Zowonjezera Zowonongeka: Yambani Apa

Kuyambiranso maziko: yambani apa

Maziko obwezeretsanso kudalitsika ndi omwe amapambana.

"Chofooka chathu chachikulu chimakhala mwa kusiya. Njira yeniyeni yopambana ndiyoyesa nthawi imodzi yokha. "

- Thomas A. Edison

Kubwezeretsanso

Cholinga choyambitsanso chibwenzi ndikupeza momwe mulili popanda zolaula m'moyo wanu. YourBrainOnPorn.com ilibe "pulogalamu yobwezeretsa zolaula." Ngati mukufuna malamulo simungapeze - kupatulapo: "Palibe zolimbikitsa zogonana zongopeka panthawi yoyambitsanso chibwenzi. " Tikanena kuti zopanga timatanthauza ma pixel, mawu ndi mabuku. Zoloŵa m'malo mwa zolaula siziloledwa, monga: kusakatula zithunzi pa Facebook kapena malo ochezera, kuyenda pa Craigslist, malonda a zovala zamkati, makanema a YouTube, "mabuku olaula", ndi zina zotero. Ngati si zenizeni, ingoti 'ayi.'

YBOP imangopereka malingaliro ochokera kwa amuna omwe achira ku chizolowezi choonera zolaula pa intaneti, ED yoyambitsidwa ndi zolaula, ndi zotsatirapo zina zoyipa za kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Sankhani ndikusankha zomwe zikukuyenderani bwino. Chonde musaganize kuti, "Kodi ndikuchita izi bwino?" Ndi inuyo amene mumasankha kutalika ndi magawo a kuyambiranso kwanu, kutengera zolinga zanu ndi momwe zinthu zilili pano. Ndikupangira gulu ili la makanema a anyamata omwe adakhalapo, omwe akuphatikizapo:

Ngati mukuyambiranso chifukwa mukuganiza kuti vuto la kugonana limachokera ku zolaula, chonde onani gawo la Porn & ED , kuyambira ndi YAMBANI PANO: Kusagonana komwe kumachokera ku zolaula . Onerani kanemayu - "Kodi Zithunzi Zolaula Zinayambitsa Kusagonana Kwanga? YESANI MAYESO!" (Wolemba Gabe Deem)

Zotsatira zofunikira:

Kuledzera ndi Kugonana

“Ndizodabwitsa kuti zomwe mumaphunzira kuchita izi. Ndikuganiza kuti tsopano ndikumvetsetsa bwino mawu oti 'chidziwitso ndi mphamvu.' Mukadziwa momwe china chake chimagwirira ntchito komanso momwe zimakukhudzirani, ndizosavuta kukhala ndi chidwi chofuna kusintha ngati mukufuna. ”- Kubwezeretsa wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula

Anthu amafika kuno ali ndi zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana, zomwe nthawi zambiri sadziwa kuti zimachitika chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso. Kusokonezeka n'komveka chifukwa zizindikirozo zimasiyana kwambiri. (Onaninso Kodi zizindikiro za kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso ndi ziti? ) Mwachitsanzo,

Kusintha umagwirira kwa ubongo

Ndikofunikira kuzindikira kuti zizolowezi kapena kugonana kumasintha kapangidwe ndi kapangidwe kake ka ubongo . Malo ochitira mphotho ndi kwawo kwa malo akale omwe ali ndi udindo wokhudza kapena kulamulira ntchito zonse za thupi, malingaliro, malingaliro, malingaliro, zoyeserera, zilakolako, kuphunzira, kukumbukira, komanso - chilakolako cha kugonana ndi kukhazikika. Dongosolo lanu la mitsempha lodziyimira pawokha ndi mahomoni ambiri akuluakulu amawongoleredwa kudzera mu mapangidwe ndi mankhwala a mayendedwe a mphotho. Kuphatikiza apo, pafupifupi matenda onse amalingaliro ndi amisala amachokera ku kusalinganika m'mapangidwe omwewa ndi njira za mitsempha. Nzosadabwitsa kuti zizindikiro zambiri zosiyanasiyana zimatha kuchokera ku malo ochitira mphotho omwe amasinthidwa ndi chizolowezi cha zolaula kapena kugonana. Ngakhale kusintha kovuta kwambiri mu kapangidwe ka ubongo ndi magwiridwe antchito kumachitika m'zoledzeretsa zonse, magulu anayi otsatirawa ali ndi kusintha kwakukulu kwakukulu:

  1. Yankho losangalatsa kwambirideensitization pazowonjezera mphotho yanu)
  2. Kupanga njira zowonongeka (kulimbikitsa - zomwe zimayambitsanso kugonana)
  3. Kuletsedwa kwa ulamuliro woyang'anira ndi kupanga chisankho (chinyengo)
  4. Kulephera kusokonezeka maganizo - yomwe imawonetsa kuti ngakhale kupsinjika kwakung'ono kumapangitsa kulakalaka chifukwa kupsinjika kwamankhwala am'magazi kumathandizira njira zolimbikitsira.

Tiyeni titsutse nkhani yofala: Zochitika zogonana zomwe zimayambitsidwa ndi zolaula, kapena ubwino womwe anthu oyambitsanso kugonana amawonetsa, sizikugwirizana ndi kuchuluka kwa testosterone m'magazi. ( Kodi pali kugwirizana kulikonse pakati pa kufika pachimake pa kugonana, kudziletsa, ndi kuchuluka kwa testosterone? ).

