Ukubuyisela kabusha izinto eziyisisekelo: Qala Lapha

Ukuqalisa kabusha izisekelo: qala lapha

Isisekelo sokuqalisa kabusha siphefumulelwa impumelelo enkulu.

"Ubuthakathaka bethu obukhulu bulele ekulahlekeni. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphumelela njalo ukuzama isikhathi esisodwa nje. "

- UThomas A. Edison

Ukuqalisa kabusha

Inhloso yokuqalisa kabusha ukuthola ukuthi unjani ngaphandle kocansi empilweni yakho. I-YourBrainOnPorn.com ayinayo "uhlelo lokutakula izithombe ezingcolile." Uma ufuna isethi yemithetho ngeke uyithole - ngaphandle kokuthi: “Cha yokufakelwa ukuvusa inkanuko yocansi ngesikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha kwakho.”Ngokuzenzela sisho amaphikseli, umsindo nezincwadi. Azikho izinto ezithatha indawo yezocansi ezivunyelwe, ezinjengokungena ezingosini ze-Facebook noma izingosi zokuqomisana, ukuhamba nge-Craigslist, izikhangiso zangaphansi, amavidiyo we-YouTube, “izincwadi ezivusa inkanuko”, njll. Uma kungeyona impilo yangempela, vele uthi 'cha.'

I-YBOP imane idlulise iziphakamiso ezivela emadodeni aseluleme ekuluthweni kocansi lwe-Intanethi, i-ED eyenziwe ngocansi, neminye imiphumela emibi yokusetshenziswa kocansi. Khetha bese ukhetha okukusebenzelayo. Sicela ungazibambi, “Ngikwenza kahle lokhu?” Nguwe onquma ubude nemingcele yokuqalisa kabusha kwakho, kuya ngezinhloso zakho nesimo samanje. ngicabanga leli qembu lamavidiyo ngabafana abaye bekhona, okubandakanya:

Uma uvuselela kabusha ngoba usolisa ukungasebenzi komzimba erectile, sicela ubheke Isigaba se-Porn & ED, ngokuqala QALA LAPHA: Ukungasebenzi kahle kocansi okubangelwa ucansi. Bukela le vidiyo - "Ingabe I-Porn Yenze Ukungasebenzi Kwami Kwe-Erectile? HLOLA! ” (by Mbuyiseni Ndlozi)

Izixhumanisi ezihlobene:

Umlutha Wezocansi Nesimo Sezocansi

“Kuyamangaza lokhu okufundayo ngokwenza lokhu. Ngicabanga ukuthi manje sengisiqonda ngokuphelele isisho esithi 'ulwazi lungamandla.' Lapho usukwazi ukuthi into ethile isebenza kanjani nokuthi ikuthinta kanjani, kuba lula kakhulu ukuthola amandla okwenza ushintsho uma ufisa. ”- Ukubuyisa umsebenzisi we-porn

Abantu bafika lapha banezimpawu eziningi ezahlukahlukene, ezingezona njalo isiqiniseko kungenxa yokusebenzisa kwabo okunzima kwe-porn. Ukudideka kuyaqondakala ngoba izimpawu zibukeka zehluke kakhulu. (Bheka futhi Ziyini izimpawu zokusebenzisa izithombe ezingcolile zobulili?) Ngokwesibonelo,

Ukushintsha kwamakhemikhali wobuchopho

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ukulutha noma isimo socansi shintsha ukwakheka kanye nokwakheka kwamakhemikhali okuyinkimbinkimbi yobuchopho umjikelezo womvuzo. Ukujikeleza komvuzo kuhlala ezikhungweni zasendulo eziguquguqukayo ezibhekele ukuthonya noma ukulawula yonke imisebenzi yomzimba, imibono, imizwa, imizwa, ukushayela, ukunxusa, ukufunda, inkumbulo, futhi - libido kanye nokwenziwa. Isistimu yakho yezinzwa ezizimele kanye namahomoni amaningi amakhulu alawulwa ngezakhiwo zomvuzo wokujikeleza namakhemikhali. Ngokwengeziwe, cishe konke ukuphazamiseka ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo kuvela ekungalingani kulezi zakhiwo ezifanayo nasemikhondweni ye-neural. Akumangalisi ukuthi izimpawu eziningi ezahlukahlukene zingavela kumjikelezo womvuzo oguqulwe ukulutha kocansi noma isimo socansi. Yize izinguquko eziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu ekwakhiweni kobuchopho nokusebenza kwazo kwenzeka kuzo zonke izidakamizwa, lezi zigaba ezine ezilandelayo zinezinguquko eziningi ezinkulu:

  1. Impendulo enenjabulo eningi (ukungafuneki of umvuzo wakho circuitry)
  2. Ukwakhiwa kwezinqubo zokulutha izidakamizwa (ukuzwela - okuyinto elandela isimo sengqondo sobulili)
  3. Ukuvimbela ukulawula okuphezulu nokuthatha izinqumo (ubuzenzisi)
  4. Uhlelo lokucindezeleka olungasebenzi - okukhombisa njengokucindezela okuncane okudala izifiso ngoba ukucindezeleka kwama-neurochemicals kusebenzisa izindlela ezinamandla zokulutha.

Masenze inkolelo evamile: Izimo ezibangelwa i-porn, noma izinzuzo ezibikwe ngabaqalisi kabusha, azihlangene namazinga we-testosterone wegazi. (Noma yikuphi ukuxhumana phakathi kwama-orgasm, abstinence, namazinga we-testosterone?).

