikizapo omwe ophunzira amatha kutumizirana zolaula komanso kuti ndi zikhalidwe zina ziti zomwe zingakhale zofala pakati pa anthu olaula. Temple ndi anzawo pakadali pano akuchita kafukufuku kuti awone zomwe zimakonda kukhala zoyambirira pakati pa achinyamata - kutumizirana zolaula kapena kugonana.
Pakadali pano, Rice adati makolo ndi aphunzitsi atha kugwiritsa ntchito njira zofalitsa nkhani za anthu otchuka aposachedwa kapena wandale potumizirana zolaula ngati nkhani yolankhula ndi achinyamata za kutumizirana zolaula komanso kugonana kwenikweni - makamaka chifukwa onsewa ndiogwirizana kwambiri.
"Kutumizirana zolaula kungakhale kosavuta kukambirana kwa aphunzitsi kuyamba kucheza ndi achinyamata kuposa kucheza kokhazikika komwe kumayambira kuti, 'Tiyeni tikambirane zachiwerewere," adatero.
SOURCE: bit.ly/jsoh2P Matenda, pa September September 17, 2012.
Ndizo zonse zomwe tikudziwa, popeza ife
sindinayambe ndamva konse za intaneti mpaka chaka changa chokhazikika
KUPHUNZIRA; Kusintha kwa digito ndi ubongo wachinyamata kusintha.
Kusintha kwa digito ndi ubongo wachinyamata kusintha.
gwero
Gawo Lopanga Ubongo, Child Psychiatry Branch, National Institute of Mental Health, Bethesda, Maryland, USA.
Kudalirika
Kupita patsogolo modabwitsa kwamatekinoloje komwe kumathandizira kufalitsa ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zidziwitso zolembedwera ngati magawo a digito a 1s kapena 0s asintha kwambiri moyo wathu. Achinyamata, okalamba mokwanira kuti adziwe ukadaulo komanso achichepere kuti athe kulandira zachilendo zawo, ali patsogolo pa "kusintha kwapa digito" uku. Chomwe chimapangitsa kuti wachinyamata alandire mwachidwi kusintha kumeneku ndi matenda amitsempha omwe amapangidwa ndi moto wosinthika kuti ukhale waluso kwambiri pakusintha. Zotsatira zakusinthasintha kwa ubongo pazofunikira ndi mwayi wazaka zadijito zimakhudza kwambiri akatswiri azaumoyo achinyamata.
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Kusokoneza chiwerewere chokhudzana ndi ma 2nd akugwirizana
Ndemanga kuchokera ku chaka cha 50
Ndemanga kuchokera ku chaka cha 45
Sipadzakhalanso wodziwa za kukula kwa mbolo
Kuchita maliseche ndi vibrator ali wamng'ono kumayambitsa ED okhazikika
Makolo anga anandipatsa 0 kuyang'anira ndi makompyuta
Gabe akukumbukira kukambirana ndi chaka cha 15
Re: Gabe (zaka 25) ndi Gary akukambirana zachipani cha ED
Zotsatirazi zinalembedwa ndi Gabe kuchokera Yambani mtundu. Gabe nthawi zambiri amalankhula kwa achinyamata, ndipo izi ndizo kukumbukira zokambirana ndi chaka cha 15.
Ndi yankho la funso ili:
-Eya, ena a iwo akudziwa zomwe akuchita. Sanalowe momwe amachitira, koma adati mnyamatayo sasamala.
Pano pali mbali ya nkhani yathu yokhudzana ndi izi:
Ine: "Kotero aliyense kusukulu kwanu amapeza pakompyuta yake yokha bwino?"