Kubwezeretsanso

Ngati ubongo wanu ukusintha chifukwa cha chizolowezi kapena kugonana, mutha kusintha izi mwa kupatsa ubongo wanu nthawi yoyenera yopuma kuchokera ku chilakolako chopitirira muyeso. Kuyambiranso ndi mawu athu oti "kuchira ku chizolowezi cha zolaula ndi zizindikiro zina, kuphatikizapo zovuta zogonana ." Timachitcha kuti "kuyambiranso" kotero mutha kulingalira za kubwezeretsa ubongo wanu ku makonda ake oyambirira. Mwachionekere, simungathe kubwerera m'mbuyo nthawi yobwezeretsa, kapena kufufuta deta yonse monga momwe mungachitire mukapukuta hard drive ya kompyuta. Komabe, mutha kuchiritsa kusintha kwa ubongo komwe kumabweretsa chizolowezi chanu cha zolaula. (Onani: Kodi chizolowezi cha zolaula chimayambitsa kuwonongeka kosatha kwa ubongo? )

Poyamba zimakhala zosokoneza kwambiri chifukwa njira imeneyi siili yolunjika, ndipo ubongo uliwonse umachira mosiyana. Anthu ena amakhala ndi chilakolako chokhazikika komanso nthawi yokhazikika . Ena amakhala ndi chilakolako choipa kwambiri m'masabata awiri oyambirira. Ena amakhala ndi zizindikiro zoopsa zosiya kugonana . Ena amamva bwino kwa kanthawi kochepa kenako amapita ku nthawi yovuta kwambiri. Ndipo ena amakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri. Ena amakhala ndi nkhawa *yochepa*, komanso amakhala ndi chilakolako chocheperako kwa milungu ingapo. Ena sadziwa kuti chilakolako chawo chabwerera mpaka atapeza chibwenzi chenicheni patatha miyezi ingapo. Dziwani zizindikiro zamaganizo zomwe sizikusintha pakapita nthawi. N'zotheka kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso kunabisa vuto lomwe linalipo kale monga kuvutika maganizo, nkhawa, kapena OCD.

Patsani ubongo wanu

Njira yachangu yoyambitsiranso kugonana ndikupatsa ubongo wanu mpumulo ku zolimbikitsa kugonana zongopeka —zolaula, maloto olaula, mapulogalamu ochezera pa intaneti kapena Craigslist, ndi zolaula. Kwa ena, kupuma kwakanthawi kochepa kuchokera ku maliseche ndi kugonana kumathandizanso. Anyamata ambiri amachotsa kapena kuchepetsa kwambiri kugonana panthawi yawo yoyambiranso kugonana (amuna omwe ali ndi vuto la kugonana nthawi zambiri amachita izi). Kumbali ina, kukhudzana ndi munthu weniweni kungakhale kopindulitsa, bola ngati simukuganiza za zolaula. Ndipotu, anyamata ena amachita zogonana mofatsa , momwe amapewa kufika pafupi ndi m'mphepete kapena kugonana mopenga. Izi zimapewa munthu wothamangitsa.

“Kuchita maliseche, kapena osachita maliseche, limenelo ndilo funso”

Ngati kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndiko chifukwa cha zizindikiro zanu, mungadabwe kuti n’chifukwa chiyani amuna ambiri amasiya kudziseweretsa maliseche kwakanthawi komanso kutopa panthawi yoyambiranso kugonana. Yankho lalifupi ndilakuti - "Ndi momwe anyamata ambiri amachitira izi". Pali mbiri yodziwika bwino ya kudziletsa kwakanthawi kwa amuna omwe ali ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana chifukwa cha zolaula komanso omwe akuchira ku chizolowezi chogonana . Ena amati masiku 90, onani - Palibe Kugonana Kwa Masiku 90?? - The Sex Fast, Part 1, lolembedwa ndi Terry Crews . Ndipo anthu ambiri oyambitsanso kugonana amanena kuti nthawi yochepa yopuma imathandizanso kukonzanso chitsanzo chawo chogonana. Monga tafotokozera, YBOP ili ndi "malamulo" awiri okha oyambitsanso kugonana:

  1. Lekani kugwiritsira ntchito zowononga kugonana, ndipo
  2. Chitani zomwe zikukuthandizani.

Ngati mukuganiza kuti zingakuthandizeni kuthetsa kapena kuchepetsa kwambiri maliseche/chilakolako cha kugonana mukayambiranso, chonde dziphunzitseni kaye ndi mitu iyi ngati mungafune maliseche kapena ayi , komanso zabwino ndi zoyipa za maliseche , njira yoyenera/dongosolo , ndi ulusi uwu wa munthu amene akuganiza kuti maliseche osagonana ndi oletsa kwambiri. Yerekezerani zomwe zachitikazo ndi ulusi womwe ukupitilira, Njira ya "Osafuna Kugonana".

Zisankho za maliseche

Maganizo amachepetsa kapena kuthetsa maliseche panthawi yoyambiranso:

  • Ngati muli zolaula-zinachititsa ED, ubongo wanu ukunena kuti: "Sindingathe kuchita izi". Mvetsetsani kuti chilakolako chanu chodziseweretsa maliseche sichowona libido - mutha kukhala osuta zolaula, kapena kukondweretsedwa kwanu tsopano zimagwiritsidwa ntchito zonse zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi zolaula zanu. Ngati mukufuna zolaula kuti muchite maliseche, kapena mukhale ndi mbolo pang'ono mukatero, simuli ovuta kapena mukufuna "kumasulidwa". Mukufuna kukonza ndi kupeza mpumulo kuzovuta zanu: kukwera kwakanthawi.
  • The ambiri Amuna omwe adachira pa zolaula zomwe zidapangitsa ED adasankha kuchepetsa kuseweretsa maliseche - kapena kwakanthawi. Komabe, nthawi yayitali yodziletsa sangakhale ndi zotsatira zabwino. Amuna omwe ali ndi PIED yovuta nthawi zambiri amafunika kukonzanso kukondana kwawo kuti akhale anzawo enieni.
  • Kuchita maliseche komanso zolaula ndizolumikizana bwino. Monga galu wa Pavlov yemwe adatsetsereka atangomva belu, mutha kukupezani kuti mukuyamba kumwa zolaula mukamaseweretsa maliseche. Nthawi ikufunika kuti muchepetse kulumikizana kwamitsempha yolumikizana yolowera ndikuwonera. Kumbali inayi, pamapeto pake kuphunzira kuseweretsa maliseche popanda zolaula kapena malingaliro okhudzana ndi zolaula kumatha kukupangitsani kuti mukhale ndi zolaula.
  • Kubwezeretsa kungakhale kophweka mosavuta popanda maliseche / orgasm. Chotsani maliseche / orgasm kuchokera ku equation kwa kanthawi ndipo anyamata ambiri omwe amachititsa kuti EDZI iwonongeke nthawi zambiri imakhala yochepa kwambiri mu chilakolako cha kugonana, timatcha flatline. (Onani: "THANDIZENI! Ndinasiya zolaula, koma mphamvu, kukula kwa maliseche, ndi libido zikuchepa ")
Kupewa kuyambiranso zolakalaka
  • Kugonana ndi maliseche kungayambitsenso zolaula. Zadabwitsa kuona kuti amuna ambiri ali ndi nthawi yosavuta kuthetsa maliseche kuposa zolaula. Kwa anyamata ambiri omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zolaula, kuseweretsa maliseche sikungokhala kosangalatsa kopanda zolaula, ndipo iwo amadabwa kuona kuti zolaula, osati zawo, zinali kuyendetsa kufufuza kwawo kosalekeza.
  • Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lodzimvera chisoni kwambiri kapena OCD amakonda kupeŵa maliseche angadwale kwambiri. Ngakhale kudziletsa kwa kanthaŵi kochepa sikungakhale kwa inu.
Zinthu zoyenera kuzilingalira
  • Mfundo yaikulu: Zomwe timaphunzira zimachokera kwa iwo omwe adalemba ma akaunti. Mwina pangakhale anyamata ambiri amene amachira mosavuta pokhapokha atapitirira nthawi zonse.
  • Mfundo yaikulu 2: Kutalika sikokwanira, pakubwera kukana kudziletsa. Muyenera kusinthasintha ndi kuyang'ana zotsatira za mphulupulu pamene mukupitiriza kuyambiranso.
  • Chenjezo: Anyamata ena omwe amachititsa kuti ED iwononge mapeto amafunika kuti azitha kuti adzalumphire ubongo wawo pambuyo poyambiranso kapena kutambasula chokhazikika.
  • Kuchita maliseche sikutembenukanso. Kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti 'kubwereranso' kumalipiro achilengedwe kumakhala kovuta, makamaka. Ngati mwasankha kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti kubwereranso, muwagwiritse ntchito okhawo zolaula komanso olowa m'malo mwa zolaula.

YBOP SI webusayiti yotsutsa maliseche

Ndikufunika kufuula izi, chifukwa ndawerenga nkhani zopanda pakezi m'mabwalo ambiri, pomwe mikangano yokhudza zolaula pa intaneti imasanduka mikangano yokhudza maliseche. Dzina la tsamba lino ndi "Ubongo Wanu pa Zolaula . " Kusokonezeka kumachitika chifukwa:

1) Mbadwo uno umaona maliseche ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ngati mawu ofanana , ndipo

2) Amuna omwe amachira ku ED amati amachira mosavuta mwa kuchotsa maliseche/orgasm kwakanthawi. Kuchotsa maliseche kwakanthawi , kapena kuchepetsa mobwerezabwereza, zonse zimangokhudza kuchira ku chizolowezi ndi ED yoyambitsidwa ndi zolaula - palibe china chilichonse.

Sitikulimbikitsa kudziletsa ngati moyo wosatha

Ngakhale palibe cholakwika ndi kuseweretsa maliseche, sikungakhale njira yothetsera mavuto azaumoyo yomwe imafalitsidwa ndi atolankhani. Ndipo kuseweretsa maliseche sikufanana ndi kugonana, chifukwa si kugonana konse komwe kumapangidwa mofanana (Onani : Ubwino Wathanzi wa Zochita Zogonana Zosiyanasiyana. Journal of Sexual Medicine , 2010) Kuphatikiza apo, kutulutsa umuna kumayambitsa kusintha kwa ubongo kangapo . Ngakhale izi sizili zofunika kuziganizira, kupitirira njira zachizolowezi zokhutiritsa kugonana kudzera pa intaneti kungayambitse kusintha kwina kosafunikira. Monga momwe zilili pazinthu zambiri m'moyo, kudziletsa kungakhale chinsinsi cha kuseweretsa maliseche. Kuphatikiza apo, kuseweretsa maliseche sikuchitika m'mitundu ina ya mbadwa: Zizolowezi Zachilendo Zoseweretsa Maliseche.

“Ndingatani Ngati Sindingathe Kuchita Maliseche,” kapena “Kodi Ndili Ndi Chibwenzi / Mkazi / Mnzanga?”