Ukuqalisa kabusha

Uma ubuchopho obuhlobene nomlutha buyashintsha noma isimo sezocansi singaphansi kwezibonakaliso zakho, ungase ukwazi ukuguqula inqubo ngokunikeza ubuchopho bakho isikhathi esifanelekile kusuka ekugqibeleni. Ukuqalisa kabusha yikhathi sethu sokuthola ukuphuza ubulili kanye nezimpawu ezihambisanayo, kufaka phakathi izidakamizwa zobulili. Sikubiza ngokuthi 'ukuqala kabusha' ukuze ucabange ukubuyisela ubuchopho bakho kuzilungiselelo zawo zasekuqaleni zefektri. Ngokusobala, awukwazi ukubuyela emuva ngesikhathi endaweni yokubuyisela, noma usule yonke idatha ngendlela obuyokwenza ngayo lapho usula uhlanza i-hard drive yekhompyutha. Noma kunjalo, wena can philisa izinguquko eziningi zobuchopho eziholela ekuluthweni kwakho kocansi. (Bheka: Ingabe umlutha wezocansi ubangela ukulimala okungenakuguquka ebuchosheni?)

Kuyadida kakhulu ekuqaleni ngoba le nqubo ayilayini, futhi ubuchopho ngabunye buyalulama ngokuhlukile. Abanye abantu banezifiso ezingapheli futhi izinkathi zokuhlala. Abanye banezifiso zabo ezimbi kakhulu emasontweni amabili okuqala. Abanye banezinkinga ezinkulu izimpawu zokuhoxiswa. Abanye bazizwa kamnandi isikhashana bese bengena esikhathini esiyinselele ngokwengeziwe. Futhi abanye bazizwa bekhathazekile ngendlela esabekayo. Abanye bazizwa * bengakhathazeki ngokuphelele, kepha futhi bane-libido edangele amasonto. Abanye abatholi ukuthi i-libido yabo itholakele baze bathole umlingani wangempela ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa. Qaphela izimpawu ezingokwengqondo ezihluleka ukuthuthuka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kungenzeka ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn esindayo kufihle isimo esivele sikhona njengokucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, noma i-OCD.

Nikeza ingqondo yakho ukuphumula

Indlela esheshayo yokuqala kabusha ukunikeza ubuchopho bakho ekuphumuleni yokufakelwa ukugqugquzela ucansi-i-porn, i-porn fantasy, ukuphequlula izintandokazi zokusebenza noma i-Craigslist, ne-erotica. Kwabanye ukuphuma isikhashana ekushayeni indlwabu kanye ne-orgasm nakho kuyasiza. Abafana abaningi basusa noma banciphise kakhulu ama-orgasms ngesikhathi sabo sokuqalisa kabusha (amadoda anezinkinga zokusebenza ngokocansi avame ukwenza lokhu). Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuxhumana ngokomzimba nomuntu wangempela kungaba lusizo, inqobo nje uma ungacabangi ngezocansi. Eqinisweni, abanye abantu bayazibandakanya ucansi oluthambile, lapho bagwema ukusondela onqenqemeni noma i-orgasming. Lokhu kudlula eceleni umshayeli.

"Ukushaya indlwabu, noma ukungashayi indlwabu, lowo ngumbuzo"

Uma ukusetshenziswa kwe-porn kuyimbangela yezibonakaliso zakho, ungase uzibuze ukuthi kungani amadoda amaningi okwesikhashana ukuqeda ukushaya indlwabu kanye ne-orgasm ngesikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha. Impendulo emfushane ithi - "Yile ndlela abafana abaningi abakwenze ngayo". Kunomlando osunguliwe wokuyeka ucansi okwesikhashana ngamadoda anezinkinga zocansi ezibangelwa ucansi nalabo abaphakathi ukululama ekulweni kocansi. Abanye basikisela izinsuku ezingama-90, bona - Alukho Ucansi Izinsuku ezingama-90 ?? - The Sex Fast, Part 1, nguTerry Crews. Futhi abaningi abaqala kabusha bathi ukuphela kwesikhathi sesikhashana kusiza ukusetha kabusha ithempulethi yabo yokuvusa ucansi. Njengoba kushiwo, i-YBOP inemithetho emibili kuphela yokuqalisa kabusha:

  1. Yeka ukusebenzisa i-stimuli yokufakelwa ngokocansi, futhi
  2. Yenza okukusebenzelayo.

Uma ucabanga ukuthi kungakusiza ukuba ususe okwesikhashana noma unciphise kakhulu ukushaya indlwabu / orgasm ngesikhathi sokuqala kabusha, sicela ufundise kuqala ngalezi zingxoxo kungaba ukushaya indlwabu noma cha, Kanye ubuhle nobubi bokushaya indlwabu, a indlela elinganiselayo / isu, futhi lokhu intambo yi-nofapper ngubani ocabanga ukuthi akukho ukushaya indlwabu kunzima kakhulu. Qhathanisa lokho okuhlangenwe nakho nalokhu kuqhutshwa okuqhubekayo Indlela "Yokuvusa".

Izinketho zokushaya indlwabu

Imicabango yokunciphisa okwesikhashana noma yokuqeda ukushaya indlwabu ngesikhathi sokuqala kabusha:

  • Uma unayo i-porn-eyenziwe i-ED, ubuchopho bakho buthi: "Angisakwazi ukukwenza lokhu". Qonda ukuthi isifiso sakho sokushaya indlwabu akuyona i-libido yangempela - ungahle ube umlutha wezocansi, noma ukuvuswa kwakho kocansi manje ihlelwe kukho konke okuhlobene nokusetshenziswa kwakho kwe-porn. Uma udinga i-porn ukushaya indlwabu, noma ube nepipi elime kancane uma wenza njalo, awunalo i-horny noma udinga "ukukhishwa". Ufuna ukulungiswa nokulungiswa kokungaphatheki kahle kwakho: ukuphakama kwesikhashana.
  • The iningi yamadoda alulame ku-ED eyenziwe ngocansi wakhetha ukunciphisa ukushaya indlwabu kanye ne-orgasm - okungenani okwesikhashana. Kodwa-ke, izinkathi ezinde zokuyeka kungenzeka zingalethi imiphumela engcono. Amadoda ane-PIED enzima ngokuvamile adinga ukuvuselela ukuvusa kwabo ucansi kubalingani bangempela.
  • Ukushaya indlwabu nokusetshenziswa kocansi kuhlanganiswe ngokuqinile. Njengenja kaPavlov eyaconsa amathe lapho izwa insimbi, ungakuthola uqala ukuconsa amathe ocansini lapho ushaya indlwabu. Isikhathi siyadingeka ukwenza buthakathaka ukuxhumana kwe-neural okuxhumeka wanking nokubuka. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ekugcineni ukufunda ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kwe-porn noma iphupho elihlobene nezocansi kungahle kususe ukuvusa kwakho kude ne-porn.
  • Ukubuyiselwa kungahle kube lula ngaphandle kokushaya indlwabu / i-orgasm. Susa ukushaya indlwabu / i-orgasm kusuka ku-equation okwesikhashana futhi abaningi abafana ne-ED eyenziwe ngocansi bavame ukuhlaselwa okubukhali kwesifiso socansi, sibiza ngokuthi flatline. (Bheka: "USIZO! Ngiyeke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, kodwa amandla ami, usayizi wesitho sangasese, ne-libido ayancipha ”)
Ukugwema ukuvuselela izinkanuko
  • Ukushaya indlwabu kanye ne-orgasm kungase kuvuselele izifiso zokusebenzisa i-porn. Kuyamangalisa ukubona ukuthi amadoda amaningi anesikhathi esilula ukuqeda ukushaya indlwabu kunabo abenza ucansi. Kubantu abaningi abanomlutha wezocansi, ukushaya indlwabu akusilo lokho okuthakazelisayo ngaphandle kocansi, futhi bayamangala ukuthola ukuthi izifiso zobulili ezingcolile, hhayi i-libido, beziqhuba ukucinga kwabo njalo.
  • Labo abanenkinga yokucindezela ngokweqile noma ukuthambekela kwe-OCD okugwema ukushaya indlwabu kungase kutholakale izimpawu ezengeziwe. Ngisho nokuzigcina okwesikhashana kungase kungabi kuwe.
Izinto okufanele uzindle ngazo
  • Iphuzu eliyinhloko: Ulwazi lwethu luvela kulabo abathumele ama-akhawunti wokuvuselela kabusha. Kungase kube khona abantu abaningi abaphuluka kalula ngenkathi beqhubeka be-orgasm njalo.
  • Iphuzu eliyinhloko i-2: Kude kakhulu akuyona kangcono, uma kuziwa ekuqedeni ukuyeka ukuphuma ejaculation. Udinga ukuzivumelanisa nezimo futhi uqaphele imiphumela ye-orgasm njengoba uqhubeka lapho uqala kabusha.
  • I-Caveat: Abanye abafana abane-porn-eyabangela i-ED ekugcineni kudingeka kuya ku-orgasm ukuze bagxume-baqale izinhliziyo zabo emva kokuqala kabusha noma kwandiswe flatline.
  • Ukushaya indlwabu akusho ukubuyela emuva. Ukufaka igama elithi 'ukubuyela emuva' kwimivuzo yemvelo kuyinkimbinkimbi, okungcono kakhulu. Uma ukhetha ukusebenzisa igama elibuyela emuva, lisebenzise kuphela kwabangena esikhundleni se-porn kanye ne-porn.

I-YBOP akuyona iwebhusayithi yokulwa ukushaya indlwabu

Ngidinga ukumemeza lokhu, ngoba ngifunde lo mbhedo ezinkundleni eziningi, lapho izingxabano ze-porn ze-Intanethi zilulaza ezingxoxweni zokushaya indlwabu. Igama laleli sayithi “Ubuchopho Bakho Buvuliwe porn.”Ukudideka kwenzeka ngoba:

I-1) Lesi sizukulwane sibona ukushaya indlwabu nokusebenzisa i-porn njengento efanayo, Futhi

I-2) Amadoda alulame kusuka ku-ED athi baphulukisa kalula futhi ukuqeda okwesikhashana ukushaya indlwabu / i-orgasm. Kwesikhashana ukuqeda ukushaya indlwabu, noma ukunciphisa imvamisa yakho, kumayelana nokululama ekuluthweni nasekucindezelweni i-ED - akukho okunye.

Asikhuthazi ukuzithiba njengendlela yokuphila okuphakade

Nakuba kungekho lutho olungalungile ngokushaya indlwabu, kungase kungabi yi-panacea yezempilo yonkana yonke eshicilelwe abezindaba. Futhi ukushaya indlwabu kungalingani nokulala ngokobulili, ngoba akuzona zonke izicansi ezenziwe ezilinganayo (Bheka: Izinzuzo Zempilo Ezihlobene Nezocansi Ezihlukene. Umagazini wezokwelapha, 2010) Ngaphezu kwalokho, Ukujula kunciphisa izinguquko eziningi zobuchopho. Yize lokhu kungeyona into okufanele ukhathazeke ngayo, ngokungaphezulu kokusebenzisa izindlela ezijwayelekile zokwabelana ngokocansi nge-inthanethi ye-porn kungadala ezinye izinguquko ezingafuneki. Njengoba kuyizinto eziningi empilweni, ukulinganisela kungaba yisihluthulelo sokushaya indlwabu. Njengecala, ukushaya indlwabu akwenzeki kwezinye izizwe zomdabu: I-WEIRD Izenzo Zokushaya Indlwabu.

“Kuthiwani Uma Ngingakwazi Ukuyeka Ukushaya Indlwabu,” noma “Nginentombi / Umfazi / Ozakwethu?”