Mnyamata: "eya"
Ine: “kodi amaletsa facebook ndi twitter kuti asakhalepo tsiku lonse, ndikulemba momwe sukulu ilili yotopetsa, kapena mukufuna kuti mukadakhala kuti mukusewera kunyumba? (masewera apakanema) ”
Achinyamata: "Iwo amayesa, koma aliyense amadziwa momwe angayendetsere, amati ngati tigwidwa (pa facebook) mumatumizidwa ku ofesi, koma sizinabwererenso. Iwo adanena kuti agwiritsa ntchito akaunti ya munthu yemwe ali bwenzi ndi gulu la ophunzira ndikuwona omwe ali pa intaneti ndikuwapseza, koma osachita. "
Ine: "Ya ndi momwe zinaliri kwa ife nawonso pamene Xanga ndi MySpace poyamba adakula. Tinazindikira mmene tingayendetsere mazenera mkati mwa masiku a 2. Nanga bwanji mafoni a m'manja, ndikudziwa kuti aliyense ali pafoni yawo tsiku lonse ndipo angathe kuwatenga pa Intaneti? "
Achinyamata: "O, ndithudi haha, ndikutanthauza ana ena atenga foni yawo, koma nthawi zambiri amangotiuza kuti tiwaike. Timati inde mam ndiye 5 masekondi pambuyo pake atumizira tweet yonena kuti "
Ine: "chabwino ndikufunseni izi ... ndi anyamata angati kusukulu omwe amaonera zolaula pama foni awo, kapena ma laputopu?"
Achinyamata: "O man, matani. Osati zambiri pa laptops koma pafupifupi aliyense pa mafoni awo. "
Ine: "inde ndi zomwe ndimaganiza kuti munganene, ndikupemphani kuti akuchita bwino pakati pa gulu?"
Mnyamata: "nthawi yonse ... nthawi .... Palibe nthabwala munthu mmodzi amene akukhala kumbuyo kwanga ndipo akungoyang'ana pa foni yake pamapiko ake gulu lonse likuyang'ana mavidiyo. Iye sasamala ngakhale yemwe amamuwona. "
Ine: "dikirani, ngakhale atsikana akamamuwona?"
Mnyamatayo: "inde iye angasamalire pang'ono ngati mtsikana amuwona, iye ndi anzake akuganiza kuti ndizoseketsa."
Ine: "Ziyenera kukhala zovuta kwa ophunzira kuti azimvetsera ngati mukudziwa kuti zikuchitika pambali panu."
Achinyamata: "Zoona! Ndine ngati bro, muli ndi atsikana okongola omwe akukhala mozungulirani, ndipo mutakhala pansi pafoni yanu yoyang'ana pawindo, sizimveka bwino. "
Ine: "palibe ayi, kodi unali ndi zaka zingati pamene iwe unayamba kuona zolaula?"
Achinyamata: "Eh, kunali chilimwe chisanakhale chaka cha 5th pamene ndinapita kwa mnzanga; iye anali ndi gulu la izo pa Xbox yake. "
Ine: "inde, usinkhu wa zaka zapakati pa zaka 10 tsopano kwa anyamata, ndi wopenga. Kodi sekondale chinali chiyani, chifukwa apones akhala akuzungulira kanthawi tsopano. "
Achinyamata: "Sukulu ya Middle School inali yofanana, mwinamwake kwambiri. Panali maulendo angapo m'kalasi la 7th pamene anyamata angayankhe foni pakati pa gome la chakudya chamasana ndipo aliyense amakhoza kuzungulira ndikuyang'ana. "
Tili pakati pa mliri umene ukuwononga miyandamiyanda ya miyoyo, cholinga changa ndikupanga chidziwitso kumbuyo kumayang'ana zolaula zomwe zimadziwika bwino.
ndinali wamng'ono kwambiri kuti ndisagone, koma ndinapeza zolaula pa intaneti
Zimamveka ngati sindidzakhutitsidwa mpaka nditayesa zinthuzo
ndinakonzanso maganizo anga pang'ono, kuchepetsa kusamalidwa
Pambuyo pa zaka za 6 za kugonana popanda kukhutira zolaula,
Sindinafune kwenikweni kugawa chilichonse chimene ndalemba, koma mwina izi zingathandize wina.
Zachilendo bwanji panonso?
Ndine 27yo Yemwe Anakakamizidwa Kuonera Zolaula Kuyambira 4-6yo
Kalata yopempha kupepesa
ndikudandaula pambuyo pa masiku a 20, koma ndikugwira mchimwene wanga pompano
Ndili ndi zaka 10 Ndinayamba kuyang'ana pa intaneti ndikuyang'ana mawu
Porn zinkandiphunzitsa kuti kukhala munthu kunali pafupi kugonana.