Pumulani ndipo yang'anani kwambiri pa kusiya zolaula. Chinthu chomaliza chomwe mukufuna kuchita ndikukhala "wopanda mphamvu" kwambiri moti simungayesere kusiya zolaula. Onani ulusi uwu pa The Orgasm Reboot: A New Approach , ndi ulusi uwu pa nkhani ya gulu lachipembedzo lomwe likupangidwa lonena za kudziseweretsa maliseche kukhala kosayenera . Mfundo yochokera ku ulusi wonsewu ndi yakuti anyamata amasiya kuyesa chifukwa amaganiza kuti amadzinyenga okha kuti kuyambiranso kugonana ndi chinthu chokhachokha: "Ngati udziseweretsa maliseche ndiye kuti walephera". Izi ndi zopanda pake. Nayi zomwe munthu wina anakumana nazo :

“Ngati zikukuvutani, ndiyesetsa kuti ndiyambirepo kuonera zolaula. Ndinaona kuti ndizovuta kuchita nofap komanso zolaula poyamba, koma ndimayesa zolaula zokhazokha. Ndinawona kuti chilakolako changa chodziseweretsa maliseche chinachepa pang'onopang'ono mpaka kukhala wathanzi, ndikuti sindinkawona chifukwa chowonera zolaula. Ngati mungathe kuchita zonsezi, pitani. Koma ngati mupitiliza kulephera patatha masiku angapo, ndikulangizani izi. Zinandichititsa chidwi kwambiri. ”

Ngati mukufuna kuyika malingaliro akuda ndi oyera, chitani izi zolaula, koma osati maliseche kapena kugonana

Vuto la masiku ano ndi zolaula pa intaneti. Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndiko komwe kwasintha ubongo wanu ndikuyambitsa vuto lanu logonana kapena ED. Ngati kusiya zolaula ndiye chokhacho chomwe mungathe kuthana nacho, ingosiyani kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndikuwona zotsatira zake. Monga tafotokozera, kukakamiza kugonana ndi mnzanu kungakhale chinthu chabwino, ngakhale kuti ED ingayambitse chilakolako , ndipo ingachedwetse kuchira kwa ED. Ndipotu, kupusitsa ndi mnzanu ndikwabwino chifukwa kumakulumikizani ku zenizeni. Anyamata ena amalimbikitsa kugonana mofatsa popanda kutulutsa umuna , pomwe ena amasakaniza umuna. Ngati muli ndi ED ndipo mwasankha kumasuka nthawi zonse, musadziyerekezere ndi kuyambiranso maakaunti omwe anyamata amapewa ED. Ngati mukuyesera kuyambiranso ndipo muli ndi mnzanu onani mafunso otsatirawa:

Ndiyenera kubwezeretsa nthawi yaitali bwanji?

Mawebusayiti ambiri omwe amalumikizana ndi YBOP amati timapereka masiku 60, kapena masiku 90, kapena masabata 8, ndi zina zotero. Tilibe pulogalamu kapena kuchuluka kwa masiku, chifukwa nthawi imadalira kwambiri kuopsa kwa vuto lanu, momwe ubongo wanu umayankhira, ndi zolinga zanu. Nthawi zomwe zimapezeka mu akaunti yoyambiranso ntchito zili paliponse chifukwa ubongo ndi wosiyana, ndipo amuna ena ali ndi ED kapena DE yoyambitsidwa ndi zolaula. Amuna omwe amayambiranso kugwiritsa ntchito ED yoyambitsidwa ndi zolaula amagwiritsa ntchito thanzi lawo la erectile ngati barometer (onani: Zimatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti achire ku Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction? ).

Anyamata opanda ED ayenera kugwiritsa ntchito njira zina (onani: Ndingadziwe bwanji kuti ndabwerera ku moyo wabwinobwino? ). Sizachilendo kuti anyamata achichepere azitha kusintha zinthu patatha nthawi yayitali atangoyambanso kugonana.

Kudzidziwa nokha

Ganizirani za kuyambiranso kugonana ngati kupeza zomwe inuyo muli komanso zomwe zinali zokhudzana ndi zolaula - kaya ndi ED, nkhawa za anthu, chilakolako chogonana choopsa, ADHD, kuvutika maganizo, ndi zina zotero. Mukamvetsetsa bwino momwe munakhudzidwira ndi zolaula za pa intaneti, mutha kuyendetsa bwino ulendo wanu. Ndikuganiza kuti munthu aliyense amene akuyenda ulendowu ayenera kuwerenga nkhani iyi yolembedwa ndi wopanga YourBrainRebalanced.com: ZOLAKWIKA 3 ZAPAMWAMBA ZOMWE Oyambiranso Kuchita Amapanga

Ndipo ngati pali chinthu chimodzi ndikufuna kugawana nanu nonse izi: Musayandikire chinthuchi ndi malingaliro oti "mukwaniritse masiku angapo", koma ndi lingaliro lakuyika mtunda pakati panu ndi zolaula, kuti zikhale zomwe Mumamva ngati ili pazenera lanu lakumbuyo.

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Dziwani kuti anyamata ena omwe ali ndi vuto la ED loyambitsidwa ndi zolaula amatenga nthawi yayitali kuti ayambirenso kugonana kuposa anyamata achikulire omwe sanayambe msanga zolaula pa intaneti. Komabe, anyamata omwewa angafunike kuyamba chilakolako chawo chogonana ngati ayambanso kugonana nthawi yayitali. Onani - Ndinayamba pa zolaula pa intaneti ndipo kuyambiranso kwanga (Erectile Dysfunction) kumatenga nthawi yayitali.

Nchiyani Chimaloledwa Pakukonzanso?