Khululeka futhi ugxile ekunikezeni izithombe ezingcolile. Into yokugcina ofuna ukuyenza ukuthi ube "ngundunu" kangangokuthi ungalokothi uzame ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile. Bheka le ntambo ivuliwe I-Orgasm Reboot: Indlela Entsha, futhi le ntambo ku-a inkolo iqhutshwa nxazonke zokushaya indlwabu kungabi nempilo. Okususwayo kule micu yomibili ukuthi abafana bayeke ukuzama ngoba bacabanga ukuthi bayazikhohlisa ukuthi ukuqala kabusha konke kuphelele noma akukho: “Uma ushaya indlwabu uhlulekile”. Umbhedo ophelele lo. Nakhu isipiliyoni somuntu oyedwa:

“Uma unenkinga, ngizozama ukusika i-porn kuqala kuqala. Ngakuthola kunzima kakhulu ukwenza zombili i-nofap ne-pornfree ekuqaleni, kepha ngazama i-pornfree kuphela ngedwa. Ngithole ukuthi isifiso sami sokushaya indlwabu sehla kancane kancane saba yimali enempilo, nokuthi angizwanga sizathu sokubuka okuqukethwe kwezocansi. Uma ungakwenza kokubili, kwenze. Kepha uma uqhubeka nokwehluleka ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa, ngingakuncoma lokhu. Kungenzele izimangaliso. ”

Uma ufuna ukufaka ukucabanga okumnyama nokumhlophe, yenza kanjalo ekusebenziseni kwakho i-porn, kepha hhayi ngokushaya indlwabu noma ucansi

I-porn yanamuhla ye-intanethi iyinkinga. Ukusetshenziswa kocansi yikhona okushintshe ubuchopho bakho futhi kwabangela ukungasebenzi kwakho ngokocansi noma i-ED. Uma ukuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile yikho konke ongakwazi ukusingatha, mane umise ukusebenzisa i-porn bese ukala imiphumela. Njengoba kushiwo, ukukhuthazwa kocansi nomlingani kungaba yinto enhle, yize i-orgasm ingakwazi bangela izifiso, futhi kungase kuphuze ukuphumula kwe-ED. Eqinisweni, ukukhohlisana nomlingani wakho kukhulu njengoba kukuthinta ekusebenzeni kwangempela. Abanye abantu basikisela ubulili obukhulu futhi kungekho-ejaculation, kanti abanye baxuba ekujuleni. Uma unayo i-ED futhi unqume ukuba u-orgasm njalo, ungaziqhathanisi nokuvuselela ama-akhawunti lapho abafana behluleka khona. Uma uzama ukuqala kabusha futhi ube nomlingani ubone ama-FAQ alandelayo:

Kufanele ngiqalise isikhathi esingakanani?

Amawebhusayithi amaningi axhumanisa ne-YBOP athi siphakamisa izinsuku ezingama-60, noma izinsuku ezingama-90, noma amasonto ayi-8, njll. Asinalo uhlelo noma inani lezinsuku ezibekiwe, njengoba isikhathi sincike ngokuphelele ebucayi besimo sakho, kanjani ubuchopho bakho buyaphendula, futhi imigomo yakho. Izikhathi ezihleliwe zitholakalayo ukuvuselela ama-akhawunti kukhona konke kule ndawo ngoba ubuchopho buhlukile, futhi amanye amadoda abe ne-porn-enza i-ED noma i-DE. Amadoda aqala kabusha ukuguqula i-ED eyenziwe ngocansi asebenzisa impilo yabo erectile njenge-barometer (bheka: Kuzothatha isikhathi esingakanani ukubuyisela ekusebenziseni kobulili okungcolile kobulili? ).

Abafana abangenayo i-ED kumele basebenzise amanye amabhentshi (bona: Ngazi kanjani ukuthi sengibuyele kokujwayelekile?). Akuvamile ukuthi abesilisa abasebasha babone ukuthuthuka isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuphela kwesigaba sabo sokuqala kabusha.

Ukufunda ngawe

Cabanga ngokuqalisa kabusha njengokuthola ukuthi yini wena nokuthi yini ehlobene nocansi - kungaba yi-ED, ukukhathazeka komphakathi, ukushayela ucansi okuxakile, i-ADHD, ukucindezeleka, njll. ukuqondisa umkhumbi wakho siqu. Ngicabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu owenza lolu hambo kufanele afunde lokhu okuthunyelwe ngumdali we-YourBrainRebalanced.com: Ama-Top 3 FATAL MISTAKES Ama-Rebooters enza

Futhi uma kukhona into eyodwa engingathanda ukuhlanganyela nani nonke yilokhu: Sondelani nale nto hhayi ngengqondo "yokufeza izinombolo x zezinsuku", kodwa ngengqondo yokubeka ibanga phakathi kwakho ne-porn, ukuze kube yinto uzizwa ngokweqiniso sengathi kusewindini lakho lokubuka ngemuva.

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Yazi ukuthi ezinye izinsizwa ezine-porn-eyenziwe ngu-ED zithatha isikhathi eside ukuqala kabusha kunabafana asebekhulile abangazange baqale kusenesikhathi kwi-porn ye-Intanethi. Kodwa-ke, zona lezi zinsizwa ekugcineni zingadinga ukukhahlela ukuqala i-libido yazo uma ukuqala kabusha kwazo kuthatha isikhathi eside. Bona - Kwaqala nge-inthanethi ye-porn kanye nokuqalisa kabusha kwami ​​(ukukhubazeka kwe-Erectile) kuthatha isikhathi eside kakhulu

Yini evunyelwe ngesikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha?