Ndisanayambe zonsezi, ndinkangoganizira za nkhanza zogonana
Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa kuyang'ana vanila angapo sc
Zizolowezi zoledzera ndizoona, ndikukhulupirireni anyamata
Tsopano ine ndikusintha kwa ZONSE. Gore, fodya, anal hardcore, zimachitika
Mwezi wa 2 Wosakhulupirika Kwaulere! Kwa inu omwe mukuganiza za kugwiritsa ntchito
P si enieni.
Ndakhala ndikuyesera kusiya zolaula
ZOONA ZOFUNIKA KuthANDIZA
Re: Kodi zolaula zinasintha umunthu wanu?
Re: Kodi zolaula zinasintha umunthu wanu?
Izi, izi ndi izi.
osatifeelingitit
Pamaso pa Zolaula
Sindinaganize kuti ndinali wosuta
koma onse anali oledzera, ndipo adadziwa kuti ayenera kuima.
Zimene ndinaphunzira pa zolaula
Zimene ndinaphunzira pa zolaula
by kuseweramasiku 21
Ndi Krowgmasiku 37
Musaiwale "zotsatira zina" zolaula.
Kodi owongolera khumi ndi asanu ndi atatu amayamba nofap? Simuli nokha
sindinali woledzera, koma zimandikhudza m'njira iliyonse
Ndine mkazi wa zaka 26 (ndemanga pa achinyamata, zolaula ndi kugonana)
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/reader-comments/p/comment/link/43647381
Ndili ndi zaka 15 & kugonana kwanga kwachepa
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1vlk0o/kids_access_to_porn/
Sintha. Zomwe zolaula zimachita ku ubongo wathu.
Zaka 16 - Porn Sizimakhalanso M'moyo Wanga
Ma tepi ndi zojambula ndi mitsinje ndi zina zotero ndi zina zotero
kuchokera ku r / nofap
Chifukwa chiyani ndinasiya (17 yo)
Chifukwa chiyani ndinasiya (17 yo)
Chidima ichi chasinthadi ubongo wathu ndipo zonse zimakhala zomveka
Kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi kumalowa m'Chipinda chogonana
Kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi kumalowa m'Chipinda chogonana
Patapita kanthawi osasiya, mukuwona kuwonongeka kwa zolaula
Kuwonongeka kwa P zomwe ndikuziwona tsopano
Masiku a 40 mkati, ndikuganiza kuti kugonana kunasokonekera ine ndi PMO
Masiku a 40 mkati, ndikuganiza kuti kugonana kunasokonekera ine ndi PMO
Zovuta ndi zachilendo masiku ano
… Palibe nthawi yomwe ndinauzidwapo kuti zolaula zinali zoyipa- zinali / zovomerezeka pagulu, ngakhale ZINAYEMBEKEZEDWA, kwa PMO. nthabwala zanthawi zonse pazofalitsa zambiri zimalimbikitsa lingaliro loti zonse zinali zachilendo. ndipo ngati munthu yemwe ndakulira m'badwo woyamba wa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, sindinadziwe china chilichonse chosiyana. zolaula ndi zachilendo.
Ndikuganiza kuti ndimadziwa mosazindikira kuti zolaula zinali zowononga kwa nthawi yayitali. Ndinkadziyang'ana ndekha patatha maola ambiri ndikukonzekera zolaula, ndikumva manyazi kwambiri. ndimapezeka kuti ndili pabedi ndi atsikana atanyamula chidole changa mmanja, ndikupepesa- nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndi chowiringula (kumwa kwambiri, kugona mokwanira, opanda kanthu m'mimba) ndatha bwanji pano? ndipita kuti? ndinali ndi mafunso okhaokha opanda mayankho….
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2hpqo3/90_days/
Anthu amadana kwambiri ndi zolaula!
Anthu amadana kwambiri ndi zolaula!
Achinyamata azaka za 16 sayenera kugonana monga anthu zolaula.
CHOLEMBEDWA kwambiri chomwe ndidalemba. (Zikulimbikitsani)
Kukula kwa mbolo kunandichititsa chidwi kwambiri
Kukula kwa mbolo kunandichititsa chidwi kwambiri
Ndinkaganiza kuti ndine anzaxual.
Ndinkaganiza kuti ndine anzaxual.
Kuzoloŵera zolaula kalasi yachisanu
Kuzoloŵera zolaula kalasi yachisanu
PMO amatha kuchepetsa luso lanu labwino
PMO amatha kuchepetsa luso lanu labwino