Mwina ili ndi funso loyamba lomwe timafunsidwa, kupatulapo "Kodi zitenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti vuto langa la ED likonzedwe?" Apanso, tilibe pulogalamu, koma nzeru zochokera kwa amuna omwe achira. Ngati cholinga chanu chokha ndikusiya zolaula, ndiye kuti kusiya zolaula kungakhale kokwanira. Komabe, amuna ambiri amachotsa zolimbikitsa zonse zogonana ndipo amachotsa kwakanthawi maliseche/orgasm (ngati muli ndi mnzanu onani maulalo omwe ali pamwambapa). Ena ayeneranso kuchotsa malingaliro ogonana - kwakanthawi. Onani kanemayu - Kuyambiranso: Kodi Kubwerera M'mbuyo N'chiyani? - lolembedwa ndi Noah Church.

kuchira

Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti kuchira sikukhudza zolaula zokha . Ndikokhudza kubweza kusintha kwa ubongo komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha chizolowezi (komwe kumachitika pa spectrum) ndi kugonana (kudzera mu sensitization). Zinthu zoledzeretsa monga cocaine kapena nicotine nthawi zonse zimawonjezera reward system dopamine. Pa zizolowezi zamakhalidwe monga zolaula pa intaneti ndi kutchova juga, malo anu opezera mphotho (nucleus accumbens) sangakhale ndi yankho lokhazikika la dopamine. Mwachitsanzo, zolaula za akazi kapena amuna zomwe zidakupangitsani dopamine yanu kugwedezeka mwezi watha sizingakupatseninso chidwi lero. Tsopano mukufunika zolaula za transsexual. Ngakhale izi zingamveke zachilendo, ku gawo loyambirira la ubongo wanu palibe chinthu chonga (tanthauzo la) zolaula. Zonse zimadalira ngati mukuyambiranso njira zoledzeretsa, komanso ngati mukulimbikitsa kwambiri dopamine yomwe ubongo wanu uli nayo kale.

Mafunso okhudza zomwe "zavomerezedwa", kapena "kubwereranso", kapena ngati X, Y, kapena Z, zingachedwetse kuyambiranso kwa munthu sangathe kuyankhidwa. Funso labwino ndi lakuti, "Ndi mtundu wanji wa maphunziro a ubongo womwe umabweretsa kusintha kwa chizolowezi muubongo wanga, ndipo ndikubwerezanso?" Vuto lanu lalikulu ndilakuti mumakonda zolimbikitsa kugonana, ndipo muyenera kusintha ngati mukufuna kubwerera ku momwe mumayankhira pa kugonana. Onani Zolaula Kale ndi Tsopano: Takulandirani ku Maphunziro a Ubongo kuti mumvetse lingaliro ili.

Mndandanda wa zomwe zimathandiza kupewa zimaphatikizapo ...

Onaninso mafunso awa - Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe ndiyenera kupewa panthawi yoyambiranso - Kodi ndinabwereranso?

  1. Zolaula: mitundu yonse. Ngati mukufuna kufunsa, yankho nlakuti, 'kusuntha koyipa.' Ngati sikulumikizana ndi munthu weniweni, musagwiritse ntchito (ndipo zimaphatikizapo makanema ochezera).
  2. Pewani makhalidwe omwe mumatsanzira lanu zolaula. Zomwe nthawi zambiri zimatanthawuza zizolowezi zomwe zimalowetsa m'malo opangira komanso mbali ziwiri zenizeni zenizeni.
  3. Kuchotsa njira zopangira kapena kupanga sizimachita nawo "cam to cam" kapena malo ochezera.
  4. Kusaka pa Facebook, mapulogalamu azibwenzi, YouTube, Mndandanda wa Craig kapena masamba ena ofanana ndi zithunzi ndi zolaula ali ngati chidakwa chosinthira mowa wambiri.
  5. Kuganizira zolaula ndikofanana ndikungoonera, pomwe mukuyambitsanso kuyankha kwamalingaliro anu a Pavlovian.
  6. “Bwanji nanga za kuyerekezera za akazi enieni?” Onani FAQ iyi kuti mukambirane kwathunthu: Nanga bwanji kukakamiza panthawi yoyambiranso?
  7. Kuwerenga nkhani "zolaula" zimawoneka ngati zongopeka zolaula.
Dopamine

Pakali pano owerenga ena angakhale akuganiza kuti: “Kodi ndiyenera kupewa zinthu zonse zopanga dopamine?” Inde ayi! Mosiyana ndi zimenezo. Mukufuna kusintha chizolowezi chanu ndi zosangalatsa zambiri momwe mungathere, makamaka kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kucheza ndi anthu, kusinkhasinkha, ngakhale kugwirana ndi kusangalala. Mabanja angapo amagwiritsa ntchito kugonana pang'onopang'ono komanso mofatsa ndipo amapewa kufika pachimake (onani: Njira Yina Yopangira Chibwenzi ). Kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti zochita zimenezi zimathandizadi kuwongolera kuchuluka kwa dopamine yanu komanso momwe mukumvera. Izi sizili ngati masewera apakanema, TV, zakudya zopanda thanzi ndi zina zotero.

Anyamata ena amaganiza kuti kusintha zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti ndi maola ambiri akusewera pavidiyo kapena kusewera masewera osasamala mwina kunachedwetsa njira yawo yoyambitsiranso. Ndani akudziwa? Ndithudi, chizolowezi cha intaneti chilipo . Kusiyana kumeneku kumabwera chifukwa cha zotsatira zosiyana za mitsempha zomwe zimaphatikizapo kuyambitsa madera opindulitsa kudzera mu oxytocin ndi opioids. Mukakayikira, tsatirani mitundu ya zochita zomwe ubongo wanu unasintha kuti uzichite, komanso zomwe makolo anu ankachita nthawi zonse.