Lokhu mhlawumbe ngumbuzo wokuqala esibuzwa wona, ngaphandle kokuthi "Kuzothatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi i-ED yami ilungiswe"? Futhi, asinalo uhlelo, kuphela ukuqonda okuvela emadodeni aseluleme. Uma umgomo wakho okuwukuphela kokukhipha izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, ukumisa i-porn kunganele. Lokho kusho ukuthi amadoda amaningi aqeda zonke izinto ezenziwa ngokocansi futhi aqede okwesikhashana ukushaya indlwabu / i-orgasm (uma unomlingani wakho bheka izixhumanisi ezingenhla). Abanye kufanele ukuqeda iphutha lobulili futhi - okungenani isikhashana. Bona lokhu ividiyo - Ukuqalisa kabusha: Yini Okubalulekile njengokuphindaphinda? - yiNowa Church.

Lokubuyisela

Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukutakula akukhona ngezocansi ngayinye se. Imayelana nokuguqula izinguquko zobuchopho ezihlobene nokulutha (ezenzeka kububanzi) futhi isimo socansi (nge sensitization). Izinto eziluthayo ezifana ne-cocaine noma i-nicotine zizohlala zandisa uhlelo lokuvuza lomvuzo. Ngezidakamizwa zokuziphatha ezifana ne-intanethi ye-intanethi nokugembula, isikhungo sakho somvuzo (i-nucleus accumbens) kungenzeka singabi nempendulo engaguquguquki ye-dopamine. Isibonelo, i-porn yobungqingili ebambe i-dopamine yakho ngenyanga edlule kungenzeka ukuthi ayisakuniki i-buzz namuhla. Manje udinga izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zobulili. Njengokungajwayelekile lokhu kungazwakala, engxenyeni yokuqala yobuchopho bakho ayikho into efana (nencazelo) yezocansi. Konke kwehlela ekutheni ngabe uyazivuselela izindlela zokulutha ezikhuthazwayo, nokuthi ngabe ucindezela ngokweqile uhlelo lwe-dopamine yakho yobuchopho esivele lungasasebenzi.

Imibuzo emayelana nokuthi “kuvunyelwe” yini, noma yini “ukubuyela emuva”, noma ngabe i-X, Y, noma i-Z, izokwehlisa ukuqala kabusha komunye umuntu ayikwazi ukuphendulwa. Umbuzo ongcono ngothi, "Luhlobo luni lokuqeqeshwa kobuchopho oluholela ezinguquko eziluthayo ebuchosheni bami, futhi ngiyaluphinda yini?" Inkinga yakho eyisisekelo ukuthi uxhunywe kuzisusa zocansi lokuzenzela, futhi udinga ukwenza ushintsho uma ufuna ukubuyela ekuphenduleni kwakho okuvamile kwezocansi. Bheka Porn Manje Futhi Manje: Siyakwamukela Brain Training ukuqonda lo mqondo.

Uhlu olufushane lwalokho okusizayo ukukugwema kufaka phakathi…

Bona futhi le FAQ - Yiziphi izinto okufanele ngizigweme lapho ngiqala kabusha - Ngabe ngibuyele emuva?

  1. I-Porn: zonke izinhlobo. Uma udinga ukubuza, impendulo ithi, 'hamba kabi.' Uma kungesikho ukuxhumana komuntu nomuntu wangempela, ungakusebenzisi (futhi lokho kufaka oxhumana nabo be-cam).
  2. Gwema ukuziphatha okulingisa yakho umlutha wezocansi. Okuvame ukusho izindlela zokuziphatha ezifaka esikhundleni zokwenziwa kanye nobukhulu besivumelwano sangempela.
  3. Ukuqeda izindlela zokwenziwa noma zokwenziwa akuhlanganyeli ku- “cam to cam” noma kumagumbi okuxoxa.
  4. Ukuhlola i-Facebook, izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuphola, i-YouTube, Uhlu lukaCraig noma amasayithi afanayo ezithombe nezenzo zocansi kufana nokushintshela kotshwala kubhiya we-lite.
  5. Ukucabanga ngezithombe zocansi kucishe kufane nokuzibuka, njengoba uvuselela impendulo enesimo sengqondo sePavlovian.
  6. “Kuthiwani ngokucabanga ngabesifazane bangempela?” Bona le FAQ ngengxoxo ephelele: Kuthiwani ngokucabangela ngesikhathi sokuqalisa kabusha?
  7. Ukufunda izindaba "ezivusa inkanuko" kubalwa njengenganekwane engcolile.
I-Dopamine

Njengamanje abanye abafundi kungenzeka bacabanga ukuthi: "Ngabe kufanele ngigweme yonke imisebenzi ekhiqiza i-dopamine?" Vele akunjalo! Ngokuphambene nalokho. Ufuna ukufaka esikhundleni sokulutha kwakho ngokuzijabulisa okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka, ikakhulukazi ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ukuzijabulisa, ukuzindla, ukuthinta nokuthambisa. Imibhangqwana embalwa isebenzisa ubulili obuhamba kancane, nobumnene futhi igweme i-orgasm (bona: Enye Indlela Yokwenza Uthando). Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi le misebenzi empeleni isiza ukulawula amazinga akho e-dopamine nemizwa yakho. Lokhu kufana nemidlalo yevidiyo ebukhali, i-TV, ukudla okungenamsoco nokunye.

Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi ukuthatha izithombe ezingcolile ze-intanethi ngamahora okudlala kwevidiyo noma ukungena okungenangqondo kungase kwanciphise inqubo yabo yokubuyisa kabusha. Kwazi bani? Ngokuqinisekile, minaUkulutha komlutha wesikhashana kukhona. Umehluko wehlela emiphumeleni eyahlukene ye-neurochemical efaka ukusebenziselwa umjikelezo wesifunda ngokusebenzisa i-oxytocin ne-opioids. Uma ungabaza, uhambe ngezinhlobo zemisebenzi yakho ubuchopho bakho buqhamuka ukuphishekela, nokuthi okhokho bakho bahlanganyela njalo.

Okuvunyelwe, futhi kukhuthazwe, ukuxhumana nomlingani wangempela

Empeleni, rewiring kuya okusebenza ngempela kungase kube isinyathelo esidingekayo kubafana abathile, njenge isimo socansi, hhayi ukulutheka, kuyinselele eyinhloko. Ukuqabulana, ukuthinta, ukukhohlisa konke kuvunyelwe. Kwabanye abafana, ngisho nokuya ocansini ne-orgasm kunenzuzo (inothi - amanye amadoda, ikakhulukazi lawo ane-porn-eyenzelwe i-ED aqashe ucansi oluthambile ngaphandle kwe-orgasm ukuqala). Ukuzikhethela kuhle, kodwa akufanele kuphoqelelwe ngokuvuselela ngamandla noma ukucabanga, njengoba umgomo ukubuyisela ekuphileni kwangempela ngokobulili.

Ngokuvamile kuphakama umbuzo ohlobene nalokhu: “Uma i-dopamine eningi kakhulu ibangele inkinga, ngeke yini imisebenzi ekhiqiza i-dopamine inciphise ukujikeleza kwami ​​komvuzo?”Lo mbuzo ulula kakhulu. Umlutha ungaphezu kokusayinwa okuphansi kwe-dopamine, futhi izinkinga zocansi ezibangelwa ucansi zingenzeka ngaphandle komlutha we-porn ogcwele ngokuphelele. Isimo socansi, noma ukuzwela, kubonakala sengathi idlala indima enkulu kunazo zonke zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi ezenzelwe abantu abasha.

Ngokusobala, abafana sebeluleme ku-ED eyenziwe ngocansi ngenkathi bethatha imishanguzo kadokotela efana ne-antidepressants, ADD drug, kanye nemithi yokulwa nokukhathazeka. Abambalwa bathole ukululama ngenkathi basebenzisa njalo imbiza noma utshwala, yize kubonakala sengathi babika ukubuyela emuva okuningi.

Inqubo Yokubuyisa kabusha

Ngokusobala, le nqubo inzima kakhulu ekuqaleni. Ubuchopho bakho busafuna ukuthembela "ekulungiseni" okunamandla kwamakhemikhali ezinzwa okuhambisana nokusetshenziswa kocansi okunzima. Kuqinise ukuxhumana kwe-neuronal okuxhumanisa ukucindezeleka kwakho nokukhululeka kwesikhashana kwe-porn ye-intanethi. Futhi nganoma yisiphi esinye iseluleko sihlangana nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile, njengokuhlala wedwa ekhaya, ukubona isithombe se-sexy, ukukhathazeka, ukuvusa inkanuko nokunye. Okuwukuphela kwendlela yokwenza buthakathaka lesi sixhumanisi sokungazi lutho ukuyeka ukusebenzisa (ukuqinisa) leyo ndlela yobuchopho, futhi funa imithi yakho yomzwelo kwenye indawo. Kancane kancane, ukuxhumana kwe-neuronal nezithombe ezingcolile zobulili kuyancipha. Lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi “ukujikajika & rewiring, ”Futhi uzothola ukuthi eziningi ze- amathuluzi lapha kungasiza ngalokho. Omunye umfana uchaze inqubo ngale ndlela:

“Uma ususa umthombo wenjabulo ebuchosheni, kufana nokususa umlenze wetafula. Yonke le nto iba ngamatshe futhi ingazinzi. Ingqondo inezindlela ezimbili ongakhetha kuzo: eyodwa, ukukwenza ulimale njengesihogo ngayo yonke indlela engakucabanga ngayo 'ukukukhuthaza' ukuthi uphinde ubuyisele umlenze wetafula, noma ezimbili, ukwamukela ukuthi umlenze wetafula uhambile ngempela, futhi ukuphuma ukuthi ungalinganisa kanjani kabusha ngaphandle kwayo. Vele kuzama inketho yokuqala kuqala. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngemuva kwesikhashana, kuqala ukusebenza ku-Option Two, konke ngenkathi kusacindezelwa i-Option One okwamanje. Ekugcineni, kubukeka sengathi ubuchopho buyalinganisa, buyeke uKhetho Lokuqala, futhi luphumelele ngokuphelele kuKhetho Lwesibili. ”

Buyela kokujwayelekile

Ukubuyiselwa kabusha akugcini nje ukuyeka ukusebenza komgwaqo omdala, kuyasiza buyisa ubuchopho bakho ekuzweleni okuvamile. Khumbula: Ubuchopho obumbalwa bufuna ukuvuselelwa. Yingakho inkululeko yakho yokuzikhethela ikhona ekubuyiseleni ubuzwe bobuchopho obujwayelekile. Wathi omunye umfana:

Okuthile engicabanga ukuthi kuyasiza: setha isikhathi esithile sokuqalisa kabusha bese unamathela kuso. Kungenzeka uzizwe ucindezelekile, ukhathazekile, ucasukile, ukhungathekile, uqale ukungabaza uma "kusebenza", njll. Kujwayelekile. Ingqondo yakho ifuna ukondliwa kwayo. Yamukela uzozizwa kabi bese uqhubeka. Mane uqhubeke uzitshele wena: “Ngizokwenza lokhu kulesi sikhathi futhi ekugcineni ngizobona, okungenani ngizoqiniseka ukuthi lokhu kuyasebenza noma cha. Uma ngifisa ukuphinda ngiphinde ngiphinde ngibuye ngemuva kwalokho, izinyanga ezi-3 zempilo yami ngeke zingibulale ”. Thatha usuku olulodwa ngesikhathi bese wenza ezinye izinto. Bona ukuthi yiziphi izikhathi ezimbi kakhulu lapho kunzima khona ukumelana futhi wenze okuthile ngakho njengamanje, hlela phambili.