Zomwe "zimaloledwa", ndikulimbikitsidwa, ndikulumikizana ndi mnzake weniweni

Ndipotu, kubwereranso ku mgwirizano weniweni kungakhale sitepe yofunika kwa anyamata ena, chifukwa kugonana , osati chizolowezi, ndiye vuto lalikulu. Kupsompsonana, kukhudza, ndi kupusitsa "zonsezo ndizololedwa. Kwa anyamata ena, ngakhale kugonana ndi chilakolako chogonana n'kopindulitsa (dziwani - amuna ena, makamaka omwe ali ndi vuto la kugonana chifukwa cha zolaula amagwiritsa ntchito kugonana kofatsa popanda chilakolako chogonana kuti ayambe). Kugonana ndikwabwino, koma sikuyenera kukakamizidwa kudzera mu kukondoweza kwamphamvu kapena kulota, chifukwa cholinga chake ndikubwereranso ku zochitika zenizeni zogonana.

Funso lofanana nthawi zambiri limabuka: “ Ngati dopamine yochuluka yayambitsa vutoli, kodi zochita zopanga dopamine sizingachepetse mphamvu yanga yopezera mphotho? ” Funsoli ndi losavuta kwambiri. Kuledzera sikungokhala chizindikiro chochepa cha dopamine, ndipo mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana omwe amabwera chifukwa cha zolaula amatha kuchitika popanda chizolowezi chogonana. Kugonana, kapena kukhudzidwa , kumawoneka kuti kumakhala ndi gawo lalikulu pamavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana omwe amabwera chifukwa cha zolaula mwa anyamata.

Momwemonso, anyamata achira kuchokera ku zolaula zomwe zidapangitsa ED pomwe akumwa mankhwala azachipatala monga antidepressants, ADD mankhwala, ndi ma anti-nkhawa med. Ocheperako adachira akamagwiritsa ntchito mphika kapena mowa, ngakhale akuwoneka kuti akunenanso zakubwerera m'mbuyo.

Njira Yokonzanso Zowonjezera

Mwachionekere, njirayi ndi yovuta kwambiri poyamba. Ubongo wanu ukufunabe kudalira "njira" yopangira ya mankhwala a mitsempha okhudzana ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwambiri. Yalimbitsa kulumikizana kwa mitsempha komwe kumagwirizanitsa kuvutika kwanu ndi mpumulo waufupi wa zolaula za pa intaneti. Ndipo ndi chizindikiro china chilichonse chomwe chimagwirizanitsa ndi zolaula, monga kukhala wekha kunyumba, kuwona chithunzi chokongola, nkhawa, kudzuka ndi zina zotero. Njira yokhayo yofooketsa ulalo wosazindikirawu ndikusiya kugwiritsa ntchito (kulimbitsa) njira ya ubongo, ndikuyang'ana mankhwala anu amalingaliro kwina . Pang'onopang'ono, kulumikizana kwa mitsempha ndi zolaula ndi malingaliro a zolaula kumachepa. Timatcha izi " kusalumikiza & kulumikizanso ," ndipo mupeza kuti zida zambiri pano zingathandize ndi izi. Munthu wina adafotokoza izi motere:

“Mukachotsa chinthu chosangalatsa muubongo, zili ngati kuchotsa mwendo wa patebulo. Zinthu zonse zimakhala zamiyala komanso zosakhazikika. Ubongo uli ndi njira ziwiri: imodzi, kukupweteketsani ngati gehena m'njira iliyonse yomwe ingaganizire kuti 'ikulimbikitseni' kuti mubwezeretse mwendo wapatebulo, kapena ziwiri, kuvomereza kuti mwendo wa tebulo wapita, ndikuwona momwe mungasinthire popanda izo. Zachidziwikire, imayesa Njira yoyamba poyamba. Kenako, patapita kanthawi, imayamba kugwira ntchito pa Njira Yachiwiri, yonseyi ndikukankhira njira Yoyamba pakadali pano. M'kupita kwa nthawi, zimaoneka kuti ubongo umayamba kuganiziranso bwino, kusiya Njira Yoyamba, kenako n'kuchita bwino pa Njira Yachiŵiri. ”

Bwererani ku zachilendo

Kuyambiranso sikuti kungoletsa njira yakale yogwirira ntchito, komanso kumathandiza kubwezeretsa ubongo wanu ku mphamvu yachibadwa yogwirira ntchito . Kumbukirani: Ubongo wofooka umafuna kulimbikitsidwa. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ufulu wanu wosankha uli pakubwezeretsa mphamvu yachibadwa yogwirira ntchito mu ubongo. Munthu wina anati:

China chake chomwe ndikuganiza chimathandiza: khazikitsani nthawi yoyambiranso ndikutsatira. Mutha kukhala okhumudwa, kuda nkhawa, kukhumudwitsidwa, kukhumudwitsidwa, kuyamba kukayikira ngati "ikugwira ntchito", ndi zina zambiri. Ndi ubongo wanu womwe ukufuna kudyetsedwa. Landirani mudzamva chisoni ndikupitiliza. Ingolankhulani mumtima mwanu kuti: "Ndipanga izi kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo pamapeto pake ndiwona, ndikhala wotsimikiza ngati izi zikuyenda kapena ayi. Ngati ndikufuna kuopanso pambuyo pake, miyezi itatu ya moyo wanga sichidzandipha ”. Tengani tsiku limodzi panthawi ndikupanga zinthu zina. Onani nthawi zovuta kwambiri pomwe kuli kovuta kukana ndikuchitapo kanthu pakadali pano, konzekerani zamtsogolo.

Bongo

Ndiwe chidakwa kotero sikuti ndi mphamvu zokha, muyenera kuwonetsetsa kuti muli ndi malo oyenera kuchita izi. Ndipo muli ndi mphamvu yochita izi ngati mukufunadi, ngati palibe china chilichonse, kwa bwenzi lanu. Pambuyo pa miyezi iwiri kumakhala kosavuta, ndipo pambuyo pa 2, zolimbikitsidwazo sizina koma malingaliro omwe amapezeka nthawi ndi nthawi, omwe mungaletse mosavuta. Zambiri monga zizolowezi zomwe mudaswa ndipo zomwe zimatenga nthawi yayitali kuiwala, koma osalimbikitsanso. Palibenso chosowa, kukhumba, osatinso KUCHITA IZI. Kwa ine zinali chomwecho.

Mutha kumva kusintha kwakukulu ngakhale patangotha ​​milungu ingapo, koma musalole kuti akupusitseni. Ndiwe osokoneza. Chifukwa chake sungathenso kumwa kamodzi, udzafuna kumwa kwambiri. Mukudziwa kuti izi ndi zoona momwe mudakhalira nokha. Khulupirirani izi kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo mudzakhala osangalala kwambiri.

Choyamba

Mosakayikira, kuyambiranso ndi gawo loyamba lofunika kwambiri, osati mankhwala okhalitsa. Ubongo wa anthu ndi wofooka, ndipo ena ndi ofooka kuposa ena. Ngati muli pano, mwina ubongo wanu nthawi zonse udzakhala wofooka pang'ono chifukwa cha kukondoweza kwachilendo , monga zolaula za pa intaneti masiku ano. Kukondoweza kwambiri kungayambitse kutsika kwa zinthu. Komanso, ubongo wanu tsopano uli ndi njira yolimba yolankhulirana zolaula, zomwe nthawi zonse zimakhala zosavuta kuyambiranso. Kuyambiranso sikutsimikizira kuti mutha kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula za pa intaneti mtsogolo. Komanso, kugonana, mwina, ndiye chikhumbo chachikulu cha anthu. Chifukwa chake ubongo wanu unasintha kuti ugwirizane ndi, ndikulumikiza, zizindikiro zogonana m'njira zomwe sizinachitike, mwachitsanzo, masewera kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Ichi ndi chifukwa china chomwe kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula mtsogolo kumakhala kovuta.

Konzekerani:

Zinanditengera 1 kuyesa kufika kumwezi 1 (komwe ndili pano). Ndinawerenga kaye / ndikuwonera zinthuzo pano mwakhama. Chotsatira, ndidakhala pafupifupi masabata a 2 ndikutolera chidziwitso, ndikufotokozera zomwe ndikufuna (kubwezera komanso chiyembekezo), ndikukonzekera momwe nditha kuyambiranso. Ndimagwiritsanso ntchito zomwe zidandichitikira chifukwa chosiya kusuta fodya, momwe 'kuponyera' nthawi zambiri kumatsimikizira kuti ndiyambiranso. Ndikudabwa ngati ma dudes ambiri amapunthwa pa YBOP ndikusiya PMO tsiku lotsatira osakonzekera pang'ono koma dongosolo lokhala olimba, kenako nkuyambiranso osawona zotsatira zomwe akufuna.

Mukayambiranso, kudziseweretsa maliseche popanda malingaliro a zolaula , kutengera okondedwa enieni komanso zochitika zenizeni, sikukhala kovuta kwambiri (ndipo kumakhala kosangalatsa kwambiri). Ngati pafupipafupi zikuyamba kukwera ndipo mukuwona zizindikiro za kutaya chidwi, mutha kuyambiranso nthawi zonse. Kugonana ndi mnzanu kumabweretsa chisangalalo chotonthoza kwambiri.

Kubwezeretsa ndi kopanda kuwonetsa (kubwereza izi kangapo)

"Muyenera kukhala ndi zolinga zakutali kuti musakhumudwitsidwe ndikulephera kwakanthawi." - Charles C. Noble

Pamene mutayambiranso kuyambiranso imvunda… Kwa milungu. Kulakalaka ndi kuda nkhawa ndi zinthu zamtundu uliwonse zitha kukhala zazikulu, kapena zodabwitsa, zanu libido imatha "kunyengerera" kwa kanthawi, ndipo mwina miyezi ingapo isanabwerere. "Kuyesa" zolaula kuti mutsimikizire kuti mukugwirabe ntchito kumawonjezera nthawi yofunikira kuyambiranso. Chifukwa chake muyenera kulimba Mtima Wopanda kudziwa momwe mukuchitira-kapena kuwopseza kupita patsogolo kwanu. Kutsegulanso Maziko P * O * R * N mafungulo amavala kiyibodi chifukwa cha chizolowezi choonera zolaulaIzi zikuti, anthu nthawi zambiri amayamba kukhala ndi masiku abwino, komanso, patatha masabata angapo-makamaka ngati amagwiritsa ntchito Zida zina kuti apange malingaliro abwino mu njira zatsopano.

Koma kupita patsogolo sikutsata, ndipo masiku abwino akhoza kutsatiridwa ndi masiku omvetsa chisoni. Masiku omvetsa chisoni amathanso kutsogola masiku abwino. Ziri ngati kuti pali pendulum mkatikati mwaubongo, womwe nthawi zambiri umakhala wolimbikitsa kwambiri. Mukasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, pendulum imasunthira mmbuyo isanakhazikike pakati. Njirayi ndi yosokoneza chifukwa kusinthasintha kwa mitsempha kumakhudza momwe mumamvera komanso momwe mumaonera moyo wanu. Zimakhudzanso chiyembekezo chanu, kuthekera kwanu kucheza ndi ena komanso mwina kuthekera kwanu pakugonana.