Addiction

Ungumlutha ngakho-ke akukona nje ukusebenza kwamandla, kufanele uqiniseke ukuthi unendawo efanelekile yokwenza lokhu. Futhi unamandla okwenza lokhu uma ufuna ngempela, uma kungenalutho olunye, okungenani ngentombi yakho. Ngemuva kwezinyanga ezi-2 kuba lula impela, futhi ngemuva kwe-3, izikhuthazo azilutho ngaphandle kwemicabango evelayo ngezikhathi ezithile, ongazivimba kalula. Njengemikhuba oyiphulile futhi okuzothatha isikhathi eside ukuyikhohlwa, kepha akusancengi ngakunye. Akusekho sidingo, ukulangazelela, akusadingeki UKWENZA LOKHU. Kimina bekunjalo.

Ungazizwa ushintsho olukhulu ngisho nangemva kwamasonto ambalwa nje, kodwa ungazivumeli zikukhohlise. Usuyisigqila. Ngakho-ke awukwazi ukuthatha esinye isiphuzo esisodwa, uzofuna ukuzitika ngotshwala. Uyazi ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso njengoba wakuphila ngokwakho. Thembela inqubo isikhathi esithile futhi uzojabula kakhulu ngayo.

Isinyathelo sokuqala

Akunakusho ukuthi, ukuqala kabusha kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esibucayi, hhayi ikhambi laphakade. Ubuchopho bomuntu busengozini, kanti abanye bungaphezulu kobunye. Uma ulapha, kungenzeka ukuthi ubuchopho bakho buzohlala busengozini ethile ukuvuselela okungavamile, njenge-porn yanamuhla ye-intanethi. Ukwanda kakhulu kwanoma yisiphi isisusa esikhulu kungaholela ekwehleni okuya phansi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubuchopho bakho manje bunendlela eqinile yezocansi, okuzohlala kulula ukuyisebenzisa kabusha. Ukuqalisa kabusha akuqinisekisi ukuthi ungasebenzisa ngokuphepha i-inthanethi ye-porn ngokuzayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ucansi, mhlawumbe, luyidrayivu yomuntu ebaluleke kakhulu. Ngakho-ke ubuchopho bakho buguquke ukuze bagxume, futhi bucingo, izinkomba zocansi ngezindlela ebingazange zenzelwe, ukusho, ukudlala noma izidakamizwa. Lesi esinye isizathu sokuthi ukusetshenziswa kocansi esikhathini esizayo kuyinkinga.

Lungiselela:

Kungithathe ukuzama okungu-1 ukufika enyangeni engu-1 (lapho ngikhona manje). Ngiqale ngafunda / ngabuka izinto lapha ngokuzimisela. Okulandelayo, ngichithe cishe amasonto ama-2 ngiqoqa ulwazi, ngicacisa izisusa zami (ukudikibala nethemba), ngihlela ukuthi ngizokusebenzisa kanjani ukuqala kabusha. Ngisebenzisa futhi ulwazi lwami ekuyekeni ukubhema, lapho 'isiliphu' imvamisa siqinisekisa ukubuyela ngokuphelele. Ngicabanga ukuthi ngabe ama-dudes amaningi akhubeka ku-YBOP futhi ayeke i-PMO ngosuku olulandelayo ngokulungiselela okuncane kepha uhlelo lokuba lukhuni, bese ebuyela emuva futhi angayiboni imiphumela ayifunayo.

Lapho usuqale kabusha, ukushaya indlwabu ngaphandle kwefantasy, ngokusekelwe kubalingani bangempela abangabakhona kanye nezimo ezingokoqobo, kunenkinga encane (futhi iyajabulisa kakhulu). Uma imvamisa iqala ukwandisa futhi ubona izimpawu zokungafuni ukuhlehlisa, ungahlala uqala kabusha. Ubulili nomngane wakho unikeza okuningi ukwaneliseka okutholile.

Ukubuyiswa akusiyo Elingqayizivele (phinda lokhu izikhathi eziningana)

"Kufanele ube nezinhloso zebanga elide ukukugcina ungakhungatheki ngokwehluleka kwebanga elifushane." - UCharles C. Noble

Uma uqala ukuqalisa kabusha ungase uzizwe ubolile… Amasonto. Izifiso nokukhathazeka ngazo zonke izinhlobo zezinto kungaba namandla, noma okuphambene nalokho, kwakho i-libido ingakwazi "ukubeka phansi" isikhashana, futhi kungathatha izinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuthi ibuyele emuva. "Ukuhlola" nge-porn ukuqinisekisa ukuthi usasebenza kusebenza kuvame ukwandisa isikhathi esidingekayo sokuqalisa kabusha. Ngakho-ke kufanele ube nesibindi se-The Void sokungazi ukuthi uqhuba kanjani-noma ube sengcupheni yokunciphisa intuthuko yakho. Ukhiye wokususa i-Basics P * O * R * N okhiye wekhibhodi ngenxa yomlutha we-pornLokho kusho ukuthi abantu baqala ukubhekana nezinsuku ezinhle, futhi, emva kwamasonto ambalwa-ikakhulu uma bewasebenzisa amanye amathuluzi ukuveza imizwa emihle ngezindlela ezintsha.

Kepha inqubekela phambili ayihambelani, futhi izinsuku ezinhle zingalandelwa izinsuku ezingezinhle. Izinsuku ezidabukisayo nazo zingandulela izinsuku ezinhle kakhulu. Kucishe kube sengathi kukhona i-pendulum ejulile ebuchosheni, okuvuselela njalo, okukhulu okugxile kokubi kakhulu. Lapho uyeka ukusebenzisa i-inthanethi ye-porn, i-pendulum igudluka iye emuva naphambili ngaphambi kokuhlala maphakathi. Le nqubo iyaphazamisa ngoba ukuguquguquka kwe-neurochemical kuthinta imizwa yakho kanye nombono wakho ngempilo yakho. Ziphinde zibe nomthelela wethemba lakho, ikhono lakho lokuzihlanganisa nabanye futhi, mhlawumbe, nokuphendula kwakho kwezocansi.