Lezani mtima ndipo zinthu zidzakhala bwino

"Zinthu zina zovutitsa zidachitika m'banja mwathu ndili mwana, yomwe inali nthawi yomwe ndidatulukira magazini yolaula. Ndikuganiza kuti china chake chathyoledwa. Ndinangosiya kuyesera ndipo ndinasiya kusamalira. Ndipo ndidayamba kulola zikhumbo zanga zogonana kuti ziziwononge zaka 20 zotsatira. Pakadali pano, ndikumva ngati ndikubwerera kumbuyo komweko. Ndimamva ngati ndikutenga komwe ndidasiya ndipo pamapeto pake ndikukhala yemwe ndidzakhale ndikadapanda kutaya njira yanga: munthu wamakhalidwe abwino, wokoma mtima, wanzeru, wolemekezeka, wogwira ntchito molimbika, wamphamvu, wachisamaliro, njonda. ”

Pomaliza, yesetsani kuti musamangokhalira kulimbikira kwambiri pa njira yochiritsirayi. Pangani mawu anu akuti “Kulimbikira osati ungwiro.” Khalani ofatsa ndi inu nokha. Kuyambiranso ndi chinthu choseketsa. Anthu omwe amachita izi bwino kwambiri amakhala ndi nthabwala, amavomereza umunthu wawo ndipo amakonda kugonana. Amalemekeza kugonana kwawo, ndipo pang'onopang'ono amadzilowetsa m'malo atsopano. Samadzikwiyitsa okha, kapena kudziopseza ndi tsoka. Kugonana ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri. Ndibwino kuchepetsa njira yanu yopitira patsogolo, kudzikhululukira nokha ngati mutalakwitsa, kuyesanso, ndi zina zotero.

Mfundo yofunika: Kuyambiranso kumafuna kudzipereka kwakukulu komanso kulimba mtima kwambiri. Kodi ndi kwa inu? Werengani nkhani za omwe adagwiritsa ntchito njira iyi: Kuyambitsanso Akaunti.

Pomaliza, positi yochokera ku reddit/nofap, yolembedwa ndi saxoman1

Kwa iwo omwe amamva kuti nofap siikuwathandiza ndikumverera ngati akufuna kusiya.

Mwakhala mukuchita izi kwazaka zambiri.

Ayi, osati nofap, PMO . Mwakhala mukuchita PMO kwa zaka zambiri. Mukukhala patsogolo pa kompyuta kwa maola ambiri. Kusunga ubongo wanu mu supu ya dopamine, deltafos-B, ndi mankhwala ena kwa nthawi yayitali yopangidwa. Motani?

  1. Poyang'ana zowoneka bwino za anthu omwe (makamaka) kugonana kosayenera.
  2. Mwa kudzisunga m'mphepete mwa chiwonongeko (edging) kwa maola ndi maola (kuti mukhalebe "wapamwamba").
  3. Ndipo pogwiritsira ntchito "dzanja logwira" kumaliseche kwanu chifukwa mwataya chidwi.

Kwa ambiri a inu, pamene zinthu zabwinobwino sizinachitenso, munakula ndikuonera zolaula zowonjezereka. Kapena mumagwiritsa ntchito zolaula zambiri. Kusaka kanema / chithunzi changwiro. Pakadali pano, ubongo wanu wakale ukupitilizabe kukuwuzani kuti mwagunda jackpot yosinthika. Komabe zonse zomwe mumachita ndikutulutsa pazenera.

Ambiri a inu munachita izi m'zaka zanu zophunzitsira (zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri) pamene ubongo wathu ndi wovuta kwambiri. Ngakhale siziri choncho, zaka za PMO zakhala zikubwezeretsanso ubongo wanu. Mwapanga mapulaneti apamwamba a neural wired kwa PMO, tsopano mukuledzera.

Zonsezi zakhala zikuchitika kwa zaka zambiri.

Mfundo yanga ndi iyi:

Ngati mwakhala mukuchita izi (kapena china chake chonga ichi) kwa zaka zambiri, mungayembekezere bwanji kuti masiku atatu okha - masiku 50 (nthawi zambiri nthawi yobwereranso) a kuleka kusuta akuchiritseni?

Komabe mukudziuza nokha, patatha milungu ingapo, kuti "Izi sizikugwira ntchito. Ndikadali ndi PIED, ED, kapena kusazindikira. Ndikudzikweza ndipo ndilibe chibwenzi / chibwenzi, ndi zina zambiri. ”

Pepani! Masabata angapo atha kuwoneka ngati ochuluka tsopano, koma yerekezerani izi ndi nthawi yomwe mwakhala muli PMO'ing. Kodi sizimawoneka ngati zopusa mukaziyang'ana motere? Mukupatsa dongosolo lanu kupumula kuchokera kusamba kwa ma neurochemical kuti athe "kukonzanso" kapena "kuyambiranso".

Chifukwa chake Mumafunikira nthawi kuti muchiritse (nthawi yabwino). Cholinga cha positiyi ndikuyika zinthu moyenera. Anthu ena amachiritsa mwachangu kuposa ena. Tonsefe ndife osiyana, chifukwa chake musagwiritse ntchito nthawi yanu kudzifananitsa ndi fapstronauts / femstronauts ena!

Tsono nthawi zonse mukakhumudwa / kusatetezeka, ingotsimikizirani mutu wa positiyi:

"NDAKHALA PMO'ing KWA ZAKA, ndiye sindikuyembekeza _________ [nthawi yochulukitsa nthawi] yopewera kuchiritsa ubongo wanga. Ndipitiliza. NDIDZAPirira! ”

Mwamwayi kwa abale ndi alongo anga onse mu mikono kunja uko!