Yiba nesineke futhi isimo sizosimama

“Ezinye izehlakalo ezinesiphithiphithi zenzeka emndenini wami ngesikhathi ngisemazingeni aphezulu, okuyisikhathi esifanayo lapho ngiqala khona ukuthola umagazini wezocansi. Ngicabanga ukuthi kukhona okuqubekile. Ngivele ngayeka ukuzama futhi ngayeka ukunakekela. Futhi ngaqala ukuvumela izinkanuko zami zocansi zingilimaze ngokuphelele eminyakeni elandelayo ye-20. Njengamanje, ngizizwa sengathi ngibuyela kulowo mdala omdala ophakeme. Nginomuzwa wokuthi ngiyaqhubeka lapho ngigcine khona futhi ekugcineni ngibe yilokho engangizoba yikho ukube angizange ngilahle indlela yami: umuntu oziphethe kahle, onomusa, ohlakaniphile, ohloniphekile, osebenza kanzima, onamandla, onakekelayo nomnene. ”

Okokugcina, zama ukuthi ungagxili kakhulu ngale nqubo yokuphulukisa. Yenza isiqubulo sakho Ukuphikelela hhayi ukuphelela. ” Yiba mnene kuwe. Ukuqalisa kabusha kuyinto ehlekisayo. Abantu abenza ngokushelela kakhulu bagcina amahlaya, bamukela ubuntu babo futhi bathande ucansi. Bahlonipha ubulili babo, futhi kancane kancane bazifaka emgodini omusha. Abazenzi ama-bludgeon uqobo, noma bazisongele ngokubhujiswa. Ubulili buyindlela ebaluleke kakhulu. Kungcono ukuvula indlela yakho ngalolu shintsho, uzixolele uma ushibilika, zama futhi, njalonjalo.

Ngezansi: Ukuvuselela kabusha kudinga ukuzibophezela okukhulu nesibindi esikhulu. Ingabe kuwe? Funda izindaba zalabo asebenzise le ndlela: Ukuvuselela ama-Akhawunti.

Ekugcineni, okuthunyelwe kusuka ku-reddit / nofap, nge saxoman1

Kulabo abanomuzwa wokuthi i-nofap ayibasizi futhi bazizwe beyeka.

Useneminyaka wenza lokhu.

Cha, hhayi i-nofap, I-PMO. Ube yi-PMO'ing iminyaka. Ukuhlala phambi kwekhompyutha amahora (amaningi) ngasikhathi. Ukugcina ubuchopho bakho bugeza ngesobho le-dopamine, i-deltafos-B, namanye amakhemikhali isikhathi eside ngokwenziwa. Kanjani?

  1. Ngokubheka isithombe esicacile sabantu abanabo (ikakhulukazi) ngokobulili obungavamile.
  2. Ngokuzigcina onqenqemeni lwe-orgasm (ukuhlela) amahora namahora (ukugcina "okuphezulu").
  3. Futhi ngokusebenzisa isandla “sokubamba ukufa” esithweni sakho sangasese ngoba ulahlekelwe umuzwa ojwayelekile.

Kwabaningi benu, lapho izinto ezijwayelekile zingasakwenzi, nikhuphukela ezinhlotsheni ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile. Noma usebenzise i-porn engaphezulu. Isesha leyo vidiyo / isithombe esihle. Okwamanje, ubuchopho bakho bakudala buyaqhubeka ukukutshela ukuthi ushaye i-jackpot yokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Noma kunjalo konke okwenzayo ukufaka umanyolo esikrinini sakho.

Abaningi benu bakwenzile lokhu eminyakeni yakho yokufundisa (iminyaka eyishumi nambili) lapho ubuchopho bethu buhamba kahle kakhulu. Ngisho noma kungenjalo, iminyaka ye-PMO iphinde ibuyele ebuchosheni bakho. Udale amaphuzu ajulile e-neural wired for PMO, manje usumlutha.

Konke lokhu kuqhubeke iminyaka.

Iphuzu lami yilokhu:

Uma ngabe uneminyaka wenza lokhu (noma into enjengale), kungenzeka kanjani ukuthi ulindele izinsuku ezi-3 - izinsuku ezingama-50 (ifasitela elijwayelekile lokubuyela emuva) lokuyeka ukukuphulukisa?

Kodwa-ke uyazitshela, ngemuva kwamasonto ambalwa, ukuthi “Lokhu akusebenzi. Ngisenayo i-PIED, ED, noma akukho ukuzwela. Ngiyacaba futhi angikabi nayo intombi / isoka, njll. ”

Uxolo! Amaviki ambalwa angabonakala njengokuningi manje, kodwa qhathanisa lokho nesikhathi osibe yi-PMO'ing. Akubonakali kuwubudlabha yini uma ubheka ngale ndlela? Unikeza isistimu yakho ikhefu kulokho kugeza kwe-neurochemical ukuze ikwazi “ukusetha kabusha” noma “ukuqala kabusha”.

Ngakho-ke bopha! Udinga isikhathi sokuphulukisa (isikhathi esihle). Inhloso yalokhu okuthunyelwe ukubeka izinto ngendlela efanele. Abanye abantu baphulukisa ngokushesha okukhulu kunabanye. SONKE sihlukile, ngakho-ke ungasebenzisi isikhathi sakho uziqhathanisa nabanye ama-fapstronauts / femstronauts!

Ngakho noma nini lapho uzizwa ukhungathekile / usengozini, vinisekisa isihloko salokhu okuthunyelwe:

"Bengilokhu ngingu-PMO'ing IMINYAKA, ngakho-ke angilindeli _________ [ukufaka isikhathi sesikhathi] sokuyeka ukwelapha ubuchopho bami. Ngizoqhubeka. NGIZOQHUBEKA! ”

Inhlanhla kubo bonke abafowethu nodadewethu ezandleni lapho!